1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,480 Speaker 1: All right, it's that time. Let's buckle up, let's hold 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for your strawberry letta. Yes 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: we do, nephew subjects keeping it in the family. Dear 4 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, please help me. What I want to do 5 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:18,639 Speaker 1: may cause turmoil within the family. Here's the situation. A 6 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: young lady and I have a crush on each other. 7 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: But she used to be married to someone that was 8 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: related to me by marriage. She used to be married 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: to my stepfather and get follow along with this, Okay, 10 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: she used to be married to my stepfather's sister's son. 11 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 1: Got it. Her husband is deceased. Now. Before her husband died, 12 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: we had only seen each other three times. After the 13 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: third time, we realized we had a connection, so we 14 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: kept in touch. We only texted each other on special 15 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: occasions and holidays back then. Now we text more frequently 16 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: and we enjoy each other's company. We know that we 17 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: are not related, but out of respect for the family, 18 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: we want to do the right thing. She keeps trying 19 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: to hide her feelings, but I can tell she feels 20 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 1: how she feels about me. She also encouraged me to 21 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:13,479 Speaker 1: write this letter to you for your opinion, So should 22 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: we move on with our lives, or can we pursue 23 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: a relationship to see what happened. We really need your 24 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 1: help with this to to prevent a disaster. Do you 25 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: think it would cause a major problem within our family? 26 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: Please advise you're right? Uh yeah, I think it just 27 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: might cause some turmoil in the family, a major problem. 28 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 1: As you put it. It might raise a few eyebrows. 29 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: It might cause a few of your cousins just to 30 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: side eye you with their hands on their hips. But 31 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 1: it's not like you're being disrespectful to anyone here. The 32 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: husband is deceased and he was not related to you 33 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: at all. This is so far down the line this situation. 34 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: He was not he he was. This is what he was, 35 00:01:57,200 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: Your stepfather's sister's son. You all are not related at all. 36 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: So you need to really decide together if you want 37 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: to beat with each other, if you're feeling it, go 38 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: for it. Get your relationship tight, figure out what you're 39 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: gonna say to people, and all that kind of stuff. 40 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: You know, if you choose to do that, then you know, 41 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: after your relationship is tied, you've got the friendship going 42 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: and everything, then you can start slowly showing up to 43 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 1: family reunions, but you know, it still might make them 44 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,520 Speaker 1: a little uncomfortable, but I think eventually they'll come around. 45 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: Jay no, no, no, no no no no no no 46 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: no no no no, no, no no no. We did 47 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 1: a bit earlier about people who have one hand smaller 48 00:02:42,639 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: than the other. And the reason this happens is because 49 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: people in the family get together. And this is what happens. 50 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: This is how the kids come out while you got 51 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: one foot facing the front and the other foot going 52 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: to the back of you. When that's they are, yes, 53 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: there are. This is not to be played with, jelly. 54 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: This is why you have kids whose eyes are totally crossed, 55 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. They can watch the party 56 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: for you because they got cross This is why you 57 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: had these kids with the big water here related. This 58 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 1: is why you had the kids with one year bigger 59 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 1: than another years but they can't hear damn thing. Alright, 60 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: do not do not play with us, all right, don't 61 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: mix these jeans up. Leaving alone. I'm telling you you've 62 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: been one. You've been all right, thank you, sir. They're 63 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: not related, okay, come on, tell me what you got 64 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: a nephew. If we ain't related, we're doing it you 65 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: hear me, Let me tell you something. It's all right 66 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: to be with your step on tees cousins, baby dadd 67 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: and nephew needs to adopted sister. It's all right, all 68 00:03:57,040 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: right to be with your step on tees cousins baby dad, 69 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: his nephews needs adopted suster. Ain't nothing wrong with it. 70 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: I have been through this before. I was with my 71 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: uncle's second wife's daughter in law's twin sisters cousin. We 72 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 1: dated for six months and did the family have mixed emotions? Yames? 73 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 1: But that's alright, love who love you? Let me tell 74 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: you something. After your second cousin, everybody is open game. 75 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: Do you hear me? Do you hear me? You can't 76 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: be a superfine, drop dead gorgeous third cousins. I'm marrying yo. Yes, 77 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 1: I won't you in my life. Yes, to hell with 78 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: the family. Will deal with it at the family re union. Yeah, 79 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 1: I married my third cousin. Don't know about to have 80 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: third cousins, dudey duty, what's your who your third cousin? 81 00:04:55,279 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: Call him? Don't even have a real night. Already used 82 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 1: to date again, nephew. I dated my uncle's second wife's 83 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: daughter in law's twin sisters cousin. That's who I dated, 84 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: to Mika, Yes I did. I dated my uncle's second 85 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: wife's daughter in law's twin sisters cousin. My name was 86 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: to Maka, Yes I did, and it was the greatest 87 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: and stay together. Oh no, you know it just it 88 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: got it was, I don't know, complicated, complicated, complicated. That's 89 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: that's what I'm trying to say. Complic strong. You gotta 90 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 1: be strong, like, yes, yeah, you gotta do all right, 91 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 1: Come on, young one in the group, keeping it in 92 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: the fan, tell you what this one la that got me? 93 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:56,280 Speaker 1: He said? She said, U. She used to be married 94 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: to my stepfather sister son. Her husband is deceased. Now 95 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: pull the hoom, dad. We had only seen each other 96 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: three times. What you have been? Killed him? W do 97 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:11,039 Speaker 1: you think killed the man? She said it now, we 98 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:14,240 Speaker 1: had only seen each other before her husband, Dad, We 99 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: had only seen each other three times. What you think 100 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: killed the husband? And it's always in threes to always 101 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: they was folding around for they had to be fool 102 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 1: around for that. Yeah, that's what killed him. When he 103 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: fouled out. It was who wasn't Timm? Who was it? 104 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:44,480 Speaker 1: Who was it was? Uh? Your step auntie's cousin's baby, 105 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: and dad is nephew's niece adopted sister. Who Now, when 106 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: he walked in the room and saw him, that's what 107 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: killed him, said, I'll be damned. It's my brother's cousins 108 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 1: third whatever. Yeah, the people are not related, not related. 109 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: Why was he at the funeral crying harder than anybody? 110 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: The casts hard down? All right? If you have some issues, 111 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: some relationship issues, please send your letter. Email us your 112 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: letter at Steve Harvey dot com. Okay, want more letters? 113 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: All right, we'll be back with part two. We have 114 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: some more on this letter. It's called keeping it in 115 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: the Family. We'll be back, all right. You're listening to 116 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Show. All right, here we are back on 117 00:07:55,720 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: this strawberry letter. Part two subjects keeping it in the family. Ly. Uh, 118 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: this was written by a young man. I'm assuming he 119 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: said what he wanted to do may cause some turmoil 120 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: within the family. Uh. He and this young lady have 121 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: a crush on each other. But the problem is she 122 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: she used to be married, the young lady to someone 123 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: that was related to him by marriage. You hear that 124 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:23,239 Speaker 1: Jay related to him by marriage? No blood, no blood. 125 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 1: She used to be married to his stepfather's sister's son. 126 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 1: Her husband is deceased now okay, the stepfather's sister's son 127 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:38,079 Speaker 1: that was her husband, he's no longer living. Before her 128 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: husband died, they had seen each other three times. After 129 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 1: the third time, they realized they had a connection, so 130 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:47,959 Speaker 1: we kept in touch, he says. They only texted each 131 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 1: other on special occasions and holidays back then. Now they 132 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:56,560 Speaker 1: text more frequently and they enjoy each other's company. We 133 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: know that they're not related, but out of respect for 134 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: the family, they still have respect for the family. They 135 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: want to do the right thing. She keeps trying to 136 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 1: hide her feelings, he says, but I can tell how 137 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: she feels about me. She also encouraged me to write 138 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: this letter because she wanted our opinions. So should we 139 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: move on with our lives or Candy? Hug your brother, 140 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: your brother. You need to go and then hug your brother. 141 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 1: Your brother needs love. It it's not her brother's her 142 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 1: stepfather's sisters being wrong. If you had your brother, brother 143 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:40,960 Speaker 1: needs a love. Hug your cousin hugging. They're trying to 144 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: fix her life, Carlin, Hug him, Hug him tight, Hug him. 145 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: With the love that you have brother, kiss your stepbrother cousin, 146 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:58,319 Speaker 1: kiss him stepfather's sister's marriage. Tell a second cousin already 147 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: hit for Growing up, didn't you always have a crush 148 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: on your cousins? Everybody had a crush and they're everybody did, 149 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: but you know not, you knew not to cross that line. 150 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:20,200 Speaker 1: I would have asked that. She'd said, go look at 151 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:26,439 Speaker 1: your second cousin. You think they intimate. Well, let's see. 152 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: She keeps trying to hide her feelings, but I can 153 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 1: tell how she feels about me. Um, I think they're 154 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 1: one hand any guinea. I think they've already done that. 155 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:41,079 Speaker 1: They didn't done it? What are you talking about? But 156 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: but out of respect for the family, they want to 157 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: do the right thing. I can only go by when 158 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: they did it. Was they doing the right thing? They 159 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: im Toma. He had candles, rolls, pedals, all that lights 160 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:57,719 Speaker 1: low and she walked in the room and family reunion 161 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 1: playing come each other on special occasions, and they should 162 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 1: do it again, and do it again, do it again. 163 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 1: Now they're texting more frequently. Well, you couldn't get something 164 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 1: out of and now we enjoy each other's company. Yeah, 165 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 1: don't say nothing to me. When your kids have to 166 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: wear baseball caps on. They're not related. There's no blood. 167 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: There's no blood between them. Okay, there's no blood. Don't 168 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,320 Speaker 1: don't have no kids, that's all. Don't have no children, 169 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: not related, and tell me you did it before, so stop. 170 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: He got away with it. I'm said again. It was 171 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:58,720 Speaker 1: my uncle's second wife's daughter in law's twin, sister's cousin. Okay. 172 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: I think that's a pretty good distance away, Shirley. All right, 173 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: and so is this okay? So is this? We're moving on, Guys, 174 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: go to Instagram with your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter. 175 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 1: At my girl, Shirley, you're listening to the Steve Harvey 176 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: Morning Show.