1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: My wife drained our bank account and abandoned me. But 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:06,160 Speaker 1: for good reason. I just felt like it just felt 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: like it. 4 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:10,560 Speaker 2: Sometimes you feel like draining a bank account and got 5 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:13,040 Speaker 2: turks and caicos and just living the rest of. 6 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 3: Your life out there. 7 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: Get with that, you know. Spanish police officer. And that's 8 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: a reference to my mom saying the Spanish police officers 9 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: are really hot, because when my dad and my mom 10 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: did the help Camino uh in Spain the last like month, 11 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: my Mom's like, aren't the Spanish police officers really hot? 12 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 3: Wow? And my dad had to just say, yes, that 13 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 3: sounds like a spicy situation. 14 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,160 Speaker 4: Is spicy, but we actually have this where you find 15 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 4: out your dad is a Spanish police officer. 16 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 5: Yeah. On Twisted and. 17 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:46,879 Speaker 1: Uh, you know we have two beautiful guests, uh to 18 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 1: the podcast today are spicy guests? Oh yeah, well you 19 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: know we have read it on wiki. You guys want 20 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: to introduce yourselves really quick? 21 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 5: Hi? 22 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 6: Hello, okay, op listeners. I am John Akamu. 23 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:06,839 Speaker 4: There we go, Josh, and I'm too white to say that. 24 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 5: I am Josh. 25 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:13,399 Speaker 1: Well, thanks for joining us, and I guess let's get 26 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: into this story. So my wife Mary's family has a 27 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: history of dementia developing memory issues in their mid to 28 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: late fifties. At least that's as much as I can remember. 29 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 5: The story is already memorable. 30 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 3: There he goes. 31 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 1: Her mom, grandmother, and several other relatives on her mom's 32 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 1: side have developed dementia, which is pretty that's sad. Yeah, 33 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: that's a lot. I would not want to have dementia. 34 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: Take whoa. 35 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 4: Are you sure I didn't know we were coming on 36 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 4: to a controversial podcast. 37 00:01:53,760 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 2: Wait a seconds, the views of the hosts. 38 00:01:58,960 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 4: Over the. 39 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 5: Last four forget about it. 40 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 4: All? 41 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: Right, So the last four years were tough on us, 42 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: our kids, daughter moved for college, but moved back for 43 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 1: a bit during COVID and our marriage. 44 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:18,399 Speaker 3: So it's tough on everyone. 45 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: Living with someone with dementia is brutal, which I can 46 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: imagine it is. 47 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:23,799 Speaker 3: Yeah. 48 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 1: Yes, we had talked a lot the last year about 49 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:31,359 Speaker 1: taking the remaining college funds, our regular savings, sell our 50 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: rent the house. We were ready to downsize anyway, quit 51 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 1: our jobs and travel for a year or just until 52 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:39,399 Speaker 1: the money runs out. 53 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 5: That vibe, leave it all. 54 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 3: We just had to wait for her mom to move 55 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 3: into a home. 56 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: So basically everything is hinging on on granny finding a 57 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: place to sit get out. 58 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, dug this nice. 59 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: Parent Sparta kicking Granny's and the holes. Am I wait 60 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: a minute. I understand her anxiety about developing dementia, and 61 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: I was burned out. You live through COVID working remote, 62 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: a wife working remote, a college and high school student 63 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: taking remote classes, and a mother in law with dementia, 64 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,640 Speaker 1: And see how you would hold up, which I imagine you 65 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: know not well, everyone been at the same house. 66 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 4: Yep, yeah, at least his lifestyle. And I don't want 67 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 4: to give it up exactly. 68 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: I want to travel, I want to live the high life. 69 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: Space finally opened up and we were able to move 70 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: her mom into a care facility. I finally thought I 71 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: had a chance to believe, to breathe. Finally thought I 72 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 1: had a chance to breathe. When we moved Mary's mom out, 73 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: Mary's mental health took a huge downward spiral. 74 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 3: I went from caring for her mom to caring for her. 75 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: She felt guilty about putting her mom in a home 76 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: and had lots of anxiety about developing dementia. 77 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 2: You just never stopped, which is very FA's crazy. That 78 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 2: was crazy, just going and she's in She's fifty. 79 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: Right, Oh, I don't have ages. The dementia is that 80 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:20,159 Speaker 1: like developed at fifty right? 81 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:22,799 Speaker 3: Yeah? Rough, dude. 82 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 5: I mean you could be like, you know what will 83 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 5: cheer you up? Trip around? Where? 84 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 3: Aren't remember it? 85 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 5: First day? 86 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 3: Why are we on the point right now? 87 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:49,480 Speaker 5: Every day is a surprise, Like surprise, we're in Italy. 88 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 5: It's like, wow, my god. 89 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 3: This is amazing. 90 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 5: You take me into Italian. Actually that would make it 91 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 5: ten times better. 92 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,359 Speaker 2: You're just caught and the person you're with is just 93 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:05,920 Speaker 2: having like the reveal moment constantly, dude, That actually makes 94 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 2: it ten times better. 95 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,599 Speaker 3: It's like, who is the happiest animal? A goldfish? 96 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 5: True? 97 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 3: Forget now? I got it? Zero a second memory? Okay, 98 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 3: So our. 99 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: Plan would start traveling about, you know, around summer twenty 100 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: twenty four and two months ago, I get home and 101 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:28,600 Speaker 1: she's left a note. My friends call it exhibit A. Basically, 102 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: she was going on our trip without. 103 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 5: Me, motherfucking goldfish. 104 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 3: Why not that. 105 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: Goldfish, dude, forgetting the most important thing me. 106 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:40,359 Speaker 3: She just kept swimming. 107 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 7: Guys, husband, I didn't realize. 108 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 5: That we were. 109 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:57,480 Speaker 3: Husband. Oh my goodness. 110 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,920 Speaker 1: She had quit her job, took most of the savings 111 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: and wasn't sure when she'd be back. 112 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 5: She said maybe a year, maybe sooner, she said, who knows? 113 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 6: You? 114 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:17,600 Speaker 1: I understand. If you're still understanding, remember we had that conversation. 115 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 3: You're the. 116 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 1: Her location is turned off and my calls go directly 117 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: to voicemail. I texted the kids a picture of the note. 118 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:33,479 Speaker 1: Would you text your kids the picture of a note? 119 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: If your like wife went off and travel the world, 120 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: would you be like? 121 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:37,040 Speaker 3: Can you believe? 122 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 2: I would try to talk to her first? But if 123 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 2: she if she all the calls and device, what do 124 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 2: you what would you guys do? 125 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 6: I'm petty as hell, So the moment, like, I give 126 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:49,599 Speaker 6: it that that three rule, you know, just be like, Hey, 127 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:51,719 Speaker 6: I'm gonna text you three times, I'm gonna call you 128 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 6: three times, and maleia voicemail three times, and if you 129 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 6: don't pick up, I'm gonna be petty. 130 00:06:56,760 --> 00:07:03,159 Speaker 1: Do all of that within two minutes call me hello, Hello, Hello. 131 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 2: Divorce Actually, we have a tradition on this show which 132 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 2: is the divorce chance. 133 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 3: Wh should we try our remote versus a divorce chance? 134 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 1: Well, I think I think at the moment where you 135 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: feel a divorce chant is worthy, you can enact your 136 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: your privileges to uh chance, Yeah, I like that. So 137 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 1: we have our own checking accounts for direct deposits of 138 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: our paychecks, but we transfer most into a joint account 139 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: to pay the household bills and savings. We both had 140 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: access to main savings account. We have joint credit cards 141 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: we use for household expenses. The two cars and the 142 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: mortgage are joint. We both also have our own small 143 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 1: savings account, our own retirement accounts equally funded, and our 144 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 1: own credit cards for gifts and fun things. I closed 145 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: all joint card and accounts. 146 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 3: Because she drained. 147 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 5: She drained one of them. She drained one of the accounts. 148 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: I think like they have a bunch and she like 149 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: like some of the joint saving accounts. 150 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 3: She's like taking that with money. 151 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 5: To get back. 152 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 3: Problem for the future, I won't remember. You're a goldfish. 153 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 5: You better start. 154 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 1: I waited a month to see if she'd come back, 155 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: hopefully before she spent our savings. After receiving only one 156 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: text the first month, how generous divor. 157 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 6: To be fair them roaming fees and internationalizer, I. 158 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 2: Only trained one of her accounts, Babe, I need to 159 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 2: dream another to contact you. 160 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 5: This text message was the one account I. 161 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: Set you letters. They're arriving by carrier pigeons. I wanted 162 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:16,120 Speaker 1: to be romantic blue, she basically said. 163 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 4: So. 164 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: After receiving only one text the first month, I went 165 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:22,439 Speaker 1: to a lawyer. She basically said, there was very little 166 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 1: to do right now other than change the beneficiaries of 167 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: my retirement accounts and life insurance. Yay, my wife gets 168 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: nothing else if I die alone while she's having adventures. 169 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 5: Nice look. 170 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: For it was only a month, and there was no 171 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 1: way to serve her papers because it has no idea 172 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: where she is. 173 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:48,679 Speaker 5: They can't find it. 174 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: My lawyer advised me to keep paying the mortgage and 175 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: the cars. The cost of trying to get a judge 176 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:57,320 Speaker 1: to approve the sale of a joint asset was more 177 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 1: than making payments, So basically, like he couldn't he couldn't 178 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: split the mortgage in the house by getting like legally 179 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 1: done because it was too expensive. 180 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 5: God, that's crazy. That's like, now I can't buy a house, 181 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 5: but I can afford to rent. 182 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: Let's just keep throwing all of our money away so 183 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: we're poor forever. 184 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 5: Exactly, Let's do it. 185 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 3: Let's do it. 186 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 5: I didn't want to ruin. 187 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: I didn't want and if you want to stop us 188 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: from entering the death of a poor in the streets 189 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:40,160 Speaker 1: and gutters. 190 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 3: You should buy this merch that I'm wearing right now. 191 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 5: Are you in love? 192 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 2: Forget dot club club dot shop? 193 00:10:55,600 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 5: You forgot the well. 194 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 2: That on her own podcast, I love that. 195 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: I didn't want to ruin my credit card by letting 196 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:14,800 Speaker 1: one of our cars get repossessed. 197 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:17,800 Speaker 3: But I can't sell it because she's on the title. 198 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 5: Yikes. 199 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 1: I get random text and she sporadically posts on Instagram. 200 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:26,520 Speaker 1: Of course she has comments turned off. I want to 201 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 1: block her so bad, but my lawyer advised me it's 202 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: better to maintain a communication channel that's not through our kids. 203 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 3: Her last post was from Hawaii. 204 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 1: She put in the comments how great a husband I 205 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: was for letting her take this trip. I'm barely making it, 206 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:48,320 Speaker 1: paying two cars, a mortgage, household bills, insurance, hoping there 207 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: are no emergencies because I have no savings and she's 208 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 1: enjoying our trip. 209 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 3: F her. 210 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:59,319 Speaker 4: Wow, it's going to be great when she gets back. 211 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 3: Let us be in there be the court reporters. 212 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:14,840 Speaker 6: I'm serving this divorce on a limbo under this legal 213 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 6: attack that I'm gonna do. 214 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 5: That you just got served. 215 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 3: I'm laying these papers. 216 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:29,439 Speaker 5: I'm so pissed at her. 217 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:32,960 Speaker 1: I helped take care of her mom for four years 218 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:36,080 Speaker 1: and her when she fell apart after her mom moved 219 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:39,480 Speaker 1: into a memory care home, and she returns the favor 220 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: by abandoning me. I'll never get to take this trip 221 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:47,200 Speaker 1: and have to put off retirement. My only solace is 222 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 1: the kids are pissed at her, but they'll probably forgive 223 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: her eventually. 224 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:53,319 Speaker 5: Double f her and fuck my kids too. 225 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:02,079 Speaker 1: I'm no fool. She's hooking up with guys. She looks good. 226 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: She'll probably have zero problem getting men. I texted her 227 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: and asked her if she was sleeping around a week later, 228 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:15,079 Speaker 1: she responded that she wasn't sure eye roll. 229 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 3: I don't know. I slipped and fell. 230 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: So I'm drinking alone on a Friday night, and she's somewhere, 231 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 1: probably on a beach, enjoying life. 232 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:32,200 Speaker 3: Triple f her. Ys. 233 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 6: That's a lot of a lot, and there is edit. 234 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: My lawyer has given me a bunch of advice and options. 235 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 1: It was just way more than I could possibly include 236 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 1: in this post. I could definitely push the issue harder, 237 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:51,199 Speaker 1: and I might need to at some point, but all 238 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:54,720 Speaker 1: that work is very expensive, finding her, serving her, getting 239 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 1: a judge to sign off. 240 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 5: That's not cheap. 241 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:00,280 Speaker 1: I'm following up soon, and I plan on talking about 242 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:03,400 Speaker 1: the savings and my finances until I paid all the 243 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:06,560 Speaker 1: bills and realized how little was left. It didn't hit 244 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: me that I had to worry about money. So man 245 00:14:09,559 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 1: is man struggling. And there are some comments that I 246 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: am going to read soon. But what do you guys think? 247 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 1: Is this is this guy the asshole for abandoning his wife? 248 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 3: Is he a raging evil maniac? 249 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 5: Yes? 250 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 3: There we go. 251 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:34,320 Speaker 5: How dare he let his wife go on that trip? Yeah? 252 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 5: I don't know, that's I mean, it was that an 253 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:37,760 Speaker 5: m I the asshole. That's crazy. 254 00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:43,560 Speaker 1: It was I'm making it an asshole right now, the 255 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:44,360 Speaker 1: asshole for a. 256 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 3: Banding his wife. 257 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 4: Let's sell you boys, I would have done it sooner 258 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:56,280 Speaker 4: chance like second paragraph in divorce right yeah. 259 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 6: I also we got like a few chants going, oh yeah, 260 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 6: we got divorced and we had to create. 261 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 3: He's he's one of us now. 262 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 5: He's also. 263 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 2: We say this all the time on the show, like 264 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:13,480 Speaker 2: where they're not red flags leading it because like people 265 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 2: have like rose tunic glasses and these relationships like, was 266 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 2: there anything earlier in the relationship. I wonder that was 267 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 2: kind of like a sign that she would do something 268 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 2: like this. It seems actually I just realized this. Maybe 269 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 2: she planned and plotted on this the entire time, which 270 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 2: is why she started putting together the savings plan for 271 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 2: the vacation, because she knew that she was going to 272 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:38,600 Speaker 2: leave him and take the trip on her own so 273 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 2: she could drain it and then have all the money 274 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 2: to it. 275 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 3: Was like, she like sincerely believes that they're going to 276 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 3: stay together. 277 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 5: Yeah, that's where I'm at too. 278 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 2: I think, yes, I think she is delusional in that, 279 00:15:51,800 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 2: but I think she's just like I don't know, just 280 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 2: like somehow so detached that she's like convinced herself or 281 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 2: understand let me do it. 282 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:04,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what a cut husband wishful thinking. 283 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 6: It's it's like it's giving me the impression that it's 284 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 6: both calculated and kind of spontaneous at the same time too, 285 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 6: so like it could go either way because there is 286 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 6: I understand where they're coming from. That's a lot of 287 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 6: responsibilities to take, having to take care of a of 288 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 6: a parent that has dementia. I mean, everyone took a 289 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 6: toll during a pandemic, right, But that part I can 290 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 6: sympathize that there's some sort of breakdown. But taking a 291 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 6: trip draining the account that is a calculated that's a 292 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:33,040 Speaker 6: calculated move. 293 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:35,640 Speaker 1: And she did it all like under his nose too, 294 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:39,280 Speaker 1: playing checkers and dude for deed. So here are some 295 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 1: relevant comments. So King of a Leprechaun says, thank you 296 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: for letting her take this trip, because it's basically her saying, 297 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: when I get through living the single life, I'll be 298 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: coming back to the comfort and security of married life. 299 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 1: When she returns, i'd say, welcome home. Here are your 300 00:16:56,840 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: walking papers. And Opie said she's one hundred percent under 301 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 1: the delusion that she's coming back to a marriage. She's 302 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: had a few conversations with her daughter and she's convinced 303 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 1: I'll understand and forgive her. 304 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 5: So I. 305 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:21,160 Speaker 1: Mean, I know they're pissed, like like op did say 306 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: that the kids are pissed, so I can't imagine they're 307 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: siding with a mom. 308 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 309 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 6: Yeah. 310 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 1: And then another commentary, naive subject sixty five says, tell 311 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 1: your daughter to pass along the message that you're filing 312 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: for divorce for abandonment and see if this gets you 313 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:38,360 Speaker 1: some traction. I don't generally like the idea of going 314 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,840 Speaker 1: through kids, but they need to have your back on this. 315 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 1: Maybe even tell her they'll cut her off as well 316 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:46,560 Speaker 1: if she keeps doing this to you in the family. 317 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: Maybe even start posting about how she's living the good 318 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 1: life and letting your friends and family know what kind 319 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 1: of pickle this has put you in. Everyone probably assumes 320 00:17:56,960 --> 00:18:00,880 Speaker 1: you're on board if you're not purposely driving true narrative, 321 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:04,919 Speaker 1: and OLP says she only hears what she wants. I 322 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 1: asked her to send me an address to serve her papers. 323 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 1: She only told me that we'll work it out when 324 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:11,800 Speaker 1: she comes home the f we will. 325 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:13,880 Speaker 3: My daughter tells her all the pain. 326 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,600 Speaker 1: She's causing, but she just says that she only has 327 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: five to ten years left until she gets dementia. It's 328 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:23,800 Speaker 1: impossible to know if she'll even develop dementia. But shouldn't 329 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 1: she be spending this time with her family? And there 330 00:18:27,080 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 1: is a juicy update. But yeah, what are you guys think? 331 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 3: Ooh? 332 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:34,560 Speaker 6: I completely agree with that. Like, typically I'm pretty much 333 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:37,400 Speaker 6: against like weaponizing kids in terms of like if there's 334 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,400 Speaker 6: marital problems, because that should be settled between two adults. 335 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:44,239 Speaker 6: But I also feel like she weaponized the kids by saying, like, 336 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,240 Speaker 6: you know, that grand delusion of oh, hey, your father's 337 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:48,879 Speaker 6: going to accept me back when I come back, Like, 338 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 6: let me live my best life right now, everything's gonna 339 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:52,159 Speaker 6: be fine and dandy. 340 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 3: But the kids are confused. 341 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:55,480 Speaker 6: The kids are angry and saying like, why the hell 342 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 6: are you doing this shit to us? 343 00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 3: Like why did you abandon us? 344 00:18:58,320 --> 00:19:00,880 Speaker 6: And she is also weaponizing the fact that, yes, her 345 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 6: family does have history of dementia. But you know, I'm 346 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:06,040 Speaker 6: not saying like there's I don't know if there's a 347 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:08,239 Speaker 6: cure to it. I'm an ignorant when it comes to that, 348 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:12,919 Speaker 6: but like, uh has advanced, so it could happen, but 349 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:16,640 Speaker 6: like that, it's not something that's completely guaranteed, right, So 350 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:19,680 Speaker 6: why are you risking your relationship with the kids that's 351 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,399 Speaker 6: probably going to take care of you when you do 352 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 6: have that condition and just like essentially abandoning them to 353 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:26,840 Speaker 6: do whatever the hell you want. 354 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, because there is something to be said about living 355 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:32,720 Speaker 4: your your fullest life before you you know, can't remember it, 356 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 4: But you should be wanting to do that with your 357 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 4: family and friends rather than abandoning them for you know, 358 00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 4: go by yourself. 359 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:41,639 Speaker 5: It's a weird. It's a weird bit to me. 360 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 1: But you can't people in all these different countries if 361 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:47,680 Speaker 1: you're the kids, your partner, that's true. 362 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 5: You can can't hook up with the Spanish office police officer. 363 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:52,680 Speaker 5: You don't excuse me. 364 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:55,879 Speaker 3: Officer, I have a problem. 365 00:19:57,600 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 5: This is in my hostel. 366 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 6: This is the other thing that's like bothering me to 367 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,639 Speaker 6: about it. It's like her concern is about her losing 368 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 6: her memories, So why is she creating memories just by herself, 369 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,439 Speaker 6: knowing that she might forget it, as opposed to creating 370 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,119 Speaker 6: memories with her family where they we can reach all. 371 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 3: Porn over again. Great point, Yeah, it was it was perfect. 372 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:24,320 Speaker 5: Why did she suck it up? 373 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, suave all right, Well let's get into 374 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 1: this update. So here's the update from November thirteenth, twenty 375 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 1: twenty three. 376 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:34,440 Speaker 3: So this is this is this month. 377 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:37,439 Speaker 1: Oh that's for three recess. So an update from my 378 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:41,680 Speaker 1: original post. I'm feeling much more positive now, which is 379 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 1: surprising because it was a shit. 380 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 3: Show last losing. 381 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: The financial situation has become a little bit more manageable. Basically, 382 00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 1: I'm running up debt that will get paid off when 383 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: I sell the house. Even with lawyer fees, I have 384 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,640 Speaker 1: six to eight more months before I have to worry 385 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: about money, assuming there are no emergencies. 386 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 3: I mean, I guess that's better. But man, like, he's like, yeah, 387 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 3: I got six more months. 388 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:15,040 Speaker 5: That would destroy Yeah. 389 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, he was just like, I have no savings and 390 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 2: I'm spending all my money on all our bills. 391 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 3: So six months is like, I'm going to be helpless 392 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 3: next week. 393 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:23,280 Speaker 5: But I got another six. 394 00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 4: Months until I sell the house and then don't have 395 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:27,720 Speaker 4: the money to buy another hose. 396 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:32,560 Speaker 3: Oh man, no fee. 397 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:37,399 Speaker 1: So my friend's wife gave me some good advice. Don't 398 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 1: go from being a hero to a villain in your 399 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 1: kid's eyes. Go from being a hero. How I talk 400 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: about and treat my wife will determine my future relationship 401 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 1: with my kids. I don't give a damn about my wife, 402 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,240 Speaker 1: but I don't want to make her a sympathetic figure 403 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:55,639 Speaker 1: or drive them away from both of us. I followed 404 00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:58,320 Speaker 1: up with the lawyer. Basically, she said, we're going to 405 00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:03,040 Speaker 1: have her pay back the savings she took through reduction 406 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,680 Speaker 1: in her share of the assets. Any division of assets 407 00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:09,679 Speaker 1: will include the savings she took she'll also have to 408 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 1: repay the money I spent maintaining the household while she 409 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: was gone. There is plenty of equity in her share 410 00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:18,879 Speaker 1: of the house and her retirement plans to cover that. 411 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 3: Thank god. That makes sense, That makes total sense sense. 412 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, she said that her finances are so intertwined after 413 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,880 Speaker 1: nearly twenty five years of marriage, my wife is going 414 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 1: to get some share of the assets. Best case is 415 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:34,160 Speaker 1: she agrees to the terms of the divorce and it's 416 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: relatively cheap and quick. Otherwise it gets complicated and expensive. 417 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,360 Speaker 1: She gave me a lot of options and how much 418 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: I can expect to spend, so I decided to just 419 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: mostly Wait, I got a couple of credit fights. 420 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 3: Yeah right, she might. 421 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is money and I want it now. 422 00:22:58,080 --> 00:22:59,639 Speaker 5: With his lucky she will definitely. 423 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:01,080 Speaker 3: Yeah. 424 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, I got a couple of credit cards with promo 425 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,800 Speaker 1: rates for purchases and transfers. That gives me breathing room 426 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 1: and I can conserve cash. I'll just pay them off 427 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,720 Speaker 1: when I sell the house. Now that my financial situation 428 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,840 Speaker 1: is less stressful, I'm actually enjoying her being gone. I'm 429 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 1: free to do whatever I want whenever. I don't have 430 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 1: to cook or clean or take care of anyone. I mean, 431 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:26,920 Speaker 1: I guess besides the kids. 432 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 2: The kids, yeah, because also if you go to the 433 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:33,960 Speaker 2: very top, it's they're fifty and forty eight. 434 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:35,359 Speaker 3: Oh okay eight. 435 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, the house is quiet for the first time I 436 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:42,040 Speaker 1: can remember. I loved my wife, but her mental health 437 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:45,399 Speaker 1: weighed down our marriage. On balance, it was worth it 438 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 1: until now. 439 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,440 Speaker 3: What does that mean? On balance it was worth it 440 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:49,400 Speaker 3: is saying. 441 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 2: Maybe like like oh, like overall, but yeah, I don't know, 442 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:54,640 Speaker 2: I've never heard that before, Like it was worth it 443 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,800 Speaker 2: when I thought I was in a loving marriage. 444 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 5: I guess you're yeah, until in me for a Spanish car. 445 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:07,960 Speaker 1: So on balance it was worth it until now. The 446 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 1: first month or so, I expected her to be there. 447 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,639 Speaker 1: Whenever I get home, when someone was at the door, 448 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:14,800 Speaker 1: or if I heard noises, I think it was her. 449 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:19,840 Speaker 1: I checked the doorbell cam obsessively. Now I'm not looking 450 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:22,680 Speaker 1: forward to her returning. It has to happen. But when 451 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,320 Speaker 1: she comes back, I'll have to deal with her the divorce, 452 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:28,240 Speaker 1: getting the house ready to sell, dividing all our stuff, 453 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:31,760 Speaker 1: finding a new place to live, et cetera. I'm hoping 454 00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:34,639 Speaker 1: she'll stay away until after New Year's but My daughter 455 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,200 Speaker 1: said she thinks her mom will be home for Christmas, 456 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:41,120 Speaker 1: either to stay or visit. My lawyer will have papers 457 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: ready to serve her. Hopefully she'll just agree to the 458 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,200 Speaker 1: terms and continue her travels. 459 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:47,240 Speaker 3: Hopefully. 460 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:52,439 Speaker 4: So I was gonna say, okay, Op, that's fine. You 461 00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:56,160 Speaker 4: need to update when she comes for Christmas. Please, that's 462 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 4: all you ease. 463 00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, so people said, so we Op is talking a 464 00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: little bit about some of the advice in the commons. 465 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 1: So people had some great advice. Renting or selling the 466 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 1: house not really feasible right now, since I'd have to 467 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,080 Speaker 1: fix some stuff and get it ready to sell. Slash 468 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,680 Speaker 1: rent since I need a place to live. The amount 469 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:19,359 Speaker 1: I net each month rent minus mortgage rent on a 470 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:23,440 Speaker 1: new apartment minus storage units equals not worth it. My kids' 471 00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,200 Speaker 1: rooms are still full of their stuff, and I don't 472 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 1: want to spend the time and effort to clear them 473 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 1: out and put them in storage. Getting a hellock what's 474 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 1: h ELPs. 475 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 2: It's basically alone against the house. So he can tell you, right, 476 00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 2: this was. 477 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:39,040 Speaker 5: Some great advice. 478 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:42,040 Speaker 1: I didn't realize I didn't need both people to get 479 00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 1: a loan, and if I need more money, I can 480 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: go this way. 481 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 3: In the short term, the promo rates on the. 482 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,399 Speaker 1: Credit cards were cheaper and easier than getting a hellock, 483 00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:54,119 Speaker 1: serving my wife divorce papers, or getting a divorce in absentia. 484 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,480 Speaker 1: I guess that is with her being absence, this is 485 00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,880 Speaker 1: something I might need to do eventually, but the cost 486 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,560 Speaker 1: lawyer fees goes up exponentially in cases like this. I'm 487 00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 1: comfortable just waiting for now. Looking at the phone bail 488 00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 1: to see where she's at and possibly going. I did 489 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,119 Speaker 1: look at her usage and did notice that she doesn't 490 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,200 Speaker 1: post on social media until after she leaves a place, 491 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:16,520 Speaker 1: like when she posted about Hawaii. She made a call 492 00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,719 Speaker 1: that day and that originated in Los Angeles. She posted 493 00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:21,960 Speaker 1: about a cruise and I figured out the dates, trying 494 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:23,240 Speaker 1: to serve her at the. 495 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:26,800 Speaker 3: Port, possibly her vessels everywhere. 496 00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,240 Speaker 1: She posted about a cruise and I figured out the 497 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:33,840 Speaker 1: dates and was trying to serve her at the port possibly, 498 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,880 Speaker 1: but it ended up a couple of days before she posted. 499 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 1: She tried adding international calling to her line, but I 500 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 1: blocked it, so she removed her phone from our account. 501 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:48,119 Speaker 1: And there are some comments on here relevant comments, but 502 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,480 Speaker 1: she's Wow, it's like playing like it's like catch me 503 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,960 Speaker 1: if you can like, she's like playing game A cat 504 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,399 Speaker 1: and Mouse are here, and now Op's like, all right, 505 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,200 Speaker 1: you want to play ball, Let's play some frickin' ball. 506 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I picture him in his house alone, dark, 507 00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,040 Speaker 4: He's in his underwear in front of a whiteboard. He's 508 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,080 Speaker 4: got like kins everywhere where she's been, messages, she sent, 509 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 4: posts she has I will find you. 510 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:18,200 Speaker 3: It's lasting. 511 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,600 Speaker 1: I do so some relevant comments. Ze Eldepin says, Oh 512 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:26,400 Speaker 1: my gosh, I am infuriated on your behalf. The audacity 513 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:28,760 Speaker 1: of my husband is so great for letting me take 514 00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,160 Speaker 1: this trip the petty and me. Hope she'll be home 515 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:34,440 Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving because I want her world to explode. Oh, 516 00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:37,160 Speaker 1: he said, she's told her family she won't be home 517 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving. 518 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,040 Speaker 3: Nobody told her my daughter and I are. 519 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,760 Speaker 1: Spending Thanksgiving with her family, though she can see the 520 00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:46,040 Speaker 1: post of us having a good time without her. 521 00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,960 Speaker 5: Nice, Wow, that's good. 522 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:53,560 Speaker 6: The way I'm dumpster diving for an expired turkey'll just 523 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:55,920 Speaker 6: be like, oh, I got you some leftover. 524 00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:57,879 Speaker 3: Right, I have a plate? 525 00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:01,919 Speaker 1: And then old gal miss he says, please change the 526 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:03,920 Speaker 1: locks on your house so you can't just waltz back 527 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,480 Speaker 1: in while you're out one day. I'm so angry for you. 528 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,399 Speaker 1: I've been married for twenty three years. And if my 529 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:12,800 Speaker 1: husband this to me, God help anyone between me and him. 530 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:17,320 Speaker 5: That's good advice. Go one step forward and home alone. 531 00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 5: That ship. Oh yeah, hour talking, This is a Christmas 532 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:24,400 Speaker 5: miracle in the making. 533 00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:28,800 Speaker 2: Get that like hellock loan just to like funds the 534 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 2: most insane, elaborate Rube Goldberg like level traps. 535 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:36,679 Speaker 4: Just like hired Donald Trump to run into her at 536 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:37,240 Speaker 4: the hotel. 537 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, he needs give. 538 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 1: And then Opie said she left her keys. I changed 539 00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: the code on the security system, the passphrase and password. 540 00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 1: I also found a new hiding place for the emergency 541 00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,120 Speaker 1: key we had in the backyard. And then finally, of 542 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 1: being an asshole, said so she's just going to blow 543 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,320 Speaker 1: through all the money and then assumes you'll take her 544 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,560 Speaker 1: back and care for her when dementia hits her and says, 545 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 1: seems to be her plan, but it's not. 546 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 3: Mine, dude. 547 00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, be a freaking Easter island head. And man, that 548 00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:32,920 Speaker 1: was a doozy. 549 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 3: So I'm wondering. 550 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:37,680 Speaker 2: So now op is still at the point of waiting 551 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 2: for her to come back. 552 00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, right, And. 553 00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:42,240 Speaker 5: And we have no more updates. 554 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:44,200 Speaker 3: We don't know, we have no more update. 555 00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:46,960 Speaker 5: I'm livid. 556 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 3: I'm livid. I think I want to know right quick 557 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 3: hypothetical for you guys. 558 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,160 Speaker 2: So let's say the wife comes back, OP serves her 559 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:56,960 Speaker 2: and they do the thing where he gets like paid 560 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,120 Speaker 2: out from the equity in the house. What would you 561 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 2: your next movie? I'm also curious for everyone watching, what 562 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 2: would your comment comment? 563 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:06,800 Speaker 3: What you would do below? But what would your move 564 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:08,560 Speaker 3: be if you got everything out of the divorce that 565 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:08,960 Speaker 3: you wanted? 566 00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:10,320 Speaker 5: Sleep with a. 567 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 6: Spanish cup. 568 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:15,600 Speaker 5: Right back? 569 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 3: Okay, I like that. 570 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 6: I'm gonna go to Henrico, Swab and I'm going to 571 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 6: Hawaii and taking a cruise. 572 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 3: Here we go. I like that. Also, Sam's poor mom. 573 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:35,920 Speaker 2: He'll just like call her on the podcast and just 574 00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:39,000 Speaker 2: it's it's, it's it's always hilarious. 575 00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:44,800 Speaker 3: But I'm just like this poor woman. Should we get 576 00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,040 Speaker 3: into this next story? Let's do it, Let's do it.