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Like you can 13 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 3: have nice physical features and attributes and that's cool, and 14 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 3: that's like, don't get me wrong, I love being I 15 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 3: consider myself a very beautiful woman, even with me not 16 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:53,959 Speaker 3: loving the size that I am right now, I think 17 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 3: that I'm a beautiful woman and I enjoy being a 18 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 3: beautiful woman. But I think that that's icing on the cake. 19 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 3: Like my beauty, my physical beauty, is not the cake. 20 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 3: It's the icing, and nobody wants a bowl of icing. 21 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 4: Welcome to her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women 22 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 4: like you. We're your hosts, Doctor Dominique Broussard, a college 23 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 4: professor and psychologist. 24 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a 25 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 2: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please 26 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:35,680 Speaker 2: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from 27 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where 28 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 2: black women can just flee. 29 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 5: Hey girl, Hey, it's Terry here from the her Space podcast. 30 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 5: Every Wednesday, I release a Wisdom Wednesday mini episode that'll 31 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 5: give you the quick boost you need to get you 32 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 5: through hump days. Space podcast dot com and click the 33 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 5: Wisdom Wednesday with Terry link under start here to get 34 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 5: your weekly gems. I hope to see you there, lady 35 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 5: today we have a very special treat for you. In 36 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 5: her Space. She exudes black girl, magic, girl boss vibes, 37 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 5: and her skin is freaking amazing, Okay. Doctor Mila Bennet 38 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 5: is a business mogul, Board certified plastic surgeon and speaker 39 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,919 Speaker 5: based in John's Creek, Georgia. She's the owner of a 40 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 5: Darra Bella Plastic Surgery and Medical Spa, a multimillion dollar 41 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 5: plastic surgery center dedicated to helping women preserve their youth 42 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 5: in a natural appearing Way, a member of Alpha Kappa 43 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 5: Alpha Sorority Incorporated. Doctor Mila is a native of Cleveland, Ohio, 44 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,959 Speaker 5: and is one of six children raised in a single 45 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 5: parent home. You may have seen her own Bravo, TEDx, 46 00:02:55,280 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 5: Radio One, WeTV and more. Doctor milolcome to her space. 47 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 5: We're so excited to have you. Thank you for having me. 48 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 5: You guys made me sound pretty sweet. Mad intro. 49 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 2: Dope girl. 50 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 4: Well, if you like that intro, then you will enjoy 51 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 4: our quote of the day. What's that anytime an opportunity 52 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 4: comes along and it violates unleashing a woman's inner and 53 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 4: outer beauty, I'm not going to do it. 54 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:29,639 Speaker 2: You got that right? 55 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 3: That's me. Yes, that's right. 56 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 4: And so doctor Mila, we want to kind of just 57 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 4: dive right on into the conversation. 58 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 3: Let's do it. 59 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 2: Let's go ahead and do it. We're just going to 60 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 2: be real, Doctor Marler. Let's address the elephant in the 61 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 2: room because we have so many questions for you. So 62 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 2: we just want to jump in with this. Many of 63 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 2: us were taught or we've heard the plastic surgeries for 64 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 2: white people, right, you know, many of us have heard 65 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 2: that break our household in our community. 66 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 3: You heard that but at the same time, you heard 67 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 3: a black don't crack okay, okay. 68 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 2: Exactly exactly, and it tends to be there tends to 69 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 2: be a lot of shame and judgment when a black 70 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 2: woman does decide to enhance her body. So we just 71 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 2: want to know what shaped your views on plastic surgery 72 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 2: over the years, and what would you say to a 73 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 2: woman that's contemplating surgery but doesn't feel you know, she 74 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:24,280 Speaker 2: feels judged or people are judging her, she's judging herself. 75 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 3: That is a really great question and a loaded question. 76 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,560 Speaker 3: So you know, I am very different than many plastic 77 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 3: surgeons and that I've gotten to a point after the 78 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 3: things that I've seen and experienced over the last four 79 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 3: years since I opened my practices, move into Atlanta, and 80 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 3: since actually experiencing the dark side of plastic surgery, which 81 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:47,799 Speaker 3: I was extremely naive to before I moved to Atlanta, 82 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 3: where I sometimes I'm like, why are you doing this? 83 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 3: So while I am definitely pro doing things to make 84 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 3: you feel good and confident in yourself, I am anti 85 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 3: ignoring what's going on on the inside that might cause 86 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 3: you to do things to your outside that maybe aren't 87 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 3: so safe. So one of my big passions is talking 88 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 3: about the dangers of plastic surgery and trying to keep women, 89 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 3: specifically black women, from dying from plastic surgery, because the 90 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 3: people who tend to die from plastic surgery are minority 91 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 3: women who are often are of a lower socioeconomic status. 92 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 3: So it's kind that question is kind of like if 93 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 3: you had asked me that question three years ago, my 94 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,920 Speaker 3: answer probably would have been very different. But now I'm 95 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 3: kind of more than you would probably expect. I definitely 96 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 3: do try to dive into the reasoning behind why a 97 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 3: woman is getting surgery before I do the surgery. So 98 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 3: there's most of the women, most of the women who 99 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 3: come to my office are in a pretty good mental space, 100 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 3: and as long as I can see that the reason 101 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 3: they're getting the surgery is because of themselves, and I'm 102 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 3: okay with it. The problem comes when a person's getting 103 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 3: the surgery to please someone else or because they think 104 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 3: it's going to change their whole life. You know, if 105 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 3: I have a smaller waistan a bigger but then you know, 106 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 3: I'll be more successful, like all these kind of things, 107 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 3: that type of thing, you know, I try to dive 108 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 3: deeper and help them understand that you know their value 109 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 3: has absolutely nothing to do with what they look like. So, 110 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 3: I mean, that question is just it's really kind of 111 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 3: hard for me to answer it because my mindset as 112 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 3: far as plastic surgery goes, has changed dramatically over the 113 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:42,480 Speaker 3: last four years. 114 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 4: And I can appreciate that. And so, and what I 115 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 4: really appreciate is saying there's a consideration for their mental 116 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:55,400 Speaker 4: health status before diving into plastic surgery. And so have 117 00:06:55,560 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 4: you ever had any instances where you've maybe told a 118 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 4: potential client to seek therapy and. 119 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 3: Girl child all the time, Honey, I got doctor Sherry 120 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 3: on speed. Now literally I'll walk kind of be like, 121 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 3: they need to see doctor Share before we can set 122 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 3: up there, before we can book surgery. It's not common 123 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 3: that I say flat out no. The times where I'll 124 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 3: say just like no, I'm not I won't do it. 125 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 3: Usually it's a physical health thing, but if it's a 126 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 3: mental health thing, usually it's more of a not right now, 127 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 3: let's get this sorted out and then we can talk 128 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 3: about this thing that you want to modify or make 129 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 3: better or whatever. I send people to. Doctor Sherry is 130 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 3: the therapist that I use for myself. And so I 131 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 3: trust her. And so when I because the ladies that 132 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 3: tend to come to my office, they're not crazy, there's 133 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 3: nothing wrong with them. We all have things that we 134 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 3: are trying to sort through, work through things that we bury, 135 00:07:56,200 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 3: things that we learn to adapt to, and the adaptation 136 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 3: may be a pathologic one, and so we all do 137 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 3: that so that we can get through life and survive. 138 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 3: And so one of the things I more than just 139 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 3: take a consideration about their mental health, Like that's the 140 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 3: first thing that I'm assessing when I meet meet patients. 141 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 3: It's the first thing, and it is extremely common. My 142 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 3: practice is not, it is extremely atypical. The norm in 143 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:27,240 Speaker 3: my office is, you know, I book an hour for 144 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 3: a consultation, for in person consultation, no sen to go 145 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,959 Speaker 3: longer than the ones like that are virtual. I say, 146 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 3: I put aside an hour's worth of time, and usually 147 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:40,200 Speaker 3: ninety percent of the time, someone from my staff has 148 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 3: to knock on the door and drag me out of 149 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 3: the room and I'll be like, oh wait, we haven't 150 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 3: hold on, let me examine her. I haven't even looked 151 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:49,560 Speaker 3: at whatever she's complaining about yet, because we've spent the 152 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 3: last hour talking about something completely unrelated to physical things 153 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 3: like I have like a sixth sense and if I 154 00:08:56,440 --> 00:09:01,080 Speaker 3: see if I see something that in their eyes, in 155 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 3: their voice, you know, that that makes me feel like 156 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:07,200 Speaker 3: there's a bigger issue. Then I start to probe and 157 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 3: God will just drop the right question in my head 158 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 3: to make a break, and then they'll share and we 159 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,679 Speaker 3: can work through that and I can figure out is 160 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:16,680 Speaker 3: this something that we need to deal with before surgery 161 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 3: or after surgery? You know, And if it's something that 162 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 3: I'm like, we have to deal with this first, then 163 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 3: you know, they trust me. You know, they trust me 164 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 3: because I actually am I'm showing that I care and 165 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, listen, let's get this sorted out, and 166 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 3: then we'll do your surgery. And they'll be like okay, 167 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 3: and they'll go and meet with the therapist if they 168 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 3: have somebody lined up already. 169 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 2: Cool. 170 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 3: Ninety percent of the time they just go to doctor Sherry, 171 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 3: you know, and then when they're good, they come back, 172 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 3: we do their surgery, and they you know, live happily 173 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 3: ever after. That's not the normal way plastic surgeons work. 174 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:50,679 Speaker 3: My office is more like a ministry. 175 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: It sounds like I'm like, this sounds so amazing. I 176 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 2: want to sign up. I don't even want anything done, 177 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:57,840 Speaker 2: but I'm like, I want to go to this office, 178 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 2: like this is great, the bedside man. That's awesome. Now, 179 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 2: one thing you mentioned in the first response was you 180 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 2: talked about how sometimes women will want to get surgery 181 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 2: for someone else. Can we talk about like what you 182 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 2: see out there and what women can do to protect 183 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 2: themselves if they have a partner that's like, oh, I 184 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 2: want you to get this done or you need this 185 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 2: in order to be you know better. 186 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 3: Not just women, men too. I've got two stories. One 187 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:24,239 Speaker 3: is a man and one is a woman. The girl 188 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 3: I call her a girl because she was like in 189 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 3: her early twenties and she was married, but she was 190 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 3: a baby steal in my you know, in my eyes, 191 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 3: and she called me because she wanted to She consulted 192 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:39,479 Speaker 3: with me because she wanted to have her Brazilian butlerft reversed. 193 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 3: So she was a thin girl with a pretty athletic build, 194 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 3: and she wanted to get some lifeful suction on her abdomen. 195 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 3: Like her abdomant. She had a kid. Her abdomen was 196 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 3: kind of stubborn, like the fact that was staying there 197 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 3: everywhere else she was told she was working out, she 198 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 3: was e wright and her belly was just not letting up, 199 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 3: and she went to a doctor and floor and they 200 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 3: it's one of those places where they love to do 201 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 3: Brazilian butt lifts, and they're like, if we're gonna take 202 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 3: the fat out, we don't want to waste it, you know. 203 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 3: And her husband was like, well, baby, if you're gonna 204 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 3: get the fat out, you may as well just put 205 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 3: it in your butt, you know. And she didn't really 206 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 3: want to do it, and he kept kind of pushing, 207 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 3: and so she went ahead and did it, and then 208 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 3: she was completely embarrassed, like, and it wasn't even that big, 209 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 3: but because she didn't want it, what she saw was 210 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 3: not quite the same as what was there, you know, 211 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 3: Like it wasn't a bad Brazilian butt lift, It wasn't 212 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 3: one of those huge, ridiculous ones. She didn't look like 213 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 3: a caricature. You know a lot of these people purposely looked, 214 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 3: you know, get bodies to look like a cartoon exaggeration 215 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 3: of a woman. Hers wasn't even that that kind. But 216 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 3: because she didn't really want it herself, what she saw 217 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 3: and what was there was two totally different things. This 218 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 3: girl was distraught, and she was trying to figure out 219 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 3: how to get this thing smaller. And I spent an 220 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 3: hour on the phone trying to help her understand that 221 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 3: it's not her husband's fault. It's her fault because she's 222 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 3: the one who signed the consent form and lay down 223 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:09,520 Speaker 3: on the table for a surgery she didn't want. And 224 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:11,680 Speaker 3: this is a lesson you need to learn that you 225 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:15,560 Speaker 3: don't change and alter your body for another human. I 226 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 3: don't care who it is. Don't you don't do that. 227 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 3: If he likes big butts, then he can get fat 228 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:24,959 Speaker 3: transferred into his butt. Then there was this man. So 229 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 3: I went to a restaurant to get food to go, 230 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:29,680 Speaker 3: and I'm sitting at the bar waiting on my food 231 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 3: to be prepared, and happened to be sitting next to 232 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 3: this guy. He wasn't even my patient, and he struck 233 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 3: up a conversation with me. And then whenever I tell 234 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,320 Speaker 3: people I'm a doctor, they start spilling everything. Right, So, 235 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 3: of course I don't know how we got on the 236 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 3: subject of my profession, but we did. And he was like, 237 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 3: he started pouring his heart out about his wife, who 238 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 3: had convinced me. He was in his fifties and he 239 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:53,640 Speaker 3: had recently had a circumcision in his fifties because his 240 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 3: wife peer pressured him to do it. He's like, listen, 241 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 3: Mo'm over this. You need to get this taken care of. 242 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 3: Like she was not happy with his uncircumcised member. And 243 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 3: so he reluctantly got circumcised in his fifties and his 244 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:14,679 Speaker 3: wife's request. And what happened was the doctor removed a 245 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,319 Speaker 3: little bit too much skin and when he would get 246 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 3: a interaction, it couldn't stretch out all the way, Like 247 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 3: he could feel it trying to grow more, but it 248 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:27,679 Speaker 3: couldn't because it wasn't enough skin. Oh, so basically it 249 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 3: shrunk his man. Man, Okay, this man was so angry. 250 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:35,440 Speaker 3: He was angry. So now their marriage is a disaster 251 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 3: because he resents her for pressure him to do it. 252 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 3: You know, he feels insecure because it's smaller. It hurts 253 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 3: because it's trying to stretch more and it can't. And 254 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 3: a circumcision in your fifties is painful, like very painful. 255 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:53,679 Speaker 3: When babies get circumcised. Little babies get circumcised. Literally they 256 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 3: don't even get anesthesia, they don't get local anesthesia. They 257 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 3: give him this stuff called sweet ease. It's like sugar water, 258 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 3: and that's enough for the kids to get through it. 259 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:04,280 Speaker 3: And they don't even you know, they don't even flinch. 260 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:06,719 Speaker 3: When you're a big, grown, fifty something year old man, 261 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 3: you got all kinds of nerves and sensation going to 262 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 3: that thing. And this man underwent a circumcision because his 263 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 3: wife peer pressured him too and made him smaller. And 264 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 3: they're probably gonna end up. They're probably gonna end up divorced. 265 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 3: The stuff he was saying to me was so bad 266 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 3: as far as the way they were relating to one 267 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 3: another after that happened. And now he doesn't even you know, 268 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 3: he doesn't like what's going on with himself. And it 269 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:29,440 Speaker 3: was because and I told him. I told him the 270 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 3: same thing I told the other girl. You don't need 271 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 3: to be mad at her. You did it. You signed 272 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 3: the content form, you agree to it. You laid down 273 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 3: and let him do it. That's your that's your You 274 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 3: did that. You don't change your body for another person. 275 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 3: You just don't do that. 276 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 4: Wow, this it definitely sounds like there needs to be 277 00:14:52,000 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 4: some type of therapy consultation ahead of time before anybody 278 00:14:57,120 --> 00:15:01,119 Speaker 4: agrees to any type of plastic surgery, well sort. 279 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 3: Of, but not really. 280 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 4: So. 281 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:05,120 Speaker 3: I mean I talk to so many women, you know, 282 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 3: on a regular basis where they're just fine and we 283 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 3: move on with surgery, you know. But I think you 284 00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 3: just need to have a person who actually cares about 285 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 3: that to pay attention, because I would say, ninety percent 286 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 3: of my consoles don't need therapy, even if it's like 287 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 3: so you know sometimes I you know, I always I'm 288 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 3: always like extremely encouraging and uplifting to women who come 289 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 3: into my office. Women, naturally, we beat ourselves up, we 290 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 3: pick ourselves apart physically, you know, and so you know, 291 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 3: if they call themselves fat, I'll like correct them like 292 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 3: na da da da, or if they say, oh my god, 293 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 3: I look terrible. You know, I'm like, no, you're beautiful. 294 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:39,560 Speaker 3: Even if we change nothing, what you have going on 295 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 3: is normal for a woman who's had children. You know, 296 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 3: I'm always like encouraging, but it's not like with most people. 297 00:15:45,720 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 3: It's not to the point where I feel like you 298 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 3: need a therapist. But when people do need a therapist, 299 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 3: Like how you end up with a beautiful woman who 300 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 3: disfigures herself completely and she doesn't even realize it, Like 301 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 3: little Kim More people like that is because somebody just 302 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:05,600 Speaker 3: didn't pay attention when they came in and there was 303 00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:08,200 Speaker 3: clearly something else that they were battling with that has 304 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 3: nothing to do with the physical. You know, a lot 305 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 3: of women will come into my office in their forties 306 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 3: or so, and now now their kids are off in college. 307 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 3: That's kind of the time where you kind of are like, 308 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 3: what am I even doing in this world? Like, you know, 309 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 3: I did all this stuff to get this job, and 310 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 3: I hate it. I don't like these people. I don't 311 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 3: want to go here. You know, people look at me 312 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 3: like I'm crazy because I'm successful and accomplished. It's time 313 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 3: for me to do something for me. And the easy 314 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 3: thing for women to seek out to notice that they 315 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 3: can make different or do something for themselves are physical things, 316 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:42,960 Speaker 3: you know. So I know that the women when they 317 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 3: show up to me a lot of times, you know, 318 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:47,200 Speaker 3: they're in a season in their life where they're like, 319 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 3: I'm about to focus on myself, and in focusing on themselves, 320 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 3: they think, let me fix my belly, when really it 321 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 3: might be they need to figure out where their career 322 00:16:56,720 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 3: should go now, or they need to rediscover their relationship 323 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 3: with their spouse because they spent the last twenty five 324 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 3: years focusing on their children and they don't even know 325 00:17:05,359 --> 00:17:08,080 Speaker 3: their spouse anymore, or you know, it's like stuff like 326 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:09,600 Speaker 3: that that they need to deal with that they can't 327 00:17:09,600 --> 00:17:12,320 Speaker 3: really put their finger on, or they don't they haven't 328 00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 3: recognized that that's maybe the real problem. But the tummy 329 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 3: tuck that they clearly could use is obvious. So you know, 330 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:21,440 Speaker 3: I just kind of take the time to see if 331 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 3: it's a bigger issue we need to work on, and 332 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 3: we can still do your tummy tuck. Like if you know, 333 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 3: if you're trying to rediscover your your spouse or figure 334 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 3: out what your next step is from a career standpoint, 335 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:36,480 Speaker 3: that doesn't mean you can't get a tummy tuck, you know. 336 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 3: But like I had a lady a few weeks ago 337 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 3: who had issues in her marriage and then her husband died, 338 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,680 Speaker 3: and in their relationship prior to his death, she there 339 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 3: was like all these insecurities that she had and so 340 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 3: once she once once he died, you know, from things 341 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:54,919 Speaker 3: that he had said to her while they were married, 342 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:57,240 Speaker 3: she's like, well, I need to fix my body before 343 00:17:57,240 --> 00:17:59,439 Speaker 3: I can get back out there. Nothing was wrong with 344 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 3: her body so she got all this stuff, you know, 345 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 3: when really she kind of needed to deal with the 346 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 3: pathology and their relationship. She got all this stuff and 347 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:09,560 Speaker 3: then she got a bad complication from me, so then 348 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 3: she spent money in time trying to correct the complication. 349 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 3: It kind of just started her down this path. And 350 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, when she made it to me, 351 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 3: I asked enough questions to pull all that out, and 352 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:23,679 Speaker 3: I'm like, listen, she was one of those people that 353 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 3: I said, yes, you do, this could be better, but 354 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:28,679 Speaker 3: I'm not going to touch you until you talk to 355 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,879 Speaker 3: a therapist. She was one of those. But you know, 356 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:34,879 Speaker 3: it's usually not that, it's usually not that serious, but 357 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,439 Speaker 3: hers was one where it was clear, like you started 358 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,679 Speaker 3: down this path for someone else who died, Like you 359 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,920 Speaker 3: got all these unresolved issues that you can't ever work 360 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:46,680 Speaker 3: out with him because he's gone, and then you started 361 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 3: basically violating yourself to try to correct what you thought 362 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:54,080 Speaker 3: was wrong with you because of things that he said, 363 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 3: and now you're trying to correct the complications of the violator. 364 00:18:58,560 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 3: Like it was just kind of like, you know, it 365 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,640 Speaker 3: was time to stop that and deal with the real 366 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:05,120 Speaker 3: issue and then we can fix what you know, maybe 367 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 3: is not optimal. It's very complex. People are very complex, 368 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:12,919 Speaker 3: and you know, I just I try to use my 369 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 3: knowledge and my experiences and my influences to help women 370 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 3: kind of break free from the things that are holding 371 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,719 Speaker 3: them back and make it so that if they do 372 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:25,920 Speaker 3: get surgery, they actually can enjoy it. 373 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 2: Right. That makes sense. That makes sense. And doctor Mila, 374 00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 2: you do such a good job on Facebook sharing safe 375 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:36,280 Speaker 2: practices for choosing a plastic surgeon, and you address many 376 00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 2: of the unfortunate deaths of women who've had a bad 377 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:42,440 Speaker 2: experience with surgery right where surgery has gone bad. What 378 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:44,640 Speaker 2: are the red flags that women should look out for 379 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 2: when choosing a surgeon. 380 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 3: Well, first you want to make sure it's a surgeon. 381 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 3: So a lot of non surgeon doctors try to do 382 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 3: cosmetic plastic surgery because it's cash. And you know, all 383 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 3: the changes that came in healthcare with Barack Obama. While 384 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:06,239 Speaker 3: the some of the things were good, some of them 385 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:09,560 Speaker 3: weren't the best for doctors. And a lot of these 386 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 3: changes ran some doctors out of practice. They had to 387 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 3: either join the hospital to become an employee, or they 388 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 3: had to figure out a cash hustle in order to 389 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:26,800 Speaker 3: stay afloat, and unfortunately that translated to a lot like 390 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 3: a almost an epidemic of doctors who aren't qualified to 391 00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 3: perform surgery trying to perform plastic surgery because it's cash. 392 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:39,800 Speaker 3: So then now you have, you know, people who are 393 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 3: doctors and the lay person's like, oh, well, they're an MD, 394 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 3: and I'm like, yeah, but are they a surgeon because 395 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:50,439 Speaker 3: the training is very very different, and not only do 396 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 3: you need to be a surgeon, but you specifically need 397 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 3: to be a plastic surgeon because the training is very, 398 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 3: very different. There's a reason why we go down specialty 399 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 3: paths once we graduate medical school for years in order 400 00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 3: to be safe, ethical, and proficient in a particular specialty. 401 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:09,959 Speaker 3: And so someone going to do on a weekend course 402 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,800 Speaker 3: doesn't compare to a person who spent six or seven 403 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 3: years learning the craft. 404 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:16,239 Speaker 1: You know. 405 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:18,760 Speaker 3: So you want to make sure that the doctor is 406 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:20,960 Speaker 3: a surgeon. You want to make sure that the doctor 407 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 3: is a plastic surgeon, and you want to make sure 408 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 3: their board certified in plastic surgery, not cosmetic surgery, not 409 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 3: family medicine, not obgyn, not er, not DERM, but plastic surgery. 410 00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,919 Speaker 3: That's the first thing. One of the red flags that 411 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,000 Speaker 3: tells you that the person perhaps is not a plastic 412 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,520 Speaker 3: surgeon is if you go to their website and you 413 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:48,880 Speaker 3: can't find anything about their background as far as training education. 414 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,600 Speaker 3: Doctors tend to like to brag on their credentials, Like 415 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 3: nerves like to brag on credentials, right. So if a doctor, 416 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 3: if you go to their website and you can't find 417 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 3: anywhere like they train, they went to undergrad at this place, 418 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 3: and medical school at this place, and then then completed 419 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 3: their residency at this place and fellowship at this place, 420 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 3: and they took the boards and blah blah blah. If 421 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,400 Speaker 3: you can't find that, they're hiding it. Wow. Yeah, So 422 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 3: look for the page with their credentials on it. If 423 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,879 Speaker 3: it doesn't exist, leave and go to another person. Go 424 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,679 Speaker 3: to another page. The other thing you can do to 425 00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:25,640 Speaker 3: verify that as a real plastic surgeon is when you 426 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:27,879 Speaker 3: choose a person that you think you know, Okay, I 427 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,359 Speaker 3: like this doctor. Let me you know, I think I 428 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 3: want to dive deeper into this doctor. Go to the 429 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:36,760 Speaker 3: American Board of Plastic Surgeons website and type their name 430 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 3: in the search, and if they don't come up, pick 431 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:41,119 Speaker 3: another doctor you know, like you just want to make 432 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 3: sure you have a real plastic surgeon first and foremost. 433 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 3: Then you can start looking at before and after pictures 434 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 3: and reviews. But you just have to keep in mind 435 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:51,040 Speaker 3: every doctor, all of us are going to put up 436 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 3: our best pictures. There are some patients that I'm like, 437 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,480 Speaker 3: the result is amazing when I consider where they started, 438 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,359 Speaker 3: but it's not a result that I would put on 439 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:04,760 Speaker 3: my Instagram. We're all like that, nobody's gonna You're gonna 440 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,320 Speaker 3: put up the absolute best of what you have. And 441 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 3: so just because you see a bunch of nights before 442 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,720 Speaker 3: and after pictures doesn't mean that they don't have a 443 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 3: rash of deaths behind them or boatload of complications waiting 444 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,240 Speaker 3: in the wings. So that's the kind of things you 445 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 3: kind of need to pay attention to. 446 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:20,880 Speaker 4: That sounds scary. 447 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:22,879 Speaker 3: It is scary, girls, really scary. 448 00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 4: I'm like, wait, hold on, somebody has a boatload of deaths. 449 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,320 Speaker 3: Girl, Yes, and these women will go knowing that, And 450 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:33,920 Speaker 3: that's the part where the mental part comes in, because 451 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 3: it's like, how can you know? Okay, So this summer, 452 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:39,560 Speaker 3: I did a video in June after this lady from Birmingham, 453 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 3: Alabama died getting surgery from this doctor in the Dominican Republic, 454 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 3: And the very next week, another lady died at the 455 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 3: hands of that doctor, And the very next week after 456 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:51,720 Speaker 3: without another lady died at the heads of that doctor. 457 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 3: I'm like, Okay, so when the first lady died, she 458 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 3: might have been his first death. And if it wasn't 459 00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,639 Speaker 3: his first death, it was the first one in a 460 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,439 Speaker 3: really long time. But if I was on the schedule 461 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:06,560 Speaker 3: for the following week, I would have canceled my surgery. Yeah, 462 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 3: and I most certainly if I was the one after 463 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 3: two women died in a seven day period, It's no 464 00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:15,399 Speaker 3: way in hell I would have laid down on the 465 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 3: table and let that man touch me. I'm like, this 466 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 3: man need to get his life right. He need to 467 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:21,439 Speaker 3: go get right with the Lord. He need to go 468 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,119 Speaker 3: take some more. He needed to sit down for a second. 469 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 3: That's what I would have been thinking. There's no way 470 00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:30,760 Speaker 3: that I would have gone the first person accident, we 471 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 3: can say, but the second one, and definitely the third one, 472 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:36,879 Speaker 3: it's almost like you're not really a victim, Like you 473 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:40,160 Speaker 3: literally knew he just killed two people, and you still 474 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,919 Speaker 3: was like, I'm going to get this vbl like you, 475 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,400 Speaker 3: that's crazy. That's a mental problem to me. 476 00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,280 Speaker 4: And I wonder if this might be the issue for 477 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 4: a lot of people. Is do you think that it's 478 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:52,320 Speaker 4: about costs? 479 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 3: It doesn't matter. Okay, So there is no number that 480 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,159 Speaker 3: I could put on the value of my life. So 481 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,800 Speaker 3: if you killed two people in the last seven days, 482 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 3: I don't give a damn. I don't care if I 483 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,880 Speaker 3: paid you fifty thousand dollars and I lose every cent 484 00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 3: of it. If you just killed two people in the 485 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,440 Speaker 3: last seven days, why on earth would I lay down? 486 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:13,360 Speaker 4: Like? 487 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,879 Speaker 3: Is there if there's a number that would make you say, 488 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 3: let me just die? Not for me, That's what I'm saying. 489 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 3: That's mental illness. The one that I did that video about, 490 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:25,280 Speaker 3: that's one thing. He hadn't killed nobody yet, But the 491 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 3: second one, and definitely the third one, it's like, why 492 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,720 Speaker 3: on earth would you go there? He just killed two 493 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 3: people in the last ten days, and you went and 494 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 3: laid down and let him kill you. And then everybody 495 00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:39,959 Speaker 3: want to get mad at the doctor. Well, I mean, 496 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:44,160 Speaker 3: the doctor does suck, but we have to take responsibility 497 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,200 Speaker 3: for ourselves. 498 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think this definitely ties back to like there 499 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:52,760 Speaker 4: are definitely some people like you said, who before having 500 00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:56,680 Speaker 4: classic surgery need to seek therapy. 501 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:59,720 Speaker 3: First, right, Like why are you that desperate for? 502 00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 4: But I think there's something that goes a lot. I 503 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 4: think there's something that's a lot deeper than I need 504 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:08,680 Speaker 4: this butt. 505 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:10,840 Speaker 3: It is like you'll hear them saying, well, man be 506 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 3: saying they don't care, but then they be wondering around 507 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 3: they cheating with the girl with the big butt. He 508 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 3: cheated with the girl with the big but he didn't 509 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,960 Speaker 3: marry the girl with the big butt, Like, no one cares. 510 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,679 Speaker 3: People Half the time, folks end up marrying folks that 511 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:26,159 Speaker 3: are completely different than what they physically normally go for. 512 00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:30,199 Speaker 3: No one cares, Like it's not that serious, you know, 513 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 3: like they're doing all these things so that they can 514 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:36,199 Speaker 3: get a selfie of their waistline to post on Instagram. Yeah, 515 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 3: it's sad, like there's so much more to a woman 516 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 3: than what she physically looks like. And don't get me wrong, 517 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,480 Speaker 3: like I have my own insecurities physically, Like you know, 518 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:47,919 Speaker 3: I had a baby two years ago and in the 519 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:52,080 Speaker 3: last like eighteen months, I gained like fifty pounds after 520 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 3: she was born. I am totally insecure with the way 521 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:58,200 Speaker 3: I look physically like I do not like the way 522 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 3: that I look my body looks physically after I gain 523 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,160 Speaker 3: all this weight. What, I'm definitely not about to kill 524 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 3: myself because of it. Like I'm not gonna go somewhere 525 00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,119 Speaker 3: where I have to literally legit, be afraid. I'm not 526 00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 3: going to wake up trying to make my belly go down. 527 00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,720 Speaker 3: I'll just stay fat before I do that. 528 00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,199 Speaker 2: Well, question for you, doctor Miila. So I feel like 529 00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 2: we've been programmed as women for the as long as 530 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,680 Speaker 2: I can remember, because I remember feeling this way even 531 00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,360 Speaker 2: when I was in middle school about our bodies right 532 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,520 Speaker 2: and what the ideal body type is, and we always 533 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,240 Speaker 2: hear about thirty six twenty four, thirty six six. I 534 00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:33,719 Speaker 2: just want to know, does a bomb ass body make 535 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,199 Speaker 2: someone happy? And I know that's probably not so, but 536 00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 2: can you talk now, you know, with bomb ass bodies 537 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:40,199 Speaker 2: that are still not happy? 538 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:46,879 Speaker 3: Halle Berry, I mean, like there's some names out there now. 539 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,280 Speaker 3: I'm just saying, like it's known that she has a 540 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,359 Speaker 3: hard time holding relationship together and like she's one of 541 00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,920 Speaker 3: the most beautiful women in the world because beauty, the 542 00:27:55,960 --> 00:28:00,200 Speaker 3: physical part is like it's you don't just think about Okay, 543 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,400 Speaker 3: think about people you've have dated in the past, when 544 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,000 Speaker 3: you you know, you first got them, like, oh my god, 545 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,280 Speaker 3: he's so fine, and the more you got to know him, 546 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 3: the less you saw that, or a person who maybe 547 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 3: wasn't that physically appealing to you, and the better they 548 00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 3: treated you, all of a sudden you look at them 549 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:18,400 Speaker 3: and you want to kiss them. 550 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:19,280 Speaker 2: Mm hmmm. 551 00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:24,120 Speaker 3: Because beauty, genuinely truly does start inside. Like you can 552 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 3: have nice physical features and attributes and that's cool, and 553 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,640 Speaker 3: that's like, don't get me wrong, Like I I love 554 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:34,359 Speaker 3: being I consider myself a very beautiful woman, even with 555 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 3: me not loving the size that I am right now, 556 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 3: I think that I'm a beautiful woman and I and 557 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 3: I enjoy being a beautiful woman. But I think that 558 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 3: that's icing on the cake. Like my beauty, my physical beauty, 559 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 3: is not the cake. It's the icing. And nobody wants 560 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 3: a bowl of icing, right, no substance, right, And that's 561 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 3: gonna make your teeth hurt. That's probably gonna make your 562 00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,120 Speaker 3: hair hurt, your stomach gonna start hurting if all you 563 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,800 Speaker 3: have is icing, like you need some cake, like and 564 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,240 Speaker 3: I can't eat cake with no icing. It's called pound 565 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,760 Speaker 3: cake cake with no icing is still delicious, Like, so 566 00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 3: you want to have the cake dealt with first and 567 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,560 Speaker 3: then the icing like like I literally with my daughter. 568 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,440 Speaker 3: My sons are very attractive kids. I praise them for 569 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,280 Speaker 3: things that are not physical like other people were like, 570 00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,120 Speaker 3: oh my god, he's so cute. He's so cute. But 571 00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 3: you don't really hear me saying that because I don't 572 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,040 Speaker 3: want them to hang their hats on their appearance exactly, 573 00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,080 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I think that's kind of 574 00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 3: the problem. People think that if they look good and 575 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 3: everything fall. No, if you look good, you might get 576 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:38,640 Speaker 3: somebody to pay you some attention for a minute, But 577 00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 3: when there's nothing underneath it, that goes away. Like and 578 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,840 Speaker 3: this is why all these beautiful women are manless. Them 579 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,120 Speaker 3: chicks with the with the mod bodies on the beach 580 00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,840 Speaker 3: with they they're on their beach with they may on 581 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:56,320 Speaker 3: Thanksgiving and Valentine's Day, their men are home and making 582 00:29:56,360 --> 00:29:58,840 Speaker 3: them smile. And all the girls with the sweet bodies 583 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:01,400 Speaker 3: and the perfect looking faces with all the filters on 584 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:03,800 Speaker 3: Instagram are talking about ain't no good men out there. 585 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 3: You're gonna miss me when I've gone, and all this 586 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,640 Speaker 3: other stuff that they're posting to justify why they are alone. 587 00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:13,160 Speaker 4: Now I have to ask doctor Milam, because you have 588 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:19,720 Speaker 4: an emphasis on the inner beauty, right, So then it 589 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 4: almost kind of sounds like you're selling yourself out of business, 590 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:25,200 Speaker 4: if that makes sense. 591 00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,479 Speaker 3: Well, because okay, so that's I'm so glad you said that. 592 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:32,640 Speaker 3: So I've been in this transition over the last four years. 593 00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:37,960 Speaker 3: I have been purposely trying to create a career that 594 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:44,280 Speaker 3: plastic surgery proper is more like a hobby. So this 595 00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:46,960 Speaker 3: is why I started my skincare line, this is why 596 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:50,680 Speaker 3: I speak. I'm actually gonna be having a retreat in September, 597 00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:54,000 Speaker 3: three day retreat for women who want to be like 598 00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:57,360 Speaker 3: the Proverbs thirty one woman. These are the things that 599 00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:00,400 Speaker 3: I want to do to maintain my lifestyle so that 600 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 3: I can practice plastic surgery on my own terms. Because 601 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:10,080 Speaker 3: I do not want to contribute to the mental demise 602 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 3: of any woman on this planet. I just don't want 603 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 3: to be a part of that. So if I think 604 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,600 Speaker 3: that what they're trying to do is not in their 605 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:22,360 Speaker 3: best interest mentally, or you know, it's going to hurt 606 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:24,960 Speaker 3: them overall, I don't want to do it. I don't 607 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 3: want to feel pressure to do it because I'm trying 608 00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:30,200 Speaker 3: to make my house payment or my truck payment, or 609 00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:34,240 Speaker 3: pay my kids tuition. I don't want to feel pressured 610 00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:36,840 Speaker 3: to do something that I think is wrong for a 611 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:41,080 Speaker 3: woman to live my lifestyle, and so I have been 612 00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 3: very aggressive in diversifying my financial portfolio so that I 613 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 3: could practice plastic surgery on terms that I can live 614 00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,840 Speaker 3: with er. 615 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:54,440 Speaker 4: I love it. 616 00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:58,080 Speaker 2: I love it. That's very powerful. And doctor Malah want 617 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 2: to switch up the energy just a little bit st here. 618 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 2: And because we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman, 619 00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:13,000 Speaker 2: and we believe that it's okay to be classy and ratchets. Okay, okay, 620 00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 2: so fist the rash. There we go. You can still 621 00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:18,120 Speaker 2: be elegant and dance to strip club music. We want 622 00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 2: to invite to the oh you clatch it segment, So 623 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,640 Speaker 2: doctor you take on the oh she said, let's do 624 00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:31,160 Speaker 2: it all right. Let's first question for you, what's the 625 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,360 Speaker 2: most spontaneous thing you've ever done? 626 00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:35,840 Speaker 3: Oh my god, I can't answer that question with all 627 00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:36,840 Speaker 3: kind of people listening. 628 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:42,440 Speaker 2: I'm kind of bad. The second most. 629 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,040 Speaker 3: And my mama might listen to this. Oh honey, I 630 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 3: need to tell y'all that offline, Okay, okay, because I 631 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,960 Speaker 3: done some I'm not like, I'm like, I'm conservative with 632 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,400 Speaker 3: some things, and then I'm real, I'm kind of like 633 00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:55,080 Speaker 3: a wild child with other things. 634 00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 2: Yes, okay, she got the clatches spirits. 635 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,480 Speaker 3: I can't answer that question because you know, I'm trying 636 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:04,719 Speaker 3: to like get right with the lord and stuff. 637 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,040 Speaker 2: Okay, we got you. We're gonna read between. 638 00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:10,120 Speaker 3: The lines between the live girl. It's probably as bad 639 00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:10,640 Speaker 3: as you think. 640 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 4: Okay, So probably if you reflect on some of those 641 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:23,880 Speaker 4: spontaneous moments, my guess is that there's a cringe worthy 642 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,480 Speaker 4: outfit in there. So can you talk to us about 643 00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:29,240 Speaker 4: the most cringe worthy outfit you've ever worn? 644 00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 3: That was probably in my college days when I had 645 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:36,719 Speaker 3: when I didn't have a mom body. I mean, I 646 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,720 Speaker 3: kept my belly out and like I mean I wore 647 00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:44,320 Speaker 3: broadtops and daisy dukes, and I mean yeah, like I 648 00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:48,440 Speaker 3: had blind hair, short blond hair, and my belly stayed 649 00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:52,120 Speaker 3: out because it was flat, and I had like a butt, 650 00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:55,320 Speaker 3: and I had boobs, and my boobs before these three 651 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:58,200 Speaker 3: children got to them, looked like I have breast and plants. 652 00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,520 Speaker 3: Even though I didn't like they were perp. My body 653 00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,240 Speaker 3: was awesome. That's why I'm kind of still in mourning 654 00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:06,040 Speaker 3: that she's gone and I'm trying to figure out how 655 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:06,920 Speaker 3: to get her back. 656 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:08,799 Speaker 2: That's a real girl. 657 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:09,880 Speaker 3: Yeah I was bad. 658 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:11,880 Speaker 2: Hey, there she go? 659 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:13,319 Speaker 3: Yeah, I was there she go? 660 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:17,239 Speaker 2: Now, all right, doctor, who is your bad boy or 661 00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:18,840 Speaker 2: bad girl? Crush? 662 00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:21,120 Speaker 3: I love? I used to want to be Diddy's fourth 663 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,520 Speaker 3: baby mama. 664 00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,759 Speaker 2: All right, doctor Colmbs, well see you over there in 665 00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:31,320 Speaker 2: my boom. 666 00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:35,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, don't you have three baby mamas? 667 00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:37,359 Speaker 2: That sounds right. 668 00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:40,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, I wanted to be the next whatever number was 669 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:43,839 Speaker 3: to be. I used to want to be his fourth 670 00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:48,160 Speaker 3: baby mama. But yeah, I've grown up now. I don't 671 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,600 Speaker 3: want to be anybody's baby mama. 672 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:53,560 Speaker 5: I can't. 673 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:59,320 Speaker 4: Okay, all right, so doctor by, look what is your 674 00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:01,000 Speaker 4: fa read drink. 675 00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,760 Speaker 3: Long Island, nice tea top shell. I can't do no cheap. 676 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,640 Speaker 2: Liquor top shelf. I'm with you. 677 00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:08,560 Speaker 3: I'm an alert to cheap liquor. 678 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:14,439 Speaker 2: Best. Okay, right now, dr minda our last question for you? 679 00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:17,479 Speaker 2: Are you gonna twork or two step? Which one? 680 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:18,520 Speaker 5: Girl? 681 00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:21,279 Speaker 3: I'm old child? Forty two of these knees can't work. 682 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,000 Speaker 3: I could if I was the better shape. I would 683 00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:28,319 Speaker 3: t work, but because if I try to go down there, 684 00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,920 Speaker 3: I probably wouldn't be able to get back up. I'm 685 00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,360 Speaker 3: gonna go ahead on the two step. That's the only reason. 686 00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,520 Speaker 3: It's a default answer. No judgement, no judgment. 687 00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,479 Speaker 4: And you did say, but you did say you're trying 688 00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:41,440 Speaker 4: to get right with the Lord might get you a 689 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:42,400 Speaker 4: little bit closer. 690 00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:45,439 Speaker 3: That's right, I'm trying to get right with well, doctor 691 00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:45,799 Speaker 3: min Leud. 692 00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,799 Speaker 2: We just want to thank you so much for your time. Dad. 693 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:51,080 Speaker 2: We appreciate the work that you do, the awesome ministry 694 00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:53,440 Speaker 2: that you have, and we want to let our listeners 695 00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,439 Speaker 2: know where can they find you online. 696 00:35:55,800 --> 00:36:01,080 Speaker 3: So on Instagram, my personal pain is doctor Mila d 697 00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:03,800 Speaker 3: r n y l A, and then I have Instagram 698 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 3: pages for my plastic surgery practice, which is a Darabella 699 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,400 Speaker 3: E D e r r A b E l l 700 00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,960 Speaker 3: A and my skin Caroline is pretty skin RX. And 701 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,360 Speaker 3: then on Facebook it's kind of the same stuff. 702 00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:18,200 Speaker 2: Perfect. We'll add links in our show notes, lady, so 703 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,160 Speaker 2: you can catch up with doctor Mala. And we just 704 00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,280 Speaker 2: want to thank you so much, Doctor Mayah. This was awesome, 705 00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:24,360 Speaker 2: super insightful. 706 00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:26,520 Speaker 3: Thanks for having me. It was really fun. 707 00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:31,720 Speaker 4: Hey, Lady is doctor Dom here from the Herspace Podcast. 708 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,040 Speaker 4: Do you have a burning question you're dying to get 709 00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 4: feedback on? Do you want an unbiased perspective on a 710 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:42,359 Speaker 4: situation you're facing. 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