Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, welcome back to Cheeks and Chill, your favorite podcast.
Speaker 1: I know, First and foremost, I want to say thank you,
Speaker 1: a huge shout out to all my listeners. I love you, guys. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful. Thank you for coming back each week
Speaker 1: to grow to learn to just, I don't know, embrace life.
Speaker 2: So thank you. I'm so grateful.
Speaker 1: Today's episode is going to be about the power of thinking.
Speaker 1: Our minds are so powerful, guys, and our thoughts can
Speaker 1: attract really great things into our lives. But they can
Speaker 1: also attract really negative things and negative energy. And that's
Speaker 1: what I want to talk about today because sometimes I
Speaker 1: think we forget how much power we really hold. Alrighty,
Speaker 1: So we've talked about the power of words, very important.
Speaker 1: I always say, speak words of life and not of death.
Speaker 1: And want to plan a little seed in your mind
Speaker 1: because I catch myself doing this, which is why I
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about it here on the podcast, the
Speaker 1: power of thinking, because just the way that with words
Speaker 1: we can bring things into existence. Also it actually starts
Speaker 1: with a thought. Sometimes I have to catch myself when
Speaker 1: I'm having a bad day, when I'm thinking something negative.
Speaker 1: For instance, you know, my husband he's on the road
Speaker 1: right now, he's working. He's on tour with Becky and
Speaker 1: there's a bunch of girls around, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: a lot of her dancers and the thing. You know,
Speaker 1: sometimes I could be totally fine, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: I think, oh my gosh, like what if he likes
Speaker 1: he's a girl, and like it just he starts liking her,
Speaker 1: and like, you know, he's I just start thinking some
Speaker 1: dumb shit, you know.
Speaker 2: And I literally have to say.
Speaker 1: Janet, you know who you are, you know who he is.
Speaker 1: You have to trust your relationship. And I'm like, i
Speaker 1: choose to erase this negative thinking and I'm gonna think.
Speaker 1: My husband loves me. I love him, We are safe,
Speaker 1: we are protected, he loves me. I know it sounds silly,
Speaker 1: and it's like, okay, yeah, really, it's not that easy.
Speaker 2: No, it's not.
Speaker 1: It's not that easy. But the more you practice it,
Speaker 1: the better it gets. Again, you have to practice. Practice
Speaker 1: makes perfect. So it happens to me. So before you
Speaker 1: even vocalize anything, it starts with a thought. So that's
Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. This is the whole reason behind
Speaker 1: this episode. I know we all have negative thoughts about
Speaker 1: ourselves physically, there's things that we wish we could change.
Speaker 1: I think that's every single person on this earth. Even
Speaker 1: if you think she's the most confident person, he's the
Speaker 1: most confident person. There's always something that we wish we
Speaker 1: could change or we wish we had. It's just a
Speaker 1: part of being human, I think. But we can also
Speaker 1: find beautiful things to think about ourselves, beautiful ways to
Speaker 1: give ourselves the words of affirmation. And you guys know,
Speaker 1: I always say this, and some people like my brother
Speaker 1: make fun of me. He's like, dude, you're always so
Speaker 1: damn positive. Yeah, I want to be, that's why. But
Speaker 1: it's not always like that. There are times when I
Speaker 1: wake up, especially around my period, and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I feel so bloated, I feel so fat,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. I think we all go through that.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you all can understand. And on those days
Speaker 1: I really do, I'm like, I choose to eat better.
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I know I'm thinking this, but how
Speaker 1: can I change this thought? Well by doing something physically
Speaker 1: as well that's going to make me feel better instead
Speaker 1: of having the damn cheeseburger, you know, with bread I'll like.
Speaker 2: The other day, I we didn't want it to go.
Speaker 1: I know I'm always talking about it, right, but he
Speaker 1: wanted to go to In and Out and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm down to go to In and Out. I didn't
Speaker 1: get the fries and I was feeling really bloated. My
Speaker 1: period was like seven days from coming. And I don't
Speaker 1: know about you ladies. Sorry guys, it is not for you.
Speaker 1: This partisan for you, but I feel like as I'm
Speaker 1: getting older, I feel like my PMS comes a lot sooner,
Speaker 1: like ten days before. So anyways, it was a really
Speaker 1: like just not a good day for me physically. So
Speaker 1: I made the choice. I said, Okay, I know I'm
Speaker 1: feeling this way. I know that I'm thinking all these
Speaker 1: negative things, but I have the power to choose. So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to in and Out to please my man.
Speaker 1: But instead of having a cheeseburger and fries and a drink,
Speaker 1: I'm only going to order a double double with just
Speaker 1: one cheese.
Speaker 2: And let us wrapped.
Speaker 1: And I felt so good about myself, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make better choices, and I did, and I
Speaker 1: felt better because I go through it too. We all
Speaker 1: have these thoughts, if you don't stop it in its tracks,
Speaker 1: if you don't choose to think something differently. It's a
Speaker 1: muscle that you need to work. It's gonna take time.
Speaker 1: But if you don't choose it, that thought is going
Speaker 1: to become a snowball, and the thought's gonna get worse
Speaker 1: and bigger and bigger and bigger, and then you're going
Speaker 1: to vocalize it and you're gonna bring it into existence.
Speaker 1: So that's why I'm telling you, Yes, it's important to
Speaker 1: speak positive words and be positive. It starts with the thought.
Speaker 1: And that's where I want us to and I want
Speaker 1: us because this is also a note to myself, I
Speaker 1: want us to practice this as much as we can
Speaker 1: every day. As soon as we feel that negative thought
Speaker 1: about anything come into our head, we need to stop
Speaker 1: it and we need to replace it with a positive thought,
Speaker 1: with something beautiful. There's always something to be grateful for,
Speaker 1: and I talk about it a lot. I talk it
Speaker 1: about my stories, I talk about it here on the podcast.
Speaker 1: Having an attitude of gratitude takes you like it just
Speaker 1: makes you feel more grateful, It makes you feel happier.
Speaker 1: When we start looking at the things that we do
Speaker 1: have because we live in a society that we want more,
Speaker 1: more and more. That person has that purse, that person
Speaker 1: has that house, this person. We are filled with it
Speaker 1: every freaking single day on social media. So we think
Speaker 1: we want those things, but in reality, we really don't.
Speaker 1: Like we have to figure out what really makes us
Speaker 1: happy and look at what is in front of us,
Speaker 1: what we do have. We have a roof over our head,
Speaker 1: we have a partner, we have a sister, we have
Speaker 1: whatever it may be. There is always something to be
Speaker 1: grateful for, and there's always something to look forward to.
Speaker 1: And I think the more we do that, the easier
Speaker 1: it is to think positive thoughts. You have to do
Speaker 1: it every day. It's not just gonna be it's gonna
Speaker 1: be like you're gonna feel sill, you're probab gonna be
Speaker 1: like cheeks is crazy. Trust me, I know it's not easy.
Speaker 1: It takes time, but it is our choice. It is
Speaker 1: our choice. And the more we choose to create positive
Speaker 1: habits and think positive and speak positively to ourselves in
Speaker 1: our head, the easier it gets and the easier life gets.
Speaker 1: But again, it's a choice, and with choices we create our.
Speaker 2: Path to our destiny.
Speaker 1: It's choosing these things every single day. Be kind to yourself.
Speaker 1: We talked about that. I'm reading my notes.
Speaker 2: Guys.
Speaker 1: Do something good for others. That's another thing that helps you.
Speaker 1: Just think positively. These are things that I wrote down
Speaker 1: that help us feel better, help us think positive things.
Speaker 1: Is when we take our selves out of our own
Speaker 1: thoughts and we start thinking also of others and helping others,
Speaker 1: and how can we better the world? How can we
Speaker 1: be of service? All of that brings positive energy, positive thoughts.
Speaker 1: Do something, you know what, when you're having bad thoughts,
Speaker 1: this is another thing and you're having bad thoughts. Sometimes
Speaker 1: what helps me is I love to read.
Speaker 2: I'll read.
Speaker 1: It doesn't even have to be a whole like five chapters.
Speaker 1: I'm not one that's like, oh I'm gonna freaking read
Speaker 1: sixty minutes a day. I wish, but I don't. When
Speaker 1: i'm having and I'm thinking bad things and I'm feeling down,
Speaker 1: I'll grab a book and I'll read one chapter and
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, a book that makes you
Speaker 1: feel good. It could be a love story, it could
Speaker 1: be fiction, nonfiction, you know, self help book, just something
Speaker 1: that is just feels good that brings joy to your
Speaker 1: life and gets you out of your own head. Also
Speaker 1: taking a nice warm bath of just being present and
Speaker 1: listening to like meditation music. I'm like, okay, reciting positive
Speaker 1: things in your head, laughing, watching a comedy I love to.
Speaker 1: Just a lot of people are like, oh, I don't
Speaker 1: watch TV. I really don't watch a v I don't
Speaker 1: like to watch the news, none of that. I'll watch
Speaker 1: a good show that's gonna make me laugh, that's gonna
Speaker 1: get me out of like my everyday life. I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I need to relax. I'm gonna sit down.
Speaker 1: I want to, like watch a good Adam Sandler movie.
Speaker 2: It's one of my favorites.
Speaker 1: You know, all of that will help definitely feed that
Speaker 1: positive side of your mind. I also want to give
Speaker 1: you guys an example just quickly, because I like to
Speaker 1: use my life as an example and things that I
Speaker 1: have attracted with positive thinking. I attracted my Grammy so
Speaker 1: many people thought that I couldn't do it.
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna lie.
Speaker 1: The first time I got nominated, I was like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: am I ready for this? Like I didn't believe in
Speaker 1: myself as much, but I attracted it. Put it on
Speaker 1: my vision board. I thought about it all the time,
Speaker 1: thinking about my third Grammy right now, guys, and I
Speaker 1: think about it and I pray about it every single day,
Speaker 1: and I thank the Lord. I'm like, God, thank you
Speaker 1: for my third Grammy. Thank you God, Thank you God.
Speaker 1: I'm already manifesting it. I'm already seeing it. I like,
Speaker 1: I know I might get on some people's nerves. I'm
Speaker 1: not always positive, guys, Believe me. I have my days.
Speaker 1: I have my moment. I can be grouchy, and there
Speaker 1: are times when I like snap and I have to
Speaker 1: apologize and I'm like, immediately, I'm sorry that I said this.
Speaker 1: I'll apologize to him, to my assistant, you guys met
Speaker 1: her Like, I have bad days as well, but I
Speaker 1: don't let those bad days take over everything I want
Speaker 1: to accomplish in life and all the things that I
Speaker 1: want to do. And it takes That's why I'm saying,
Speaker 1: it's a muscle. It's like working out, it's like doing
Speaker 1: something practicing. It is more and more and more will
Speaker 1: get easier. So those are good examples, right. You know
Speaker 1: the Grammy, and you know when I wanted to be
Speaker 1: on Latina Magazine, I manifested it.
Speaker 2: I attracted it. Like it works. Guys.
Speaker 1: The more you do it, the more you believe it,
Speaker 1: and you know that you do deserve good things.
Speaker 2: We all deserve good things.
Speaker 1: Now, I'm like, it is my god given right to
Speaker 1: be happy, It is my god given right to be healthy.
Speaker 2: But it's not only thinking. It's also putting.
Speaker 1: Work into it, action behind it, you know, like little
Speaker 1: things here and there. It's not just Okay, I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna think and it's gonna fall out.
Speaker 2: Of the sky. Like it does not work like that.
Speaker 1: You still have to work towards things and always just
Speaker 1: affirm it as much as you possibly can claim it,
Speaker 1: claim your happiness, claim that relationship. It's another thing, Emilio.
Speaker 1: It's another person, another thing that I attracted. But I
Speaker 1: also have attracted not many times, but I have attracted
Speaker 1: not so good things. For instance, in the earlier years
Speaker 1: of my performing, I was always very very afraid of
Speaker 1: like my wardrobe having a malfunction or ripping on stage,
Speaker 1: and I would like think about it so much. I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, like what if it breaks, Like because
Speaker 1: I have a big butt, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: And I was a lot bigger than and I like
Speaker 1: wearing really tight clothes.
Speaker 2: I still do.
Speaker 1: But anyways, even then, when I was two hundred and
Speaker 1: six pounds and I was like, dude, I'm fucking sexy
Speaker 1: and I want to wear tight clothes.
Speaker 2: But I would always.
Speaker 1: Think, anyways, I would always think it's gonna rip. My
Speaker 1: clothes is gonna rip. Like what if I'm on stage
Speaker 1: and something happens, What the hell would I do? Well,
Speaker 1: it happened, and I'll never forget because it was one
Speaker 1: of my favorite outfits and I felt like I looked
Speaker 1: so sexy in it. It was open from the front,
Speaker 1: it was like leather and whatever, and I was dancing
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, I feel that from
Speaker 1: like my ass, I started feeling like a little bit
Speaker 1: of wind and I'm like, oh, and I had a hole,
Speaker 1: like ough, pretty big hole. You couldn't miss it, you
Speaker 1: couldn't hide it. Like I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: And it happened while I was performing, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh. I kept thinking it, thinking it, and
Speaker 1: it happens. Because that's the power of thinking, guys. I mean, granted,
Speaker 1: you know it should happens, but I feel like I
Speaker 1: called it into existence because it didn't happen.
Speaker 2: The first fifty.
Speaker 1: Times that I performed, I just kept thinking about it,
Speaker 1: and that's when I learned. I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 1: everything is gonna be Okay, Everything is going to happen
Speaker 1: the way it's supposed to happen. That's why when sometimes
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I got a live performance,
Speaker 1: I've thought like I don't want to fall now, don't
Speaker 1: even think that.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm gonna be fine. I'm strong, I'm stable.
Speaker 1: I say all these positive things and I think them
Speaker 1: and thank god it hasn't happened.
Speaker 2: I hope it does it.
Speaker 1: But like that taught me to stop thinking that negative
Speaker 1: thought because I'm attracting it, you know, and I wouldn't
Speaker 1: even say it out loud. I would just think it
Speaker 1: in my head. That's when I'm like, Okay, the power
Speaker 1: of thinking is insane, guys. It starts there, starts in
Speaker 1: our thoughts. Negative thoughts always creep in. It's normal, it's
Speaker 1: human nature. But we have to reverse them. We have
Speaker 1: to stop them. We have to stop ourselves from thinking
Speaker 1: and be like, no, this is not gonna happen. I'm fine.
Speaker 1: There are times when I even think about my siblings.
Speaker 1: I think about Mikey, who's what like thirty three already.
Speaker 1: I don't know my brother, and I'm like, oh my God,
Speaker 1: like hopefully he made it home and like you know,
Speaker 1: and I want to call him, and I I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I can't think that way. I'm like, God, he's in
Speaker 1: your hands. He's protected. All my siblings are protected. They're fine,
Speaker 1: they'll make it home, their homes are protected. Like I'm
Speaker 1: constantly praying, constantly sending positive thoughts and positive words to
Speaker 1: everyone that I love because I love people so much
Speaker 1: that I'm like, I don't want anything bad to ever
Speaker 1: happen to them. So I get it, it happens to you, guys.
Speaker 1: But we have to just sos and trust. We have
Speaker 1: to trust and trust that everything is going to happen
Speaker 1: the way it needs to happen. Everything will fall into place,
Speaker 1: Everything will settle where it needs to settle. Even when
Speaker 1: something bad happens in our life, guys, it will teach
Speaker 1: us something. It is meant to teach us, something to
Speaker 1: make us grow, to make us mature, even those painful things.
Speaker 1: It could be literally anything, there's always a positive message
Speaker 1: behind it.
Speaker 2: Always.
Speaker 1: So many things have happened in my life and I
Speaker 1: have chosen to get something positive out of it. It
Speaker 1: could be literally anything. The point is, guys, the point
Speaker 1: is it starts in our thoughts. The more negative thoughts
Speaker 1: that we think that we speak, it definitely will make
Speaker 1: us sick, It'll make us anxious, it'll make us suppressed.
Speaker 1: So we need to practice thinking power thoughts, positive power thoughts,
Speaker 1: good things for our soul that are going to make
Speaker 1: us happy, and put actions behind those thoughts. If you
Speaker 1: want to bring anything to existence, if you want to
Speaker 1: accomplish something, it's taking.
Speaker 2: Steps every day towards it. But it starts with our thoughts.
Speaker 1: And when you want to think something negative about yourself,
Speaker 1: like always know that there's something beautiful and something positive
Speaker 1: that you can say about yourself at least one thing,
Speaker 1: if not three, and talking about you know, positive thinking
Speaker 1: and things that I'm wishing into existence. Right now, I
Speaker 1: am focused more on my personal life in my career.
Speaker 1: I feel like, thank God, I've been able to accomplish
Speaker 1: so much much. I didn't think in the very beginning
Speaker 1: that I would be able to accomplish everything that I've
Speaker 1: been able to accomplish, and thank goodness, I changed my thinking.
Speaker 1: I changed my habits and you know, we've worked really hard.
Speaker 1: So I'm really excited, very happy, very grateful, very content
Speaker 1: when it comes to like my career. Now, I want
Speaker 1: to focus more on like my personal life, like really
Speaker 1: just nourish Janey. And you know, Cheeky's is good, very
Speaker 1: proud of what we've built with Cheeky's, you know, but
Speaker 1: Janay I feel like needs some attention right now. So
Speaker 1: I feel like next year is going to be a
Speaker 1: little different. I'm still going to be busy. I still
Speaker 1: want to do a lot, but I just feel in
Speaker 1: my heart that I really really want to pray and
Speaker 1: wish and bring a very healthy, beautiful, compassionate, smart baby.
Speaker 2: That's kind of what I'm like.
Speaker 1: I've been praying about it, I've been asking God, and
Speaker 1: in my meditation, I'm like, Okay, I know a part
Speaker 1: of me is scared for so many reasons, but I
Speaker 1: think I've healed the miscarriage part of it, and now
Speaker 1: I feel like I want to get more signs. I
Speaker 1: want to get my body prepared for that, and I
Speaker 1: know that that's going to change things, but I know
Speaker 1: in a really amazing way. So that's kind of like
Speaker 1: what I have on my vision board right now, you guys,
Speaker 1: it's more of like the personal, the things that I
Speaker 1: want to do on a daily basis and make a difference.
Speaker 1: I don't know, something is happening and shifting inside of me,
Speaker 1: and I don't really know yet exactly what it is.
Speaker 1: I just know that Jane's calling me, and I want
Speaker 1: to be more Jane next year. I know that might
Speaker 1: sound weird, but anyways, I just wanted to share that because,
Speaker 1: like you guys, it's not like, oh, Cheek's already has
Speaker 1: it made and Chekis has everything she wants.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: I've worked very hard and I'm very happy and I'm
Speaker 1: very content. But I feel like for the last ten
Speaker 1: years I've been working my ass off for my career
Speaker 1: and to set Cheeky's up that I feel like we're good.
Speaker 2: In that area.
Speaker 1: Now I want to just really focus on this other
Speaker 1: area of my life. Anyways, I thought it was important
Speaker 1: to let you guys know that I'm still every day,
Speaker 1: you know, wishing, praying, affirming, claiming all of it. It's
Speaker 1: a part of our life. It's going to be a
Speaker 1: part of a life for the rest of our lives.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's that. And if you guys have any
Speaker 1: tips as well on how to be more positive think
Speaker 1: positive thoughts. I would really love to hear from you guys.
Speaker 1: Leave it in the comments, please. I love to hear
Speaker 1: from you guys. I love to hear that you guys
Speaker 1: love the podcast, but I also love your feedback if
Speaker 1: you have any questions, if you have any concerns. I
Speaker 1: always like I like to open it up and let
Speaker 1: you guys know that I'm here to answer any questions
Speaker 1: that you guys may have, So please feel free leave
Speaker 1: it in the comments.
Speaker 2: And yeah, let's share. Let's share knowledge, let's.
Speaker 1: Share our experiences because that's the way that we learn,
Speaker 1: we grow as a community.
Speaker 2: And here on thank and Chill, that's.
Speaker 1: What we're all about, positive energy, and we are a
Speaker 1: familiar So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. Thank
Speaker 1: you guys so much for listening to me. Thank you
Speaker 1: for being a part of my therapy as well, letting
Speaker 1: me and allowing me to speak to you and to
Speaker 1: your heart and to your mind and to your life.
Speaker 1: I appreciate you very much, and I don't say that lightly.
Speaker 1: I'm very grateful. I'm grateful for my podcast, and I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for you my listeners. So guys, let's be positive.
Speaker 1: Be aggressive.
Speaker 2: No, no, be positive. Be positive. Guys, be positive. We got
Speaker 2: this shit life.
Speaker 1: Life is tough, but we are tougher. It's one of
Speaker 1: the quotes I like, I made up a long time ago. Anyways,
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