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Speaker 1: is Strawberry letter. Thank you, nep you. Subject why can't

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Speaker 1: he cut her loose? Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty

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Speaker 1: eight year old single woman and I've raised a handsome

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Speaker 1: and productive young man with the help of my ex husband.

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Speaker 1: My ex husband was a very hands on dad, but

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Speaker 1: we did not see eye to eye in our marriage.

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Speaker 1: His father always spoiled him, but lately his dad has

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Speaker 1: been busy with the new woman and now he's become

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Speaker 1: distant from our son. If I call his dad, it

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Speaker 1: takes him days to call me back. My son told

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Speaker 1: me who his dad is dating now, and she's nothing

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Speaker 1: but trouble. She's married to an older man and she's

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Speaker 1: got control of the money, but she lusts after other

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Speaker 1: men because she's not satisfied sexually. So now she's got

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Speaker 1: her claws and my ex and he can't think straight.

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Speaker 1: She has a bad reputation for messing around on her husband,

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Speaker 1: but these men don't seem to mind. I mind a

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Speaker 1: lot because my ex and I have a sexual relationship

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Speaker 1: and he's cut me off because of her. He and

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Speaker 1: I can go weeks without a word, but as soon

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Speaker 1: as we see each other, it's clothes off and we're

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Speaker 1: in the bed together. It is what it is, and

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Speaker 1: after twenty years, we still can't keep our hands off

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Speaker 1: each other. I know that he sees other women, but

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Speaker 1: I don't have time to date, so he meets my

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Speaker 1: sexual needs. What this woman has done has messed up

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Speaker 1: my good thing, and I want to know why he

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Speaker 1: can't cut her loose. I got him on the phone

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Speaker 1: recently and I told him I need a tune up,

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Speaker 1: and he told me, he'd see what he could do.

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Speaker 1: If I told him that a month ago, he'd be

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Speaker 1: at my house or I'd be at his within an

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Speaker 1: hour or so. He's never put me off. So why

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Speaker 1: is he picking someone who's been passed around or something

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Speaker 1: he's been getting for twenty years over something he's been

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Speaker 1: getting for twenty years. Why can't he cut this woman

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Speaker 1: loose to that, I say, don't worry about him cutting

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Speaker 1: her loose. You cut him loose. What's wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is really a stupid letter here. I

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Speaker 1: thought this was going to be about your ex and

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Speaker 1: how he's no longer there for your son. You say,

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Speaker 1: you know, because that's the most important thing here, But

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Speaker 1: then the letter took a hard left and turns out

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Speaker 1: you're just mad because he's got a girlfriend and you

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Speaker 1: can't catch up with them to have sex. What this

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Speaker 1: is not making any sense? I mean, you know it's over.

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Speaker 1: If you can't give it away. You're really selling yourself

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Speaker 1: short here. Why are you so disrespectful to yourself? Why

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Speaker 1: are you settling for this? I mean you say you

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Speaker 1: don't have time to date, but you really don't have

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Speaker 1: time not to date. It's over. You have to make

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Speaker 1: time for you now. I mean, can't you say, can't

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Speaker 1: you see that he's not even thinking about you at

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Speaker 1: this point. He does not want you focus on that

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Speaker 1: so you can get the strength to get him out

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Speaker 1: of your system. I mean, you're playing yourself right now.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what her reputation is, none of that.

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Speaker 1: Your husband doesn't care. Is what he likes right now.

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Speaker 1: You got to get yourself together and move on. Steve, Well, well, well, well,

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Speaker 1: well right down my alley. Let us like this, go

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Speaker 1: right down to the street that I stay on. I

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Speaker 1: love when women asked the question why can't he cut

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Speaker 1: her loose? Well, I think we all know the answer

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Speaker 1: to that. Let's walk her down memory lane. Back down

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Speaker 1: memory lane. I saw a photograph. It was such a

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Speaker 1: happy pad. Oh look at me, back down memory lay. Well,

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Speaker 1: you're forty eight ye old single woman. You raised a

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Speaker 1: handsome and productive young man with the help of my

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Speaker 1: ex hug. Now, your ex husband was a very hands

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Speaker 1: on dad. But y'all didn't see eye to eye in

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Speaker 1: the marriage. Things happened. His father's always spoiled Hi, probably true,

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Speaker 1: But lately his dad has been busy with the new woman,

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Speaker 1: and now he's become distant from our son. Now, let's

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Speaker 1: look at this moment in this letter. His dad has

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Speaker 1: been busy with the new woman, and now he's become

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Speaker 1: distant from our sons. Now, as I read the rest

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Speaker 1: There's no instances of where he don't pick up his son.

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Speaker 1: No more. This boy is a grown ass son. He

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Speaker 1: don't need to get picked up. Take nowhere. The boy

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Speaker 1: can probably drive, He's a productive young man. No more

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Speaker 1: to fool us by blaming this on her husband's relationship.

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Speaker 1: Ship with this new woman is hurting the relationship with

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Speaker 1: the Sun. If I call his dad, it takes him.

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Speaker 1: If I call his dad, it takes him days to

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Speaker 1: call me back. That ain't got nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: the Sun. Then my son told me his dad is

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Speaker 1: dating now, and he's and he's dating now, and she's

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Speaker 1: nothing but trouble. Wait a minute, all, I bet you

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Speaker 1: all the Sun told you was daddy dating. Now you've

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Speaker 1: far he's still talking to Oh just ain't about to boy,

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Speaker 1: It ain't on Steve. We'll have part two of your

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry letters subject why can't he cut her loose?

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening show,

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Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is why can't he cut her loose? Well, see, lady,

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Speaker 1: why can't he cut her loose? It's obvious. I'll tell

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Speaker 1: you that in a little minute. But the real thing

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Speaker 1: is you tried to make this letter like you and

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Speaker 1: your ex husband have raised his really hands on, productive,

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Speaker 1: handsome young man. And you know he was such a

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Speaker 1: hands on dad, and now that he's dating this woman,

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Speaker 1: h he didn't cut his son out of his life.

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Speaker 1: But then there ain't no evidence in the letter that

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Speaker 1: he didn't quitn't fool it with his son. You said

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Speaker 1: his father's always spoiled him, but lately his dad been

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Speaker 1: visited with this new woman, and NIS become distant from

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Speaker 1: my son. If I call his dad, it takes him

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Speaker 1: days to call me back. My ex is never hear

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Speaker 1: from me yes or ain't. No, damn Davis were talking

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Speaker 1: year heck email nothing, not a So don't what you're

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Speaker 1: tripping for now. My son told me that his dad

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Speaker 1: is dating. Now, well that means the son is talking

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Speaker 1: to his dad on levels that you ain't because now

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Speaker 1: the son had told you that the dad is dating.

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Speaker 1: And you say, but now she's nothing but trouble. She's

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Speaker 1: married to an older man, and she's got control of

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Speaker 1: the money, and she lusts after other men because she's

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Speaker 1: not satisfied sexual y'all must live in a small term.

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Speaker 1: So now she's got her claws in my ex and

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Speaker 1: he can't thank straight. She got a bad reputation for

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Speaker 1: messing around on her husband. And these men don't seem

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Speaker 1: to mind. Why because now I mind a lot because

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Speaker 1: my X and I have a sexual relationship and he's

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Speaker 1: cut me off. Here's what the wrong with the damn letter.

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Speaker 1: Here is to why she can't cut him off. It

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Speaker 1: ain't got nothing to do with your son now, and

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Speaker 1: he's cutting me off because of her. He and I

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Speaker 1: can go weeks without a word, but as soon as

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Speaker 1: we see each other this clothes off. Wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, lady, you need to make up your mind.

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Speaker 1: A minute ago, you said I called his dad and

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Speaker 1: it takes some days to call me back. Then didn't

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Speaker 1: the letter say he and I can go weeks without

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Speaker 1: a word, but as soon as we see each other,

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Speaker 1: this close off and we're in the band together. It

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Speaker 1: is what it is. After twenty years, we still can't

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Speaker 1: keep our hands off each other. So you mean he

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Speaker 1: get to have his cake and eat it too, He

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Speaker 1: get to divorce you, not call you. Ain't got to

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Speaker 1: deal with none of the things in the marriage, but

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Speaker 1: then he can do you whenever he wants to. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, this is amazing. And after twenty years we

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Speaker 1: still can't keep our hands off each other. I know

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Speaker 1: that he sees other women really and can still have you.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is great quest. Do you know

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Speaker 1: how many people are signed up for this? But I

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Speaker 1: don't have time to date, so he meets my sexual needs.

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Speaker 1: What this woman has done has messed up my good thing,

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Speaker 1: and I want to know why he can't cut her loose.

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Speaker 1: Let's answer this question right now. This woman has messed

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Speaker 1: up your good thing, and I want to know why

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Speaker 1: he can't cut her loose because she got a good

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Speaker 1: a thing whoa what? She has messed up my good thing?

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Speaker 1: And I want to know why he can't cut her

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Speaker 1: loose because she got a good a thing. Why, hey,

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Speaker 1: man listening to this, know what I'm talking about. She

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Speaker 1: got a good a thing. That's why I can't cut

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Speaker 1: her loose. Now I know women that's a little Now,

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Speaker 1: that's like, oh my god, Steve, that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: Why he can't cut her loose. I'm calling her and

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Speaker 1: he told me he'll see what he can do. Now

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Speaker 1: you know what Ray said, he dating other women and

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Speaker 1: now he'd have found goody two shoes tune up. I

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Speaker 1: don't need no tune up. Plus, after twenty years, I

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Speaker 1: You ain't got time to date. Sitting tight? You know,

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Speaker 1: eat your potato chips, get you some Netflix, and I'll

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Speaker 1: be over there when I get there. I get to

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Speaker 1: you when I get to you. If I told him

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Speaker 1: I be at his within an hour or so. He's

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Speaker 1: never putting me off, So why is he picking someone

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Speaker 1: who's been passed around over something he's been getting for

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Speaker 1: twenty years. You don't hear that sentence. Let me translate

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Speaker 1: it for you. You saying, so, why is he picking

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Speaker 1: someone who's been passed around over something he's been getting

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Speaker 1: that you don't know yet? Come on, so he never

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Speaker 1: put me off, So now he's picking somebody who is

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Speaker 1: really good, fresh and new. May have been passed around,

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Speaker 1: but it's it just got passed to him over something,

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Speaker 1: the same old thing he's been getting for twenty years.

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Speaker 1: Anytime he wanted, Why can't he cut this woman loose?

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Speaker 1: Because she has messed up your good thing with a

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Speaker 1: gooder thing. That's all. It's she's got a good thing,

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Speaker 1: all right, that's all to it. I'm sorry, all right,

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Speaker 1: all right, thank you. Steve. Comments on today's Strubberry Letter

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