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Speaker 1: one oh five. One of my favorite guests, Chad, is back. Pastor.

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Speaker 1: Chad celebrity Pastor. Don't say that because the celebrity something

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Speaker 1: don't know, we don't have a launch date when we

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Speaker 1: this podcast is about answering your questions. We answer your

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Could be about any subject. They have

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Speaker 1: so that makes it even more fun that you're here. Cool.

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Speaker 1: Can you go to Tim Horton's and back before work?

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Speaker 1: Must be northern? Must be? Yeh in Canada, maybe there's

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Speaker 1: there's a bunch of Tim Mortons like in Minnesota. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: and yeah, I'm not good at speaking in front of crowds.

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Speaker 1: I want to do this, but I don't know how

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Speaker 1: to gain the confidence to speak in front of a

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Speaker 1: bunch of people. At don't know. Do you have any

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Speaker 1: suggestions on how to get more confident? And do you

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Speaker 1: think that's a good idea about the lawnmower? Thanks for

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Speaker 1: your input, Grant Grant, thank you for writing and shout

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Speaker 1: out to Tim Hortons, thank you for listening to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: I would I would tell you this, if you are

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Speaker 1: not confident in front of crowds, and you're not good

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Speaker 1: at speaking, and you're already building up anxiety about this,

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Speaker 1: I don't think I would go into a big, long

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Speaker 1: lawnmower joke. I think I would lean more on you

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Speaker 1: being vulnerable. What I mean is like in the first line,

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Speaker 1: the first thing you say is I'm nervous. I'm really nervous.

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Speaker 1: I'm not good at speaking, but I want to speak

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Speaker 1: because this wedding is so important to me because I

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Speaker 1: love my aunt and soon to be aunt. I love

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Speaker 1: my uncle and soon to be aunt so much that

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Speaker 1: I want to speak from my heart. But please please

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Speaker 1: excuse the fact that I'm shaking and I'm really nervous

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Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, And I would emphasize make it about

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Speaker 1: them and not you, like after you get over that

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Speaker 1: and you get past that initial intro and highlighting stories

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Speaker 1: of meaningful you know or funny moments with your uncle

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Speaker 1: and people love story. Yeah, and if you can work

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Speaker 1: a lawnmower into that story, man you're saying, yeah, if

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Speaker 1: you could do the lawnmower joke, great, I would preface

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Speaker 1: it just to just to break the ice, just say, man,

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Speaker 1: I'm just I really want to speak here because I loved,

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Speaker 1: I love I love these people, but I'm just nervous.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, we're gonna take a break. Beer right back, guys,

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Speaker 1: thanks for keeping up with this podcast. You could find

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Speaker 1: take and read podcast. Is your new podcast that you're

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Speaker 1: going to be releasing here? What do you have a

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Speaker 1: time estimation on this? We're talking to you three weeks month,

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Speaker 1: I would say, yeah, continue to think that in October

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Speaker 1: we'll see episodes drop and see those starting to come out.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what I'm learning about this world is it

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Speaker 1: when you first started. There's a lot of things to consider.

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Speaker 1: You've got to not only record these things, but then

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Speaker 1: there's some editing and there's a whole production side and

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Speaker 1: then getting them submitted to the various platforms. So we're yeah,

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Speaker 1: we're well underway. I've got an email address so if

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Speaker 1: people are like, okay, hey, put me on the notification

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Speaker 1: list or whatever, so you can go to the Take

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Speaker 1: and Read podcast at gmail dot com and it's all

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Speaker 1: And I'm sure you'll be back on this podcast before

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Speaker 1: it launches. Yeah, so then we'll have a more definitive

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Speaker 1: date and I'm going to be one of the episodes. Actually, well,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to give it away. Yeah, okay, yeah

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Speaker 1: it's and next time you're on this one, we'll talk

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Speaker 1: more about it and get more into the details of it.

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Speaker 1: But but you guys are gonna you're gonna really love it.

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Speaker 1: I love the concept of it. It's a fun time.

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Speaker 1: It's a really fun time. What do you think In

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Speaker 1: Chez there was one about the Gospel to an Unbeliever

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Speaker 1: is that too. Are we just getting leaning too much

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Speaker 1: into it or is there something more? What are you

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Speaker 1: trying to say? I don't know. I don't I mean,

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Speaker 1: I can get away with it because I'm a pastor,

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Speaker 1: so I'm expected to be preachy. But I love when

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Speaker 1: people worry if I should talk about the gospel and

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Speaker 1: then my podcast. I know you're not worried. We've done

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Speaker 1: it before. Let's jump into it, says Hey Granger. I'd

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Speaker 1: like to remain anonymous. I've been listening for a few months,

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Speaker 1: and I'm encouraged by you and your willingness to speak

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Speaker 1: about your faith. I work at a major hospital, and

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Speaker 1: without giving too much detail, my boss is an unbeliever.

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Speaker 1: I have grown my faith tremendously over the past year

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Speaker 1: and feel as though I'm almost completely a different person.

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Speaker 1: The people that spend the most time around at work

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Speaker 1: are not Christians and engage in behavior such as gossip

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Speaker 1: and cursing. Like every other word. This never bothered me

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Speaker 1: until I really got into the word. Now I feel

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Speaker 1: convicted by it. I've talked to my boss about it

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Speaker 1: about God and he said he's an agnostic. He tells

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Speaker 1: me that his personal family issues, he has personal family issues,

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Speaker 1: and all I can always think about is that he

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Speaker 1: needs to be running to Jesus. I even invited him,

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Speaker 1: invited him to church once. How do I go about

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Speaker 1: starting a conversation with him about the gospel? My fear

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Speaker 1: is that he will completely reject it. I feel torn

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Speaker 1: between not wanting to be around these people anymore and

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Speaker 1: wanting to try to show them who God really is.

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Speaker 1: Any help can be appreciated. Thanks and you anonymous are

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Speaker 1: This is a great opportunity because I have Pastor Chad

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Speaker 1: next time, I mean, and he's really good at this

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Speaker 1: kind of stuff. I want to want to sympathize with

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Speaker 1: you here that this is this is very very very

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Speaker 1: very common email and it's multi layered. You you've kind

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Speaker 1: of given us some multi layers here, So before before

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Speaker 1: I just unleash chat on you, I'll break it up

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Speaker 1: just a little bit here. You're you're you're being bothered

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Speaker 1: by his gossip and cursing. You got to dismiss that

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Speaker 1: because you can't. If he's an agnostic, like he says,

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Speaker 1: then you can't be surprised like what comes out of

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Speaker 1: his mouth, and you can't be judgmental about it because

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Speaker 1: he has no point of reference. He has no moral

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Speaker 1: basis to base off what he says, and so you

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Speaker 1: can't it would be legalistic of you to go, well,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't cuss. Well, he has no moral basis stuff

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Speaker 1: not cussing. I think we sometimes get into a situation

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Speaker 1: where we as believers can expect non believers to behave

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Speaker 1: with some sort of moral code that like, where, why

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Speaker 1: would we expect that? Why would we assume that of them? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Where we are a stardust to him? And yeah, and

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Speaker 1: and there's a we understand, there's a a regeneration, a

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Speaker 1: there is a transformation of our heart that occurs when

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Speaker 1: we give our lives to Christ and the spirit of

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Speaker 1: God dwells in us. And and there's a transformation that

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Speaker 1: we aren't responsible for. And so if that has not occurred,

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Speaker 1: we can't expect that. So I think that's a great

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Speaker 1: point that we've got to manage our expectations when we're

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Speaker 1: interacting with people that are agnostic, which means that they

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Speaker 1: don't believe. Yeah, there's people that come around me and

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Speaker 1: they'll friends of mine and they'll say ged, you know,

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Speaker 1: the yell, and then they'll go, I'm so sorry, I

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Speaker 1: am so sorry, and I'll go, yeah, I get that,

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Speaker 1: don't apologize all the time. They'll find out what I

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Speaker 1: do for a living. And it's funny because sometimes they're like,

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Speaker 1: what do you what do you do for a living?

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Speaker 1: I'm a pastor. No, And then they'll drop something on

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Speaker 1: me and I'm like and they're like, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: I don't usually and I'm like, it's it's all good. No, man,

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Speaker 1: it's all good. I don't. I don't have an expectation

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Speaker 1: for you. Now. If you come to me and you

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Speaker 1: profess your faith and we're getting deep into this conversation

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Speaker 1: and then you then you want to ask me if

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Speaker 1: it's okay. If you could just say whatever you want,

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Speaker 1: then we could have that kind of conversation. But for

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Speaker 1: your boss, uh to the to to mis anonymous here, No,

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Speaker 1: I think that's something you should work on. It internally

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Speaker 1: with yourself is you can't be bothered by the state

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Speaker 1: of the world. It is what it's. We're in a

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Speaker 1: falling world. It is what it is. I sympathize with

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Speaker 1: you you feeling convicted to talk about it, and you

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Speaker 1: feel you feel an anguish inside you. I could sympathize

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Speaker 1: with that feeling. Of of Oh, I want to say it,

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Speaker 1: I'm not. And oh, a quiet moment just passed and

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Speaker 1: I didn't say it, and I should say it again.

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Speaker 1: Did I miss an opportunity? But once again, before chat,

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Speaker 1: before I ut least chat on you, I want to

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Speaker 1: give you. I'm going to give you some confidence that

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Speaker 1: and this is this is biblical truth. The power of

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Speaker 1: the Gospel is what would change a man's heart. Not

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Speaker 1: the way you say it, or the timing that you

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Speaker 1: say it, or the inflection that you say it with,

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Speaker 1: or the story or parable that you pair it with.

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Speaker 1: This is the power of the Gospel. That it's planning

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Speaker 1: a seed that can change his heart alone. Now, now

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Speaker 1: we as stewards are required to be the ones that

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Speaker 1: say it. But you're not going to You're not going

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Speaker 1: to win him or lose him. You are not going

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Speaker 1: to win him or lose him. That is not on

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Speaker 1: your shoulders. All you're required to do is preach it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there's examples through the Book of Acts where Paul, one

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Speaker 1: of the apostles and early teachers in the church, he

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Speaker 1: would go to one village preach the gospel and they

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Speaker 1: would they would begin to stone him or throw rocks

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Speaker 1: at him and drag him out to the edge of

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Speaker 1: the city and leave him for dead. And then he

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Speaker 1: would pick himself up, go to the next city, preach

646
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: the same gospel, and then be invited to stay for

647
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 1: months years on end teaching and many would come. And

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Speaker 1: in both instances he's faithful. Right, He's successful because he

649
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Speaker 1: follows and is faithful to the Lord. And I think

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Speaker 1: for anybody who's listening to this that's in a situation

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Speaker 1: where they're like, I feel compelled. There's this tension though

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Speaker 1: I'm in a workplace, I'm not sure if I'm allowed

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Speaker 1: to do this or I don't want to compromise my job,

654
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Speaker 1: Like there are going to be those tensions regardless. But

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Speaker 1: faithfulness to the Lord doesn't necessarily mean, well, I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna corner them in the hallway one day and I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna let them have it. Like, that's not necessarily

658
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Speaker 1: what it means. It means to be intentionally asking and

659
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Speaker 1: trusting the Lord for opportunities. And so I think the

660
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: first step in any time that you want to share

661
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,320
Speaker 1: the new life that you have in Christ with somebody,

662
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 1: and there's somebody the Lord has put on your mind.

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Speaker 1: You begin praying and you fight for them in prayer,

664
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Speaker 1: You pray, you intercede, and then start asking them, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I want you to know I pray regularly for you.

666
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Speaker 1: Are there specific things I can go to the Lord

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00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 1: on your behalf for and just begin asking on a

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00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: regular basis and say how is that going? And it

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Speaker 1: gives you an opportunity that you genuinely care because you

670
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Speaker 1: are praying. The Lord has put them on your heart,

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Speaker 1: so pray for them, engage with them, talk to them

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Speaker 1: about that, and then you're gonna see doors open up

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00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,879
Speaker 1: because if they know that you genuinely care and you're

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Speaker 1: not just trying to check a box or do something

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00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 1: like that, but they go, man, this person can asking

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Speaker 1: and then they follow up and see how I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: Like there is going to be genuine friendship and care

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Speaker 1: and love established there because that's what's happening, and you

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Speaker 1: desire to carry their load, to share their struggles, and

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Speaker 1: so I think that through that there can be a

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Speaker 1: softening and people are more receptive and open when they

682
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Speaker 1: believe you truly care for them. And then letting them

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Speaker 1: know if there's any time you want to talk about

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Speaker 1: this stuff. I'd love to I'm a good listener. I'd

685
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Speaker 1: love to listen, and giving them opportunity to then share

686
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 1: burdens more and more with you. There's going to be

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Speaker 1: a natural opportunity to just say, you know, I've faced

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00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: something like that, or I've gone through something and one

689
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Speaker 1: of the things I found to be so helpful for

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Speaker 1: me is the way that I can trust in the Lord,

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Speaker 1: or I can go to the Lord, or I found

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Speaker 1: this encouragement in the scriptures. And it doesn't have to

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Speaker 1: be like sometimes I think we think about evangelism as

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Speaker 1: somebody standing on a box and a street corner and

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Speaker 1: telling everyone you're going to Hell, and that is that

696
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:05,840
Speaker 1: that is a such a minority component or way to

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Speaker 1: do it. There are so many other ways. And I

698
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Speaker 1: think if he's put you in a situation that you

699
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Speaker 1: have a care and concern for your boss, you start

700
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 1: by praying and just keep a prayer journal, write down

701
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 1: the prayers that you're praying, and then engage him and

702
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Speaker 1: ask your boss or or I don't know if it's

703
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 1: a male female, but ask your boss, how can I

704
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: be praying so anything else? And then follow up on

705
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: as you're praying, Hey, I continue to pray. How's that going?

706
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 1: And it's going to give you a natural segue because

707
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 1: you're not looking to you know, check a box or

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00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 1: score a point or whatever, like you genuinely care for

709
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: and are called to be in that spot, and so

710
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 1: you're looking for longevity of relationship with somebody and that

711
00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: always love always wins, Like if you truly care for them,

712
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 1: that's going to win the day. Yeah, I want to

713
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 1: hit on note what you just said. We're not looking.

714
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 1: You're not looking to check a box. We're not looking.

715
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:58,280
Speaker 1: This is not a numbers game. This isn't a result

716
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: driven game. You're planning seeds out of love because because

717
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 1: you you have seen the truth and you have seen restoration,

718
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 1: and you've seen peace and joy, and you felt that

719
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 1: to the core of your soul, and you genuinely, out

720
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: of love, want everyone in your immediate circle to feel that.

721
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 1: And sometimes when you tell them that, or you you

722
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 1: tell them the story of the gospel and they reject it,

723
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 1: you feel like you lost, and you you you're not

724
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 1: good at this or any of these things. Most most

725
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:39,360
Speaker 1: times I've ever told the gospel to someone that's been rejected.

726
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: Can you agree it can you say the same thing,

727
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 1: But we don't know the seeds that we're planning. We

728
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 1: don't know what that's going to how that's going to grow,

729
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 1: because because God is gonna is going to grow that

730
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: planet if if that's the will of the plant, it

731
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: could be ten years down the road, it could be

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00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,120
Speaker 1: twenty years down the road because of a seed that

733
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:04,799
Speaker 1: you planted. And so you have an advantage here anonymous

734
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 1: that your boss is going to you. It is a

735
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 1: heat about family issues and problems that that gives you

736
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: a slight advantage. That's a strange word to you to

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00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 1: use advantage in this this kind of context, but it

738
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Speaker 1: gives you. It gives you an open door to then say, well,

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00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:33,319
Speaker 1: my in my worldview, I could I could cry with you.

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00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 1: I could understand suffering, and my worldview allows me to

741
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 1: understand suffering and pain and this kind of difficulty that

742
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,320
Speaker 1: you're going through. And my worldview allows me to understand

743
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:48,839
Speaker 1: that there is a basis of truth and that there

744
00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: is hope, and that there is an answer, and that

745
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 1: there is there is a savior to this and and

746
00:43:56,239 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: I would love to tell you more about that worldview.

747
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 1: I would love I forgot I think Parker told me

748
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 1: that there was like John Maxwell or somebody like that.

749
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 1: Somebody said that The thing they love to say is

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Speaker 1: I really wish you had what I have. It's just

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00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: an intriguing way to say that. I could see, I

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00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 1: could see why there's pain and why they're suffering, and

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00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: I could see that there is an end result to this,

754
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: and I wish you could see that too. It would

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00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: help you so much through these problems that you're talking

756
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,879
Speaker 1: to me about. And I'll sit with you as long

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00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:36,240
Speaker 1: as it takes through your problems and tell you about

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Speaker 1: this Jesus Amen, And I would say, be really good

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00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 1: at your job. There is a powerful opportunity. When you

760
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 1: show up and you are diligent and reliable and faithful

761
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: to do the work you're expected to do, and you

762
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:55,320
Speaker 1: do it with excellence, you have more credibility. That's a

763
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:59,879
Speaker 1: great point. That's a great point building credibility through your action.

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00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: Thank you, Anonymous. I'm gonna kick it back to you again. Chad,

765
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: we have feeling lost in a fog. We have needing

766
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:18,919
Speaker 1: advice in life, help with my relationship, leaving someone you love.

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00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:24,400
Speaker 1: He says he's lost. Do any of those feel like

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00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 1: the next question, I'm in a fog. Okay, let's see there.

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Speaker 1: Hey Grandeur, I love your music and your channel. You're

770
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 1: very inspiring, and I'm married. My name is Joe and

771
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 1: I'm married, twenty six years old with two kids. Quick backstory.

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00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 1: Four years ago, I got a spinal cord injury. While

773
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 1: I was unable to walk, my best friend, who I

774
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: called brother, spread a nasty lie to all of my

775
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 1: friends and family that I was faking the injury to

776
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,880
Speaker 1: make my pregnant wife go to work to pay our bills.

777
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 1: This made everyone in my life abandon me when I

778
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 1: needed them most. Fast forward four years, I mostly healed physically,

779
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 1: Praise God. I still have no friends, and I have

780
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: guys in my life that I call friends, but our

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00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: friendship is basically just materialistic and we don't have a

782
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: deeper connection past work, trucks, et cetera. I'm craving a

783
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: best friend to connect with on that level, but I

784
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 1: cannot open up to the people in my life to

785
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:24,920
Speaker 1: tell them how broken I am. I harbor unforgiveness and

786
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:28,360
Speaker 1: I resent all people because of my friends and family

787
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 1: that treated me so poorly prior to this. I'm caught

788
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 1: in a place where I crave human connection, but I

789
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 1: cannot bring myself to connect with other people. I'm shackled

790
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: on so much trauma and pain that I can't find

791
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 1: a way to heal. Do you have thoughts on how

792
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 1: a person can navigate this? Thank you, love your music,

793
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:53,920
Speaker 1: Please don't stop being you, Joe. Joe got poetic almost

794
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: there at the end. He he says that he can't

795
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: open up to people. Is it that he won't open

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00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 1: up to people? Is it sounds I mean, the way

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00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 1: he described it sounds like an incredibly scary, lonely, painful place.

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00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:18,240
Speaker 1: And if it's that he won't open up to people,

799
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 1: my question is, so is it? It doesn't sound I

800
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:29,120
Speaker 1: can get much worse? So why not try opening up

801
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 1: to people? And another question I have is where's his

802
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:37,280
Speaker 1: wife in the scheme of things? Like what kind of relationship?

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00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:42,719
Speaker 1: If I'm experiencing the stuff that he's talking about, my

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00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:45,839
Speaker 1: first engagement is going to be with my wife. I'm

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00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:48,800
Speaker 1: going to be talking to her and vulnerable with her,

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00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:52,839
Speaker 1: And so that's for me, that's a first stop. Yeah,

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00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 1: for those of you guys watching on YouTube, I look

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00:47:56,120 --> 00:47:59,399
Speaker 1: sometimes sometimes people say, man Chad was talking to You're

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00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 1: just looking at your phone scrolling YouTube. It's scrolling Twitter. No, no, no,

810
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: I'm scrolling the question as Chad's talking, and I agree.

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Speaker 1: I agreed that there's a wife missing in this situation.

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00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 1: There is a lot of blanks in this story the

813
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 1: need filled in. And so because there's so many blanks here,

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00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 1: I think we need to almost forgot forego the whole

815
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: story of the injury and the the forsaking friends, and

816
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: we need to say that there's something else going on here.

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00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah. I wonder why the friends would assume

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00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 1: that about him if if there were if there's something

819
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: historically about the nature of their friendship that would cause

820
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 1: them to question his trustworthiness. And so so, when when

821
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Speaker 1: attorneys are going at it in court, when there's like

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00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 1: a certain certain pieces of evidence that get dismissed, you know,

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00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like we have to dismiss that, yeah,

824
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:02,720
Speaker 1: because there's not I don't know enough about that story.

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00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:05,480
Speaker 1: It's nothing against you, Joe, I just don't know enough

826
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 1: about your friends leaving you and the injury that I'm

827
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: gonna have to dismiss that that piece of evidence and

828
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:15,680
Speaker 1: just go to this. I harbor unforgiveness and resent all

829
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 1: people because of how my friends have treated me. I'm

830
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 1: caught in a place where I crave human connection, but

831
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 1: I can't bring myself to connection with other people. I've

832
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:26,879
Speaker 1: shackled on so much trauma and pain I can't find

833
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 1: a way to heal. I almost want to just deal

834
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: with that. Like that's the question. Yeah, an extreme amount

835
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:35,479
Speaker 1: of bitterness and it's I mean, I think it's powerful, Joe,

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00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:39,879
Speaker 1: that you're willing to admit that you are harboring these things. Yes,

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00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 1: Like that's a that's a big step to say I

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00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: know this about myself because then you're in a position

839
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 1: to start to face that. Because that's that's what it

840
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:55,879
Speaker 1: is right there. It's a bitterness and harboring a distrust

841
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 1: of people, and you will you will not experience a

842
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 1: authentic friendship and connection with people if you don't trust them.

843
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 1: That is the most fundamental element to any meaningful relationship.

844
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 1: There's got to be trusted. And so if you enter

845
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: it with I don't trust people in general, So then

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00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 1: you're not going to be able to have that kind

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00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:22,280
Speaker 1: of connection with people. I have an idea here, Hey, Joe,

848
00:50:22,680 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 1: will you will you email Chad? What's that email you

849
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:32,280
Speaker 1: set up for churches. Remember, well, you could just email

850
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:34,800
Speaker 1: the Take and Read podcast at gmail dot com. Perfect

851
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 1: Take and Read podcasts at gmail dot com. And what

852
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 1: I want you to do, Joe, is I want you

853
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 1: to email Chad and tell them where you live, and

854
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Speaker 1: Chad's going to reply back with a really solid church

855
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:50,759
Speaker 1: in your town. And then I would ask that you

856
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 1: go to that church and seek one of the pastors

857
00:50:56,480 --> 00:51:00,839
Speaker 1: that you could get counsel from. A don't look at

858
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 1: this as like a regimented thing. This could be coffee,

859
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:07,319
Speaker 1: but but seek one of these pastors. And this is, guys,

860
00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:10,879
Speaker 1: this is why Christian churches exist in the communities. It's

861
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:14,840
Speaker 1: it's it's there. They do a lot of different functions,

862
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:18,440
Speaker 1: but but one one of the things they do is

863
00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:23,000
Speaker 1: is they counsel people that are lost. And and you

864
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 1: could go to one of these pastors, by the recommendation

865
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:30,880
Speaker 1: of Chad, and say I harbor on forgiveness and resent

866
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,360
Speaker 1: all people because of my friends, and I'm caught in

867
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 1: a place where I crave connection but I can't. You

868
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 1: could say that and to to a pastor. And the

869
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: cool thing is you won't even know him uh before

870
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: before this, so you won't have this, you won't have

871
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 1: this family connection or embarrassment. Yeah. And and this is

872
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: a walk you could begin taking with this guy that

873
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 1: I think is going to be so fruitful for you

874
00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:59,799
Speaker 1: down the road. That's a great call. Yeah. I don't

875
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:01,880
Speaker 1: think we've ever answered a question that way, but it

876
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: just occurred to me that this might be deeper than

877
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:09,800
Speaker 1: we could sit here and do in ten minutes. Yeah, Okay,

878
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 1: I got a transition to this one. Okay, So like

879
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 1: extension of that question. This one says struggling to find

880
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:20,720
Speaker 1: a church? Hi, Granger. My name is Austin. I'm twenty

881
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 1: one years old. I just moved to a new town

882
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 1: two years ago. I've been struggling to find a church

883
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,319
Speaker 1: that has my same views. I went from a small

884
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 1: town in Iowa to Flagstaff, Arizona. I love Jesus, I

885
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:32,839
Speaker 1: read almost daily, but I'm unable to find a church

886
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 1: that believes what I believe. How do you find a church?

887
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:40,360
Speaker 1: This is the question I don't like. Is church really important?

888
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 1: So Austin, I'm not going to go. We don't have

889
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:47,239
Speaker 1: to dig into this at all. Email take and read

890
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:51,040
Speaker 1: podcast at gmail dot com. Here go, and Chad is

891
00:52:51,960 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: going to go look up Flagstaff, Arizona and find you

892
00:52:55,440 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 1: the place. He's going to find you the place. The

893
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 1: reason I'm not just saying out on a whim I

894
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 1: trust Chad and I do this to Chad. I've done

895
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:07,200
Speaker 1: this several times where I say, Hey, I'm going to

896
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:09,359
Speaker 1: this city. I'm going to be playing a show on

897
00:53:09,400 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 1: Sunday night. I need a church to go to on

898
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 1: Sunday morning in this city. Chad will go boom, boom, boom,

899
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 1: and they'll text it to me and sometimes he puts

900
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 1: it in the in the terms of this is the

901
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:20,359
Speaker 1: church I would go to if I was in that time,

902
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 1: I was in that town, this is probably where I

903
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 1: would check it out. So, yeah, Austin, thank you for

904
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 1: emailing there. Doesn't need any to be anything more. Besides, yes,

905
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,280
Speaker 1: church is really important and I would lean on Chad

906
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:34,880
Speaker 1: and hopefully this podcast could be a blessing to you

907
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:41,319
Speaker 1: in that way. Amen, Okay, help with my relationship. I'm

908
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:45,360
Speaker 1: going to go there. Hey Granger, I'm TJ. I'm nineteen

909
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 1: from Little Rock, Arkansas. Hopefully one day you'll come to

910
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 1: my state. Hey buddy, I'm coming to Little Rock in

911
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:55,319
Speaker 1: Mike a month or two, I am, and you sent

912
00:53:55,360 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 1: this email last Wednesday, so this is recent. It says

913
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:02,759
Speaker 1: I was recently in a relationship and me and her

914
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 1: were happy and everything was going right, and one day

915
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 1: she hit the switch and everything changed. She broke up

916
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:10,879
Speaker 1: with me because she was heading to college. We broke

917
00:54:10,960 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 1: up because she didn't think she has time for the relationship,

918
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 1: and she said that was best for us, but I

919
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 1: thought otherwise she wouldn't take my suggestion to make it work.

920
00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:23,520
Speaker 1: Now we've been broken up for a month and I'm

921
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 1: still not over her at all. I really feel like

922
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 1: I love her, and I felt I never felt like

923
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 1: I did when I was with her. My question is

924
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:34,759
Speaker 1: how do I get past this? How do I give

925
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:38,319
Speaker 1: up thinking that she'll come back? I hate everything about

926
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:41,760
Speaker 1: us not being together. Please give me advice. I really

927
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 1: need to know what to do. Thanks for taking my question, ye,

928
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 1: and God bless ps. I'm a Christian and very active

929
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:53,960
Speaker 1: in church. Man. I have been there me too. Dude, Man,

930
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 1: there is nothing that hurts worse than a broken heart.

931
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 1: That yes, I totally resonate with that. Did chant I

932
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 1: love you on this podcast because you know what my

933
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 1: brain was thinking. You're thinking that you know what my

934
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,040
Speaker 1: brain was thinking. Man, don't we answer this like every

935
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:19,480
Speaker 1: single episode? Well, I love don't you? I mean you

936
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:24,839
Speaker 1: say that there's like six basic questions, right, But I

937
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 1: can resonate with that. I remember going through that experience

938
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 1: and then like I flipped it like I was the

939
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 1: one later that was like, hey, we're going different places,

940
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:39,320
Speaker 1: you know, And I just don't know all the time,

941
00:55:40,120 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 1: you know. And so I've been on both sides of that.

942
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 1: And man, first of all, it's it's tough, like if

943
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:48,800
Speaker 1: you're still a month out or three months out, broken,

944
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:52,799
Speaker 1: hearts hurt and they take time. But I had a

945
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 1: buddy tell me. He looked me square in the face

946
00:55:55,280 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 1: and he's like, look, dude, they are like three billion

947
00:55:58,560 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: women on this planet. You can be as picky as

948
00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 1: you want to, right, And to realize that, yes, there

949
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 1: is an affection that grows for an individual, but love

950
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:13,040
Speaker 1: is not a feeling. It's a choice. It's a decision

951
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: to serve and to regard somebody more than yourself. So, yes,

952
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:24,360
Speaker 1: you have feelings and strong affection for this gal, and

953
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: it's hard to imagine that you could move past who

954
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:32,479
Speaker 1: she was and maybe how she made you feel or

955
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 1: all kinds of stuff. But hey, man, you'll get through this.

956
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:42,480
Speaker 1: You absolutely will. And let me tell you something she

957
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: told you. According to you, she said she doesn't think

958
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 1: she has time for the relationship and it's best for us. Brother.

959
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:54,360
Speaker 1: That's code word for she don't like you. I'm sorry, dude.

960
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:58,080
Speaker 1: That's code word, man, that's been used since the beginning

961
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 1: of language. I think they probably said that in the

962
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:03,799
Speaker 1: caveman days. They said, I don't have time for this.

963
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:08,879
Speaker 1: It's up there with it, and we're not We're not

964
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: trying to minimize no, no, no, the emotional no no,

965
00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:14,319
Speaker 1: no impact of something like this, but there is the

966
00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 1: it's not you, it's me. Yeah, it's a similar one

967
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 1: because just let's just use just a little bit of

968
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 1: common sense here that if she really really loved you,

969
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 1: if anyone really loves anybody, they just make that becomes

970
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:31,880
Speaker 1: the time they make the time. This is not anything

971
00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 1: against you. Like Chad said, I'm just trying to make

972
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 1: this clear that she's gone, she's gone. Could she come back?

973
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:43,320
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe there's always there's always that, but that's rare.

974
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 1: And brother, you're you're you are prime. You're nineteen years old. Man,

975
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:53,400
Speaker 1: It's time to dive into your buddies. I don't know

976
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:55,720
Speaker 1: how long you guys dated, but now it's time to

977
00:57:55,800 --> 00:57:58,400
Speaker 1: just have some guy time. You're you're at you're an

978
00:57:58,440 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: age where it's like you your career time, or it's

979
00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: college time or a tech school time, but you're in

980
00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:08,880
Speaker 1: that phase where its high school's over and you're starting

981
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 1: to blossom your new manhood, and that is just it's

982
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 1: an amazing time to be nineteen again, and to be

983
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 1: single while you're nineteen is a blessing and is so

984
00:58:21,120 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: important and you are gonna be You're gonna be just fine.

985
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 1: Can I read you? Psal, I'm twenty three. Come on,

986
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 1: The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not want. He

987
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 1: makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me,

988
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:46,360
Speaker 1: besides still waters, he restores my soul. That is so

989
00:58:46,600 --> 00:58:51,000
Speaker 1: powerful for a broken heart, for a broken anything, for

990
00:58:51,280 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 1: a broken human to hear those words, The Lord is

991
00:58:54,920 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 1: my shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me lie

992
00:58:56,800 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 1: down to green pastures, he leads me, besides still, he

993
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 1: restores my soul. Just say that, Just say that over

994
00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: and over that it's not her that restores your soul

995
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:13,280
Speaker 1: or gives you peace. It's this word. This is a

996
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:17,640
Speaker 1: living word, and it's so valuable and it will restore you.

997
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:21,440
Speaker 1: Say it, repeat it, breathe it, live it, and be

998
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 1: nineteen man. Amen, it's all we got, buddy. Thank you amazing.

999
00:59:27,560 --> 00:59:30,080
Speaker 1: We'll see you guys saying yee thanks for joining me

1000
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:33,360
Speaker 1: on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of you. Guys.

1001
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:36,320
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1003
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1005
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1006
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