1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Sometimes we think when the wind blows outside that it's 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:07,560 Speaker 1: a bad thing. Oh man, it's windy today. Hey, I 3 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: like it when it's a windy day, stirring things. It's 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 1: knocking those dead branches way at the top of the tree, 5 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: it's knocking that stuff out. It's cleaning things up a 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: little bit. While that dust on the sidewalk, it's blowing 7 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 1: it off. It's cleaning it up a little bit. It's 8 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: good to have a stirring in your life. I think 9 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 1: you're going through a stirring season, and I would lean 10 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 1: into it and not run away from it. What's up, everybody? 11 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 1: Welcome back to the podcast, episode one seventy three. Thanks 12 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: for watching and listening wherever you're coming from, whatever platform, 13 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: wherever in the world you are. I'm just glad you're here. 14 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: I'm glad to do this. I answer your questions. You 15 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:01,920 Speaker 1: email me You're Smith podcast at gmail dot com, and 16 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:04,839 Speaker 1: I can answer it the best I can. No notes 17 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 1: in front of me. I'm not prepared, I don't have 18 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:10,040 Speaker 1: a book ready, I don't have some kind of system 19 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:13,399 Speaker 1: that I'm working with here. I'm just talking like we're 20 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 1: just two friends and you just say, hey, can I 21 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: run something by you, And I'm not always right when 22 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: I give you an answer, but I'm going to give 23 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,479 Speaker 1: it to you the best I know how as if 24 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: we're in the cab of a truck and you got 25 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: a question, and I would assume that you would deliver 26 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: the same kind of answer back to me if I 27 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: had a question for you. Okay, let's get to the 28 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: first email. There is no order, there is no system. 29 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: I'm running with here. Subject line of this first one 30 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: says girlfriend wants to sleep in separate bedrooms. Hey Granger, 31 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: I'm a new twenty twenty three listener here and one 32 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: that needs your help. My girlfriend, aged twenty one, and I, 33 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: age twenty five, have been dating for about two years. 34 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: I live in South Carolina. She moved down in May 35 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 1: twenty twenty two after her graduation and moved in with me. 36 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: All has been well since. Over the past few weeks, 37 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: I've been taking strides to reconnect with God with her support. 38 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 1: Went to kindergarten through eighth grade in Christian school, but 39 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 1: I fell out of touch. We agreed to start sleeping 40 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: in separate bedrooms out of an effort to preserve our 41 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: relationship for marriage and stay true to God's message to 42 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: the extent that we can going forward. This was a 43 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 1: mutual decision, but one that she suggested based on my 44 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: religious childhood recent reintroduction, and I see her point and 45 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: I agreed. We plan to reevaluate at the end of 46 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: the month and assess if this concept is one that 47 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 1: we should continue our relationship as a whole as in 48 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: a good spot. But as the days take by, I'm 49 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 1: having doubts to how this ends. We love each other 50 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 1: and we intend to take the next step in marriage, 51 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: but I cannot picture us living together and sleeping in 52 00:02:55,720 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: separate bedrooms until that point. Is someone moving out but 53 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:04,079 Speaker 1: the relationship is maintained? Let me read that question again. 54 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: Is someone moving out but the relationship is maintained? Question mark? 55 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 1: If you were me, what would you do and what 56 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: would the next step be? Dig at me? Hope this 57 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: you read this message. God bless Jordan. All Right, Jordan, 58 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: thanks for kicking off the podcast today. Let me recap 59 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:26,519 Speaker 1: for my own brain. Here. You are twenty five, she's 60 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: twenty one. You've been dating for two years and you, guys, 61 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 1: when did you start living together? That's what I'm looking 62 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: for here. For the past few weeks been taken tried 63 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: to reconnect. So okay, okay after her graduation. So you've 64 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: been dating for two years, and I'm gonna guess that 65 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,119 Speaker 1: you've been living together for about a year, and then 66 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: these past few weeks, you've been sleeping in separate bedrooms, 67 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: according to your words, in an effort to preserve our 68 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: relationship for marriage and stay true to God's message to 69 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: the extent that we can't we can going forward. Okay, 70 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: got it. We're gonna walk through this together, Jordan. Like 71 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 1: we're in the cab of a truck. We're driving down 72 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: a county road and you say, man, let me run 73 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: something by you. That's how I'm gonna That's how I 74 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: gonna answer this, and that's how I'm gonna that's how 75 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:22,039 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you. And as you said, dig at me, 76 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: so let me dig. The first question I have to you, 77 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: hypothetically is you say we love each other and intend 78 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:37,599 Speaker 1: to take the next step in marriage. Okay, My first 79 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: question is, what's the hold up? You're you're a good age, 80 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: you're twenty five, you're a quarter of a century old, 81 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: you are in love, you've been dating for two years. 82 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: What's the hold up? Like, that's what I'm asking you 83 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: at the cab of the trucks the first question, what 84 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: are you doing? Bro? What? Like? What's taken so long? 85 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: What are you waiting on? You're waiting on. The excuse 86 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: is that the world's gonna tell you, no, we need 87 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: to save up a little bit more money. I'm waiting 88 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,279 Speaker 1: on this new job. She's waiting to finish up nursing school. 89 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 1: We're gonna, you know, there's like all these we're gonna 90 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: waiting to pay the car off, like these are all 91 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: these Oh okay, here's the worst. We're waiting for the 92 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: wedding venue of her dreams to open up and they 93 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: don't have an availability until October of two years from now. 94 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 1: Are waiting to make her wedding dress? It takes eighteen 95 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 1: months to sew it. I mean, this is the girl 96 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: that's dumb. Those are dumb reasons. I get it, though, 97 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: you know, I'm mean, I live in this world. I 98 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:37,480 Speaker 1: get it. But I'm just saying, if you just take 99 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: a step back and you just look at the whole picture, 100 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: like those are dumb reasons. But even further than that, 101 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: you're not even engaged yet, So why why have you 102 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:50,599 Speaker 1: not even asked her? Why is this not your fiance, Jordan. 103 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 1: I'm digging at you, man, what's up with that? Do 104 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: you have a dumb excuse? Probably right, you're gonna tell 105 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 1: me a dumb excuse, aren't you? Okay, second thing, for 106 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:08,840 Speaker 1: first of all, and let's also say that just long 107 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: engagements are just ridiculous. You've been dating two years, you 108 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 1: love her, You're gonna get married. Why a long engagement? 109 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 1: You know? I mean, all these problems are solved if 110 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:21,040 Speaker 1: you're just like, hey, let's go to the courthouse. And 111 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: know there's people listening to this podcast just screaming at 112 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 1: me like no, that's the quickest way to divorce, just 113 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: go to the courthouse. But really, I mean, love is 114 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: a decision. We're not gonna we're not gonna sit there 115 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 1: and have these butterflies the rest of our life. At 116 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: some point we're gonna go, Okay, I'm deciding I love 117 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: this girl, I'm attracted to her, I love her family, 118 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: name a bunch of other reasons. Whatever I decide to 119 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: make her my wife. I'm deciding that I'm gonna spend 120 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: the rest of my life with her, and I'm deciding 121 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: that I'm gonna make a commitment I'm gonna give her 122 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:04,560 Speaker 1: my word. I'm gonna make a commitment through sickness and 123 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 1: in health and all the other things that they say 124 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: at the altar. I'm gonna decide with my brain to 125 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: make this commitment and I'm kno going to back out 126 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: of it. Instead of the alternative is I'm just going 127 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: with the flow. I'm just going with my gut, going 128 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: with going my feelings, following following my dreams. That's Hollywood. 129 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: You we make a decision, we make a decision to 130 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: love and be committed to it. There's there's a deep 131 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 1: emotion that attracts us and that opens our eyes to it, 132 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: and then once we see it, we go, Man, I'm 133 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: in love and this girl checks the boxes that I 134 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: need and and I want to pour myself into her 135 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: right like, it's it's time for me to open up 136 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: and serve her, and I'll make that decision to serve her. 137 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: That's that's it. I mean, we're overthinking everything else. So 138 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: now let's get into your dating. And you're living with 139 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: her and you're sleeping in separate bedrooms. Why are you 140 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: doing that? Let me guess you're trying to save money, 141 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 1: trying to save on some rent, you got tired of 142 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: driving across town to drop her off. You were sleeping 143 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: in the same bedroom. Now you're deciding to reconnect with God. 144 00:08:33,160 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: So it's just more convenient just to go into the 145 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: next bedroom instead of go and get another apartment. Man, 146 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: I'm totally with you. I'm human just like you, and 147 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: I hear I hear those kinds of excuses ringing in 148 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:50,079 Speaker 1: my own ears, and it's like, yeah, part of me goes, Yeah, 149 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: that makes that makes sense. But we're not talking about 150 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: part of me here, right, We're talking about what's right. 151 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,840 Speaker 1: So what worries me about this whole thing that we've 152 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: talked about is that you are thinking it's not gonna 153 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 1: work out in the long term for some reason because 154 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: of this, as if, as if the marriage was hinging 155 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 1: on this little time when you're sleeping in separate bedrooms. 156 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: You say, our relationship as a whole is in a 157 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 1: good spot. But as the days tick by, I'm having 158 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: doubts how this ends. What does that mean? We love 159 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: each other and intend to take our next step in marriage, 160 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: but I cannot picture living us living together and sleeping 161 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: in separate bedrooms until that point. Why two questions? Two 162 00:09:43,120 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: questions very simply. First question is, then why are you 163 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:51,200 Speaker 1: going to wait? I understand you love this girl and 164 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:54,199 Speaker 1: you want a jumper. Okay, then go to the courthouse. 165 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: Why are you waiting so long? What? Where's the ring? 166 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: Where's the proposal? Where there is the quick engagement that 167 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:05,199 Speaker 1: solves this problem for you? You see the problem solved. 168 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: Second question, if something is stopping you from getting married 169 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: right now, do you think that it's going to prevent 170 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:19,360 Speaker 1: you from marrying this girl, a girl that you say 171 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 1: you love, spend the rest of your life with, and 172 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: it's it's going to be ruined for these next few 173 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: months because you can't go get it on with her 174 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: in the next room. You hear how that sounds. You 175 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 1: hear how ridiculous that sounds. Is she not worth it 176 00:10:38,360 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 1: to you? Is your manly instinct more important to you 177 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:58,959 Speaker 1: than her dignity, her respect, her honor, a true selfless 178 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: love for her as you your your selfish, selfish, manly desire, 179 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:11,439 Speaker 1: fleshly desire. Is that more important to you than honoring 180 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 1: her giving her this gift for the rest of her life? 181 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 1: So you could say, I honor you, I honor God, 182 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 1: and my love for you over just sex right now, 183 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: the same sex that we'll actually have when we're married. 184 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: That is that what you're saying. It is what you're saying. 185 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: I'm acting very nice on this podcast, but that's what 186 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:39,839 Speaker 1: you're saying. You're saying, I love her. I want to 187 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: spend the rest of my life with her. I honor God. 188 00:11:42,400 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: But I don't think I could go I can go 189 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 1: very much longer with that having sex with her. So 190 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 1: I just don't think this whole thing is going to 191 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 1: work out. Might have to find another girlfriend, one that 192 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,440 Speaker 1: just lets me do whatever I want. Because when I 193 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:54,960 Speaker 1: want to get it on, I want to get it on. 194 00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 1: That's what's happening here, man. And so because because I'm 195 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:04,199 Speaker 1: trying to give you some I'm trying to give you 196 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:10,720 Speaker 1: the best tough love I can as a friend, and 197 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 1: I would hope that you would give me the same 198 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: thing back, because sometimes when you're in a situation, we 199 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 1: can't see it. When we're on the outside, it's really 200 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: easy to see. And I set off set a lot. 201 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: Let's move on to another question. Subject line This next 202 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:33,680 Speaker 1: one says career advice. Email says, Hey, Granger, love the podcast. 203 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,839 Speaker 1: It's helped me a lot I'm Nathan from southern Illinois. 204 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 1: I have a question about how to get started in 205 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 1: a career. So I want to be a conservation officer 206 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:48,080 Speaker 1: slash game warden. I've been a while, I have a 207 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 1: wildlife management degree. I've been outdoors my whole life. Wildlife 208 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:55,839 Speaker 1: is my passion. I don't know where to start, though 209 00:12:56,600 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: I've contacted my local conservation officers. The hardest part is 210 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: that there are fifty states and I don't know what 211 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 1: to research or how to do, so that's just so 212 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:12,960 Speaker 1: many possibilities. My family is not big on talking about 213 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: my personal emotional things, and they're not very supportive. On 214 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: top of that, I'm trying to build my relationship with 215 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: God and Christ and making that better, although I'm struggling 216 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: with dealing with being single. So all three problems are 217 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 1: making this very difficult. I just like some advice from 218 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 1: a Christian standpoint. Sorry for being a three part question. 219 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:41,080 Speaker 1: Thanks for everything. I appreciate it, ye, Nathan, I was 220 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: when I read these questions. Y'all. I'm reading it for 221 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: the first time as you're hearing it for the first time, 222 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: so I'm processing what i'm hearing just like you are 223 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: on the podcast and I'm like, has the question got 224 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 1: more complex? I'm like, man, I thought those were just 225 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 1: career advice, and it's deeper. We've got family involved, now 226 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 1: I've got faith involved. Now let me back up and 227 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:09,960 Speaker 1: go to the second two questions. Okay, your first one's 228 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: dealing with it being a conservation officer game warden, and 229 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: then the second part starts into this whole My family's 230 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 1: not big on talking about personal emotional things and they're 231 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 1: not very supportive. Your third question is I'm trying to 232 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:28,960 Speaker 1: build my relationship with God and make that better. And 233 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 1: then kind of a fourth question that you didn't mention 234 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:34,240 Speaker 1: is you say it and I'm struggling with dealing with 235 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 1: being single. So there's really four things going on here, 236 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:48,840 Speaker 1: and I don't think like the family thing that's just 237 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:51,760 Speaker 1: gonna come with the confidence of you dealing with these 238 00:14:51,800 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: other things. Okay, your family not being not talking about 239 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:01,400 Speaker 1: emotional things and being portive and you being a game warden. 240 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 1: Is I'm gonna make that irrelevant to this conversation because 241 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: you're gonna do this no matter what. You don't need 242 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 1: their emotional and verbal support. You don't need that unless 243 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:19,200 Speaker 1: you're six years old. You're not the struggling with being 244 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 1: single part. Okay, I'm gonna put I'm gonna put that 245 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 1: in the category of the game warden thing too, and 246 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, I'm gonna say, let's nail down this 247 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: job thing because we got to We can't deal with 248 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 1: the single thing first until we get the job thing 249 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:40,400 Speaker 1: figured out, because this is gonna give you a lot 250 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: of confidence as you start stepping into your own into 251 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 1: this field. Okay. And then lastly, the fourth thing, and 252 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 1: the most important thing is your relationship with God. And 253 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: that's kind of came out of this email, just completely 254 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 1: out of the blue. On top of that, I'm trying 255 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 1: to build my relationship with God and Christ better. That's 256 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: exactly what you typed. I don't know how many episodes 257 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: in a row I've gone down this same route, and 258 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: I'll do it again. When someone says to me, I'm 259 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: trying to build this namely faith or as you say, 260 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 1: relationship with God, I need some advice on how to 261 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 1: do that. Typically every Monday, every podcast I reference this, 262 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 1: I say this, replace that word faith or God. In 263 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 1: your case, it's God building a relationship. Replace that with 264 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: anything else in life. For instance, Granger I'm trying to 265 00:16:55,720 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 1: build a rock wall in my backyard. Can you help 266 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: me with this? Right? All we did was change rock 267 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:10,399 Speaker 1: wall for relationship with God. I would say, what are 268 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:13,120 Speaker 1: you doing? Tell me first, let's get it. Let's get 269 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 1: a base level here, right. What are you doing first 270 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:21,000 Speaker 1: with this rock wall? Granger? I'm trying to build a 271 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 1: rock wall in my backyard and I need some advice. 272 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:28,639 Speaker 1: You say, I'm trying to build. You didn't say eventually 273 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: I want to build, or tomorrow I'm going to start building. 274 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:35,080 Speaker 1: You say, I'm currently. That's what that word trying means. 275 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:40,639 Speaker 1: I'm trying to build a relationship with God. Change that. 276 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:44,000 Speaker 1: I'm trying to build a rock wall in my backyard. 277 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: Can you give me some advice? I say, tell me 278 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 1: your base level. What are you doing right now? You say, well, first, 279 00:17:53,200 --> 00:18:00,320 Speaker 1: I'm collecting the appropriate sized rocks, am my good? Okay. 280 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:04,480 Speaker 1: Then I'm gonna stack the rocks in order of how 281 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:07,600 Speaker 1: they're going to stack on the wall themselves. Cool. Then 282 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:11,639 Speaker 1: I'm gonna measure the the height that I want to 283 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,280 Speaker 1: go to and do some quick math to make sure 284 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 1: I have enough rocks. Cool. Then I am going to 285 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 1: set the ground level and make sure we're level and 286 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:24,679 Speaker 1: before I start bringing in the mortar, cool, like that 287 00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:27,320 Speaker 1: would be a normal conversation. And I go, okay, here's 288 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 1: now here's a little thing on the mortar thing. I 289 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:31,760 Speaker 1: want to make sure that you get a good water 290 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 1: mix before you start mixing that mud. And do you 291 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:37,439 Speaker 1: have a wheelbarrow? Are you just doing this in a bucket? 292 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:39,399 Speaker 1: Are you gonna do it in the dirt? Right? This 293 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:41,879 Speaker 1: is be a normal conversation on advice on how to 294 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:47,280 Speaker 1: build a rock wall. You tracking, what if you said that? 295 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: What if it went this way? Hey Granger, I'm trying 296 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:52,840 Speaker 1: to build a rock wall in my backyard and need 297 00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 1: some advice and I and I say, cool, tell me 298 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 1: base level. What are you doing? And you go, I 299 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 1: mean nothing, really not really doing anything. I say, okay, 300 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 1: well that is a base level. You're not doing anything, 301 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:14,119 Speaker 1: Like do you have a shovel? Like, yeah, I've got 302 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 1: a shovel. I haven't picked up in a long time. 303 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:21,760 Speaker 1: I think it's in the garage. I'm like, okay, do 304 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 1: you have rocks And you're like, I'm pretty sure my 305 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 1: grandpa used to have rocks, and so I'm pretty sure 306 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: that most of them are still out there. I'm like, okay, 307 00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:38,920 Speaker 1: what about willbarrow? I to be honest, Granger, I've never 308 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 1: really used a willbarrow. I there might be one behind 309 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 1: the shed, but even if there was, it probably has 310 00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:51,480 Speaker 1: a flat tire. Right, Okay, so that'd be a normal conversation. 311 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:54,359 Speaker 1: Let's switch it to God and answer your God question. 312 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:58,119 Speaker 1: And in the same way, Granger, here's your exact question. 313 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:04,159 Speaker 1: I'm trying to build my relationship with God. What is 314 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,159 Speaker 1: some advice? So then I say what are you doing? 315 00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 1: I'll start there, and ultimately, the beginning of that should 316 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:16,720 Speaker 1: always start with Instead of rocks, it starts with surrender. 317 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 1: I've come to a point of complete surrender. God. I 318 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:27,560 Speaker 1: need you, I need your help. I'm hungry to learn 319 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:31,879 Speaker 1: more about you. There's something missing in me, and I 320 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:35,200 Speaker 1: hear on this podcast that there is an answer with you, 321 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,360 Speaker 1: and I want you to show that to me. I'm 322 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 1: gonna give up trying everything else around me. Worldly, I'm 323 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:46,320 Speaker 1: gonna completely open my hands, open my palms upward, and 324 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 1: say come into my life and just re rework everything. Right. 325 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,480 Speaker 1: That's a good start. And then I say, okay, great, 326 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 1: do you have a Bible? And you're like, yeah, I 327 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 1: think so. It's out in the ground, it's dusty, and 328 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,680 Speaker 1: I say, let's get a reading plan going. It's got 329 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 1: a solid reading plan where you're waking up in the 330 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:09,480 Speaker 1: morning every day and you're getting up early and you're 331 00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 1: opening up that Bible and you're getting a hot cup 332 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 1: of coffee before the sun comes up, and you go, Hey, 333 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 1: here we go. This is where I left off from yesterday. 334 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 1: Here I'm coming on to Matthew chapter three. I read 335 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 1: two yesterday. I'm gonna read three today and I read 336 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:27,360 Speaker 1: four tomorrow, and I'm gonna really start working through this 337 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:30,600 Speaker 1: and reading. And if I don't understand it, I'm gonna 338 00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: google something or I'm gonna YouTube something to try to 339 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:36,480 Speaker 1: understand it better. And then I'm gonna get plugged in 340 00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:38,720 Speaker 1: with a local church. Do you have a local church. 341 00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:44,120 Speaker 1: Grandpa used to go to one, but I'm not sure 342 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:48,000 Speaker 1: where it is. Maybe maybe I could go and figure 343 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,400 Speaker 1: it out and see what Grandpa did there, and get 344 00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: plugged in and maybe meet the pastor and just be 345 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: vulnerable and just tell them, Hey, I'm Nathan from southern 346 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 1: Illinois and I'm just not really used to going to 347 00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 1: church and this is all new to me. But I'm 348 00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:06,920 Speaker 1: hungry for it and I'd like to start learning. Can 349 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:09,360 Speaker 1: you tell me where to start? And the Pastor's like absolutely, 350 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:11,959 Speaker 1: what are you interested in? And let's get you plugged 351 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: in and let me introduce you to a couple of 352 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 1: people and services at nine am on Sunday. You think 353 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 1: you can come and you're like, yeah, do I have 354 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 1: to get dressed up? And he's like, no, man, you 355 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:23,640 Speaker 1: just come. Come in your boots and your jeans. I'd 356 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 1: be just fine and bring that. You got a Bible 357 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 1: and you're like, yeah, I actually I just dusted it off. 358 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,280 Speaker 1: I started to reading. I'm in Matthew three and he's like, great, 359 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:34,720 Speaker 1: bring it with you. I'll talk about it. And he's 360 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 1: like you might have to pray with you real quick. 361 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:40,280 Speaker 1: And you're like, yeah, yeah, I'd like that very much. 362 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: Does that sound Does that sound right to you? That 363 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 1: seems I mean, it's not complicated. It's like building a 364 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:56,080 Speaker 1: brick wall. What do you do you start with the rocks? 365 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 1: Building anything? On a less important matter, the game warden thing. 366 00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:13,439 Speaker 1: Could I just point out that it sounds like you 367 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:17,680 Speaker 1: have other things that are distracting you from jumping into 368 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:21,920 Speaker 1: something like this, the family issue, the god issue, to 369 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,960 Speaker 1: being single and not content issue is kind of bleeding 370 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 1: over into the search and for the new job issue. 371 00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:33,400 Speaker 1: And it sounds like you're in a season of restlessness 372 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 1: right now. There's just kind of there's a stirring going 373 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: on within you. And I don't think that's a bad thing. 374 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:42,520 Speaker 1: Sometimes we think when the wind blows outside that it's 375 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: a bad thing. Oh man, it's windy today. Hey, I 376 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 1: like it when it's a windy day stirring things. It's 377 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,400 Speaker 1: knocking those dead branches way at the top of the tree, 378 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 1: it's knocking that stuff out. It's cleaning things up a 379 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,400 Speaker 1: little bit. While that dust on the sidewalk, it's blown 380 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:03,000 Speaker 1: it off, cleaning it up a little bit. It's good 381 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: to have a stirring in your life. I think you're 382 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,440 Speaker 1: going through a stirring season and I would lean into 383 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:12,200 Speaker 1: it and not run away from it. 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I 476 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,239 Speaker 1: ask that you don't make it longer than like a 477 00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,719 Speaker 1: phone link, and that you don't send the same email 478 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:24,600 Speaker 1: twice it just gets deleted. Nothing than that free reign. 479 00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,240 Speaker 1: Ask me anything you want. Could be about any subject. 480 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,480 Speaker 1: Here's one right now. Subject line says songwriting. Hey Granger, 481 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 1: I live in Chilliwack, British Columbia. I've been a huge 482 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,120 Speaker 1: fan of your music for years. I don't have a 483 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: favorite song of yours because I love so many of them. 484 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:40,680 Speaker 1: I've been thinking about writing my own music, but I'm 485 00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:44,680 Speaker 1: not sure where to start. Could you help me. I 486 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: would have really appreciated. This comes from Lincoln. He's fifteen 487 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:53,240 Speaker 1: years old. Lincoln, thank you brother. Okay, Yeah, the first 488 00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,840 Speaker 1: thing in songwriting that I would say the first piece 489 00:29:55,880 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 1: of advice is learn an instrument, piano, guitar. I say 490 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:06,320 Speaker 1: that twenty twenty three is probably the best time ever 491 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 1: in the history of musical instruments. This is the best 492 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:13,600 Speaker 1: time to learn one. Because of this, this such a 493 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: wide vast accessibility of lessons for free on the internet. 494 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 1: I mean, you can learn how to play guitar from TikTok. 495 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,360 Speaker 1: You can learn how to play guitar easily from YouTube, 496 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,480 Speaker 1: or same with piano, and it's all free. You gotta 497 00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 1: skip through a couple ads every once in a while, 498 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 1: but it's free other than that, and it's just a 499 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 1: really good time to go down to your local music 500 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 1: store or Facebook marketplace or Craigslist or a pawnshop or whatever, 501 00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:45,480 Speaker 1: or your grandmother like I did, and get a little guitar, 502 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:50,640 Speaker 1: get a little keyboard, head some headphones. When you start 503 00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:54,719 Speaker 1: learning an instrument, that will open up the world of songwriting. 504 00:30:55,560 --> 00:31:03,000 Speaker 1: Do that first, learn your way around chords and progressions, 505 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 1: play your favorite songs on the radio. Play your favorite 506 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:09,160 Speaker 1: songs wherever you love to hear them and learn them well, 507 00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:11,800 Speaker 1: learn to sing along with them, and that is the 508 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: first step in understanding the craft of songwriting itself. Next email, 509 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: there is no subject, and the question says, Hey, Grangeer, 510 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,000 Speaker 1: I just discovered your podcast a small while ago find 511 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:33,360 Speaker 1: it very inspiring. My name is Trudy. I'm nineteen and engaged, 512 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:36,840 Speaker 1: and I work in a bakery. I don't feel passionate 513 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: about my work and I have a hard time getting 514 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,760 Speaker 1: up and going to work in the morning. I was 515 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,720 Speaker 1: a high school dropout and my dream is to have 516 00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:47,240 Speaker 1: a job that I feel passionate about. I've applied it 517 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: several places and none have contacted me, even though it's 518 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,880 Speaker 1: been several months. Do you have any advice on how 519 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,800 Speaker 1: to obtain a job that I would like despite me 520 00:31:56,960 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: not having graduated. Look look forward to maybe hearing from you. 521 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 1: Thanks all right, Trudy, thank you for the email, and 522 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:14,200 Speaker 1: thanks for recently discovering the podcast. This high school dropout thing, 523 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:18,160 Speaker 1: it's the thing in the past for you. It's not 524 00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:20,320 Speaker 1: it's not a it's not a roadblock, it's not a 525 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:25,040 Speaker 1: hindrance to you. There's a couple of ways to look 526 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:31,680 Speaker 1: at it. One it sounds like it sounds like you 527 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 1: are mentally held back by this being a dropout thing. 528 00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:46,000 Speaker 1: I would I would counsel you if we're friends, to say, 529 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:50,320 Speaker 1: and we are friends, by the way, to say, because 530 00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:55,200 Speaker 1: of that obstacle in your mind, because you're not because 531 00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 1: you're not coming across in this email saying look, I 532 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,480 Speaker 1: didn't finish high school, but that doesn't matter because I'm 533 00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:04,280 Speaker 1: doing this, this, this, this, this, that's not you. Because that, 534 00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:08,480 Speaker 1: I would say, you're going to pursue a ged online, 535 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:12,680 Speaker 1: You're going to get that diploma online, and you're going 536 00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:15,720 Speaker 1: to continue to work in the bakery while you do it. 537 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:18,880 Speaker 1: You have a good job. A lot of people don't 538 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:22,280 Speaker 1: have a good job. This is this is a secure thing. 539 00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:27,160 Speaker 1: You might not be passionate about it, but that's okay. 540 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,840 Speaker 1: Careers are kind of like relationships in twenty twenty three 541 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 1: as far as when we see things on social media 542 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,040 Speaker 1: and we see influencers talking, and we watch movies and 543 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,600 Speaker 1: we just we see this idea that that there's glamour 544 00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:47,080 Speaker 1: in our career and our career defines us like we 545 00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:51,040 Speaker 1: are what we do and so we should live our 546 00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:54,600 Speaker 1: dreams out and live it vibrantly, because when we do that, 547 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 1: everyone around us will be like, Wow, that person lives vibrantly, 548 00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:03,360 Speaker 1: they have a vibrant job job. They must be a crazy, vibrant, 549 00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:08,120 Speaker 1: crazy person. Wow, so much mad respect for that person. 550 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,440 Speaker 1: And it's all just a mirage. What we do is 551 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:19,600 Speaker 1: not who we are. I don't have to say too 552 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 1: that being a baker is not a bad thing. There 553 00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:27,560 Speaker 1: are some very glamorous bakers out there right Like, being 554 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:30,640 Speaker 1: a baker could be a very well respected job. But 555 00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,880 Speaker 1: that's not your point. You're not passionate about it. My 556 00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:37,040 Speaker 1: point is you don't have to be passionate about your 557 00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:43,160 Speaker 1: job to be a passionate person about life. You don't 558 00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,480 Speaker 1: have to be a passionate person about your job to 559 00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:49,800 Speaker 1: be a passionate person about your life. You just don't. 560 00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:54,200 Speaker 1: It's about doing things with excellence. I tell my kids 561 00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:59,360 Speaker 1: this all the time. Guys, do things with excellence everything 562 00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:03,399 Speaker 1: you do. What if everything that you did from when 563 00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:05,880 Speaker 1: you wake up to when you go to bed was 564 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:11,280 Speaker 1: done with perfection, with excellence, like from brushing your teeth 565 00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:15,799 Speaker 1: to making your bed to taking your shirt off of 566 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:19,200 Speaker 1: your hanger in your closet, and when the hanger pops 567 00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,600 Speaker 1: back up and kind of loops back over the other hanger. 568 00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,680 Speaker 1: You stop and you fix it, and you correct it 569 00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:29,960 Speaker 1: and you line it up. I'm not talking about weird ocd, 570 00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:36,440 Speaker 1: obsessive compulsive. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about 571 00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:40,200 Speaker 1: doing things with excellence so that you could take pride 572 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:45,479 Speaker 1: in those things. And being a baker is a really 573 00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:49,000 Speaker 1: good example of going in in the morning and you 574 00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:53,840 Speaker 1: got your apron on and you got your workspace completely 575 00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,000 Speaker 1: clean in the morning. There's like little crumbs on there, 576 00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,920 Speaker 1: maybe from yesterday, and you clean it off and you 577 00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 1: make that table nice and perfect, and you get everything. 578 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,640 Speaker 1: You get your dough all lined up, and you go 579 00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,719 Speaker 1: to your oven and there's like smudges, there's finger smudges 580 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 1: on the buttons of the oven, and you get you 581 00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 1: get a rag and you get that all wiped off 582 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,799 Speaker 1: and it's just like perfectly crystal clean on the on 583 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:20,160 Speaker 1: the dashboard of the oven right, and you get the 584 00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:24,680 Speaker 1: lights just right, and you get your workspace just perfectly 585 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:27,400 Speaker 1: set up. There's there's something there's a piece of trash 586 00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,359 Speaker 1: crumpled up from somebody else on the floor, and you 587 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,480 Speaker 1: make your way to it and you take that trash 588 00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:34,880 Speaker 1: and you put it in the garbage. And when you 589 00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,520 Speaker 1: go to the garbage it's overflowing a little bit. Too 590 00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:40,319 Speaker 1: many people have stacked up garbage and there's overflowing. And 591 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:44,680 Speaker 1: you take that bag, you wrap it up, tie nod 592 00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,040 Speaker 1: in it, take it out to the alley, throw it 593 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,680 Speaker 1: in the dumpster, come back in and get a fresh bag, 594 00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:51,760 Speaker 1: and you put it in and it kind of wrinkles 595 00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,600 Speaker 1: up on the side. Then you stop and you pause 596 00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:58,799 Speaker 1: and you push those wrinkles down, pull the lid over, 597 00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:03,799 Speaker 1: Slide the trash can over, back to the wall. Go 598 00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:07,879 Speaker 1: back to your workspace. Little crumb has now floated over there. 599 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:11,480 Speaker 1: You brush it off. You guys might think I'm crazy. 600 00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:15,879 Speaker 1: You think I'm crazy, But if you've never tried this, 601 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:20,319 Speaker 1: trying to live in excellence, if you've never tried this, 602 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,960 Speaker 1: that does something to you. And I'm preaching to myself too, 603 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,279 Speaker 1: guys like live I don't live life like this, But 604 00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:30,200 Speaker 1: when I think about it and I try to be 605 00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:33,120 Speaker 1: present in the moment, it's going to really help you 606 00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:37,400 Speaker 1: to go. You know what, I'm not passionate about being 607 00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:43,839 Speaker 1: in a bakery until I started taking pride of being 608 00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 1: in the bakery and I started treating every moment with 609 00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:53,160 Speaker 1: excellence in the bakery, and it changed me, and it 610 00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:56,560 Speaker 1: changed the way the perception around me was. And my 611 00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:02,839 Speaker 1: boss quickly noticed it. And it just spills over into 612 00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:04,279 Speaker 1: everything in your life. And then you get you go 613 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:07,080 Speaker 1: outside and you get into your car and there's stuff 614 00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,239 Speaker 1: on your floorboard, and you clean it up. Stop at 615 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:13,359 Speaker 1: the gas station, throw it in the trash right there, 616 00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:19,040 Speaker 1: wipe off your dashboard. I'm telling y'all that living a 617 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:23,879 Speaker 1: life like a monk or a navy seal or an 618 00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:29,080 Speaker 1: army general, if you try that, It's crazy how you 619 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:32,440 Speaker 1: could take something that could be mundane, like working in 620 00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:35,319 Speaker 1: a bakery, and all of a sudden becomes something that's 621 00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:41,200 Speaker 1: a work of art. Living life like an artist like 622 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:45,000 Speaker 1: a work of art. I went way too long on this, 623 00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,320 Speaker 1: but I think it's important for a lot of things. 624 00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:53,280 Speaker 1: And meanwhile, while you're doing that, okay, you're you're going 625 00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:58,560 Speaker 1: home and online, you're pursuing a GED. You might not 626 00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:02,400 Speaker 1: even use that get you're a high school dropout until 627 00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,239 Speaker 1: you get that GED, and then you could erase that. 628 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:10,840 Speaker 1: If anyone else is that's listening, that's no big deal. 629 00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:14,759 Speaker 1: But it's a big deal to Trudy. Trudy brought it up. 630 00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:17,080 Speaker 1: That's why I'm dealing with it. Okay, if it's not 631 00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:18,520 Speaker 1: a big deal to you, and you're in a high 632 00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:22,960 Speaker 1: school dropout, no sweat. But it's a big deal of Trudy. 633 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:28,040 Speaker 1: So I want to help wipe that slate clean so 634 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,520 Speaker 1: that Trudy could then move on and go. I'm no 635 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:33,840 Speaker 1: longer a high school dropout. I'm now a ged graduate 636 00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,400 Speaker 1: and I also work at a bakery and I'm starting 637 00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:47,240 Speaker 1: to really love it. Let's take another question. Hey, Grangdeer, 638 00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:54,520 Speaker 1: I'm a listener from Virginia. I love how I love 639 00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,520 Speaker 1: how you talk on this podcast. How do you know 640 00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,760 Speaker 1: God is talking to you because I'm trying to figure 641 00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:02,839 Speaker 1: out what to do with my life and I have 642 00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:05,240 Speaker 1: no clue what to do. I'm a I'm a college 643 00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:10,560 Speaker 1: student taking general education. Have you talked about this before? 644 00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:13,520 Speaker 1: What does your advice? Have a good day. Let me 645 00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,120 Speaker 1: go back to this. This comes from Patrick and it 646 00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:20,560 Speaker 1: says Patrick's from Virginia and his question is, how do 647 00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,840 Speaker 1: you know God is talking to you? Because I'm trying 648 00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,640 Speaker 1: to figure out what to do with my life and 649 00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,720 Speaker 1: I have no clue what to do. I'm a college 650 00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:32,040 Speaker 1: student taking general education. All right. First of all, Patrick, 651 00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:38,000 Speaker 1: it's not You're not in a weird position. You're not alone. 652 00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:45,680 Speaker 1: You're early on in college taking general ed. In my 653 00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:48,800 Speaker 1: school we call it general studies, and you don't know 654 00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:53,400 Speaker 1: what you want to do with life. Okay, Then that 655 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:57,080 Speaker 1: means you're normal. That means you're a normal college student. 656 00:40:57,080 --> 00:41:00,399 Speaker 1: Because if any college student tells me right now, hey, 657 00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:03,800 Speaker 1: I'm a freshman in college and I'm one thousand percent 658 00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:07,120 Speaker 1: this is what I'm going to do this field, I'm like, well, 659 00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,640 Speaker 1: that's rare. That's interesting that you say that, and that's rare. 660 00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:17,520 Speaker 1: So Patrick, you're normal. So no worries there. I do 661 00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,160 Speaker 1: think you don't need to ask me. How do you 662 00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: know God is talking to you Because you're trying to 663 00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:24,880 Speaker 1: figure out what to do with your life. That's not 664 00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:34,120 Speaker 1: you're over way over spiritualizing something. That's just you just 665 00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:36,920 Speaker 1: need to grow up. And I don't mean that in 666 00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:38,680 Speaker 1: a bad way. You just need to let some years 667 00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:40,960 Speaker 1: need to go buy, some experiences need to happen to you, 668 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,040 Speaker 1: and you'll meet some people that you're passionate about. You'll 669 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,279 Speaker 1: see what they do and you'll go, Wow, I've never 670 00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,799 Speaker 1: even knew this kind of job existed until I met 671 00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:50,520 Speaker 1: so and so that was a friend of so and so, 672 00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:52,520 Speaker 1: and then I saw what they did, and it's a 673 00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:54,560 Speaker 1: really cool thing, and it's a really cool job, and 674 00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:56,920 Speaker 1: that interests me, and I can get that kind of 675 00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:59,520 Speaker 1: I could pursue that kind of degree. And like those 676 00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:02,719 Speaker 1: are things, it just happened in life. It just happens. 677 00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,799 Speaker 1: And you don't have to sit here and go, how 678 00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,000 Speaker 1: do you know God's talking to you? So we could 679 00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:10,960 Speaker 1: tell me what job to take and what major to 680 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:15,920 Speaker 1: pursue in college. Instead of worrying about how God is 681 00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:20,560 Speaker 1: talking to you, I can tell you this. Did you 682 00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:26,240 Speaker 1: know that God wrote a book. It's called the Bible. 683 00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:36,080 Speaker 1: It's inspired Every word is inspired by God himself, through 684 00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:42,160 Speaker 1: sixty six different books, through over forty different authors, through 685 00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:48,400 Speaker 1: thousands of years of time. A massive redemption story that 686 00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:55,239 Speaker 1: God wove like a beautiful tapestry, and through that his 687 00:42:55,440 --> 00:43:00,360 Speaker 1: active word he speaks. He spoke life. He could tews 688 00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:07,040 Speaker 1: to speak life, and when we read it, we could 689 00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:12,440 Speaker 1: know what God is saying. That's crazy, but it also 690 00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,399 Speaker 1: directly answers your question, how do you know that God 691 00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:19,200 Speaker 1: is talking to you? I know personally when I open 692 00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:28,879 Speaker 1: up my Bible. That's how I know for sure. Next question, 693 00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:32,640 Speaker 1: subject CLIENTE says girl issues. Hey Granger, I am from 694 00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,719 Speaker 1: Wyoming and I recently moved to Utah for school. I 695 00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:40,280 Speaker 1: met these two awesome girls, and since I like them both, 696 00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:43,959 Speaker 1: I know that sounds bad. I text both of them 697 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:47,280 Speaker 1: daily and I find myself laughing at both their text 698 00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,120 Speaker 1: I've taken both of them on dates, and I have 699 00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:53,040 Speaker 1: fun with both of them. I know it's not fair 700 00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:54,839 Speaker 1: to them to keep doing this. Do you have any 701 00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:59,000 Speaker 1: advice on what to do? Thanks? Question comes from Brennan 702 00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:07,800 Speaker 1: from Wyoming, a new transplant to Utah dating two girls simultaneously. Brennan, 703 00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:15,560 Speaker 1: you crazy man, you wild man. Okay, me and you 704 00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:18,400 Speaker 1: ride in the cab of a truck. You bring this up, Pey, Granger, 705 00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:22,720 Speaker 1: got a problem. I like two girls equally. I text 706 00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:26,440 Speaker 1: both of them, I date both of them. We have fun, 707 00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,880 Speaker 1: and so right now you just tell me that I'm like, Well, Brennan, 708 00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:37,360 Speaker 1: so far, there's not a problem. Shocking. I know that 709 00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:39,960 Speaker 1: might be shocking to some of y'all. It's not a 710 00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:43,000 Speaker 1: problem until you start taking it to the next level. Now, 711 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:49,160 Speaker 1: there's no problem with a guy going out and meeting 712 00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:54,760 Speaker 1: girls and engaging with them and laughing with them and 713 00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:59,239 Speaker 1: learning the opposite sex. In some sense, the problem is 714 00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:03,520 Speaker 1: when you start getting intimate, maybe you kiss one of them, 715 00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,239 Speaker 1: maybe you say some things to one of them, like 716 00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:11,560 Speaker 1: I really like you. I could see this going someplace. 717 00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:16,719 Speaker 1: I want to be exclusive with you. I could tell 718 00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,239 Speaker 1: you things that I can't tell other people, all the 719 00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:24,080 Speaker 1: silly things that get said during infatuation moments. When that begins, 720 00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:29,719 Speaker 1: that's a problem. I don't know necessarily if this has 721 00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:39,399 Speaker 1: happened yet. Something tells me it hasn't yet. All you've 722 00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:43,200 Speaker 1: said is you like them both, you text them both daily, 723 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,839 Speaker 1: you laugh at both of them, and you've taken them 724 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:51,360 Speaker 1: both on dates. What it does mean, here's what it 725 00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:55,120 Speaker 1: does mean. I'm just like process of elimination from the 726 00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:58,160 Speaker 1: little information that I know. What it does mean is 727 00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:01,720 Speaker 1: that neither one of them are grabbing your attention enough 728 00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,840 Speaker 1: to block out the other one, and you got to 729 00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:09,560 Speaker 1: admit one of them should. Right, If you're in a 730 00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:12,239 Speaker 1: situation where you like two girls at the same time, 731 00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,239 Speaker 1: and you text both of them, and you're dating both 732 00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:17,319 Speaker 1: of them, and you're wondering which one to go with 733 00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:22,160 Speaker 1: the answer is always neither, because neither one of them 734 00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:25,040 Speaker 1: are gaining your attention enough to block out the other one, 735 00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:33,640 Speaker 1: meaning neither of them are good enough. But it could 736 00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:38,080 Speaker 1: develop over time with one if you have an honest conversation. 737 00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:42,960 Speaker 1: So it's gonna come down to an honest conversation whenever 738 00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,040 Speaker 1: it starts increasing. You don't have to do it now. 739 00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:46,840 Speaker 1: It's just only when this starts to get to the 740 00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:51,400 Speaker 1: level of intimacy or saying saying nice little sweet things 741 00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:54,400 Speaker 1: late at night on the telephone. When it gets to 742 00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:57,520 Speaker 1: that point, it's like, uh, oh, I need to be 743 00:46:57,680 --> 00:47:03,560 Speaker 1: completely clear and say, I'm also seeing another girl named 744 00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,359 Speaker 1: Sarah and we're kind of we've been on a couple 745 00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,560 Speaker 1: of dates and I text her too. I don't think 746 00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:12,560 Speaker 1: that's gonna go over too well. I'm just saying. And 747 00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,239 Speaker 1: if you think it's not going to go over too well, 748 00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:19,000 Speaker 1: that's a red flag that you've gone too far. If 749 00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:23,359 Speaker 1: you can confidently say I've been seeing this girl kind 750 00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:26,680 Speaker 1: of going out and uh, I text her too, same 751 00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:28,480 Speaker 1: as I do with you, If you could say that 752 00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:31,520 Speaker 1: in some kind of situation where there's when they're like, 753 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:35,279 Speaker 1: oh cool, well, actually okay, Okay, here's I just thought 754 00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:39,440 Speaker 1: of this. Here's another example. If you say that in 755 00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:43,279 Speaker 1: a casual setting and they say, oh, yeah, well there's 756 00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:45,799 Speaker 1: this guy named Mark. I actually have been kind of 757 00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:48,359 Speaker 1: seeing this guy named Mark too and texting and so yeah, 758 00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,560 Speaker 1: no big deal. How does that make you feel? That's 759 00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:54,279 Speaker 1: a that's a good test if you're if you're like, 760 00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:57,239 Speaker 1: start burning up inside, You're like, who's Mark? What do 761 00:47:57,320 --> 00:48:02,120 Speaker 1: you mean Mark? That there's a problem. What if both 762 00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:04,640 Speaker 1: of them did? What if does one of them? Would 763 00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,160 Speaker 1: one of them have that effect on you and not 764 00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:08,400 Speaker 1: the other one? Like if one of them was seeing 765 00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:12,399 Speaker 1: Mark and messaged you about that, would you be more 766 00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:14,200 Speaker 1: mad than you would with the other one? Or is 767 00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:19,440 Speaker 1: it equal? Regardless? Buddy, this is just this is heading. 768 00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:22,719 Speaker 1: This is heading to a very messy place. It might 769 00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:25,360 Speaker 1: not be there yet, but it could be heading towards 770 00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:29,920 Speaker 1: a messy situation unless right now you start opening up, 771 00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:34,080 Speaker 1: or your other option is cut it off with one immediately, 772 00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,600 Speaker 1: Like you go to the one and you say, I 773 00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,759 Speaker 1: need to tell you that I actually started dating a 774 00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:46,960 Speaker 1: girl and it's only fair to her and you that 775 00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:50,120 Speaker 1: I don't text you anymore because I think it's inappropriate 776 00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:56,600 Speaker 1: to be dating a girl and texting another one. It's 777 00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:59,320 Speaker 1: not an easy thing, but you've kind of gotten yourself 778 00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:03,680 Speaker 1: in a little bit sticky situation, and I think I 779 00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:06,240 Speaker 1: just want to say again that I think generally speaking, 780 00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:10,319 Speaker 1: it's not a bad idea that you got here. You 781 00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:13,320 Speaker 1: just need to know where this is going. You're driving 782 00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:17,120 Speaker 1: your car potentially towards a bridge that is out and 783 00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,880 Speaker 1: so it's it's going to be time to take the detour. 784 00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:22,080 Speaker 1: But you don't want to get to the point when 785 00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,640 Speaker 1: the road to the detour is no longer available and 786 00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,279 Speaker 1: you have to hit the bridge. Okay, so right now 787 00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,640 Speaker 1: you see a potential problem. It's time to get old 788 00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:38,080 Speaker 1: maps out here and reroute. Okay. I appreciate you guys, 789 00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:40,440 Speaker 1: and if you have any edit question for me, email 790 00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:43,799 Speaker 1: me Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com and we'll see 791 00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:47,080 Speaker 1: you next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. 792 00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:49,600 Speaker 1: I appreciate all of you guys. You could help me 793 00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:53,240 Speaker 1: out by rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, 794 00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:56,719 Speaker 1: subscribe to this channel, hit that little like button and 795 00:49:56,880 --> 00:50:00,600 Speaker 1: notification spell so that you never miss anytime I upload 796 00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,080 Speaker 1: a video. 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