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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, how are we doing today?

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Speaker 1: Super good? How are you doing today?

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty great, Easton, I'm excellent. Everyone's great. Mark stepped

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Speaker 2: out for a moment, but I'm sure he's also doing well.

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Speaker 3: He seems to be doing just fine, although he did

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Speaker 3: eat some cheese and my pizza that I brought today,

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Speaker 3: so he's feeling a little wonky.

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Speaker 2: H So Tanya brought I guess for Ryan Chow. Y'all

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Speaker 2: brought like you're.

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Speaker 3: We did like a show giving, so like everybody brought

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Speaker 3: something that was like traditional to their Thanksgiving table, so

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Speaker 3: like it was. Mine was like a piece of Serbian

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Speaker 3: food that was traditional to like my family.

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Speaker 2: And it's called pita.

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Speaker 1: Pita, yeah, pita. Yeah, it's also called gibaitza.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's easy. I thought she was asking if I

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Speaker 2: wanted a piece of pizza with a list. I thought

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Speaker 2: you had your like invisial lineback in or something. Oh,

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Speaker 2: I could have never heard of that. Very simple when

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Speaker 2: it comes to food, like I don't really try a

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Speaker 2: lot of different kinds.

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Speaker 1: Of food, I've tried my piza before. It's the cheese stuff.

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Speaker 3: It's like cheese with filo doughy and you liked it

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Speaker 3: every It's like the stuff that you make like blackla

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Speaker 3: blah kind of stuff almost like almost like no, almost

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Speaker 3: like like a pig's and a blanket.

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Speaker 2: Type not right, Okay, well whatever? Yeah. So Ty turned

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Speaker 2: around and Tanya had her large knife that she carries

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Speaker 2: around the studio with her every day. Yeah, she brings

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Speaker 2: it to cut her apple, but today she cut her

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Speaker 2: pa pita.

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Speaker 4: We've talked of this before, but that knife is sincerely

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Speaker 4: frightening Michael knife.

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Speaker 3: I'm just like the most complicated human on the planet.

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Speaker 3: Like I bring now, I bring a peeler for my

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Speaker 3: apple too, because I'm trying to eat the skins of

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Speaker 3: my apples because they're bad to digest, and I'm trying

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Speaker 3: to keep everything moving.

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Speaker 1: A little bit nicer these days.

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Speaker 3: So now peel my apples and I cut them up

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Speaker 3: like the most simple food that you can eat with

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Speaker 3: your hand.

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Speaker 1: I have to have like two instruments, but they.

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Speaker 2: Have those little things that you can just slice the

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Speaker 2: apple with. It's just it's like and then you push

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Speaker 2: it down and.

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Speaker 1: I know I should get one of those.

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Speaker 2: That seems less daunting than the large butcher knife.

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Speaker 1: I know I should get one of those.

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Speaker 2: Actually, so you.

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Speaker 4: Have a peeler that you carry with you now you

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Speaker 4: haven't seen it. I was cooking last night and the

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Speaker 4: recipe I used called for a zester, and I was like,

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Speaker 4: I don't have a zester. So I searched the internet

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Speaker 4: and they said, use your peeler. I don't have that either, Like,

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Speaker 4: how do I just do this with a knife? So

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Speaker 4: I'm just like whittling away with this lemon train.

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Speaker 1: To get me around here.

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Speaker 5: Here you go.

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Speaker 2: Oh my, oh that was in case you were whatever

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Speaker 2: that noise was. She hit the peeler.

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Speaker 6: Got the peeler.

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Speaker 4: It's got a black utilitarian handle. It's very official.

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Speaker 2: I watched the Great British Bakeoff and they all, you

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Speaker 2: have their like zester or whatever, so I'm very familiar.

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Speaker 2: I don't have them, but I'm familiar with them. I

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Speaker 2: cook The other night I did a not sponsored Hello

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Speaker 2: fresh meal.

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Speaker 6: Wait, so did I which meal?

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Speaker 7: Did you did?

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Speaker 2: The sesame beef tacos?

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Speaker 6: Okay, I have the same box. I haven't done the

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Speaker 6: talker as yet, but I did the chicken farmer sho on.

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Speaker 2: Oh, how was it delicious?

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Speaker 7: It is great.

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Speaker 2: I was talking about making the pork chops, but those

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Speaker 2: are I know, but I'm nervous because I've never made

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Speaker 2: port chops. I was a little scary, Like I know

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Speaker 2: how to cook chicken. I can cook ground beef because.

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Speaker 1: This pork come on a bone. It's like a big bone.

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Speaker 2: I think they have.

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Speaker 6: But the one, the one that Hella Fresh provided boneless.

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Speaker 2: They make it easy that pretty portionate ingredients. Speaking of Thanksgiving,

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Speaker 2: what are you doing? This is that we we recorded

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Speaker 2: this right before Thanksgiving, so we all probably had the

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Speaker 2: best Thanksgiving ever, but this is before Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just going home, going to Orange County, so

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Speaker 3: just but the traffic's going to be so gnarly, so

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Speaker 3: I don't know how long it's going to take me.

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Speaker 2: But are you going what on Thursday?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna go Thursday morning because like traffic, three

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Speaker 3: million people are gonna be traveling in out of Lax

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Speaker 3: on Wednesday. The traffics must be three times like as

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Speaker 3: bad as it usually is, so I'm like not getting

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Speaker 3: nearer the freeways on Wednesday.

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Speaker 1: What are you doing for things? Saving?

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Speaker 2: Well? You have me stressed because I leave to go

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Speaker 2: to Florida on Wednesday to get to the airport. But

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Speaker 2: my flights at seven am.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, uh leave your house at two am.

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Speaker 7: I think you'll be okay, are you kidding? I think

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Speaker 7: if you you're planning leaving five am, yeah, make it

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Speaker 7: four thirty. You'll be good.

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Speaker 2: Two am.

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Speaker 1: That's when the traffic's gonna be best.

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Speaker 2: Is the most extreme suggestion, and that's saying a lot

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Speaker 2: coming for me, But that's one of the more extreme

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Speaker 2: suggestions you've given me. But anyways, I'm excited. My parents

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Speaker 1: Sisters warm there.

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Speaker 2: Right now, it's like sixty seventy is kind of how

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Speaker 2: it's been here. But it's just gonna be the three

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Speaker 2: of us, which is gonna be fun.

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Speaker 1: You and your parents, and I'm taking Phoebe. Wait, that's

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Speaker 1: so nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it'll be fun. But I'm just going for a

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Speaker 2: few days. Then I leave for Japan on Monday.

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Speaker 1: So when you get back Saturday and you leave Sunday.

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Speaker 2: And I have to pack Sunday and stuff, And then

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Speaker 2: I are.

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Speaker 1: You saying that to prepare me? So I don't try

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Speaker 1: to like see you. No, I don't know you were

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Speaker 1: gonna try to see wait so yeah, and then you're

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Speaker 1: in Japan for how many days a week?

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Speaker 2: Oh, i'd see. So Tanya and I haven't seen each

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Speaker 2: other because we were supposed to hang out last Wednesday.

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Speaker 2: We were gonna celebrate my birthday dinner together and then

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Speaker 2: go to church. But Tanya came down with the plague.

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Speaker 2: And I used to be like the type of person

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Speaker 2: who if someone said they were sick, I'd be like,

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Speaker 2: it's fine, like let's just hang out if you're up

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Speaker 2: for it, like I'm up for it. But now I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to get sick.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know, and like I try to be

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Speaker 3: that person. I'm very much that person when I am sick.

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Speaker 3: I like, because I answered a huggy person. I don't

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Speaker 3: and then I feel like I'm drawing more attention to

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Speaker 3: the fact that I'm sick because it's like I'm not

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Speaker 3: wanting to touch anybody, but I feel like it's respectful.

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Speaker 2: No, it is, But I think the best thing to

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Speaker 2: do if you're able to, not like aside from work

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Speaker 2: and stuff, is just stay home. You don't go anywhere

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Speaker 2: where you don't need to be.

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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot easier said than done for you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, see, very easy for me.

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Speaker 7: The tough thing is when your kids are sick, because

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Speaker 7: staying away from them is not really an option because

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Speaker 7: she has to tend to them. Like my oldest is

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Speaker 7: really sick right now. We took her in yesterday because

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Speaker 7: her fever spike to like one oh four.

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's serious.

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Speaker 7: And this morning at three she had a bloody nose

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Speaker 7: for an hour, like she just got so much.

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Speaker 2: What is it?

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Speaker 7: They said, it's not the flu, it's not pneumonia. It's

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Speaker 7: just a really bad cold, and sorry, you just got

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Speaker 7: her most of the night and so that was But

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Speaker 7: that's what you do. You can't just say sorry. You're

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Speaker 7: on your own. So I don't know if I'm going

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Speaker 7: to get sick. Hopefully I won't, but I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: You should be taking oil of a reagano.

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Speaker 1: Not be hugging you goodbye today.

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Speaker 2: You already got it. You're probably a mune net right now.

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Speaker 1: But there's so many different strands like.

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Speaker 7: You might have given to me, I might have been

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Speaker 7: a carrier to give.

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Speaker 1: It to.

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Speaker 2: Your fault on you.

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Speaker 3: Well, I ultimately blamed Danielle because that's where I got

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Speaker 2: Well, then Danielle, we got to hear where she got

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Speaker 2: it from. I know I and there. So they're working

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Speaker 2: on my house right now there.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I wanted to ask you about that.

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Speaker 2: Keeping they're taking out all the hard hard floors yesterday

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Speaker 2: and today and they so they pretty much blocked off

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Speaker 2: where they're not working so that the fumes and like

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Speaker 2: all the dust and stuff doesn't settle in there, which

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Speaker 2: is really nice. But I feel like my allery, like

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Speaker 3: Think there's my allergies are gnarly right now. I think

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Speaker 3: the winds were really crazy last night, so yeah.

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Speaker 2: They were crazy. Yeah, it's probably the dust in the

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Speaker 2: air is probably coming from my house.

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Speaker 1: Literally it's insane.

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Speaker 3: But I wanted to talk to you about your flood, okay,

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Speaker 3: what because I feel as though there's a lot of

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Speaker 3: symbolism and like water okay, and like flooding. So I

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Speaker 3: want to talk to you about like your emotional state.

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Speaker 1: No, what, here we go.

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Speaker 2: It's just like here we go. Because the food.

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Speaker 3: Before you had the flood, you're feeling a little like

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Speaker 3: just a little h Yeah, Okay, since the flood, has

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Speaker 3: that changed? Like now do you feel different?

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Speaker 2: Now?

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Speaker 1: Do you feel in a different headspace?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah, I guess I would say so, but I don't. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I guess that all was kind of around the same

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Speaker 2: a major reset, and while it was in Mexico's when

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Speaker 2: the flood happened.

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you, there's something about water and like flooding.

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Speaker 3: It's like almost like it's a reburn. Yeah, it's almost

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Speaker 3: like a reb Like I know it sucks, and I

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Speaker 3: would obviously hate that your house got flooded, but it's

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Speaker 3: almost like it was like pushing negative or whatever out

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Speaker 3: of your life and starting.

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Speaker 2: I like the symbolism. I like more when it's coming

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Speaker 2: from the sky and it's like a cleanse of the rain.

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Speaker 2: But something about the toilet water flooding seems a little

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Speaker 2: less inspirational.

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Speaker 1: I know it's not ideal, but you know what, sometimes

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Speaker 1: we can't like pitch.

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Speaker 2: Choose where the water.

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Speaker 1: We can't choose where the water is coming from.

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Speaker 3: So I literally had him pull out his phone, saved

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Speaker 5: But really, once he.

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Speaker 7: Sees you at the height of your powers, when he

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Speaker 1: What do you think we're doing? Like, we're not like

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Speaker 2: Through Si Eric.

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Speaker 2: I can't. I feel like she's not she's not doing

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Speaker 1: Maybe I honestly don't know how old he is, so

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Speaker 2: Look we're both ended you. That's true.

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Speaker 7: There is something to status. For example, I maintained all

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Speaker 2: I have this conversation often, it makes it.

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Speaker 7: Makes you more appealing than you are more attractive.

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Speaker 2: Well, because my ally is like in love with post Malone,

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Speaker 7: Would you do such a good example.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I agree one hundred per It makes people more

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't know. I don't know if it's the same.

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Speaker 2: It's the same for guys. I think, yeah, you're thinking

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Speaker 7: But that's interesting.

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Speaker 7: That's the thing. When you add that to the status thing,

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Speaker 2: Well, well, I don't know. We haven't talked about this,

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Speaker 1: No, he was flirty. But I kind of think that's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I've heard from other like hosts and stuff

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 7: Anyways, if that guy Sierra's brother in law asked you

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Speaker 1: But it's a good question, I guess, yeah, yeah, why not?

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Speaker 7: That's a great thing, right there. Yeah, I really something

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Speaker 3: Because I really bonded with with his mom. I guess yeah.

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Speaker 3: I really like loved when I left, I was like, Sierra,

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Speaker 7: And then knocked everything on the Morning Show when she

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Speaker 7: But we're not saying anything about him.

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Speaker 7: You are like the easter bunny. You are bouncing around

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Speaker 1: Yes, but I do want to say, and I wish

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Speaker 3: On the morning show. I'm not sleeping. I wasn't sleeping

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Speaker 2: You're sleeping with him, You're not.

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Speaker 1: Sleeping shacking?

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Speaker 2: Is that I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Shagging?

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Speaker 7: You're shagging?

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Speaker 2: Correct?

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Speaker 7: You are sleeping, sleeping?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Is there.

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Speaker 2: Let the people know.

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Speaker 3: Just shaggy bedding, just just keeping it. So, just keeping

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Speaker 7: Can we get a base or no?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 2: Are the clothes on?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? Okay, all clothes on all the time?

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Speaker 1: Well yeah, I mean my pajamas, shoes on.

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Speaker 1: But leaping over a second base.

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Speaker 7: No, I'm saying that.

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Speaker 2: It sounds to me in sinuate. He's guessing that you

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Speaker 3: Right, I'm still not totally sure what the bases are,

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Speaker 7: At home get a little graphic for our family radio

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Speaker 1: Just I'm just trying to.

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Speaker 3: like going against everything in me, Like truly, it's going

450
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Speaker 3: against everything.

451
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Speaker 2: Though, because like I don't think this is this is

452
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Speaker 2: where I think some things get confusing. I don't think

453
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Speaker 2: you have to put eggs in other people's baskets. Like

454
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Speaker 2: I don't think it's like you have to go on

455
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Speaker 2: multiple dates.

456
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Speaker 1: Right, And I'm not that's I'm not true that I'm not.

457
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Speaker 2: You just need to keep some of the eggs to yourself. Yeah,

458
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Speaker 2: not give him all the eggs, which is in your

459
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Speaker 2: still body and hypothetically.

460
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Speaker 1: But like it's that's still really hard for me.

461
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Speaker 2: I know, honestly, it's so hard and it's hard to

462
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Speaker 2: like not share everything I know for you.

463
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Speaker 1: Oh, it's been literally killing me.

464
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Speaker 2: I'm private, and it's it's hard to not it's harder

465
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Speaker 2: sometimes to keep it private. But the more I see

466
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Speaker 2: people prying, the more private I'm like, it's like it

467
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Speaker 2: validates me being private.

468
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Speaker 3: See what's funny is I'm not trying to be private

469
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Speaker 3: at all. That's not my intention. My intention is I

470
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Speaker 3: don't want to put all my eggs into the basket.

471
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Speaker 3: So I don't want to like give them a nickname

472
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Speaker 3: and like talk about him and like go down that

473
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Speaker 3: path because it's not even like remotely there yet.

474
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Speaker 1: You know.

475
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Speaker 2: I think you feel like you're jinxing it if you

476
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Speaker 2: go ahead and give it a nickname and then it

477
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Speaker 2: doesn't work out.

478
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Speaker 1: No, I don't feel like I'm jinxing it.

479
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Speaker 3: I just feel like I'm I'm I'm literally putting all

480
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Speaker 3: my eggs into that basket, do you know what I mean?

481
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Speaker 1: It's hard to explain. So it's like I'm not trying

482
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Speaker 1: to keep it private. I'm just I'm trying to figure

483
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Speaker 1: it out for myself.

484
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Speaker 3: And it's so that's what I'm saying, Like it just

485
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Speaker 3: slipped out during the morning show, you know what I mean,

486
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Speaker 3: Like it just try and literally like stopped them, stopped

487
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Speaker 3: everything and like played some whenever. So it's like things

488
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,240
Speaker 3: slip out and it's fine, and I'm not like trying.

489
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 3: I'm not actively trying not to talk about it, but

490
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Speaker 3: I'm trying to.

491
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Speaker 7: I agree with you because if you give it a nickname,

492
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 7: Ryan's asking about it regularly, We're talking about it on

493
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Speaker 7: here regularly, and it gives a relationship, It accelerates it.

494
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Speaker 1: It makes it. It makes it a relationship when it's

495
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Speaker 1: not there yet.

496
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Speaker 3: I think that's what I'm realizing is it's like I

497
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Speaker 3: go on like a few good dates with somebody and

498
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Speaker 3: then I'm like, all in too soon, you know, like

499
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Speaker 3: it's still too soon, like I it just and then

500
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Speaker 3: it falls apart, and then I'm I think it hurts

501
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Speaker 3: worse because then there's like expectation attached to it, and

502
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Speaker 3: like you know what I mean, Like I.

503
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Speaker 7: Guess that's true, but as we always burn out. That's

504
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Speaker 7: totally why I.

505
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Speaker 2: Keep it private too. That's like the whole thing. What

506
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Speaker 2: do you mean of keeping it private is that you

507
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Speaker 2: have all these people in their expectations by just an

508
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Speaker 2: extreme version of what you're saying.

509
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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, but I mean, I mean you've been in

510
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Speaker 1: a relationship for how long? Now, I know for how long?

511
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Speaker 1: Almost two years?

512
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Speaker 2: No, not almost two years, like a year and a half.

513
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Speaker 1: Oh no, not two years.

514
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Speaker 2: Alf just scared of like.

515
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Speaker 3: Just I think for me, I think I just want

516
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Speaker 3: to like establish it first and then like be like, Okay,

517
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:22,640
Speaker 3: we can give him nickname, we can talk about him,

518
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:23,120
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

519
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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I think that's fair.

520
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Speaker 2: So what kind of noise did your stomach make hungry

521
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Speaker 2: or like or not?

522
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Speaker 1: Or like a girl? It was like a gurgle. It

523
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Speaker 1: was like slunger slash gurgle. And I was like, like.

524
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Speaker 2: What do you do, you have to go like do something?

525
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Speaker 1: No, I was I think it was more hungry.

526
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Speaker 3: But Ryan told me it is just to like pound

527
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Speaker 3: like liquid because he gets because I wake up really

528
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Speaker 3: hungry in the morning and so my stomach's kind of

529
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Speaker 3: always growling. I usually eat like right when I wake

530
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Speaker 3: up and come into work, so like I'm usually eating

531
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Speaker 3: at like six am or something like that. So on

532
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Speaker 3: the weekends or whatever, when I'm waking up at seven

533
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Speaker 3: or eight, like, my body's like, where's the food?

534
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Speaker 7: And he said, a jug of water will stop those noises.

535
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, or hot tea first thing.

536
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, you can, but yeah, so I'm gonna try that.

537
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Speaker 1: But body noises are like.

538
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Speaker 2: I know, the worst, that's the worst in the first

539
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Speaker 2: like you're like trying to make everything so perfect, and like,

540
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Speaker 2: my body doesn't make any noises. I don't do anything gross.

541
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Speaker 7: I'm just but it's and it's involuntary, like you, for

542
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Speaker 7: all you know, you're passing gas in your sleep.

543
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Speaker 1: Totally.

544
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Speaker 7: That's a weird thing about having a new someone sleepover

545
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 7: because you don't know what you're doing in your sleep.

546
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Speaker 7: You're talking in your sleep, you're flailing around you who

547
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Speaker 7: knows what you're doing.

548
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Speaker 3: I know in my mind, I'm like a peaceful sleeper

549
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Speaker 3: because I like go to sleep on the same side

550
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Speaker 3: and like I wake up kind of in the same

551
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Speaker 3: exact position.

552
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Speaker 1: So I don't think I'm a flailer.

553
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Speaker 2: Do you think you fart?

554
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Speaker 1: I don't, probably right, probably, yeah, I feel like we

555
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: all probably do.

556
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Speaker 2: I don't ima why are you so shocked by I'm

557
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,479
Speaker 2: not trying to say this in like a way of like,

558
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Speaker 2: oh I don't do that. I literally am not. I

559
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 2: burnt way more than a part. No, I don't think

560
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 2: i'd make like bodily function noises in my sleep. But

561
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Speaker 2: I feel like you.

562
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Speaker 7: Like he's also asleep and he's not going to hear

563
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Speaker 7: anything you're doing. You're not gonna hear anything he's doing

564
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Speaker 7: because you're sleep.

565
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Speaker 1: That's what you like to think nails the story.

566
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Speaker 3: I love that story, Like I know, but okay, that

567
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Speaker 3: was in.

568
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Speaker 2: The broad daylight of no. Imagine you not just knowing

569
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Speaker 2: what's going on.

570
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Speaker 3: Okay, do you know so I did this blood work

571
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Speaker 3: test or whatever where it says like things that I

572
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Speaker 3: should and shouldn't eat for like what's actually like not

573
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Speaker 3: like somebody telling me like this is like actual science,

574
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Speaker 3: like my blood what was number one on my list?

575
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Speaker 7: Gum?

576
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 1: It was like do not chew gum?

577
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Speaker 3: And I was like, oh my gosh that I was

578
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 3: at the point where I was chewing so much sugar

579
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 3: free gum because I was using it as like instead

580
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Speaker 3: of eating sweets. I would just like pop me some Yes,

581
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 3: it's uncontrollable. That would have been bad.

582
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 7: So have you stopped gum? Yeah?

583
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 1: I only chew gum if it's like a serious need.

584
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Speaker 7: I've stopped gum completely because I don't understand the purpose

585
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 7: of it. I realized it's kind of like so yeah,

586
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Speaker 7: mince minst keep me minty, brushing my teeth, keep you minty.

587
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Speaker 7: I don't think gum is just like, I don't know.

588
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Speaker 7: I feel like it's not worth it because there's the

589
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Speaker 7: chemicals and the sugar free element of it. It's I

590
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Speaker 7: don't think it's great for your jaw necessarily. So I

591
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Speaker 7: just I said Sanzi on gum. Yeah, me too, me

592
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Speaker 7: too to no choice. All right, let's talk about our

593
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 7: guest today, because it's really excited because he's a big deal.

594
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Speaker 2: He really is a big deal. I kept seeing them

595
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Speaker 2: show him on the AMAS and I was like, oh,

596
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 2: we're gonna talk to him.

597
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Speaker 7: Easton how much? How much am I allowed to play?

598
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 6: Of the songs were total less than twenty seconds.

599
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Speaker 1: I'm pretty good at yeah, Like that's all you needed

600
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:07,239
Speaker 1: for that one.

601
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Speaker 7: There we go. All right, let's do some other ones.

602
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Speaker 7: I love this guy.

603
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 5: No, No, I'm good, I can have another.

604
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 7: That was a smash. Yeah, I love all right, let's do.

605
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:18,120
Speaker 7: Oh this is a good one too.

606
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Speaker 5: I got these fresh and I see you far got you.

607
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 7: This one's awesome. Although it has a swear word in it.

608
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Speaker 7: I had to take it out for the elementary school

609
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 7: carnival a couple of weeks ago. It's read at the beginning,

610
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Speaker 7: you ca'll hear it.

611
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Speaker 5: So long, bit Chine is here for years.

612
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Speaker 7: In here he says the s word. Oh that's good

613
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Speaker 7: to be alive right about now.

614
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Speaker 1: I know Mark played the most.

615
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Speaker 7: Not that one is a smash.

616
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you played like the you should play the hook.

617
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Speaker 7: I can't play the hook. I only have the songs

618
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Speaker 7: the sorry. Here comes the newest one, which I think

619
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Speaker 7: is really good.

620
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Speaker 2: I will fight.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's so good. Yeah. This is the movie that

622
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Speaker 1: I was watching when we came back from Hawaii on

623
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Speaker 1: the plane five feet apart, and I was just waterworks.

624
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Speaker 7: I'll bet, by the way, there are studies you are

625
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Speaker 7: more emotional on airplanes.

626
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Speaker 2: I sobbed watching Creed two one time. I mean, they're

627
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Speaker 2: so good, and I probably would have been emotional anyway,

628
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Speaker 2: but I was like, like, like embarrassingly crying.

629
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Speaker 7: People will not watch Creed because it's the boxing movie.

630
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Speaker 7: Those movies are so good.

631
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Speaker 2: Boxing movies are the.

632
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Speaker 7: My wife hates boxing movie. She loved Creed, So if

633
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Speaker 7: you're into it, I mean to give it a try.

634
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 7: It's fantastic.

635
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Speaker 2: Also, I can we can talk about this after. But

636
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Speaker 2: I watched a movie that maybe I have not cried

637
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Speaker 2: as hard as I cried watching this movie. Maybe ever.

638
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Speaker 7: Oh that's a good tease. But Andy Grammer is here.

639
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so excited. Tanya has raved about Andy Grammer

640
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,719
Speaker 2: for a long time, so I'm really excited.

641
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Speaker 3: To me, I've done him for a couple of years,

642
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Speaker 3: and I just fall more and more in love with

643
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644
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Speaker 2: Unfortunately he's married, but we're gonna I fall in love

645
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Speaker 2: with him like as a man, just like the persons

646
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Speaker 2: a human. Yeah, person, We'll be back with Andy. So

647
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Speaker 2: We have a very did y'all see the video I've

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Speaker 2: made where I'm like, we have a very special guest.

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Speaker 1: Over I go over and over again, so we do.

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Speaker 2: We have a very actual guest scrubbing in today. Andy

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Speaker 2: Grammar's you know Tanya, I guess it was when she

693
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Speaker 2: met you which was years ago. Right, Yeah, she talked

694
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Speaker 2: about you so much in the type of man that

695
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Speaker 2: you are and how you are the kind of guy

696
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Speaker 2: man girl looking lower expectations immediately, We'll talk to your

697
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Speaker 2: wife and get to the nitty gritty.

698
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Speaker 3: Like everything about you. It's actually funny. So I wanted to.

699
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Speaker 3: I was gonna go into the scrubbing and Facebook group

700
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Speaker 3: and ask them for questions because I feel like you're

701
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Speaker 3: the mecca of what women want.

702
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Speaker 1: Oh god, no, I'm serious.

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Speaker 5: I don't know about that. No, you are well.

704
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Speaker 7: Would Asia agree with that?

705
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Speaker 5: No, definitely not. You should have brought her, she should be.

706
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Speaker 7: In on this.

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Speaker 5: Yes, my wife would be like, uh yeah, kind of Okay.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying you're perfect because I don't. No, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Obviously, I see you. I mean I've seen you a

710
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Speaker 3: handful of times.

711
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Speaker 1: But you might not be perfect. But I think that

712
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Speaker 1: you're you're open to like learning and being a better

713
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Speaker 1: person constantly. I guess that's a huge thing.

714
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Speaker 5: I think most of us are.

715
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Speaker 1: That's where you're wrong, Senor.

716
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Speaker 5: I think a lot of us are trying our best.

717
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 7: We're doing our best.

718
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Speaker 2: Some people's best just isn't as good as other people's

719
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Speaker 2: best to you. Yeah, what, Tanya, since you have these

720
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Speaker 2: feelings of the handful of times you've been around Andy,

721
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Speaker 2: what are the things that are so standoutish?

722
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Speaker 1: Well, first of all, you're just like very kind, and

723
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Speaker 1: I think that you're just really aware of like other people.

724
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: You're not like for being a musician and for being

725
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 1: an entertainment industry, you're so like not self absorbed. It's

726
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Speaker 1: like weird.

727
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Speaker 5: I you know. I think basically you just like my mom.

728
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Speaker 5: Oh honestly, Yeah, if I lost my mom ten years

729
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 5: ago and I talked about it a lot, she's really

730
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Speaker 5: really great and I think you'd like to hang out

731
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Speaker 5: with her. I wish we'll have to work that out

732
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Speaker 5: wherever we go next.

733
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Speaker 1: Yeah, when he like he how old your daughter? Now?

734
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Speaker 5: My daughter is two and like coming up to two

735
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Speaker 5: and a half.

736
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Speaker 3: So when I saw you recently, he was asking me

737
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Speaker 3: like questions about like my relationship with my dad and

738
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Speaker 3: like what's the one strength and that's what's the best

739
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 3: quality because he has a daughter now and he wants

740
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Speaker 3: to learn the dynamic and like I don't like, yeah

741
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 3: does that?

742
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Speaker 5: And the new one that I have is now that

743
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 5: I happened to have another little girl. Yeah, I'm asking

744
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Speaker 5: dads who I like. Sisters that I know are like

745
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 5: really good friends. I like to go ask their dad. Okay,

746
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 5: so what's the deal. Why what'd you do? How'd you

747
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 5: set it up? Like, what's what's a correct? Do you

748
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 5: have brother? Sisters?

749
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Speaker 2: I have three sisters and a brother.

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Speaker 5: Whoa awesome big family.

751
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, amazing, and we're all pretty.

752
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Speaker 7: Close, pretty close. Did you have to share room? Yes,

753
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 7: this is what I hear.

754
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 2: I in my room until literally I went to college.

755
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 2: She went to college time.

756
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Speaker 5: I was like, I'm sure it was frustrating at times.

757
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, probably mostly for her. I enjoyed it, but she

758
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 2: would she would. I have like a vivid memory of

759
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 2: her asking me to go. It was pitch black, everyone

760
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 2: was asleep, and she was like, I really want some

761
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 2: chocolate milk. Would you go get me some chocolate milk?

762
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 2: And not me being like the little sister, like wanting

763
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 2: to impress, just totally my personality in general. I go

764
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Speaker 2: to get it, and I come back and she jumps

765
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Speaker 2: and scares me out of the corner and the chocolate

766
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 2: milk goes everywhere.

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Speaker 7: That was our that's your dynamic. I love it.

768
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Speaker 1: That's so your dynamic of this day still by the way.

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Speaker 2: But when it comes to your music, you're you know,

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Speaker 2: how long have you been in a relationship with your wife? Like,

771
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Speaker 2: how long have y'all been together?

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Speaker 5: Great question. I'm pretty sure we've been married somewhere like

773
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Speaker 5: seven or eight years.

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Speaker 7: One of those two for sure, those too, Okay, great.

775
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 5: And yeah, she's great and we've been dating for almost

776
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 5: ten minutes now.

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Speaker 2: And as a musician, you base a lo of your

778
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 2: music off of your yeah love sure story, love story.

779
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 5: And then you know, just like life, you know, different stuff.

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Speaker 2: I mean, but like, do you ever write songs?

781
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Speaker 5: And she's like, oh, oh yeah, there's a song on

782
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 5: my first album that I wrote with her. In the

783
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 5: room we're like fight we had, we're having a fight,

784
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:23,799
Speaker 5: and we're at her apartment and I went and sat

785
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 5: down at the piano and just started writing a song

786
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 5: like at her in the moment, and she's like, you're

787
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 5: gonna do it in front of me, like right here

788
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 5: in front of me. Yeah, it's a song called you

789
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 5: should know better than that.

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Speaker 2: Well, she's a musician too, right, a writer as well.

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Speaker 3: I also feel like Honey, I'm Good was probably a

792
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 3: little it was like Oh yeah, she.

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Speaker 5: Was in she's down. What's cool about her is that

794
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 5: she's because she's a writer, she's pretty down for authenticity.

795
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 5: And sometimes authenticity is a little bit weird when you're

796
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 5: talking about you know, there's always that thing of like,

797
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 5: if you're gonna do, if you're going to write something,

798
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:03,720
Speaker 5: how authentic can you get? Because sometimes it's someone else's

799
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 5: story too, So you don't want to make someone feel weird.

800
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 5: Right with me and my wife were pretty open because

801
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 5: she's she's like, I'm using everything about about you in mind.

802
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 5: So if we're both agreed, like we don't care what

803
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 5: it makes the other person look like and we can

804
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 5: just fully tell how we feel, that's like really nice.

805
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 3: What's the one key to a successful, successful, suck successful

806
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 3: marriage in your opinion.

807
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:33,800
Speaker 5: I don't think there's like an answer because what's the

808
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 5: word that's kind of in my head is like honesty.

809
00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 5: And I think that honesty is not necessarily like you're

810
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 5: honest or you're not. It's like a sliding scale of

811
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 5: like how honest you are. There's probably a bar like

812
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 5: me and my wife go hard in the paint with honesty. Okay, Right, So,

813
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,360
Speaker 5: like everybody has about themselves that they don't want anyone

814
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,799
Speaker 5: else to know. And the more that you can add

815
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 5: that you can own up to your stuff in the moment,

816
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 5: then the cleaner the whole thing can be. I think

817
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:07,919
Speaker 5: what happens a lot is like people just don't own

818
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 5: up to little things and big things over a long

819
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 5: period of time, and then when you then something blows

820
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:14,800
Speaker 5: up and you both look at each other and you're like,

821
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 5: I don't even know where to start. We just like

822
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 5: we got a break. This is impossible, right. But if

823
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 5: you go like, oh, I have this issue, you have

824
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,919
Speaker 5: that issue, let me tell you vulnerably about it. Let's

825
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 5: talk about it. It's the deep, intense stuff that's really rain.

826
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 2: But it gives you a chance to work on it,

827
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 2: and it gives you a chance to be held accountable

828
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 2: in a sense of saying like, I'm sharing this with

829
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 2: you so that it's not like hold up in me

830
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,439
Speaker 2: and ends up exploding out.

831
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 7: Yeah.

832
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think that we are all so much more

833
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 5: messed up than we're willing to talk about. And so

834
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:50,239
Speaker 5: hopefully with your significant other you talk about that. So

835
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:52,320
Speaker 5: if you don't talk about that with the person that

836
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 5: you're married to or with, then it's just like a

837
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:55,399
Speaker 5: ticking time bomb.

838
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:55,919
Speaker 2: Yeah.

839
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Speaker 3: See, my thing is more like I need to wait.

840
00:37:58,040 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 3: I need to wait for the right time to like

841
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 3: express all my weird things.

842
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: You know.

843
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's like a third date.

844
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 1: And I was like, so I have a dear future

845
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: husband journal.

846
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, this is who I am.

847
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I scare you a yeah, maybe wait a little

848
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,280
Speaker 1: bit longer to talk about my Yeah, would.

849
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 2: Scare you away a dear future husband journal on.

850
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 5: You know, I don't think there's any like good way

851
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 5: to do it. I agree that like to drop it

852
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:20,919
Speaker 5: all on the first date is probably on the move.

853
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 5: But I think that we all that that the barometer

854
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 5: for how honest we're willing to be with others still

855
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,399
Speaker 5: right now is like low. We look like social media

856
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 5: and we all just share our bissy. So that's like

857
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 5: the far side, and hopefully the opposite side is marriage.

858
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:41,359
Speaker 5: I think marriage, good marriage is really cool if you're

859
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 5: willing to go in. If you're not willing to go in,

860
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 5: it's it's pretty weird.

861
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 1: So how do you know if a guy's marriage material.

862
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 2: Oh, well, he's a guy, it would be more how like, yeah,

863
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: what do I like?

864
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 1: The science? A telltale science?

865
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 7: You just made this the other day. Actually, what was

866
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 7: your answer? What was my answer? I thought it had

867
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 7: to do with maturity.

868
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 1: A certain age, life experience.

869
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 7: Life experience, parents along, committed like a good a good

870
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 7: relationship that he's seen his whole life.

871
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:15,439
Speaker 5: But to me, there's like it's it's someone who wants

872
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 5: to Yeah, who wants to show up and do and

873
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 5: like work with it, like games are not good the

874
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 5: you know if if the idea of if if a

875
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:28,280
Speaker 5: guy likes you, he'll let you know, that's pretty basic.

876
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:31,720
Speaker 1: Okay, oh that's you know what. Basics are fine basic.

877
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 5: So if you don't, if you don't know that a

878
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:36,240
Speaker 5: guy likes you, he might not be married material.

879
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: Like if you're questioning it, that's good.

880
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 5: It shouldn't be questioning it. It shouldn't be like a

881
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 5: whole dance.

882
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:45,919
Speaker 2: That's I say that all the time. I say, if

883
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 2: he likes you, you will know, you'll know, you'll know,

884
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 2: you'll know.

885
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:51,240
Speaker 1: Wow.

886
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 5: And I think a guy's marriage material if you don't

887
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 5: have to change yourself along. Like I find people ask

888
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:00,359
Speaker 5: me like, how did you know your wife was your wife? Like, oh,

889
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:01,919
Speaker 5: because it was I was able to just be who

890
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 5: I am and that was that worked easy. Yeah, I

891
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 5: shouldn't have too many things where I'm shifting who I

892
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 5: am to be with you, at least in the beginning.

893
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 7: It's like, how soon.

894
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: In though, when you were dating, did you know she

895
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 1: was going to be your wife?

896
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 2: Uh?

897
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:21,799
Speaker 5: I didn't know for sure. I just like want, I

898
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 5: like to keep moving things farther and like right, like

899
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 5: this should be progressing.

900
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,840
Speaker 7: But that's a sign of marriage material. I think there

901
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:31,840
Speaker 7: are plenty of guys that aren't don't want to progress,

902
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 7: you know, They're like, let's just keep it how it is. Yeah,

903
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 7: let's not complicate this.

904
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, for sure. One of the things that you're

905
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 5: making me think of is like what guys do and

906
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 5: girls as well, is they base. Like I'm getting into

907
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 5: poetry and I wrote au pone the other day. It

908
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 5: was like don't was.

909
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 2: It is melted? Oh?

910
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 5: I was like, don't don't cast the lead in your

911
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:55,320
Speaker 5: movie based on the sex scene. What a terrible idea.

912
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 5: Like haven't we all seen movies where you're like, ugh,

913
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 5: you works like the guy or the girl you cast

914
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 5: is based on like when they were gonna take their

915
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 5: shirt off and the whole movie sucks. Yeah, because you

916
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 5: you did that you know, quite a few movies, and

917
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:11,880
Speaker 5: then I've seen other movies where you know, you start

918
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 5: the movie and you're like, I don't even think this

919
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,360
Speaker 5: girl's that attractive, and then like twenty minutes and you're like,

920
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 5: I'm in, she's so cool. I'm so down. This is incredible.

921
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 5: I think that we placed way too much emphasides on sex, like,

922
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 5: way way too much.

923
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 3: Ton don't cast the lead in the movie on the

924
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:27,840
Speaker 3: sex scene.

925
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: That needs to be the title of this.

926
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 5: Episode because because you know, I know that's not sexy.

927
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 5: I'm aware, I'm very aware that that's not a sexy idea.

928
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 5: But the truth is that I have you know, I'm

929
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 5: married right now, we got a baby, I got other

930
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 5: one coming, and sex is awesome, and it's just like

931
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 5: not the biggest part of the thing right the most,

932
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 5: like it's one of the things and it's awesome. I'm

933
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 5: not gonna downplay it's freaking great. But it's like in

934
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 5: our society drive around Los Angeles with the billboard and stuff,

935
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 5: you think it was like ninety five percent of the

936
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 5: relationship was like how good is it when you guys bang?

937
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 5: That is not what like good a relationship is The

938
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,760
Speaker 5: good relationship is like, oh my god, sex is great. Also,

939
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 5: there's eighty percent, probably ninety of like the rest of life,

940
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:15,760
Speaker 5: Like there's so many more things happening in life outside

941
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 5: of like who's sex? I think we're having sex with

942
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 5: what's the sex? How we doing it? Like we just

943
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 5: focused way too much on it.

944
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 2: I think that's a very refreshing take on it, and

945
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 2: I think our listeners will really appreciate that because we

946
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 2: have a lot of girls who feel a lot of

947
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:34,320
Speaker 2: pressure about literally just the sex aspect alone when dating

948
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:36,840
Speaker 2: of like how do I say I'm not ready for that,

949
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: or that maybe I'm waiting for marriage or whatever the

950
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 2: case is. There's so much emphasis on sex, and it's like,

951
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:47,320
Speaker 2: when you get into a relationship that's not everything.

952
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 5: It's just not everything.

953
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 2: It's a part of it.

954
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,839
Speaker 5: It's a piece. It's a great freaking piece. I love

955
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 5: the piece.

956
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 7: Yeah it is not.

957
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 5: It's so it's way smaller than we're led into.

958
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 7: But that's interesting. Do you two have that perspective because

959
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 7: you both are people that wait until later in life

960
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 7: to start doing that. Sure, But I mean Beck also,

961
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 7: she was on the Bachelor and she was still a version,

962
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:08,720
Speaker 7: so I wonder if that's why you have that perspective,

963
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 7: because you lived so much life before you got into

964
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 7: that and got your brain all clogged up with all

965
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:13,360
Speaker 7: that nonsense.

966
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 5: First of all, I am very loosely did I take

967
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 5: I wrote a song about it, Like the V card

968
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 5: was so tattered by the time that.

969
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:22,399
Speaker 2: I got there.

970
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 5: It's like I pulled it out, and they're like, is

971
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 5: that what is that? I can't even tell what that is? Maybe,

972
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 5: But I also so there was still like lots of physical,

973
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 5: physical stuff occurring with the relationships before, and I think

974
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 5: it's it makes it way more messy than it needs

975
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 5: to be. I still think I still think that right now,

976
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 5: we're in a time period where we just put so

977
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 5: much emphasis on sex as like so like what what

978
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 5: our whole purpose in life is to be like sexually attractive?

979
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:58,880
Speaker 5: And it's like that's so not it. Oh my god,

980
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 5: there's so much more to do here than like making

981
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 5: sure that you look really really good with your shirt off,

982
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:07,359
Speaker 5: Like fine, there's nothing wrong with that, but like, oh

983
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 5: my god, there's a whole other side of life outside

984
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 5: of who do you want to have sex with? And

985
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 5: are you attracting people? And the sex scene in your movie.

986
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 5: Like when you watch a movie, there's a whole movie.

987
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 5: There's a whole movie and every I mean, as a guy,

988
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 5: I've done it too, and it's horrible. You like you

989
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 5: go to the movie or it's like late, you're like

990
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 5: on like show time. You're like, I'm gonna watch this

991
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:36,080
Speaker 5: whole movie. I'm gonna watch this whole movie because I'm

992
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 5: pretty sure this girl is gonna be in abroad at

993
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 5: some point in this movie. And what a sad way

994
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 5: to watch a movie. Like sincerely, you're watching the movie

995
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 5: the whole time. You're like, Nah, that's terrible dialogue. I

996
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 5: hate this, but like you got me because I'm pretty

997
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 5: sure that this is gonna happen at some point, Like oh,

998
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 5: what a waste of time.

999
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just think that there's like this because I

1000
00:44:57,280 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 1: used to be this way where I would I would

1001
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: have sex with some before I necessarily was ready to

1002
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: because I felt like I needed to like keep him happy.

1003
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I would have sex to make some

1004
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 1: like out of my own will, like I was willing.

1005
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 1: It wasn't like I was not a willing participant, but

1006
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 1: I would do it before I was ready to, just

1007
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 1: because I felt like that's what I needed to do,

1008
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: and then I would end up being so hurt at

1009
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 1: the end of it because I not only did I

1010
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 1: not get commitment, which is what I wanted, but then

1011
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:25,240
Speaker 1: I gave.

1012
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 3: All of myself to this person. So it's just like

1013
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 3: I think that there's when you're dating, it can get

1014
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 3: really tricky because sometimes you're just not like and I

1015
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 3: don't know where that came from, and I don't know

1016
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 3: if I like grew that over time, and I don't

1017
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 3: know like exactly what switched in me, but it was

1018
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 3: actually I think it was meeting Devon Franklin when I

1019
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 3: realized I was like in this perpetual pattern of pain,

1020
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:49,399
Speaker 3: like I was just like giving my body before my heart,

1021
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 3: before before he gave me his heart, you know. And

1022
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 3: so I think there's just like I don't know when

1023
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 3: that shift comes for every for like a lot of

1024
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 3: other women, but I do think that's something that women

1025
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 3: struggle with, like especially and I newly start dating somebody,

1026
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 3: when to yeah, like that like the progression of it,

1027
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:04,880
Speaker 3: you know.

1028
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I don't think you can get really

1029
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 5: puritanical in these conversations, and that's like.

1030
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 7: Not at all where I want.

1031
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 5: How I want to go about it. I do think

1032
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 5: in general, we just spend way too much time in

1033
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 5: thought and energy.

1034
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed.

1035
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, so like when you're when you're checking somebody out,

1036
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:24,759
Speaker 5: that is a piece of I guess. You know. Some

1037
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 5: people will say like, oh man, I can't believe you

1038
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 5: got married without like testing that first, And I was like,

1039
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 5: you know, sure, I can. I hear your point. But

1040
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,839
Speaker 5: I was pretty tragged to her, and it's great, right.

1041
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 5: I don't think that's the hard part, to be honest.

1042
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 5: The hard part is like do we work well together?

1043
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 5: Do we fit well together? Can we be can we

1044
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:47,280
Speaker 5: have tough conversations together? Is there honesty here?

1045
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 2: Are?

1046
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 5: Do I like to do similar things that you like

1047
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 5: to live life the same? Do we like to live life?

1048
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:54,439
Speaker 5: Are we complimentary?

1049
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:54,839
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1050
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 5: You know me and my wife are extremely different, but

1051
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 5: we're complimentary.

1052
00:46:58,440 --> 00:46:59,360
Speaker 2: What are you all different in.

1053
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:03,839
Speaker 5: Or like the most different? So I love I get

1054
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 5: filled up by being around a lot of people and

1055
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 5: my wife gets filled up.

1056
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 7: By being alone. Is that you Yeah?

1057
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 2: I need alone?

1058
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:11,919
Speaker 7: Yeah?

1059
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:15,480
Speaker 5: So I like the older that I get, I'm sort

1060
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 5: of like realize myself, like I need to be in

1061
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 5: a different city, like pretty consistently. That's great that you

1062
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 5: do know, and she's like, you're insane. I don't want

1063
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 5: that at all, and so finding the balance. If I

1064
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 5: didn't have her, I would just be like a helium

1065
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 5: balloon that just like got caught and just like in

1066
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 5: the air, just like flying around. And if she was

1067
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 5: let alone, she would not be forced to come to

1068
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:42,440
Speaker 5: Paris and hang out with me. So we're like a

1069
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:44,799
Speaker 5: good she does it and she doesn't want to do it,

1070
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 5: but then when she gets there, she's like, this is great.

1071
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 5: So we she makes she gives me a home, and

1072
00:47:50,320 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 5: I get her out of.

1073
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 2: The home and.

1074
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:56,799
Speaker 1: That's really sweet. Okay, speaking of your touring, I didn't

1075
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: want to talk about this because actually Mark sent me

1076
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: that You're Star article. I can't even tell you what

1077
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: this did to me inside when I read it. You okay,

1078
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to read the whole thing. Can you

1079
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:12,279
Speaker 1: give us a brief synopsis of this? Because I don't

1080
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 1: want to read the whole thing.

1081
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 5: So basically, I you know, I've had women on tour before,

1082
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 5: and this year there was like a shake up. Some

1083
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 5: my band members left, some new crew members came in,

1084
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 5: and it was like a cool way to just like

1085
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 5: reset on some culture stuff. And I brought in all

1086
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 5: the women that were on my tour. There's five of them,

1087
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 5: backup singers and some people in production and stuff, and

1088
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:37,960
Speaker 5: I sat them down. I said like, uh, okay, is

1089
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 5: there anything we can do better for women touring? And

1090
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:48,239
Speaker 5: they all gave me like cool answers, and then at

1091
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 5: the end of them giving like practical answers, they looked

1092
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 5: me in the eye and they're like, no one's ever

1093
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 5: asked me this question before. And I was like, no

1094
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 5: one's ever asked you this question, like getting very defensive

1095
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 5: it on their behalf, like getting up on my high horse.

1096
00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 5: And then I realized when I left them that I

1097
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 5: have been the head of like a touring company for

1098
00:49:08,239 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 5: eight years and I've never asked this question to women, right,

1099
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:14,799
Speaker 5: She's like whoa, yeah, what the hell? Yeah I And

1100
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:17,799
Speaker 5: so I decided like, man, if I think I'm one

1101
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,879
Speaker 5: of the good guys and I've never done this over

1102
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:22,840
Speaker 5: eight years, right, I need to write an article and

1103
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 5: try to reach out to the other good guys, like

1104
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 5: quote unquote guys that think they're good yeah, that just

1105
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 5: won't even ask the opinion. I don't know. So we're

1106
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 5: pretty far off on the baseline.

1107
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:33,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, so what I found.

1108
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 3: Two things I found really just because you posted about

1109
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 3: this article on your Instagram and you're like, I don't

1110
00:49:37,200 --> 00:49:39,760
Speaker 3: want to come off like I'm high and mighty. Yeah,

1111
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 3: And it's like, because I know you, I know that

1112
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 3: that's like the complete opposite of what like this is.

1113
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 3: You just wanting to like bring awareness to like what's

1114
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 3: going on. And like the answers that they gave were like,

1115
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 3: we just want a trash can with the lid on it,

1116
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 3: you know, because like we have tampons that we throw

1117
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 3: away and we don't want to wrap it in five

1118
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 3: thousand things of toilet paper put it in, you know

1119
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 3: what I mean. So it's like these little things that

1120
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,560
Speaker 3: you can, these little adjustments that you can make to

1121
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:04,560
Speaker 3: make life on the road more comfortable for women is

1122
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:07,919
Speaker 3: so cool that you just even like that you even

1123
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:10,400
Speaker 3: thought of that. And it's like, I think what it

1124
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 3: comes down to for me is like you are a

1125
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 3: man and we are women. We live life differently.

1126
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 2: We just do.

1127
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 1: So it's like, yeah, you.

1128
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:20,759
Speaker 5: Don't big push to make it seem like it's not.

1129
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's different, it's different. And but I think that

1130
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:27,879
Speaker 3: the thing is is It's not like you intentionally are

1131
00:50:28,040 --> 00:50:31,359
Speaker 3: trying to make life harder for women on tour at all,

1132
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 3: Like nobody's doing that. But it's like, when you open

1133
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 3: this conversation, it's like, at the end of the day,

1134
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:38,879
Speaker 3: if we all just kind of learned or reached out

1135
00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:42,239
Speaker 3: to people that lived life a different way or maybe

1136
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 3: had like we're in a different religion or a different

1137
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:48,839
Speaker 3: gender or a different sexual preference like that, we don't understand.

1138
00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 3: If we all just open that dialogue, the world would

1139
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 3: be such a better place that.

1140
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:56,439
Speaker 5: There's still just not you know, we've made a lot

1141
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 5: of strides, but it's still there's not an equality of

1142
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:01,839
Speaker 5: men and women that we would hope that there is yet. Right,

1143
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 5: So what that means is if you're a guy and

1144
00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:06,239
Speaker 5: you're just you're in your day job or you're working

1145
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,839
Speaker 5: or wherever you are, it's probably more set up towards you.

1146
00:51:10,640 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 5: It just is. And so if we all just agree

1147
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 5: that like it's equal, and we just continue doing it

1148
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 5: the way that we're doing it, then you have a

1149
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 5: little bit of an advantage if you don't ask the

1150
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 5: woman standing next to you, like, is there anything I

1151
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,880
Speaker 5: can do for you to make this better, then what

1152
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 5: you're doing is you're just agreeing that it's equal.

1153
00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 7: Right, but it's not right.

1154
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 5: So I dare any man to like look to the

1155
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 5: woman to your left and be like, is there anything

1156
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 5: that I could do to make this better or more

1157
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 5: equal for you? And most women will be like, oh totally.

1158
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 5: I thought I just had to work double as hard

1159
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:43,320
Speaker 5: because I didn't want to be annoying, and then I

1160
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:46,280
Speaker 5: want to be difficult, right. And if you're a guy

1161
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:50,800
Speaker 5: who's like most guys are good, we just like you

1162
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 5: don't ask the question. So most guys, if you look

1163
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 5: to your left and you ask the woman like, is

1164
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:56,000
Speaker 5: there anything I can do for you? And then they

1165
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:59,919
Speaker 5: answer most most dudes have like great hearts, Oh my god,

1166
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:02,399
Speaker 5: like part of being a man, like a good man

1167
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 5: is taking care of women and like standing up for them.

1168
00:52:05,080 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 5: So if you ask them a question and they give

1169
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 5: you an answer, then I guarantee most men will be like, oh, yes, totally,

1170
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 5: let me go get your trash can and then feel good.

1171
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 1: About it totally.

1172
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 5: But it's the question that we won't do for some reason.

1173
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 5: We're just like just living our lives. Enjoy. Listen, I'm

1174
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 5: a white guy. If I'm not, like, at least fifteen

1175
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 5: percent of my life like talking about stuff. I'm the worst.

1176
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:30,640
Speaker 2: And how do you know?

1177
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:33,840
Speaker 1: I want to support that man, Like everybody that's listening,

1178
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 1: I need you to like do everything that andy like

1179
00:52:36,440 --> 00:52:39,880
Speaker 1: support him. Oh my goodness, what's out right now?

1180
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 7: You're so good people that I DJ'd at my daughter's

1181
00:52:45,040 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 7: elementary school festival recently, and I mean I had to

1182
00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 7: get in there. I had to keep good to be alive. Yeah, yeah,

1183
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 7: what's the what's the other one? Oh, don't give up

1184
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:56,520
Speaker 7: on me. That was a big one. I mean it's

1185
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,879
Speaker 7: just great, great stuff. Every song so sweet it comes,

1186
00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:02,279
Speaker 7: and it's so hard to imagine. I mean, how often

1187
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 7: you think about those days when you run thirsty promenade?

1188
00:53:04,680 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, like a like a decent amount. It's a really

1189
00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 5: great grounding exactly.

1190
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, he used to be one of the singers

1191
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 3: like on Third Street Santa Monica with like an.

1192
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 7: Open guitar case in front of it.

1193
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:15,280
Speaker 5: Yet.

1194
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:19,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my favorite part about Third Street. There's so

1195
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 2: many amazing, really talented people.

1196
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 1: That's where he came from.

1197
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:27,359
Speaker 2: So how did you how did you go from there? Yeah?

1198
00:53:27,520 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 2: So I did that.

1199
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 5: For four years and then and then I wrote a

1200
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 5: song called keep your Head Up while I was out

1201
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 5: street performing out there. Yeah, so the story goes that

1202
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 5: I had spent the whole day perform street performing with

1203
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 5: no tips, which is like such a long time, right,

1204
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 5: that's like probably it's around eight hours of just singing.

1205
00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:52,760
Speaker 5: But then there's this whole other thing of like getting

1206
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 5: up early so that you can pack all the stuff

1207
00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 5: onto the cart to then bring it down, put it

1208
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 5: in your ma's miny van, drive it there, unload it.

1209
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:03,359
Speaker 5: It's like a lot of output output output to have

1210
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:08,839
Speaker 5: no one stop and give you any encouragement even then

1211
00:54:08,960 --> 00:54:11,640
Speaker 5: you know, like a dollar basically is like someone going

1212
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 5: like keep going, good luck, good try. And so then

1213
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:18,880
Speaker 5: I got nothing. So that's a long time. I've like

1214
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 5: set that up correctly.

1215
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 7: Did you do the thing? We put your own money

1216
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:23,800
Speaker 7: in it to make it look always always?

1217
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 5: But when you have a day where're like on a Saturday,

1218
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 5: you wake up, you're like you're excited to go try,

1219
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:30,439
Speaker 5: you get out there and you're just singing and no

1220
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 5: one cares for that amount of time. Around eight pm

1221
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 5: you close up shop and I put all my stuff

1222
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 5: back on and I was like wheeling the cart back

1223
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:43,440
Speaker 5: to the parking structure, and I swear to I did this.

1224
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:44,960
Speaker 5: I looked up at the sky and I was like,

1225
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 5: your move. I will never leave, Like I'm never leaving.

1226
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:53,840
Speaker 5: I'll be here forever till the end of time. I'll

1227
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 5: just keep coming. So you might as well just make

1228
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:58,480
Speaker 5: a move for me, because unless you want me, just

1229
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:01,279
Speaker 5: be here, you know. And then I went home and wrote,

1230
00:55:01,360 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 5: keep your head up. So it's really cool. It's kind

1231
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 5: of how it works. And one of my favorite things

1232
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 5: is to try and encourage young artists. That's like one

1233
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:13,080
Speaker 5: of the things that super pumps me up is because

1234
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:15,920
Speaker 5: I think a lot of artists get into this building,

1235
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:18,840
Speaker 5: we're an iHeart and they like to keep up the

1236
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 5: mystique that they just like have it or they were

1237
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:24,719
Speaker 5: it or from the jump, or that they did it

1238
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 5: by themselves is one of the good lies. Like I'm

1239
00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:31,799
Speaker 5: just it, I'm doing it by myself, and it's like no, no,

1240
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:33,719
Speaker 5: not at all. And all that does is it's kind

1241
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 5: of like the the equivalent of like air brushing on

1242
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 5: like magazine covers for women, Like I think artists do that.

1243
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 5: We airbrush our artist waste and our artists.

1244
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 2: It was just so easy, but like I just am.

1245
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:51,719
Speaker 5: This right, It's like, no, you're super not. And when

1246
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 5: you do that, it's the equivalent of women seeing the

1247
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:57,440
Speaker 5: cover and being like, oh man, I'll never be like that.

1248
00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 5: And I think there's so many artists that will and

1249
00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 5: ken and so try to like take down the facade

1250
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:06,560
Speaker 5: as much as possible about like, no, you can. It's

1251
00:56:06,640 --> 00:56:08,920
Speaker 5: really hard. I have to work super hard at it,

1252
00:56:08,960 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 5: but it's totally possible.

1253
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:10,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1254
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 7: Do you go down to the promenade now? Yeah?

1255
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 5: And I do give them money. I mean when I'm home,

1256
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:19,400
Speaker 5: I love every once in a while to get out

1257
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 5: there and just it's it's so I love that the

1258
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:28,239
Speaker 5: heart of someone that that is being told basically by

1259
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 5: the world like no, yeah. And then in the face

1260
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 5: of that, it's like, well, it's it's my right. It's

1261
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:36,880
Speaker 5: it's against the law to tell me to shut up.

1262
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:40,120
Speaker 5: It's like freedom of speech. I'm allowed to come out

1263
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 5: here and sing my heart out. That is really inspiring

1264
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 5: to you. So that group of people I have a

1265
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 5: lot of Like.

1266
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 7: Have you ever gone down there and someone one of

1267
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:48,440
Speaker 7: them is performing one of your songs?

1268
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:48,680
Speaker 2: I have?

1269
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 1: Did you sing it with them?

1270
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 5: Yeah? I happened in Vegas too at one point, and

1271
00:56:57,600 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 5: a lot of them know me because I'm one of

1272
00:56:59,280 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 5: the ones that has made it from the street into

1273
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 5: other Yeas.

1274
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:03,200
Speaker 1: Oh you're like, you're like a third street problem, not

1275
00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 1: like that.

1276
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 5: There's a couple of us, but yeah, I'm one of

1277
00:57:05,160 --> 00:57:06,800
Speaker 5: the ones, so they know, and it's really sweet.

1278
00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 2: I wanted. There was a guy, uh that was on

1279
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 2: American Idol last season or the season before, and I

1280
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 2: saw we remember we stopped and watched him sing for

1281
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 2: like a while. Yeah, yeah, yeah, And then last year,

1282
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:21,720
Speaker 2: I guess he was on American Idol and I just

1283
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 2: thought that was a close thing.

1284
00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 7: I didn't even know.

1285
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, blowing my mind. Yeah, yeah, so cool.

1286
00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 7: So you're right, keep your head up. What do you

1287
00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:29,400
Speaker 7: do with that?

1288
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:32,919
Speaker 5: So I wrote it? And my manager at the time,

1289
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 5: you had a manager, Yeah, you were just talking the pro. Well, no,

1290
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 5: he wasn't managing me yet and he's still my manager now.

1291
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:42,280
Speaker 5: His name's Ben Singer. So yeah, he came out to

1292
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:44,320
Speaker 5: the street and he saw me out there and we

1293
00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 5: started working together. But but started working together in that

1294
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:50,479
Speaker 5: he like got me a better matt like a better

1295
00:57:51,320 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 5: like in a better like a better rug to put

1296
00:57:53,120 --> 00:57:56,360
Speaker 5: my stuff on and so we were really teammates from

1297
00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 5: there and then we you know, that one started to

1298
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:00,160
Speaker 5: take patch fire a little bit on the radio, and

1299
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 5: then I got in pitch perfect and then it just

1300
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 5: started to go.

1301
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 7: And could you tell as you performed it on the

1302
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 7: street that this is connecting people like, yeah, this is better. Oh,

1303
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:08,000
Speaker 7: like people are singing along and like this one.

1304
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 5: This one is giving. But I always like to say,

1305
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 5: it's really hard to do a service with art. To

1306
00:58:15,240 --> 00:58:17,560
Speaker 5: actually be of service to someone when you're doing your

1307
00:58:17,680 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 5: art is freaking hard. We all know what it is

1308
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 5: to go like pass them on the street or have

1309
00:58:23,480 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 5: your go to your friend's show or something, and when

1310
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:28,440
Speaker 5: someone leaves and they say, oh, that was good, and

1311
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:30,440
Speaker 5: if they mean it, what that means is, oh, that

1312
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 5: gave to me instead of me giving to it. Right, So,

1313
00:58:34,240 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 5: when you go see your friend play and they suck there,

1314
00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:41,440
Speaker 5: you're giving your attention as opposed to them giving to you.

1315
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 5: And you have to get better and better and better

1316
00:58:43,040 --> 00:58:44,640
Speaker 5: what you do to be able to make that switch

1317
00:58:44,680 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 5: to where when someone sees you play, you were actually

1318
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 5: giving to them, which is so hard. And one of

1319
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 5: the hardest things about being an artist is that you

1320
00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 5: don't get paid until you do that, and sometimes that

1321
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 5: takes like a really long time. So other jobs you

1322
00:58:57,680 --> 00:59:00,320
Speaker 5: go in and they train you and you learn, like, Okay,

1323
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 5: I'm gonna be paid while they're training me how to

1324
00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 5: do this, and then I'll be good enough at my job.

1325
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 5: In art, it's like you just don't get paid until

1326
00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 5: you've done something that it actually massively gives somebody something,

1327
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:13,640
Speaker 5: and that's really hard, so it can take a really

1328
00:59:13,680 --> 00:59:15,200
Speaker 5: long time to get to that place.

1329
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 2: I think that's really good for people to know, because

1330
00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:20,080
Speaker 2: I do think, you know, we've gotten past the airbrush

1331
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 2: that like people know, okay, there's editing and these photos,

1332
00:59:24,520 --> 00:59:26,880
Speaker 2: like we've gotten to that, but people don't really talk

1333
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:30,080
Speaker 2: about the struggle of coming up as an artist or

1334
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 2: you know, and these actors who have been acting in

1335
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:35,920
Speaker 2: like small roles and commercials forever and then they finally

1336
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:37,920
Speaker 2: get a big break and everyone thinks like they just

1337
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 2: came out of nowhere, and it's like no, they've been

1338
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 2: on your TV just in the small parts. Yeah.

1339
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 3: And also the like up and down of the industry,

1340
00:59:44,840 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, It's like you can only

1341
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 3: be up for so long before you come down again.

1342
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 3: And It's like, I think that inconsistency can really mess.

1343
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:55,479
Speaker 5: With people, like really much.

1344
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:57,040
Speaker 1: So yeah, but I like.

1345
00:59:57,520 --> 01:00:01,680
Speaker 5: Messes with me for sure, really totally because you have

1346
01:00:01,760 --> 01:00:04,960
Speaker 5: to then you have to kind of block it out

1347
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 5: because it goes up and down, and you can tell

1348
01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:10,600
Speaker 5: with different when you're going into the same building that

1349
01:00:10,600 --> 01:00:12,760
Speaker 5: you went in last time, that people look at you

1350
01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:14,920
Speaker 5: different and you have a different thing on you. As

1351
01:00:14,920 --> 01:00:16,520
Speaker 5: an artist, I feel like you always have a stink.

1352
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:19,000
Speaker 1: That's so interesting.

1353
01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:20,960
Speaker 5: You always have a stink. You either have like the

1354
01:00:22,320 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 5: you're hot stink or you have like your over stink. Yeah,

1355
01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 5: but you're the same person the whole time, so you

1356
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:31,120
Speaker 5: what you're like, you're doing the same thing. And also

1357
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 5: the stink has nothing to do with my purpose on

1358
01:00:34,400 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 5: earth right, Like it has nothing to do with who

1359
01:00:36,280 --> 01:00:38,840
Speaker 5: I am, why I'm alive, all this stuff. It's like

1360
01:00:38,880 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 5: all this it's like it's all wrapped up in ego

1361
01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:44,720
Speaker 5: and weirdness. So when I come in and you won't

1362
01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:45,960
Speaker 5: talk to me the same way that you talked to

1363
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:49,840
Speaker 5: me last time, that then it throws me into like, well, weird,

1364
01:00:50,480 --> 01:00:52,640
Speaker 5: what do I do with this? Do I let what

1365
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 5: you're giving me? All the way into my self worth.

1366
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:56,000
Speaker 5: I can't do that right, but.

1367
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 1: Some people do.

1368
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 2: Some people do.

1369
01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:57,919
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1370
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 5: Similarly, when I come in and you're like you're on fire,

1371
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:07,000
Speaker 5: You're gone, it's like, no, that's not correct either, totally.

1372
01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 5: I have to kind of somehow find my middle zone

1373
01:01:09,280 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 5: here where where I go back. It was like, I

1374
01:01:11,040 --> 01:01:12,920
Speaker 5: love to make music, I love to make people happy.

1375
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:15,440
Speaker 5: I love to try you of service. That's my box.

1376
01:01:16,040 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 5: And then the sway of what everybody will tell you

1377
01:01:18,720 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 5: about yourself, you have to kind of like keep it

1378
01:01:20,840 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 5: at bay.

1379
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:22,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, it's weird.

1380
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 2: So that's so good for everyone to hear, honestly, because

1381
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:29,320
Speaker 2: there's so much pressure even without even being in the spotlight,

1382
01:01:29,400 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 2: the pressure of appearing a certain way or looking like

1383
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 2: you have it all together, and listening to others' opinions.

1384
01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:37,640
Speaker 2: Like it's that's good advice from for everyone.

1385
01:01:37,720 --> 01:01:39,360
Speaker 5: And I'm not great. I'm not amazing at it. I

1386
01:01:39,400 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 5: just am like trying to be aware of it. You know.

1387
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:44,280
Speaker 5: I wrote don't give up on Me in a point

1388
01:01:44,320 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 5: where I could feel the stink coming. Yeah, I can

1389
01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 5: feel it coming. I'm like, damn it. Everybody is talking

1390
01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 5: to me like this is over, Like I'm over.

1391
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,240
Speaker 1: Don't give up on Me? You wrote that after what song?

1392
01:01:59,280 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 5: Well, I just had I knew that it was like

1393
01:02:01,800 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 5: a good period of time between what was the last one?

1394
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:08,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it was.

1395
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:09,760
Speaker 5: It was like a good period of time. It took

1396
01:02:09,960 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 5: a long time to write the song, to write the

1397
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 5: next album, and I knew that I needed the next

1398
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 5: thing because you need the thing going and and I

1399
01:02:17,920 --> 01:02:20,800
Speaker 5: was just getting a sense from the world which is

1400
01:02:20,800 --> 01:02:23,919
Speaker 5: like so weird. And if your name is the thing,

1401
01:02:24,160 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 5: then it's not like, oh, you're the product that you

1402
01:02:27,240 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 5: make is a little bit like in question. It's like

1403
01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 5: you are You're worth as a human being on this

1404
01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:39,840
Speaker 5: planet is in question. They're like, oh my god, that's

1405
01:02:39,920 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 5: quite a bit of pressure. And so then yeah, it

1406
01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:45,800
Speaker 5: can get in on you and stuff. And so then

1407
01:02:45,840 --> 01:02:47,480
Speaker 5: you write a song like don't give up with Me?

1408
01:02:47,560 --> 01:02:49,920
Speaker 7: But how how do you respond like that pressure? Like

1409
01:02:49,960 --> 01:02:51,400
Speaker 7: you are going to be over if you can not

1410
01:02:51,520 --> 01:02:53,040
Speaker 7: come up with the next big hit, And then you

1411
01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 7: do it. I mean, that song is incredible.

1412
01:02:54,840 --> 01:02:57,600
Speaker 5: Oh man, thank you. I don't know the answer to that,

1413
01:02:58,000 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 5: but I know that you have to you have to

1414
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 5: like try your best to sift what's true and what's

1415
01:03:05,680 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 5: totally not true. So what keeps happening is you keep

1416
01:03:08,760 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 5: going back like, don't compare yourself. You're here to do

1417
01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:14,880
Speaker 5: to be you, and so just like keep trying to

1418
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 5: be you amidst.

1419
01:03:15,680 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 7: All the chatter.

1420
01:03:16,560 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the best advice I give. That sounds so cheesy.

1421
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 5: This what's horrible is that when you get to the

1422
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:23,960
Speaker 5: crux of life, like the really important stuff about life,

1423
01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:26,520
Speaker 5: it becomes very simple and can sound cheesy.

1424
01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true.

1425
01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:28,360
Speaker 7: Just be you.

1426
01:03:28,880 --> 01:03:31,600
Speaker 3: I think it's just it's so interesting because like we

1427
01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:33,880
Speaker 3: all see it all, like in pop culture. It's like

1428
01:03:33,920 --> 01:03:36,800
Speaker 3: we see these artists that they just like skyrocket and

1429
01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:39,280
Speaker 3: they're number one on every chart and they're just crushing it.

1430
01:03:39,360 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 3: And then like then their sophomore album comes out and

1431
01:03:43,480 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 3: it doesn't sell really well and they can't get a

1432
01:03:45,600 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 3: single on the radio, and like they it's they struggle

1433
01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 3: and it's like this and they're young, like some of

1434
01:03:51,640 --> 01:03:53,640
Speaker 3: them are super really young, and it's like this really

1435
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 3: crazy high and then this really gnarly low, and it's like.

1436
01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:01,120
Speaker 1: Either of them are true, right, but like society that

1437
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 1: like that that's the truth.

1438
01:04:03,040 --> 01:04:06,240
Speaker 5: Neither of those. Neither of those are are true or

1439
01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:10,600
Speaker 5: correct the idea that you are better than anyone because

1440
01:04:10,640 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 5: you have this song and that now you get to

1441
01:04:13,920 --> 01:04:15,920
Speaker 5: go to the front of the line and you're like

1442
01:04:16,000 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 5: really important and you can get into every single place

1443
01:04:19,000 --> 01:04:23,040
Speaker 5: you want. That's not true. That's not like truth about life.

1444
01:04:23,280 --> 01:04:26,000
Speaker 5: That's a farce. That's false. And so if you give

1445
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 5: over to the falseness of it, then when it drops

1446
01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:32,240
Speaker 5: you all the way subterranean, you've given into this other

1447
01:04:32,320 --> 01:04:35,320
Speaker 5: idea of letting other people tell you you're kind of worth

1448
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:37,080
Speaker 5: about being here. So if you can just like lock

1449
01:04:37,160 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 5: in on what do I love to talk about, what

1450
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:40,600
Speaker 5: I love to sing about, what is my art about,

1451
01:04:41,120 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 5: and what do I love jumping out of bed in

1452
01:04:42,760 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 5: the morning to do? And then when the world will

1453
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:48,640
Speaker 5: tell me that I'm this, I have to be like, okay, cool,

1454
01:04:48,640 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 5: thank you so much, but like eh, and then when

1455
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:51,720
Speaker 5: they tell me that I'm so low, you'll be like,

1456
01:04:51,720 --> 01:04:55,200
Speaker 5: thank you so much that now I'm just trying to

1457
01:04:55,280 --> 01:04:59,440
Speaker 5: keep doing and then really focus on not on them,

1458
01:04:59,760 --> 01:05:02,600
Speaker 5: on like who do you make your music for? What

1459
01:05:02,600 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 5: do you what?

1460
01:05:03,280 --> 01:05:03,360
Speaker 7: Like?

1461
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 5: If you can focus on the people that you make

1462
01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:08,320
Speaker 5: your music for, that is your map of like where

1463
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:09,000
Speaker 5: you're going.

1464
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:11,080
Speaker 1: This is good for us to know because we just

1465
01:05:11,120 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 1: want our second people and we really need to remember

1466
01:05:17,640 --> 01:05:21,320
Speaker 1: it's about the scrub sisters and totally it's all about

1467
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 1: I wrote this post the other day that was really interesting.

1468
01:05:23,880 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 5: I don't know if I got it completely correct, but

1469
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,160
Speaker 5: I used to have when I would like as dreamers,

1470
01:05:28,280 --> 01:05:32,840
Speaker 5: I think we're we're like elementary school dreamers. That there's

1471
01:05:32,880 --> 01:05:36,680
Speaker 5: an art to dreaming, and the idea that you what

1472
01:05:36,720 --> 01:05:38,160
Speaker 5: we're taught to dream is like what do you want

1473
01:05:38,200 --> 01:05:39,560
Speaker 5: to what do you want to be? It's like I

1474
01:05:39,600 --> 01:05:41,840
Speaker 5: want to be a movie star, I want to be

1475
01:05:42,040 --> 01:05:45,560
Speaker 5: an astronaut, I want to be an entrepreneur. These are

1476
01:05:45,600 --> 01:05:48,520
Speaker 5: all like what I am, and I think that that's

1477
01:05:48,560 --> 01:05:50,480
Speaker 5: like when you think of that, you think of you,

1478
01:05:50,640 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 5: I want to be a movie start. You're thinking of

1479
01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:56,600
Speaker 5: like you accepting an award and everyone's cheering for you.

1480
01:05:57,320 --> 01:06:00,320
Speaker 5: It's like, cool, that's not that good of a dream

1481
01:06:00,480 --> 01:06:03,080
Speaker 5: in my opinion, until you turn it to like what

1482
01:06:03,120 --> 01:06:06,040
Speaker 5: are you doing for other people? Now? That's an interesting

1483
01:06:06,120 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 5: dream and even how you say it so like I

1484
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 5: want to be an astronaut cool, I want to help,

1485
01:06:11,440 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 5: like expand how far we can go for everyone's.

1486
01:06:15,480 --> 01:06:16,200
Speaker 2: Like, do it.

1487
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:18,680
Speaker 1: That's awesome, it's interesting.

1488
01:06:18,840 --> 01:06:20,680
Speaker 5: I want to be like I want to be a musician.

1489
01:06:20,720 --> 01:06:22,959
Speaker 5: It's like cool, I want to make everyone feel less

1490
01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:26,800
Speaker 5: alone through my music. You know, like if we can

1491
01:06:26,840 --> 01:06:29,280
Speaker 5: get better at dreaming, then there's actually maps to go, like,

1492
01:06:29,280 --> 01:06:30,640
Speaker 5: oh cool, that's what I want to do. I want

1493
01:06:30,680 --> 01:06:32,480
Speaker 5: to go help other people this way. I want to

1494
01:06:32,520 --> 01:06:36,240
Speaker 5: affect someone this way. As opposed to an egocentric dream

1495
01:06:36,320 --> 01:06:38,520
Speaker 5: of I want to be on I want to be

1496
01:06:38,520 --> 01:06:41,320
Speaker 5: accepting in a word, right in my head, that's my dream.

1497
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:44,000
Speaker 5: It's like, well, that's kind of like you. That's like ego.

1498
01:06:44,480 --> 01:06:47,200
Speaker 5: That's not dreaming, your ego dreaming. Ego dreaming is so

1499
01:06:47,320 --> 01:06:51,200
Speaker 5: short sighted as opposed to like, like service dreaming is

1500
01:06:51,200 --> 01:06:53,560
Speaker 5: like it goes forever, it can go in all directions

1501
01:06:53,600 --> 01:06:54,360
Speaker 5: wherever you want to go.

1502
01:06:54,680 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 1: You know.

1503
01:06:55,280 --> 01:06:59,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I dreamed about being so good a pop star

1504
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:03,000
Speaker 2: singing and dancing. You did crowd cheering. I can't sing

1505
01:07:03,080 --> 01:07:05,160
Speaker 2: or dance quickly.

1506
01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:06,560
Speaker 7: Everybody does.

1507
01:07:07,040 --> 01:07:09,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like I had this bit like my vision

1508
01:07:09,320 --> 01:07:12,400
Speaker 2: was me on a giant stage with a huge crowd

1509
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:16,720
Speaker 2: of people. That was it. Though, nothing terrible about that,

1510
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:20,080
Speaker 2: I mean, except.

1511
01:07:20,080 --> 01:07:23,280
Speaker 5: It's just kind of like lame. Yeah, it's like cool

1512
01:07:23,640 --> 01:07:25,600
Speaker 5: you win now what yeah?

1513
01:07:25,680 --> 01:07:25,720
Speaker 2: What?

1514
01:07:26,000 --> 01:07:29,160
Speaker 5: And and it's you know anybody that for anybody to

1515
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:31,160
Speaker 5: listen to, Like when you look at someone who's famous

1516
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:33,760
Speaker 5: or what that means is that they've been of massive

1517
01:07:33,800 --> 01:07:36,720
Speaker 5: service to a lot of people for some reason or another,

1518
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:39,919
Speaker 5: through song, through their how good, through acting, through they've

1519
01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:43,520
Speaker 5: they've given more than they've taken in an area. And

1520
01:07:43,560 --> 01:07:44,920
Speaker 5: then the more we can tell people about that, then

1521
01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:46,640
Speaker 5: their dreams can get better and we can just like

1522
01:07:46,720 --> 01:07:47,640
Speaker 5: keep it moving.

1523
01:07:50,720 --> 01:07:54,200
Speaker 1: GM Like they don't come better than you, truly no,

1524
01:07:54,320 --> 01:07:56,680
Speaker 1: And I like, and I just want to say I

1525
01:07:56,720 --> 01:07:59,520
Speaker 1: have stayed tried and true to you from your ups

1526
01:07:59,560 --> 01:08:02,280
Speaker 1: and your day because of the human that you are.

1527
01:08:02,360 --> 01:08:05,720
Speaker 1: Like I love your music and that's easy to support,

1528
01:08:05,840 --> 01:08:08,520
Speaker 1: but like I just am obsessed with like the person

1529
01:08:08,560 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 1: that you are so sweet, and I just I really

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01:08:11,120 --> 01:08:13,600
Speaker 1: just will support you until you're like in a wheelchair.

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01:08:13,800 --> 01:08:14,360
Speaker 5: Likewise.

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01:08:17,760 --> 01:08:23,160
Speaker 2: Likewise, Andy's album Naive and his latest single Wish You

1533
01:08:23,200 --> 01:08:26,320
Speaker 2: Paint are available now, so go stream his music, buy

1534
01:08:26,439 --> 01:08:28,759
Speaker 2: his music. Yeah what else?

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01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:31,080
Speaker 1: Follow Andy on Instagram.

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01:08:30,640 --> 01:08:32,679
Speaker 5: On my Instram, I have a podcast as well that's

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01:08:32,720 --> 01:08:35,160
Speaker 5: really fun. Okay, where can we the good parts with

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01:08:35,200 --> 01:08:38,559
Speaker 5: Andy Grammer, and I like to do questions that are

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01:08:39,160 --> 01:08:41,720
Speaker 5: like really deep interesting questions. So I'll ask both of

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01:08:41,760 --> 01:08:43,360
Speaker 5: you a question right now, Okay.

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01:08:43,760 --> 01:08:45,160
Speaker 1: Then maybe we can come on your podcast.

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01:08:45,360 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 5: Answer. I'm super in Okay, Okay. So usually I have

1543
01:08:49,000 --> 01:08:50,320
Speaker 5: I have a bunch of them that are really good,

1544
01:08:50,360 --> 01:08:53,000
Speaker 5: Like one of them is what's your most spiritual experience?

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01:08:53,000 --> 01:08:54,200
Speaker 5: One of them is what do you think happens when

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01:08:54,240 --> 01:08:54,799
Speaker 5: we die?

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01:08:55,280 --> 01:08:55,800
Speaker 1: I hate that one.

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01:08:55,840 --> 01:08:57,559
Speaker 5: Don't ask you hate that one. Yeah, what's the most

1549
01:08:57,560 --> 01:09:00,640
Speaker 5: spiritual experience that either of you have had? Spirit It

1550
01:09:00,640 --> 01:09:03,559
Speaker 5: can be whatever you want, be any answer. I love

1551
01:09:03,600 --> 01:09:06,559
Speaker 5: that we all have edges of ourselves and that and

1552
01:09:06,600 --> 01:09:08,040
Speaker 5: it takes a little bit of time to like get

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01:09:08,040 --> 01:09:10,760
Speaker 5: comfortable enough someone to be like, Okay, I'll tell you,

1554
01:09:10,960 --> 01:09:12,759
Speaker 5: and I think we may have gotten there in this conversation.

1555
01:09:13,280 --> 01:09:14,960
Speaker 5: So what do you got?

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01:09:15,560 --> 01:09:17,400
Speaker 1: What spiritual spirit?

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01:09:18,360 --> 01:09:21,439
Speaker 2: Oh? Mine? I will never forget it. I was in

1558
01:09:21,479 --> 01:09:25,519
Speaker 2: Fiji and there were it was like this crystal blue

1559
01:09:25,520 --> 01:09:27,400
Speaker 2: water and there were rocks like you could walk out

1560
01:09:27,439 --> 01:09:30,120
Speaker 2: pretty far, and I had walked out two rocks, and

1561
01:09:30,200 --> 01:09:32,960
Speaker 2: I just I had I'm I'm Christian, and I had

1562
01:09:33,040 --> 01:09:35,880
Speaker 2: on just like a worship playlist. I'll never forget like

1563
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:39,960
Speaker 2: looking out and feeling like, oh, like this is this

1564
01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:42,880
Speaker 2: is God, Like this is it. Yeah, it's like so

1565
01:09:43,000 --> 01:09:43,840
Speaker 2: vivid in my mind.

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01:09:44,000 --> 01:09:48,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think mine was. I was invited to it,

1567
01:09:48,439 --> 01:09:51,439
Speaker 3: but I wasn't Christian. I was like surbing Orthodox. Well,

1568
01:09:51,479 --> 01:09:53,519
Speaker 3: I mean I still I am technically, but I grew

1569
01:09:53,600 --> 01:09:55,639
Speaker 3: up in a different church and I was like coming

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01:09:55,680 --> 01:09:56,920
Speaker 3: to work and I was crying every day. I was

1571
01:09:56,920 --> 01:09:59,800
Speaker 3: like literally one of the lowest lows of like low

1572
01:10:00,640 --> 01:10:03,240
Speaker 3: and this friend of mine, Jason Kennedy, invited me to

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01:10:03,240 --> 01:10:06,519
Speaker 3: this Bible study and I was like, I've tried everything.

1574
01:10:06,520 --> 01:10:09,280
Speaker 3: I've drank every night, I've been sleeping around, like I've

1575
01:10:09,280 --> 01:10:11,759
Speaker 3: literally done everything to make me feel better. Nothing's working.

1576
01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:14,919
Speaker 3: So I went to his Bible study and like literally

1577
01:10:15,120 --> 01:10:18,080
Speaker 3: I felt like the pastor there was spick. It was

1578
01:10:18,120 --> 01:10:20,000
Speaker 3: like God was speaking to me through this man, like

1579
01:10:20,040 --> 01:10:22,360
Speaker 3: it was everything I needed to hear. It was so crazy,

1580
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:25,519
Speaker 3: like that moment right then and there, like I became

1581
01:10:25,560 --> 01:10:27,880
Speaker 3: a believer, like my whole world like it was just

1582
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Speaker 3: like everything just switched.

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Speaker 1: It was really cool.

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Speaker 7: That's awesome.

1585
01:10:32,200 --> 01:10:34,679
Speaker 5: I love it. I love hearing these moments because they're

1586
01:10:34,680 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 5: like pretty vulnerable. I'm scared to talk about it for

1587
01:10:37,080 --> 01:10:37,400
Speaker 5: some reason.

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01:10:37,439 --> 01:10:39,040
Speaker 3: I'm not sure what I still tell every time I

1589
01:10:39,040 --> 01:10:42,040
Speaker 3: see Jason Kennedy, I'm like, you know, you changed my life, right, Yeah, he.

1590
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Speaker 1: Was like.

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Speaker 2: He has to say that.

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Speaker 1: It was like every time I see him, I'm like,

1593
01:10:46,439 --> 01:10:48,639
Speaker 1: he really told me that, But like it's like all

1594
01:10:48,680 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 1: he did was just invite me somewhere, you know what

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01:10:50,360 --> 01:10:50,639
Speaker 1: I mean.

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Speaker 3: It really didn't do anything out of the war. He

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01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:54,680
Speaker 3: was just like, I just invited you to that was

1598
01:10:54,760 --> 01:10:57,439
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Speaker 3: so cool.

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Speaker 5: So I ask all my friends that are like musicians

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Speaker 5: and actors and stuff. They come on and we go

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01:11:03,960 --> 01:11:05,880
Speaker 5: deeper into this stuff. It makes me so happy.

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01:11:06,439 --> 01:11:07,799
Speaker 1: Well, we're not actors or musicians.

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Speaker 5: I'd love to tell podcast award winning.

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Speaker 3: That's right, hosts, but we'd love to come if you'd have, Kay.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you for being.

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Speaker 5: Awesome.

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Speaker 2: Wow? He is amazing, right, I just what he said

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Speaker 2: about like doing something for your passion and not doing

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Speaker 2: it for the ego to meet. I think that has

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Speaker 2: been a struggle with anything that I struggle on in

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01:14:41,640 --> 01:14:45,600
Speaker 2: my like work headspace that I get into is that

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm just doing this because I need to

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Speaker 2: do it to make money, right, and like I have nothing,

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Speaker 2: there's nothing behind it sometimes beyond that, And it's like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, It's like it's interesting when he said ego dream

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01:15:01,160 --> 01:15:05,280
Speaker 3: versus service dream. And it's funny because I look at

1679
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:08,120
Speaker 3: like my vision boards every year and it's there's so

1680
01:15:08,320 --> 01:15:11,280
Speaker 3: much on there that is like there is a lot

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01:15:11,320 --> 01:15:13,080
Speaker 3: of service and a lot of the purpose in what

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01:15:13,120 --> 01:15:15,439
Speaker 3: I feel like is my passion in life. But then

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Speaker 3: there are those things. It's like there's a Grammy award

1684
01:15:17,600 --> 01:15:20,040
Speaker 3: on there, like why, Like that's so that's all ego,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Like I don't that doesn't

1686
01:15:21,560 --> 01:15:21,960
Speaker 3: need to be on.

1687
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Speaker 7: But I feel like for you, getting a radio is

1688
01:15:24,920 --> 01:15:27,160
Speaker 7: an ego dream that is kind of morphed into a

1689
01:15:27,200 --> 01:15:27,880
Speaker 7: service dream.

1690
01:15:28,800 --> 01:15:31,960
Speaker 3: Quite the opposite. I never wanted to be on the air.

1691
01:15:32,680 --> 01:15:35,360
Speaker 3: I was so happy producing, wow, do you know what

1692
01:15:35,360 --> 01:15:38,280
Speaker 3: I mean? That's what's like God had a bigger plan

1693
01:15:38,320 --> 01:15:40,600
Speaker 3: for me than that, you know, Like I when I

1694
01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:43,160
Speaker 3: got on the morning show, I was so happy with

1695
01:15:43,200 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 3: like my spreadsheets of like you know what I mean,

1696
01:15:45,320 --> 01:15:47,800
Speaker 3: Like I came in full on fangirl wanting just I'd

1697
01:15:47,840 --> 01:15:50,439
Speaker 3: love being a producer, and then the way it all

1698
01:15:50,479 --> 01:15:52,519
Speaker 3: turned out is like kind of nuts. And but I

1699
01:15:52,520 --> 01:15:55,920
Speaker 3: think the reason why God put me in this position

1700
01:15:56,120 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 3: is to be of service because I think and like.

1701
01:15:59,600 --> 01:16:00,640
Speaker 1: What Beck told me so much.

1702
01:16:00,640 --> 01:16:02,599
Speaker 3: He's like, I think that you've been kept single for

1703
01:16:02,640 --> 01:16:05,599
Speaker 3: so long because you kind of are this like Beacon

1704
01:16:05,720 --> 01:16:08,800
Speaker 3: of hope for people, you know, because I think a

1705
01:16:08,840 --> 01:16:11,799
Speaker 3: lot of times people associate the word single with lonely,

1706
01:16:13,000 --> 01:16:15,920
Speaker 3: and I don't think that's the case, right, So it's

1707
01:16:15,960 --> 01:16:18,280
Speaker 3: really weird because yeah, I don't. It was not meant

1708
01:16:18,280 --> 01:16:20,799
Speaker 3: to be that way, and it just like happened.

1709
01:16:21,000 --> 01:16:22,840
Speaker 7: It really hit home. I think all of my dreams

1710
01:16:22,880 --> 01:16:25,360
Speaker 7: have been ego dreams my whole life. Maybe that's why

1711
01:16:25,400 --> 01:16:27,759
Speaker 7: they didn't work out, is because they were ego dreams. Yeah,

1712
01:16:27,800 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 7: Like I wanted to be a late night talk show host.

1713
01:16:29,400 --> 01:16:30,679
Speaker 7: That was just because I wanted to be on TV.

1714
01:16:31,120 --> 01:16:34,280
Speaker 7: Simple And what he said about how when you're an

1715
01:16:34,360 --> 01:16:38,719
Speaker 7: artist and you're coming up, you're taking taking, you're making

1716
01:16:38,720 --> 01:16:41,360
Speaker 7: people come to your shows, you're begging for people's time.

1717
01:16:41,479 --> 01:16:43,080
Speaker 7: Please stop and listen to me for a second. And

1718
01:16:43,080 --> 01:16:45,719
Speaker 7: when it turns around and you start providing them with something,

1719
01:16:45,840 --> 01:16:48,559
Speaker 7: I thought that was really fascinating. Yeah, when you realize

1720
01:16:48,600 --> 01:16:50,559
Speaker 7: that your music can help people and change people and

1721
01:16:50,600 --> 01:16:52,719
Speaker 7: make them think and make them cry. As an actor,

1722
01:16:52,840 --> 01:16:55,960
Speaker 7: that was really interesting. He's such a fascinating guy.

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01:16:56,000 --> 01:16:56,880
Speaker 1: He's so fascinating.

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Speaker 2: All On top of that, it was kind of a

1725
01:16:59,040 --> 01:17:01,800
Speaker 2: similar thing that was said. I was at a soul

1726
01:17:01,840 --> 01:17:07,120
Speaker 2: cycle class, which is basically like church service. Sometimes. He said,

1727
01:17:07,479 --> 01:17:11,920
Speaker 2: your profession isn't what is impressive, it's your passion that's impressive.

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01:17:12,520 --> 01:17:14,840
Speaker 2: And I was like, that's so true, because you think

1729
01:17:14,880 --> 01:17:17,880
Speaker 2: about these people who have these super impressive jobs, but

1730
01:17:17,960 --> 01:17:20,800
Speaker 2: it's not that that makes it impressive. It's them and

1731
01:17:20,840 --> 01:17:23,479
Speaker 2: their passion that's behind it, that is what draws you

1732
01:17:23,560 --> 01:17:23,960
Speaker 2: to them.

1733
01:17:24,240 --> 01:17:24,759
Speaker 1: So true.

1734
01:17:25,479 --> 01:17:28,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's awesome. What is it? Andy?

1735
01:17:28,439 --> 01:17:30,960
Speaker 1: Oh?

1736
01:17:31,040 --> 01:17:31,479
Speaker 2: I think.

1737
01:17:36,080 --> 01:17:37,320
Speaker 1: I was speaking of shouting out.

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01:17:38,479 --> 01:17:40,599
Speaker 3: There is a girl her name is Leah and she's

1739
01:17:40,680 --> 01:17:43,680
Speaker 3: best friends with Alexi Markina and she's like a major scrubber.

1740
01:17:43,880 --> 01:17:45,120
Speaker 1: So I wanted to shout her out.

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01:17:45,520 --> 01:17:46,720
Speaker 7: East. Did you have a shadow, don't you?

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01:17:46,840 --> 01:17:47,000
Speaker 2: Oh?

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01:17:47,040 --> 01:17:47,760
Speaker 6: Yes, yes I do.

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01:17:48,040 --> 01:17:50,479
Speaker 4: We learned the other day that, you know, there's a

1745
01:17:50,520 --> 01:17:52,679
Speaker 4: lot of guys that listen to the show, and that's fine,

1746
01:17:52,720 --> 01:17:55,360
Speaker 4: but there is one and he's a major League baseball

1747
01:17:55,360 --> 01:17:59,040
Speaker 4: player and that's amazing, very well, he's probably the only one.

1748
01:17:59,439 --> 01:18:02,960
Speaker 4: But his name is Jeff. He plays for the Pittsburgh

1749
01:18:03,000 --> 01:18:08,759
Speaker 4: Pirates and he just got married to his lovely girlfriend Elise,

1750
01:18:09,400 --> 01:18:12,720
Speaker 4: and we wanted to celebrate their marriage shout them out.

1751
01:18:12,800 --> 01:18:16,360
Speaker 4: And it was Elisa's birthday last week, so we want

1752
01:18:16,400 --> 01:18:17,320
Speaker 4: to wish your happy birthday.

1753
01:18:17,600 --> 01:18:17,920
Speaker 2: Wow.

1754
01:18:18,040 --> 01:18:21,920
Speaker 4: And her friend K d Kat. I'm sorry, I'm not

1755
01:18:21,920 --> 01:18:24,240
Speaker 4: one hundred percent sure on her first name, but her

1756
01:18:24,280 --> 01:18:26,439
Speaker 4: best friend made of Honor reached out to me and

1757
01:18:26,640 --> 01:18:28,960
Speaker 4: it's just the coolest friend and they love the show.

1758
01:18:29,120 --> 01:18:35,679
Speaker 2: That's cool. Congratulations on your wedding and happy birthday, e Lase. Wow,

1759
01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:36,439
Speaker 2: that's so cool.

1760
01:18:36,800 --> 01:18:38,000
Speaker 7: What is your Gelson story?

1761
01:18:38,360 --> 01:18:38,559
Speaker 1: Oh?

1762
01:18:38,720 --> 01:18:41,000
Speaker 3: Okay, So I wanted to tell you guys this because

1763
01:18:41,760 --> 01:18:43,760
Speaker 3: sometimes I think, like am I am I.

1764
01:18:43,960 --> 01:18:46,160
Speaker 1: A little bit? Do I get too attached too soon? Like?

1765
01:18:46,320 --> 01:18:47,439
Speaker 1: Am I weird?

1766
01:18:47,520 --> 01:18:47,760
Speaker 2: Like that?

1767
01:18:48,680 --> 01:18:51,000
Speaker 1: So I'm at Golson's and I'm buying flowers.

1768
01:18:51,080 --> 01:18:52,240
Speaker 2: We all look at each other.

1769
01:18:54,479 --> 01:18:56,720
Speaker 3: So I'm buying flowers and I'm waiting in line, and like,

1770
01:18:56,720 --> 01:18:58,439
Speaker 3: I make friends with the girl behind me, Like that

1771
01:18:58,520 --> 01:19:00,800
Speaker 3: was getting flowers, you know, they like wrap him for

1772
01:19:00,840 --> 01:19:03,400
Speaker 3: you or whatever. So I'm talking to this girl and

1773
01:19:03,960 --> 01:19:06,720
Speaker 3: she was just like, She's like, can you see like

1774
01:19:06,800 --> 01:19:08,320
Speaker 3: this cold star on my lip? And I was like

1775
01:19:08,680 --> 01:19:10,400
Speaker 3: I wouldn't. I go was like I wouldn't have noticed it,

1776
01:19:10,400 --> 01:19:11,479
Speaker 3: but like now that you pointed out.

1777
01:19:11,320 --> 01:19:11,720
Speaker 1: I can see.

1778
01:19:11,760 --> 01:19:14,240
Speaker 3: And she's like, oh, like I'm bringing this guy that

1779
01:19:14,280 --> 01:19:16,080
Speaker 3: I'm like newly dating to meet my friends for the

1780
01:19:16,080 --> 01:19:20,080
Speaker 3: first time since I got divorced, and I was like,

1781
01:19:20,080 --> 01:19:21,679
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, how long have you been like divorce.

1782
01:19:21,720 --> 01:19:23,280
Speaker 3: She's like, I've been divorced for two years. And I

1783
01:19:23,280 --> 01:19:24,800
Speaker 3: was like, oh my gosh, you know how long?

1784
01:19:25,040 --> 01:19:25,280
Speaker 7: Total?

1785
01:19:25,720 --> 01:19:26,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, total stranger.

1786
01:19:26,520 --> 01:19:29,000
Speaker 3: That's hilarious, that's so you though, But like we're waiting

1787
01:19:29,000 --> 01:19:31,320
Speaker 3: in line to like get our flowers wrapped plenty of time,

1788
01:19:31,560 --> 01:19:34,040
Speaker 3: a lots of time. And so I was like, how

1789
01:19:34,080 --> 01:19:36,120
Speaker 3: long have you been dating this guy? And she said, well,

1790
01:19:36,200 --> 01:19:39,720
Speaker 3: this will be our second date and she's already bringing.

1791
01:19:39,479 --> 01:19:41,840
Speaker 1: Him to a birthday party to meet her friends.

1792
01:19:41,840 --> 01:19:44,880
Speaker 3: And I was like, you know what, that really just

1793
01:19:44,960 --> 01:19:47,439
Speaker 3: makes me happy because sometimes I feel like I go

1794
01:19:47,560 --> 01:19:49,280
Speaker 3: from like zero to one hundred really fast. But it

1795
01:19:49,320 --> 01:19:52,240
Speaker 3: makes me happy to hear other people do the same.

1796
01:19:52,520 --> 01:19:53,960
Speaker 5: You know, yes, agreed.

1797
01:19:54,200 --> 01:19:56,160
Speaker 7: Meanwhile, you won't even give this guy nickname and he's

1798
01:19:56,160 --> 01:20:01,080
Speaker 7: already sleeping over. So it's like there's you have But

1799
01:20:01,120 --> 01:20:02,679
Speaker 7: there's something to be said for knowing.

1800
01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:03,919
Speaker 1: It when you know it totally.

1801
01:20:04,080 --> 01:20:07,040
Speaker 7: I mean I knew right away. Sometimes you just know

1802
01:20:08,600 --> 01:20:10,479
Speaker 7: and you don't have to play those games, right just

1803
01:20:10,560 --> 01:20:13,320
Speaker 7: it feels a little like games that's not not not

1804
01:20:13,320 --> 01:20:16,760
Speaker 7: not being wary of sharing it on the podcast. I

1805
01:20:16,800 --> 01:20:19,320
Speaker 7: totally understand that. And I don't know what goes on

1806
01:20:19,400 --> 01:20:21,559
Speaker 7: with you two behind the scenes. I just hope there's

1807
01:20:21,560 --> 01:20:23,680
Speaker 7: no games being played like texts.

1808
01:20:23,439 --> 01:20:26,360
Speaker 1: So no, that's the other thing. And there's songs games.

1809
01:20:26,720 --> 01:20:29,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like very open and transparent, which is actually

1810
01:20:30,040 --> 01:20:30,719
Speaker 3: really nice.

1811
01:20:30,840 --> 01:20:35,080
Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna they were gonna go to, yeah,

1812
01:20:35,640 --> 01:20:38,960
Speaker 2: the post Malone show, Tanya and one of her men

1813
01:20:39,000 --> 01:20:39,639
Speaker 2: that she's.

1814
01:20:39,479 --> 01:20:40,960
Speaker 1: Dating, the one, the one, the.

1815
01:20:40,920 --> 01:20:44,599
Speaker 2: One who's ahead. Yeah, and I was going to get

1816
01:20:44,600 --> 01:20:47,040
Speaker 2: to see them in action together and meet him, but

1817
01:20:47,120 --> 01:20:48,599
Speaker 2: she got sick and couldn't go.

1818
01:20:49,360 --> 01:20:50,479
Speaker 1: I know, I was bummed.

1819
01:20:50,720 --> 01:20:54,920
Speaker 2: I was really bummed. I was more bummed. I was

1820
01:20:55,000 --> 01:20:56,240
Speaker 2: more bummed than she was.

1821
01:20:57,000 --> 01:21:01,720
Speaker 7: The question we're debating now, does she bring him to

1822
01:21:01,760 --> 01:21:04,639
Speaker 7: the secret holiday party? Which is now as you're hearing

1823
01:21:04,640 --> 01:21:06,320
Speaker 7: this December second, it's this weekend.

1824
01:21:06,680 --> 01:21:08,759
Speaker 1: Oh, I can't decide.

1825
01:21:08,920 --> 01:21:11,320
Speaker 7: Friday's jingle ball, Saturday is a holiday party? Is an

1826
01:21:11,360 --> 01:21:14,479
Speaker 7: afternoon party? This year? One to five? Which is different?

1827
01:21:15,520 --> 01:21:17,519
Speaker 2: Is that more? Do we feel like that makes it

1828
01:21:17,560 --> 01:21:18,720
Speaker 2: more casual? I think it does.

1829
01:21:18,840 --> 01:21:21,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, way more casual, but also more casual for bringing

1830
01:21:22,080 --> 01:21:22,400
Speaker 7: the guy.

1831
01:21:22,640 --> 01:21:26,080
Speaker 1: It's not as much pressure, right, right, That's what I

1832
01:21:26,080 --> 01:21:30,080
Speaker 1: don't know something about the To me, it's reversed.

1833
01:21:30,920 --> 01:21:33,960
Speaker 2: It's such a gord day in the daylight feels like

1834
01:21:34,160 --> 01:21:35,559
Speaker 2: more bringing him to the top.

1835
01:21:37,200 --> 01:21:39,880
Speaker 3: Well, like I'm already like kind of making arrangements for

1836
01:21:40,360 --> 01:21:44,120
Speaker 3: the day, you know, So I'm like I need to

1837
01:21:44,240 --> 01:21:45,120
Speaker 3: kind of figure it out.

1838
01:21:45,200 --> 01:21:47,960
Speaker 2: I think I think you ask him, you do, yeah,

1839
01:21:48,000 --> 01:21:49,160
Speaker 2: because like what's.

1840
01:21:48,880 --> 01:21:51,320
Speaker 7: The like would that scare him off?

1841
01:21:51,400 --> 01:21:52,160
Speaker 1: I know, I don't want to.

1842
01:21:52,280 --> 01:21:56,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's it's a good way of gauging his uh

1843
01:21:57,280 --> 01:21:58,080
Speaker 7: level of interest.

1844
01:21:58,840 --> 01:22:00,400
Speaker 3: But then I'm like, maybe it's just better if I

1845
01:22:00,439 --> 01:22:03,200
Speaker 3: like bring Brad or somebody that's like friends my coworkers

1846
01:22:03,240 --> 01:22:04,080
Speaker 3: and can just kind of you.

1847
01:22:04,080 --> 01:22:04,479
Speaker 1: Know what I mean.

1848
01:22:04,680 --> 01:22:06,760
Speaker 7: I mean, I'd love to see Brad, but I'd rather

1849
01:22:06,840 --> 01:22:09,120
Speaker 7: see this person who doesn't have a name.

1850
01:22:10,720 --> 01:22:12,240
Speaker 3: That's the other thing, because then it's like, then I

1851
01:22:12,240 --> 01:22:14,040
Speaker 3: introduce him, you know, what, are.

1852
01:22:13,960 --> 01:22:18,200
Speaker 2: You gonna see him before this weekend? I a going

1853
01:22:18,200 --> 01:22:21,320
Speaker 2: to see him before the party? Yes, like multiple times?

1854
01:22:21,320 --> 01:22:21,720
Speaker 2: Do you think?

1855
01:22:21,960 --> 01:22:22,360
Speaker 1: I don't know?

1856
01:22:22,400 --> 01:22:26,519
Speaker 2: Maybe I think you just gauge how those things go.

1857
01:22:26,680 --> 01:22:28,920
Speaker 2: And then see if she.

1858
01:22:28,960 --> 01:22:31,360
Speaker 7: Makes a point if she if he meets Ryan, that

1859
01:22:31,439 --> 01:22:33,559
Speaker 7: means Ryan's going to bring him up on a daily basis.

1860
01:22:34,320 --> 01:22:35,040
Speaker 1: That's the only thing.

1861
01:22:35,240 --> 01:22:37,160
Speaker 7: The year is almost over, and then Ryan goes away

1862
01:22:37,200 --> 01:22:40,519
Speaker 7: for a while, so by January, you're gonna know one way.

1863
01:22:40,439 --> 01:22:43,280
Speaker 3: Or the other, right right, right, That's that's kind of

1864
01:22:43,280 --> 01:22:45,200
Speaker 3: where I was like thinking to it, like I can

1865
01:22:45,280 --> 01:22:47,599
Speaker 3: dodge questions for like a week and a half.

1866
01:22:47,680 --> 01:22:54,240
Speaker 1: You know, I don't know. It's something I'm thinking about.

1867
01:22:55,040 --> 01:22:57,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's I think it's a.

1868
01:22:57,920 --> 01:23:00,800
Speaker 3: Because it sucks because on one hand, I'm like, it

1869
01:23:00,840 --> 01:23:03,320
Speaker 3: would be so fun, you know, like I have a

1870
01:23:03,320 --> 01:23:06,040
Speaker 3: good time with him, He's fun, it's easy. I'd like

1871
01:23:06,080 --> 01:23:08,559
Speaker 3: to But then it's like it's also attached to there's

1872
01:23:08,560 --> 01:23:10,960
Speaker 3: all these other things that it's attached to, you know, guy's.

1873
01:23:10,680 --> 01:23:13,200
Speaker 7: Point of view. If I'm asked that this stage, although

1874
01:23:13,200 --> 01:23:15,000
Speaker 7: I don't know all the details of the stage you're in,

1875
01:23:16,160 --> 01:23:18,120
Speaker 7: if I'm way into you, I'm like, oh, yeah, that'd

1876
01:23:18,160 --> 01:23:21,640
Speaker 7: be great. If I'm kind of keeping one foot in

1877
01:23:21,680 --> 01:23:23,800
Speaker 7: one foot out, I'd be like, oh, gonna be a

1878
01:23:23,840 --> 01:23:26,519
Speaker 7: little fast. I don't know how your friends.

1879
01:23:26,000 --> 01:23:27,080
Speaker 1: Right right right, I.

1880
01:23:27,000 --> 01:23:30,800
Speaker 4: Don't know if I'm staying over and hearing your stomach girl,

1881
01:23:30,880 --> 01:23:33,280
Speaker 4: I'm there. Yeah, that's true, you know, I think that's

1882
01:23:33,439 --> 01:23:36,280
Speaker 4: a This is a good point in the trajectory.

1883
01:23:36,680 --> 01:23:39,879
Speaker 1: I think, I don't know. I'm on the fence. We'll

1884
01:23:39,920 --> 01:23:44,000
Speaker 1: seek TVD. I'm really I'm really torn.

1885
01:23:45,640 --> 01:23:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I actually get it right, because not only it's

1886
01:23:49,280 --> 01:23:52,160
Speaker 2: not like you're you work in like a law office

1887
01:23:52,200 --> 01:23:53,840
Speaker 2: and you're having a party and then it's like it

1888
01:23:53,920 --> 01:23:56,640
Speaker 2: stays between all your coworkers, like it's going to be

1889
01:23:56,720 --> 01:23:58,599
Speaker 2: brought up here to me on the radio.

1890
01:24:00,520 --> 01:24:04,080
Speaker 3: Whoa, I know. But on the other side of it,

1891
01:24:04,080 --> 01:24:05,400
Speaker 3: it's like, could be super fun.

1892
01:24:05,520 --> 01:24:07,920
Speaker 2: I think it would be totally from what I've heard,

1893
01:24:08,240 --> 01:24:12,240
Speaker 2: it wouldn't be a negative thing at all. The only

1894
01:24:12,320 --> 01:24:14,040
Speaker 2: thing is that Ryan would ask you about it. That's

1895
01:24:14,080 --> 01:24:18,040
Speaker 2: literally the only Like, Yeah, I don't think he's gonna

1896
01:24:18,040 --> 01:24:20,280
Speaker 2: think it's too fast. I feel like he's kind of

1897
01:24:20,320 --> 01:24:21,360
Speaker 2: been very.

1898
01:24:21,920 --> 01:24:26,080
Speaker 7: How long has it been since your first date? That's

1899
01:24:26,080 --> 01:24:27,200
Speaker 7: a good question, thank you.

1900
01:24:30,800 --> 01:24:32,479
Speaker 2: I feel like I might be able to find.

1901
01:24:32,280 --> 01:24:35,960
Speaker 1: This about a month, okay less a little less than

1902
01:24:36,000 --> 01:24:36,280
Speaker 1: a month.

1903
01:24:36,439 --> 01:24:37,200
Speaker 7: It's fairly quick.

1904
01:24:37,800 --> 01:24:41,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I don't know what the answer

1905
01:24:41,080 --> 01:24:42,439
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know.

1906
01:24:42,840 --> 01:24:46,000
Speaker 7: I have a question for Easton. East and I spent

1907
01:24:46,080 --> 01:24:49,640
Speaker 7: a quality time together with Disneyland the other day. We

1908
01:24:49,680 --> 01:24:51,160
Speaker 7: watched the holiday parade together.

1909
01:24:51,520 --> 01:24:52,200
Speaker 1: Which one's that?

1910
01:24:53,000 --> 01:24:55,240
Speaker 7: Well, it's the Christmas one at the end of it.

1911
01:24:55,400 --> 01:24:59,759
Speaker 1: Okay, sorry, Easton. Not all of us go to Disneyland

1912
01:24:59,760 --> 01:25:01,559
Speaker 1: every Yeah.

1913
01:25:01,600 --> 01:25:03,680
Speaker 2: I've been like twice, and I knew it all.

1914
01:25:05,560 --> 01:25:07,479
Speaker 4: I was mostly excited that you knew there were multiple

1915
01:25:07,960 --> 01:25:09,400
Speaker 4: versions of it maybe.

1916
01:25:09,120 --> 01:25:09,880
Speaker 2: Thank you so much.

1917
01:25:11,240 --> 01:25:13,599
Speaker 7: So my question for Easter Easton and Allison, And I'm

1918
01:25:13,640 --> 01:25:16,360
Speaker 7: sorry if this is too personal, I apologize, but you

1919
01:25:16,400 --> 01:25:19,760
Speaker 7: two are are leaning against having children? Oh yeah, fair

1920
01:25:19,800 --> 01:25:22,000
Speaker 7: to say. Oh yeah, ok So I was wondering, after

1921
01:25:22,000 --> 01:25:23,600
Speaker 7: spending a half an hour or whatever it was with

1922
01:25:23,680 --> 01:25:26,160
Speaker 7: my family, did it make you more likely to have

1923
01:25:26,240 --> 01:25:27,920
Speaker 7: kids or less likely to have kids.

1924
01:25:28,080 --> 01:25:29,960
Speaker 6: We've been talking about this a lot since then.

1925
01:25:30,280 --> 01:25:30,719
Speaker 1: Interesting.

1926
01:25:30,760 --> 01:25:34,000
Speaker 4: This was the first time I met Mark's brood in person.

1927
01:25:34,040 --> 01:25:36,040
Speaker 4: I've only seen them on video and on pictures.

1928
01:25:36,600 --> 01:25:37,760
Speaker 7: You met my wife, she was at your wedding.

1929
01:25:37,760 --> 01:25:38,240
Speaker 6: I met your wife.

1930
01:25:38,439 --> 01:25:39,200
Speaker 5: I never got children.

1931
01:25:39,240 --> 01:25:41,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, children, I think I met them once that you

1932
01:25:41,040 --> 01:25:43,120
Speaker 3: brought them in here once, long time ago.

1933
01:25:43,320 --> 01:25:48,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, and we were extremely impressed with them, extremely impressed,

1934
01:25:48,439 --> 01:25:52,599
Speaker 4: and it did. It did get us talking, and we've

1935
01:25:52,640 --> 01:25:57,160
Speaker 4: decided on this, we would have children if we could

1936
01:25:57,200 --> 01:26:02,559
Speaker 4: put them, send them away until they're like eight, then

1937
01:26:02,600 --> 01:26:04,040
Speaker 4: they're more than welcome to come back.

1938
01:26:04,040 --> 01:26:05,920
Speaker 3: And hey, do you know what's so funny? I've said

1939
01:26:05,920 --> 01:26:08,560
Speaker 3: that to my sister multiple times. I'm like, because my

1940
01:26:09,080 --> 01:26:13,519
Speaker 3: niece and my nephew are so like well behaved children

1941
01:26:13,960 --> 01:26:17,760
Speaker 3: that it has to do with her, her and my

1942
01:26:17,840 --> 01:26:21,439
Speaker 3: brother in law's parenting, right, Like, they're just so well mannered,

1943
01:26:21,520 --> 01:26:22,680
Speaker 3: well tempered.

1944
01:26:23,280 --> 01:26:25,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, if I have children, can.

1945
01:26:25,600 --> 01:26:29,719
Speaker 3: You raise them in those years where it's really crucial

1946
01:26:29,800 --> 01:26:31,080
Speaker 3: and then I'll take them back.

1947
01:26:31,880 --> 01:26:34,519
Speaker 2: I would help raise your kids at a young age.

1948
01:26:34,520 --> 01:26:37,080
Speaker 2: I feel like I could do it. I love baby,

1949
01:26:37,240 --> 01:26:39,000
Speaker 2: so that's where I feel like I thrive, and then

1950
01:26:39,000 --> 01:26:41,000
Speaker 2: I would give them back around like five.

1951
01:26:41,120 --> 01:26:43,320
Speaker 7: I think they'd be tough for a child to be

1952
01:26:43,439 --> 01:26:46,559
Speaker 7: raised by different people depending on their age, ethy I think,

1953
01:26:46,560 --> 01:26:47,400
Speaker 7: so I think we.

1954
01:26:47,400 --> 01:26:49,439
Speaker 2: All just send them over to Mark and Amy's.

1955
01:26:49,520 --> 01:26:53,519
Speaker 7: And the reason I ask is because I saw, because

1956
01:26:53,520 --> 01:26:55,800
Speaker 7: you saw the positive. You know, we were having fun,

1957
01:26:55,840 --> 01:26:58,120
Speaker 7: we were laughing out the stuff Santa always says and

1958
01:26:58,280 --> 01:27:00,600
Speaker 7: telling funny stories abou Brooklyn. We were like, but you

1959
01:27:00,640 --> 01:27:03,000
Speaker 7: also the negative and since that Ali wasn't feeling very good,

1960
01:27:03,000 --> 01:27:06,000
Speaker 7: which kind of dampered the day. Brooklyn was really disappointed

1961
01:27:06,000 --> 01:27:07,880
Speaker 7: because we didn't get to go on Space Mountain, and there's

1962
01:27:07,840 --> 01:27:09,800
Speaker 7: that pressure of making the day perfect for the kids.

1963
01:27:09,800 --> 01:27:12,839
Speaker 7: So I thought you saw both sides of child rearing.

1964
01:27:12,840 --> 01:27:16,200
Speaker 4: Here's the thing that I was really because you told

1965
01:27:16,200 --> 01:27:19,639
Speaker 4: me Brooklyn wasn't feeling or sorry, Ali wasn't feeling one yeah,

1966
01:27:19,680 --> 01:27:23,040
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh man, like she's not feeling great.

1967
01:27:23,080 --> 01:27:25,479
Speaker 4: And then there's this like freak she's never met before

1968
01:27:25,600 --> 01:27:30,160
Speaker 4: with I got like, I have this mustache right now, Like, uh, he's.

1969
01:27:30,000 --> 01:27:32,559
Speaker 7: In Enlightening MC queen clogs cro.

1970
01:27:32,680 --> 01:27:37,320
Speaker 1: Clos clogs like a concerned.

1971
01:27:36,960 --> 01:27:38,160
Speaker 6: By definition of the air clogs.

1972
01:27:38,160 --> 01:27:40,920
Speaker 7: It looked like clogs and a big white sweatshirt that

1973
01:27:40,960 --> 01:27:43,320
Speaker 7: had a bunch of random Disney stuff written all over it.

1974
01:27:43,680 --> 01:27:45,160
Speaker 6: I looked very cool and I got a lot of

1975
01:27:45,200 --> 01:27:46,040
Speaker 6: compliments that day.

1976
01:27:46,120 --> 01:27:50,080
Speaker 4: But she was so nice and came up and was

1977
01:27:50,120 --> 01:27:51,920
Speaker 4: like like, you guess having fun today and like just

1978
01:27:52,000 --> 01:27:53,320
Speaker 4: like talking to us, and like I just had a

1979
01:27:53,320 --> 01:27:56,720
Speaker 4: great attitude and and Brooklyn was cracking us up and

1980
01:27:57,200 --> 01:28:00,280
Speaker 4: it was just there. They knew the like small world

1981
01:28:00,320 --> 01:28:03,400
Speaker 4: during the holidays, is this like holiday loop projection thing

1982
01:28:03,400 --> 01:28:04,880
Speaker 4: where like it turns into like Santa's words.

1983
01:28:05,439 --> 01:28:06,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, like they had it.

1984
01:28:07,160 --> 01:28:09,160
Speaker 4: They knew like, Okay, every eighteen minutes, it's gonna start again.

1985
01:28:09,160 --> 01:28:10,400
Speaker 4: Wet'll se if it's a different one. And I thought

1986
01:28:10,400 --> 01:28:12,640
Speaker 4: that was so funny, and I just I was so

1987
01:28:12,680 --> 01:28:15,880
Speaker 4: impressed with with your kids, and it did jump start

1988
01:28:15,920 --> 01:28:16,600
Speaker 4: that conversation.

1989
01:28:16,680 --> 01:28:18,479
Speaker 6: Again, Wow, that's interesting.

1990
01:28:18,560 --> 01:28:20,160
Speaker 2: That's such a huge COMPLI.

1991
01:28:22,640 --> 01:28:26,280
Speaker 4: But but but it still remains. Those are seven long

1992
01:28:26,360 --> 01:28:30,519
Speaker 4: years were not Alison and I are very selfish people,

1993
01:28:30,880 --> 01:28:33,679
Speaker 4: self centered people, and I don't know if we're equipped

1994
01:28:33,680 --> 01:28:37,240
Speaker 4: to uh to you know, that's just so much you

1995
01:28:37,240 --> 01:28:38,720
Speaker 4: have to put in so much to get to that

1996
01:28:38,760 --> 01:28:41,960
Speaker 4: point where you have these awesome little people that are

1997
01:28:42,040 --> 01:28:43,479
Speaker 4: that you're down to hang out with.

1998
01:28:43,520 --> 01:28:45,360
Speaker 7: I think they're awesome at all the different ages. Yeah,

1999
01:28:45,320 --> 01:28:47,040
Speaker 7: I think I think you'd have loved hanging out with

2000
01:28:47,080 --> 01:28:49,760
Speaker 7: my kids when they were seven and four. I think very.

2001
01:28:49,640 --> 01:28:51,720
Speaker 1: Precious selfish to not want to have kids.

2002
01:28:51,800 --> 01:28:52,720
Speaker 7: I totally agree with you.

2003
01:28:52,880 --> 01:28:58,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that don't wouldn't like diagnose yourself that Yeah, No, well.

2004
01:28:58,280 --> 01:29:00,679
Speaker 4: I'm just you know, of course I think I'm the greatest,

2005
01:29:00,680 --> 01:29:02,320
Speaker 4: but I'm just trying to be I'm just trying.

2006
01:29:02,080 --> 01:29:02,840
Speaker 7: To be a good dad.

2007
01:29:02,880 --> 01:29:06,920
Speaker 2: Imagine a caramel corn princess junior.

2008
01:29:09,800 --> 01:29:12,400
Speaker 4: With the way things go, though, I would have a

2009
01:29:12,960 --> 01:29:15,800
Speaker 4: young man that wants to play sports.

2010
01:29:15,080 --> 01:29:19,400
Speaker 3: Like yeah, like Easton gets like the like star athlete,

2011
01:29:19,640 --> 01:29:22,599
Speaker 3: Like he's just gonna be prat of the high school.

2012
01:29:22,720 --> 01:29:23,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

2013
01:29:24,040 --> 01:29:27,320
Speaker 2: But but yeah, it got us thinking, Wow, good that

2014
01:29:27,439 --> 01:29:30,600
Speaker 2: was I like, that was interesting, fascinating.

2015
01:29:30,640 --> 01:29:32,160
Speaker 7: I have a couple of emails for us, and you

2016
01:29:32,280 --> 01:29:34,120
Speaker 7: like them because they both have the word sons in

2017
01:29:34,160 --> 01:29:34,960
Speaker 7: the subject line.

2018
01:29:35,360 --> 01:29:38,920
Speaker 2: We also, I would just like to say, I have

2019
01:29:39,040 --> 01:29:40,960
Speaker 2: not watched the Gray's Anatomy finale yet.

2020
01:29:41,200 --> 01:29:45,880
Speaker 1: Same what No, you told me you did? I didn't you? Well,

2021
01:29:46,000 --> 01:29:46,720
Speaker 1: you said all caught up.

2022
01:29:46,760 --> 01:29:48,639
Speaker 3: I thought you meant for that big episode, So I'm

2023
01:29:48,680 --> 01:29:50,200
Speaker 3: caught up there, but I haven't watched the finale.

2024
01:29:50,280 --> 01:29:53,360
Speaker 7: I'm the only one, as usual that is caught upon.

2025
01:29:53,479 --> 01:29:55,439
Speaker 2: Let me know that there are some people on the

2026
01:29:55,479 --> 01:29:59,800
Speaker 2: iTunes reviews who really bash us that we don't consistently

2027
01:30:00,560 --> 01:30:02,560
Speaker 2: that we have dropped the ball on watching.

2028
01:30:02,640 --> 01:30:04,360
Speaker 7: Make a point. It's kind of the whole.

2029
01:30:06,439 --> 01:30:09,440
Speaker 2: I know, but it's based on like we love Gray's Anatomy,

2030
01:30:09,680 --> 01:30:12,240
Speaker 2: like we will always love Gray's Anatomy and what it

2031
01:30:12,320 --> 01:30:13,000
Speaker 2: means to us.

2032
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but but I do have to say to those iTunes,

2033
01:30:19,080 --> 01:30:22,240
Speaker 3: we welcome your we like you know, we welcome your

2034
01:30:22,280 --> 01:30:24,680
Speaker 3: opinion and happy to have it. But we used to

2035
01:30:24,680 --> 01:30:26,240
Speaker 3: be a four point five star and I've noticed that

2036
01:30:26,280 --> 01:30:27,960
Speaker 3: we are five stars now, is that right?

2037
01:30:28,040 --> 01:30:32,800
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, whoa so turns out something. Yeah, some

2038
01:30:32,840 --> 01:30:34,400
Speaker 1: people are liking it better these days.

2039
01:30:34,400 --> 01:30:37,120
Speaker 4: So I mean, I'm also seen reviews of people saying

2040
01:30:37,200 --> 01:30:40,320
Speaker 4: I'm a medical professional and these women are clearly not doctors.

2041
01:30:41,200 --> 01:30:43,840
Speaker 4: Like it's like some kind of like doctor podcast or

2042
01:30:43,880 --> 01:30:44,880
Speaker 4: medical school thing.

2043
01:30:44,760 --> 01:30:47,599
Speaker 2: And like that's so good. I actually I just saw

2044
01:30:47,680 --> 01:30:50,280
Speaker 2: our cover photo. They should know that we are not.

2045
01:30:51,200 --> 01:30:54,080
Speaker 3: This woman I met at the nails salon the other night.

2046
01:30:55,160 --> 01:30:57,680
Speaker 3: Her kids go to school, I think with Ellen Pompeo's

2047
01:30:57,720 --> 01:30:58,719
Speaker 3: kids or something like that.

2048
01:30:59,200 --> 01:30:59,879
Speaker 2: What school.

2049
01:31:00,200 --> 01:31:02,200
Speaker 1: I know, I wasn't. I didn't want to prive.

2050
01:31:03,720 --> 01:31:06,599
Speaker 3: She subscribed to our podcast, so hopefully she's listening. Hey,

2051
01:31:06,880 --> 01:31:08,320
Speaker 3: I don't want to say.

2052
01:31:08,080 --> 01:31:11,280
Speaker 7: She mentioned the show at like a school event.

2053
01:31:11,160 --> 01:31:14,400
Speaker 2: Totally, so we never heard back from Jesse Williams.

2054
01:31:14,439 --> 01:31:20,280
Speaker 1: By the way, did he read it? Does I seem

2055
01:31:20,439 --> 01:31:21,599
Speaker 1: this might be a heartbreak.

2056
01:31:21,680 --> 01:31:22,599
Speaker 2: Let's hut that out.

2057
01:31:22,960 --> 01:31:24,840
Speaker 7: Let's tease that we'll come back and find out if

2058
01:31:24,920 --> 01:31:28,519
Speaker 7: Jesse has read that. I am that we sent email.

2059
01:31:28,640 --> 01:31:32,640
Speaker 2: Mark is so clogs. I am what they look like.

2060
01:31:34,160 --> 01:31:34,720
Speaker 6: Definition.

2061
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Speaker 7: That's next.

2062
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Speaker 2: When it comes to the holidays, what do most people

2063
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2072
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2073
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2074
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Speaker 2: slash Becca. The verdict stands and that was a buzz.

2108
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Speaker 1: He didn't read it, okay, Well that makes me feel better.

2109
01:34:15,400 --> 01:34:19,559
Speaker 2: Me too. Honestly, I felt might delete it. It's never seen.

2110
01:34:19,760 --> 01:34:22,640
Speaker 7: There's some solid revelations in the finale. I'm not going

2111
01:34:22,720 --> 01:34:23,519
Speaker 7: to spoil anything.

2112
01:34:24,160 --> 01:34:27,000
Speaker 2: I saw some spoilers and I am nervous to watch it.

2113
01:34:27,000 --> 01:34:27,880
Speaker 2: To be honest, it's great.

2114
01:34:28,200 --> 01:34:29,600
Speaker 7: I'll just say it's great to have Meredith back in

2115
01:34:29,640 --> 01:34:31,360
Speaker 7: the scrubs walking around that house. But like she owns

2116
01:34:31,360 --> 01:34:34,560
Speaker 7: the place, it's great where she belongs, all right, Jackie

2117
01:34:34,840 --> 01:34:37,840
Speaker 7: titled Sounds in the City. I met a guy two

2118
01:34:37,880 --> 01:34:40,559
Speaker 7: months ago on my best friend's sister's wedding. My best

2119
01:34:40,600 --> 01:34:43,439
Speaker 7: friend's sister her wedding. He is their family, friend's sons.

2120
01:34:43,479 --> 01:34:45,439
Speaker 7: He's like a great guy. My best friend's family can't

2121
01:34:45,479 --> 01:34:47,599
Speaker 7: say enough good things about him. Says we would be

2122
01:34:47,640 --> 01:34:51,040
Speaker 7: great together. We've been talking literally every single day since

2123
01:34:51,120 --> 01:34:53,479
Speaker 7: via text, and I am starting to think the same thing.

2124
01:34:54,040 --> 01:34:56,480
Speaker 7: We connected on so many things and have great conversations.

2125
01:34:56,479 --> 01:34:59,400
Speaker 7: He seems perfect except for one thing. He lives in

2126
01:34:59,439 --> 01:35:02,960
Speaker 7: New York. I live in California. He has said he

2127
01:35:03,000 --> 01:35:05,320
Speaker 7: doesn't want to stay in the city forever. Our families

2128
01:35:05,360 --> 01:35:08,000
Speaker 7: are both in the Midwest. My question is should I

2129
01:35:08,040 --> 01:35:10,519
Speaker 7: even be entertaining the idea of a relationship with someone

2130
01:35:10,520 --> 01:35:12,479
Speaker 7: who literally lives on the other side of the country.

2131
01:35:12,960 --> 01:35:14,479
Speaker 7: I'm going to see my friend in New York next

2132
01:35:14,479 --> 01:35:16,519
Speaker 7: month and plan on seeing him as well. The idea

2133
01:35:16,520 --> 01:35:18,640
Speaker 7: of long distance doesn't scare me, but I tend to

2134
01:35:18,640 --> 01:35:21,519
Speaker 7: be a hopeless romantic. Am I being crazy thinking something

2135
01:35:21,560 --> 01:35:23,839
Speaker 7: like this could work? Tanya, You've been in this exact situation.

2136
01:35:23,920 --> 01:35:25,280
Speaker 1: I mean, this is a major yes for me.

2137
01:35:27,280 --> 01:35:27,960
Speaker 7: It's not for me.

2138
01:35:29,280 --> 01:35:32,840
Speaker 2: I think My thing is if if one of them said, like, oh,

2139
01:35:32,880 --> 01:35:37,960
Speaker 2: I could see myself within the year of us, like

2140
01:35:38,240 --> 01:35:40,799
Speaker 2: I could see myself living there, or she could say

2141
01:35:40,840 --> 01:35:42,720
Speaker 2: like she says she could see herself living there. I

2142
01:35:42,760 --> 01:35:45,799
Speaker 2: have I mean, we have friends who have literally dated

2143
01:35:45,880 --> 01:35:49,639
Speaker 2: from LA to New York, and he just moved here

2144
01:35:50,080 --> 01:35:53,960
Speaker 2: in like April or something, and it works, and I

2145
01:35:54,000 --> 01:35:56,000
Speaker 2: think I totally believe it. But I think there has

2146
01:35:56,080 --> 01:35:59,760
Speaker 2: to be some sort of future plan to live in

2147
01:35:59,760 --> 01:36:01,080
Speaker 2: this same city otherwise.

2148
01:36:01,560 --> 01:36:02,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just don't think.

2149
01:36:02,640 --> 01:36:04,479
Speaker 3: Don't write it off just because he lives in New

2150
01:36:04,560 --> 01:36:06,519
Speaker 3: York right now, because like, I think, there's so much

2151
01:36:06,640 --> 01:36:08,559
Speaker 3: Like I think you need to go through it in stages,

2152
01:36:08,600 --> 01:36:10,720
Speaker 3: so get to know him, because guess what, you might

2153
01:36:10,760 --> 01:36:13,599
Speaker 3: start getting to know him and think like, oh well,

2154
01:36:14,240 --> 01:36:16,880
Speaker 3: I don't want to date him because of this, you know,

2155
01:36:17,000 --> 01:36:18,439
Speaker 3: not because he lives in New York. So it's like,

2156
01:36:18,439 --> 01:36:21,000
Speaker 3: I think, just keep going, keep going, keep it moving,

2157
01:36:21,520 --> 01:36:22,360
Speaker 3: keep it moving, sister.

2158
01:36:22,400 --> 01:36:24,639
Speaker 7: I think you're right. Long distance relationships work if there's

2159
01:36:24,680 --> 01:36:27,640
Speaker 7: a plan in place or a deadline. Otherwise I think

2160
01:36:27,640 --> 01:36:28,120
Speaker 7: they're tough.

2161
01:36:28,439 --> 01:36:29,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you don't want to be a long

2162
01:36:29,680 --> 01:36:31,479
Speaker 2: distance forever That sounds horrible, no.

2163
01:36:31,400 --> 01:36:33,479
Speaker 3: But you also don't want to make somebody like I

2164
01:36:33,479 --> 01:36:37,240
Speaker 3: don't think giving it a deadline.

2165
01:36:35,760 --> 01:36:38,400
Speaker 2: A deadline, but just saying like, hey, do you could

2166
01:36:38,400 --> 01:36:40,759
Speaker 2: you see yourself living here? Or can I see myself

2167
01:36:40,800 --> 01:36:41,400
Speaker 2: living there? Yeah?

2168
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Speaker 7: You do your job and the city. Is that sort

2169
01:36:43,600 --> 01:36:43,800
Speaker 7: of thing?

2170
01:36:44,000 --> 01:36:45,320
Speaker 2: Is that both of them are like, no, I don't

2171
01:36:45,320 --> 01:36:48,040
Speaker 2: want to leave where I live then, right.

2172
01:36:47,920 --> 01:36:49,160
Speaker 3: And that's kind of what happened to me a few

2173
01:36:49,200 --> 01:36:51,080
Speaker 3: years ago. I like, kind of like somebody that lived

2174
01:36:51,080 --> 01:36:54,240
Speaker 3: in New York and it wasn't just wasn't he never

2175
01:36:54,240 --> 01:36:55,840
Speaker 3: wanted to move to LA I was never going to

2176
01:36:55,880 --> 01:36:57,799
Speaker 3: move to New York. So I was kind of like, okay,

2177
01:36:58,280 --> 01:37:00,639
Speaker 3: but they always come back to the move point, joys

2178
01:37:01,120 --> 01:37:02,120
Speaker 3: come home back.

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Speaker 7: This is from Anonymous, the subject line choosing to Remain sons.

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Speaker 7: I've been with my boyfriend fromot the year now, and

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Speaker 7: although he believes in God, he does not have a

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Speaker 7: relationship with him lead me spiritually, nor does he encourage

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Speaker 7: us to go to church. I love him and I

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Speaker 7: know that if I marry him, I will have a

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Speaker 7: good life, but part of me feels like I'm missing

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Speaker 7: out and having that bond and partnership in faith, and

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Speaker 7: I worry about how that might affect how we raise

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Speaker 7: our children in the future. Am I settling or am

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Speaker 7: I just being a commitment freak?

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Speaker 1: This is so hard hitting home with someone here.

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Speaker 2: I mean it's hard. I mean, I don't it's.

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Speaker 1: What advice would you give her? Taking yourself out of

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Speaker 1: the equation. That's interesting.

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Speaker 2: It's hard though, because I'm in the same I'm in

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Speaker 2: a similar situation, right, But.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying though, Like, what would you tell

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Speaker 3: somebody if you weren't in it like yourself, because that

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Speaker 3: might help you well.

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Speaker 2: In the past, I would say keep it moving, keep

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Speaker 2: not keep it moving, but just like really think about

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Speaker 2: what what you compromise on someone with you know, like

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Speaker 2: where you're able to say we have our differences. I think,

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Speaker 2: like a relationship with God is like the most important

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Speaker 2: thing to me, and would it be ideal to share

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Speaker 2: that with someone? I think yes, I think that would

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Speaker 2: be easy. But I think it just depends on how

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Speaker 2: much you want that or need that in your life.

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Speaker 2: But it's it's hard. I don't know if it's not.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's black and white at all, and

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Speaker 2: I used to think it was black and white. It's

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Speaker 2: very much a gray to me.

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Speaker 3: I think that there's different like levels if that. I

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Speaker 3: used to think that I wanted somebody that was like

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Speaker 3: knee deep in their faith and like could lead me

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Speaker 3: and like was like my leader in faith. I think

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Speaker 3: that maybe I could be the I don't want to say,

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Speaker 3: the bridge, the bridge to somebody, but like I think

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Speaker 3: having somebody that's open to it, to coming to church

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Speaker 3: and being open to that and having a relationship. I

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Speaker 3: just what I think makes me fearful is if that

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Speaker 3: person starts taking away from your relationship with God.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: If they start like not wanting you to go to

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Speaker 3: church on Sunday, Like if you go to church on

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Speaker 3: Sundays and that's your thing, and they maybe want to

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Speaker 3: come with you, maybe they come with you sometimes and

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Speaker 3: don't come with you, Like that's totally fine. But I

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Speaker 3: think when they start taking away from your relationship with God,

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Speaker 3: that's when I think it gets to be dangerous.

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Speaker 2: And I think a lot of people, like I've I

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Speaker 2: think I've talked about this before and how like my

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Speaker 2: perspective on it has changed, And a lot of people

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Speaker 2: send me messages and they're like, but the Bible says

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Speaker 2: like you should be equally yoked whatever, And I get that, Like,

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Speaker 2: I know, I've heard forever what the Bible says about that.

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Speaker 2: But I think until you're in something you can't really like,

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Speaker 2: it's so easy to like cast your opinion on something

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Speaker 2: when you haven't experienced it, and like I said, my

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Speaker 2: perspective has totally changed on it in a way that

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Speaker 2: I used to be, like it's black and white, like

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Speaker 2: if that's what you want, then you need to be

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Speaker 2: with someone who believes the same thing. But I think

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Speaker 2: my perspective has changed a lot and kind of grown

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Speaker 2: softer to the fact that we're all different, and we're

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Speaker 2: a lot of us are raised differently and a lot

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Speaker 2: of us have had different experiences, and we're not all

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Speaker 2: the same and how we think.

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Speaker 3: I think for and what I like tell you is,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, if you flash forward five years or ten years,

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Speaker 3: is it important to you to like go to church

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Speaker 3: with your family every Sunday?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, I guess my thing is that I currently

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Speaker 2: am like going through not having a church, right, But

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Speaker 2: I know, but like in an ideal world, yeah, you

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Speaker 2: do think about that stuff, and like when you're in

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Speaker 2: a situation, it's like, let's pray about this together. You know,

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Speaker 2: there are certain things where you do if that's important

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Speaker 2: to you, it would be an ideal situation to have

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Speaker 2: someone to do that with. But what's her name? Anonymous?

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Speaker 7: Yep.

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Speaker 1: But it's interesting because I do think.

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Speaker 2: That I like wrote this email.

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Speaker 3: I think you can have that relationship with different people

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Speaker 3: in your life, you know, because it's like, I have

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Speaker 3: some friends that are very faith filled and like, if

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Speaker 3: I'm going through something and I need prayer, like I

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Speaker 3: literally can call bracl and she'll pray.

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Speaker 1: For me over the phone.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I don't necessarily need my partner to

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Speaker 3: constantly be that for me.

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Speaker 1: But I get what you're saying.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I think that you decide if it's

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Speaker 2: something that it's always going to be, like in your

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Speaker 2: mind holding you back in a way. I guess you

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Speaker 2: decide if it's where you stand on that. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like I've given great advice because I

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Speaker 2: think I have. I'm in this, you know, I've been

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Speaker 2: in this situation, and I know these feelings. So it's

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Speaker 2: hard to give advice when you're kind of like, I

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Speaker 2: don't really know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I give some good advice.

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Speaker 7: I think a compromise is always going to be a

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Speaker 7: part of any relationship. And if you think this is

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Speaker 7: such a great guy, I think you can find that compromise.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but just don't lose it, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: I think you stay strong in your faith and what

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Speaker 2: you believe in, and you don't expect him to change.

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Speaker 2: And if he finds that to be the path that

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Speaker 2: he wants to go down, and he joins you in that,

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Speaker 2: and that's okay with you. That he might find it

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Speaker 2: later and he might not, then I think you stay there.

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Speaker 2: If you're thinking he's going to change for me, or

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Speaker 2: he's going to have a relationship with God, then I

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Speaker 2: think you're setting yourself up to be disappointed or have

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Speaker 2: expectations that aren't fair on him.

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Speaker 7: I think that's great advice. And this has been a

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Speaker 7: long podcast, but we were off a week, so that's great.

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Speaker 7: That's supercized, supercise. Next week, more fun stuff.

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Speaker 1: It's so much fun.

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Speaker 2: How much fun?

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Speaker 7: Oh next week? Next week will be after the holiday party,

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Speaker 7: so you will know what happened. So that's exciting, exciting.

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Speaker 2: All right. Time of Death, thirteen thirty five