1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: Calls media. 2 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 2: All right, if you knew here, you know this isn't 3 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 2: normally how we move. This is going to be a 4 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:12,159 Speaker 2: vastly different episode, kind of like I'm gonna get a 5 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 2: little meta, you know, pull pull the curtain back, not 6 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:18,919 Speaker 2: just sort of like do what we normally do, which 7 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 2: is like, you know, translate politics to the lingo that you. 8 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 3: And I talk. 9 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 2: And it's also like so close to the election to 10 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 2: just let me just pause for a second, because god 11 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 2: dog has been a year now. If you're not into 12 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 2: none of the meta stuff, you want to get back 13 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 2: to the Blase black woo wool and shall skip this one. 14 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:44,560 Speaker 2: It's all good, but I'm gonna keep it the buck 15 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:45,160 Speaker 2: with y'all today. 16 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 3: Hood politics, y'all. 17 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:05,199 Speaker 2: All right, first ever into the politics history trigger warning. 18 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 3: I don't know why I never thought about. 19 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 2: Ever doing these, because I figure y'all knew what y'all 20 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 2: signing up for you. So you're gonna hear some hard 21 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 2: r in words in this episode, but also a lot 22 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 2: of West Coast representative because I mean, what a glorious 23 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 2: time to be from California. We got the Doyers in 24 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 2: the in the super Bowl. The Lakers are actually winning games. 25 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 2: Shout out JJ, thank you so much, you actually call 26 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 2: timeouts like this is glorious. Brownie's gonna go to the 27 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 2: G League because he does not belong on the You 28 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 2: did it, you did it, You did your thing. You 29 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 2: guys played together. 30 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 3: It was cool. 31 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 2: Now let the boy become a pro at the pace 32 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 2: he needs to become a pro. Anyway, we had the 33 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 2: east Side Classic with which is the two East LA 34 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 2: Boyle Heights schools, the Boyle Height schools called Roosevelt High, 35 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 2: which is where will I am went to, which is 36 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 2: the neighborhood I live in. And then you have the 37 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 2: East LA school Garfield High. Now, if you saw Stand 38 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 2: and Deliver with ever James almost you got ganas that 39 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 2: took place at Garfield High. So the east Side Classic 40 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:15,679 Speaker 2: is just a legendary tradition between the two Torolo schools 41 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,440 Speaker 2: in on the East side of LA. And that happened 42 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 2: the same night that the Dodgers was Game one in 43 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 2: the World Series, the same night the Lakers played, which 44 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:29,800 Speaker 2: was the same night that USC played, which was the 45 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 2: same night that the Forum and SOFI and the Hollywood 46 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 2: Bowl all had concerts going on probably the worst traffic 47 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,680 Speaker 2: day in history but I tell you what. We hit 48 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: a trifecta Lakers one, Dodgers won USC one. But the 49 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 2: beauty is the fact that we won against the Yankees. 50 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 2: I mean, can you just it? Can it be more? 51 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 2: Can it be a Can this be a more beautiful moment? America? 52 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 2: This is your gift La versus New York Tims versus Chucks, 53 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 2: the Air Force Ones versus Cortes, I'll be cool versus 54 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 2: what's aft fool like bacon, egg and cheese versus tacos? Like, 55 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 2: come on, can anything be more American than this? And 56 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 2: I have this haunting feeling that this was God's gift 57 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 2: to us to have some sort of joy before this 58 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 2: election goes off a week I think away from electing 59 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 2: a new president. And I'm not gonna hold you. I'm 60 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 2: feeling nervous, not so much about the election, but what 61 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 2: the election implies and how the rest of the holiday 62 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 2: season is gonna go. I already feel my lizard brain, 63 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 2: my fight or flight getting activated, and part of that 64 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 2: came from this situation. 65 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 3: Last week. 66 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 2: I think it was Wednesday, I took the train up 67 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 2: to Universal Studios like Believe or Not, Like I live 68 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 2: in East Lost, mostly off from Cali that listen to 69 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 2: this show anyway. So took the train from East Los 70 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 2: E Line to you can take the E Line to 71 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 2: seventh Metro and then you take that whether. 72 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 3: You take that to the B. 73 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 2: Right that goes north and it gets off on at 74 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 2: Universal Studios to meet one of my homeboys, who was 75 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 2: Mihaomie L. Craig, who was having a little studio sessh 76 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 2: you know, which is like my usual. He's in town, 77 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:30,799 Speaker 2: go see the homie. You know what I'm saying. Listen 78 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 2: to pick out beast bug out like that's my dog's 79 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: There's a cool thing about being friends with musicians, like 80 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 2: whenever they're in town because I need the same thing. 81 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 2: Like whenever I'm in town, like there's a few hommies 82 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 2: I I tap in with that. 83 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:45,160 Speaker 3: I'm like, what's up. 84 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:46,920 Speaker 2: I'm trying to you know, trying to see what's up, 85 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 2: and most of the time they'll drop what they're doing 86 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 2: to make sure that I'm having a good time in 87 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 2: the city. I try to do the same for them. 88 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 2: So world up there, we took a break to do 89 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 2: the blackest thing ever was you know, walk to the 90 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 2: liquor stuff. But we knew we the new version black dudes, 91 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 2: because we both got cambouches, you know. 92 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 3: Anyway, I mean, this is North Hollywood. We're on Kuwanga, like. 93 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:16,040 Speaker 2: This is across the street, across the freeway from Universal Studios. 94 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 2: It's like there's just mansions behind us, like it's it's 95 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 2: North Hollywood. And as we're walking, what I thought was 96 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:29,160 Speaker 2: like one of those like Kia little SUVs, but what 97 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 2: Chray saw as like a Lexus suv. We hear top 98 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 2: their lungs fucking nigger as the guy drives by. And 99 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 2: I've been called a nigger before, but like and it's 100 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 2: always like the drive by niggering, like nobody ever really 101 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 2: want to smoke. 102 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 3: And for a second, it took me a second to 103 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 3: register of what happened. 104 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 2: Because I thought, sometimes you know, when people do to 105 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 2: drive by yelling, you can't really tell exactly what they 106 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 2: were saying. But then you started figuring it out and 107 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 2: you're like, I was like, yo, did he just then 108 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 2: you're looking at this where we are. This is North Hollywood. 109 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 2: This is North Hollywood, like what we're street from Universal Studios? 110 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 2: The hell is happening? I'm just bewildered. Craig completely goes 111 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:18,159 Speaker 2: into fight mode. Now, at some point I thought maybe 112 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 2: maybe it was one of the homies who was just 113 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 2: being stupid and was gonna pull into gas station and 114 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 2: then jump out and be like, man, you know, I 115 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 2: thought like it was just gonna be some joke, but like, 116 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 2: that's not funny, boy, as you almost got stomped out 117 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:33,799 Speaker 2: right now. 118 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 3: You know. 119 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 2: But no, of course coward keeps on to the freeway 120 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 2: entrance and drives off. And I don't know what in that, 121 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:43,919 Speaker 2: first of all, what you're doing in this part of 122 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:46,359 Speaker 2: town to be able to say something like that. We 123 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 2: started to see who was playing at the Greek Theater? 124 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 2: Who at the Who's at the Hollywood Bowl? It was 125 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 2: apparently it was an imagine Dragon's concert happening there. Hopefully 126 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:56,359 Speaker 2: that wasn't one of y'all fans. I just we just 127 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 2: couldn't figure out, like, who in the hell would. 128 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:01,280 Speaker 3: Be that bowl? And why why are you that bold? 129 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:02,719 Speaker 3: Why now? Man? 130 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 2: And then to end this week with I just something 131 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,559 Speaker 2: that can't I'm trying not to describe this thing as 132 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 2: a clan rally. It's just so hard to not see 133 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 2: it as such. The last few your your closing arguments 134 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 2: as a candidate for presidency, This this rally at Madison 135 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 2: Square Garden, which normally is like, look, man, that's their thing, 136 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 2: Trump being Trump, y'all like that. It's not my cup 137 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 2: of tea at I don't understand what y'all see in him, 138 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 2: but it is what it is. This one was just man, 139 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 2: this one got to me. And then you couple that 140 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 2: with my Lord just auntie, Like, why can't you just 141 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 2: why is this God's a thing so hard for you? 142 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 2: Why can't you just how come you can't just like 143 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 2: what you got yourself to say that Trump's are fascists. 144 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 2: I just don't understand why you can't why I do understand, 145 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,120 Speaker 2: but God, dog is so why can't you just denounce 146 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 2: this war? Why can't you just why can't you just 147 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 2: promise you gonna divest? Like what who got like who 148 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 2: got your mama tied up? So that you can't say 149 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: what we all know you need to say. Oh and 150 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 2: you know what else, homie, This little Dirk thing, you know, 151 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 2: he's facing murder charges off, a murder for hire, this 152 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 2: drill music stuff like I've never like like these kids 153 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 2: is dying and going to prison and just it's a 154 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 2: great article in Rolling Stones. 155 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 3: No the Rolling Stone. That's what the bar magazine is called. 156 00:08:52,040 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 2: By andre g I got put onto and by the 157 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 2: Homi ray Neutron and incredible visual artists about just drill music. 158 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 3: Drill rap is truly. 159 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 2: A dead end, Like we need to have the conversation 160 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 2: about this, and it just got me really like, I mean, 161 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 2: I'm all in my feelings right now, y'all. 162 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 3: So this episode is just for us. 163 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 2: I just want to encourage you to take care of yourself. 164 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 2: So here's some ways that I take care of myself 165 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 2: and I plan on taking care of myself, and I 166 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 2: encourage you to do the same. So with this being 167 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 2: so close to the election, that's no reason to try 168 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 2: to bring up a whole new topic. Like you know, 169 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 2: like I said, everybody making their closing arguments and I 170 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:03,200 Speaker 2: just feel like on the brink of exchange. But the 171 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:07,680 Speaker 2: thing is like when you grow up poor. Now I 172 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 2: say this not to like undermine the efforts and the 173 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:17,559 Speaker 2: success that my parents had in my lifetime, that the 174 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 2: poverty for which we started in and the poverty that 175 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 2: was before my time pales in comparison to where we 176 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:30,559 Speaker 2: ended up. My parents like even when they split, both 177 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:35,720 Speaker 2: of them really ascended a ladder of financial security. 178 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 3: That was a lot of ups and. 179 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 2: Downs in my childhood, like realizing that like we had well, 180 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 2: you know, it was it was more like instability. It 181 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 2: would be like, you know, one month we buy in 182 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 2: like shrimping salmon and lobster is another month it's like 183 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:51,320 Speaker 2: fried baloney sandwich. 184 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 3: We just couldn't forget it. 185 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:55,240 Speaker 2: It just we was never really like cool, which is 186 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 2: probably why I saved money so well. But I did 187 00:10:57,880 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 2: not have it like a lot of my friends or 188 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:06,479 Speaker 2: even Alma had it, you know, first immigrant, you know, textiles, 189 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 2: sweat sweatshop, you know, or Mama worked in like they 190 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 2: had it worse than us as far as like socioeconomically. 191 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:13,839 Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, the point I'm 192 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 2: trying to make is a lot of times you don't 193 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 2: know you in the hood till somebody tell you. You don't 194 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 2: know you poor until somebody pointed out to you somebody 195 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:26,080 Speaker 2: I forget, like it was a joke running around my 196 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 2: little social feeds, was like, hey, when did you know 197 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 2: you were poor? 198 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:32,440 Speaker 3: Like what was what was the thing for you? 199 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 2: I could tell you a few the moments for me 200 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:37,560 Speaker 2: where I realized, like I said, it wasn't that bad 201 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 2: for us? You know, it could have been worse. I 202 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 2: think a few things happened with me. One was when 203 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 2: I had told somebody wherever I was that I was 204 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,719 Speaker 2: going to go to my grandmother's house. And I told 205 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:52,839 Speaker 2: them where my grandmother lives, you know, at this time, 206 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 2: seventy thirty San Pedro, you know, south central LA. And 207 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 2: this was me being out of like not in that 208 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 2: neighbor hood anymore. We we had moved to San Gebol 209 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 2: Valley at the time. Who still, I'm like, this is Belinda, Like, y'all, 210 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 2: it's I'm like, it's bullet holes in our garage door, 211 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:12,199 Speaker 2: like you know what I'm saying, Like, I don't understand what. 212 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 3: The issue is, you know. 213 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:15,959 Speaker 2: So when I told them I was going there, and 214 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:20,440 Speaker 2: the way that they kind of class they pearls was 215 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 2: like it was just a little shocking to me because 216 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 2: I'm like, well, first of all, we used to live there, 217 00:12:25,880 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 2: like before we was here. 218 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 3: Number one, and number two. 219 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 2: I'm like, I spent my first five years because my 220 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 2: grandma baby sat us and my cousins and I played 221 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 2: outside all the time. I don't know what you're talking about, right, 222 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 2: And then and of course you knew. You know, there 223 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 2: was Dwayne and Dwight that lived because street I wasn't 224 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 2: allowed to play with because they was you know, lim 225 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 2: limo outside than we were, you know what I'm saying, 226 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 2: like and you know the kids down the street, and 227 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 2: you know, later on, you know, after this experience was 228 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 2: when I saw my first gun and you know what 229 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 2: I'm saying, like stuff like that, you know, but like 230 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:04,560 Speaker 2: again you just think it's normal. 231 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 3: But then I'm like, I don't understand what y'all. 232 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 2: So was like my grandmother like this old lady, Like shit, 233 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:15,840 Speaker 2: this is her, she lives there. And then my cousin's 234 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 2: grandmother lived down the street, you know, on on his 235 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 2: his father's side of the family. Like they're you know, 236 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 2: cause I'm related to his mother, you know what I'm saying. 237 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 2: So like I was like, bro, like this is what 238 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 2: do you like? This is our name? Why what are 239 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 2: you talking about? Like it just took threw me off 240 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 2: kind of like really they were so freaked out that 241 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 2: I spend my weekends in South Central Like it was 242 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 2: just it was that shock. 243 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 3: That was one of the ways. 244 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 2: Another ways was when I realized my neighbor after the 245 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,720 Speaker 2: neighbors that were there when we moved in, when they 246 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 2: moved out, that it ended up being a crack house. 247 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:56,960 Speaker 3: Like I did, didn't. 248 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 2: I just thought they were camping, like they just didn't 249 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:01,959 Speaker 2: turn to life cause they just like camping and they 250 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:03,079 Speaker 2: cooked with candles. 251 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 3: It was like fun, Like, no, nigga, that's a crack house. 252 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 2: Like I just I like realize we lived next door 253 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:12,520 Speaker 2: to a crak I didn't know, you know what I'm saying. 254 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 2: And then eventually they moved out to and then somebody 255 00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:16,839 Speaker 2: you know, moved into the house and like took care 256 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 2: of it again. 257 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 3: You know. 258 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 2: But yeah, like stuff like that. When we left the 259 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 2: San gab Valley, my parents got a tax returned, moved 260 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:28,040 Speaker 2: to the Inland Empire, and then shortly after my parents 261 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 2: split and joint custody whatever. 262 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 3: Right, So uh, but going back to my old neighborhood. 263 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 2: And seeing that, yeah, our garage door was riddled with bullets. 264 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 2: I was like, oh my gosh, this house gets shot up. 265 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 2: And then just realizing like, oh, that's not normal. Everybody 266 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 2: don't go through that. You feel me like stuff, you know, 267 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 2: just writing letters to my cousins in jail and putting 268 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 2: together packages like realizing that that's not like everybody don't 269 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:01,400 Speaker 2: do that, Like I just I didn't know. 270 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 3: We went to go have dinner. 271 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 2: With another one of the families from my church, and 272 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 2: I remember my dad preparing us like, Okay, now when 273 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 2: we go to their house, I don't want you acting 274 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 2: all weird because they house is real, it's a lot 275 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:18,000 Speaker 2: bigger than ours. I was like, what, I ain't worried 276 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 2: about they house? Like what are you talking about? And 277 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:24,480 Speaker 2: then we walked into the house and I was like, god, 278 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 2: syu'all you have an upstairs and then just like just 279 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:37,760 Speaker 2: an in ground pool, like just all these like cues that. 280 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:40,800 Speaker 3: I'm like, Bro, we're like, we're in the same Sunday school. 281 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,920 Speaker 3: I see y'all all the time. That's how y'all live. 282 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 2: Like just what I'm trying to say is there are 283 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 2: moments that you don't realize you're in a heightened sense 284 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:57,720 Speaker 2: of danger, and you just get used to it. So 285 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 2: we found joy in ways for which we learn to 286 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 2: take care of ourselves, even living among some very violent 287 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:09,920 Speaker 2: in neighborhoods and very precarious times. 288 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 3: You know. 289 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:13,080 Speaker 2: I have a lyric in one of my songs what 290 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 2: I call serp sandwiches, the delicacies of the disadvantage, making 291 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 2: greatness without anything inside our pockets. 292 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 3: Understanding that like, yeah, it's a syrup sandwich. 293 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 2: You know, you ever had a serp sandwich, then you 294 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 2: probably wasn't poor, you know what I'm saying. I realize 295 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:32,600 Speaker 2: now like struggle meals for white people as casse role. Now, 296 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 2: I know, I'd never thought about it like that, Like, oh, y'all, 297 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 2: just whatever's in the cabinet, you just put it. You 298 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 2: put it in the thing and make it crunchy on 299 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:43,840 Speaker 2: top of that cheese. It's fine, It's oh my gosh. 300 00:16:43,960 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 2: I was like, I realized, like I'll never eat it, 301 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 2: But I realize I actually appreciate struggle food. 302 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 3: I had no idea. I really had no idea. 303 00:16:55,240 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 2: But the point is we found joy even in the 304 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 2: midst of the wildness that we lived in. We found 305 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 2: ways to find joy. So that's what I want to 306 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: do right now, because I feel like it's about to 307 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:08,240 Speaker 2: be crazy. 308 00:17:08,400 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: Find ways to find joy. 309 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:57,400 Speaker 3: All right now. 310 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 2: The guiding principal for is that you know, joy is resistance. 311 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 2: The phrase comes from a poem called Joy is an 312 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 2: Active Resistance by toy Derricott. She like was born April 313 00:18:15,080 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 2: nineteen forty one, professor at a professor of writing at 314 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:24,399 Speaker 2: the University of Pittsburgh. Now, of course, like all the 315 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:28,680 Speaker 2: other things that black people make, that we created for 316 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,600 Speaker 2: our survival, ends up getting its teeth taken out of 317 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 2: it and becomes a platitude, especially in the era of Trump. 318 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:37,920 Speaker 3: But I'm doing this. 319 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 2: I'm bringing this up to like refang, like put the 320 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:44,360 Speaker 2: fangs back into what we're trying to say right now. 321 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:50,159 Speaker 2: And what that tradition comes out of is if you 322 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:56,280 Speaker 2: can think back to the songs sang on, plantations, dances, 323 00:18:56,400 --> 00:19:02,640 Speaker 2: created the Chitlin circuit, the creation of blues and jazz, this. 324 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 3: Is the tradition. The tradition is we are unbreakable. 325 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 2: We are unbreakable in a way that it sometimes can 326 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 2: even compound the hate towards us, because even in your 327 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 2: ability to wield power and stamp us out and segregate, 328 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 2: once you built that, you, as in the system, built 329 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 2: this fence to block us in. You looked over into 330 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:32,840 Speaker 2: the fence and realized we made it work. And now 331 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:35,800 Speaker 2: you want what we created in there, jazz, blues, hip, hop, 332 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 2: all of it. So I say that to say when 333 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:45,160 Speaker 2: I look at videos in Palestine of kids doing parkour, 334 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 2: skaters skating over rubble. When I see stuff like that, 335 00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:57,240 Speaker 2: hear me because us singing Negro spirituals in the slave 336 00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:03,119 Speaker 2: ships or in the Nigga quarters doesn't mean that. 337 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 3: That made Chattow slavery. 338 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:08,439 Speaker 2: Okay, It didn't mean that we didn't stop fighting with 339 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 2: all of our heart, mind and soul to end that 340 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:15,919 Speaker 2: type of oppression. I don't mean that at all. It 341 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:19,360 Speaker 2: just meant that there were parts of us that were untouchable, 342 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 2: that remained solely belonging to us. And I think this 343 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:25,639 Speaker 2: is why a lot of times, outside of just the 344 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 2: continuation of this happening, like why I think a lot 345 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 2: of times Black people are so protective about their culture 346 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 2: is because it's like, this is what we create, because 347 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:42,399 Speaker 2: we're finding joy, you know. So my first thing I 348 00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:46,359 Speaker 2: do is I find things that truly give me joy 349 00:20:47,200 --> 00:20:53,680 Speaker 2: for me, my children. I really enjoy my children. I 350 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 2: like audio books. A lot of times there are things 351 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:59,480 Speaker 2: that I have to, you know, learn for this that 352 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:03,240 Speaker 2: are be deeply disturbing. But then some stuff just be 353 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 2: I stuff I just like learning, you know, and things 354 00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:09,880 Speaker 2: that I just think are interested. A lot of times 355 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 2: it be around like science and preservation. My wife she 356 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:18,560 Speaker 2: likes apocalyptic fiction. That's like visionary fiction. Somehow or another, 357 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,359 Speaker 2: I became an old man and I really became a 358 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:24,320 Speaker 2: plant dad, which started over the pandemic, which is funny 359 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 2: because my wife bought a gang of plants. She let 360 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,920 Speaker 2: him die and I was like, man, not on my watch. 361 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,639 Speaker 2: So then I got really good at that. I'm a 362 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:36,479 Speaker 2: city boy, so I didn't even own a drill until 363 00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:39,879 Speaker 2: twenty twenty, until we bought a house. When we bought 364 00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 2: the house in the pandemic as the first drill ever owned, 365 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:44,040 Speaker 2: I don't. 366 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 3: I didn't. 367 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 2: I was like, I, Oh, my daddy's a city boy. 368 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:49,040 Speaker 2: I talk about daddy all the time. He's city boy, 369 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:52,440 Speaker 2: intellectual ladies man, black panther. Like that's one. We don't 370 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,840 Speaker 2: build stuff. We pay people to build stuff. But like 371 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:58,119 Speaker 2: when that money start getting funny. I also grew up 372 00:21:58,119 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 2: with Mexicans. I grew up with old school Mexican me, 373 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 2: and that was like, you better learn how to when 374 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:03,679 Speaker 2: you when it's your place, you better learn how to 375 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 2: take care of it, you know what I'm saying. So 376 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,919 Speaker 2: I got that work ethic from now, I just started 377 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 2: calling the theals like, hey, what do I need for? 378 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 3: What do I need? 379 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,119 Speaker 2: And it was on some like I'm glad you asked, buddy, like, 380 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 2: let's let's get it cracking. So now, like man, I 381 00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:19,639 Speaker 2: started taking a part, like our fence was falling apart us, 382 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 2: you know, put the fence back in. You feel me 383 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 2: like those things bring me joy? What? And I realized 384 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 2: what brings me joy ultimately in that is like it's 385 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 2: a job well done. I enjoy completing completing something makes 386 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,959 Speaker 2: me smile. I had to find something that made me 387 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 2: unplugged at a mentor tell me once, have something in 388 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,720 Speaker 2: your life as a hobby that you can afford to 389 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,480 Speaker 2: suck at so it's not tied to like your family's 390 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 2: income or safety, and you just it's okay if you 391 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:53,120 Speaker 2: suck at it, you know, and just take your time 392 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,639 Speaker 2: and teach yourself, you know. And I found that that 393 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:00,920 Speaker 2: helps me get into flow state too. It started off 394 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:04,240 Speaker 2: as coffee, and then coffee became a job. So I 395 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:10,120 Speaker 2: had to find something else and plug completely into something else. 396 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 2: So I don't know what what gets you in the 397 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,919 Speaker 2: flow state? For me, it's I believe it or not. 398 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,000 Speaker 2: Yard work, which used to be punishment, like what I was. 399 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 2: When I was a kid, you had to do yard 400 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,960 Speaker 2: work because you was cutting up in school. Now I'm like, well, 401 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 2: it's my yard. So I found that. You know, you 402 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 2: gotta find you something that puts you into the flow 403 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 2: state that just brings you joy, and then at the 404 00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,879 Speaker 2: end of it you're like, yo, this is this is dope. 405 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 2: But as we know, all of the time, you can't 406 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 2: just put your headphones in, put your earbuds in and 407 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 2: do things that make you happy. Sometimes you got to 408 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:51,160 Speaker 2: talk to other people. Now I can't like, I can't 409 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,080 Speaker 2: tell you how bad it grieved me. Like there's some 410 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:58,880 Speaker 2: things that enrage me. This this Madison Square garden thing 411 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:02,320 Speaker 2: grieved me for a number of reasons. Well I'm pretty 412 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,439 Speaker 2: sure you know most of them, one of which is, like, 413 00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 2: just somebody just be loud and wrong. Rudy Giuliani talking 414 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:14,320 Speaker 2: about Palestinians are taught when they're two to kill Americans. 415 00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 3: Bro, what the fuck are you talking about? Like not 416 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:21,920 Speaker 3: a not a fact checked anywhere? 417 00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:27,680 Speaker 2: Man? What you got the comedian out there making the 418 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 2: joke about Puerto Rico that there's this you know, there 419 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 2: is a big old floating pil of trash in the 420 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 2: middle of the ocean. 421 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 3: That is true. He's like, I think it's called Puerto Rico. 422 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:38,640 Speaker 3: You did this in New York. 423 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:48,280 Speaker 2: Also, God, you know Puerto Rico's American, right, it's an 424 00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:50,960 Speaker 2: American territory. 425 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,480 Speaker 3: God like you. 426 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:58,280 Speaker 2: You could be like, racism is dumb, but you can't 427 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:01,960 Speaker 2: be racist and dumb. Trump talking about taking care of 428 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 2: the Kaldan Christians. I'm like, nigga, they're Iraqi, they're Iraqi. 429 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:10,600 Speaker 3: You want to deport them? What do you. 430 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 2: So you make that joke? He points out the black 431 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 2: dude and he says, nah, he cool. You know, we 432 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 2: was carving watermelons for Halloween. Now y'all made a miss 433 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 2: that one. But there's a history around black people in watermelon. See, 434 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:27,439 Speaker 2: everybody like watermelon. But what what black people used to 435 00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,280 Speaker 2: do to make a little money is we used to 436 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 2: sell them. They ain't like that because we was getting 437 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:34,160 Speaker 2: some financial security off of our watermelon. So that's how 438 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 2: the racist trope around black people and watermelon started happening, 439 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 2: because we were selling watermelon making money. 440 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 3: Everybody watermelon. It's delicious. 441 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 2: So outside of that just being an old, not funny joke, 442 00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:49,520 Speaker 2: like just it's such a low hanging fruit. And then 443 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:56,239 Speaker 2: just continuing with the enemy within mass deportations and just 444 00:25:56,840 --> 00:26:01,679 Speaker 2: they're poisoning our blood just like and again, just just 445 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:08,040 Speaker 2: for review, Puerto Ricans are American. Trump got an immigrant wife, 446 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 2: and so does JD. 447 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 3: Evans. 448 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 2: They don't count though, No, they don't count. And I 449 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 2: think you know why this stuff be so egregious that 450 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,000 Speaker 2: I'm even mad that I'm talking about it. 451 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 3: But the thing that gets me the most is y'all 452 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:33,879 Speaker 3: all stayed in there, y'all. Y'all really that all that 453 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 3: was okay for you? You was cool with all that. 454 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 3: Y'all was cool with y'all was really cool with all that. 455 00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:42,239 Speaker 2: I have friends who are truly my friends, who I 456 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 2: love and respect. I'm thinking of two of them right 457 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:48,240 Speaker 2: now who I admire in some ways, who are totally 458 00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:53,000 Speaker 2: bought in with Trump. And I don't know how to 459 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:57,399 Speaker 2: broach this because they're both Latino, and I just I 460 00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 2: don't know how you can be okay with this. 461 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 3: Now my next point, I need. 462 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 2: Y'all to hear me, because I can already hear y'all 463 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,880 Speaker 2: pushing back, like, well, black people make white jokes all 464 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 2: the time. Well, we also didn't build a time machine 465 00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:17,240 Speaker 2: and colonize the entire you know, northern hemisphere and bomb 466 00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,800 Speaker 2: them back to the Stone Age every couple hundred years. 467 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:23,760 Speaker 2: We're not we aren't the oppressors. We're not the colonizers. 468 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 2: Power dynamics different. So and for you to not know that, 469 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,679 Speaker 2: to me is like disingenuous. But put that to the 470 00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:34,159 Speaker 2: side for a second. Here's the reality. And if you 471 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,920 Speaker 2: ever clip if you're gonna clip, clip this, this this 472 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,879 Speaker 2: pot clip this part, give us the respect to know 473 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,080 Speaker 2: that we can tell a joke and we can take 474 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 2: a joke. I know some listen, some people make some 475 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:49,800 Speaker 2: very hilarious black jokes, Like I can take a racist 476 00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,520 Speaker 2: joke when I know it's a joke. I'm gonna invoke 477 00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 2: Dave Chappelle right now, which I know might bother some 478 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:58,080 Speaker 2: of y'all. But Dave Chappelle talked about when he stopped 479 00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,240 Speaker 2: doing The Chappelle Show that he was working on a 480 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,439 Speaker 2: skid and I don't remember the skid, but he was 481 00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 2: telling this interview that as everybody was laughing, there was 482 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,639 Speaker 2: a moment when he looked around and he was like, 483 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:13,000 Speaker 2: the way you're laughing doesn't feel the same. That is 484 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:14,960 Speaker 2: white people and the staff whatever you know what I'm saying, 485 00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,080 Speaker 2: and it's not so much. We can't you know, make 486 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,120 Speaker 2: jokes about ourselves and live, you know, among each other 487 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,480 Speaker 2: and just it's cool, like it's. 488 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:26,320 Speaker 3: Fine when I know it's fine. We know. 489 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 2: When a joke is a joke and when it's low 490 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 2: key not. I'ma I'm gonna push you further. That fellas 491 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,320 Speaker 2: that girl that you say all lighting up, it's just 492 00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. It's just it's compliment, it's innocent. 493 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,600 Speaker 2: She know the difference you getting mad where you're like, oh, 494 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 2: I'm just gonna get me, I'm gonna get canceled. Well, 495 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,160 Speaker 2: how come he doesn't get canceled? Well because she could 496 00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:50,840 Speaker 2: tell the difference. Now, of course, the exceptions of you know, 497 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,720 Speaker 2: things that people have existed, you know, on the on 498 00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:57,959 Speaker 2: the spectrum in some ways where social cues are an issue, 499 00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 2: that's a neurological something. 500 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:00,160 Speaker 3: You know that. 501 00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,080 Speaker 2: Of course, that's the exception I'm talking about. But generally, 502 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:06,880 Speaker 2: if you have a neurotypical brain, you can tell the difference, 503 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 2: especially if you're a person of color. 504 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 3: We know, believe it or not. 505 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 2: We know when we're window dressing, we know when we're 506 00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:18,480 Speaker 2: feeling quotas. We know if we're DEIHI you think that's 507 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,880 Speaker 2: a disc We know when we are and we know 508 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:26,240 Speaker 2: when we're not. We also know when you're just a 509 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,840 Speaker 2: trash human being racist. You could say, oh, lighten up, 510 00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:32,960 Speaker 2: it's just a joke. We can tell the difference. Just 511 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,640 Speaker 2: let you know right now, we can tell the difference. 512 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:17,680 Speaker 3: So here's what I do. 513 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:22,160 Speaker 2: So last year I put out a conversation guide about 514 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 2: your racist uncle Dave over the holidays. I fortunately don't 515 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,680 Speaker 2: have a racist uncle Dave, but I got an incredibly 516 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:31,240 Speaker 2: homophobic uncle Mumsey. 517 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 3: Not really my uncle Mumsey, he's passed away, rest in peace. 518 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 2: But the homophobic, you know, anti tran stuff be it'd 519 00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,479 Speaker 2: be real in the hoods. Sometimes I'll be hearing stuff 520 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 2: that like, hey, nigga, that shit is not funny type vibe, 521 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,600 Speaker 2: and then I'm the weird though. So I think for you, 522 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 2: you know, white folks who have just a shred of 523 00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 2: decency when you have to just you know, giggle with 524 00:30:58,760 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 2: your uncle. 525 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 3: Mark like it's hard, and I vibe with you. 526 00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 2: Here's what I learned is that people's minds are convinced 527 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 2: by how they feel. In New York Times just did 528 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 2: a study about Maricopa County in Arizona about them and 529 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,000 Speaker 2: then people feeling like Trump won that election. 530 00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 3: Despite how. 531 00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:31,440 Speaker 2: Many times this has been debunked, it has been proven, 532 00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:35,520 Speaker 2: no matter how many times the cases were thrown, there's 533 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:39,120 Speaker 2: no amount of evidence that's going to change how they 534 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 2: feel about this. I don't understand that, but I can 535 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,880 Speaker 2: relate to it because we have a joke running around 536 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,720 Speaker 2: here that's like, hey, hey, what's not racist? But feel 537 00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:56,040 Speaker 2: like it's racist? And to me, there's them sunglasses, them 538 00:31:56,120 --> 00:32:00,120 Speaker 2: Rayven kind of looking sunglasses that attached to the back 539 00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,400 Speaker 2: that had a strap that go behind your back, like 540 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 2: they just sunglasses. 541 00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:05,880 Speaker 3: They just feel racist to me. I know they not, 542 00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:10,880 Speaker 3: they just sunglasses. It just feel racist. The Boston Celtics, 543 00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 3: it's just a basketball team. It just feel racist. So 544 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 3: I get it when some just feel so. 545 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:28,320 Speaker 2: Unfortunately, in this scenario, you have to be the spaceholder. 546 00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:32,280 Speaker 2: There are certain things that are obviously non negotiables. All 547 00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,920 Speaker 2: ideas are obviously not equal, and you don't have to 548 00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:41,200 Speaker 2: participate in every conversation. So one way that I take 549 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:47,120 Speaker 2: care of myself is when there is no entrance into 550 00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 2: actually getting somewhere good from a conversation. I try to 551 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:58,960 Speaker 2: find my way out of it by understanding what their 552 00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 2: problem is, what are you feeling? So I found that 553 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:10,440 Speaker 2: with the trans situation, the math isn't mathing to them. 554 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:16,600 Speaker 2: They feel confused, like they don't understand why this is 555 00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 2: so hard for the rest of us. They like, I 556 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,520 Speaker 2: don't you either got a penis or a vagina. I 557 00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:26,200 Speaker 2: don't understand why this is so hard for y'all. And 558 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,640 Speaker 2: even if you chop your dick off, you still a dude. 559 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:33,120 Speaker 2: Like in their brain, it just it seems so simple 560 00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:36,480 Speaker 2: to them, and they don't understand what we don't understand, right, 561 00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,000 Speaker 2: So what I've had to learn, and of course this 562 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 2: is just one example, what I've had to learn is 563 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:45,480 Speaker 2: to say it seems is to understand that they feel disoriented. 564 00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,920 Speaker 2: And a lot of times when you just feel disoriented, 565 00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,480 Speaker 2: you just want the thing that disorients you to go away, 566 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,080 Speaker 2: and they're not gonna go away, so you just gonna 567 00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 2: have to learn to live with it. So I try 568 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:58,560 Speaker 2: to find a way to relate to the idea of 569 00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:04,600 Speaker 2: feeling disoriented when just math doesn't math, And then if 570 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:09,440 Speaker 2: opportunity presents itself, show a way to just even just 571 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,680 Speaker 2: crack the door open to being like, well, I mean, 572 00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:16,080 Speaker 2: I I know trans people like you know what I'm saying, 573 00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:20,120 Speaker 2: and it's I mean, it's not. It don't have to 574 00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:23,000 Speaker 2: be weird, like you don't have to you don't have 575 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,400 Speaker 2: to think about their genital like it just be that 576 00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:27,920 Speaker 2: simple to me, Like I don't think about their genital. 577 00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:30,239 Speaker 3: I'm having a regular conversation. 578 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,960 Speaker 2: With another and I found again because we you know, 579 00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,680 Speaker 2: with Lamo Edgy, I could say stuff like that like well, 580 00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:37,680 Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't I'm not thinking about his 581 00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:40,399 Speaker 2: dick or lack there. I'm not thinking about it like 582 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:42,760 Speaker 2: that's that man's life or that girl's life. 583 00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 3: It don't make me. 584 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,480 Speaker 2: You want me to call you baby pooky like that, 585 00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,799 Speaker 2: I'm gonna call you base own like that's you. 586 00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:52,000 Speaker 3: That's what you want me to call You's fine. They 587 00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:53,319 Speaker 3: live on the same planet, you. 588 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:56,359 Speaker 2: Dude, so like to me, if I could get to 589 00:34:56,400 --> 00:35:00,880 Speaker 2: the like, oh you feel disoriented, let's let's deal with 590 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 2: that now. Of course, there is, like I said before, 591 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,560 Speaker 2: there's boundaries. There's lines I'm not gonna cross. Well, I'm 592 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:11,440 Speaker 2: just like, I'm not even finna talk to you if 593 00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:16,879 Speaker 2: you're gonna be a level of disrespect that's like just intenable. 594 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:18,920 Speaker 2: Then I'm like, all right, nah, we done. I mean, 595 00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,520 Speaker 2: like there's you're tripping you know what I'm saying. Of 596 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:27,359 Speaker 2: course you know there's that line, but you know, I'm 597 00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:32,360 Speaker 2: I'm assuming a situation where this is a really this 598 00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:38,800 Speaker 2: relative that I love. You know, they're just vehemently, violently wrong. 599 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:44,839 Speaker 3: Yep. Then to me, that gets to. 600 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,359 Speaker 2: A place that won I don't have to be frustrated 601 00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:57,120 Speaker 2: because I clearly can't make you feel something that none 602 00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 2: of these facts or information can make you feel because 603 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,280 Speaker 2: you see in the opposite of it, but you already 604 00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:05,399 Speaker 2: believe what you believe. Clearly, there is nothing we can 605 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:09,919 Speaker 2: tell these people in Maricopa County that would convince them 606 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:15,359 Speaker 2: otherwise that man Trump lost that election. I just they 607 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:17,880 Speaker 2: just gonna have to take that one today. Grade I'd like, 608 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,280 Speaker 2: there's nothing I could do about that. But I understand 609 00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:24,439 Speaker 2: what it feels like to feel like you're not being 610 00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:24,880 Speaker 2: listened to. 611 00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:26,239 Speaker 3: I understand that. 612 00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,560 Speaker 2: I feel like I understand what it feels like to 613 00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:35,400 Speaker 2: feel disenfranchised, even though they are factually not disenfranchised. I 614 00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,840 Speaker 2: just don't he just didn't get enough votes. That's not disenfranchisement, nigga, 615 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,080 Speaker 2: that's the system. I don't know how to explain that 616 00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,120 Speaker 2: to him, and I'm pretty sure they understand it, but 617 00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:47,799 Speaker 2: they feel disenfranchised. I can understand that sometimes you just 618 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,800 Speaker 2: gotta save your breath. It's not a tough subject. Changed 619 00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:53,960 Speaker 2: that's just let me get to this and you can 620 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,400 Speaker 2: do that. You can empathize without agreeing. Another thing I suggest, 621 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:03,000 Speaker 2: which again this is what I do is I mean, 622 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:09,040 Speaker 2: it seems as corny as it's gonna sound, even in 623 00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:13,480 Speaker 2: my own head, but like diet and exercise, I like, 624 00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:17,760 Speaker 2: I work out three times a week, you know, for 625 00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:20,120 Speaker 2: a good forty five minutes to an hour. Now I 626 00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:23,440 Speaker 2: understand I'm checking my privilege, but you know what, you 627 00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:28,520 Speaker 2: know what workout can be sometimes parking at the furthest 628 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:32,239 Speaker 2: parking lot spot and walking that can count when you 629 00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,560 Speaker 2: need to run to the store, get some milk, walk 630 00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:39,040 Speaker 2: like little things like that that gives you that space. 631 00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:40,719 Speaker 3: I got to pick up my kids. I feel you 632 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:41,640 Speaker 3: bring them with you, you know. 633 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:45,600 Speaker 2: Like there are ways that I used to call context 634 00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,000 Speaker 2: embedded exercise. 635 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,640 Speaker 3: If you ain't got one of them, gigs. 636 00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,520 Speaker 2: Where you can join a gym or like hit the park, 637 00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:53,920 Speaker 2: and be like be at the hood. You know what 638 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:55,320 Speaker 2: I'm saying on the pull up bars. You know what 639 00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:57,080 Speaker 2: I'm saying, like beer to be a part of be 640 00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:00,719 Speaker 2: programming out there, which you can do too if you like. Look, man, 641 00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:02,640 Speaker 2: I can't be doing them two in the morning, you know, 642 00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,959 Speaker 2: twenty four hour fitness joints. I feel you, you know hey, 643 00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:09,719 Speaker 2: but look while your lunch break at work again, walk 644 00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 2: to the shop, you know hey, and look, you know, 645 00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,719 Speaker 2: get a salad every once in a while. I know 646 00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:19,080 Speaker 2: how I sound, but you be surprised how better your 647 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 2: mood be when you ain't got bubble guts, when you 648 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,880 Speaker 2: ain't on the top of that word about high blood 649 00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:28,879 Speaker 2: pressure and diabetes. You'd be surprised how much better you 650 00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,280 Speaker 2: feel when you not fighting a hangover. 651 00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:34,120 Speaker 3: The world? Just feel way better, you know what I'm saying. 652 00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,640 Speaker 2: When you got a good night's rest, Nigga, go to bed, 653 00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:38,160 Speaker 2: like that's another thing. 654 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,959 Speaker 3: I like, listen, just go to bed. 655 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:45,840 Speaker 2: I just I don't know, I look, I just sometimes 656 00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:47,440 Speaker 2: you just got to be like, you know what the 657 00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:51,040 Speaker 2: day's done. We going to bed, you know, to charge 658 00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:53,400 Speaker 2: your phone in another room. That's another thing I do. 659 00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,960 Speaker 2: My phone's plugged up somewhere else. What you're staying up for? 660 00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,239 Speaker 3: Do you really need to watch another episode? Just gets 661 00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,560 Speaker 3: to sleep. We have this scale in our family. 662 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:06,200 Speaker 2: I may have said this before between me and the 663 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,640 Speaker 2: preferred to her by her prefix my wife doctor Alma. 664 00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:13,040 Speaker 2: Where when we first started dating, well, no, we were 665 00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:15,920 Speaker 2: first married one of my best friends, one of my 666 00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:19,920 Speaker 2: day ones, like tenth grade best friend. I'm officiating his wedding. 667 00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:22,360 Speaker 2: He was like, yo, I want to officiate away. He's 668 00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:25,560 Speaker 2: had one girlfriend besides this girl and started dating her 669 00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,320 Speaker 2: his senior year high school. Only girl you have loved 670 00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,319 Speaker 2: and the other girlfriend he had that was like for 671 00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:33,480 Speaker 2: a week. And that was mainly because we told we 672 00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,200 Speaker 2: made him. We was like, y'all should be cute together, 673 00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 2: you know, ninth grade stupid. Anyway, Alma was hungry and 674 00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:42,240 Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, it's all the way in Santa Monica. Again, 675 00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:43,799 Speaker 2: I'm from the east side, so I'm like, oh, we 676 00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:45,719 Speaker 2: got plenty of times, so tell me where you want 677 00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:48,759 Speaker 2: to stop, and you know, if you see something you want, 678 00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,319 Speaker 2: we'll pull over, we'll grab it. I'm suggested all kind 679 00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:53,279 Speaker 2: of stuff. She's like, no, no, that's not it. That's 680 00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:54,680 Speaker 2: not it. That's not it. I was like, all right, 681 00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:56,839 Speaker 2: well I kind of got to be there, so maybe 682 00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:58,760 Speaker 2: there's something at the hotel. So we go to the hotel. 683 00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,719 Speaker 2: It ain't got but those like pre wrapped sandwiches, right, 684 00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:03,319 Speaker 2: see all of that. So she was like, all right, 685 00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:06,160 Speaker 2: I'll wait for the reception. The reception was all like 686 00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,040 Speaker 2: or dirb kind of like or dirt plate finger foods, 687 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:11,879 Speaker 2: so it wasn't enough food for it. Now I am 688 00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:15,760 Speaker 2: on ten. This is my best friend, y'all, my best 689 00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:19,439 Speaker 2: friend's wedding, and like I like, I'm officiating it. I'm 690 00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:22,960 Speaker 2: on he's he had he had dated her since like 691 00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,239 Speaker 2: we were. He started dating her when he was seventeen. 692 00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:31,600 Speaker 2: We were thirty one, Like, so what they had been like, 693 00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,880 Speaker 2: I'm on ten. I am was like, I got a headache. 694 00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:35,920 Speaker 3: I'm gonna sit in the lobby. 695 00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:39,960 Speaker 2: Now what I look like, you know, shirt off slinging 696 00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:42,200 Speaker 2: it over the head with like me and my nine 697 00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:46,080 Speaker 2: best friends just super lit over my boy finally getting 698 00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:49,799 Speaker 2: married and my wife is downstairs in the lobby Like 699 00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:52,919 Speaker 2: this is just just a bad look. So I'm like, well, 700 00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,280 Speaker 2: we gotta go, and she's like, no, really, I understand 701 00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,239 Speaker 2: he's your best friend. I'll just be down here, and 702 00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:59,960 Speaker 2: I'm like, part of me is like, girl, it's your fault. 703 00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:03,200 Speaker 2: We had you had all these times you hungry. How 704 00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:06,080 Speaker 2: many times did I suggest to you to stop at 705 00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,960 Speaker 2: certain places? Here's what I learned. What I learned is 706 00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,400 Speaker 2: now y'all in relationships take notes. Now what I learned 707 00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:15,719 Speaker 2: is this is our scale on the scale of one 708 00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:19,480 Speaker 2: to Holden's wedding. Holden is his name, How hungry are you? 709 00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:21,839 Speaker 3: So? Because that is the top tier. 710 00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,080 Speaker 2: She gets to a place where or she can't make 711 00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:26,680 Speaker 2: a decision on what she wants to eat, so I 712 00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:28,399 Speaker 2: just have to get food in her. 713 00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:29,840 Speaker 3: Like I should have just made the decision. 714 00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,960 Speaker 2: I know that now, but at the time I needed 715 00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:35,560 Speaker 2: to develop a way for which at the time I 716 00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:38,399 Speaker 2: didn't know. So now I have a scale to know, Hey, 717 00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:40,720 Speaker 2: we're going to need to stop this now. So self 718 00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:43,320 Speaker 2: care in that situation was just get some food in 719 00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,439 Speaker 2: your body. You'd be surprised how much better your day 720 00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:48,720 Speaker 2: is if you got good food in your body. 721 00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:50,920 Speaker 3: And here's my last two pieces of advice. 722 00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:55,560 Speaker 2: One is, you know, just keep the news to a 723 00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,520 Speaker 2: minimum in a way that we like you already know 724 00:41:58,560 --> 00:41:59,200 Speaker 2: it's chaos. 725 00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:00,200 Speaker 3: You can keep up. 726 00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:02,719 Speaker 2: There is a way to keep up with what's going 727 00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,960 Speaker 2: on in the world and not get you know, privilege 728 00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:09,440 Speaker 2: and unplugging and having the privilege of being able to 729 00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:10,000 Speaker 2: turn it off. 730 00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:11,480 Speaker 3: You can do both. 731 00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:16,480 Speaker 2: You can keep that diet of chaos to a minimum 732 00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:20,600 Speaker 2: or to a level that's not going to burn you out. 733 00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:25,719 Speaker 2: Because we need in works of in the act of resistance, 734 00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,759 Speaker 2: in the work of making the world better, we kind 735 00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:31,919 Speaker 2: of need you. Okay, you know your star player can't 736 00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:34,760 Speaker 2: play all forty eight minutes, like you gotta sit down, 737 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,320 Speaker 2: like you could turn the TV off for a second. 738 00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:40,000 Speaker 2: Which leads me to the last part, which is this 739 00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:43,279 Speaker 2: is a collective effort, and you have to remind yourself 740 00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:48,359 Speaker 2: that seeing the world to become better is collective you, yourself, You, 741 00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:52,600 Speaker 2: the whole world isn't dependent only and solely on you. 742 00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:57,440 Speaker 2: You can take a break sometimes, we all want to see. 743 00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:58,040 Speaker 3: This world better. 744 00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:02,960 Speaker 2: So like, it's not all on your shoulders, Okay, it's 745 00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,560 Speaker 2: the whole hood. I know this is a different episode, 746 00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,399 Speaker 2: especially after having all these eyes on us now after 747 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,399 Speaker 2: the fire in Fury and the Garson Hayes. Obviously this 748 00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,640 Speaker 2: is not a normal episode. But this ain't normal times, 749 00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:17,239 Speaker 2: and I just wanted to step in and be a 750 00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:19,239 Speaker 2: big homie with y'all for a little bit and just 751 00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:22,279 Speaker 2: kind of pull pull back and just be like, Hey, 752 00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,439 Speaker 2: real niggas need to break some time too. 753 00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:29,920 Speaker 3: All right, keep your head up, little Politics, y'all. 754 00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:44,720 Speaker 2: All right now, don't you hit stop on this pod. 755 00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,120 Speaker 2: You better listen to these credits. I need you to 756 00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:50,920 Speaker 2: finish this thing so I can get the download numbers. Okay, 757 00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:55,520 Speaker 2: so don't stop it yet, but listen. This was recorded 758 00:43:55,640 --> 00:44:00,279 Speaker 2: in East Slows, boil Heights by your boy Propaganda. Tap 759 00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:02,960 Speaker 2: in with me at prop hip hop dot com. If 760 00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:06,320 Speaker 2: you're in the Coldbrew coffee we got Terraform Coldbrew. You 761 00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:09,920 Speaker 2: can go there dot com and use promo code hood 762 00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:14,120 Speaker 2: get twenty percent off get yourself some coffee. This was mixed, edited, 763 00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:18,000 Speaker 2: and mastered by your boy Matt Alsowski killing the beat softly. 764 00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:21,000 Speaker 2: Check out his website Matdowsowski dot com. 765 00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:25,040 Speaker 3: I'm a speller for you because I know m A T. 766 00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:31,200 Speaker 2: T O S O W s ki dot com Matthowsowski 767 00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:31,800 Speaker 2: dot com. 768 00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:32,840 Speaker 3: He got more music and. 769 00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,640 Speaker 2: Stuff like that on there, so gonna check out the heat. 770 00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:39,960 Speaker 2: Politics is a member of Cool Zone Media. Executive produced 771 00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:44,960 Speaker 2: by Sophie Lichterman, part of the iHeartMedia podcast network. Your 772 00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,360 Speaker 2: theme music and scoring is also by the One and 773 00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:52,000 Speaker 2: Overly Mattowsowski. Still killing the beat softly, so listen. Don't 774 00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:54,560 Speaker 2: let nobody lie to you. If you understand urban living, 775 00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,719 Speaker 2: you understand politics. These people is not smarter than you. 776 00:44:58,080 --> 00:44:59,160 Speaker 2: We'll see y'all next week. 777 00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:04,359 Speaker 1: Traditional Chi 778 00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:10,560 Speaker 3: Edition one