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Speaker 1: Well, tomorrow, Tuesday nine fourteen, is the California gubernatorial recall election.

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Speaker 1: So Californians, this is to you. Please, please please cast

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Speaker 1: your vote for Governor Gavin Newsom. Okay, where your polling place,

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Speaker 1: States Voter Hotline. That number is one eight hundred three

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Speaker 1: four five Vote one eight hundred three four five vote. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we have got to vote for Gavin Newsom's The Republicans

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Speaker 1: are trying to the publics are trying to fix it

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Speaker 1: so that the minority control the majority. California has always

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Speaker 1: been a blue state. I don't know how they think. Well,

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Speaker 1: this phony fake recall, they didn't conject it up, and

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Speaker 1: then they got this this Larry Elder running. Listen, y'all vote, vote,

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Speaker 1: vote California, Sacramento. Everybody get out and vote. Turned the

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Speaker 1: tied back. Let him know we'en playing this game with y'all.

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Speaker 1: Thank you vote. Okay, that's right, all right, We're gonna

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Speaker 1: switch gears here because it's time now for the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: You need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more.

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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. You never know it could

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Speaker 1: be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got

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Speaker 1: it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank

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Speaker 1: enough you subject. I got a keymate for his place,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married to my husband for

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Speaker 1: six years and he's a good man, very reserved, and

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Speaker 1: he doesn't talk a lot. My mother always said to

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Speaker 1: watch the quiet ones because they are very sneaky. He

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Speaker 1: works in another city that is two hours away, and

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Speaker 1: he has a studio of apartment that his company provides,

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Speaker 1: so he usually drives there on Monday mornings and he

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Speaker 1: see him using his phone more and being distracted. When

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Speaker 1: media account and it helps him pass time when he's

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Speaker 1: asking if Chuck is my husband. I responded that my

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Speaker 1: husband's name is Charles. Then she responded that he told

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Speaker 1: not help but think that he's cheating on me. I

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Speaker 1: I found my husband's apartment key in his glove box

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Speaker 1: I asked my mom to keep my daughter, and I

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Speaker 1: drove to my husband's apartment late at night to surprise him.

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Speaker 1: I tried my key and it didn't work. He opened

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Speaker 1: believe I stole his key. He was in some some

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Speaker 1: silky sex sexy boxers, just silky boxers that I had

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Speaker 1: never seen before, and a candle was lit on his

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Speaker 1: me and said I needed to go home. I got loud,

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Speaker 1: I was so hurt and confused. How could he tell

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Well, I say, you know what's going on?

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Speaker 1: You know, you know what you saw, you know what

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Speaker 1: you smelled, you know you saw the silk boxers, all that,

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Speaker 1: there some kind of way. All he said was your

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Speaker 1: his stupid corporate housing at this moment. This man, your husband,

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Speaker 1: Charles Chuck, whatever his name is, is leading some sort

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Speaker 1: what are you gonna do about it? Steve Well, this

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Speaker 1: is a very very interesting take on the letter. Oh

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Speaker 1: for those of you who are married and have a

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Speaker 1: Shirley thinks. When we come back, I'm going to take

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Speaker 1: this letter line by line and I'm going to show

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Speaker 1: you from the male perspective why this letter is utter

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Speaker 1: court of common sense because as a man, as a man,

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Speaker 1: he did everything he was supposed to do. Clap, clap, praise, praise, hallelujah.

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Speaker 1: Here's a man where every man listening to this letter

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Speaker 1: was I hear you dog? All right, when we come back,

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Speaker 1: I will explain to you the male version of this letter,

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Speaker 1: the lies. In other words, twenty three minutes after I

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter and the subject I got

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Speaker 1: a key maid for his place. Let's hear it. Well,

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Speaker 1: Shirley gave a very very appropriate answer, I must admit,

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Speaker 1: and it is. She gave the answer that protects a

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Speaker 1: male perspective. Why we, as men who heard this letter,

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Speaker 1: can see what he's clinging to. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I've

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Speaker 1: He don't watch sports. He just in here with a

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Speaker 1: Right there? You ain't think nothing about it? So what is?

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Speaker 1: We're writing a letter? Fall? Until a woman messaged me

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Speaker 1: You told her my husband named Charles, ever dance, ever dance.

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Speaker 1: She asked you, what's your husband named Chuck? You said no,

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Speaker 1: What is we talking about case clones? Stick to your life, fellas,

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