WEBVTT - Why You Should Think Positively

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, welcome back to Cheeks and Chill, your favorite podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, First and foremost, I want to say thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>a huge shout out to all my listeners. I love you, guys. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so grateful. Thank you for coming back each week

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<v Speaker 1>to grow to learn to just, I don't know, embrace life.

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<v Speaker 2>So thank you. I'm so grateful.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's episode is going to be about the power of thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>Our minds are so powerful, guys, and our thoughts can

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<v Speaker 1>attract really great things into our lives. But they can

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<v Speaker 1>also attract really negative things and negative energy. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I want to talk about today because sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>think we forget how much power we really hold. Alrighty,

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<v Speaker 1>So we've talked about the power of words, very important.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say, speak words of life and not of death.

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<v Speaker 1>And want to plan a little seed in your mind

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<v Speaker 1>because I catch myself doing this, which is why I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to talk about it here on the podcast, the

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<v Speaker 1>power of thinking, because just the way that with words

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<v Speaker 1>we can bring things into existence. Also it actually starts

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<v Speaker 1>with a thought. Sometimes I have to catch myself when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm having a bad day, when I'm thinking something negative.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, you know, my husband he's on the road

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<v Speaker 1>right now, he's working. He's on tour with Becky and

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<v Speaker 1>there's a bunch of girls around, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of her dancers and the thing. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes I could be totally fine, and all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>I think, oh my gosh, like what if he likes

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<v Speaker 1>he's a girl, and like it just he starts liking her,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, you know, he's I just start thinking some

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<v Speaker 1>dumb shit, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And I literally have to say.

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<v Speaker 1>Janet, you know who you are, you know who he is.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to trust your relationship. And I'm like, i

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<v Speaker 1>choose to erase this negative thinking and I'm gonna think.

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<v Speaker 1>My husband loves me. I love him, We are safe,

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<v Speaker 1>we are protected, he loves me. I know it sounds silly,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like, okay, yeah, really, it's not that easy.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's not.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not that easy. But the more you practice it,

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<v Speaker 1>the better it gets. Again, you have to practice. Practice

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<v Speaker 1>makes perfect. So it happens to me. So before you

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<v Speaker 1>even vocalize anything, it starts with a thought. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm talking about. This is the whole reason behind

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<v Speaker 1>this episode. I know we all have negative thoughts about

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves physically, there's things that we wish we could change.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's every single person on this earth. Even

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<v Speaker 1>if you think she's the most confident person, he's the

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<v Speaker 1>most confident person. There's always something that we wish we

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<v Speaker 1>could change or we wish we had. It's just a

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<v Speaker 1>part of being human, I think. But we can also

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<v Speaker 1>find beautiful things to think about ourselves, beautiful ways to

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<v Speaker 1>give ourselves the words of affirmation. And you guys know,

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<v Speaker 1>I always say this, and some people like my brother

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<v Speaker 1>make fun of me. He's like, dude, you're always so

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<v Speaker 1>damn positive. Yeah, I want to be, that's why. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's not always like that. There are times when I

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<v Speaker 1>wake up, especially around my period, and I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I feel so bloated, I feel so fat,

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah. I think we all go through that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you all can understand. And on those days

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<v Speaker 1>I really do, I'm like, I choose to eat better.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Okay, I know I'm thinking this, but how

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<v Speaker 1>can I change this thought? Well by doing something physically

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<v Speaker 1>as well that's going to make me feel better instead

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<v Speaker 1>of having the damn cheeseburger, you know, with bread I'll like.

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<v Speaker 2>The other day, I we didn't want it to go.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm always talking about it, right, but he

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to go to In and Out and I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm down to go to In and Out. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get the fries and I was feeling really bloated. My

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<v Speaker 1>period was like seven days from coming. And I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know about you ladies. Sorry guys, it is not for you.

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<v Speaker 1>This partisan for you, but I feel like as I'm

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<v Speaker 1>getting older, I feel like my PMS comes a lot sooner,

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<v Speaker 1>like ten days before. So anyways, it was a really

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<v Speaker 1>like just not a good day for me physically. So

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<v Speaker 1>I made the choice. I said, Okay, I know I'm

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<v Speaker 1>feeling this way. I know that I'm thinking all these

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<v Speaker 1>negative things, but I have the power to choose. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go to in and Out to please my man.

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<v Speaker 1>But instead of having a cheeseburger and fries and a drink,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm only going to order a double double with just

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<v Speaker 1>one cheese.

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<v Speaker 2>And let us wrapped.

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<v Speaker 1>And I felt so good about myself, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna make better choices, and I did, and I

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<v Speaker 1>felt better because I go through it too. We all

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<v Speaker 1>have these thoughts, if you don't stop it in its tracks,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't choose to think something differently. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>muscle that you need to work. It's gonna take time.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you don't choose it, that thought is going

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<v Speaker 1>to become a snowball, and the thought's gonna get worse

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<v Speaker 1>and bigger and bigger and bigger, and then you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to vocalize it and you're gonna bring it into existence.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why I'm telling you, Yes, it's important to

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<v Speaker 1>speak positive words and be positive. It starts with the thought.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's where I want us to and I want

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<v Speaker 1>us because this is also a note to myself, I

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<v Speaker 1>want us to practice this as much as we can

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<v Speaker 1>every day. As soon as we feel that negative thought

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<v Speaker 1>about anything come into our head, we need to stop

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<v Speaker 1>it and we need to replace it with a positive thought,

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<v Speaker 1>with something beautiful. There's always something to be grateful for,

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<v Speaker 1>and I talk about it a lot. I talk it

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<v Speaker 1>about my stories, I talk about it here on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Having an attitude of gratitude takes you like it just

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<v Speaker 1>makes you feel more grateful, It makes you feel happier.

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<v Speaker 1>When we start looking at the things that we do

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<v Speaker 1>have because we live in a society that we want more,

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<v Speaker 1>more and more. That person has that purse, that person

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<v Speaker 1>has that house, this person. We are filled with it

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<v Speaker 1>every freaking single day on social media. So we think

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<v Speaker 1>we want those things, but in reality, we really don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we have to figure out what really makes us

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<v Speaker 1>happy and look at what is in front of us,

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<v Speaker 1>what we do have. We have a roof over our head,

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<v Speaker 1>we have a partner, we have a sister, we have

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it may be. There is always something to be

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<v Speaker 1>grateful for, and there's always something to look forward to.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think the more we do that, the easier

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<v Speaker 1>it is to think positive thoughts. You have to do

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<v Speaker 1>it every day. It's not just gonna be it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be like you're gonna feel sill, you're probab gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>like cheeks is crazy. Trust me, I know it's not easy.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes time, but it is our choice. It is

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<v Speaker 1>our choice. And the more we choose to create positive

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<v Speaker 1>habits and think positive and speak positively to ourselves in

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<v Speaker 1>our head, the easier it gets and the easier life gets.

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<v Speaker 1>But again, it's a choice, and with choices we create our.

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<v Speaker 2>Path to our destiny.

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<v Speaker 1>It's choosing these things every single day. Be kind to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about that. I'm reading my notes.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Do something good for others. That's another thing that helps you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just think positively. These are things that I wrote down

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<v Speaker 1>that help us feel better, help us think positive things.

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<v Speaker 1>Is when we take our selves out of our own

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts and we start thinking also of others and helping others,

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<v Speaker 1>and how can we better the world? How can we

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<v Speaker 1>be of service? All of that brings positive energy, positive thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>Do something, you know what, when you're having bad thoughts,

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<v Speaker 1>this is another thing and you're having bad thoughts. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>what helps me is I love to read.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll read.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't even have to be a whole like five chapters.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not one that's like, oh I'm gonna freaking read

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<v Speaker 1>sixty minutes a day. I wish, but I don't. When

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<v Speaker 1>i'm having and I'm thinking bad things and I'm feeling down,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll grab a book and I'll read one chapter and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you know what, a book that makes you

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<v Speaker 1>feel good. It could be a love story, it could

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<v Speaker 1>be fiction, nonfiction, you know, self help book, just something

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<v Speaker 1>that is just feels good that brings joy to your

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<v Speaker 1>life and gets you out of your own head. Also

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<v Speaker 1>taking a nice warm bath of just being present and

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<v Speaker 1>listening to like meditation music. I'm like, okay, reciting positive

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<v Speaker 1>things in your head, laughing, watching a comedy I love to.

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<v Speaker 1>Just a lot of people are like, oh, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>watch TV. I really don't watch a v I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like to watch the news, none of that. I'll watch

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<v Speaker 1>a good show that's gonna make me laugh, that's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get me out of like my everyday life. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, I need to relax. I'm gonna sit down.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to, like watch a good Adam Sandler movie.

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<v Speaker 2>It's one of my favorites.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, all of that will help definitely feed that

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<v Speaker 1>positive side of your mind. I also want to give

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<v Speaker 1>you guys an example just quickly, because I like to

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<v Speaker 1>use my life as an example and things that I

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<v Speaker 1>have attracted with positive thinking. I attracted my Grammy so

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<v Speaker 1>many people thought that I couldn't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not even gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>The first time I got nominated, I was like, oh shit,

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<v Speaker 1>am I ready for this? Like I didn't believe in

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<v Speaker 1>myself as much, but I attracted it. Put it on

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<v Speaker 1>my vision board. I thought about it all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about my third Grammy right now, guys, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think about it and I pray about it every single day,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thank the Lord. I'm like, God, thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for my third Grammy. Thank you God, Thank you God.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm already manifesting it. I'm already seeing it. I like,

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<v Speaker 1>I know I might get on some people's nerves. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not always positive, guys, Believe me. I have my days.

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<v Speaker 1>I have my moment. I can be grouchy, and there

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<v Speaker 1>are times when I like snap and I have to

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<v Speaker 1>apologize and I'm like, immediately, I'm sorry that I said this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll apologize to him, to my assistant, you guys met

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<v Speaker 1>her Like, I have bad days as well, but I

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<v Speaker 1>don't let those bad days take over everything I want

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<v Speaker 1>to accomplish in life and all the things that I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do. And it takes That's why I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a muscle. It's like working out, it's like doing

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<v Speaker 1>something practicing. It is more and more and more will

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<v Speaker 1>get easier. So those are good examples, right. You know

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<v Speaker 1>the Grammy, and you know when I wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>on Latina Magazine, I manifested it.

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<v Speaker 2>I attracted it. Like it works. Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>The more you do it, the more you believe it,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know that you do deserve good things.

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<v Speaker 2>We all deserve good things.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm like, it is my god given right to

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<v Speaker 1>be happy, It is my god given right to be healthy.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's not only thinking. It's also putting.

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<v Speaker 1>Work into it, action behind it, you know, like little

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<v Speaker 1>things here and there. It's not just Okay, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna think and it's gonna fall out.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the sky. Like it does not work like that.

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<v Speaker 1>You still have to work towards things and always just

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<v Speaker 1>affirm it as much as you possibly can claim it,

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<v Speaker 1>claim your happiness, claim that relationship. It's another thing, Emilio.

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<v Speaker 1>It's another person, another thing that I attracted. But I

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<v Speaker 1>also have attracted not many times, but I have attracted

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<v Speaker 1>not so good things. For instance, in the earlier years

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<v Speaker 1>of my performing, I was always very very afraid of

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<v Speaker 1>like my wardrobe having a malfunction or ripping on stage,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would like think about it so much. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, like what if it breaks, Like because

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<v Speaker 1>I have a big butt, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>And I was a lot bigger than and I like

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<v Speaker 1>wearing really tight clothes.

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<v Speaker 2>I still do.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyways, even then, when I was two hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>six pounds and I was like, dude, I'm fucking sexy

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to wear tight clothes.

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<v Speaker 2>But I would always.

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<v Speaker 1>Think, anyways, I would always think it's gonna rip. My

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<v Speaker 1>clothes is gonna rip. Like what if I'm on stage

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<v Speaker 1>and something happens, What the hell would I do? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it happened, and I'll never forget because it was one

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<v Speaker 1>of my favorite outfits and I felt like I looked

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<v Speaker 1>so sexy in it. It was open from the front,

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<v Speaker 1>it was like leather and whatever, and I was dancing

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<v Speaker 1>and then all of a sudden, I feel that from

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<v Speaker 1>like my ass, I started feeling like a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of wind and I'm like, oh, and I had a hole,

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<v Speaker 1>like ough, pretty big hole. You couldn't miss it, you

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't hide it. Like I was like, oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>And it happened while I was performing, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh. I kept thinking it, thinking it, and

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<v Speaker 1>it happens. Because that's the power of thinking, guys. I mean, granted,

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<v Speaker 1>you know it should happens, but I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>called it into existence because it didn't happen.

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<v Speaker 2>The first fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>Times that I performed, I just kept thinking about it,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's when I learned. I'm like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>everything is gonna be Okay, Everything is going to happen

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<v Speaker 1>the way it's supposed to happen. That's why when sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh my god, I got a live performance,

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<v Speaker 1>I've thought like I don't want to fall now, don't

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<v Speaker 1>even think that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I'm gonna be fine. I'm strong, I'm stable.

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<v Speaker 1>I say all these positive things and I think them

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<v Speaker 1>and thank god it hasn't happened.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope it does it.

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<v Speaker 1>But like that taught me to stop thinking that negative

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<v Speaker 1>thought because I'm attracting it, you know, and I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>even say it out loud. I would just think it

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<v Speaker 1>in my head. That's when I'm like, Okay, the power

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<v Speaker 1>of thinking is insane, guys. It starts there, starts in

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<v Speaker 1>our thoughts. Negative thoughts always creep in. It's normal, it's

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<v Speaker 1>human nature. But we have to reverse them. We have

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<v Speaker 1>to stop them. We have to stop ourselves from thinking

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, no, this is not gonna happen. I'm fine.

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<v Speaker 1>There are times when I even think about my siblings.

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<v Speaker 1>I think about Mikey, who's what like thirty three already.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know my brother, and I'm like, oh my God,

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<v Speaker 1>like hopefully he made it home and like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to call him, and I I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't think that way. I'm like, God, he's in

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<v Speaker 1>your hands. He's protected. All my siblings are protected. They're fine,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll make it home, their homes are protected. Like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>constantly praying, constantly sending positive thoughts and positive words to

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<v Speaker 1>everyone that I love because I love people so much

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm like, I don't want anything bad to ever

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<v Speaker 1>happen to them. So I get it, it happens to you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>But we have to just sos and trust. We have

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<v Speaker 1>to trust and trust that everything is going to happen

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<v Speaker 1>the way it needs to happen. Everything will fall into place,

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<v Speaker 1>Everything will settle where it needs to settle. Even when

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<v Speaker 1>something bad happens in our life, guys, it will teach

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<v Speaker 1>us something. It is meant to teach us, something to

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<v Speaker 1>make us grow, to make us mature, even those painful things.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be literally anything, there's always a positive message

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<v Speaker 1>behind it.

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<v Speaker 2>Always.

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<v Speaker 1>So many things have happened in my life and I

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<v Speaker 1>have chosen to get something positive out of it. It

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<v Speaker 1>could be literally anything. The point is, guys, the point

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<v Speaker 1>is it starts in our thoughts. The more negative thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>that we think that we speak, it definitely will make

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<v Speaker 1>us sick, It'll make us anxious, it'll make us suppressed.

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<v Speaker 1>So we need to practice thinking power thoughts, positive power thoughts,

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<v Speaker 1>good things for our soul that are going to make

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<v Speaker 1>us happy, and put actions behind those thoughts. If you

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<v Speaker 1>want to bring anything to existence, if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>accomplish something, it's taking.

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<v Speaker 2>Steps every day towards it. But it starts with our thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you want to think something negative about yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>like always know that there's something beautiful and something positive

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<v Speaker 1>that you can say about yourself at least one thing,

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<v Speaker 1>if not three, and talking about you know, positive thinking

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<v Speaker 1>and things that I'm wishing into existence. Right now, I

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<v Speaker 1>am focused more on my personal life in my career.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, thank God, I've been able to accomplish

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<v Speaker 1>so much much. I didn't think in the very beginning

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<v Speaker 1>that I would be able to accomplish everything that I've

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<v Speaker 1>been able to accomplish, and thank goodness, I changed my thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>I changed my habits and you know, we've worked really hard.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm really excited, very happy, very grateful, very content

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to like my career. Now, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to focus more on like my personal life, like really

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<v Speaker 1>just nourish Janey. And you know, Cheeky's is good, very

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<v Speaker 1>proud of what we've built with Cheeky's, you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>Janay I feel like needs some attention right now. So

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like next year is going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>little different. I'm still going to be busy. I still

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<v Speaker 1>want to do a lot, but I just feel in

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<v Speaker 1>my heart that I really really want to pray and

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<v Speaker 1>wish and bring a very healthy, beautiful, compassionate, smart baby.

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<v Speaker 2>That's kind of what I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been praying about it, I've been asking God, and

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<v Speaker 1>in my meditation, I'm like, Okay, I know a part

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<v Speaker 1>of me is scared for so many reasons, but I

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<v Speaker 1>think I've healed the miscarriage part of it, and now

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I want to get more signs. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to get my body prepared for that, and I

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<v Speaker 1>know that that's going to change things, but I know

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<v Speaker 1>in a really amazing way. So that's kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>what I have on my vision board right now, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>it's more of like the personal, the things that I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do on a daily basis and make a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, something is happening and shifting inside of me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't really know yet exactly what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I just know that Jane's calling me, and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to be more Jane next year. I know that might

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<v Speaker 1>sound weird, but anyways, I just wanted to share that because,

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<v Speaker 1>like you guys, it's not like, oh, Cheek's already has

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<v Speaker 1>it made and Chekis has everything she wants.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I've worked very hard and I'm very happy and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>very content. But I feel like for the last ten

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<v Speaker 1>years I've been working my ass off for my career

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<v Speaker 1>and to set Cheeky's up that I feel like we're good.

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<v Speaker 2>In that area.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I want to just really focus on this other

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<v Speaker 1>area of my life. Anyways, I thought it was important

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<v Speaker 1>to let you guys know that I'm still every day,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, wishing, praying, affirming, claiming all of it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a part of our life. It's going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>part of a life for the rest of our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, that's that. And if you guys have any

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<v Speaker 1>tips as well on how to be more positive think

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<v Speaker 1>positive thoughts. I would really love to hear from you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Leave it in the comments, please. I love to hear

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<v Speaker 1>from you guys. I love to hear that you guys

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<v Speaker 1>love the podcast, but I also love your feedback if

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<v Speaker 1>you have any questions, if you have any concerns. I

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<v Speaker 1>always like I like to open it up and let

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<v Speaker 1>you guys know that I'm here to answer any questions

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<v Speaker 1>that you guys may have, So please feel free leave

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<v Speaker 1>it in the comments.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, let's share. Let's share knowledge, let's.

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<v Speaker 1>Share our experiences because that's the way that we learn,

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<v Speaker 1>we grow as a community.

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<v Speaker 2>And here on thank and Chill, that's.

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<v Speaker 1>What we're all about, positive energy, and we are a

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<v Speaker 1>familiar So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you guys so much for listening to me. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for being a part of my therapy as well, letting

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<v Speaker 1>me and allowing me to speak to you and to

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<v Speaker 1>your heart and to your mind and to your life.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you very much, and I don't say that lightly.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very grateful. I'm grateful for my podcast, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>grateful for you my listeners. So guys, let's be positive.

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<v Speaker 1>Be aggressive.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, be positive. Be positive. Guys, be positive. We got

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<v Speaker 2>this shit life.

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<v Speaker 1>Life is tough, but we are tougher. It's one of

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<v Speaker 1>the quotes I like, I made up a long time ago. Anyways,

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