WEBVTT - 2026 Action Plan: 5 Steps to Transform Your Year 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:05.840 No one has all the answers, but when we ask 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:10.680 the right questions, we get a little closer, closer to truths, 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:16.560 closer to each other, even closer to ourselves. I'm journalist 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:19.280 Danielle Robe, and each week, my guests and I come 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:22.800 together to challenge the status quo and our own ways 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:27.360 of thinking by daring to ask what if, why not? 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:33.480 And who says? So? Come curious, dig deep, and join 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:42.040 the conversation. It's time to question everything. Wow, five days 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:45.000 until the new year. First of all, happy holidays. I 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:47.080 hope you know what. I don't know what. I hope 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:49.239 because I've had holidays that are amazing and I've had 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:53.440 holidays that were really bad. So I hope yours weren't bad. 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:54.960 But if you did have a bad one, know that 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:59.120 I've been there. And I hope you're looking forward to 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.320 the new year as much as I am. I feel 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:06.240 like it's a fresh start, and my birthday is January fifteenth, 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:08.680 so I always feel like I almost have two fresh 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:11.080 starts in the new year. Like I reflect and I 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:14.240 think about everything leading up to the new year, and 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:16.840 then you know, you celebrate or you rest however you 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:20.120 want to spend New Years and then January fifteenth, I 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:23.000 really try and put the pedal to the metal. I'm 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.560 going to turn thirty five. Can you believe that I'm 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:29.279 actually doing a really special episode for my birthday? Because 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:32.240 the show airs on Thursday, and January fifteenth happens to 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.760 fall on a Thursday, and so I've never done this before, 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:39.479 but I have invited a special friend who is also 0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:42.840 on the internet, and I feel like so myself with her. 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:46.280 So we are going to do an episode. I don't 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:48.280 know how long it will be. We can really talk, 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:50.360 but we'll try and edit it down. But we're going 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:53.520 to do an episode of like ask me anything, So 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:55.960 if you guys have any questions, I know I talk 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.480 about myself a little bit on here, especially in the intros, 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:00.200 but with guests, I try and make it about them, 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:03.160 and I've gotten messages from you being like I want 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:06.120 to know more about your life. So I'm finally doing it. 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:10.400 If you have any questions, just DM either me Danielle 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:14.320 Robe or the Question Everything HQ page on Instagram and 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.280 we'll write all the questions down. I'm gonna get real 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:19.880 about all the lessons I've learned, the stuff I've messed up, 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:21.840 things that are on my mind and heart. I've been 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:24.560 thinking about a lot lately. I think that's what happens 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:27.920 with zero and five birthdays, you know. So let's get 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:36.480 into today's episode. I don't know if you remember, but 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.519 last New Year's I did something I'd never done before, 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:44.320 and I just spoke freely, like I just talked, no script, nothing, 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:48.440 and I talked about New Year's and I came up 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:53.520 with this five step transform your life New Year's plan. 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:59.040 And it happened originally, if you remember, because some guy 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:02.880 a train said to me, Danielle, what if you really 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:04.480 gave it your all? And I had back pain at 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:07.560 the time, and I was like, I'm just Paul, I'm 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:09.760 just happy that I made it here, Like I'm proud 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.839 of myself for just making it here. And he goes, no, Danielle, 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.760 what if you really gave it your all? And it 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:18.079 made me so mad. I kind of left in a huff, 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:21.000 and I thought about his words all day. And at 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:23.360 the time, I was really frustrated with my career. I 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.880 felt burnt out. And I really think that a lot 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:28.160 of people get burnout wrong. I really think a lot 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:32.440 of burnout comes when your output doesn't match your input 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:34.440 or like the blessings coming to you, Like when you 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:37.320 were expending so much time, money, and energy and you 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:40.520 don't see that coming back to you. I think that's 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.160 when a lot of burnout comes. And I was there 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:47.280 and I said to myself, what if I really gave 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:49.920 it my all? Well, how do I give it my all? 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:54.800 And I started seeing an executive coach And you guys know, 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:59.320 I've been to years of therapy and I've done some retreats, 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:05.080 and I started listening to podcasts and reading books, and 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:09.880 I put together basically fifty thousand dollars worth of coaching 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:15.240 from mentors, from life coaches, executive coaches, therapists, etc. Things 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:18.560 I've read in books and put all my favorite tools 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.039 into this worksheet and I filled it out and I 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:27.320 started working intentionally toward the life I wanted and listen, 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:31.080 my life is not perfect. But when I did that 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:35.960 that first year, things changed for me, and I realized 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:40.080 that your life is already moving, whether you set intentions 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:42.960 or not. The year will fill itself. Your calendar is 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:45.280 going to get loud, your phone will get loud. Other 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:49.400 people's urgency will start to kind of masquerade as your 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:52.320 responsibility That's basically what our inboxes are, right. It's a 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.480 to do list other people's things they need us to do. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:57.240 And I really feel that if we're not careful, we 0:04:57.320 --> 0:05:00.799 can wake up next December having done a lot without 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:05.159 ever having chosen enough. And when I filled this worksheet out, 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:08.400 I felt like I was choosing more so, and again 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:11.279 it wasn't perfect. I didn't fulfill all of my goals 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:13.680 or manifestations. I told myself I was going to have 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:17.279 this morning routine. I didn't do it, and I still 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:22.479 reached different heights, different places, and I really think it's 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:26.640 just the intention. So last year I went through the 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:30.840 worksheet with you guys, and this year I felt like 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:32.479 I was going to do the same. Last year, I 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:36.360 skipped a few things because they felt really personal, and 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:38.359 you'll see as I go through with that. Part of 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:41.320 my goal this year is to not fear any of that. 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:47.119 I'm going to be my full self, authentic, good, bad, ugly, 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:50.919 all of it, and I don't feel fear around sharing 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.679 anything with you. So I'm going to get into the weeds. 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.279 I'm going to go through every question unless it feels boring, 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:59.480 and I'm going to share how I filled out the 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:04.000 worksheet in case it helps you move through yours. And 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.279 I hope you take the time to do it if 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:09.000 you feel called to it. If you don't, then there's 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:10.839 no pressure. Like if you just want to listen to 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:13.680 this episode and hear my goals for entertainment, that's totally cool. 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:15.839 I've had those years. I've been there. But if you 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:21.400 do feel called to wanting different or wanting more, or 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.480 feeling like this is interesting and there's curiosity around it, 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:27.360 here's what I think the payoff is. When you take 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:31.760 one hour probably max. Ninety minutes to do this with intention, 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:35.280 I really think you buy back months of clarity. You're 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:39.120 going to make cleaner decisions, waste less energy, not making 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:42.200 negotiations with yourself. You're going to create a year that 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:46.920 actually feels like yours. And I believe that's a commitment 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:51.000 to living on purpose, not by accident, right, And you know, 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:54.400 a lot of manifestation in my opinion. We've heard so 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:56.680 much about it on Instagram and TikTok over the last 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:58.560 few years, which I love because I believe in it. 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.600 But I think a lot of it is so conscious 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:02.599 stuff Like I don't know, if you were a kid 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:05.080 and you had an interest in something, or like maybe 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.560 you loved an artist and you ended up meeting them, 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:11.720 or somehow your paths crossed, or you always wanted to 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:15.400 work at a certain place and it happened. Yes, that's manifestation. 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.360 But I think when we're younger we don't realize it. 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:21.400 It's in our subconscious and so we make decisions based 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.080 on those subconscious thoughts that get us closer to things, 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:27.400 and that can be things that hinder us or help us. 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:30.360 And so I think it's really important to get clear 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:35.240 with ourselves in terms of maximizing the help column so 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.200 that we live on purpose. Okay, not trying to mel 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:40.680 Robbins you. I'm just trying to explain where I'm at. 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:43.320 So before we do anything, before the goals, before the list, 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:46.000 before the new year, knew me noise, Let's do what 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:49.640 we did last year. Let's leave everything at the door. 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:54.360 The stress, the texts, the performance, the weird feeling that 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:58.200 you're behind. I've felt that lately, the old story that 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.240 says you have to hustle for your value. If you 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:05.120 just for a moment, take a breath in and take 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:09.480 a breath out, say to yourself, I'm allowed to want 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:13.440 more let it in calmly. That is the tone of 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:21.000 twenty twenty six. Calm, receiving, clean asking, unrushed power. And 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:23.960 one quick addendum. If you are listening to this and 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:26.600 thinking I don't even know what I want, I think 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:30.360 we all want very similar things. We want to feel fulfilled. 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:34.720 We want to remember our lives. We want the kind 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:39.439 of success that doesn't cost us our relationships or our bodies. 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:44.120 We want love that feels safe and electric and easy. 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.720 We want money that flows so we can build what 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:50.439 we're meant to build personally or professionally. We want family, 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:54.160 we want devotion. We want to stop playing small, and 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:56.720 sometimes it helps to talk it out, to go back 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:58.360 and forth with somebody. So if you want to do 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:01.319 the worksheet with somebody, that's cool. If you want to 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:04.440 use chat GPT as your creative partner, that's cool. I 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:06.600 actually did that for two sections that I couldn't figure 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:08.679 out what I wanted, and it helped me. There are 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:12.680 no rules except for this. We have to be honest 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:17.000 about our lives and about ourselves. It's the only rule. Honesty. 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:21.959 Let's jump into our twenty twenty six vision. Okay, So 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:26.200 step one is reflect on this year with curiosity and clarity. 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.760 And this is basically a free right. It's saying, here's 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:32.560 all the things I did, Here's all the things I felt. 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:35.320 I'm going to give you some examples for mine. I 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:38.160 wrote this year was magnificent. I really feel like a 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:40.960 woman and an adult. And at the end of last year, 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:45.040 I had the flood in my apartment that pushed me out. 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:47.800 And I really disliked that apartment. It was dark and 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:50.360 dreary and small, and I'd lived there for so long 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:54.400 because I was saving money and it was cheap and 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:58.400 a good location. And I literally got pushed out. Because 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:02.800 I now live in a place that feels like it's mine. 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:04.839 When I walk in, I'm so happy to be here. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.840 It has windows, it is decorated the way I want 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:11.360 it to be decorated. And I can't even believe how 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:16.960 much I underestimated what a peaceful space meant to my life. 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:20.560 Everything has gotten better because of it. Other things I did. 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:24.600 My friend had a baby named Howie who was born. 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:26.720 I got to love on him. It was my first 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:29.800 experience like really being with a baby, and oh I 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:32.800 love it. My grandma had her ninetieth birthday in Port 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:35.920 of Aarta over Thanksgiving. We went with my whole family. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:37.880 It was so fun. We were all kind of dreading 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.080 it and it ended up being a blast. That was 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:44.240 so fun. I got to go to the Godmother's Bookstore 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:47.199 in Santa Barbara and do a book talk with Naharusche, 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.880 who's a beautiful human being and I love her work. 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:54.160 That was such a fun experience. I did a Dagny 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.400 Dover event for Women's Month. I did south By Southwest 0:10:57.400 --> 0:10:59.559 and launched the card game with twenty one Seeds, which 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:02.440 was my first first card game collab. I got to 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:06.120 interview all these amazing founders there, like Cat Hauntis with 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:10.559 twenty one Seeds and the founder of Poppy Allison, who's amazing. 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:15.000 And in June I was named Gloria Steinhem's Fellow. That 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.920 was a huge part of my year. I wrote down 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:20.640 the people that I interviewed for both this show and 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:24.000 for Bookmarked. I had a few interviews go pretty viral, 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.600 and I wrote that down. I wrote down some of 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:32.719 the deals that I did, how I expanded myself in negotiation. 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:37.320 I felt calm and steady and knew my worth For 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:40.520 the first time this year, I felt comfortable walking away 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:42.520 from things if it felt like it was too low. 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:47.160 I had some dating stuff that I wrote down, and 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:49.760 I went to a Cleo Soul concert at the Hollywood 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:52.440 Bowl with my friend Emily Bear. That was so fun. 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:56.880 I wrote down that my grandmother died and that was 0:11:57.040 --> 0:12:00.600 very sad. My friend Anna came to visit me and 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.120 stayed with me. She was my first visitor in this apartment. 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:06.120 Went to a Biza this summer. I don't even know 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:07.959 if I told you guys that I went to Abiza 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:11.680 with a man. It was so fun. Had the best week, 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:16.360 just like swam in the ocean and ate delicious food. 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:21.240 I saw the Barbara Walters documentary in New York. I 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:25.199 saw Beyonce for the first time in concert. I will 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:26.840 say one of the best parts of my year was 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:29.680 raising money from Mongsalu Dola. If you guys are on Instagram, 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.480 you probably saw that years ago. At the Clinton Foundation, 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:36.720 I interviewed five people changing the world, and one of 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:39.920 the people I interviewed was named Mong. And he survived 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:43.520 the genocide in me and mar and has an incredible story. 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:47.000 Is here in New York alone and got himself to Nyu, 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.640 which is basically unheard of. He's the first person from 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.800 his refugee camp to go to higher education, because part 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:55.480 of the genocide there is they don't want people educated, 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:58.840 so it's like great resistance to be educated. And when 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:01.480 I left interviewing him, I said, Mong, if you ever 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:03.960 need a friend, I'm here. I don't know what I 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.240 can do for you, but you're alone, and I don't 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:08.600 want you to feel alone. And I have to be 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.440 honest with you, guys. I said that because when I 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:14.160 first moved to la and I did an interview with 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:17.880 Steve Carlston, who was my mentor still is. It's funny 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:20.839 he has very little social media presence and that interview 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.040 is one of the highest rated interviews of all time. 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.280 And I think you heard the love in it, and 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.240 he has so much wisdom. But anyways, when I first 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.520 moved here and I met him, you may know this story, 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.880 but I pitched him to be an entertainment reporter at 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:35.280 NBC and he heard me out for like thirty minutes, 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:38.280 heard my whole pitch, and then he said, listen, Danielle, 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:41.480 I can't hire you, but I will be your friend. 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:44.240 And I think he saw how alone I was. And 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:47.840 when I saw Mong, I thought about that moment, and 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:50.480 I was like, sometimes people just need a friend. And 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:52.920 it turns out mong did need a friend. Because of 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:56.320 the governmental changes and the cuts to a lot of 0:13:56.679 --> 0:14:00.679 foundations and institutions. His scholarship ended and he was going 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:03.280 to have to drop out of school, and so I 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.040 helped him raise money and together we got enough money 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.160 for him to stay in school and he's going to 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.560 graduate in one more semester. So that was truly the 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:15.640 highlight of my year, aside from everything with Reese Witherspoon 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.680 and Hello Sunshine and Gloria. I wrote that I didn't 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:21.800 cry as much. I'm obviously an emotional person, but I 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:24.040 didn't cry as much this year, and I don't know 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:26.600 what that's about. I still cried, but not as much. 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.440 I didn't have moments on the bathroom or kitchen floor 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.960 the way I used to. And I felt like I 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:37.280 stopped wasting money and time and didn't go so out 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:40.320 of my way in relationships that felt like they weren't reciprocal, 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.600 and that felt really good. I saw a bunch of concerts. 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:47.000 I wrote those down, and then basically I wrote down 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:48.760 like all the ways I felt like I won, and 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:50.920 all the ways I felt like I lost. Then there's 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.160 like a bunch of questions, right, and so the first 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:57.560 is three words to describe this past year. I said full. 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.520 I pushed it all to the max in everything I wrote. 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:03.400 It was good for my soul and it was stretching. 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:04.760 I'll tell you what I mean by that. There was 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:08.520 a period of time it was like September October, and 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:13.520 I had so many professional commitments that required like a 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:17.760 lot of planning, a lot of prep work, research, question planning, 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:20.360 and then also like I had to find outfits. I 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:22.960 had to book everybody I needed, like hair and makeup 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:26.680 and photographers and videographers and move things around and change things. 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:28.800 And in the midst of it, my Grandma passed away, 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:32.760 and I flew home and had like a crazy thing, 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:36.200 and then got to New York and was going to 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:40.120 interview Reese for the very first time, which meant so 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:44.520 much to me because aside from working at Hello Sunshine, 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:47.200 which I've never felt like I fit anywhere the way 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:50.000 I fit here, Like, I love it so much, And 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:55.000 she's a leader, it's such a values driven company, and 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:58.480 I respect her so deeply. But I have since I 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:00.840 was a little girl. There's this Oprah interview. She did 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:04.120 that if you look it up, you'll see it right away. 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:08.800 But she made me feel like it was cool to 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:11.280 be a feminist and cool to be smart, and cool 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:13.800 to read and like all the things I was into. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:18.320 And I felt like overwhelmed. I've never really interviewed somebody 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:21.960 feeling overwhelmed like that. And I was so exhausted by 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:24.160 the time I got to New York. And I got there, 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:29.160 I got to the Apple Store, and my grandmother in 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:32.120 her eighties, she would go to the Apple Store and 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:35.520 take those lessons. And as soon as I got to 0:16:35.560 --> 0:16:37.400 the Apple Store, I started crying, and I was like, 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:40.360 get it together, Danielle, you know, like grief is so weird, 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.600 it just hits you at the most random moments, and 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:46.400 pushed through. Did the interview. It went really well, I think, 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:50.360 and by the time I got home and unpacked and 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:55.120 unwound from the two months of just so much, I 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:58.240 realized I made it through. I pushed myself like my 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:02.960 bandwidth got bigger, and that was really cool. I did 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:06.520 it with grace mostly, but there were some moments that 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:09.320 I'm not proud of too. I found when I was 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:14.240 exhausted and pushing it like angry sometimes, and I don't 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:17.040 get the emotion of anger very much, so that was 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:20.239 sort of new and something I was thinking about. It 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:35.040 was super imperfect, but I did get better. If you 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.199 could relive one day from this year, what would it 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.640 be and why? The first thing that came to mind 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:43.080 was a sunset in a visa. Didn't cost any money. 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:47.439 I was just sitting there, no phone on the beach, 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:52.520 just true joy. I was wearing this really comfy outfit. 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.640 I can't believe I bought it from Shean. I can 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:56.879 link it if you're interested. I'll show you a phot up. 0:17:57.080 --> 0:18:00.960 And it was so cute and comfy, and I was 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:03.199 so happy. I have to think about how I'm going 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:05.480 to bring that in more. What's the bravest thing you 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:08.480 did this year? I wrote that I tried. I always 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:11.480 think trying is winning. I went home to see my 0:18:11.600 --> 0:18:14.920 grandma when she passed and pushed through to that interview. 0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:17.760 That's what I wrote down. What two things lit you up? 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:21.000 And what two things drained you? I wrote that Being 0:18:21.080 --> 0:18:25.240 Glorious Dyinhem's Fellow lit me Up lit me up so big, 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:29.520 Launching Bookmarked and working with Hello Sunshine lit me Up. 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:33.000 It's behind the scenes, like I love giggling with everybody 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:36.240 who works there and talking and learning from them. And 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:40.440 my college friends they totally lit me up. A few 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:43.679 of my LA girlfriends lit me up. And then I 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:46.320 just love couch hangs. Like going out is fun, but 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:49.280 I love a couch hang that lit me up. Okay, 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:53.240 drained texting. I felt overwhelmed by texts. I'm going to 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:54.679 have to figure that out in the new year. I'm 0:18:54.720 --> 0:18:58.000 thinking about how to streamline that because it really just 0:18:58.320 --> 0:19:02.800 drains all my good energy. Unnecessary meetings, I didn't walk enough, 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:06.479 and my workouts were kind of bluh. I love feeling 0:19:06.520 --> 0:19:08.960 like I'm strong and I'm making progress, and I was 0:19:09.000 --> 0:19:12.320 tired this year in that capacity. What three things brought 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:15.119 you personal happiness aside from your friends and family. The 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:18.520 community at my gym that's so fun. Time alone in 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:21.760 my apartment, connecting with interesting people and learning from them. 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:25.720 Executive producing a show and feeling like my ideas work. 0:19:26.080 --> 0:19:29.199 The Bookmark podcast that I do. I executive produce, and 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:32.960 I got to implement some things and some ideas and 0:19:33.040 --> 0:19:37.240 some processes that I'd always felt like they could work 0:19:37.280 --> 0:19:40.680 by watching other people executive produce and thinking like, hmm, 0:19:40.880 --> 0:19:43.240 I wonder if I could do that. I didn't feel 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:46.920 intense financial stress this year. That really lit me up. 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:50.360 What are you most grateful for from the past year? 0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:52.720 I wrote, I'm so grateful for Hello, Sunshine and the 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:56.720 whole team that have made this sort of new era 0:19:56.920 --> 0:20:00.240 possible for me. I feel in flow, and a lot 0:20:00.240 --> 0:20:02.800 of it is because of them. My apartment, I love 0:20:02.880 --> 0:20:04.639 decorating it. I still need to get art for the 0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:08.760 walls and then my health, and I'm going to prioritize 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:12.080 that more this year. What's something you can forgive yourself 0:20:12.280 --> 0:20:16.359 to move forward with peace? Okay? Gossiping? And I go 0:20:16.480 --> 0:20:18.200 back and forth on gossip because, like if you're in 0:20:18.240 --> 0:20:22.040 a safe space, some of it feels like Barbara Walters 0:20:22.040 --> 0:20:24.879 would always gossip, she was known for it. But every 0:20:24.960 --> 0:20:28.399 time I've done it, I feel icky after. And I 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:31.280 actually talked to my therapist about it last week and 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:35.080 came up with a plan because I'm never an initiating gossip. 0:20:35.200 --> 0:20:38.399 That's just not me. But I'm a very literal person, 0:20:38.920 --> 0:20:41.919 and so if somebody asked me a point blank question, 0:20:42.000 --> 0:20:44.600 I have a hard time either talking around it or 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:47.199 not answering. It's the Chicago and me like, I'm to 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:49.479 the point I'm going to give you the truth. And 0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:51.439 so I was like, I need to be able to 0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:56.000 be that person and not get myself into a space 0:20:56.040 --> 0:20:58.560 where I'm ever feeling like I'm talking poorly about somebody. 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:01.320 And my therapist said a few things. She said, one, 0:21:01.920 --> 0:21:04.320 you can sort of answer a question with a question, 0:21:04.400 --> 0:21:07.960 So if somebody asked you about somebody, you can say, oh, 0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:11.359 that's interesting, why are you asking? That feels like a 0:21:11.359 --> 0:21:16.199 good reroute. Then she said you can also sort of 0:21:16.440 --> 0:21:20.800 pull something from that question and redirect. What is one 0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:22.840 change you made this year that improved the quality of 0:21:22.880 --> 0:21:25.880 your life. I really poured into my friends more. And 0:21:26.640 --> 0:21:29.560 I saw this clip I think in March from Esther 0:21:29.680 --> 0:21:31.720 Perel and she was like, you know, we all have 0:21:31.800 --> 0:21:34.760 so many friends online, but who are the people that 0:21:34.840 --> 0:21:37.360 would pick you up from the airport or feed your cat. 0:21:37.480 --> 0:21:39.639 I don't have a cat, but I poured into my 0:21:39.720 --> 0:21:43.920 feed my cat friends, and that was really intentional because 0:21:44.080 --> 0:21:46.800 I have a lot of acquaintances and I really wanted 0:21:46.800 --> 0:21:49.600 to pour into the feed my cat friends. So what 0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:51.879 are three things you can give yourself credit for this 0:21:51.920 --> 0:21:55.280 past year? I wrote that I showed up. I prepared 0:21:55.320 --> 0:21:58.919 for almost everything. I showed up for friends birthdays, I 0:21:59.000 --> 0:22:02.600 planned some friends birthdays, had some people at my house. 0:22:03.000 --> 0:22:06.520 I showed up for funerals for my family, for friends, 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:09.159 and I felt like my relationship with my mom was 0:22:09.200 --> 0:22:12.200 so much better last year. I remember doing this podcast 0:22:12.200 --> 0:22:14.720 on New Year's and crying into the mic and having 0:22:14.760 --> 0:22:17.320 this realization that I think I've been hard on her 0:22:17.440 --> 0:22:19.359