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Speaker 2: The question is what does reconnect mean?

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Speaker 1: That's the question for starters. I thirty two female, am

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Speaker 1: At the stage that I'm in, doctors have suggested palliative care,

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Speaker 1: Exactly, rather than any treatments, which I I am sad about,

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Speaker 3: But I think I've seen a TikTok of a black

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Speaker 2: Of like cost other side of this. Possibly. Anyway, we love.

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Speaker 2: We might just read it. Love you.

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Speaker 3: Tinder date ghosted me, befriended my sister, and is now

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Speaker 3: It's like, hey, this is the version you had, like

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Speaker 1: My life should have a series of like like supreme toxicity,

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Speaker 3: So this is the situation I, twenty seven male, find

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Speaker 3: That would be an interesting one. That's all I'm going

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Speaker 3: We're going back two years ago. So two years ago

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Speaker 3: Oh all right, twenty six female on a dating app.

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Speaker 3: Hey, we're about non toxic relationship, of course, do not

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Speaker 1: Were the kings of non toxicity. That is not if

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Speaker 3: That's a podcast name, that is he calls their non

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Speaker 3: Apparently my sister got a new job, Tara recognized the

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Speaker 2: She's calling off the words.

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Speaker 3: That would be a right, that's at story right there.

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Speaker 3: so sus blood over you know.

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Speaker 2: Crut that's what is on the bottom of my shoe.

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Speaker 2: Damn bro, get off. Where's a dirty doormat? I can

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Speaker 3: My See that sounds like like dirty talk dirty, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Depending on the mat, you know.

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Speaker 3: I asked her if she knew it was the Tara

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Speaker 2: Uh oh? And she, dude, where's text her ever? Or

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Speaker 2: I don't even give. I don't even care. We stan.

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Speaker 3: Then a random text from Tara asking what I wanted

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Speaker 2: You know what I want to do for that entrance dance?

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Speaker 2: How do I enter you? Then you stop talking to me,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, no, we're wave Patty, close your doors

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Speaker 3: on me. You can't enter anywhere anymore. I immediately called

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Speaker 3: I know many of her bridesmaids and her had to

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Speaker 2: If that's the case, this is a terrible approach.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 3: Or just like say that's what you're doing, make it

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Speaker 3: And Tara also asked for me specifically, Yo, how do

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Speaker 2: This is so weird.

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Speaker 3: This is so weird, like to go guy and then

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Speaker 1: like the greatest mind game of all time. I don't

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Speaker 3: Fuck, dude, I don't like that you think of like

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Speaker 2: That's all right, or so he say? Or is it?

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Speaker 3: Have you seen that guy where it's like stay toxic y,

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Speaker 3: great content, great content. I never responded to Tara and

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Speaker 3: It's weird. It's weird to ask, it's weird to ask

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Speaker 3: She said she wasn't going to so I said I'd

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Speaker 3: but I don't think I am. It's a weird request

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Speaker 3: and I'm not about it.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? Look here's I think.

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Speaker 1: I think it's a bit of an exaggeration to drop

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Speaker 1: I mean, he only knew her for three months. I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but like three months, Yeah, it's not a long time.

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Speaker 3: You're right, it's really not a long time your sister's

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Speaker 2: Three month relationship. Yeah's you're You're absolutely right.

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Speaker 3: That's actually it's it's a little it's a it's too

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would. I would be like, could you just

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Speaker 3: It seems like both of them might want to terrible

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Speaker 2: Would she's just so weird to ghost him.

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Speaker 1: And now she's like, okay, maybe this is like the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is what it is. They're weird, dude, It's okay,

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Speaker 2: but just just you know, just say you're not interested.

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Speaker 2: That's it. Just hey, just like like it.

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Speaker 3: It's really easy to send a text saying like hey, hey, Samuel,

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Speaker 2: So bye. Very simple, very That's all you have to do,

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Speaker 2: all you have to do.

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Speaker 3: I'm totally still I'm talking about the story of course,

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Speaker 3: of course, ter yeah r this is not this is

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Speaker 3: not as chronicles of Sam's love life.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, which could be a whole a whole show entirely.

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Speaker 3: That that girl that I took to North Carolina, I

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Speaker 2: Replied with the whole ha ha. She well, no. She

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Speaker 3: She gave me a full response before, very very boring

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Speaker 3: she just ha had it, which is brutal. Hey she

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Speaker 3: she thought it was funny, bro fucking brutal getting ha ha. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's it's it's a it's a it's a pattern. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's a pattern to community. Yeah yeah, no she she's done.

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Speaker 3: She's done. I'm done done.

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Speaker 2: Clean slips over. Ladies and gentlemen.

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Speaker 1: Tune into the next episode to see the next adventure.

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Speaker 1: The next episode of Sam's Love Chronicles. Oh, I will

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Speaker 1: see you on the Flippity Flop yep.

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Speaker 2: Today.

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Speaker 3: I fed up when I thought a cute guy was

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Speaker 3: The ghosty becomes the ghost ed.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 3: I was at a party two weeks ago where I

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Speaker 2: Fucking loser and what are you doing, bro, go get go,

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Speaker 2: get forty friends. Yeah, you get one hundred new friends.

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Speaker 1: There.

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Speaker 3: Good When in walks this guy who immediately gave me

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Speaker 3: We ended up talking in the same circle and he

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Speaker 3: tell it after this, yes, because currently it's happening and

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Speaker 3: I'm so mad.

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Speaker 2: I need a bent bro.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, all right, anyway, he is so smart, his

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Speaker 2: You know about Rya that's like the celebrity yeah or something. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: As the night wore on, I found myself talking to

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Speaker 3: various different groups, but each time this guy would appear

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00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:40,879
Speaker 3: again and again, and we end up just talking to

441
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,919
Speaker 3: each other. Someone who neither of us knew came up

442
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:48,119
Speaker 3: and said we made an attractive couple. Ooh, and I

443
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:50,479
Speaker 3: realized somehow, in the span of two hours, we were

444
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:54,439
Speaker 3: already acting like a couple. Wow, that's heating up moving quickly.

445
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

446
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:59,199
Speaker 3: Wow, it wasn't just me being sexually attracted him, although

447
00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:02,880
Speaker 3: I definitely was. Yeah, I felt so comfortable around him,

448
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 3: and he was so attentive to my needs. Sounds like

449
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:07,440
Speaker 3: it sounds like y'all are a couple.

450
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:07,639
Speaker 1: Bro.

451
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:09,879
Speaker 2: They're gonna get married by the end of the night.

452
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 2: At the end of the story, they're gonna be married. Yeah.

453
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:14,200
Speaker 3: I told him off hand I had allergies to the

454
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 3: dog at the party. Hours later, I started sneezing, and

455
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 3: he immediately knew what to do. Man, dude, man's attentive.

456
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,640
Speaker 3: His b like, Wow, he moved us outside.

457
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:28,800
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, so so. She wouldn't so so, but

458
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,879
Speaker 2: so he remembers she had analogy moved outside. I'm like,

459
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 2: oh god, that's pretty cute. He's the perfect man. John

460
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 2: got impressed. Wow, shut up.

461
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:39,960
Speaker 3: His smile was the thing that immediately caught my attention,

462
00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,080
Speaker 3: but it was the thoughtfulness that made it so great.

463
00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 3: At the end of the night, we catch an uber

464
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 3: home and end up smacking lips before the uber drops

465
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:49,200
Speaker 3: him off and give him my number.

466
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 2: There we go.

467
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 3: Nice Sunday comes in. I don't hear from him, Okay,

468
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 3: I get it. We both got home at four am,

469
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:57,920
Speaker 3: and I was just and I too, just wanted to

470
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:03,880
Speaker 3: sleep the day away. Monday comes silence, Tuesday even more silence.

471
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,440
Speaker 3: And I know I've read it's uncool to text a

472
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 3: girl immediately because you want to seem super cool and

473
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 3: suave and wanted. But we're both in our mid thirties,

474
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 3: and I hoped you would realize that these mind games

475
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,959
Speaker 3: are bullshit. Anyway, he likes someone, just text them when

476
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 3: you can. Life is too short to be with people

477
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 3: half interested in you. I agree, which is great advice.

478
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: That's great advice. Wednesday comes around and I'm a mixture

479
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 3: of angry and over it and insecure all at the

480
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:29,719
Speaker 3: same time. Bro, this is where I am right now?

481
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 3: How dare he lead me on like this? Well, I

482
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 3: guess I'm glad I only wasted one night on this asshole.

483
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 3: Was I not pretty enough? All the thoughts raced them

484
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 3: my head and coalesced to me typing his name and

485
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 3: workplace into Google to see if I can find him. Uh,

486
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 3: she's going on a stock and rampage at her place

487
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 3: of work, Like like she's going to look up this

488
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 3: guy and see, like where, who, who the heck he is?

489
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:54,199
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that's funny. Turns out he.

490
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 3: Was incredibly easy to find. I was planning and just

491
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 3: looking at him because I missed his face, but I

492
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 3: accidentally clicked the link that brought him to his LinkedIn page. No, yikes,

493
00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 3: Now he'll know I stalked him, which made me feel

494
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 3: even worse. Probably feel crazy right now, well, says I

495
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 3: was already on his page. I guess I would look

496
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 3: where he worked. Maybe he's not that interesting, and i'd

497
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,719
Speaker 3: feel better about him ghosting me, right.

498
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 2: Nope.

499
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 3: Turns out he's not only very smart, but also humble,

500
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 3: because his resume listed a dozen of different cool jobs,

501
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 3: impressive schools, and basically cool things he's worked on.

502
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 2: Great.

503
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,920
Speaker 3: I probably wasn't impressive enough for him. Wow, you know

504
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 3: he's just going through straight God. Yeah, blessing.

505
00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 2: Now. Thirty minutes later, he friends me on LinkedIn because

506
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:43,520
Speaker 2: I guess he saw that she was stalking him.

507
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 3: That's amazing, funny road, but he seemed surprised that I

508
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,479
Speaker 3: was reaching out. He had evidently texted me that night

509
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: and again the next day, only to not hear back.

510
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 3: He thinks that I had ghosted him, and this is

511
00:24:58,000 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 3: how we found out my f up. When I gave

512
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 3: even my phone number. Turns out I was off by

513
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 3: one digit. Tipsy me isn't so great at typing or

514
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 3: proof reading, which is why you got to text the

515
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 3: number right after.

516
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 2: You know, that's that's a move. If I hadn't been

517
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:12,159
Speaker 2: a creepy.

518
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 3: LinkedIn stalker or use uh to be friends car Oh yeah,

519
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 3: well we'll show those very soon. If I hadn't been

520
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 3: a creepy LinkedIn stalker, it could have been months, if ever,

521
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 3: before we would have seen each other again. Right now,

522
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 3: we're laughing about it and setting up our first real

523
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 3: date wish me luck, which is amazing.

524
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:32,920
Speaker 2: It sounds like it all worked out. But you know

525
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 2: what has it worked out? Let me tell you?

526
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, okay. So I was at the beach

527
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 3: on Sunday. Yeah, I was with You've met Alexa, right,

528
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:51,119
Speaker 3: Christian's girl, Yes, girl, lady person that Yeah, And Alexa

529
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 3: is an attractive person, and which makes her an incredible

530
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 3: wing woman, right Like, if you have an attractive woman

531
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 3: with you, it makes it so much easier to talk

532
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 3: to random girls.

533
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 2: Literally, everyone loves the women love attractive women and men dude,

534
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,879
Speaker 2: it makes it so it's great. It's a hack, brok.

535
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,200
Speaker 3: So we get to the beach and we're supposed to

536
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 3: meet some friends there and uh, and no one's there yet,

537
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:16,719
Speaker 3: and so Alex's like, oh, like, where do you want

538
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 3: to set up? And I see this super cute girl

539
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 3: and orange bathing suit, and I'm like, let's sit up

540
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 3: right next to her, right, And so literally we post

541
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 3: up like like we're we are closer than you and

542
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 3: I are right now, like we're probably like one foot

543
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,879
Speaker 3: away from her, and so we plopped down put the

544
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,159
Speaker 3: towel right next to her, and then she has like

545
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,159
Speaker 3: she's like reading a book and she's like journaling on

546
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 3: this really cool looking journal, and so I'm like, is

547
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 3: that a journal? And then I strike up conversation with

548
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 3: her and she's so cool, dude, Yeah, she's so cool.

549
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 3: She's well traveled. She like randomly went to France to

550
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 3: learn French and like she had never spoken French before,

551
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:58,119
Speaker 3: and she was just like she went to Ucicie leg

552
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 3: like great, right yeah, and so I you know, we uh,

553
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 3: we're talking. It's going great, and we're really hitting it off.

554
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 2: And so then.

555
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 3: We leave and I get her information and I DM

556
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 3: her and I say, hey, loved our beat chat. I've

557
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 3: been kind of wanting to get I've been kind of

558
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 3: wanting to get tipsy and poorly interpret modern art at

559
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 3: a museum. You in, right, great text, great text. Alexa

560
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:29,640
Speaker 3: helped me on that, right, and she responded and said, hey,

561
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 3: as did I. Being tipsy is my favorite. Being tipsy

562
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 3: in a museum is my favorite pastime.

563
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 2: Boo. Sounds like a lot of fun this weekend. Right,

564
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 2: So she's like going so much for it.

565
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 3: Right.

566
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 1: Also, Alexa is like incredible at helping men get women.

567
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 1: She should doude she she helped me craft that first text.

568
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 1: She should become the new Andrew tape.

569
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 3: No, I'm literally only to I am only listening to

570
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 3: her for reship advice. And then I respond, yesterday on

571
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 3: Friday at Lack where there's jazz at six pm, so

572
00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 3: we could do a little wine and picnic, peruse the

573
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 3: museum and maybe find a place to dance.

574
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 2: Saw text two. Absolutely, she saw it twenty two hours ago. Yep,

575
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 2: and she has it.

576
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: Responded so waity wait, so it's for Friday night? Yeah,

577
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 1: shot twenty two hours ago. Yeah, I opened the Instagram

578
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 1: text saw.

579
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 2: It also, we're texting on Instagram. Yeah. See, I always

580
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 2: go for I feel like the number is the vibe.

581
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:27,360
Speaker 3: I actually think I think Instagram ya, it's like a lab. Yeah,

582
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 3: less intrusive, and also like you have more points to

583
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 3: reconnect because like if you post a story, like I'll

584
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 3: probably post a story tomorrow and then like maybe she'll

585
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 3: see it and then try to.

586
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 2: Go into this really great jazz clube to go dance alone.

587
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 3: No, no, I'm gonna be like I'm doing such cool

588
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 3: things without you. Yeah, but yeah, Alexa think she'll still respond.

589
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: Because she was like I twenty two hours, like if

590
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: it was you know, twenty four hours, two more hours

591
00:28:59,000 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 1: and then this.

592
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 2: Is out here. I don't know.

593
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: I mean it's it's look, it's borderline. She's she's riding

594
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 1: the line of like it's been too long. I would

595
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: definitely wait and give it some more space and maybe

596
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: maybe like Okay, so Thursday, it was Friday, it was Friday,

597
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: Sunday we met.

598
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well yeah we got time. Monday.

599
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 3: Monday was when I sent the text last at six

600
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 3: pm yep, So I mean yeah, probably like Wednesday morning,

601
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 3: like yo, we still want to go lame?

602
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so lame. You know what else? What else?

603
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 2: You know? I don't know. I think I posted a

604
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 2: story where I'm doing something cool. Yeah, and then she's like,

605
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 2: oh my god, worked on my ABS today session.

606
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 3: But that's my story. Go for it, but fingers Crossedy

607
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 3: responds fingers crossed for Sam guys,