WEBVTT - Second Cup: Help comes through other people

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Today's tip is that help tends to come through other people.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you are in a situation where you need

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<v Speaker 2>some help, be open to what others can give you,

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<v Speaker 2>and you just might find yourself doing a lot better.

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<v Speaker 2>So there is an often told story about a very

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<v Speaker 2>righteous religious man who is trapped in his house by

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<v Speaker 2>a flood. As the water rises, he prays that God

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<v Speaker 2>will rescue him. A rescue team comes by, but he

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<v Speaker 2>waves them off because he is certain that God will intervene.

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<v Speaker 2>Then a boat comes by and he waves that off too. Finally,

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<v Speaker 2>a helicopter hovers outside his window, but he is still

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<v Speaker 2>waiting for the Almighty Alas, that doesn't happen, and when

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<v Speaker 2>he finds himself at the pearly gates, he asks God

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<v Speaker 2>what went wrong? God, frustrated, notes that he sent a

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<v Speaker 2>rescue team, a boat, and a helicopter. What else was

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<v Speaker 2>he supposed to do? Now? I imagine that most of

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<v Speaker 2>us aren't that stubborn, but all of us couldn't realize

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<v Speaker 2>that when we need help in life, most likely that

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<v Speaker 2>help is going to come in the form of other people.

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<v Speaker 2>If you are depressed, you can hope that the depression

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<v Speaker 2>will go away, and it might, but most likely that

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<v Speaker 2>will happen through the care of a physician, the help

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<v Speaker 2>of a therapist, and the support of family and friends.

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<v Speaker 2>You can hope to find a job that won't make

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<v Speaker 2>you miserable, but that new job will most likely come

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<v Speaker 2>through an old colleague or a neighbor who knows someone

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<v Speaker 2>who is hiring and puts in a good word for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Even something like finding a new place to live is

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<v Speaker 2>likely going to be the result of someone forwarding you

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<v Speaker 2>a listing that she saw. We simply can't be aware

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<v Speaker 2>of everything in the world, and the more deeply you

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<v Speaker 2>are in a problem, the less likely you are to

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<v Speaker 2>know the solution. It's going to have to come from

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<v Speaker 2>somewhere else. This seems simple enough, but I think a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of us don't think about reaching out for help

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<v Speaker 2>and being open to the help that is offered nearly enough.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't want to take advantage of people, and we shouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>But if a friend asked you for something that was

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<v Speaker 2>within your power to do, my guess is that you

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<v Speaker 2>would be happy to do it, and so if you

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<v Speaker 2>are in a tough patch, be willing to reach out

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<v Speaker 2>can make your life easier. A neighbor just might be

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<v Speaker 2>willing to run to the drugstore for pediolite if you

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<v Speaker 2>are stuck home alone with a sick kid. On a

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<v Speaker 2>recent flight, a woman asked the flight attendant if she

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<v Speaker 2>could ask us all to sit for twenty seconds so

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<v Speaker 2>she could leave the plane to make a very tight connection.

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<v Speaker 2>So the flight attendant asked, and we did, and everyone

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<v Speaker 2>wished the woman good luck as she hustled down the aisle,

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<v Speaker 2>and if people offered to help take it. My accountant

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<v Speaker 2>recently offered to do something for me that perhaps I

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<v Speaker 2>could have figured out with a very long call to

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<v Speaker 2>the irs, but she was going to be a lot faster.

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<v Speaker 2>A parent who was already at an event offered to

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<v Speaker 2>drive my kids home so I didn't have to go

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<v Speaker 2>out in the rain with my little ones. Wow, was

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<v Speaker 2>I happy about that. If you are a nice and

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<v Speaker 2>normal person, you probably don't make unreasonable requests, and you

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<v Speaker 2>help others when you can as well. So go ahead

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<v Speaker 2>and make life easier for yourself by saying yes to

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<v Speaker 2>the help that is offered and asking for what you need.

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<v Speaker 2>If you believe the story of the man with the

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<v Speaker 2>boat in the helicopter. Even divine help is going to

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<v Speaker 2>come through other people, so be open to it and

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<v Speaker 2>you will probably wind up better off. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 2>This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 2>the most of our time.

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