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Speaker 1: if people are watching. Hello Stephen, Shirley, and I might

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Speaker 1: and that's not changing. I hinted that we should go

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Speaker 1: we did role playing, and we've made some videos. We

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say that you know it's wrong what

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Speaker 1: they're all they're not always right or or or good

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Speaker 1: to badger him, he may not like that. It could

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Speaker 1: Subject it's better if people are watching us. You know,

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Speaker 1: Here's another place y'all can have sex and give it

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Speaker 1: trying to win that damn Mega Jack Park. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: always tell you another place that's crowding. Lunchtime at the CRIPT,

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Speaker 1: my goodness. Um, these are places you could have public sex.

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Speaker 1: that plane. Oh, you could do it all where. You

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Speaker 1: contortionists that's what they call them. Don't say that against

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Speaker 1: the only place I've ever seen that wasn't just so sick.

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