Speaker 1: I am a Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship.
Speaker 1: I spent time in a relationship with a married man.
Speaker 1: I had to learn the skills and tools required to
Speaker 1: make my relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the
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Speaker 1: Blessings and greetings. Welcome to the art Spot, the place
Speaker 1: we come to talk about all things relationships, all kinds
Speaker 1: of relationships and relationships with all kinds of things and people.
Speaker 1: I am Yamla, your support, your facilitator, your hosts for
Speaker 1: today's investigation and explore. We're not talking about people today. Well,
Speaker 1: we are talking about people, but we're talking about people's
Speaker 1: relationship with money. Money, money, money. You know. I consider
Speaker 1: money to be a living thing because money is energy
Speaker 1: and energy represents power. And it always amazes me that
Speaker 1: people speak more often than not in the lack of money,
Speaker 1: which says to me they have a lack of energy
Speaker 1: and possibly a lack of power. Money is a thing,
Speaker 1: it's living, and it supports us in giving and receiving
Speaker 1: the things we need to live. And so many of
Speaker 1: us have a disfunctional relationship with money. We have the
Speaker 1: same kind of relationship with money that we often have
Speaker 1: with people. So my question I got some questions for
Speaker 1: you about your relationship with money. Are you a good
Speaker 1: money partner? And are you a good partner to money?
Speaker 1: If money is a living thing, if it's an energy,
Speaker 1: if it's a power, what does your relationship with money
Speaker 1: look like? I mean, do you court money, you know,
Speaker 1: take it out, have a good time with it, and
Speaker 1: make sure it has a good time, you have a
Speaker 1: good time. Do you know what money likes? Do you
Speaker 1: know what money makes do you know what makes money
Speaker 1: feel good? And do you know how money makes you
Speaker 1: feel good? Do you trust money? Do you trust yourself
Speaker 1: with money? Do you know that you can count on
Speaker 1: money to be there when you need it, when you
Speaker 1: want it? What kind of relationship do you have with money?
Speaker 1: And what kind of relationship would you like to have
Speaker 1: with money? Do you want to marry it or do
Speaker 1: you just want to roll around with it sometime? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what we're talking about today on the R Spot.
Speaker 1: Our relationship with the energy of money, with the power
Speaker 1: of money, with the structure of money, and how it
Speaker 1: operates and how does it operate in your life. I've
Speaker 1: got some guests to have some interesting relationships with money.
Speaker 1: Here's my first caller. Hello, greetings, be love it, and
Speaker 1: welcome to the R Spot. We are talking about our
Speaker 1: relationship with money today. Yeah, so is money a long term,
Speaker 1: committed lover or is it just a baby daddy here
Speaker 1: long enough to leave you with a debt.
Speaker 2: It's a baby daddy, Hilma, how are you?
Speaker 1: Oh God, I am so good. Yeah, baby daddy just
Speaker 1: come around. It's there long enough to leave you with
Speaker 1: an obligation and it's not even enjoyable or helpful.
Speaker 2: Yes, I've done a lot of work on myself, but
Speaker 2: the money thing is still I feel a little stuck there.
Speaker 2: It feels it feels deeper to me, and I just
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm so close to getting it, but
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm having some kind of like some
Speaker 2: kind of something. And I don't know if it's an
Speaker 2: ancestral like a generational thing, because I kind of see
Speaker 2: the same thing with my dad. But I feel that
Speaker 2: it's Yes, it's a baby daddy. It just comes and goes.
Speaker 2: I get a lot of it. So I'll give some background.
Speaker 2: I work with myself. I'm a realtor and so then
Speaker 2: I have to make my own money, which puts me
Speaker 2: in an interesting situation. And I feel like I get
Speaker 2: a lot of God sends me a lot of opportunities
Speaker 2: to make money. But when I start thinking about, you know,
Speaker 2: like what it could do for me, I get so
Speaker 2: scared that I kind of so sabotage the money and
Speaker 2: I end up ruining it. And I'm I go into
Speaker 2: the mindset like it's not gonna work. It's not gonna work.
Speaker 2: And it's only when I'm literally down to the wire
Speaker 2: where I'm like, Okay, I have no money that I'm like,
Speaker 2: let me get to work. Let me get to work.
Speaker 2: But I feel like I kind of purposely hold myself
Speaker 2: back from making money. I feel like I keep myself
Speaker 2: like in a powerless, like helpless state where I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm not thriving, I'm just surviving.
Speaker 1: Okay, So let's play a game. You want to play? Yes, Okay,
Speaker 1: if you had to, if you had to name money,
Speaker 1: what would its name?
Speaker 2: Okay, I'll just say what came up versus was soul?
Speaker 2: Came up?
Speaker 1: Soul? Okay? Soul? O, Hey, soul? Now what color is soul?
Speaker 1: What described soul to me? As if it were a
Speaker 1: physical thing, Describe it to me?
Speaker 2: What would sob m? Evergreen? Like dark green?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 2: Kind of like a like a bush?
Speaker 1: Okay, ever green.
Speaker 2: Kind of dark mm hmm, far away, kind of mysterious.
Speaker 1: Far away, oh, far away mysterious, A mysterious kind of
Speaker 1: thing that you got to chase.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1: And when and when you look at that evergreen bush,
Speaker 1: when you look at that dark, far away mysterious thing,
Speaker 1: how does it make you feel?
Speaker 2: It makes me feel anxious. It makes me feel it
Speaker 2: makes me feel intimidated.
Speaker 1: Mmmmm. And what else? Anxious? Intimidated? What else? Oh?
Speaker 2: Man? It makes me feel not good enough of the
Speaker 2: feeling that I have right now?
Speaker 1: Uh huh okay. So soul, the evergreen bush that's dark,
Speaker 1: mysterious and far away makes you feel anxious, intimidated, and
Speaker 1: not good enough. So why in the hell with soul?
Speaker 1: Want to be with you?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I really love I really love that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: love me?
Speaker 1: You love soul? You love soul? You're just anxious intimidated
Speaker 1: by it? It comes around. You don't feel good enough?
Speaker 1: It's dark and mysterious. What don't you like about soul?
Speaker 2: Oh? Well, what I was gonna say, is it's never
Speaker 2: there when I need it. I don't thought that's true.
Speaker 1: Never there when you need it? Okay, well we're just
Speaker 1: playing the game. Never there when you need it. You know,
Speaker 1: that's like the that's like the lover that says I
Speaker 1: love you, I love you, I want to be with you,
Speaker 1: and then you call and they don't answer phone, and
Speaker 1: you and they're constantly telling you, no it. I ain't
Speaker 1: got nobody else, I ain't with nobody else. But it's
Speaker 1: never there when you need it.
Speaker 2: Hmmm mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Okay, so that's what you don't like about money? What
Speaker 1: else is anything else you don't like about soul?
Speaker 2: I feel like I always have to give it away.
Speaker 1: Okay, give it away? Mm hmmm. So even when it
Speaker 1: is there, not only are you intimidated by it, anxious
Speaker 1: about it, you don't feel good enough for it, and
Speaker 1: then you give it away.
Speaker 2: Yes, mm hmmm mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Are you are you seeing this? Why do you think
Speaker 1: soul would want to be with you? Because if the
Speaker 1: key thing here is not good enough to have more,
Speaker 1: I gotta make my own money, but I'm not good
Speaker 1: enough to have more. I own my own business, but
Speaker 1: I'm not good enough to have more. Underneath that you're
Speaker 1: saying that I'm intimidated by who I am intimidating. Greater
Speaker 1: your own power, creter your own power. You know why,
Speaker 1: because money is power. It's a medium of exchange, and
Speaker 1: the more we have, the more power we can experience
Speaker 1: and express. Money is an energy, it's a power. It's
Speaker 1: a medium of exchange. That's all it is. It has
Speaker 1: nothing to do with your career, it has It has
Speaker 1: nothing to do that. That's the trick. We've been tracked goodly,
Speaker 1: lamboozled into thinking that I can work hard enough, work
Speaker 1: long enough, and do enough to have all the money
Speaker 1: I want. That is a downright lie. It's your thinking
Speaker 1: and your feeling that gives birth to your abundance. And
Speaker 1: if you think that soul is an evergreen bush that's dark,
Speaker 1: far away, mysterious, and you feel anxious, intimidated, not good
Speaker 1: enough to have it, because it ain't never there when
Speaker 1: you need it, and if it is there, you gotta
Speaker 1: give it away. You ain't gonna chase soul, You're not
Speaker 1: gonna go for it. H And in there, anything you
Speaker 1: think about money, you think about yourself. Because money is energy.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, money is energy.
Speaker 1: You're afraid of your own power, intimidated by what you
Speaker 1: can do, so busy believing that you're not gonna be
Speaker 1: there for you when you really need it, you set
Speaker 1: it out your mouth. I hold myself back until there's
Speaker 1: an emergency. Then you get you know, you call it,
Speaker 1: you call it baby daddy for some panthers and.
Speaker 2: Some all right, you got me, And all the other time.
Speaker 1: You're talking bad about it. The ain't never hear when
Speaker 1: I want it. It's over there, you know, and I
Speaker 1: never know when it's gonna show up. But now the
Speaker 1: baby ain't got no pamps. Now you're gonna call oh,
Speaker 1: let me get out here. I ain't got no money.
Speaker 1: Let me go make some and we'll talk about that
Speaker 1: when we come back. Welcome back to the R spot.
Speaker 2: But Mama, what do I do with that? What do
Speaker 2: I do with that?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: What action sects do I take?
Speaker 1: You got to go back and unpack your money, how
Speaker 1: you experience money, what you were taught about money, what
Speaker 1: you heard and saw about money when you were little.
Speaker 1: You gotta unpack that story. And it's as simple as okay,
Speaker 1: that's that's not true. Come current to who you are now.
Speaker 1: You are a powerful woman in the world making your way.
Speaker 1: You know, you are flying. Every soul out there wants you,
Speaker 1: Every soul wants a piece of who you are. And
Speaker 1: you got to walk around knowing that and believing that
Speaker 1: it's not about the money. It's about the energy that
Speaker 1: you're going to attract. You can have two three clients
Speaker 1: and each of them sell a house, buy a house,
Speaker 1: get a house, But it's not the house, it's your energy.
Speaker 1: But you gotta go back and unpack that money story.
Speaker 1: Everybody has a money story and they're living it and
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with who you are today.
Speaker 1: What did you hear about money growing up? What did
Speaker 1: you see?
Speaker 2: Okay, so my mom was very good with money, but
Speaker 2: my dad was not.
Speaker 1: What does that mean she was good with money?
Speaker 2: She saved money. She always had like money in a flash,
Speaker 2: you know, for a rainy day, and why it got.
Speaker 1: To be raining. Ain't nobody going out in the rain
Speaker 1: to spend the money? Were going out with the money
Speaker 1: and the sunshine. Do you see those stories that we
Speaker 1: tell you got to ask some money for a rainy day? No,
Speaker 1: the hell I don't. I'm gonna be home when it's raining.
Speaker 1: I want my money when the sun is shine.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: Okay, there is a wonderful, wonderful book. I want you
Speaker 1: to go get it because you're working, you work for yourself,
Speaker 1: and this particular book talks a lot about that happy
Speaker 1: pockets full of money, happy pockets full of money, because
Speaker 1: right now your pockets are not happy.
Speaker 2: Okay, they're not they're not. And I know and people
Speaker 2: and it gets on my nerves even more because people
Speaker 2: are always telling me, oh my god, god, you're gonna
Speaker 2: be a millionaire, You're gonna be so good, you're gonna
Speaker 2: be the first one in the family. And it's like,
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do with that pressure. I'm like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I'm telling me this, you know. I'm like, okay, why.
Speaker 1: But that's because you're anxious, intimidated, not good enough, and
Speaker 1: you give it away because it's mysterious, it's dark, nice,
Speaker 1: and you don't think you're good enough, Afraid of your
Speaker 1: own power, intimidated by your own power, not good enough
Speaker 1: to have power. Money is power, that's all it is.
Speaker 1: It's a medium of exchange that allows us to experience
Speaker 1: and express our internal power, a personal power. Happy pockets
Speaker 1: that's in name the book go get it, not only
Speaker 1: read it, do those exercises in it, and he breaks
Speaker 1: that thing down. So you're gonna be slapping yourself in
Speaker 1: the face.
Speaker 2: And want to people want to flap me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, slapping your own self in the face because you
Speaker 1: saving for a rainy day. Suppose it never rains again,
Speaker 1: or if it rains every day. How's that going to
Speaker 1: increase your money when you got to go out and
Speaker 1: be showing people houses. M m. You don't have to
Speaker 1: be practical with money. You don't have to be practical
Speaker 1: with money. You can be responsible with money. You have
Speaker 1: to be practical. What is practical? What does that mean?
Speaker 2: Saving it? Saving it all?
Speaker 1: Why saving it for? What? Do you save your power?
Speaker 1: How many times have you had an argument with a
Speaker 1: fool I'm talking a pure de fool that you know
Speaker 1: couldn't think. They weighed out a paper bag and you're
Speaker 1: trying to convince them of something. How many times have
Speaker 1: you done that.
Speaker 2: A couple?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, wasting your power? And let me ask
Speaker 1: you this question. And I asked this of you because
Speaker 1: you say you work for yourself, your realtor where's God
Speaker 1: in that?
Speaker 2: Where's God in that?
Speaker 1: And yeah? And then she was silent. Where is God
Speaker 1: in you? Working for your with God in that?
Speaker 2: Well, theoretically, I don't work for myself, I'm working for God.
Speaker 1: I washeah, not working with God, working in God, working
Speaker 1: for God. God wants every single one of his children
Speaker 1: to have a home. Scriptures say in my father's house,
Speaker 1: there are many mansions, and one of the mansions got
Speaker 1: my name on it. I just need to find the
Speaker 1: reality who can get Okay, God wants every single one
Speaker 1: of his children to have a house. God wants every
Speaker 1: single one of his children to be provided for. God
Speaker 1: wants every single one of his children to be stable
Speaker 1: and safe. So you're not only working for God, you're
Speaker 1: working with God. You're working in God. You're working as God.
Speaker 1: Thank you. And God is unfailing abundance. God is unfailing abundance.
Speaker 1: There is no lack in God. If you're in lack,
Speaker 1: it means you're in your humans, not in your divinity.
Speaker 1: So what's the name of your your reality.
Speaker 2: Company investing with kat.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's you might want to consider changing it to
Speaker 1: God and.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: God Incorporated. That I work for God incorporated. Where there's
Speaker 1: no unemployment, where there's no uh five oh one C
Speaker 1: three or four oh one K or you know my
Speaker 1: my four oh one K is endlessly supplied. It has
Speaker 1: an unlimited supply. I can retire whenever I want. I
Speaker 1: work for God Incorporated. Well, I don't punch a clock.
Speaker 1: I serve a purpose. I work for God Incorporated. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm always supplied with everything that I need. I'm working
Speaker 1: for God with God in God as God. It's God incorporated.
Speaker 1: God is incorporated into every single thing that I do.
Speaker 1: My mother was practical. God is wealth. I can have
Speaker 1: money when the sun is out, when it's raining, when
Speaker 1: it's snowing, if it's hailing, if it clouds up in
Speaker 1: doodoo balls start falling out the sky. I'm gonna have
Speaker 1: what I need when I need it. That's the mindset,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna get that and happy pockets full of money.
Speaker 2: I'm going to read it. I am going to read it, because.
Speaker 1: Don't read it, read it, lick the pages. Sleep with
Speaker 1: the book on your head, tie it on the scarf,
Speaker 1: and put it on the top of your head so
Speaker 1: the words will seep into your brain. I started working
Speaker 1: for God Incorporated in nineteen eighty eight, and I've never
Speaker 1: been unemployed since. Never never missed the meal since nineteen
Speaker 1: eighty eight. I can show you my butt right now
Speaker 1: today and you'll see I ain't never missed the meal ever,
Speaker 1: and usually have two or three of them. People bring
Speaker 1: me food, all kinds of all the time. You know,
Speaker 1: pray of your power, and don't be running from soul.
Speaker 1: Soul is good to you, so soul wants to rock
Speaker 1: your world about that you Okay, okay, baby, hear me,
Speaker 1: hear me, hear me, hear me, hear me good. Hear
Speaker 1: me with your hair. Hear me with your hair follicles.
Speaker 1: Hear me with your skin, with your fingernails, hear me
Speaker 1: with your toenails. Hear me with your nipples. Hear me
Speaker 1: with your with your your butt. Hear me with your everything,
Speaker 1: your biceps, your quads, hear me with your sick pack,
Speaker 1: your twelve back. Hear me with your dune lap belly,
Speaker 1: the belly that Doune lopped over into your lap. Okay,
Speaker 1: there is no shortage. Money. Money is not your supply.
Speaker 1: Your self value, your self worth, your self respect, your
Speaker 1: self love is your banker, and you can make unlimited
Speaker 1: deposits from your account when you are clear about who
Speaker 1: you are But if you think that you're out there
Speaker 1: working on your own, if you think that the baby
Speaker 1: daddy ain't gonna show up when you need it, if
Speaker 1: you think that you and money just got a hook up,
Speaker 1: if you think it's just the friend around sometimes but
Speaker 1: you know, barely covering the basics. Some of y'all are
Speaker 1: celibate when it comes to money, not even thinking about
Speaker 1: having more getting more because you don't know yourself. I
Speaker 1: don't know who you are. Let me get in that
Speaker 1: with you, okay, because I'm not talking about you, I'm
Speaker 1: talking with you. We don't know who we are. We
Speaker 1: don't know who we are. And as long as we
Speaker 1: think we're out here on our own, money's gonna be
Speaker 1: a drive by, it's gonna be a boogeyman, it's gonna
Speaker 1: be dark and mysterious far away. And then how many
Speaker 1: of us really know how to receive? Or do we
Speaker 1: only attach money to what we can do to get it.
Speaker 1: I have some really really bad money habits because I
Speaker 1: don't follow the rules, and people with oh, you got
Speaker 1: bad money habits? But I stand in the promise I
Speaker 1: will never see my seed begging for bread. I ain't
Speaker 1: never had to beg for bread. There are moments when
Speaker 1: all I have is a crust, But I know I'm
Speaker 1: gonna have what I need. I believe that because I
Speaker 1: deserve it, I'm worth it, and I value myself. All right,
Speaker 1: let me see who else is out there. They got
Speaker 1: a dysfunctional relationship with money, and we'll talk about that
Speaker 1: when we come back. Welcome back to the R spot.
Speaker 1: Greeting's been loved, and welcome to the our spot. Thank
Speaker 1: you for your patience. We are talking today about our
Speaker 1: relationship with money. Some people have a one night stand,
Speaker 1: some people are married to it. What's your relationship with money?
Speaker 2: I would say my relationship with money is nonexistent.
Speaker 1: You celibate, you celibate, You ain't had none in a while.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, tell me more about your relationship with money.
Speaker 1: Why does it look like that?
Speaker 2: Well, because I worked. I've worked two jobs for like
Speaker 2: the last seven years. I have yet to get a
Speaker 2: form of a savings account. Every penny that I pretty
Speaker 2: much make either those two bills or providing for my
Speaker 2: child and myself by the time the bills are done,
Speaker 2: and putting groceries in a house. I really have about
Speaker 2: at the match five hundred dollars.
Speaker 1: Can I ask you a question, yes, ma'am, you can.
Speaker 1: Do you work for money or do you work for
Speaker 1: the joy and the love of it?
Speaker 2: I think that's hard to answer. I would probably say,
Speaker 2: I feel like I more so work for the joy
Speaker 2: and love of it, more so than the money.
Speaker 1: Okay, So then why isn't money coming to you? Because
Speaker 1: money is money is love. Money is love. Love is
Speaker 1: an energy. Money is an energy. Why isn't more of
Speaker 1: it coming to you?
Speaker 2: I would say, because of the jobs that I choose, M.
Speaker 1: Why are you choosing those jobs?
Speaker 2: One is a career base, It's what I went to
Speaker 2: school for, and I do enjoy it to a point,
Speaker 2: but it has not brought me the money that I
Speaker 2: thought it would. And then the other one, like I said,
Speaker 2: it's just honestly, it's to supplement the extra income that
Speaker 2: I would possibly have if I had a partner.
Speaker 1: You got all kinds of stuff attached to your money.
Speaker 1: I do. I do, my word, my word, my word.
Speaker 1: If you had to give money a color other than green,
Speaker 1: what would it be?
Speaker 2: I would probably say, wonder? Either red?
Speaker 1: Red, red hot? Okay, all right, red hot? Money is
Speaker 1: red hot? Can't hold on to it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I agree with that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, tell me your money story. What did you hear
Speaker 1: see learn? What were you told about money growing up?
Speaker 2: Oh? Wow, that's funny. I just had this conversation twenty
Speaker 2: minutes ago with a family member. Not much, not much
Speaker 2: of a conversation at all. You're supposed to save, But
Speaker 2: how can you tell someone to save if you're not
Speaker 2: showing them how to save? How can you tell someone
Speaker 2: to invest into borlin ks and budget if you wasn't
Speaker 2: shown how to do those things.
Speaker 1: So you didn't learn anything. You didn't learn anything about money. Okay, no,
Speaker 1: but you did learn that you have to work for it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty much it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you don't know who or what money is, right,
Speaker 1: So you got to You gotta really start building a
Speaker 1: relationship with money. You say you want to partner, we'll
Speaker 1: make money your part for right now. You got to
Speaker 1: build a relationship with it. Every dollar, every penny. My
Speaker 1: grandson found a penny the other day, he said, look,
Speaker 1: I found a penny. I said, oh my god, that's
Speaker 1: a Nichols little sister. I said, and do you know
Speaker 1: who a Nichol's mother is? He said no, I said,
Speaker 1: it's a dime. And do you know who a dime's
Speaker 1: mother is, I said, a quarter, you know. And I
Speaker 1: mean we went all the way up the list till
Speaker 1: we got to the dollar, you know. And I was
Speaker 1: telling her how money is related. Yeah, and so because
Speaker 1: people will find pennies and don't even pick them up,
Speaker 1: don't look at it. I pick up a penny when
Speaker 1: I find it because I know it's got a sister,
Speaker 1: it's got a mama, it's got a daddy. I want
Speaker 1: a relationship with the whole Derned family.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So you have to build.
Speaker 1: A relationship with money. Did you learn there wasn't enough money?
Speaker 1: Did you learn that? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think I did, just on the fact that my
Speaker 2: mom was a single parent of three and all she
Speaker 2: did was work. That's through joints, and that was at
Speaker 2: minimum wage, you know. So what she got was what
Speaker 2: she got, and she did what she had to do
Speaker 2: with whatever she got.
Speaker 1: Okay, she worked, but never had enough, never had enough never,
Speaker 1: And that's isn't that your story? Yeah? Okay, So you're
Speaker 1: live in your mother's story and you got to create
Speaker 1: your in your mama's story. You got to create your
Speaker 1: own with money. I want to give you an abundance principle.
Speaker 1: Let me give you an abundance principle. Okay, okay. I
Speaker 1: keep my mind and thoughts off this world, and I
Speaker 1: place my entire focus on God within, the source within,
Speaker 1: as the only cause of my prosperity. I want to
Speaker 1: say that again, hear me. I keep my mind off
Speaker 1: this world, off the job, off the working, I keep
Speaker 1: my mind off this world, and I place my entire
Speaker 1: focus on God's source, creator within as the only cause
Speaker 1: of my prosperity. Focus on outside, focus on the inside,
Speaker 1: and come current, come current to who you are. You're
Speaker 1: good at what you do. You're working in a place
Speaker 1: that you love, and it can reward you. Not the thing,
Speaker 1: but the way you feel about the thing, not the world,
Speaker 1: but the inner cause, the inner cause, what you believe
Speaker 1: is possible, what you desire, not what you have. Does
Speaker 1: that make sense?
Speaker 2: Yes, it is.
Speaker 1: It is because you're looking at You gotta look in.
Speaker 1: You got to look in and stop living your mama's story.
Speaker 1: Create another story. And m.
Speaker 2: I say this ironic that you say I'm living my
Speaker 2: mom story. I never thought of it in that way.
Speaker 1: She worked and never had enough. You work in two
Speaker 1: jobs and still ain't got enough. Yeah, So here's your homework.
Speaker 1: I don't care how much money it is. When you
Speaker 1: get it, you put ten percent and an interest bare
Speaker 1: account that you cannot touch. So if you make your paycheck,
Speaker 1: is four hundred and seventy nine dollars, forty seven dollars
Speaker 1: and ninety cents goes in that account, you're gonna pay yourself.
Speaker 1: Pay yourself first, Pay yourself first, ten percent. If somebody
Speaker 1: gives you one hundred dollars, you put ten dollars in
Speaker 1: that account. You don't touch it for a year. At
Speaker 1: the end of that year, you'll see what you have
Speaker 1: ten percent. Every paycheck, every gift, anything you find. You
Speaker 1: can do that online. You get your paycheck, you look
Speaker 1: at it, you transfer ten percent into account in another bank,
Speaker 1: not even in the bank, you bank with it because
Speaker 1: I know you're slippery. You'll take that, You're right, I
Speaker 1: know I am. Put it in a whole another bank.
Speaker 1: Pay yourself first, because you're working and you're not feeling rewarded,
Speaker 1: so you will diminish who you are. Money is energy.
Speaker 1: Money is the flow. Get in the flow of it.
Speaker 1: And if you're constantly working and giving away all that
Speaker 1: you make, you're diminishing, not only the flow, but you're
Speaker 1: diminishing what you think and feel about yourself. Pay you first.
Speaker 2: Okay, tell me what you're good.
Speaker 1: I mean, tell me what you heard me say. Don't
Speaker 1: repeat the words. Tell me what you're hearing me say.
Speaker 2: To take care of myself before I take care of
Speaker 2: anything else.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So that you're working has value and meaning
Speaker 1: to you. Not just you're gonna do what you need
Speaker 1: to do. You're gonna pay your bills, You're gonna take
Speaker 1: care of the kids. You're gonna You're gonna do that
Speaker 1: because you've already done it. You've demonstrated that you can
Speaker 1: do that, and now you're just gonna add a little
Speaker 1: twist to it. Gonna add a little twist. Right, We're
Speaker 1: gonna we're gonna make friends with money. Some of it's
Speaker 1: gonna stay with you.
Speaker 2: Right. That's really there's something that I needed to hear.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I'm glad that's why you called me. I'm
Speaker 1: done with you now bye. Do that, Okay, get online.
Speaker 1: I'm opening up an account and another bank ten percent.
Speaker 1: I don't care what it is. Twenty dollars, put two
Speaker 1: in the bank.
Speaker 2: Right, Okay, I will try that, Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 1: And dismantle your mother's money story. Go back and look
Speaker 1: at it, how it made you feel, what you thought about,
Speaker 1: what you saw, what you heard, and begin to dismantle
Speaker 1: that because that has nothing to do with who you
Speaker 1: are now. Nothing, there's nothing with who you are now,
Speaker 1: but you're living in Yes. I am okay, I am
Speaker 1: all right, my darling. Thank you for calling, and thank
Speaker 1: you for your patience. Thank you all righty bye bye.
Speaker 1: Some people got to have it, some people really need it,
Speaker 1: and they do things, do things, do things, bad things
Speaker 1: with it. You know that. Oh, Jay's money, money, money, money,
Speaker 1: our relationship with money. Listen, I want to leave you
Speaker 1: with this money. N e y my own natural energy yield,
Speaker 1: what my energy brings me, what my energy creates for me,
Speaker 1: and within me, my own natural energy yield. Money is energy.
Speaker 1: As you clean up, clear up, lift up, your energy,
Speaker 1: money will flow to you. Money will come to you.
Speaker 1: It'll show up for you in a variety of ways.
Speaker 1: And please hear me. Job, job, just over broke, just overbroke.
Speaker 1: As long as you think that your job is the
Speaker 1: source of your money, not your value, not your worth,
Speaker 1: not your divinity, not your connection to the source of
Speaker 1: all wealth, the unlimited, eternal source of all wealth. As
Speaker 1: long as you think your job is your source of money,
Speaker 1: you're going to be just overbroke and it'll be dysfunctional.
Speaker 1: You want to committed long term relationship with the energy,
Speaker 1: the identity, the purpose of money, and that is to
Speaker 1: nurture you, to protect you, to help you heal, to
Speaker 1: help you grow. Get in the flow of money energy
Speaker 1: and you'll be Okay. Well, I hope you heard something
Speaker 1: today that you can use in your life. Something you
Speaker 1: know now that you didn't know when you tuned in
Speaker 1: our relationship with money. Let's clean it up, Let's lift
Speaker 1: it up, let's elevate it. Okay, and I'll see you
Speaker 1: next time. So in the meantime, stay in peace and
Speaker 1: not in peace. R Spot is a production of Shondaland
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