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Speaker 3: I'm doing swell, doing well.

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Speaker 2: Howver you Sunshine, I'm doing good because my curls are

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Speaker 1: I was like, well, look at my curls.

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Speaker 2: You know I did that.

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Speaker 3: They look amazing.

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Speaker 2: I know. I was really shocked because last time I

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Speaker 2: I did the pipe cleaner curls, but I did them well,

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Speaker 2: and this time she did much small, like half the size,

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Speaker 2: Honestly, it's been like I took them out, like probably

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Speaker 3: Few days and bouncy and fun.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna do money question rules.

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Speaker 2: So this is from Nelly from ig Hi Mandy hope

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Speaker 3: What do I want to start saying? Hot and hair?

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Speaker 2: She's one of those people that like, you know, it's

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Speaker 2: and I was like, hold on, I want to keech

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Speaker 2: it for myself. So me and Tam had to tussle

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Speaker 2: her I mean, I don't even know ify Kisa listen,

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Speaker 2: but yeah, girl, I'll be making your offer.

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Speaker 1: So because we talked about it.

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Speaker 2: Already, but I'm just saying all that to say, when

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Speaker 2: we cannot lose you, know, Nelly, So good luck to

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Speaker 3: Keep that's such a perfect point to make.

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Speaker 3: I talked to a coaching client this morning, all the

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Speaker 3: her how incredibly beneficial it is that people already know her,

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Speaker 3: she I feel like sometimes we take ourselves for granted

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Speaker 3: Plus you can teach skills, you can teach how to

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Speaker 3: So if you're meeting most of the qualifications on all

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Speaker 3: vouch for you and you know endorse you. That is

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Speaker 3: so key and that gives you such a huge advantage

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Speaker 3: over external candidates. So yeah, it's just about building your

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Speaker 3: own confidence, Nelly, and that you have a lot going

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Speaker 3: for you already understanding the inner workings of this company.

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Speaker 3: And even though I want to know like twelve thousand

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Speaker 3: go in again feeling strong. And to Tiffany's point about

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Speaker 3: not being valued where you are, because that, unfortunately is

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Speaker 3: often the case, use this as a litmus test to see, Okay,

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Speaker 3: do I have growth potential at this company? And if

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Speaker 3: least you explore that option. And you should feel nose

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Speaker 3: ounce of guilt for looking outside of the company, you know,

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Speaker 3: for new opportunities. Sometimes they got to really fear losing

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Speaker 3: you to really respect and value you, which is unfortunate.

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Speaker 3: But it's up to you to you know, assert your

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Speaker 3: value in that way. So I hope this works out

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Speaker 3: for you, but I'm just saying, even if it don't,

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Speaker 3: there's other pads ahead of you as well, and they

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Speaker 3: don't have to be, you know, feeling stuck or stagnant

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Speaker 2: But keep us updated, Nellie, we'd love to learn to

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Speaker 2: hear like what happened. If you have a question, be

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Speaker 2: a fan, ask away. We're at the BA podcast on Twitter.

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Speaker 2: We are Brand and Vision podcast on ig Brandambision podcast

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Speaker 2: dot com where we have like a ask us anything

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Speaker 2: button and uh what is it do? Gmail again Brown

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Speaker 2: and Podcast at gmail dot com. Yes, ma'am, and so

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Speaker 2: you're gonna way email us soul Yeah, ask us here

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Speaker 2: questions about business maybe you or an entrepreneur, career, money

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Speaker 2: So yeah, until next week, b a fan. We love y'all.

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Speaker 3: Bye bye,