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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, welcome back to Cheeks and Chill, your favorite podcast.

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Speaker 1: I know, First and foremost, I want to say thank you,

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Speaker 1: a huge shout out to all my listeners. I love you, guys. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I'm so grateful. Thank you for coming back each week

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Speaker 1: to grow to learn to just, I don't know, embrace life.

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Speaker 2: So thank you. I'm so grateful.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is going to be about the power of thinking.

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Speaker 1: Our minds are so powerful, guys, and our thoughts can

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Speaker 1: attract really great things into our lives. But they can

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Speaker 1: also attract really negative things and negative energy. And that's

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Speaker 1: what I want to talk about today because sometimes I

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Speaker 1: think we forget how much power we really hold. Alrighty,

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Speaker 1: So we've talked about the power of words, very important.

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Speaker 1: I always say, speak words of life and not of death.

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Speaker 1: And want to plan a little seed in your mind

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Speaker 1: because I catch myself doing this, which is why I

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Speaker 1: wanted to talk about it here on the podcast, the

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Speaker 1: power of thinking, because just the way that with words

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Speaker 1: we can bring things into existence. Also it actually starts

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Speaker 1: with a thought. Sometimes I have to catch myself when

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Speaker 1: I'm having a bad day, when I'm thinking something negative.

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Speaker 1: For instance, you know, my husband he's on the road

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Speaker 1: right now, he's working. He's on tour with Becky and

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Speaker 1: there's a bunch of girls around, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: a lot of her dancers and the thing. You know,

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Speaker 1: sometimes I could be totally fine, and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: I think, oh my gosh, like what if he likes

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Speaker 1: he's a girl, and like it just he starts liking her,

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Speaker 1: and like, you know, he's I just start thinking some

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Speaker 1: dumb shit, you know.

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Speaker 2: And I literally have to say.

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Speaker 1: Janet, you know who you are, you know who he is.

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Speaker 1: You have to trust your relationship. And I'm like, i

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Speaker 1: choose to erase this negative thinking and I'm gonna think.

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Speaker 1: My husband loves me. I love him, We are safe,

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Speaker 1: we are protected, he loves me. I know it sounds silly,

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Speaker 1: and it's like, okay, yeah, really, it's not that easy.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not.

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Speaker 1: It's not that easy. But the more you practice it,

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Speaker 1: the better it gets. Again, you have to practice. Practice

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Speaker 1: makes perfect. So it happens to me. So before you

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Speaker 1: even vocalize anything, it starts with a thought. So that's

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Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. This is the whole reason behind

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Speaker 1: this episode. I know we all have negative thoughts about

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Speaker 1: ourselves physically, there's things that we wish we could change.

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Speaker 1: I think that's every single person on this earth. Even

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Speaker 1: if you think she's the most confident person, he's the

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Speaker 1: most confident person. There's always something that we wish we

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Speaker 1: could change or we wish we had. It's just a

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Speaker 1: part of being human, I think. But we can also

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Speaker 1: find beautiful things to think about ourselves, beautiful ways to

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Speaker 1: give ourselves the words of affirmation. And you guys know,

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Speaker 1: I always say this, and some people like my brother

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Speaker 1: make fun of me. He's like, dude, you're always so

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Speaker 1: damn positive. Yeah, I want to be, that's why. But

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Speaker 1: it's not always like that. There are times when I

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Speaker 1: wake up, especially around my period, and I'm just like,

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah. I think we all go through that.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you all can understand. And on those days

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Speaker 1: I really do, I'm like, I choose to eat better.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I know I'm thinking this, but how

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Speaker 1: as well that's going to make me feel better instead

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Speaker 1: of having the damn cheeseburger, you know, with bread I'll like.

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Speaker 2: The other day, I we didn't want it to go.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm always talking about it, right, but he

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Speaker 1: wanted to go to In and Out and I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: period was like seven days from coming. And I don't

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Speaker 1: know about you ladies. Sorry guys, it is not for you.

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Speaker 1: like ten days before. So anyways, it was a really

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Speaker 1: I made the choice. I said, Okay, I know I'm

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Speaker 1: But instead of having a cheeseburger and fries and a drink,

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Speaker 1: And I felt so good about myself, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: But if you don't choose it, that thought is going

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Speaker 1: So that's why I'm telling you, Yes, it's important to

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Speaker 1: And that's where I want us to and I want

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Speaker 1: every day. As soon as we feel that negative thought

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Speaker 1: with something beautiful. There's always something to be grateful for,

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Speaker 1: and I talk about it a lot. I talk it

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Speaker 1: Having an attitude of gratitude takes you like it just

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Speaker 1: makes you feel more grateful, It makes you feel happier.

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Speaker 1: When we start looking at the things that we do

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Speaker 1: every freaking single day on social media. So we think

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Speaker 1: Like we have to figure out what really makes us

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Speaker 1: what we do have. We have a roof over our head,

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Speaker 1: And I think the more we do that, the easier

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Speaker 1: be like you're gonna feel sill, you're probab gonna be

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Speaker 1: like cheeks is crazy. Trust me, I know it's not easy.

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Speaker 1: But again, it's a choice, and with choices we create our.

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Speaker 1: It's choosing these things every single day. Be kind to yourself.

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Speaker 1: Do something good for others. That's another thing that helps you.

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Speaker 1: Just think positively. These are things that I wrote down

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Speaker 1: that help us feel better, help us think positive things.

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Speaker 1: Is when we take our selves out of our own

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Speaker 1: be of service? All of that brings positive energy, positive thoughts.

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Speaker 1: what helps me is I love to read.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't even have to be a whole like five chapters.

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Speaker 1: You know, all of that will help definitely feed that

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Speaker 1: The first time I got nominated, I was like, oh shit,

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Speaker 1: get easier. So those are good examples, right. You know

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Speaker 2: I attracted it. Like it works. Guys.

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Speaker 1: The more you do it, the more you believe it,

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Speaker 1: and you know that you do deserve good things.

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Speaker 1: Now, I'm like, it is my god given right to

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Speaker 2: But it's not only thinking. It's also putting.

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Speaker 2: Of the sky. Like it does not work like that.

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Speaker 1: You still have to work towards things and always just

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Speaker 1: claim your happiness, claim that relationship. It's another thing, Emilio.

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Speaker 1: It's another person, another thing that I attracted. But I

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