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Speaker 2: But my mom said to Sam.

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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, I went skydiving, and She's like, how could

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Speaker 1: She has a child from a previous relationship, and we

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Speaker 1: feel old and very mortal. My wife's always been a

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Speaker 1: very risk averse person, never speeds, has insurance for everything,

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Speaker 1: But I've calmed down a lot since I met her.

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Speaker 1: One thing I've always wanted to do was to go skydiving,

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Speaker 1: but it was never the right time. I was always

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Speaker 1: and anytime I'd bring it up, she said maybe in

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Speaker 2: Pushing it off further and further.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from sky deep Diving on

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Speaker 1: the r slash Okay storytime sub it. A few months

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Speaker 1: after my son was born. I realized that it was

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Speaker 1: now or never to do it, but talked to my

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Speaker 1: I tried to discuss it with her, and she shut

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Speaker 1: Oo is that a red fly, red flag to not

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Speaker 1: let them go or red flag waiting till eighteen? Waiting

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Speaker 3: I mean because you won't need.

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Speaker 4: Child support anymore. It's like, how I'm supposed to get

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that thinking she's saying, like if you die, if.

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Speaker 1: You die, like, how am I gonna be able to

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Speaker 1: Well Bethany, well, I guess you don't get I don't

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Speaker 1: think you get life insurance from skydiving because I think

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Speaker 2: A risk putting yourself. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Miss jay Bird says motorcycles are far more dangerous. I

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Speaker 1: actually have information on this. I will give you in

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Speaker 1: a little bit. Anyway, I researched the dangerous and statistics

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Speaker 1: and tried to show her, but nothing worked. Waiting un

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Speaker 1: till I'm at least fifty five is ridiculous because I'm

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Speaker 1: go by then. You never know what's going to happen

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Speaker 1: and have to live in the moment. So in February

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Speaker 1: I found a deal for skydiving from a reputable company.

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Speaker 1: I asked my buddy if you wanted to go, and

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Speaker 1: I didn't say anything about the skydiving, but didn't lie

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Speaker 1: So really quick? Is opda hole? There's more to this story,

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Speaker 1: but is opda hole for basically not telling his wife

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Speaker 5: I feel like this is Sophia Colonne says, right after

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Speaker 3: We had our first kid together eighteen months ago?

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Speaker 5: Okay, so this is like a year and a half baby.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the lying is not good.

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Speaker 5: I think lying is not good, but I feel like

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Speaker 5: this is maybe in everyone sucks situation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like you shouldn't lie to your wife, and like

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Speaker 1: she's she's very she's just concerned about your safety, but

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Speaker 3: Feels like I think this is sad too.

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Speaker 2: I think everyone sucks.

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Speaker 1: Situation I feel, I think I agree, I think I agree. Well,

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Speaker 1: my buddy was over last week and accidentally mentioned the

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Speaker 1: My wife flipped out and said lots of ugly things.

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Speaker 1: Apparently my life insurance doesn't cover diving accidents, so it's

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Speaker 1: it doesn't cover diving accidents. He also said that I

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Speaker 3: It was two hundre eighty dollars and I made two

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Speaker 5: That's that's not anything to be like, you've crippled your

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Speaker 1: No, No, I think she's just really worried. I told

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Speaker 1: lies by omission are still major lies and lies breed mistrust.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, everyone sucks here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone sucks. Like yes, Ope's wife needs chill and

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Speaker 1: thirteen says, but also he did.

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Speaker 1: He did lie to her about something they specifically talked about,

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Speaker 2: No, I think everyone sucks.

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Speaker 1: Some relevant comments. Comoto's comment says her therapist agrees with

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Speaker 1: her because lies biomission are still major lies and lies

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Speaker 1: you do couples counseling sounds appropriate here? And op he

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Speaker 1: switching and then consistent Cheesecake says, I honestly have a

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Speaker 1: really hard time believing you're emotionally mature enough to have children.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not surprised your wife's anxiety is so bad.

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Speaker 1: don't think that's fair. That's yeah, I don't think that's fair.

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Speaker 1: He has just showed her that she truly cannot trust

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Speaker 1: him and show that his judgment is terrible. Skydiving is

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Speaker 5: Can I just I don't think this is I think

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Speaker 5: it's yeah, everyone everyone is kind of the hole here.

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Speaker 1: But OPI responds, I haven't omitted anything. I didn't endanger

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Speaker 1: she uses tanning beds and I've talked to her about

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Speaker 2: I think that is the I still agree.

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Speaker 1: Like I understand like that point of him, like being like, oh,

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Speaker 5: I agree, I like, I one hundred percent agreed that

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Speaker 1: She said don't do it and they talked about it.

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Speaker 2: Don't like the cuming off friendship.

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Speaker 3: Thing, Yeah, no, I finally do well. I feel like

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Speaker 3: she's just being controlling it.

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Speaker 1: Jes Finea Dola Burkwuest says, Oh, she's trying to isolate him.

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Speaker 1: It's like, yes, there's a there is a time where

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Speaker 3: Like there's that.

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Speaker 2: But he made his.

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Speaker 5: Own choice to go skydiving and invited his friend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think. I think the wife is really

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Speaker 6: It's crazy that this brought up so many other little

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's like I think when when your

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Speaker 2: Agreeds, aglits.

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Speaker 3: But speaking of skydiving.

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Speaker 2: Sam's got a story to tell.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, which is right because it's so safe they.

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Speaker 1: keep it under wraps that something bad did happen here.

438
00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:29,199
Speaker 1: So we are going through the rest of the stuff.

439
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:35,680
Speaker 1: I'm getting ready to actually dive out of this plane,

440
00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,479
Speaker 1: so they're giving me my last minute things, and I remember,

441
00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,359
Speaker 1: like I have these two walkie talkies that she gives me,

442
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:45,400
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why is she giving me two walky talkies?

443
00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,199
Speaker 1: And I'm like, why are you giving me two walky talkies?

444
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:49,200
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't know, I don't know, but like

445
00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:51,119
Speaker 1: like for some reason, I'm like it's one of background

446
00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: like I don't know. She's like just so chill. And

447
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,199
Speaker 1: then I'm like how tight should these be? Its like ah,

448
00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:58,040
Speaker 1: it's like about fine, and I'm like should they like,

449
00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 1: like I feel like it. I want exact numbers. Anyway,

450
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:07,480
Speaker 1: So I suit up in my skydiving outfit, I put

451
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:10,879
Speaker 1: my goggles on, and we all get into this plane.

452
00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 1: So now on the plane is basically like two seats

453
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 1: facing each other, two like benches facing each other on

454
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 1: the plane, and we're on either side, and it feels

455
00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:21,639
Speaker 1: like we're going off to war. Like it feels like

456
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:24,359
Speaker 1: we're about to parachute into Vietnam or something. And so

457
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:28,280
Speaker 1: we're all getting on and like the whole demeanor changes

458
00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 1: in the plane. Like on land, they're all joking around,

459
00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 1: but now like I feel like they're getting into like

460
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 1: this zen state. And she's like looking into my eyes

461
00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:38,400
Speaker 1: and I'm looking at her and like she's like all right,

462
00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:41,439
Speaker 1: like you're gonna walk me through the different levels, like

463
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:42,840
Speaker 1: as we go up, like you're gonna tell me the

464
00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 1: different altitudes and why it's important. And so at twenty

465
00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 1: five hundred feet that's called minimum decision altitude, Like that's

466
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 1: the altitude that you decide whether you have a safe

467
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 1: parachute to land, and if you don't, you do your

468
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,199
Speaker 1: emergency procedures. Then there's five thousand feet weere you're supposed

469
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 1: to wave off and pull your shute. And then there's

470
00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 1: six thousand feet or sorry, five thousand feet we're supposed

471
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: to pay your shuit, and six thousand feet we're supposed

472
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,640
Speaker 1: to wave off and then buyler shuit. And like, as

473
00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:07,639
Speaker 1: I'm going up, I'm trying to remember all the things

474
00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,199
Speaker 1: that I've learned over the last couple hours that are

475
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 1: the life saving measures to make sure to know I

476
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:17,360
Speaker 1: don't die, right. And so we get up to twelve

477
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 1: thousand feet and now everyone's starting to go out right.

478
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 1: So the first people like there are a couple and

479
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 1: they're looking into each other's eyes and they do a

480
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,400
Speaker 1: little prayer together and then they jump right, and then

481
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:31,400
Speaker 1: another like group before us jumps out. Then Christian jumps out,

482
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:35,160
Speaker 1: and then it's me right, And so I'm looking outside

483
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 1: of the plane and the side of the plane is

484
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 1: completely open, there's wind coming in. We're like twelve thousand

485
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:45,359
Speaker 1: feet above the ground. Everything looks super tiny. I'm seeing

486
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 1: Christian zip away as he's diving down to the ground,

487
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,920
Speaker 1: and I'm supposed to go to the door to jump

488
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 1: out right, So you're supposed to go right, right hand,

489
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 1: right foot, and then left hand, left foot, so my

490
00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 1: left hand is now on the back of like on

491
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 1: the outside of the plane. And what you're supposed to

492
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 1: do is you're supposed to check in with your instructor

493
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: and like get the thumbs up from them. Then you're

494
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 1: supposed to get out of the plane and then like

495
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 1: here you go out, down, out and jump right. It's

496
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 1: like the countdown. I am so nervous. I forget to

497
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 1: do all of that. I don't check in with my instructor,

498
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 1: and I basically just jump. I instantly lose both of

499
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 1: my instructors who are supposed to be holding onto me.

500
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 1: So I'm flailing through the air backwards. There's a video

501
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 1: of this. Riley can show it in a little bit.

502
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 1: So I'm flailing through the air. Each instructor that was

503
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:44,879
Speaker 1: grabbing onto me, and they're supposed to grab onto you

504
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 1: all the way until you pull the shoot have disappeared,

505
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 1: and I'm like, and they're trying to get back to

506
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 1: me right, and so one of them just can't and

507
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: just kind of like is like, I guess I gotta leave.

508
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 1: The other one, the one that I that we had

509
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:01,159
Speaker 1: good chemistry with, finds me thankfully and grabs on to me.

510
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,680
Speaker 1: But I'm the wrong way, and so if I pull

511
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 1: my shoot, what could happen is I could fall on

512
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 1: top of my shoot and fall into it and then

513
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,400
Speaker 1: just die. Right, So what she does is she flips

514
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,360
Speaker 1: me over like a pancake while I'm falling in mid

515
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,719
Speaker 1: air like a thousand feet every few seconds. And so

516
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:21,119
Speaker 1: she flips me over and then uh grabs on to

517
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 1: me and kind of like makes this eye contact with

518
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 1: me like everything's okay. And honestly, I'm not even having

519
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 1: enough like time to be scared. I'm just kind of

520
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 1: like boo, no fall. And so I'm like forgetting everything

521
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: that I'm taught like instantly. And so but then suddenly

522
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: I come to and you're supposed to check your altitude

523
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,919
Speaker 1: and it's going down ten thousand, nine thousand, eight thousand

524
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 1: and seven thousand. At six thousand, that's when you're supposed

525
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 1: to deploy. So she's attached to me. Now I like,

526
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 1: I say, okay, it's six thousand. I'm gon wave off.

527
00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,880
Speaker 1: And then I do three practice touches to make sure

528
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: she knows that I know where my my thing is.

529
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,439
Speaker 1: I think I actually do that a little bit before,

530
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 1: but then I pull and I pull up the right time,

531
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 1: pull instantly, and then she disappears, right because now I've pulled,

532
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm here on my uh my little paraglider thing,

533
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: my little, my little parachute. But now I'm like, I'm

534
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,399
Speaker 1: all alone up here. There is no one else, and

535
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,400
Speaker 1: I have to drive, like try to land this thing.

536
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:29,919
Speaker 1: And I'm terrified because I'm like, I'm not sure if

537
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,960
Speaker 1: I should like like pull. Superhero they tell you to

538
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:37,040
Speaker 1: do aggressive control checks and like pull each thing so

539
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: you can like like really test if everything's working. And

540
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:42,919
Speaker 1: I'm too scared to do that. And also, remember people

541
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 1: didn't die from falling to their death. They dived in

542
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 1: this They they died in this part where you're controlling

543
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,919
Speaker 1: the parachute. Like that's like the the the dust devil

544
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: that was coming up like that was what killed people.

545
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:58,359
Speaker 1: And it looked down and like, oh, there's probably no

546
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: dust devils. There's dust devils on the ground. You can

547
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:07,199
Speaker 1: see them swirling, and so I'm like, oh, crap, I

548
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: have to avoid these dust devils and land in the

549
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 1: correct area and do this all by myself. So I

550
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,199
Speaker 1: like gingerly test the toggles and I go rights and

551
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:19,679
Speaker 1: then I go left. And then a guy comes in

552
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 1: on the radio and he's like, Sam, you're going in

553
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 1: the wrong direction. You're landing in the wrong direction. You

554
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 1: can't land upwind or a doat like like like, because

555
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 1: if you you're supposed to land, you're supposed to go

556
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: like I start your initial landing pattern downwind. If you

557
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,440
Speaker 1: start upwind, then you go twice as fast and could

558
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 1: like break your ankles on impact. Yeah, And so I'm

559
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,880
Speaker 1: like trying to navigate down and I'm freaking out because

560
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: I'm falling fast, like you know, I'm supposed to My

561
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: final pattern is at one thousand feet to go into

562
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 1: landing landing pattern, and if I don't get to that,

563
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:54,439
Speaker 1: then I'm like screwed. And so I'm getting down to

564
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: like three thousand feet two thousand ft. I'm trying to

565
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: get to like the right position, and he's like, Sam,

566
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 1: you're going to the wrong way. You're going the wrong way.

567
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 1: And then I just do this big tug turn all

568
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 1: the way around and then just move forward to the

569
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: to the right area and I get into the right

570
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 1: drop zone, and so then I go down to one

571
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 1: thousand feet, I go down to five hundred feet and

572
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: make a turn, and then I do my final approach

573
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: at two hundred and fifty and I see the ground coming.

574
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: I'm worried that I'm going to hit it wrong. And

575
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: you have to supposed to flare up at the last

576
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 1: time to like have your your parachute move you off ground,

577
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 1: flare all the way down, and I think I'm gonna

578
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 1: hit the ground super hard, but then finally it lets

579
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: up and I land super gracefully right, and I get

580
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: on the ground. I'm just like glad that I survived,

581
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: but I feel kind of embarrassed because.

582
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 3: I'm like, I fucked that up so badly.

583
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: Like the last the last three hours of like training

584
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 1: have gone out the window, and I'm like worried that

585
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: I'm going like like like I'm word, Bethany's gonna be

586
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:02,679
Speaker 1: disappointed in me. Right we go, and I don't know

587
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 1: if I passed yet. Right, so this is the first

588
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: course in deciding whether or not to pass. But I

589
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 1: don't know if I've passed yet. So I go into

590
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,160
Speaker 1: like their little office, and they show me the video

591
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 1: of myself, which I'll show you guys in a second,

592
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 1: and and she's like, yeah, you did the first part wrong,

593
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 1: but you did pull. And honestly, my your your reserve

594
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: instructor didn't want to pass you because you lost both instructors,

595
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: and when you lose both instructors, you're supposed to immediately pull.

596
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: But what I said to him, and I think it's

597
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:36,199
Speaker 1: because we had good report, we're flirting, said she. You know,

598
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: I had eye contact with him, so I think it

599
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: was fine, and you did pull your own shoot, so

600
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,479
Speaker 1: I'm going to pass you. So I think because we

601
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 1: were flirting a little bit before she passed me.

602
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 4: This is crazy.

603
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 2: I don't. I feel like you should not be passed

604
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 2: the same.

605
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 3: So I am now on the second part of the course.

606
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 2: I feel like you should stay on the first part.

607
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 3: And I do have the video.

608
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 6: Dude, you slight your way into level two of the skydiving.

609
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 6: That's kind of wild.

610
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 4: Wow.

611
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: Anyway, Sophia, do you want to hit this last story

612
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 1: for sure?

613
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 5: Sure,