Speaker 1: Second date of to date. What could be more exciting
Speaker 1: and romantic than spending a date night in Vegas? That's
Speaker 1: so one time I had a boyfriend fled me there
Speaker 1: for twenty four hours. It was amazing. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was amazing. Sin City Ye never closes, always open
Speaker 1: the lights, the music. I mean, can you imagine just
Speaker 1: being on a weekend date there with all the bottomless
Speaker 1: shrimp and all the topless dancers and the paintless elvis.
Speaker 1: Is it's a recipe for romance? Yeah? No one had
Speaker 1: clothes on in that description, but I like it. That's
Speaker 1: why it's so wonderful. And that's where one of our listeners,
Speaker 1: Joe Anne, had their very first date with a special someone. Joanne,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show. Hi, thank you. Okay, wait, did
Speaker 1: you meet someone while you're in Vegas? Oh no, No,
Speaker 1: we actually met online and we've been talking for a
Speaker 1: few months and um, you know, we've just hit it
Speaker 1: off chatting online and then we took it to video chatting. Nice.
Speaker 1: So whose idea was it to go to Vegas? Was
Speaker 1: that your idea or Chris's idea? It was his idea.
Speaker 1: We had just been kind of like joking about I
Speaker 1: guess a bit, but then he was like, why don't
Speaker 1: we actually do it? Yeah? Did you out? No? No,
Speaker 1: he didn't find me out. I had a girl fly
Speaker 1: me out to Vegas ones because I'm always the one
Speaker 1: that's fun. And she didn't show up, but she still
Speaker 1: let me go on the trail. That's nice, sent you
Speaker 1: a bush, right, let's go. And then she's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna go anymore. You go by yourself. So
Speaker 1: how did it go when you met up with him
Speaker 1: in Vegas? I mean that's a lot of pressure, right,
Speaker 1: like the first time you meet somebody, but I mean
Speaker 1: they've been talking for months. Yeah, but are you sharing
Speaker 1: the same hotel room or like, you know, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of like variables you have to discuss beforehand. I
Speaker 1: would assume, Well, that was the thing that was like
Speaker 1: a little awkward because we actually hadn't thought about talking
Speaker 1: about that ahead of time, and still when we got
Speaker 1: to the hotel a little ankward. But he was just like, well,
Speaker 1: why don't I see if we can just get us
Speaker 1: a suite and oh wow, he did pay for that,
Speaker 1: he did say to the room and that was great.
Speaker 1: And I mean, honestly, the second we hung out when
Speaker 1: you just had instant chemistry. It was just like such
Speaker 1: a good time. I mean we were like going to
Speaker 1: like awesome meals. We went to spa treatments, we went
Speaker 1: swimming in the pool, you know. I mean, it was honestly,
Speaker 1: like NonStop, just so much fun. It's like your first
Speaker 1: day is crazy. So there was no awkward moments. Your
Speaker 1: producer had asked me before, like were there any awkward
Speaker 1: moments or did you guys butt heads ever or anything
Speaker 1: like that, and right, no, I mean it was honestly,
Speaker 1: everything was just so easy, and it was you know,
Speaker 1: I felt like I've known this person for years. And
Speaker 1: like he said that too, Like he just was like,
Speaker 1: I feel like I've known you forever. It's so crazy
Speaker 1: that we're doing this, that we're here, right, because it's
Speaker 1: like one thing to like share a hotel room in
Speaker 1: like a sexy way and then you like leave in
Speaker 1: the morning before it eat, but but like you're having
Speaker 1: to get changed and brush your teeth and go to
Speaker 1: the bathroom. Those are things to do on a first
Speaker 1: date when you're sharing the same space. Yeah, everything felt
Speaker 1: so natural and I get swept away easily. I guess
Speaker 1: sometimes I was like I think this guy could be
Speaker 1: the guy. You know. Okay, so after your Vegas getaway,
Speaker 1: what's happened since then? It's like I can't even properly
Speaker 1: process what happened because it's just night and day. Really,
Speaker 1: it's been one night and one day. I mean, like
Speaker 1: just so different night and day between. He's acting different. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's acting completely different. How the day after we got
Speaker 1: back from the trip, I was like, oh, I'll catch
Speaker 1: you on zoom. Let's like chat on zoom. And he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, actually I can't chat on zoom tonight,
Speaker 1: but i'll you know, talk to you later. And I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, hey, and I didn't. I didn't hear.
Speaker 1: Do you guys live in separate cities or different states
Speaker 1: or yeah, we do live in we do live in
Speaker 1: different states. Okay, okay, so it is a bit of
Speaker 1: a long distance thing. But we again, we struck this up,
Speaker 1: you know, a few months ago. So was this a
Speaker 1: situation where you'd be willing to relocate if things worked out? Honestly? Like,
Speaker 1: I was starting to think I couldn't move for this
Speaker 1: guy like I would I would move to his town.
Speaker 1: So when we got back and he was suddenly kind
Speaker 1: of like pulled away really abruptly. You didn't call me
Speaker 1: the next day when he said he would call me
Speaker 1: the next day, And then I called him later and
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, you know what's going on? And
Speaker 1: we did talk on the phone a couple of times,
Speaker 1: but it was so different. What do you think. Do
Speaker 1: you think he's married. Do you think he's got like
Speaker 1: another family. I mean, if there's so many things or
Speaker 1: he's scared, maybe it was too much for him, too
Speaker 1: many emotions. I think he went back to Vegas with
Speaker 1: another woman. I mean, he's just meeting random women in Vegas.
Speaker 1: That's just to go to first date spot. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: a lot of money he's investing in one night stay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's at the Golden Hugget. I've thought all these things.
Speaker 1: I'm very suspicious that there is somebody else in a
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody else. I don't know. He could be
Speaker 1: living with somebody else for all I know. Right, because
Speaker 1: you've never been to his house or anything. Would that
Speaker 1: be a deal breaker for you? Yeah? I think it
Speaker 1: would be a deal breaker. Women feel a different way
Speaker 1: about these things, so it's good to know where you stand.
Speaker 1: I don't know who you're dating or who's in your life.
Speaker 1: But I think for most women it's a yeah, I
Speaker 1: do have some questionable acquaintances. So yeah, I don't really
Speaker 1: know about each other. Okay, So here's what we're gonna do. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna play a song, we'll come back, we'll call
Speaker 1: Chris for you, and we're gonna try and get you
Speaker 1: a second date. Up machine noises in the background. All right,
Speaker 1: we'll do it right after this. Hold on, Joeanne, thank you?
Speaker 1: Are you just joining us? One of our listeners. Joe
Speaker 1: Anne had her first date with a guy in Vegas.
Speaker 1: His name's Chris, and they don't live in the same city,
Speaker 1: but they met and had been talking online for a
Speaker 1: few weeks and finally chose to meet up for the
Speaker 1: first time in Sin City. So exciting. According to Joanne,
Speaker 1: it was amazing, you know, she felt the connection with him.
Speaker 1: They hung out at the pool, saw the sights, went
Speaker 1: lady in the tramp on a lobster tail, all the
Speaker 1: typical Vegas stuff. Yeah. But after they left, Joanne says
Speaker 1: Chris has done a complete one eighty and is acting strange.
Speaker 1: Says he's too busy to chat now, and she doesn't
Speaker 1: know why Joanne, I forgot to ask, so, how long
Speaker 1: exactly has it been since you got back. It's been
Speaker 1: a little over a week. That's so weird. And what
Speaker 1: exactly was the last thing you guys said to each
Speaker 1: other as you left? We kissed. I was getting a
Speaker 1: little choked up, to be honest, and he's like, don't worry,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna you know, I'll talk to you soon. I
Speaker 1: hate to be this guy, but I think somebody has
Speaker 1: to ask it. Did you guys hook up? Because he
Speaker 1: if you did, he may have just kind of back
Speaker 1: to you. Don't fly to Vegas, get a suite. I mean,
Speaker 1: like you get I feel like someone in this room
Speaker 1: would do that. Yeah, I mean, I mean they had
Speaker 1: a real connection. Did her back? I mean a lady
Speaker 1: never kisses in tels, but true things happened. You know,
Speaker 1: we stayed in the same suite. Yeah, as you should.
Speaker 1: You're two adults going to Vegas on a dacation. I
Speaker 1: love it. I promote that. Okay, Well, the one thing
Speaker 1: that I wanted to ask was did you guys gamble
Speaker 1: or was he ever out of your sight for a
Speaker 1: little while? Why maybe you could have run off to
Speaker 1: the casino lost a bunch of money, and now he's
Speaker 1: in deep with a guy with four fingers and an
Speaker 1: eyepatch named everyone's speculating what they think. This is how
Speaker 1: I'm speculating. I mean, we didn't gamble much. I guess
Speaker 1: there was an hour or two where he did leave
Speaker 1: the suite because he said he had to take some
Speaker 1: business call. Oh, everybody knows business calls. It's all Any
Speaker 1: of the egg needs just one hour and he'll have
Speaker 1: you deep deep in debt. Let's just call this guy.
Speaker 1: I want to hear from him. All right, we're gonna
Speaker 1: do it. We're gonna call Chris for Are you ready
Speaker 1: to do this? Joanne? Yeah? Okay, I'm gonna doubt the
Speaker 1: number right now here we go. Hello, Hey, is this Chris? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Who's this? Hey? I recognize this number. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: think you would. I'm calling from a radio station. My
Speaker 1: name is jeff Where are you calling me? I'm doing
Speaker 1: a radio show with my co host here, Brook, Jose
Speaker 1: and Alexis. I don't know what city you live in
Speaker 1: or if our show is on there, but this show
Speaker 1: is Brooke and Jeffrey. In the morning, we do something
Speaker 1: called a second date update. Is any that familiar to you.
Speaker 1: Oh not particularly, Um, that's okay. Well, the second date
Speaker 1: Update is where we help out some of our listeners
Speaker 1: get back in touch with people who are ghosting them
Speaker 1: after a date. Oh okay, all right, so you already
Speaker 1: got some people in mind who you could be ghosting, Chris.
Speaker 1: The listener that asked for help from us today. Her
Speaker 1: name is joe Anne. Yeah, okay, yeah, okay, so right,
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're so happy about this, But jo Anne
Speaker 1: isn't feelings thrilled because it's been apparently over a week
Speaker 1: since you guys have actually really spoken to each other,
Speaker 1: and she doesn't understand why. Yeah, we've talked some, you know,
Speaker 1: Can I ask you, Chris, just right off the top,
Speaker 1: because I know you guys, you and Joanne live in
Speaker 1: different cities and in Vegas. Are you in a relationship? No, No,
Speaker 1: not at all. I mean we had, like mean Vegas.
Speaker 1: We've been talking online. I mean I have like maybe
Speaker 1: a couple other people that I've talked to you online,
Speaker 1: but like not even as much as joe Anne. So
Speaker 1: it's not like I'm hiding some relationship or a fair
Speaker 1: or you know whatever anything like that. Okay, do you
Speaker 1: know anybody by the name Benny the Egg and do
Speaker 1: you owe him money? No, I am not familiar with
Speaker 1: that guy, Okay, but I'm just we're just trying to
Speaker 1: go through all the possibilities here because we've spoken with
Speaker 1: Joanne and she told us she had a great time.
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys talked for two months leading up
Speaker 1: to this weekend in Vegas. The way she described it
Speaker 1: sound like you guys were in a relationship by the
Speaker 1: end of the Vegas Weekends pretty serious. It was. It
Speaker 1: was glowing reviews. We don't know how much you may
Speaker 1: or may not know about the situation, but we stayed
Speaker 1: in a suite in Vegas. Yeah, and I mean everything
Speaker 1: happened really quick. We had a really good connection and
Speaker 1: hit it off right away, and we seem to be compatible.
Speaker 1: And I don't know how to say this, but you know,
Speaker 1: we were intimate and uh, you know, I thought that
Speaker 1: was good, but then it just kept kind of going
Speaker 1: like it was like more than I've ever been used
Speaker 1: to in one period of time. What do you mean,
Speaker 1: like you guys were in I mean, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I couldn't handle it. I'm getting like kind of
Speaker 1: a little bit older now and I just don't have
Speaker 1: the kind of editor I like, I don't know if
Speaker 1: I have the energy for that. That's the reason you're
Speaker 1: not calling a little bit back. Isn't because she wants
Speaker 1: too much? Just tell us you're married, Like this isn't real, right, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: what does too much mean? It was like, we got together,
Speaker 1: we figured out the suite, we went by the pool
Speaker 1: and got some lunch and stuff, and then by the
Speaker 1: time we got back to the room, she's already ready
Speaker 1: to go. And why are you complaining? Yeah, isn't that fun?
Speaker 1: Doesn't that mean you have amazing chemistry. I'm not complaining
Speaker 1: about how it started or anything. I'm just somewhat thing
Speaker 1: it never stopped. And you're like a once a week
Speaker 1: type of guy. I'm like, the first time and then
Speaker 1: I want to take a nap for six hours. Okay.
Speaker 1: So you're saying you feel compatible with Joanne in every
Speaker 1: other way except for this in the bedroom, she's too
Speaker 1: much for you. Yeah, it was. It was a lot,
Speaker 1: and I don't know if that was completely for me. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know, I would be really interested to hear what
Speaker 1: jo Anne thinks about this, because I don't think this
Speaker 1: was even close to being on her radar for the
Speaker 1: reason why you've been avoiding her. The thing is, I
Speaker 1: have the perfect way to know what she's thinking, because
Speaker 1: I need to tell you, Chris, Joanne's been on the
Speaker 1: other line listening this entire time, and she wants to
Speaker 1: talk to what. Yeah, Joe, Hey, I feel like a
Speaker 1: round of applause for Joanne ruined his spirit. Yeah, she
Speaker 1: broke him, Jodan, how are you feeling right now? I'm
Speaker 1: kind of with all of these guys, like, I just
Speaker 1: had no idea that that was any reason at all
Speaker 1: a problem. Did you notice him getting more exhausted as
Speaker 1: a day when I mean, maybe a little, But I
Speaker 1: guess I'm just I've always been someone with like a
Speaker 1: really high sex drive, and so that's not unfamiliar to me.
Speaker 1: But Chris, like, why didn't you say anything? He's out
Speaker 1: of breath. You know, I don't know how to broach
Speaker 1: that subject. I mean, it's not something I expected either.
Speaker 1: They were talking about like so many things, and I
Speaker 1: felt like we did have like such a good connection,
Speaker 1: and it's really unbelievably disappointing now to hear that, like
Speaker 1: you just ghosted me because I'm have too high of
Speaker 1: a sex drive for you, like I mean, like I said,
Speaker 1: I already said it was I don't know how to
Speaker 1: approach it. I mean, yes, we did have a connection,
Speaker 1: but also at the same time, it's still the first
Speaker 1: weekend we ever saw each other. So how do you
Speaker 1: say that to someone that you still in that sense,
Speaker 1: don't really know very well? That's almost going to hurt
Speaker 1: her feelings, like, hey, I'm sorry, but can we do
Speaker 1: it less? She'd be like, why, what's wrong? Man? There's
Speaker 1: a whole like masculinity thing, like where you know it's
Speaker 1: been made that guys can't ever say no, which you
Speaker 1: know it shouldn't be the case, which is why I
Speaker 1: never say no. Yeah, I'm still trying to recoup. I've
Speaker 1: been sleeping at least an extra hour per night. I mean, Joanne,
Speaker 1: in a way, it's kind of a compliment. Yeah, yeah, yes,
Speaker 1: And I guess I feel bad that I wasn't didn't
Speaker 1: seem like you could talk to me. I mean it
Speaker 1: was I feel like we had such a good time
Speaker 1: together and that this could have been something like a
Speaker 1: long term relationship, that this could have turned into. Well,
Speaker 1: why are you saying could have it? Still? Can? Joanne?
Speaker 1: I don't think you should give up. I mean, can
Speaker 1: you like, oh he can? I mean, but has he
Speaker 1: given up? Like he ghosted and he didn't come to
Speaker 1: me with it. Well, maybe there's a way that we
Speaker 1: could meet in the middle where Joanne you dial back
Speaker 1: your sexiness and maybe we can help ramp Chris up
Speaker 1: a little bit special, maybe like just half of a vitamin. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's from the sound of it, the connection emotionally you
Speaker 1: guys have is there. Yeah, it's just there's a little
Speaker 1: bit of a physical disconnect, but not in a bad way.
Speaker 1: Usually the physical disconnect is the other side of it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think we did connect, and I think ultimately that
Speaker 1: what I've been uncomfortable saying, we kind of you know,
Speaker 1: I guess I got Okie doked into thing on the
Speaker 1: show was like that a fast one pulled on me.
Speaker 1: I may add that to l add that to your
Speaker 1: Refertoire move she pulled when you guys are in Vega. Yea,
Speaker 1: let me try it, because I would like to Oki
Speaker 1: dok you into another date with Joe Anne and we'll
Speaker 1: pay for that date. To be completely honest with you,
Speaker 1: I just I really think she has way too gracious
Speaker 1: of an appetite for me and this is not going
Speaker 1: to work? Are you? Are you serious? I'm serious, Joanne, Joanne,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be fine. I mean our text board says so. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know else say like good luck
Speaker 1: to you. Well, no hard feelings, you know. I hope
Speaker 1: you can just find a man that can keep up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's many that are willing to try. Yeah.
Speaker 1: If there's a listener out there that can go more
Speaker 1: than once a day, yeah, they are really short sessions.
Speaker 1: I don't think that counts broken Jeffrey in the morning