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Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, my beautiful people. Welcome to this week's episode

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Speaker 1: of Cheeky's and Chill. I hope that you guys are

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Speaker 1: having an amazing week, a productive week, a safe week.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk today about something that came up

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Speaker 1: in one of my workouts. I was on the treadmill

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Speaker 1: and I was thinking about confidence, and I was actually

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Speaker 1: on Instagram and I was noticing a few things, and

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Speaker 1: so I thought, I'm going to talk about this on

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Speaker 1: the podcast. So today we're going to talk about confidence

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Speaker 1: and godfidence, Okay, And I'm going to tell you guys

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Speaker 1: what I think they both are and my definition of confidence.

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Speaker 1: So I'm going to make this short and sweet because

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Speaker 1: I feel that that's what just you know, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to make it too long. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to over explain. But basically, I heard this word

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Speaker 1: godfidence years ago. I would listen to a lady called

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Speaker 1: Joyce Meyer, and she is a preacher and I love

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Speaker 1: her books, and I would listen to she had like

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Speaker 1: an app and she used the word godfidence, and I

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Speaker 1: wanted to share it with you guys because I feel

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Speaker 1: now more than ever, a lot of people feel that

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Speaker 1: confidence is more to do with our outer abilities versus

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Speaker 1: our inner abilities. And for me, that's what godfidence is. Okay, Again,

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Speaker 1: it's not about me trying to preach to you or

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Speaker 1: shove religion down your throat, because that's not what it is.

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Speaker 1: You guys know that I'm a spiritual person. So whether

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Speaker 1: you want to call the higher power God, or you

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Speaker 1: want to call it the universe, or whatever it is

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Speaker 1: that you believe in, I truly believe that there is

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Speaker 1: a higher power, something a lot stronger, a lot more

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Speaker 1: powerful than myself, which is what I submit to every day,

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Speaker 1: and which is why I get on my knees and

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Speaker 1: I just kind of humble myself before this higher power.

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Speaker 1: You can call it whatever you want. I like to

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Speaker 1: call it God. So that's why I say godfidence because

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Speaker 1: godfidence is more to do with our inner abilities versus

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Speaker 1: our outer abilities. Okay. Now, on social media, I see

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Speaker 1: a lot people that feel confident with their bodies, maybe

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Speaker 1: with saying I'm confident because I can wear this, or

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Speaker 1: and these big muscles, or I have this amazing car,

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Speaker 1: this Lamborghini or this burken bag or all of these

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Speaker 1: materialistic abilities or things that you have accomplished, and that's

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Speaker 1: what gives certain people the confidence to the outer world.

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Speaker 1: But I've learned, and of course I'm not gonna say

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Speaker 1: any names, but I've learned that I've seen a lot

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Speaker 1: of beautiful and handsome people. But then you sit down

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Speaker 1: and you speak to them, and they don't know who

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Speaker 1: they are. They have no idea where they're going. They

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Speaker 1: are living day by day, which might be great, but

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Speaker 1: they have no substance. You speak to them and it's

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Speaker 1: like an empty shell of just beauty and muscles. And

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Speaker 1: they have these flashy things on and they have this

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Speaker 1: very expensive purse, and they drive this amazing car, and

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Speaker 1: they have these great positions. But I learn nothing from them.

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Speaker 1: And that's okay. But to me, I feel like confidence

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Speaker 1: has to do with knowing who you are. And I'm

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Speaker 1: telling you, guys, it's because I learned this a while back,

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Speaker 1: literally two years ago. This came with a lot of

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Speaker 1: time and experiences and a lot of falling on my face.

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Speaker 1: For a long time, I thought I was confident. I

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Speaker 1: think I was being confident because that's what I thought

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Speaker 1: I had to do, you know, and show the world

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Speaker 1: that I'm confident in this way, but literally I learned

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Speaker 1: what confidence is like two years ago when I lost

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Speaker 1: the fear of what people are gonna think of me.

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Speaker 1: I've always felt peace with who I am and I

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Speaker 1: would go to sleep and you know how they say,

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Speaker 1: like you know at night the miss Quilla, you go

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Speaker 1: to sleep feeling peaceful. I have felt that, but I

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Speaker 1: was like, I learned my purpose, And that's what godfidence

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Speaker 1: is about, is really really trusting and knowing your inner abilities,

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Speaker 1: your morals, your values, and that gives you this confidence

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Speaker 1: of even if they were to take away everything I've

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Speaker 1: earned and I've accomplished in the exterior world, I would steal.

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Speaker 1: And I'm telling you this with my heart in my hand,

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Speaker 1: and I am not saying that this is what I want.

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Speaker 1: But I'm so confident and who I am within myself

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Speaker 1: walk differently that now, if they were to take away

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Speaker 1: or I were to just lose everything, I'd say, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I have the abilities here and here to rebuild myself.

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Speaker 1: If I need to go sell oranges, and I say

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Speaker 1: this in my book. You better believe that I will

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Speaker 1: the higher power and in my innerabilities that that is

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Speaker 1: only that is God given that no one can take

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Speaker 1: that away from me. That it's giving me this different

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Speaker 1: confidence to the exterior world where like Cheek's you are

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Speaker 1: now I know myself, I might unapologetically I myself. This

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Speaker 1: is who I am. I like myself. I really love

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Speaker 1: myself more than loving myself. I like who I am.

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Speaker 1: I like who I am inside that even if I

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Speaker 1: gain weight, because it has nothing to do because people think, oh,

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Speaker 1: does it have to do with the media, or like, yes,

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Speaker 1: I have a great guy in my life, and yes,

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Speaker 1: he helps me feel better because he gives me peace,

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Speaker 1: because he reassures me, he values me. That definitely helps.

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Speaker 1: But even with that, I had to learn to love

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Speaker 1: myself in order for him to see that in value

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Speaker 1: that in me, and that took a long time. That

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Speaker 1: took time and experiences and a lot of kissing frogs

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Speaker 1: to get to my prints. So yes, it has to

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Speaker 1: the fact that I've lost weight because that makes me

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Speaker 1: feel better. That makes you feel better, absolutely, But I

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Speaker 1: know myself. In order to find your way in this world,

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Speaker 1: you need to learn your who, Who are you? What's

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Speaker 1: your purpose? It doesn't have to be my purpose. I

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Speaker 1: feel like my purpose is thank goodness, I have this platform.

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Speaker 1: I'm able to share my experiences and be completely honest

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Speaker 1: and hopefully change lives through my books, through my music,

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Speaker 1: through my podcast. But it doesn't even have to be

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Speaker 1: on that scale. It could be in your workplace, whatever

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Speaker 1: it may be. It's what is your purpose? Why are

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Speaker 1: the world. Another part of finding your godfidence, your true

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Speaker 1: inner confidence, you guys, is service. Being of service. That's

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Speaker 1: part of having purpose in life is being of service

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Speaker 1: to others. Yes, loving self care, self love, we're all

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Speaker 1: about that on this podcast. But it's also that's for

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Speaker 1: you to be aligned, for you to feel good in

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Speaker 1: order to give your best right, but being of service

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Speaker 1: to someone gives you this different feeling of Also, it's

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Speaker 1: part of your purpose. It's part of feeling confident. So

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Speaker 1: future generations to come. It's the substance is being lost

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Speaker 1: on social media. People don't want to read anymore. Like

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Speaker 1: people want instant gratification. There's no like looking at longevity.

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Speaker 1: Everyone wants everything quick. The attention span is getting shorter

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Speaker 1: felt the need to talk about this once again. I

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Speaker 1: read and I listen to books, and I was just like, dude,

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Speaker 1: the plush of life. And granted, I like pretty things.

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Speaker 1: amanthas and blinging, But there's so much more to that

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Speaker 1: taking away from you. It's really working on your inner

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Speaker 1: one thing that I talk about with Emilia all the time.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, are you gonna love me even though

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Speaker 1: if I if I gain weight or I start getting wrinkles,

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Speaker 1: so we have these conversations, I still feel vulnerable. I

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Speaker 1: your soul. And that's what I want to always cater to,

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Speaker 1: be the best version of myself. And I have ugly

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Speaker 1: days too, you guys, I have days where I'm not

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Speaker 1: all part of maturing and really loving who you are,

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Speaker 1: sure he's not gonna be like, oh yeah, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: because we don't know what's going to happen tomorrow, you guys,

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Speaker 1: think a lot of people forgot about that. The pandemic

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Speaker 1: have nice things. Absolutely, that's awesome. That's amazing. I'm not

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Speaker 1: that's where gonfidence comes in. You guys are inner abilities

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Speaker 1: who we are within what is going to last forever

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