WEBVTT - A Lesson in Confidence 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:14.280 Hello, everyone, my beautiful people. Welcome to this week's episode 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:18.200 of Cheeky's and Chill. I hope that you guys are 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:21.720 having an amazing week, a productive week, a safe week. 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:27.320 I want to talk today about something that came up 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:30.960 in one of my workouts. I was on the treadmill 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:34.800 and I was thinking about confidence, and I was actually 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:39.239 on Instagram and I was noticing a few things, and 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:40.920 so I thought, I'm going to talk about this on 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:43.600 the podcast. So today we're going to talk about confidence 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:46.560 and godfidence, Okay, And I'm going to tell you guys 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:52.480 what I think they both are and my definition of confidence. 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:57.560 So I'm going to make this short and sweet because 0:00:57.560 --> 0:01:00.800 I feel that that's what just you know, you know, 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:02.160 I don't want to make it too long. I don't 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:08.039 want to over explain. But basically, I heard this word 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:14.200 godfidence years ago. I would listen to a lady called 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:19.800 Joyce Meyer, and she is a preacher and I love 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:22.720 her books, and I would listen to she had like 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:27.200 an app and she used the word godfidence, and I 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:29.520 wanted to share it with you guys because I feel 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:34.640 now more than ever, a lot of people feel that 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:40.360 confidence is more to do with our outer abilities versus 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:44.400 our inner abilities. And for me, that's what godfidence is. Okay, Again, 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:47.319 it's not about me trying to preach to you or 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:50.280 shove religion down your throat, because that's not what it is. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:53.320 You guys know that I'm a spiritual person. So whether 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:56.240 you want to call the higher power God, or you 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:58.680 want to call it the universe, or whatever it is 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:02.080 that you believe in, I truly believe that there is 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.600 a higher power, something a lot stronger, a lot more 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:09.440 powerful than myself, which is what I submit to every day, 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:11.800 and which is why I get on my knees and 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:14.120 I just kind of humble myself before this higher power. 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:16.040 You can call it whatever you want. I like to 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.840 call it God. So that's why I say godfidence because 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:22.560 godfidence is more to do with our inner abilities versus 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:27.400 our outer abilities. Okay. Now, on social media, I see 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:36.280 a lot people that feel confident with their bodies, maybe 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:40.480 with saying I'm confident because I can wear this, or 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:42.839 I have this nice booty in this small little waist 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:46.119 and these big muscles, or I have this amazing car, 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:50.000 this Lamborghini or this burken bag or all of these 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:55.880 materialistic abilities or things that you have accomplished, and that's 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:59.480 what gives certain people the confidence to the outer world. 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:03.640 But I've learned, and of course I'm not gonna say 0:03:03.680 --> 0:03:06.160 any names, but I've learned that I've seen a lot 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:10.560 of beautiful and handsome people. But then you sit down 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.600 and you speak to them, and they don't know who 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:18.200 they are. They have no idea where they're going. They 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:21.400 are living day by day, which might be great, but 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.160 they have no substance. You speak to them and it's 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:27.120 like an empty shell of just beauty and muscles. And 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:31.280 they have these flashy things on and they have this 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.440 very expensive purse, and they drive this amazing car, and 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:40.040 they have these great positions. But I learn nothing from them. 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:45.600 And that's okay. But to me, I feel like confidence 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:47.240 has to do with knowing who you are. And I'm 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:50.000 telling you, guys, it's because I learned this a while back, 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:53.560 literally two years ago. This came with a lot of 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:57.680 time and experiences and a lot of falling on my face. 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.760 For a long time, I thought I was confident. I 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:05.760 think I was being confident because that's what I thought 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.440 I had to do, you know, and show the world 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.840 that I'm confident in this way, but literally I learned 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:15.760 what confidence is like two years ago when I lost 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:18.599 the fear of what people are gonna think of me. 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.440 I've always felt peace with who I am and I 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:23.159 would go to sleep and you know how they say, 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:27.200 like you know at night the miss Quilla, you go 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:30.640 to sleep feeling peaceful. I have felt that, but I 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:35.760 was like, I learned my purpose, And that's what godfidence 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:39.400 is about, is really really trusting and knowing your inner abilities, 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:43.640 your morals, your values, and that gives you this confidence 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:48.160 of even if they were to take away everything I've 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:52.880 earned and I've accomplished in the exterior world, I would steal. 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.600 And I'm telling you this with my heart in my hand, 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:58.320 and I am not saying that this is what I want. 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:01.960 But I'm so confident and who I am within myself 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:03.920 and what I think and what I have to bring 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:07.000 to this world. I know my purpose. Then now I 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:10.000 walk differently that now, if they were to take away 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.320 my career, or they were to take away my home, 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:15.520 or I were to just lose everything, I'd say, Okay, 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:19.919 I have the abilities here and here to rebuild myself. 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.880 If I need to go sell oranges, and I say 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:26.040 this in my book. You better believe that I will 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:27.880 sell the best oranges and I will make the best 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:32.000 orange juice out there, like I will find a way 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.359 to rebuild myself because I have so much faith in 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:37.440 the higher power and in my innerabilities that that is 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.480 only that is God given that no one can take 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:44.080 that away from me. That it's giving me this different 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:46.920 confidence to the exterior world where like Cheek's you are 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:50.160 glowing differently. I'm like, yeah, because I know myself. Now, 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:55.560 now I know myself, I might unapologetically I myself. This 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:58.719 is who I am. I like myself. I really love 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:01.800 myself more than loving myself. I like who I am. 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:06.839 I like who I am inside that even if I 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.720 gain weight, because it has nothing to do because people think, oh, 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.159 does it have to do with the media, or like, yes, 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:12.880 I have a great guy in my life, and yes, 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.760 he helps me feel better because he gives me peace, 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:20.320 because he reassures me, he values me. That definitely helps. 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.880 But even with that, I had to learn to love 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:27.279 myself in order for him to see that in value 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.080 that in me, and that took a long time. That 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:35.000 took time and experiences and a lot of kissing frogs 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:37.440 to get to my prints. So yes, it has to 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.320 do with that. And yes it has to do with 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:41.960 the fact that I've lost weight because that makes me 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.720 feel better. That makes you feel better, absolutely, But I 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:48.679 know myself. In order to find your way in this world, 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:52.280 you need to learn your who, Who are you? What's 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:55.120 your purpose? It doesn't have to be my purpose. I 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:58.040 feel like my purpose is thank goodness, I have this platform. 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:04.640 I'm able to share my experiences and be completely honest 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:07.839 and hopefully change lives through my books, through my music, 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:10.280 through my podcast. But it doesn't even have to be 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:14.239 on that scale. It could be in your workplace, whatever 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:17.320 it may be. It's what is your purpose? Why are 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:19.480 you here? What difference do you want to make in 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:36.840 the world. Another part of finding your godfidence, your true 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:42.880 inner confidence, you guys, is service. Being of service. That's 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:46.520 part of having purpose in life is being of service 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:50.760 to others. Yes, loving self care, self love, we're all 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.920 about that on this podcast. But it's also that's for 0:07:53.960 --> 0:07:55.800 you to be aligned, for you to feel good in 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:57.880 order to give your best right, but being of service 0:07:57.880 --> 0:08:03.160 to someone gives you this different feeling of Also, it's 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:06.480 part of your purpose. It's part of feeling confident. So 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:07.960 that's why I wanted to talk about that because I 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.360 feel like it's getting lost and it worries me for 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:14.920 future generations to come. It's the substance is being lost 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:19.320 on social media. People don't want to read anymore. Like 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:24.160 people want instant gratification. There's no like looking at longevity. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:27.840 Everyone wants everything quick. The attention span is getting shorter 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:30.200 and shorter and shorter. And I see it, I see it, 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:36.240 I experience it, and everyone is just fluffed. And I 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.880 felt the need to talk about this once again. I 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:42.679 was on the treadmill and I was thinking, and I 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:45.199 read and I listen to books, and I was just like, dude, 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:46.920 this is something that I got to talk about. Like 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:50.480 so many people are lost in just the fluff and 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:54.280 the plush of life. And granted, I like pretty things. 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.480 I like things that bling. Everything right now is they 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:59.480 amanthas and blinging, But there's so much more to that 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:02.400 than just what the eye, what the eye sees, or 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:05.520 what the eye means. It's it's like I don't want 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:09.080 the substance to be lost, Like because once that beautiful 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:13.160 body's gone and those big muscles and what if God 0:09:13.240 --> 0:09:16.800 forbid you lose your car or something like. You can't 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:21.040 let those things define you because those things can be 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:25.560 taking away from you. It's really working on your inner 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:31.880 self that is going to take you further. And that's 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:35.360 one thing that I talk about with Emilia all the time. 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.640 I'm like, Okay, are you gonna love me even though 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:41.600 if I if I gain weight or I start getting wrinkles, 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:44.559 and you know, like, because I'm seven years older than him, 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.120 so we have these conversations, I still feel vulnerable. I 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:51.679 still feel insecure sometimes, and he said yes, because I'm 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:53.640 in love with the human being that you are, with 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:56.840 your soul. And that's what I want to always cater to, 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:59.640 is my soul and working on that and learning to 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:03.120 be the best version of myself. And I have ugly 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:05.240 days too, you guys, I have days where I'm not 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:07.880 the best version of myself. But at least now I 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:11.120 have the balls and the confidence and I'm unapologetically myself 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:13.320 to say, you know what, I'm sorry. I was messed 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:16.040 up and I hurt your feelings and I apologize. That's 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.679 all part of maturing and really loving who you are, 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:21.439 flaws and all. And that made me feel good when 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:22.719 he told me that. And of course, I mean, I'm 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:24.120 sure he's not gonna be like, oh yeah, I'm gonna 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:25.840 let you go and you like gain fifty pounds. You know. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.240 I don't know, but I'm like, well, at least he knows, 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:32.000 he sees me for me, he sees beyond everything else, 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.160 because we don't know what's going to happen tomorrow, you guys, 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:39.120 we don't know. Literally, the whole pandemic came and I 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:41.880 think a lot of people forgot about that. The pandemic 0:10:41.920 --> 0:10:43.760 came and scared the shit out of all of us, 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:46.040 and we were like, what's going to happen? And everyone 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:48.680 was stuck at home, and like life has definitely changed 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:53.040 since then. But I feel like I don't I don't know, 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.240 Like I don't want people to lose the meaning of life, 0:10:57.240 --> 0:11:00.240 like just to live, live to live and live to 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:03.440 get things and buy things and show off, just to 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:06.280 show off. And it's like who are you, Like what 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:09.959 are you bringing to the world, Like what how are 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:13.000 you of being of service to the world, helping the 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:17.760 better good, you know, like the bigger picture. And I'm 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:21.280 honestly concerned, And I talk I was talking to my 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:22.839 sister about it too, and I'm like, you know, and 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:26.000 we have to like do our best to raise my 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:28.200 nieces and nephews in the best way possible and talk 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:29.880 to them about these things so that they don't get 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:34.240 lost in that, because that's all we see now, that's 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:37.040 what show. That is what's shoved down our throat every 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:40.320 single day. And it's not to say that you can't 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:43.440 be an amazing human being and helping the world and 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:47.080 have nice things. Absolutely, that's awesome. That's amazing. I'm not 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:51.280 saying you can't do that. But I have encountered a 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:53.840 lot of like where you think, oh, this this person 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:57.880 is so freaking beautiful on the exterior, but then you 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:00.400 sit down and you speak to them and there's nothing there, 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:05.040 and I'm just like, so it's just kind of like 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:08.120 a fake confidence. Like they just feel confident because they 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:12.040 look good because they have nice things. But do they 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.559 go to sleep and think, am I a good person? 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:17.000 Did I do something good for someone else today? And 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:19.520 that's where gonfidence comes in. You guys are inner abilities 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:22.640 who we are within what is going to last forever 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:28.200 our spirit, our soul, And that's what it is, and 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:31.319 that's what I feel, in my opinion, is real confidence 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.240 is I can honestly go anywhere and look like crap 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.320 on the exterior, and I will walk somewhere with my 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:40.440 head held tied because I know who I am here. 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:44.480 And of course I still have insecurities. Of course, I, 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:46.560 like I said, have bad days. But at the end 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:48.679 of the day, I'm not out here trying to hurt anybody, 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:52.120 trying to up anyone, being an opportunist, an opportunist and 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:55.840 stepping on anyone, trying to hurt anybody, and you know, 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:57.400 to get to where I want to get to know 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.199 because at the end of the day, yeah, maybe I'll 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:01.840 step on this person and get to where I want 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:03.360 to get to, But then how long is that going 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:06.760 to last me. I'd rather take longer to get to 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:10.600 my destination and obtain that one thing I want and 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:13.679 know that it took me longer because I didn't hurt anyone. 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.439 I didn't try to step on anyone, I didn't try 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:18.160 to screw anyone over. And that's what gives me peace 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:19.960 at the end of the day, to say, Okay, I 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:21.800 did good today, did I do something good today? When 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:24.200 I go to sleep, I literally I'm like thank you God, 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.120 did I do something good today? Day I do something 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:30.319 for someone else, and if I didn't, if I had 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:32.040 a bad day, then I'm like, God, I'm so sorry, 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:36.960 Higher power, whatever God for me, it's God. Okay, it's 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.360 not even a anyways. Well get that's a whole other 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:43.199 episode what I think God is. But I'm like, Okay, 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:45.520 today it wasn't my best day and I'm so sorry 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:49.120 I snapped at this person today. I'm gonna apologize tomorrow 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:50.360 or you know what, I'm gonna get on my phone 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:51.840 and I will. I'll be like, you know what, I 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:54.160 recognize that I was at my best self yesterday and 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:57.880 I'm sorry. We're human at the end of the day, 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:00.320 you know. But I feel peace in my life heart 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:05.320 to know I live with good intentions and I walk 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:08.319 around with confidence with my head held high in that way, 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.840 and I shine and I let my little light shine 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:13.840 bright because I know that I am here for a purpose. 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.319 My purpose is to help to inspire, to give hope 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:20.680 where hope has possibly been lost. And that's what just 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:23.480 gives me like the all right, cool, Yes, I went 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:25.400 through this, but it's worth it because I'm gonna be 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:28.040 able to help someone else we have to see outside 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:31.080 of ourselves and that gives you this crazy power you guys, like, 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.920 and that's when people ask me, like, what you are 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:37.000 shining so different? Yeah? I lost weight. Yes I have 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:38.320 a good guy in my life, but you know what, 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:41.200 I lost all fear of what people are gonna think 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:43.840 of what if they're not gonna like me. That's another thing, 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:47.880 you guys. We do things to please other people women, 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:50.760 and I have found myself like I've done this in 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.800 the past where I buy things not necessarily to catch 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:57.240 a guy's attention, but to compete with another woman. And 0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:00.800 I'm like, how much money did I invest on ridiculous 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:02.480 things that I don't even use that are in my 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:05.800 closet collecting dust because I wanted to up this girl 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:08.160 or I wanted to show like, oh I have this, 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:10.520 or oh you have that too, I have it too. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:14.440 It's like so dumb that we do that so much, 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:20.040 and it's it's honestly, it's worth Honestly, it's just it's 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:23.400 a waste of time. Been there, done that. I admitted 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.880 one hundred percent, and I'm so happy to say I'm 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.360 my own competition. I just want to be better than 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:45.520 I was yesterday, and that's it. If there are a 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:48.040 few tips that I can give you, guys, if you 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:49.880 don't know where to start, if you're kind of like, okay, 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:54.120 maybe I am on more of like a superficial type 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:56.680 of confidence right now, and I want to work on 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:59.720 more of my confidence, you know, my inner abilities. I 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:01.760 think what's important is what you feed yourself on a 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:08.320 daily basis, what you listen to, what you watch, who 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:11.480 you follow. There are people that I follow that I 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:14.560 mute because I don't want to be rude, and it's 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.920 like I love that person and I know what they 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:20.880 are in the real world and they're someone completely different 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:23.400 on Instagram that I have to mute them because I'm like, 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:25.200 I love you, but I don't like who you are 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:31.880 on social media. Even that is loving yourself and feeding yourself, 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:34.600 like just choosing I want to feed myself good stuff. 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:36.200 I want to listen to different type of podcasts. I 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:39.280 want to read books that are going to help me. 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:41.440 If you don't want to call it self help because 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:43.600 people are like, oh my god, no, it's like, then 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:45.840 don't call it that. Call a book that's really going 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:47.720 to teach you something. Whatever you want to call that 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:51.520 you know it's listening to certain things what you're watching 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:55.360 on social media. I'm telling you, guys, if you're watching 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:58.240 the wrong things, it will give you so much anxiety. 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:02.280 A lot of the times now I post, I comment 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:06.959 back to a few people, I get out because I 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:10.240 get disappointed a lot on social media with I'm like, damn, 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:13.320 am I really seeing the real thing? Am I? And 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:15.760 I'm like, I just I want to be in real life. 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:18.480 And I've caught myself not posting as much as I 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:22.879 used to. And it's not because I don't want to 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:25.879 or I I mean because I have my companies and 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:27.719 there's certain things that I have to post, but sometimes 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.840 I'm just like I need a break, you know. So 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:35.119 those are small tips of like what you can do. Also, 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:38.040 aligning yourself every day, you know, I tell you guys 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:39.360 all this to all the time. You know, you don't 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.240 have to meditate, because I know meditation is hard, but 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.959 there is guided meditation you guys that will help you 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:47.439 just align yourself to your higher self, to the higher power, 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:51.000 and it just sets the tone of your day. When 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.040 I don't do it, I feel completely different. You can 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:56.720 pray whatever it is that feeds your soul. And makes 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.840 you feel good. Do that so that you can align 0:17:59.840 --> 0:18:02.320 your I think sometimes we're just so caught up in 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:06.479 things that are just superficial and aren't real. You need 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:10.000 a ground. We need to ground ourselves daily. And I'm 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:11.720 telling you this because I have to do it. There 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:13.720 are times when I'm so caught up in the cheekys 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:16.680 world that I'm like, I need a few Jennet Jeanne 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.240 is down here. Let me bring her up and let 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:21.479 me feed her and let me do what's gonna make 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:23.119 her happy, so she helps Cheeky's. And I know it 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:25.359 sounds crazy, but like that's the way I see it. 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:27.280 I'm like, okay, I'm two cheekies. I'm too caught up. 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.080 I'm too caught up, and I have to ground myself 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:32.640 and I have to balance myself. So just always remember 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:36.080 that when you're feeling a little in Las Nubis in 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:38.919 the clouds, go hug a tree. And I know that 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:41.720 sounds crazy, but literally go I'm telling you, literally, go 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:44.200 hug a tree, hug it and be Okay. I'm in 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:47.359 ground myself. I'm here on earth. I am human, I 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:50.280 have responsibilities, but I'm here, Like you have to ground yourself, 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.240 like I literally do that, or I rub my feet together, 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:55.600 or I smell roses, or I touch something that's like 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:59.160 from nature, Like it's just it helps me. So those 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:04.160 are just small things. And just check yourself every day, 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:09.240 you know, I do it. I also get off tracks 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:13.240 sometimes and I'm caught up in things that are necessarily 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:16.720 serving my highest good. And I pray every day and 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:20.960 I ask God. I'm like God, remove and anything or 0:19:21.000 --> 0:19:24.600 anyone that no longer serves my highest good because I 0:19:24.640 --> 0:19:27.359 want to be my best self every day. And there 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:29.600 are times that I entertain relationships that I know that 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:32.320 I shouldn't. Not like a loving relationship like a media 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.359 I'm talking about like a relationship like it could be 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:36.359 a friendship, it could be a business relationship where I'm like, 0:19:36.760 --> 0:19:38.439 I know that this isn't good for me, but I 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:40.639 entertain it for the sake of not hurting their feelings 0:19:40.720 --> 0:19:42.760 or whatever the heck. But it's not necessarily good for me, 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:48.760 and I need to just sometimes give myself a little 0:19:48.760 --> 0:19:51.160 pat on the ass and say, hey, you know better. 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:56.840 You know better, So just know it's a process, definitely 0:19:56.840 --> 0:20:00.640 a process. But if you are intentional about it, and 0:20:00.920 --> 0:20:03.600 you're like, I want to do this, even if it's 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:07.520 a little uncomfortable at first, it'll become a habit. The 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:09.280 more you do it, it becomes a habit, you guys. 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:14.600 So practice makes perfect. So yes, I hope that you 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:18.399 guys understood everything I said and it resonates with you 0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:21.800 in some way, And just don't forget what's important in 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:24.760 this world, what's really important, the things that are going 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:28.760 to leave this earth with you, which is your soul, 0:20:28.920 --> 0:20:31.840 your spirit? What are you going to leave? What footprint 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:33.919 are you going to leave on this earth? What do 0:20:33.960 --> 0:20:37.000 you want people to remember you for? Ask yourself those 0:20:37.080 --> 0:20:40.800 questions and if it is materialistic things and fuck it, 0:20:40.840 --> 0:20:42.480 that's you and that's who you want to be, then 0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:46.160 great own it. But really, no, this is who I 0:20:46.200 --> 0:20:48.040 am and this is what I want the world to 0:20:48.080 --> 0:20:53.200 remember me for. So that was today's episode. You guys, 0:20:53.960 --> 0:20:57.080 thank you for listening. I really felted in my heart 0:20:57.720 --> 0:20:59.800 to talk about this, and again, I hope it helped 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:03.520 some of you to recognize where you're at right now. 0:21:03.840 --> 0:21:08.680 And it's okay if you're caught in the fluff. Been there, 0:21:08.760 --> 0:21:10.760 done that, but we just got to shake it off 0:21:10.760 --> 0:21:14.080 a little bit. I love you, guys. I appreciate you 0:21:14.200 --> 0:21:17.520 very much. Thank you for listening to my podcasts and 0:21:18.359 --> 0:21:20.800 I will catch you on the next episode of Cheeky's 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:31.159 and Chill Let's Get On. This is a production of 0:21:31.240 --> 0:21:36.000 iHeartRadio and Mike podcast Network. 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