1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for breaking up with my 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:06,040 Speaker 1: boyfriend because he ignored my medical emergency? Yeah? Wait no, 3 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:10,039 Speaker 1: this comes from life is a zoo throwaway and they 4 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: say I, twenty five female, have been dating my boyfriend, 5 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:17,919 Speaker 1: twenty seven male for two years. He's been my first 6 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: ever boyfriend because not a lot of guys seem interested 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: in me. Overall, relationship has been good, but something happened 8 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: recently that made me question everything. About two months ago, 9 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 1: I started feeling severe a doominal pain while we were 10 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: at his apartment. The pain became so intense that I 11 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 1: could hardly move or speak. Do we think a torn 12 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: abdominal lescole or burst appendix A, anal leakage, anal leakage? 13 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:47,840 Speaker 2: What Sophia's on one today? 14 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 3: You weren't there, You weren't there. It was in the 15 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 3: last story. 16 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: The pain became so intense that I could hardly move 17 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: or speak. I told my boyfriend that I needed to 18 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: go to the hospital because something felt very wrong. He 19 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: dismissed my concern and saying I was overreacting and it 20 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: probably wasn't anal leasage leakage. It was probably just something 21 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: I ate. Despite my please, he refused to take me 22 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,559 Speaker 1: to the hospital or even call an ambulance. 23 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 2: Why don't you call the way ambulance. 24 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: Gets me? 25 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 3: She seriously soffuse me in these situations and I mix 26 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,199 Speaker 3: up where Tom realize what I've said until my friend 27 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:27,479 Speaker 3: she knows what she'll. 28 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 2: Tum about. 29 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 4: You want us to have mercy on you for things 30 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 4: that we don't know. 31 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: We're saying, yeah, yeah, pretty crazy, making fun of us 32 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: for all these words that we miss. 33 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 3: Make fun of you. I just repeat you if you 34 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 3: were smiling, giggle because you smiling giggle at. 35 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: Me anyway, anyway, refuse to take her to the hospital 36 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: or even call an ambulance. El boyfriend for sure, terrible, terrible. 37 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: If anyone is in pain, I'm taking them to the hospital. 38 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 2: And so what. 39 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: Josephine Mandulla says, ain't a leasage say on twenty twenty 40 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: four stop meingzobia. We don't need more of those. Instead, 41 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 1: he suggested I lie down and waited out. The pain 42 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: kept getting worse and I was scared, throwing up and crying. 43 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 1: After an hour of begging him to help me, I 44 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 1: finally managed to call a friend, who immediately came over 45 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: and took me to the er. 46 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 2: Oh. 47 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: Turns out I had pink creatis ooh or pink creatitis 48 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:34,839 Speaker 1: no pink pink based on pain creatitis, which required immediate 49 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: medical attention. The doctor said it could have been life 50 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: threatening if I had waited any longer. My friend stayed 51 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 1: with me the entire time, But my boyfriend didn't even 52 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: check in to see how I was doing until the 53 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: next day. He is probably embarrassed, he said in a 54 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: brief text, saying he hoped I was feeling better. I 55 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:54,799 Speaker 1: was in the hospital for three weeks. He didn't even 56 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: bother to come see me. Whoa three weeks? 57 00:02:58,480 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 3: Three weeks? Your relationship is over? 58 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're over. When I confronted him about his lack 59 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,359 Speaker 1: of support and concern, he got defensive and said it 60 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: was being dramatic, that he didn't think it was that serious. 61 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 3: Okay, but even if it wasn't that serious in general, 62 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:14,679 Speaker 3: like let's say op was just living life like day 63 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,240 Speaker 3: to day if her boyfriend didn't come see here for 64 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 3: three weeks, just normal life. Yeah, that's an so pretty bad. 65 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: Three weeks of not seeing her partner would suck. 66 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, like without you know, without any reason or. 67 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: Coety reason, Like if she had like a big test 68 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: or a big project that she had to work on 69 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: for three weeks. I would totally understand that. 70 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 4: Then mean too. 71 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: He accused me of making him look bad in front 72 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: of my friends or something for something that wasn't a 73 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: big deal. I decided to break up with him, Yes, 74 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: because I can't be with someone who doesn't take my 75 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: health seriously or support me in an emergency. Now, after 76 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: we've been apart for a few weeks, some of our 77 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: mutual friends are saying I overreacted and that he just 78 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: made a mistake. They think I should give him another chance. 79 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: If you give him another chance, he might kill you. 80 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 3: If you give a mouse of cookie, he might kill you. 81 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 3: What what if you give a mouse of cookie? 82 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 4: What does that kill you? 83 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 3: I was making a joke. 84 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 2: I don't get it. 85 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 3: If you give a massa cookie, it is a book series. 86 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:17,679 Speaker 3: It's a book. 87 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 4: If you give that, Yeah, I know what she's talking about. 88 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:25,360 Speaker 3: If you give And then Sam said he might kill you, 89 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,160 Speaker 3: And so I combined the two. If you give a 90 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 3: mouse of cookie might kill you. I was I was 91 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 3: adding on to your joke. 92 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: They think I should give him another chance, that he 93 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: was busy and it wasn't as big of a deal 94 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: as it made it out to be. 95 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:37,840 Speaker 2: Am I the A hole. 96 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: The doctor literally said that you might have died if 97 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: you came any later. 98 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:45,719 Speaker 2: How much more clear could we be? 99 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 3: Also? What was he busy doing every day? 100 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:54,559 Speaker 1: What did you do rightly? 101 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:55,679 Speaker 4: My phone? 102 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 3: Again? Is it broken? 103 00:04:57,560 --> 00:04:58,840 Speaker 1: If you give a moosa muffin? 104 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,559 Speaker 2: Is that a thing? That's another book? 105 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 4: Yes, give muffin? 106 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: Keep getting. 107 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,279 Speaker 2: Relevant comments? So active? 108 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: Lorcer seven seven seven says, well, we know how he 109 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: will act if his future significant other gets cancer. He 110 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: will walk as soon as he hears the words not 111 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: the a hole. Oh you give him mouse a cookie. 112 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:24,479 Speaker 1: I've seen that because I've never read it, though, What 113 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 1: what happens if you give him out? 114 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 3: He just keeps like taking things and wanting more. He 115 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 3: keeps asking for more things. Oh so it's like if 116 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:33,239 Speaker 3: you give him ouse a cookie, he'll keep. 117 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: Oh, he'll ask for like the house. 118 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 4: If you get a musa muffin, he'll want pancakes. 119 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's like he'll keep wanting more things. See, 120 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 3: it's actually a really intelligent joke that I made. 121 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:47,600 Speaker 1: Yes, Yeah, you just need to need a high. Yeah, 122 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: you shouldn't really like Christine Dable three one four six says, 123 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 1: I knew a young woman whose husband left her with 124 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: young children when she was diagnosed with MS. Her parents 125 00:05:56,520 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 1: had to raise the children. He was soon with another 126 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: younger woman, his third marriage. And spiritual speech seventy five says, 127 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 1: when women get diagnosed with a fatal or very serious diagnosis, 128 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: they are warned by medical staff that there's a huge 129 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: chance their husband will leave them. It's so effing appalling 130 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 1: that it's so common. What wait, so death dow us 131 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 1: part Wait wait really quick, really quick. So you go in, Sophia, 132 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 1: you're a woman. You go in, all right, You go 133 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,719 Speaker 1: into the doctors and they're like, Sophia, you have cancer. 134 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: You have a month, like like six months to live. 135 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: By the way, your husband's probably gonna cheat on you. 136 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: They say that to you. There's no way they say that. 137 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:46,080 Speaker 1: You're like that hospital staff is like, by the way, 138 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 1: husband's gonna cheat on you, gonna cheat. 139 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:55,400 Speaker 3: On me, And I have cancer, my husband's gonna cheat up. 140 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 1: Are you really doing tears right now? That's crazy. 141 00:06:58,080 --> 00:06:58,720 Speaker 3: I'm an actor. 142 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: I see that's crazy. I feel like that is whack 143 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: for a doctor to say. 144 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be kind of crazy. 145 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 2: That would be crazy. 146 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 3: That's well, prepare yourself. You have cancer, you might die, 147 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 3: and your husband might cheat on you. 148 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:20,320 Speaker 1: The divorce rate among cancer patients is what what what? 149 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: Eleven percent? But that's where that story ends. Ah, but 150 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 1: do you wanna so what what do you think? Ope 151 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: should break up with a boyfriend. Do you think that's justified? Oh? Yeah, 152 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: me too. Yeah, easy to get freaking out of there. 153 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: O there, mis killed. It says nurses tell you what 154 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: you need to hear. So you're saying a nurse will 155 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: go up to a cancer patient and say, you're hot, 156 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 1: a cheat on you, watch your husband. That's crazy, that's crazy. 157 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 1: Do we think that we people should do that? 158 00:07:57,040 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 4: That seems like an unnecessary. 159 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 3: Maybe you give them a pamphlet and it has like 160 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 3: a bunch of stuff like what to expect with your 161 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 3: cancer process, and it's like, oh, getting you know, the 162 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 3: treatments and how much this coust percentage of your husband 163 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 3: cheating on. 164 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 4: You slide that in there. 165 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's like really small. 166 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 1: Twenty one percent of women get either dumped or divorced. 167 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: I mean it wouldn't be the same for men, probably 168 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: not what eighty percent. 169 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 3: Of well, women are expected to be like caretakers. 170 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: MM. Societally, how many men like? 171 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 2: What? What? 172 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 5: What? 173 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,079 Speaker 1: What's the other? I wonder what the I feel like 174 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,200 Speaker 1: it would be the same for both. I think twenty 175 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 1: percent of men probably get dumped, turkivorced. 176 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 3: Who is to say you needed to be driven to 177 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 3: the A E R sam and EI R YEA better? 178 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: Yeah? 179 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 6: Better? 180 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 3: I take it. It was funny, it was funny. 181 00:08:58,880 --> 00:08:59,439 Speaker 2: You would do it. 182 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 3: I would do it. I would drop everything, I would 183 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 3: do the same. 184 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 4: I would ask you not to take me. 185 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: Rater says twenty one percent of women and three percent 186 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 1: of men. So you're saying only three percent of men 187 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: get dumped. Yeah, ever, no, in in these situations, In 188 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: this situation marriage, oh you, three percent of men get 189 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 1: dumped when there is. 190 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 3: In the hospital. 191 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 1: In the hospital, oh. 192 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 4: You get a room full of thirty three cancer patients 193 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 4: and one of them will get broken up with. 194 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess so. 195 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 1: I imagine. So if you have cancer, you probably have 196 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 1: a higher likelihood of staying with your partner if you're 197 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: a man. Gosh, so if you so, if you want 198 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: to save your marriage, get cancer as a. 199 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 4: Man, because the force rate is fifty in America. 200 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know what. 201 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 3: We do have to say this next story? Whoa would 202 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:00,680 Speaker 3: I be the ale for breaking up with my girlfriend? 203 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:02,559 Speaker 3: For bringing up marriage? 204 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: Sure forever commitment? Grosshean so short. 205 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,839 Speaker 3: Bonus sixty six twenty two says, my twenty one male 206 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 3: girlfriend nineteen female keeps bringing up marriage and it makes 207 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 3: me uncomfortable and contemplating the whole relationship. My girlfriend and 208 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 3: I have been together for almost a year now and 209 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 3: it's been great. 210 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 2: Woo. 211 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 3: We love each other deeply. However, for the past three months, 212 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,120 Speaker 3: she's been talking a lot about getting married and has 213 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 3: been dropping big hints like sending me engagement ring ideas 214 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:43,080 Speaker 3: and that's a and tiktoks of couples getting married after 215 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,360 Speaker 3: two years of dating. She's entering her sopht for a 216 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:47,559 Speaker 3: year of college. 217 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 4: That's now before spring. 218 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: That is that really? 219 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 3: Oh? I forgot he's twenty one and she's nineteen. 220 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 1: That is so early. 221 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 6: That's I would be terrified. 222 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: No, this what break up? 223 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 4: Bake a marriage? 224 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 2: What he wants? 225 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 4: He just wants a fake marriage? Be like I can't 226 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:07,640 Speaker 4: marry you now, but I'll give you a ten one. 227 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,200 Speaker 1: Oh well, I guess they could be. Maybe she just 228 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:12,440 Speaker 1: wants to be engaged. 229 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 4: I think she wants the whole ceremony and the attention. 230 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 4: That's what I'm feeling. 231 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 2: A lot of people are like, I just need it. 232 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:20,080 Speaker 3: I just want an engagement, especially if he's on board. 233 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 3: That's way too young. If he's on a what if 234 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 3: he's not on board? 235 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:25,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. 236 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 3: He's not ready. She's entering her sophomore year of college. Well, 237 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 3: I'm going into my senior year. I also would like 238 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 3: to mention it's a long distance relationship. Maybe that's why 239 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 3: she wants the marriage. She's like, I want to hold 240 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:37,079 Speaker 3: on to you. 241 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 1: Oh, man, just not healthy, not a good idea. 242 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 3: We live a whole hour and a half apart and 243 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 3: go to school four hours away. 244 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 2: Long distant. 245 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 3: Shut up, that's not I'm sorry. I was seeing someone 246 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 3: who was an hour and a half away. Same saying 247 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:56,239 Speaker 3: that's not long distance. 248 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 1: Long distance is like across the country, like on the 249 00:11:59,000 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 1: other coast. 250 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, would you say three hours in a different state. 251 00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 3: I'd say maybe like three hours three hour drive? Three 252 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:09,560 Speaker 3: hour drive is a long distance. Yeah, we live a 253 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 3: whole hour and a half apart and go to school 254 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 3: four hours away from each other. Wait, how long are 255 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 3: you driving in to school. 256 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: Some people commute heavily. 257 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 3: Recently, she told me that if we're not engaged by 258 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:23,200 Speaker 3: the end of her junior year, we're going to have 259 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 3: a huge problem, and that we'll either be engaged or exodust. 260 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 2: He was like, you should be dude. 261 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: This sucks. Yeah, it sucks. Break up. Break up like 262 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 1: this break up. 263 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 3: I've tried to brush it off or laugh it off, 264 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:39,839 Speaker 3: but last week she brought it up again. This time 265 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:43,720 Speaker 3: I told her we should wait until we're more financially 266 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 3: stable and older so we can be more ready. She 267 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 3: didn't really like that and accuse me of making excuses 268 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 3: and not wanting to marry her. He doesn't want to 269 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 3: marry you right now. That's the whole point. I do 270 00:12:57,559 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 3: want to get married eventually, but later in life. I'm 271 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 3: not ready for marriage or any of that right now. 272 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 3: I just turned twenty one, I haven't graduated college and 273 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 3: haven't started my career yet. When she brings up the subject, 274 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 3: it makes me question the whole relationship because everything feels 275 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 3: like it's moving too fast and I'm not ready for it. 276 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: And also, if she wants to get married fast, he's 277 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: probably also going to want to have kids. 278 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 3: Fasting yeah, and he's like, I just finish college. 279 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 2: Give me a brill a break, oh brother. 280 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 3: Additionally, my family has a history of nasty divorces, which 281 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 3: scares me. I need advice about the situation because every 282 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 3: time she brings it up, I'm starting to question the 283 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,840 Speaker 3: relationship because I feel like I'm wasting my time and 284 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 3: hers ps. She brought it up again while I was 285 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,079 Speaker 3: writing this, and there is enough. 286 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 2: Just say I'm not ready yeah. 287 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 3: And say sorry. If you can't like handle that, I 288 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:54,559 Speaker 3: think it's better to cut off this relationship. 289 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. 290 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. There has to be a way we can gamify 291 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,960 Speaker 4: the breakup thing, because the way you did that so quick, Sam, 292 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:03,079 Speaker 4: you're like, break up. I wish we had like a 293 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 4: balloon and we all have balloon and whenever we're like 294 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:06,559 Speaker 4: ready to break up. 295 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 2: We'd pop it. 296 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 4: I don't know, something like that. 297 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 1: I like that, yea, or have a button break up 298 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:19,480 Speaker 1: breakup button, kind of like Jeffrey break up right now. 299 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, and then everybody in the chat would pull 300 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 4: like a red circle whenever they're like. 301 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: Ready to break up. Yeah yeah, chat would break up 302 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:26,440 Speaker 1: on the first line. 303 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 3: Oh oh yeah, I thought you met like in real life. 304 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: No, no, no, so that thing, he says, This lady's 305 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: too pushy. They are not on the same page. You 306 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:35,400 Speaker 1: know where she should go. She should go to Provo, Utah. 307 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:37,240 Speaker 1: She would find a wife and husband like that. 308 00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 3: So true, so true. But there is an update. 309 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: Let's hear it. 310 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 3: Update. I started the conversation by asking directly, where do 311 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 3: you see this relationship going? She said, I want to 312 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 3: be married in two to three years. By the beginning 313 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:56,000 Speaker 3: of my senior year. We should be engaged. You know, 314 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 3: I've been very vocal about it. If you don't want that, 315 00:14:58,560 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 3: I'd rather you say it now. 316 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 2: But dude, if. 317 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: He doesn't want that and you break up, it's gonna 318 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 1: get start over. 319 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's you're gonna have to take even longer. 320 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. 321 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, So maybe you should stay this relationship. I knew 322 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:16,840 Speaker 3: she was going to say that. I responded by saying, 323 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 3: you've been pretty clear. You mentioned it every day. I 324 00:15:21,680 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 3: then proceeded to tell her straight up that I'm not 325 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 3: going to be ready by then because we're so young 326 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 3: and in college. Also, these next couple of years are 327 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 3: going to be really big for us, and we don't 328 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 3: know where the future is going to take us. You 329 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 3: giving a whole ultimatum makes me question myself and if 330 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 3: I really want to be with you, I feel like 331 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 3: I'm wasting your time. She then tried to say, I 332 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 3: understand that, but I don't want to be girlfriend for 333 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 3: ten years. And it's not an ultimatum, it's an example. 334 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 3: I replied by saying, I get you don't want to, 335 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 3: but I don't know how the future is going for us, 336 00:15:53,080 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 3: and that's a big commitment. I can't give that to 337 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 3: you when you want it. She then started crying and asked, 338 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 3: what are you saying, though, Son? Are you saying though? 339 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:06,040 Speaker 3: I said, I love you and care for you, and 340 00:16:06,080 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 3: I want to wait until we're older and out of 341 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 3: college to even think of marriage. She asked, it feels 342 00:16:12,440 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 3: like you're breaking up with me. I said, I'm not 343 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 3: trying to, but if you keep pressuring or putting a 344 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 3: time limit on me, that's what's going to happen. I 345 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 3: want you to understand how I feel. 346 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 1: Sounds like a so dramatic. 347 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, it sounds like a kid that's never been told 348 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:29,760 Speaker 4: no in their life. 349 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, Princess vibes yoikes. Afterwards, she apologized and said, 350 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:39,640 Speaker 3: I don't mean to do those things. I just want 351 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 3: you to understand how I feel about a relationship and 352 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 3: about being a long term girlfriend. I won't pressure you 353 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:48,880 Speaker 3: or put a time limit on you. I responded by saying, 354 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:51,880 Speaker 3: I understand how you feel, but I feel like it's 355 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 3: unfair that you're giving me a whole ultimatum, and we're 356 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 3: so young and don't know what we're doing yet in 357 00:16:57,120 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 3: our lives because we're in college. I agree, yeah, and 358 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 3: she's nineteen. 359 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 2: Break up. 360 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 3: I also said, I love you and I don't want 361 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 3: to break up with you, but we just needed to 362 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:11,960 Speaker 3: have this conversation for the future. She then said, I'm 363 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:14,479 Speaker 3: so sorry. I promise I won't do it again. I 364 00:17:14,520 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 3: love you so much too. 365 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 1: I don't believe you. 366 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:18,919 Speaker 3: It's gonna come back up. She's gonna bring it up. 367 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, In a couple of weeks, two tiktoks later did 368 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:25,880 Speaker 1: her TikTok. Her TikTok page is fully just pointed at 369 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,840 Speaker 1: wanting to be married in a couple of years, So 370 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 1: she's gonna send you more TikTok's more TikTok. 371 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,280 Speaker 3: She's like, Oh, this is so funny. 372 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: Put shout out Op for setting a boundary. 373 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think OPI's doing it right. The conversation 374 00:17:39,359 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 3: did end there and she went to sleep. I feel 375 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 3: better after having this conversation, but at the same time, 376 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 3: I feel like I was too harsh or that I 377 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 3: might be missing something from the conversation. I feel like 378 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:54,400 Speaker 3: this if issue is not over and eventually we might 379 00:17:54,440 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 3: have this problem again. Is there something I should have 380 00:17:57,240 --> 00:18:01,640 Speaker 3: done differently? Please tell me? Any advice is good. 381 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: I mean, see if it changes, see if it changes. 382 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: But also just make sure to check, yeah, that there 383 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:14,199 Speaker 1: are no holes in any of your protective measures, that 384 00:18:15,320 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 1: any control is being taken, because my boy, you could 385 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: get baby trapped with someone like this on the same page, 386 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:33,119 Speaker 1: like you're not, so be careful, tread lightly, my friend, strength. 387 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:36,879 Speaker 3: And good point. But yeah, that's the story. 388 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:41,439 Speaker 2: So what's the real question, Sophia. 389 00:18:41,560 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 3: The real question is when do you give up on 390 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 3: a relationship? 391 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:46,880 Speaker 1: So would we give up on this relationship? 392 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 3: Yeah? 393 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think like they actually had like a kind 394 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:52,159 Speaker 1: of breakthrough. 395 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:54,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, that's fair. I think if she brings it 396 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 3: up again, then yeah, I think right now, it's seems 397 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 3: seemingly she has, you know, taking a minute realize what 398 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 3: she's done wrong. But I think if she brings it 399 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 3: up again then got your losses. 400 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 1: It's like, is she just saying this. 401 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 3: That's what I think can trap him? Yeah, No, I'm 402 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 3: that's what I'm worried. I'm worried that she is gonna trap. 403 00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 1: YEA worried about the trap. And I feel like it's 404 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:21,440 Speaker 1: a I think what's more the red flag even more 405 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: than the trap. Is that what she said? I just 406 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 1: want to be married, yeah, by like in three years. 407 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:29,400 Speaker 1: It seems like she doesn't care who. 408 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:32,480 Speaker 3: To Yeah, you know the great point. 409 00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:38,000 Speaker 1: So I feel like that's that's pretty pretty whack whack 410 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:39,640 Speaker 1: a doodle. But I don't know what would do you chat? 411 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:41,639 Speaker 1: What would you do? Do you think you would break up? 412 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: Do you think it's time to end the relationship? Jellybus says, 413 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:51,720 Speaker 1: I agree, she's just placating. Ray Rah ra King says, 414 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: if you have to keep mentioning marriage, then at that 415 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 1: point it gets pushy and you shouldn't have to push 416 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 1: someone into proposing to you. I've always felt that's weird. 417 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 1: A f all Hail the Queen says, she seems kind 418 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 1: of crazy. Bethany says, she just wants to be married 419 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 1: and this is super immature. I agreed. Yeah, Hey, let 420 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:13,439 Speaker 1: us know what you think of the comments. We'd love 421 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:16,200 Speaker 1: to know more what you think. This is an episode 422 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 1: from Deep Within the Archives, Time for okop relash. Stepdad 423 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: who refused to pay for my childhood wants sixty thousand dollars. Fine, 424 00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 1: here's what I'm gonna do. 425 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 5: So the average call, you know, the average cost of 426 00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 5: raising someone? 427 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 2: Right? 428 00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 5: What is it's like five hundred thousand? 429 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:33,639 Speaker 2: Like it is true? I don't know. 430 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,880 Speaker 6: Let's say it's two hundred thousand, right, that's probably very low. 431 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:39,800 Speaker 6: I would say. I would say, since it's not your 432 00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 6: fault for being born, it's on the parents to spend that. 433 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:45,840 Speaker 1: So really I think indentured servitude. I think you have 434 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: to pay back everything your parents invested. I'm twenty nine female, 435 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 1: and when I was about ten, my mom married my stepfather. 436 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,199 Speaker 1: I have an older brother, Luke, who was fifteen. My 437 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:58,679 Speaker 1: stepfather had Amy and Ada, who were twelve and eleven. 438 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:01,920 Speaker 1: What's with like parents and naming all their kids with 439 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: like alliteration. You know, Sophia, Sam, it's my. 440 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 6: Sister, it's too Oh that's true me Ada, John Lauren 441 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:10,800 Speaker 6: and see your parents would do that. 442 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:13,520 Speaker 1: They were smart. Yeah, they didn't go with the lilliteration. 443 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 5: Different basic names. 444 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:17,159 Speaker 1: Think about how many people you know that have siblings 445 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: and have the same first letter. We didn't come from 446 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,919 Speaker 1: a privileged background. My mom was a minimum wage worker 447 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:26,440 Speaker 1: and my dad was absent. Our stepfather had a very 448 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:31,200 Speaker 1: good income, which maybe is why mama went for the 449 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:31,680 Speaker 1: step dad. 450 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:32,680 Speaker 5: Don't give me that money. 451 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 1: Money he I already went for. You know, the first 452 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 1: marriage was about getting some hotties. Second marriage, but now 453 00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:42,919 Speaker 1: it's about that money. 454 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,200 Speaker 5: We're bringing it back the money. 455 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:48,399 Speaker 1: Our stepfather had a very good income. Their deal was 456 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: they wouldn't combine finances. 457 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:51,040 Speaker 2: Wait, no, the. 458 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:55,520 Speaker 1: Whole deal of the second marriages is to combine finances. 459 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,439 Speaker 1: Why do you get married a second time if you 460 00:21:57,480 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: can't get out it finances? 461 00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:00,479 Speaker 5: That is so hilarious tragic. 462 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 6: She's coming in thinking like, oh man, I'm gonna get 463 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 6: this sucker. And then he's like, yeah, we're splitting fine houses. 464 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 5: You stay poor, wall stay rich. 465 00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 1: And they would contribute equally to the household and then 466 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 1: each take care of their children with their spare money. 467 00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:18,000 Speaker 6: That's that's double ft because not only does she make 468 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 6: way less, but she has to. 469 00:22:19,680 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like moving into the man. 470 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,440 Speaker 1: She's like Okay, yeah, now you gotta pay like twenty 471 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 1: grand a month, literally like, oh, I'm. 472 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,960 Speaker 6: Making minimum wage and he's like yeah, so half of 473 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 6: the mortgage has like ten grand a month and she's like, 474 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:34,640 Speaker 6: I make minimum wage work out Walmart. So my mom 475 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 6: never had anything for us at all, and my stepfather 476 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 6: was spending big on his kids. This included This included 477 00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 6: holidays which Luke and I were excluded from. Stepfather would 478 00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:50,280 Speaker 6: pay for mom and not for us. How how insane 479 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:54,439 Speaker 6: is that? You literally want which watch the whole family, 480 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 6: not just it would be one thing if it was 481 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,119 Speaker 6: the parents, The parents and your stepsiblings go off and 482 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:00,600 Speaker 6: you're what, you're at home. 483 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 2: Doing what I guess with the step dad. 484 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,200 Speaker 6: Why would the mom ever agree to like like don't 485 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:08,800 Speaker 6: you love your children? Like that's crazy? But she loves 486 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,399 Speaker 6: free vacations more facts, that's the one thing they didn't split. 487 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,560 Speaker 6: At least at least he's paying for the vacation. 488 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 1: This is true, all right? Like that like if she's 489 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,719 Speaker 1: not getting much out of this second marriage, but at 490 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:20,800 Speaker 1: least she's getting vacation. 491 00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:24,640 Speaker 6: Bro, everyone everyone on Opie's family side loses. 492 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, they got totally screwed. Yeah, Luke and I 493 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:31,240 Speaker 1: also shared a room, even though Amy and Ada had 494 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:35,120 Speaker 1: their own rooms and we had a guess room. That's 495 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 1: so stupid. 496 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,080 Speaker 5: Just have them share a room when someone comes over. 497 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:39,959 Speaker 5: It's giving. 498 00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 6: It's giving Cinderella stepmom except stepdad. 499 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 5: That's the only difference. 500 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 501 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:49,320 Speaker 1: So the room situation was because stepfather insisted that he 502 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 1: was paying more towards the house, so my mom's share 503 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,880 Speaker 1: would only get her one room for the kids. My god, 504 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 1: what kind of marriage is this? 505 00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 2: Bro? 506 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,879 Speaker 1: Luke and I were constantly teased for this situation by 507 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:05,080 Speaker 1: the three of the wait, by the three of them. No, 508 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:06,959 Speaker 1: don't tell me, it's the dad too, there was two 509 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,960 Speaker 1: kids or whether No, that's ridiculous. I thought I read 510 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:13,080 Speaker 1: that wrong. No, the three of them. As we grew up, 511 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,920 Speaker 1: my mom always said that we should be thankful because 512 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,199 Speaker 1: if it wasn't for our stepfather, we would not be 513 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 1: living in a nice home in a good neighborhood. 514 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,120 Speaker 2: Stop, which is probably true. 515 00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 1: I mean it's true, it's true, but it's also as 516 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,399 Speaker 1: a second class citizen. Literally, like it's it's them, like 517 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: separating them and like it's so dumb, like it just 518 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:33,240 Speaker 1: makes no sense. 519 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 2: No, it's it's like, here's a family. 520 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, right, this is a tier S tier meeting, and 521 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:43,120 Speaker 1: then like d E F tier that's that's op, that's 522 00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 1: where is chilling? I'm sorry? Op? 523 00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:46,159 Speaker 5: Yeah. Wow. 524 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,360 Speaker 1: Anyway, Luke and I determined to be able to take 525 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 1: care of ourselves so we wouldn't need to take this 526 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 1: nonsense from anyone. Yeah, we have both done quite well 527 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: with our careers and finances, and we are in a 528 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 1: very good place. Since turning eighteen and moving out of 529 00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 1: my relationship with the three of them, it has been 530 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 1: very limited. I wouldn't call us friends, but we can 531 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,439 Speaker 1: exist peacefully in the same place. It sounds like you're 532 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 1: ready to move back into that mansion. Yeah, if you 533 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 1: can live peacefully in the same place, get that shared room, baby. 534 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 6: The story of how I murdered my stepfather for the 535 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:18,639 Speaker 6: Mansion Murder Mansion coming to a podcast near you. 536 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:19,200 Speaker 5: That's right. 537 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:22,560 Speaker 1: I visited my mom recently and my stepfather mentioned that 538 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,160 Speaker 1: Amy wants to buy a house now that she's pregnant. 539 00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:28,080 Speaker 1: He asked me if I'm able to help out a 540 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 1: little bit with the deposit. The house is five hundred 541 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 1: thousand pounds and she needs one hundred and fifty thousand 542 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 1: pound deposit. She has one hundred thousand pounds so far, 543 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:41,120 Speaker 1: twenty five k on her own, twenty five k from 544 00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:45,040 Speaker 1: her mom, and fifty K from stepfather. He was asking 545 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,920 Speaker 1: if Luke and I can help cover the extra fifty k, 546 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 1: and he said he'd pay us back as part of 547 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 1: our inheritance eventually. So, man's like, not even like a 548 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: I can pay you back. It's like, YO, when I die, 549 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: you can have some money. I guess this has to stop. 550 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:07,240 Speaker 1: This is so fucking insane. It's ridiculous. All right, Well 551 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:12,240 Speaker 1: guess what, op says what big fat No. He insisted 552 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 1: that Luke and I both own our houses outright, and 553 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,920 Speaker 1: with our incomes, we should be able to help. Huh, 554 00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: sounds like you could have helped out with your income 555 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: and childhood. 556 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,080 Speaker 5: You know what happens when you have extra money but 557 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,200 Speaker 5: you don't spend it on your own children. 558 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:31,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is karma, that's what happens. Hey, for that 559 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 1: crap yourself, I said, whether I can or not is irrelevant. 560 00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,679 Speaker 2: My answer is no facts. Yoh. 561 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,040 Speaker 1: He reminded me that Luke and I gave ten k 562 00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,159 Speaker 1: to our cousin for buying a house's gift. 563 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 2: Yo. That's the cousin. Now you're domas. 564 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:49,960 Speaker 1: Doesn't make a difference, bro, I said, that was our 565 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,960 Speaker 1: choice and this is my choice now. He insisted that 566 00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 1: we should be willing to help out our family if 567 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 1: we're able to help. I replied back, like how you 568 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 1: helped out me and Luke when we were kids. Yeah, 569 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:06,000 Speaker 1: take that, daddy, God stepdad, go get stuck in a 570 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 1: washing machine for all I care. 571 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, or stick something else uh in your butthole. 572 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,720 Speaker 1: Everyone just went quiet when I said this. Who's everyone 573 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: is like an audience here? Everyone just went quiet after 574 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 1: I said this. After a while, he said, if we 575 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:22,640 Speaker 1: went back in time, he would have done things differently. 576 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 1: Huh No, too freaking late, too fricking late. He said 577 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 1: he would have treated all four of us equally. I said, 578 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,679 Speaker 1: that's good of you, but it doesn't make you entitled 579 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:33,280 Speaker 1: to my money. 580 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 4: Now. 581 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 1: He said he knows he's not entitled. That's why he's 582 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:41,040 Speaker 1: asking and promising to pay it back after he's dead. 583 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,760 Speaker 1: Like what I said, The answer is still know and 584 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 1: he's not entitled to alone either. My mom told me 585 00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,600 Speaker 1: I could have turned him down without being an asshole 586 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,639 Speaker 1: of bringing up childhood, which he already feels guilty about 587 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,880 Speaker 1: Fricke Gud, he should feel guilty. 588 00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:57,680 Speaker 2: I want you to die with that. Gil. 589 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 1: You have to stop with this anyway. Am I the 590 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:02,200 Speaker 1: a hole? 591 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,680 Speaker 6: Oh my god, no, no, no, no, Op, dude, I'm 592 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,320 Speaker 6: so glad that you not, only because like it's awkward, 593 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,879 Speaker 6: especially like having the audacity to ask in. 594 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 1: Front of the family, like a family gathering. 595 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:16,560 Speaker 5: It's awkward to say no. 596 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:18,879 Speaker 6: And like I could see somebody like okay, let me 597 00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 6: just like politely say no and just trying to get 598 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 6: off the subject. 599 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,960 Speaker 1: But like OPI is like, no, this is this is why, 600 00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 1: like you you fucked up. Also, it's like she probably 601 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 1: didn't has not said that damn ever. Yes right, It's 602 00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,680 Speaker 1: like like this is like her chance to be like, hey, 603 00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:36,840 Speaker 1: you treated us terribly, and I like, like, you know 604 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:40,760 Speaker 1: you did. I know you did, And here are the consequences. 605 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 2: We love it. 606 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:45,480 Speaker 1: We love it, We love it, Opie. Shout out Brandon 607 00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:48,160 Speaker 1: el Fitch, Brandon ell Fitch, we saw your Spotify rapt 608 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,080 Speaker 1: thank you for being a fan of the show. 609 00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 2: We love you. 610 00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:56,840 Speaker 1: Okayop, this is Okayop. I'm samuel daughter and we tell 611 00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 1: the funniest stories on the Internet. And John I have 612 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 1: a juicy juice juicer ooh for you here juicy Yeah, 613 00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:07,800 Speaker 1: just do with. 614 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:09,920 Speaker 2: It, just all over your body. 615 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. 616 00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 1: Today I fed up by accidentally implying that we wanted to. 617 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 2: Hook up with our babysitter. 618 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 6: Not only is that something you don't want to accidentally imply, 619 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 6: you also don't want to intentionally imply. 620 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,600 Speaker 1: That unless you're trying to have a threesome with your 621 00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:24,560 Speaker 1: babysittering that is true. 622 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 5: If that is the case, then you do want to 623 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:27,360 Speaker 5: intentionally imply that. 624 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,120 Speaker 1: For reference, my husband and I are in our mid 625 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,479 Speaker 1: to late thirties and our sitter is in her early twenties. 626 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,000 Speaker 1: We have two young kids, five and three, and through 627 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 1: the pandemic, my husband and I have both been working 628 00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 1: from home. 629 00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:39,640 Speaker 2: For a while. 630 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 1: We were taking shifts trying to watch the kids while 631 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 1: the other had meetings, but eventually we resorted to hiring 632 00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,480 Speaker 1: a sitter sometimes during the day to watch them, to 633 00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,360 Speaker 1: keep them occupied so we could work. 634 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:51,280 Speaker 5: On the surface, it's like, oh, we'll both be home, 635 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 5: it'll be great. 636 00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 6: But then it's like you're in meetings, you know, I 637 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 6: know this stuff, and they come in like, okay, TI, 638 00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,640 Speaker 6: my poopy like a. 639 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,960 Speaker 1: It's like the kids aren't school either, so usually school 640 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 1: is like a daycare for those kids, but during COVID 641 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 1: all the kids were at home, so you had to 642 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 1: care for them. Where's the teachers usually would be doing. 643 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:08,640 Speaker 5: That, I get your parents. 644 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, smart move. 645 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 1: We'd gone through a couple of sitters before landing on 646 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:16,040 Speaker 1: our current one. She has been absolutely fantastic, a dream 647 00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:17,960 Speaker 1: with the kids, and has been working for us for 648 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,920 Speaker 1: several months now. It has been a godsend for us 649 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: to hide away and our offices on our laptops, undisturbed 650 00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 1: through our work day, knowing someone is taking care of 651 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,960 Speaker 1: things on the other side of the door. Everything changed 652 00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:34,400 Speaker 1: one day, Oh God, the f up happened yesterday and 653 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 1: we decided we wanted to take a night to ourselves 654 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,840 Speaker 1: now that restaurants were opening up again in our area. 655 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,200 Speaker 1: We had the sitter come over and went out for 656 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:44,600 Speaker 1: a night of food and drink, our first date night 657 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,520 Speaker 1: out at a restaurant in almost two years due to 658 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 1: the pandemic. Our dinner was glorious, drinking and flirting and 659 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 1: being adults outside in the real world, feeling like people 660 00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:59,880 Speaker 1: and not just parents trapped and worked in our home. 661 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:03,360 Speaker 1: We felt very energized, and we knew how we wanted 662 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:08,920 Speaker 1: to spend that energy. Oh yeah, yeah, but having young 663 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:12,120 Speaker 1: kids makes that alone time a little bit more difficult. 664 00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:13,280 Speaker 2: You don't want to have. 665 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 5: Any imagine, yeah, it makes it more difficult. 666 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:22,120 Speaker 1: Our kids are fussy sleepers sometimes the clap in the 667 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,880 Speaker 1: cheeks that anyone's a fussy sleeper. We were joking to 668 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 1: each other that we should ask the sitter to stay 669 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,160 Speaker 1: later and watch the kids so he and I could 670 00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,600 Speaker 1: have some private time uninterrupted. When we hired our first sitter, 671 00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 1: we took advantage of the fact that the kids were 672 00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,880 Speaker 1: occupied by having a few sneaky quickies during the day 673 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 1: while we were locked away working. But we hadn't done 674 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:45,560 Speaker 1: that in a while, and now the idea of hooking 675 00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 1: up this evening without a risk of a bargain was 676 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:54,120 Speaker 1: very appealing. When we got home, I was a little tipsy. 677 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 1: The kids had been put to bed, but weren't really 678 00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:59,160 Speaker 1: settled asleep yet, so my husband went to check on them. 679 00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: I stayed and thanked our sinner for helping us have 680 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,480 Speaker 1: a wonderful night out. She was very friendly as always 681 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 1: and assured us it was no problem. She'd help us 682 00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:09,920 Speaker 1: out whenever we need it. And here's where I aft up. 683 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: Uh oh, my tipsy brain thought it would be cute 684 00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 1: to slyly joke about having her stay and watch the 685 00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:18,720 Speaker 1: kids a little longer so my husband and I could 686 00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:22,320 Speaker 1: have some frisky alone time together. Oooo and one of 687 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,000 Speaker 1: those as a joke. But testing the waters things, which 688 00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 1: already is crossing the line. But what makes it worse 689 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,320 Speaker 1: is how I phrased it. She said you look so. 690 00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,080 Speaker 3: Happy and rejuvenated, and said we must have had a 691 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 3: great time out. 692 00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,040 Speaker 1: I agreed and said it was so amazing and thanked 693 00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,320 Speaker 1: her so much for letting us escape as man and 694 00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:41,480 Speaker 1: wife for a night to have some fun. She says 695 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:42,960 Speaker 1: something like, no worries at all. 696 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,240 Speaker 3: Anytime you need me, I'm happy to help with anything. 697 00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:50,000 Speaker 1: Anything to anything, anything, to which I say with a 698 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:53,360 Speaker 1: rise smile. Well, we had been thinking about asking you 699 00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: if you wanted to stay a little longer we could 700 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 1: hook up, which in my mind I was trying to 701 00:32:59,880 --> 00:33:02,720 Speaker 1: suggests she stay longer to watch the kids so my 702 00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,080 Speaker 1: husband and I can hook up, But that is not 703 00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:10,120 Speaker 1: how it came out. I understand now what was clearly 704 00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:14,200 Speaker 1: implied by my phrasing. Her eyes went wide, and her 705 00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:18,320 Speaker 1: voice became hushed and serious and she's like, are you serious, 706 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,640 Speaker 1: and me not understanding my f up yet laughed and 707 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:26,240 Speaker 1: said I was just teasing, but we'd certainly enjoy it. 708 00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:29,480 Speaker 1: We'd done it with other sinners in the past, but 709 00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,000 Speaker 1: we didn't want to make her too uncomfortable, and it 710 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 1: was completely fine if she wasn't comfortable with it. Wow, 711 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,000 Speaker 1: I think I'm treating the subject delicately because I think 712 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,960 Speaker 1: I'm talking about a completely understandably weird ask that you 713 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,360 Speaker 1: do to your babysitters about our kids while we wanted 714 00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 1: to hook up in another room. And she's responded like 715 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,520 Speaker 1: she's shocked I'm asking, but is super cool about it. 716 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,320 Speaker 1: She stammers a bit and says she'd love to but 717 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:56,600 Speaker 1: she can't tonight. And I try to drop it, saying 718 00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,960 Speaker 1: it's no big deal, thinking that we're just gonna go 719 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:03,120 Speaker 1: hook up anyway. She keeps insisting she would but she can't, 720 00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 1: and she keeps stressing she can't, and I'm starting to 721 00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,800 Speaker 1: get that she's implying that it's her time of the month, 722 00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,719 Speaker 1: and I'm tipsy, and I don't really know what that 723 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:13,880 Speaker 1: has to do with things, or if I should be 724 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: offering her anything, but I just keep assuring her it's 725 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,239 Speaker 1: no problem at all. And at this point I just 726 00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 1: wanted to leave so I can jump on my husband. 727 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,719 Speaker 1: She continues to be apologetic and says she would. 728 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,200 Speaker 3: Love to any other time. 729 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 2: She thinks we're amazing and it's such a huge fantasy 730 00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:31,359 Speaker 2: for her. 731 00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:35,360 Speaker 1: Tea tea, And that's when it clicks in my brain 732 00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,239 Speaker 1: and I get what we're talking about. I start to 733 00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:41,080 Speaker 1: panic a bit and backpedal, saying, forget I ever asked. 734 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,400 Speaker 1: But she doesn't want me to feel like she's blowing 735 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:45,920 Speaker 1: me off or making excuses, and I'm trying to get 736 00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:48,319 Speaker 1: out of it, but I feel like I'm into deep 737 00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,880 Speaker 1: and there's a misunderstanding because she's so into it and supportive. 738 00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,760 Speaker 2: And eventually we awkwardly hug and she leaves. 739 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:57,240 Speaker 5: Oh my god. 740 00:34:57,640 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 1: I freak out and run into our bedroom to my 741 00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 1: husban and spill out the story of what just happens, 742 00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:06,120 Speaker 1: and he starts howling with laughter, and I'm just stressing out. 743 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,120 Speaker 1: He's been making fun of me ever since, calling us swingers. 744 00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,640 Speaker 1: Now he's been telling me everything will be fine, just 745 00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,480 Speaker 1: tell her it was an honest mix up. But this 746 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:15,799 Speaker 1: girl is great with our kids, and it has been 747 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:18,040 Speaker 1: a dream for us helping out. I don't want to 748 00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:20,320 Speaker 1: lose a sitter, and I'm afraid I just effed it 749 00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:22,120 Speaker 1: all up. I have no idea what to do now, 750 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,920 Speaker 1: and as I see it, I have these options. A 751 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,240 Speaker 1: pretend like I don't even remember asking was too drunk, 752 00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:30,160 Speaker 1: and have no idea what she's talking about when she 753 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:32,840 Speaker 1: tries to bring it up. That's the coward's option, potentially 754 00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:36,719 Speaker 1: mean and childish, but theoretically sparing us of embarrassment. B 755 00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:40,759 Speaker 1: explain truthfully what happened, that it was a misunderstanding and 756 00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:45,480 Speaker 1: risk making her feel completely embarrassed for being enthusiastically game 757 00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,360 Speaker 1: and making a relationship with this amazing sitter very awkward. 758 00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:51,279 Speaker 1: Or she might just have a big laugh and be 759 00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:53,920 Speaker 1: over with it. The adult option, own your mistakes and 760 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,800 Speaker 1: clear the air, see ghost her, sell our home and 761 00:35:56,920 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: move and change our names. The vacuum cleaner repairman op D. 762 00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:02,840 Speaker 1: Just roll with it and have a three way hookup 763 00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:04,840 Speaker 1: with this girl. The heroic option. 764 00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:06,880 Speaker 5: I'm definitely going with the heroic option. 765 00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:11,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, that seems like the best. You know, turn these 766 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:12,840 Speaker 1: lemons into lemonade. 767 00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:17,200 Speaker 6: You know, Wow, that's so that's so wild that like, 768 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:20,319 Speaker 6: what are the odds that all of these misinterpretations would 769 00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:23,800 Speaker 6: happen and that the she's down like that is just 770 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:25,279 Speaker 6: too incredible. 771 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,759 Speaker 2: That's some content that's ready for the hub. 772 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,120 Speaker 1: You know, it really is some hot fresh content, some 773 00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:35,320 Speaker 1: hot French content for the hub. Baby, good luck with 774 00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:36,200 Speaker 1: that one, dude. 775 00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,439 Speaker 2: The babysitter fantasy, it's real. 776 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,120 Speaker 6: It's also what would you do if you're in that situation? 777 00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:44,799 Speaker 6: Like would you just like try to tell the babysitter like, hey, 778 00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 6: this is what happened. 779 00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,320 Speaker 1: No, I mean, how old is this babysitter? Does she 780 00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:53,000 Speaker 1: have parents? Like, well most people have Yeah, that's true, 781 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,400 Speaker 1: but like, you know, is she living with her parents? 782 00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:58,160 Speaker 1: Because I feel like like the babysitter job is usually 783 00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:00,120 Speaker 1: maybe when you're living with your parents, unless you're like 784 00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:03,680 Speaker 1: a professional au pair, and I feel like that might 785 00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:04,479 Speaker 1: be a little weird. 786 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:07,919 Speaker 6: Yeah, or at a minimum, just clearing there being like, hey, 787 00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,800 Speaker 6: you know, I was drunk. It was a total accident. 788 00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,319 Speaker 6: I did not mean to imply this, like, but now 789 00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 6: that I have, but. 790 00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,759 Speaker 4: Now I have, let's go, let's go. 791 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:21,359 Speaker 5: That was definitely a very solid one.