1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,719 Speaker 1: I told my cousin she should not have a baby. 2 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? I'm so innocent? 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:08,440 Speaker 2: Why did you tell her that she shouldn't have a baby. 4 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: Because because I want to? That's right. Yeah. My female 5 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 1: twenty eight cousin, Lauren female thirty five, and her husband 6 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: have been struggling with having kids and are suffering from 7 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: health issues. They've begun IVF treatment, which is expensive where 8 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:25,239 Speaker 1: I live. So far, they've had several rounds but no luck. 9 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: They've visited on my mom's birthday yesterday. We don't see 10 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: each other much now, but my mom tells me about 11 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: how they're doing in general. We were conversing at dinner 12 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: and IVF was brought up. Lauren said that she and 13 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,600 Speaker 1: her husband are about to undergo another round of IVF, 14 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: trying to get that bun in the oven. 15 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, cook it. 16 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: Everyone at the table set a prayer and wish some luck. 17 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: But I told Lauren that after spending this much money 18 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: and already having gone through several rounds in addition to 19 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 1: other factors contributing to infertility, she should really consider stopping IVF, 20 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: taking a break, and also saving money. 21 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 2: And really her place to say where she should spend yeah, 22 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 2: I mean money. 23 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: It's not necessarily a bad idea, but it's like it's 24 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: her life, Like, what are you gonna do? You know 25 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: what I mean? Lauren and her husband looked offended. Lauren 26 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: said that they aren't struggling with money, so it's okay. 27 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: But then I explained that they might not be struggling 28 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,680 Speaker 1: right now, but they will be in the future, and 29 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:37,040 Speaker 1: they'd spend thousands and waste money for no benefits while 30 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:40,759 Speaker 1: they could have financially helped some struggling family that already 31 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: have kids. 32 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 2: Okay, right, op is kind of enable? Okay? 33 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: Lauren got quiet. I stated that this was just my 34 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: opinion after all. Lauren's husband looked at me grudgingly and said, 35 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: I think you should just mind your own dang business 36 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: and keep your opinions to yourself. 37 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 2: Facts, dude, you should definitely mind your own business. 38 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: What are you doing? Op? From there, the argument ensued. 39 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: I told him he was being disrespectful, and he kept 40 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: talking back to me because you're. 41 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 2: Being an a hole. Don't tell people what to do 42 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 2: with their money. It seems like you're the one who's 43 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:19,079 Speaker 2: being insecure. 44 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: Seriously. Shortly after he and Lauryn left, mom started asking 45 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: me why had cost a scene on her birthday. 46 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:28,519 Speaker 2: Honor Bird. Oh my god. 47 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: Literally, she's like interrogating her poor sister on her goddamn birthday. 48 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: I said, we were just talking, but Lorena and her 49 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: husband blew it way out of proportion. 50 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 2: This is ridiculous, dude. OK, this is like the most 51 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,960 Speaker 2: clear cut A hole behavior that I've ever heard. 52 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: Mom said that I have zero say in anyone's reproductive 53 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: choice and I should have kept my mouth shut. 54 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, bro, what are you the Republican Party? Coming on? 55 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: My sister, who rarely agrees with me, sided with me, 56 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: saying that I was in the right. But my mom 57 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: is insisting I call Lauren and apologize to her. My husband, too, 58 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: sided with me and told me to give it a 59 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: few days and Lauren will call me back. I see 60 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: Lauren as a sister and I respect her, but we 61 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: have our moments. Am I the A hole? Yes? 62 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 2: Yes, you are the a hole. You're unequivocally and irrectively 63 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 2: the a hole. 64 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: Case closed.