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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in. Guess what it is? Anversary.

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy because, um, I obviously I didn't know.

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Speaker 1: It feels like it's it's weird because it feels like

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Speaker 1: it's been a while, but also three years feels, you know,

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Speaker 1: like shout out to Crystal because that's how I found out.

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Speaker 1: I saw her post and I got so emotional from it,

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Speaker 1: like started going down down memory lane looking at photos

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Speaker 1: videos like I mean, shout out to Crystal, you know

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Speaker 1: she we We would have no idea if I'm being

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Speaker 1: honest for all of ourt say, um wait, I want

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Speaker 1: to look back at September of ten, where was everybody

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Speaker 1: in their lives? Um, I can tell you honestly, so

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Speaker 1: that would have been oh yeah, three years from today.

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy because I have the photos of me

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Speaker 1: hugging Jason George because he was yes, So technically Tanya

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Speaker 1: wasn't officially on the podcast yet. I think we did

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Speaker 1: like two or three episodes. I think it was October

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Speaker 1: ish when I joined, and I will never forget going

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Speaker 1: to start the podcast and having so much nerves, like

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Speaker 1: is this something I can really do? I was on

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Speaker 1: my own, I was I remember Mark and I just

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Speaker 1: staring at each other because I would be I was

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Speaker 1: like doing a full monologue every episode when I was

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Speaker 1: by myself. That is hard to do. To do an

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Speaker 1: entire podcast by yourself is very difficult. Yeah, and I knew,

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Speaker 1: like we we had a few amazing guests, but you know,

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Speaker 1: better from interviewing guests, but that wasn't like my natural

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Speaker 1: It was not a host by ante and m Mark

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Speaker 1: and I had just met, and I remember doing our

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Speaker 1: teasers for the podcast, and I was just like, so,

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Speaker 1: know the story, but my sisters came on for a

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Speaker 1: in their face. Yeah they were. They're so funny and witty,

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Speaker 1: it was just like pulling teeth trying to get them

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Speaker 1: We're like, can you stay late and do the podcast

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Speaker 1: with me? And so she hopped on. And I will

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Speaker 1: never forget that day of like looking at Amy in

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Speaker 1: the studio kind of being like, Okay, this is this

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Speaker 1: is it. I do not want to do this on

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Speaker 1: my own anymore, so let's keep this going. And then

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Speaker 1: we fought and got the name changed and the photo

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Speaker 1: changed and that not all the process. That was a battle.

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Speaker 1: I gotta say, Becca really uh stood up for me

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Speaker 1: in ways that I didn't even know needed to happen

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Speaker 1: quite honestly. Um, but it just kind of goes to

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Speaker 1: show you the type of person that you are because

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Speaker 1: you didn't have to do you know, I mean, like

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Speaker 1: you didn't not only did you do do not have to

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Speaker 1: do that, but like I don't know, I can't really

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Speaker 1: explain what I'm trying to say, but it just goes

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Speaker 1: to show the type of person you are, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean, Like you just I disagree. I mean,

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Speaker 1: an equal partnership with me on this podcast. And knowing

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Speaker 1: what you brought compared to what what I was doing alone.

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Speaker 1: So um, I'm just so proud. I mean, we together.

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Speaker 1: like actually crazy, the amount of men I've dated in

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Speaker 1: October two thousand seventeen. Yeah, like how many guys? Actually

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Speaker 1: it's been a journey. I mean it's kind of been

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Speaker 1: like part part of this podcast has been your journey

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Speaker 1: place for the Lakers, and she's a giant scrubber. Wow,

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428
00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 1: or with her super quick. Yeah, it was quick. But

429
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 1: Tanya is like a stand. I'm a stand. So she

430
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:44,119
Speaker 1: sings this song, Oh she sweep out of psycho a

431
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 1: little bit psycho and now she's screaming, I'm not mama, mama.

432
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:52,880
Speaker 1: So that's how you know her. Um but I ran

433
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 1: into her at like our local nail salon one night

434
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,480
Speaker 1: and we literally spent like two hours chatting the whole time.

435
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 1: So I like love her now. Yeah, And um, I

436
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,479
Speaker 1: sing that song to Phoebe all the time because I

437
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: think she is so sweet, but she's also psycho sometimes,

438
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 1: so it's like my song to Phoebe and I think

439
00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 1: it's also a song that most of us can relate

440
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 1: to as women sometimes when I'm on my period. Yeah,

441
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, and I'm in my period yes. Um.

442
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,920
Speaker 1: But so we did this interview and got to talk.

443
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 1: She has new music coming out and they sent us

444
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 1: a few of the songs and they're so good. Like,

445
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:27,919
Speaker 1: I cannot wait for you all to listen, because I

446
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 1: feel a lot of you have the same type of

447
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 1: taste that we do. Um. But she was incredibly sweet

448
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 1: and personable. Yeah. I I love her like I really do. Yeah,

449
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 1: she's twenty six, she's I feel I'm really excited for

450
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 1: you all to hear the interview because right off the bat,

451
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 1: she was so so excited to be talking to us.

452
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 1: And she's very passionate about her music, and her voice

453
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: is incredible. Um. And she's cool. Yeah, she's cool. And

454
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: I was looking at your photos the other day I

455
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 1: noticed that she just randomly was commenting like beautiful. I know,

456
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 1: I like love her. So we're going to take a break.

457
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: Tony has already down her first class of rose, and um,

458
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 1: we'll be back with our interview with Ava Max. This

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00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: is what Quarantine has done for me. I'm now a

460
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: tampon blogger, a Rose drinker, and a Laker fan. Hey,

461
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,199
Speaker 1: I'm a J. McClean, and I'm Cheryl Burke and I

462
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:31,160
Speaker 1: am Renee al who you don't know but you will

463
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: know on our new podcast, Pretty Messed Up. He's the pretty,

464
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: I'm the mess, and Renee's the up. He is the

465
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think everything, and if we do,

466
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: you better not do it on camera. Yeah. No, I

467
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 1: don't think they're fighting right now. Is this fighting that

468
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 1: we fight all the time? And yeah, we fight constantly.

469
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 1: That our way of communication. I don't think we'll ever fight,

470
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: you know, even though we are very similar personalities, which

471
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: a lot of times it doesn't work. I think, take

472
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 1: off those sunnies. This connection. Oh you can blink. I

473
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 1: have been teaching him also, not just a smile, but

474
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 1: to blink. We doesn't look like a psycho killer when

475
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: we dance live on TV. I can't wait for the podcast.

476
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: There are so many stories about A J's honesty at

477
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 1: the wrong times, you know. Obviously a lot in the

478
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: public has been said about me, my journey through recovery

479
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: and sobriety, my ups and downs, my hyghs and lows um.

480
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: But there's still so much left that not a lot

481
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: of people know about. And you know, I've compared myself

482
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 1: to an onion because there's a lot more layers to

483
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:46,359
Speaker 1: me than anyone really knows about Funion exactly. I can't

484
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: wait to do the podcast because I can just call

485
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 1: him out and Renee can give me advice on how

486
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:52,639
Speaker 1: to handle him sometimes because all I hear is the

487
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: tuk tuk tuk tuk talk talk, excuses, excuses, excuses, and

488
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: careful listening, pretty messed up on the I Heart Radio app,

489
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:18,640
Speaker 1: on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcast. Um,

490
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 1: we have a very exciting guest scrubbing in with us today.

491
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: We have Ava Max here. We have had you before

492
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 1: because it was during one of the Um, oh, you're

493
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 1: right on the phone. You were on the phone. I remember, Yeah,

494
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 1: it was short and sweet. So we're really happy to

495
00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 1: have you back. And UM, I know that Tanya was

496
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,399
Speaker 1: so excited because y'all had run into each other to

497
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 1: nail salon or something. Friend. Well, I feel like we'd

498
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,199
Speaker 1: met each other just through work stuff, like you'd come

499
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 1: in the station and so we'd met like in in

500
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: work settings. And then I was at the nail salon

501
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: one night and you came walking in and we literally

502
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,719
Speaker 1: spent that entire hour and a half just chit chatting,

503
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 1: and I was just like, I'm so obsessed with a Max.

504
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 1: You're just like the cutest thank you that that has

505
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 1: my mail so longer, but I love it. So we

506
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: actually we're talking about primal mostrology forever. We got to

507
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 1: know each other really well, and it was awesome, and like,

508
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:21,199
Speaker 1: you know, we were even talking about because I was

509
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: on tour a lot at the time, and like it

510
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:26,199
Speaker 1: was hard because you know, I was so busy, and

511
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 1: we were just talking about how like we make time

512
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 1: for like nails in general. Like it was late at night.

513
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 1: I remember, Yeah, it was like, I know, wasn't it

514
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 1: crazy to kind of think about, like just kind of

515
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: how crazy hectic your schedule used to be and now

516
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: you're doing all your promo and like everything via zoom.

517
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 1: You're like kind of were all. It's weird because it's

518
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: a different kind of busy, which I prefer being on

519
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: the road obviously, but like being in a corner in

520
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: around like all day from six am to like eleven

521
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 1: pm with all parts of the world is so different.

522
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: It's very like I have to say it's efficient because

523
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 1: zoom is like you can literally talk to anyone around

524
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: the world, so you don't have to wait for the

525
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: jet lag to you know, go away. Um, but it's

526
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 1: really just about like now I just miss touring and

527
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: it's it's kind of sad. I'm like, what is performing?

528
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 1: Are we ever? I'm you know, I don't know. I

529
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: don't have words. Um. I would just like to point

530
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 1: out that Ava Max is sitting in a butterfly chair.

531
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you realize this, but butterflies

532
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 1: are like Tanya symbol um. She always says when she

533
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 1: sees a butterfly, shall post a video or photo and

534
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: say this feels significant. So this really does feel significant.

535
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: I know I don't write, right, aren't I Like, truly,

536
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 1: I can't even explain to do you see you probably

537
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: can't sit tell this. This is a butterfly stencil back

538
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 1: here in the streame right here. It's a little pixelated again,

539
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 1: but they're like they kind of symbolize hope and love

540
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 1: for me. So I actually can I tell you recently

541
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: I've been obsessed with butterflies and that's why I got

542
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: there's two of these butterfled chairs and they're supposed to

543
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 1: go in my vanity. But you know, I've switched things

544
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 1: around to work from home, like I have like a

545
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 1: crazy like I have a random piano here, like I

546
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 1: have a orange set up that I don't know what's

547
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: going on in this room, but I've just made it,

548
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 1: like you've just pieced it together. You see things that

549
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 1: inspire you, you get them and then you'll figure out.

550
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: With butterfly chair, let's do to get that chair? And

551
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 1: we're talking about the how y'all were talking about primal

552
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 1: astrology at the nail salon. How did that conversation come up?

553
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 1: Because that's so I don't think I've talked to you

554
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 1: that much, but you sound so like fun to talk to,

555
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: cracking out and making me crack up. No, but I

556
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: feel like, literally we I don't know we connected your cancer,

557
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: right Dinah? Yeah, I'd rather as a cancer. So y'all

558
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 1: are like passionate, like whoa, no, but it's in a

559
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: good way, like well no, so Eva was talking about um,

560
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: we were just talking about astrology in general, and then

561
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: she's like, have you ever heard of primal astrology? And

562
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: I was like, what is this? And then she like

563
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 1: unleashed a whole new thing for me, because all you

564
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 1: do is it's basically like every person has an animal,

565
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 1: and it's based on your birthday and your birthday, so

566
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: it's very specific. And so I went and I found

567
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: mine and I was a turtle and yeah, and then

568
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: I went and found my I was a turtle and

569
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 1: I'm still very much a turtle. And my boyfriend is

570
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,880
Speaker 1: a leafy C dragon. I was like, oh yes, I

571
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 1: went googled image is LEAPYC dragon. I was like, you're

572
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: such a leaping My niece is a LEAPC dragon. They're

573
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 1: very smart. They're like ice signs, They're like they they're

574
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: very smart, interesting smart, craziest ideas like I actually ipproved

575
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: my album through my knees. I think you meant my

576
00:31:56,960 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: knees at the mount, Like, oh my god, I love

577
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: her so much. But anyways, she's basically like my sister,

578
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: but she's a legal sine dragon. What are you? What's

579
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 1: your I'm a bird of Paradise the flowers. I know

580
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: it's weird, but you know what, there are birds that

581
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 1: they call birds of Paradise too. I figured this out

582
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 1: recently because I'm like, why the heck am I plant?

583
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 1: Like what the wait? The best part is we were

584
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: talking about this before you came on, and we were

585
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: talking one of our producers goes, yeah, well, you know

586
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: some people are birds of paradise the flower. That's kind

587
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: of disappointing. You know what's crazy about birds of Paradise?

588
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: It says performer. It says, I'm telling you everyone else

589
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: who is signed to my management is also that. I

590
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: won't say it, but he's also a bird of Paradise.

591
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: And I was like, wait, we're both bird of Paradise.

592
00:32:54,840 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: Is so weird performers? Wow? And there is I mean,

593
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: obviously there's a little bit. There's a little bit to

594
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 1: it that's just like it's not accurate depiction, but it's

595
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 1: pretty accurate. Uh. Whoa, So it's been it's basically similar

596
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: to the Chinese exactly did you read did you read

597
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: so you're jaguar Jaguar? Yeah? But did you get to

598
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 1: read up before Regal and solitary? That's so accurate. I

599
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 1: don't know anything. People like whoa, Tanya, I'm like, WHOA?

600
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: Was like, did you think Regal when you first logged

601
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 1: on and saw me? Like, yeah, she's at my house.

602
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: That's like, Tanya, that's how you said thanks, And I

603
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: was like, oh okay, wait wait its hour in the

604
00:33:56,120 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 1: same room. It's the jaguar is viewed like the Chinese

605
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 1: views of the dragon, which you know is like powerful exactly,

606
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 1: you're powerful, crying no, but it's I like, I literally

607
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 1: lived for these things. I remember that night after I

608
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 1: met you, I like told everybody, like I went on

609
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: the air the next morning, I was like, oh my god,

610
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: have you guys heard about primal astrology? Like I was crazy,

611
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I can't even tell you, Like I've

612
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: told so many people. Sometimes it's been a bad thing

613
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 1: because they're like they've read it to their spouses and

614
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 1: it hasn't been good. So I won't say anything. But

615
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 1: all I'm saying is sometimes it could be weird because

616
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 1: it's so accurate to the point where I don't know

617
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen when I leave the room. But right

618
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:49,280
Speaker 1: I know, I was reading stuff in my about my boyfriend,

619
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 1: and I was like, hmmmm, this is just good to

620
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,839
Speaker 1: note in the back right there someone looked this up,

621
00:34:55,000 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: especially totally totally I signed, which it is really funny.

622
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 1: By the way, It's like it's because growing up, I

623
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 1: had a lot of cousins and some cousins were a

624
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: little on the shine side, and then some were like

625
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: like more like outspoken like me. And then it says

626
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,760
Speaker 1: the shot like shy science tends to take your confidence

627
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 1: as arrogance, and I was like, whoa, That's why I

628
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 1: don't speak to those cousins because they think I'm probably

629
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 1: like Erican. I'm were like confident as look, I'm like

630
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:38,439
Speaker 1: like outspoken. What does it mean it so you shy

631
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: science take my um strength for like for like I

632
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 1: don't know, like I don't know how. You gotta read

633
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:45,840
Speaker 1: it again what it said about me, because it was

634
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:49,839
Speaker 1: literally so me. And even my mom was like, that's

635
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:52,720
Speaker 1: so strange. Now I know why, Like you drive me crazy.

636
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, sorry, mom, oh, if we have some business

637
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 1: to take care of, because you are releasing your debut album,

638
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: which is like major major major. It's coming out September eighteen,

639
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 1: which is Heaven, so Heaven and Hell. It's so funny

640
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 1: because that's that album named. A lot of people are like,

641
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 1: is it religious? For me? It's more like it's more

642
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 1: just about emotions we go through and twenty which is

643
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: so ironic that feels like heaven hell because it's like

644
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: true strange. I did not mean it like that, by

645
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:33,400
Speaker 1: the way, I was gonna say, did did you write

646
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 1: a lot of these songs during? Has this been something

647
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 1: that you've been working on like before even came to

648
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 1: And I don't know, Wow, I don't know. It was

649
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:45,400
Speaker 1: kind of like you a way meant to be. But

650
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: I kind of wish I was wrong. Did you did

651
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 1: you manifest? What happened? I have no clue. People are like, oh,

652
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,840
Speaker 1: did you manifest? How big sweep of psychos gonna be?

653
00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 1: I'm like no, or else I would be a psychic. Also,

654
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 1: I just want to give you a huge shout out

655
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: because your song Kings and Queens is literally like the

656
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,879
Speaker 1: modern Woman anthem. Like I literally listen to that song

657
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 1: on repeat when I go on my run sometimes and

658
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,720
Speaker 1: it just like amps me up. I'm just so obsessed

659
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: with it. I just kind of feel like you're this

660
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 1: like Bob Queen and um, your label actually sent over

661
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 1: a couple of the songs ahead of time, and I

662
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:35,239
Speaker 1: have yeah, yeah, we got wet teasers song. We got

663
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 1: four songs, and one of them was my favorite that

664
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 1: I like, literally like couldn't I just have. I just

665
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: kept listening to I wonder if ours are the same

666
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 1: one to three Naked You're gonna break it. There's a

667
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: big surprise with that song next week, so I'm really excited.

668
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 1: Um there's a there's oh you haven't announced that, like

669
00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 1: the leading song off the album, and there's something coming

670
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 1: with the with the songs. I'm really excited for you

671
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 1: guys to see next week. Yeah it is. I loved

672
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:10,359
Speaker 1: every single song that they sent. Four. They sent four

673
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 1: songs and they're all okay. So they sent Naked Tattoo, OMG,

674
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 1: what's happening and call me tonight? Oh my god, you

675
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 1: guys haven't even heard the other ones because the board

676
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 1: of the night is really good. But La Nana, Oh

677
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 1: my gosh, Oh my god. No, we only I mean yeah,

678
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,839
Speaker 1: like we got what we got, got what we got,

679
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: and we're really grateful. We're grateful either way. I'm just

680
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 1: so happy you guys love love it. A Naked is

681
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: like one of my favorites because it's so vulnerable. You know,

682
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 1: it's yes, it's like but it's a box. One line

683
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: in the song is you can take up all my clothes,

684
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: but you'll never see me naked, And it's really just

685
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 1: about being in a relationship and when a guy thinks

686
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,800
Speaker 1: he knows you and has this kind of like ego

687
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 1: to him, and it's like, no, you don't know me.

688
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:56,239
Speaker 1: You don't know what I've been through. You don't know

689
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 1: my mind, my soul. You know my body maybe, but

690
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean you know what's inside. So it really

691
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 1: is great I think for this generation as well to

692
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 1: hear that, because it's a great message, um where are you?

693
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: I also think too, It's like it kind of shows

694
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 1: I've been I'm a firm believer in the fact that

695
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 1: you can be vulnerable but also be strong at the

696
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 1: same time. I think a lot of people think vulnerability

697
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: is weakness and it's not like I think that they

698
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 1: really can go hand in hand, and I think vulnerability

699
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 1: is a very powerful thing. So uh yeah, I was

700
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 1: like obsessed with Thank you you guys. I'm so happy

701
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 1: love that song because it's crazy, it's different from what

702
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: I've done, right, It's so yeah, and I was nervous,

703
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:39,320
Speaker 1: but it's just like, you know, I'm just really excited

704
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 1: because I'm getting a lot of great feedback on that

705
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:44,799
Speaker 1: song and now that I know you guys like it's

706
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: it's so good. You know a lot of the songs.

707
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: So I went on a road trip recently and we

708
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: were we had it on like an old school Britney

709
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 1: Spears playlist, and I was like, I missed these types

710
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 1: of bops and like, your songs kind of took me

711
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: back to those like vibe. Yeah, that fun like pop

712
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 1: music that we've kind of lost a little bit in

713
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 1: my opinion. For sure, your voice. I could listen to

714
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 1: you read a single phone book and I'd be like,

715
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 1: this is amazing, thank you, thank you. You know, there

716
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:15,959
Speaker 1: will be no shortage of music. I have to tell you.

717
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 1: We're working NonStop circuit and I producer, I work with

718
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: a lot. We're working on basically so much music. So

719
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 1: I just can't wait for you guys. Here the debut album.

720
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: But also you know, there's gonna be a deluxe there's

721
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 1: gonna be other songs. It's gonna be like many more

722
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 1: pop pops. Did you think about like maybe postponing the

723
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: release of it until like this was all over. You know,

724
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:45,240
Speaker 1: everyone says like until this is over, But like earlier

725
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 1: in the year it was supposed to come out, so

726
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 1: we kind of had like a March April idea, but

727
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: March April was probably one of the scariest times of

728
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: our lives. We had no idea what was happening. The

729
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 1: grocery stores were empty of toilet paper. Hello, what is

730
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: going on in life? But anyways, so I think in general,

731
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 1: just you know, we we need. We really wanted to

732
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 1: release album and starting and I and the writers on

733
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: the record as well that I worked with, and and

734
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: also me too. I feel like music is medicine. I

735
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 1: wanted to really sure right, and it's very anthemic, the songs,

736
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 1: and and just especially now that I'm getting such a

737
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: great response to King mc queen's it's like I just

738
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: can't wait for everyone to hear everything else. But I like, literally,

739
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: you're so great. No, I'm obsessed with the lyrics. What oh,

740
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 1: these are just my notes backy Tilly. I have to

741
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,400
Speaker 1: have to make notes so that I don't forget things

742
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 1: in the day. Please don't make fun Literally, yeah, I

743
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:47,319
Speaker 1: had to make a TikTok video before. I literally have

744
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:49,720
Speaker 1: a note in my kitchen that says, do a TikTok

745
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 1: video every day? Or you, I'm like or you and

746
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 1: my and my friend was like what is this? I'm like, oh,

747
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 1: I just said that to myself to force myself to

748
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: do it, like or I lose was like what what? Okay?

749
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: I I was wondering as a because I was listening

750
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 1: to um like a top hits playlist the other day.

751
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: In every song I didn't realize throughout the song till

752
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 1: the chorus came. They were like TikTok songs. Yeah, So

753
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: do you feel like a sense of pressure right now

754
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 1: of like I gotta get a TikTok song that will

755
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: go viral? Like when you're listening to your songs, are

756
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I could see Charlie doing a dance

757
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,279
Speaker 1: to this where of course, But then again it's like

758
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't really care because like I feel

759
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 1: like my fans really stream like the songs because they

760
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: think it's like, you know, they're anthemic, and the songs

761
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 1: are anthemic, and that's all I care about. If it

762
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 1: goes Marral TikTok cool, But it's like I didn't great music.

763
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: I think the number one thing for hard is right

764
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: now is to remember to make great music, not just

765
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: for TikTok. I think people are for taking then making

766
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:51,240
Speaker 1: music for TikTok, it's like or just to go viral,

767
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: and it's like, that's not that's not longevity. The point

768
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: is great music to touch people's souls and at the

769
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 1: end of the day, if it's goes marl oh my god,

770
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 1: that's great. But like, especially like not your bomber Girl

771
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 1: got two point four billion videos before Sweep with Psycho,

772
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 1: and I don't think people know that, but like I

773
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 1: kind of I had some politsan tech before because like

774
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: it it helped me. It was like my first launching

775
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 1: thing before even Sweep with Psycho, and I had no following. Um,

776
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 1: so tick time has been good to me. Yeah. Well,

777
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: I was looking at your Instagram and like your you know,

778
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: little teasers of the album coming, and your fans are

779
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 1: just so excited for anything you put out, which has

780
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 1: to feel really good because I mean that that alone

781
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: feels like people are excited to hear my music before

782
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 1: I even put it out. They're already like getting pumped

783
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 1: about it. I mean, that's gotta be a good feeling

784
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: as an artist, knowing that they're just waiting for me.

785
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 1: It's just weird because it's like I haven't even been

786
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: to some places like Brazil or Dubai or you know,

787
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: the Middle East, Like really haven't been to a lot

788
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 1: of places. I've been in twenty seven countries, which is

789
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:55,359
Speaker 1: a lot, but not some other places that you know,

790
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, come here, and I'm just like, how

791
00:43:57,520 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: do you even know about me? Like, like how does

792
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 1: music spread so fast? And I find that crazy, Like

793
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: I really, I really do. It's insane, and I just

794
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 1: couldn't be more grateful to have like the support of

795
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:14,240
Speaker 1: my team, especially during pandemic you guys, like literally everyone,

796
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 1: because we're all going through crazy things. Literally. Wait, this

797
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: is my favorite lyric from from Kings and Queens to

798
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 1: all of the queens who are fighting alone. Baby you're

799
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 1: not dancing. That's my favorite favorite lyric because I think

800
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: right now everybody has like even I think everybody feels alone,

801
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 1: even if you're not quarantining alone. Like I feel like

802
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 1: everybody has that feeling right now, and so it's just

803
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: kind of like a big reminder like we all feel

804
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:47,879
Speaker 1: like we're alone, but we're actually really not, Like we're

805
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:50,399
Speaker 1: all in this. I'm gonna share something because like I

806
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 1: just feel like people need to hear this. It's a

807
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: normal thing, like I, you know, my alms coming out

808
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: in a week, but I actually had a really bad

809
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 1: panic attack last week, and um, I don't know, don't

810
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 1: really knew that, but because I want to keep a secret.

811
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 1: But and now I'm like, you know, people should know

812
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 1: that it's normal, because it just hits you all of

813
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: a sudden. You tell yourself you're okay, you tell yourself

814
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 1: not to cry, you tell yourself you know, you hold

815
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: back tears for certain things. It's like, but then it

816
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:18,240
Speaker 1: just explodes. So you gotta feel the emotions because last

817
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 1: week was pretty rough for me. I really like I

818
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: felt everything since March. In one morning, I woke up

819
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: and I couldn't breathe. It was like I felt like

820
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 1: I was back in two thousand eleven where I had

821
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: my first panic attack and I was like, what is

822
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 1: going on? I didn't know if I was gonna get

823
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 1: the same again, and it was like gone after two hours.

824
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 1: But like it really you gotta take care of your

825
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 1: mental health because I think I was just putting it

826
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: everything aside. And now I'm like, okay, I gotta go

827
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: for walks outside. I have to like take me time.

828
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 1: Because if you keep giving and giving and giving, you

829
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: can't nothing is coming in, so you go empty, if

830
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,359
Speaker 1: that makes sense. And you know, so even if it's

831
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: a podcast or like listening to music, I'm making point

832
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 1: now to take like thirty minutes at least throughout the

833
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 1: day in the day to do that to give my

834
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 1: self information, not only give it out, because I feel

835
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 1: like we're all just giving so much, especially even from home. Um,

836
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: it's just it's like it's dangerous for the mental health.

837
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 1: So mental health that really wasn't awakening last week because

838
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 1: I almost lost it. I know. I think it's so

839
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: important that you're talking about it because you look at

840
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 1: someone like you who's amazingly talented, beautiful, smart, sweet, funny,

841
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: and you're like, well, they don't you know, she doesn't

842
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: struggle with things that I struggle with. These people that are,

843
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: you know, following you and looking up to you. So

844
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 1: I think you're sharing that is such a powerful message

845
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 1: to people of like, take care of yourself because it

846
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 1: can come out of nowhere, and it can be a

847
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 1: couple of years where it doesn't happen and then it

848
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 1: hits out of nowhere. So suppressing emotions is probably the

849
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 1: most wrong thing you can do. I think that's that's

850
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 1: what we all do sometimes because we would just want

851
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 1: to get through at days, but we really gotta, we

852
00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 1: gotta our soul, if that makes sense, Like whether it's

853
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 1: watching a cooking show or your favorite TV shot something,

854
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 1: so you just here and don't do anything, you know, Yeah,

855
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 1: I definitely. I mean I still, I'm like I go

856
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 1: in waves like I can be so good for a

857
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: few days and I'm like I'm crushing this quarantine thing

858
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: and moving my studio upstairs and changing scenery and like

859
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: doing my runs and then like one day it'll just

860
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: hit me and I'll just cry all the time. I

861
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: don't know. Literally, that's literally it's everyone right now, I

862
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 1: think in quarantine, and whether you want to admit it

863
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:35,719
Speaker 1: or not, that's how we're all feeling. Because one you

864
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 1: can't really plan much, and not planning makes you anxious,

865
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,960
Speaker 1: and it's like it's it's crazy and I'm really hoping.

866
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: I really think we're gonna come out stronger. That's yeah, Well,

867
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: with your new music, it'll give everyone a bit of

868
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 1: an escape. Oh I cannot wait, I like cannot I

869
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,839
Speaker 1: am chomping at the bit until I can download this

870
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,919
Speaker 1: whole thing. Thank you guys. I can you guys still

871
00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 1: I believe it's one week away. You know, I was

872
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 1: gonna say, so Heaven and Hell comes out September eighteenth.

873
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 1: I like how you did it with like it almost well,

874
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:10,880
Speaker 1: at least on your promos that I saw on Instagram.

875
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 1: It's kind of like you have your like do the

876
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 1: songs represent something different? That kind of I guess simulates

877
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 1: Heaven versus simulates Hell? Like is that how you did it?

878
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 1: Weird because like a lot of people are like, oh, Barnea,

879
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,879
Speaker 1: Mince should be in a hell, or oh my God

880
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 1: should be in Hell, or some mine should be in

881
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 1: you know, so for it's all sonic, like if I

882
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 1: hear the production and it makes me happier and just

883
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: think positive things. I put it on Heaven and look

884
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: like clonier, darker, sexier. I put it on Hell because

885
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: it's about a feeling. We get right. The lyrics as well.

886
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: Take You to Hell is the first song in Hell,

887
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 1: so I did kind of you know, organize that. But

888
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 1: and the introductory track Heaven is not what you'd expect

889
00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 1: at all. If people are gonna think it's like a

890
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 1: full length song, that's like I'll be it's actually my

891
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:02,080
Speaker 1: most vibe slow song on the album, the first song,

892
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: so it's gonna start slow and then hits with the

893
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 1: Bank with Kings and Queens and doesn't stop that. So,

894
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 1: I mean, we got four songs and we love them all,

895
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 1: so I can't wait to hear the rest. Um, thank

896
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 1: you so much for taking the time to chat with us. Yes,

897
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 1: we love you, Ava, Max. You know that, I know you.

898
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:26,359
Speaker 1: Now I know the nail salon too, because I think

899
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 1: it's the same. Yeah, I still go. I go in

900
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 1: the back. They have like a whole tan. Yeah, you know,

901
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 1: just like gorgeous hundred degree heat, things flapping in my

902
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 1: face and I was like some bacon. Yeah. Well, we

903
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 1: love you. We can't wait to have you back on

904
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 1: scrubbing and congratulations. Yeah, congratulations on the debut album. We

905
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: love you you guys. Stay safe and healthy and happy.

906
00:49:56,840 --> 00:50:18,720
Speaker 1: Yeah same to you too, Right all right, Eva, Max,

907
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 1: you're freaking amazing. Her album comes out today's a Friday. Friday.

908
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 1: Let me tell you the song naked. I haven't heard

909
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 1: a lot. I only heard you know, of course, well

910
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 1: five including Kings and Queens, Kings and Queen's um, but

911
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:38,799
Speaker 1: naked so good. Um, okay, So Tanya you mentioned before

912
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: we went on the break that you are now a

913
00:50:40,640 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: tampon blogger, which I wanted to talk to you about

914
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:48,759
Speaker 1: because did I see it in your future? Maybe you know.

915
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 1: It's not totally off brand. I'm not gonna lie, but

916
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 1: it really just happened like coincidentally, because I really just

917
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,840
Speaker 1: want to find a good organic tampon for myself. And

918
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 1: the other day I was with Red Star and we

919
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 1: were I needed tampons, and so I was like, okay,

920
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 1: we went to write it, and we went to Whole

921
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 1: Foods and so we bought different, two different tampons at

922
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: the different stores, and so I posted on my story

923
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 1: like which one was better? Like let me know, And

924
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 1: then the influx of d MS I got from women

925
00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:19,879
Speaker 1: being like, please review each one and tell me which

926
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: one is better. I was like, I'm on the same page,

927
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to just find a really good organic tampon,

928
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: and so I was like, I'm just gonna start getting

929
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 1: one every month, trying a different organic tampon and finding

930
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:36,280
Speaker 1: the best one. To me, I can't think of anything

931
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:40,840
Speaker 1: more on brand for you. Honestly, I'm gonna try the

932
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 1: Hillary duff ones um next next month. She has her

933
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: own line. I don't know if it's her own line,

934
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 1: if she partnered with these people, but if they're good

935
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:52,840
Speaker 1: for hills stuff vagina, they're definitely probably good for vagina.

936
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:57,879
Speaker 1: That's hills stuff. Um. You know, Grace Anatomy is back

937
00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:00,520
Speaker 1: on set and they post Ellen Pompeo. PA said about it,

938
00:52:00,560 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 1: and it was a really sweet tribute to like all

939
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 1: the healthcare professionals and saying this season is for them.

940
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 1: But she also revealed that she has a new favorite

941
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 1: Grays Anatomy couple. I saw that. Did you see who

942
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:15,919
Speaker 1: it is? Well? She spit on her rose. I did

943
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:20,879
Speaker 1: not see it with um because we sent the article over,

944
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 1: but she just read the headline and just kept scrolling.

945
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:30,920
Speaker 1: I guess right there today. Yeah. Um, by the way,

946
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 1: let's seek Becky for putting the prep together that Tanya

947
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:37,399
Speaker 1: didn't even Becky, I saw the prep. I do read

948
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 1: the prep actually very much. I read it very well

949
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 1: for Ava Max, thank you very much. Almost too well. Yeah, um,

950
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 1: so she tweeted out, Um, yes, I have a new

951
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,920
Speaker 1: favorite couple. Not sure what you'll call them, but they

952
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 1: are adorable. You guys can have fun guessing who And

953
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 1: then I thought you know, I thought she'd leave us hanging,

954
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 1: but she didn't. Um. Someone guess Maggie and her boyfriend

955
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 1: Winston remember the guy that she kind of got with

956
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:06,359
Speaker 1: towards the end that was like an old friend or something,

957
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:09,799
Speaker 1: And she said, ding ding ding. You guys, you have

958
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:13,880
Speaker 1: no idea how adorable they are. But the girl that

959
00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:16,759
Speaker 1: we met on the set of Gray's Anatomy told us

960
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,800
Speaker 1: that Kelly McCreary, who plays Maggie, was one of her favorites,

961
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: and so I feel like, I'm excited to watch her

962
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:26,399
Speaker 1: now with a different perspective. And I liked that. I

963
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 1: loved the guy that they brought on Um the actor's

964
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 1: name is um one second, Anthony Hill, because I felt

965
00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 1: like they had a lot. I felt like they had

966
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 1: more chemistry than anyone she's been with yet. Do you know, um,

967
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 1: my old neighbor that used to live next door to me,

968
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 1: cheek A is like best friends with her. Yeah yeah,

969
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:50,240
Speaker 1: and you love cheeking Are you kidding? He's like the greatest.

970
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:53,600
Speaker 1: You wouldn't imagine that he would imagine exactly exactly. But

971
00:53:53,600 --> 00:54:00,239
Speaker 1: I remember when he told me that, I was like, oh, oh, oh,

972
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:02,720
Speaker 1: wait a second. So they think he was like waiting

973
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 1: for me to like be like excited, you know what

974
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 1: I mean? And I was like, oh, oh, do you

975
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:15,120
Speaker 1: know a Derek Shepard? Oh? You know. It was nice

976
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 1: about listening to um Ellen on the Armchair Expert podcast

977
00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:22,760
Speaker 1: was that she said she spoke very nice, like highly

978
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 1: of Patrick Demcy and so highly of Sandro of course,

979
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 1: like just she was. She was praising her as like

980
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 1: you and I would praise each other, just like she's amazing,

981
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 1: She's the best, you know. It was really really sweetly

982
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:45,759
Speaker 1: really want to have on the podcast is Miranda Bailey? Like,

983
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 1: how do we get that to happen? Well, our people

984
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:52,319
Speaker 1: reach out to her people and I'll d m her

985
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 1: on Instagram? Shouldn't sam her? No, we don't want to

986
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 1: break her out. I've been watching old episodes and she's

987
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:03,440
Speaker 1: just really giving it to me right now. The old

988
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 1: episodes are so good. Um wait, and you so you

989
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:11,919
Speaker 1: don't you're not excited about Maggie and Winston. Honestly, I'm

990
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:13,719
Speaker 1: just excited to see how this whole like Teddy oh

991
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 1: in situation pans out, all that cliffhanger was it was

992
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,919
Speaker 1: really good. I can't believe that was not I still

993
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:22,799
Speaker 1: can't believe that wasn't the finale last season. I can't either,

994
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: like it wasn't intended to be the finale. Wow, it

995
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 1: was epic. Um Okay, I think we have some emails correct,

996
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 1: Mark we do as a matter of fact. The first

997
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 1: one is a birthday shout out that I think we'd

998
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 1: be happy to accommodate. This is from Ashley. My little

999
00:55:36,320 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 1: sister's birthday was yesterday September, so that actually is legitimately

1000
00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 1: yesterday as we record this. She loves scrubbing in and

1001
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,399
Speaker 1: even found her roommate through the Facebook group. She's one

1002
00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 1: of the strongest, most courageous, genuine, fun loving, funny, and

1003
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:54,520
Speaker 1: inspiring people that I know. She overcomes every obstacle with

1004
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:57,480
Speaker 1: so much grace and embodies joy even in the hardest times.

1005
00:55:57,800 --> 00:55:59,880
Speaker 1: Even though she's my younger sister, I look up to

1006
00:56:00,000 --> 00:56:02,719
Speaker 1: her in so many ways. She has a true definition

1007
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 1: of a modern woman, and I know this year is

1008
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: going to be the best one ever. Can you wish

1009
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: you're a happy birthday for me? Her name is Taylor.

1010
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 1: Happy birthday, Taylor, Happy Birthday, Taylor. I love I love one.

1011
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 1: Sisters seek about each other like that nice. I hope

1012
00:56:22,120 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 1: that for my daughters. Yeah, I feel that way about

1013
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 1: my sisters too. I get it when really leaning on

1014
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:34,799
Speaker 1: my sister lately. Let me tell you something. It's really

1015
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 1: nice to have a very level headed, um, smart, well

1016
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 1: rounded siblings. Let me tell you that because I can

1017
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: really get loose on my candid and she just reels

1018
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: me back in. Don't we know it? Panna gets loose.

1019
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:53,480
Speaker 1: YEA happy birthday, Taylor Birthday, rate day, and hope this

1020
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:56,680
Speaker 1: year is the best. Yes, actually loves you all right.

1021
00:56:56,680 --> 00:56:59,319
Speaker 1: This is from Marina. I've heard time you talk about

1022
00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 1: her anxiety before becoming a Christian many times. I've been

1023
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:05,480
Speaker 1: a Christian since I was six. My anxiety is almost unbearable.

1024
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:09,000
Speaker 1: I went through a nasty, physically abusive divorce, custody battle

1025
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:12,240
Speaker 1: God full of croustody baby, and now adjusting to normal

1026
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:14,600
Speaker 1: whatever that means. I do lead on God to help

1027
00:57:14,600 --> 00:57:17,520
Speaker 1: my anxiety. But what shift did you feel or what

1028
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 1: changes did you make to help you? I'm twenty seven

1029
00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:24,800
Speaker 1: for reference. It's interesting because I used to have Really

1030
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:30,040
Speaker 1: it's it's almost like this perspective changed when I when

1031
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 1: I found my relationship with God, and it was like,

1032
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: there's so much that you want like there's so much

1033
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 1: that you Expectation comes for Anxiety comes from expectations. So

1034
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 1: it's like everybody has an expectation on their life, whether

1035
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: it's relationship, career, family, whatever that may be, and so

1036
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 1: we put these expectations on ourselves. And so for me,

1037
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:57,840
Speaker 1: it was not so much um not having those expectations,

1038
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 1: but just knowing that like God's God me, like He's

1039
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 1: gonna like it. If it's a desire of your heart,

1040
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:07,440
Speaker 1: it's gonna happen for you on a timeline that you

1041
00:58:07,520 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 1: have no control over. So I think for me, it

1042
00:58:09,760 --> 00:58:12,280
Speaker 1: was just kind of resting in that space of like

1043
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 1: knowing that the desires of my heart will be fulfilled

1044
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 1: because God put them there, but they're not on my timetable,

1045
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:21,760
Speaker 1: They're just on his. So it was just a matter

1046
00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:25,080
Speaker 1: of just kind of like not like hanging back because

1047
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:26,920
Speaker 1: I don't really believe in just like hanging back and

1048
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 1: letting life happen to you. But it was just kind

1049
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: of like hanging back in terms of control and trying

1050
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 1: to just enjoy the process. And like it's funny because

1051
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 1: when I went through my bad breakup, I would pray

1052
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 1: every single night for us to get back together. My

1053
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:45,440
Speaker 1: prayers every morning, every night, I would just pray, God,

1054
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:47,800
Speaker 1: please bring us back together, like that was my prayer.

1055
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:50,600
Speaker 1: And then as I started to go to church more

1056
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:52,600
Speaker 1: and really like lean into my faith in my relationship,

1057
00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:56,240
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, there's a reason why this breakup happened.

1058
00:58:56,640 --> 00:59:01,840
Speaker 1: So my prayers shifted from that too open eyes to why,

1059
00:59:01,880 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 1: like the purpose of this breakup, Like why did you?

1060
00:59:04,680 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 1: Why did you bring this into my life? So it's

1061
00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:08,960
Speaker 1: a matter it was a matter of just like not

1062
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:11,880
Speaker 1: being upset what was happening to me versus like it's

1063
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: happening for me. So it's just like a perspective change

1064
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 1: that happened, and it really helped with my anxiety so much. Yeah,

1065
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 1: it's funny because I know this wasn't actually directed towards me,

1066
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 1: but um, as someone who grew up as a Christian,

1067
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 1: I never my personality in general, I've never struggled with anxiety, Like,

1068
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:33,520
Speaker 1: thank God, I'm really grateful, But lately I have experienced

1069
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 1: it more and I have decided the way I've handled

1070
00:59:38,720 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: it is let myself acknowledge that it's there, and like

1071
00:59:41,960 --> 00:59:45,400
Speaker 1: acknowledge that it's there and I'm aware of it, and

1072
00:59:45,480 --> 00:59:48,040
Speaker 1: not let it like consume me, try to do things

1073
00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 1: that get me out of that headspace of feeling anxious.

1074
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:53,920
Speaker 1: Whether it's taking a walk or putting my phone down

1075
00:59:54,120 --> 00:59:57,400
Speaker 1: or listening to worship music or whatever. It is, just

1076
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 1: anything to take me out of that mindset or the

1077
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:05,160
Speaker 1: space that's causing that anxiety. But it's interesting about the

1078
01:00:05,160 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 1: desire thing because I always had that mentality. But for me,

1079
01:00:09,400 --> 01:00:13,800
Speaker 1: now I realized that my desires can change. So I

1080
01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:16,280
Speaker 1: always had this expectation of, like, if it's a desire,

1081
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:19,000
Speaker 1: it'll happen, and then when it when it didn't happen,

1082
01:00:19,040 --> 01:00:22,360
Speaker 1: I felt like let down or that I wasn't being

1083
01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 1: looked at, looked after, if that makes sense. So I've

1084
01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:27,960
Speaker 1: kind of realized that your desires of what you want

1085
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 1: can change, and maybe your desires aren't aren't what God's

1086
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 1: plan is for you or what your plan is supposed

1087
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:37,840
Speaker 1: to be. So I agree in like resting in the

1088
01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:41,440
Speaker 1: comfort of like what's happening, what's gonna happen, is going

1089
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:49,920
Speaker 1: to happen and an unrequested piece of advice from me,

1090
01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:52,880
Speaker 1: but no, but it is. It's it's like a total

1091
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:57,280
Speaker 1: mind it's like a it's like a control thing. I

1092
01:00:57,280 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 1: think a lot of anxiety comes from not being able

1093
01:00:59,840 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 1: to control certain things, because a lot of what I

1094
01:01:02,360 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 1: have anxiety about is something that I don't I only

1095
01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 1: control how I handle it totally and sometimes and sometimes

1096
01:01:11,200 --> 01:01:14,040
Speaker 1: that means taking care of yourself. And you know, if

1097
01:01:14,080 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 1: it's to a point where you're um in capacity, what's

1098
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 1: the word of where you work? And can they read

1099
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 1: it in reated like to wear like you can't handle it,

1100
01:01:25,760 --> 01:01:29,959
Speaker 1: like you're you're not able to even functions? Okay, well,

1101
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:32,600
Speaker 1: just don't worry out. I won't use the word I

1102
01:01:32,640 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: was going to use. Um. You know, there's medicine to

1103
01:01:35,640 --> 01:01:38,000
Speaker 1: help you like cope. And I don't think that means

1104
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 1: that you're weak or that you're not doing enough praying

1105
01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: or not relying on God. It just means that you

1106
01:01:42,960 --> 01:01:45,280
Speaker 1: might need a little extra help of balancing things out.

1107
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:50,280
Speaker 1: And that's okay, yeah, all right. And this is an

1108
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:52,560
Speaker 1: anonymous email, She says. My boyfriend and I have been

1109
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 1: dating for seven months, but we've been friends for two

1110
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:57,520
Speaker 1: years before that. His roommate is one of his best

1111
01:01:57,520 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 1: friends and a friend of mine, since we've all been

1112
01:01:59,280 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: in the same friend root for the past two years.

1113
01:02:01,480 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 1: Since my boyfriend and I've been dating his roommate has

1114
01:02:04,280 --> 01:02:06,480
Speaker 1: been making uncomfortable comments to me, and I'm not really

1115
01:02:06,520 --> 01:02:09,320
Speaker 1: sure how to handle it. He'll often take ownership of

1116
01:02:09,320 --> 01:02:12,160
Speaker 1: my relationship. He says, I'm responsible for you guys even

1117
01:02:12,160 --> 01:02:14,920
Speaker 1: being together. He tells me when my boyfriend is not

1118
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 1: around that things my boyfriend does for me were because

1119
01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 1: he told him to do it, And sometimes he'll even

1120
01:02:20,320 --> 01:02:23,360
Speaker 1: go as far as to make inappropriate flirty comments. Every

1121
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 1: time it happens, I try to make light of it

1122
01:02:24,920 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 1: and laugh it off, but then turn him down so

1123
01:02:26,520 --> 01:02:29,240
Speaker 1: he knows it's not appreciated. After a couple of times

1124
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:31,240
Speaker 1: with this and no change, I had a long conversation

1125
01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:33,240
Speaker 1: with my boyfriend about all of it and how it

1126
01:02:33,240 --> 01:02:36,600
Speaker 1: makes me uncomfortable. My boyfriend obviously was upset and said,

1127
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 1: you have a conversation with his roommate, But even after

1128
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:42,640
Speaker 1: their conversation, it's still happening. How should I handle this?

1129
01:02:44,880 --> 01:02:50,200
Speaker 1: First of all, you yeah, yeah, I hate that, because,

1130
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:54,760
Speaker 1: to be honest, a lot of things that happened in relationships,

1131
01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 1: like when you're asking your friends for advice, or like

1132
01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:59,240
Speaker 1: how do I handle this? Like Tanya asked me all

1133
01:02:59,280 --> 01:03:01,800
Speaker 1: the time, how should I handle this because I have

1134
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:05,920
Speaker 1: more of a mentality like red Star and she has

1135
01:03:05,960 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 1: more of a mentality of and it's like we ask

1136
01:03:08,760 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 1: each other how to handle certain things. And I would

1137
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 1: never take responsibility for something I suggested that she did

1138
01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 1: that helped or that worked, or like a gift option.

1139
01:03:18,280 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 1: I would never be like, oh, well you got that

1140
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: because of me. And I think that's such an immature.

1141
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:24,800
Speaker 1: That would be so weird if you like went up

1142
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:26,240
Speaker 1: to him and you're like, yeah, you see that I

1143
01:03:26,280 --> 01:03:32,000
Speaker 1: told her to gay So I, UM, I think that

1144
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: that's very immature, and I think you might have to

1145
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,800
Speaker 1: be a little more direct and assertive of how he's

1146
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:40,600
Speaker 1: making you feel. And I know it, believe me, I

1147
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 1: get how uncomfortable it is to have like that confrontational conversation.

1148
01:03:44,560 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 1: But I think if his friend has had the conversation

1149
01:03:47,760 --> 01:03:49,600
Speaker 1: and he doesn't respect that, I think you need to

1150
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:53,120
Speaker 1: be the one to be like, hey, you know, we're friends,

1151
01:03:53,360 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 1: but I don't feel I don't like you make me

1152
01:03:55,760 --> 01:03:58,800
Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable. I don't I don't like it, and um,

1153
01:03:59,080 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 1: please stop, please stop saying these types of things to me.

1154
01:04:02,360 --> 01:04:06,240
Speaker 1: And unfortunately he has not gotten the hints. So you're

1155
01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:08,920
Speaker 1: going to have to be pretty direct. I think it

1156
01:04:08,960 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 1: sucks that you even have to do that, because can

1157
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:13,720
Speaker 1: you like not hang out with the roommate as much.

1158
01:04:13,720 --> 01:04:15,520
Speaker 1: I'd be like just I think if she's over at

1159
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:20,280
Speaker 1: his house, he's there. Yeah, but that's you know, that's

1160
01:04:20,320 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 1: a certain amount of time. It's not realistic. But yeah,

1161
01:04:24,440 --> 01:04:28,320
Speaker 1: do do y'all have any advice? Mark Easton? Yeah, No,

1162
01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:31,600
Speaker 1: I agree with you completely, Becka. So this guy's got

1163
01:04:31,640 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 1: feelings for you. I think that's really clear to me,

1164
01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,920
Speaker 1: and probably he has for a long time and realizes

1165
01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:39,000
Speaker 1: he missed his opportunity. He knew he should have made

1166
01:04:39,000 --> 01:04:41,320
Speaker 1: a move when you guys were all friends in the

1167
01:04:41,400 --> 01:04:43,720
Speaker 1: years before you and this other guy hooked up. So

1168
01:04:43,800 --> 01:04:45,400
Speaker 1: I think that's what he's thinking is I missed my

1169
01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 1: chance here, and it's not beneath him to try to

1170
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:52,120
Speaker 1: move in on his buddy. He he has such strong

1171
01:04:52,160 --> 01:04:54,680
Speaker 1: feelings for you that if you accepted any of his

1172
01:04:54,840 --> 01:04:57,840
Speaker 1: flirty comments, he'd be into it. He would start a

1173
01:04:57,880 --> 01:05:00,840
Speaker 1: thing with you. He would totally destroy people with this guy,

1174
01:05:00,920 --> 01:05:04,320
Speaker 1: because that's how guys think. They think you know below

1175
01:05:04,360 --> 01:05:07,840
Speaker 1: the belt rather than above. So yes, you have to

1176
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 1: say to him, like as you said, here, you laugh

1177
01:05:11,080 --> 01:05:12,880
Speaker 1: it off and make light of it and then turn

1178
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 1: them down. That's not enough. The fact that you're laughing

1179
01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:17,800
Speaker 1: it off and making light of it is encouraging him.

1180
01:05:18,040 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 1: You gotta say, Okay, knock it off. I don't like it,

1181
01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm uncomfortable with it. Please stop doing that. That's the

1182
01:05:24,320 --> 01:05:26,880
Speaker 1: only way that is ever going to stop. No, it's true.

1183
01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 1: I mean, I think the laughing it off, which is

1184
01:05:28,760 --> 01:05:30,680
Speaker 1: I do that a lot, but I think it it

1185
01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:33,520
Speaker 1: might him mean that you're flirting back because you're not

1186
01:05:33,520 --> 01:05:36,080
Speaker 1: shutting it down. You're just laughing and brushing it off,

1187
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:39,919
Speaker 1: and he feels empowered by that, probably in a way

1188
01:05:39,960 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 1: that you think it's like funny and cute or something.

1189
01:05:43,320 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 1: So um yeah, I I it's gross. Like you know,

1190
01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:53,280
Speaker 1: guys are so weird have like loyalty in a way,

1191
01:05:53,320 --> 01:05:56,440
Speaker 1: but then they're when another girl, when the girls involved,

1192
01:05:56,480 --> 01:05:59,440
Speaker 1: they're very quick to just throw away that loyalty. I

1193
01:05:59,440 --> 01:06:04,280
Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, especially as she said she's seven, Yeah,

1194
01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:08,480
Speaker 1: I feel like that that was a different emailer. The

1195
01:06:08,560 --> 01:06:11,560
Speaker 1: girl was seven. We don't have an age an anonymous.

1196
01:06:12,120 --> 01:06:14,439
Speaker 1: Anonymous is probably in her early twenties. Because I feel

1197
01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:17,800
Speaker 1: like that was like mm hmm. Yeah, that's like the thing,

1198
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:26,760
Speaker 1: the worst, the worst I was thinking. I was thinking

1199
01:06:26,800 --> 01:06:29,080
Speaker 1: about the other day, how um I was reading this

1200
01:06:29,160 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 1: story about a woman who was assaulted or something in

1201
01:06:33,000 --> 01:06:34,600
Speaker 1: one of the comments was like, well, what was she

1202
01:06:34,720 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 1: wearing or something? And I was like, this is so

1203
01:06:37,840 --> 01:06:43,720
Speaker 1: ridiculous that why do women have to deal with men

1204
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:46,479
Speaker 1: who are gross? Like why do we have to change

1205
01:06:46,520 --> 01:06:50,280
Speaker 1: what we're doing so that they don't assault or interact

1206
01:06:50,320 --> 01:06:54,760
Speaker 1: in a way that's offensive or rude. It's like so frustrating.

1207
01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:57,000
Speaker 1: I feel bad for all women that you have to

1208
01:06:57,160 --> 01:07:00,360
Speaker 1: date us and deal with us. Well, there are you know,

1209
01:07:00,440 --> 01:07:04,120
Speaker 1: there's good and there's also women who are inappropriate to totally, totally,

1210
01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:06,800
Speaker 1: totally you know. It's just the fact that there was

1211
01:07:06,840 --> 01:07:09,720
Speaker 1: a comment like that, and it was just kind of like,

1212
01:07:09,800 --> 01:07:12,560
Speaker 1: are you kidding me? Being around men is mostly an

1213
01:07:12,640 --> 01:07:16,000
Speaker 1: unpleasant experience, Like like I'm willing to say that, Like

1214
01:07:16,560 --> 01:07:20,040
Speaker 1: what is just being around men in general? Like spend

1215
01:07:20,120 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 1: time with us, having sex with us, It's all bad.

1216
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:25,440
Speaker 1: I feel bad for women all over the world. No,

1217
01:07:25,640 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 1: it's so it's so interesting because I feel like when

1218
01:07:29,320 --> 01:07:32,000
Speaker 1: um Red Star and I started dating, so like the

1219
01:07:32,080 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 1: first few months you're only dating each other, you're not

1220
01:07:34,280 --> 01:07:36,520
Speaker 1: really bringing each other like around your friends. But so

1221
01:07:36,600 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 1: when it became that time to bring each other around

1222
01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 1: our friends, quarantine happened. So we've kind of delayed that

1223
01:07:42,840 --> 01:07:47,080
Speaker 1: process of like, you know, meeting each other's friends. And

1224
01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 1: it's interesting because I've met really only like two of

1225
01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 1: his guy friends and they're married, so it's probably different.

1226
01:07:55,680 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 1: But I'm like very intrigued to meet the rest because

1227
01:07:58,520 --> 01:08:01,680
Speaker 1: I just find men to just be so like weird

1228
01:08:01,840 --> 01:08:04,760
Speaker 1: and like interesting, you know what I mean, something like

1229
01:08:04,840 --> 01:08:08,840
Speaker 1: so interested to see what his friends are like. Yeah,

1230
01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:11,880
Speaker 1: I mean it will be interesting to see like how

1231
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:14,440
Speaker 1: and how he is around them, you know, see him

1232
01:08:14,480 --> 01:08:21,400
Speaker 1: in his element with his rose rosa, drinking beer. Um,

1233
01:08:21,960 --> 01:08:24,280
Speaker 1: how are y'all good? Everyone was asking how how our

1234
01:08:24,600 --> 01:08:29,679
Speaker 1: relationship update? I'll give him mine after you. Uh, we're good. Actually,

1235
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:35,800
Speaker 1: we're actually really good. I feel like, um, outside circumstances

1236
01:08:36,040 --> 01:08:38,559
Speaker 1: are one thing, but he and I are very solid

1237
01:08:38,880 --> 01:08:40,719
Speaker 1: and it's weird. I was talking to my parents about

1238
01:08:40,720 --> 01:08:42,599
Speaker 1: it the other day because I saw my parents yesterday

1239
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:45,640
Speaker 1: and I was like, I feel like he's more in

1240
01:08:45,720 --> 01:08:48,599
Speaker 1: love with me than ever right now? Have you kind

1241
01:08:48,640 --> 01:08:56,200
Speaker 1: of been like a little more kind of horse, just

1242
01:08:56,320 --> 01:08:59,040
Speaker 1: because I've been very like focused on my happiness, you

1243
01:08:59,080 --> 01:09:01,439
Speaker 1: know what I mean, and just focusing on like who

1244
01:09:01,640 --> 01:09:04,200
Speaker 1: what's adding to this, like stress and anxiety and like

1245
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:05,720
Speaker 1: all that, you know what I mean. So I've really

1246
01:09:05,760 --> 01:09:07,840
Speaker 1: just been hyper focused on that and just focusing on

1247
01:09:08,360 --> 01:09:12,720
Speaker 1: myself and taking care of me. Um. But yeah, so

1248
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:15,320
Speaker 1: we're good. Good. It's yeah, Like you sent me flowers

1249
01:09:15,439 --> 01:09:18,960
Speaker 1: randomly the other day. I was like, oh nice at

1250
01:09:19,000 --> 01:09:22,080
Speaker 1: your anniversary. No, no, just because you're right, what is

1251
01:09:22,120 --> 01:09:24,200
Speaker 1: it tenth my coming up? No, we just had it,

1252
01:09:24,560 --> 01:09:25,880
Speaker 1: but it wasn't it was it wasn't on the day.

1253
01:09:25,920 --> 01:09:28,719
Speaker 1: That was just random flowers. So thinking of you, thinking

1254
01:09:28,760 --> 01:09:30,200
Speaker 1: of you, help these brighten your day. I was like,

1255
01:09:30,439 --> 01:09:35,240
Speaker 1: I remember those days, just flowers galore. Um. Yeah, we're

1256
01:09:35,320 --> 01:09:41,280
Speaker 1: doing well as well. There have been challenges in community.

1257
01:09:41,320 --> 01:09:44,760
Speaker 1: We communicate so differently, and that's been something that we've

1258
01:09:44,800 --> 01:09:48,000
Speaker 1: worked through, you know, since we started dating. So that's

1259
01:09:48,040 --> 01:09:51,440
Speaker 1: been something but we always come out of it understanding

1260
01:09:51,479 --> 01:09:54,080
Speaker 1: each other more, which I think has been really good

1261
01:09:54,160 --> 01:09:57,000
Speaker 1: for me. To have that challenge in the moment I

1262
01:09:57,080 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 1: want to be like, get me out of here, training,

1263
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:03,840
Speaker 1: support me, anywhere but here, but because I hate having

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01:10:03,960 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 1: conversations and communicating and not seeing eye to eye on everything. Um,

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01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:12,400
Speaker 1: but we're good. We're in a good spot. I feel

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Speaker 1: like we're We've gotten, you know, through the thick of

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01:10:15,600 --> 01:10:19,200
Speaker 1: the quarantine days and the you know, work is starting

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01:10:19,280 --> 01:10:23,640
Speaker 1: up again and a little more outside of the home experiences,

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01:10:23,840 --> 01:10:26,160
Speaker 1: which is great even though we don't live together, but

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01:10:26,520 --> 01:10:28,080
Speaker 1: we see each other a lot. You think you're going

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01:10:28,120 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 1: to move in together at some point soon, I don't know.

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01:10:30,360 --> 01:10:32,719
Speaker 1: Part of me is so hesitant about moving in together

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01:10:32,840 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 1: because I've always said I didn't want to, like, well,

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01:10:35,520 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 1: I'm kind of in the process of maybe wanting to

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01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 1: buy a house, and I'm not going to buy a

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01:10:39,280 --> 01:10:41,960
Speaker 1: house with someone unless I'm married or like planning to

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01:10:42,080 --> 01:10:44,439
Speaker 1: marry them or in that, and so we're not there,

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01:10:44,600 --> 01:10:48,320
Speaker 1: and so if I'm going to buy a house, I

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01:10:48,400 --> 01:10:51,639
Speaker 1: don't know. I like having our separate plates. We see

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01:10:51,680 --> 01:10:53,880
Speaker 1: each other pretty much every single day, so it doesn't

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01:10:53,920 --> 01:10:58,880
Speaker 1: feel like there's that thing missing, and we'd probably live

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01:10:59,000 --> 01:11:01,240
Speaker 1: well together. But I don't want to move in just

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01:11:01,360 --> 01:11:05,320
Speaker 1: to save money or you know, just for the reason

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01:11:05,400 --> 01:11:08,160
Speaker 1: that well, no, I mean, but you move in. It's

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01:11:08,160 --> 01:11:10,360
Speaker 1: like the next step. Yeah, but it's like giving up

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01:11:10,439 --> 01:11:14,200
Speaker 1: my space, my independence, and I feel like when you

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01:11:14,280 --> 01:11:18,920
Speaker 1: move in together, there's a sense of like, what's the

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01:11:18,960 --> 01:11:21,840
Speaker 1: point of getting married? Oh you think, oh, so you

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01:11:21,880 --> 01:11:23,840
Speaker 1: don't want to give the cow the milk up for free? Yeah,

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01:11:23,920 --> 01:11:26,240
Speaker 1: it was I couldn't think. That was the first phrase

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01:11:26,280 --> 01:11:28,439
Speaker 1: I think you've ever gotten right the first time. Thank

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01:11:28,479 --> 01:11:30,439
Speaker 1: you so much. I still don't think I got it. No,

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01:11:30,880 --> 01:11:33,960
Speaker 1: you don't give cow's milk. Oh, you don't want to

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01:11:34,000 --> 01:11:36,840
Speaker 1: give the cow's milk for free? The cow's milk for free?

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01:11:37,040 --> 01:11:39,559
Speaker 1: The cow, the cow does give you the milk. Why

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01:11:39,760 --> 01:11:43,879
Speaker 1: buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Shoot?

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01:11:44,040 --> 01:11:48,160
Speaker 1: Oh you don't. Almost very very adjacent. Yeah, but like

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01:11:48,280 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 1: I said, I think everyone has different opinions, and my

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01:11:50,360 --> 01:11:53,439
Speaker 1: my opinion changes often on this. But that's an interesting

1300
01:11:53,560 --> 01:11:57,400
Speaker 1: different that's a different pivot right there. Why Because it's

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01:11:57,439 --> 01:11:59,640
Speaker 1: not like I like my independence. It's like, you're not

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01:11:59,720 --> 01:12:01,400
Speaker 1: going to buy my milk if I'm giving you the

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01:12:01,439 --> 01:12:05,640
Speaker 1: cow for free. Yeah, I mean I'm not that um,

1304
01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:08,880
Speaker 1: what's the word I'm looking for? Like headstrong and that

1305
01:12:09,040 --> 01:12:13,360
Speaker 1: mentality as much as I am just like not there yet. Yeah,

1306
01:12:13,880 --> 01:12:17,479
Speaker 1: but um, I am looking to want to buy a

1307
01:12:17,560 --> 01:12:20,479
Speaker 1: house and it's really defeating in the Los Angeles area.

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01:12:20,760 --> 01:12:23,080
Speaker 1: Don't even get me started. I've been looking at places

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01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,639
Speaker 1: for probably a year at this point. I'm still looking

1310
01:12:25,760 --> 01:12:29,720
Speaker 1: during COVID and it's just like, come on out, come

1311
01:12:29,760 --> 01:12:32,120
Speaker 1: on out, Thousand Oaks. It's a beautiful place to live.

1312
01:12:32,240 --> 01:12:34,840
Speaker 1: Far enough out you get a lot more for your money. Yeah,

1313
01:12:34,920 --> 01:12:37,439
Speaker 1: I mean the amount of space, the amount of money

1314
01:12:37,560 --> 01:12:40,720
Speaker 1: for the amount of space, and the dungeon nous of it.

1315
01:12:40,800 --> 01:12:43,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna pay this much money to

1316
01:12:43,280 --> 01:12:46,920
Speaker 1: live in a dark hole? Like what do you want

1317
01:12:46,960 --> 01:12:48,960
Speaker 1: to know? Okay, this is a good story to end on.

1318
01:12:49,160 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 1: So the other day I was looking at so my

1319
01:12:51,360 --> 01:12:54,160
Speaker 1: dream and this is just a far fetched stream of

1320
01:12:54,280 --> 01:12:57,160
Speaker 1: maybe one day having the opportunity is to live in

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01:12:57,439 --> 01:12:59,680
Speaker 1: Pacific Palisade, which is on the west side of l

1322
01:12:59,720 --> 01:13:02,160
Speaker 1: A at the beach by the water. It's just so

1323
01:13:02,439 --> 01:13:05,559
Speaker 1: cute over there. I can really picture my future there.

1324
01:13:05,640 --> 01:13:10,559
Speaker 1: But I'm on Zillo and I see, uh, cute little

1325
01:13:10,600 --> 01:13:13,920
Speaker 1: apartment condo in my price range over there, and I'm like,

1326
01:13:14,479 --> 01:13:17,720
Speaker 1: are you kidding? Had like an ocean view. I immediately

1327
01:13:17,880 --> 01:13:21,639
Speaker 1: call and I'm like, no windows, no, no, no, there's

1328
01:13:21,680 --> 01:13:25,720
Speaker 1: like light and everything, and she says, yeah, it's um

1329
01:13:26,120 --> 01:13:28,840
Speaker 1: it's a pre manufactured home. I had no idea what

1330
01:13:28,920 --> 01:13:31,360
Speaker 1: this was, so I was like, okay, no idea what

1331
01:13:31,439 --> 01:13:35,920
Speaker 1: this is. Google it. It's a mobile home community, which

1332
01:13:36,120 --> 01:13:39,479
Speaker 1: I have nothing against, except the amount of money that

1333
01:13:39,560 --> 01:13:42,360
Speaker 1: I would be paying, literally for essentially a plot of

1334
01:13:42,520 --> 01:13:46,320
Speaker 1: land was insane. It's just land. You have to bring

1335
01:13:46,360 --> 01:13:48,680
Speaker 1: your own, like mobile home. It's the mobile homes there,

1336
01:13:48,720 --> 01:13:50,640
Speaker 1: but the mobile home comes with it. But do you know,

1337
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:54,600
Speaker 1: like to live? To spend that much money on a

1338
01:13:54,680 --> 01:13:57,639
Speaker 1: home with the earthquakes here and everything, I just could.

1339
01:13:57,760 --> 01:14:01,360
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I just And then I

1340
01:14:01,479 --> 01:14:05,120
Speaker 1: look at land outside of California and I'm like, oh,

1341
01:14:05,479 --> 01:14:12,800
Speaker 1: she's tempting. You can't move from here. It's not funny.

1342
01:14:16,439 --> 01:14:21,280
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, our brows brows other places. Stop that

1343
01:14:21,439 --> 01:14:25,880
Speaker 1: browsing brows. Ride on over the ride on over Laurel Canyon. Okay,

1344
01:14:26,120 --> 01:14:29,200
Speaker 1: it's as far as you can go, you said, Pacific Palisades.

1345
01:14:29,240 --> 01:14:31,800
Speaker 1: I was like, that's a thirty forty minute drive from here.

1346
01:14:32,000 --> 01:14:36,200
Speaker 1: I know, it's so beautiful over there. No one day. Um, well,

1347
01:14:36,280 --> 01:14:38,400
Speaker 1: we love you guys, thank you for being with us

1348
01:14:38,479 --> 01:14:41,400
Speaker 1: for three years and supporting us. And don't just brush

1349
01:14:41,479 --> 01:14:44,040
Speaker 1: this on. You're not moving out of the state like

1350
01:14:44,160 --> 01:14:47,559
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I would love to keep a place here,

1351
01:14:48,520 --> 01:14:54,280
Speaker 1: keep a place here, not a rental one, a studio

1352
01:14:54,400 --> 01:14:58,640
Speaker 1: rental here. I could just do with you. You're not

1353
01:14:58,840 --> 01:15:01,160
Speaker 1: moving from here. I could stay with you when I

1354
01:15:01,280 --> 01:15:04,840
Speaker 1: come in down to recruit the podcast weekly. Would you

1355
01:15:04,920 --> 01:15:08,000
Speaker 1: do that? No, I'd probably do it. Ramme in my

1356
01:15:09,000 --> 01:15:12,719
Speaker 1: home that I build my dream home. I'm just kidding.

1357
01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:15,439
Speaker 1: I'm kind of kidding. I'm kind of kidding. But it's

1358
01:15:15,840 --> 01:15:18,360
Speaker 1: you don't look at other places and see what people

1359
01:15:18,439 --> 01:15:20,920
Speaker 1: that are like building homes are like moving into homes

1360
01:15:20,960 --> 01:15:25,400
Speaker 1: and remodeling and it cost half of what you're able

1361
01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 1: to pay here for like a shoe box. No, because

1362
01:15:28,320 --> 01:15:31,120
Speaker 1: I love Los Angeles. I know you and Mark on

1363
01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:34,240
Speaker 1: the East and just love Los Angeles and everything that

1364
01:15:34,320 --> 01:15:40,880
Speaker 1: comes with it. Well, I do. I enjoy the city,

1365
01:15:40,960 --> 01:15:42,360
Speaker 1: but I also loved getting out of the city and

1366
01:15:42,400 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 1: getting a place out here where it's suburban and it

1367
01:15:44,520 --> 01:15:47,120
Speaker 1: feels like the small towns where I grew up. That's

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01:15:47,160 --> 01:15:48,800
Speaker 1: what I love about l As we can still be

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01:15:48,840 --> 01:15:51,479
Speaker 1: close to everything and all that's happening. We're close to

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01:15:51,520 --> 01:15:54,200
Speaker 1: the ocean, we're close to snow, we're close to whatever

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01:15:54,280 --> 01:15:56,240
Speaker 1: we need. But we're also in a lovely little suburban

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01:15:56,280 --> 01:15:59,280
Speaker 1: neighborhood where the kids are safe. I mean, that's that's

1373
01:15:59,280 --> 01:16:01,760
Speaker 1: where I'm at now, in beautiful let small town in

1374
01:16:01,920 --> 01:16:05,439
Speaker 1: Rovia when it's not burning to the ground. But normally

1375
01:16:05,520 --> 01:16:08,880
Speaker 1: it's very nice over here. L A isn't just studio city.

1376
01:16:08,920 --> 01:16:11,080
Speaker 1: You gotta explore a little bit in the Palisades. I mean,

1377
01:16:11,160 --> 01:16:14,120
Speaker 1: come on, yeah, that's I'm saying. Okay, the Palisades I

1378
01:16:14,200 --> 01:16:17,160
Speaker 1: had I hadn't even thought about realistically doing that right now,

1379
01:16:17,240 --> 01:16:21,120
Speaker 1: but then I just was, you know, shopping, browsing. And

1380
01:16:21,360 --> 01:16:23,519
Speaker 1: I'm fine with you living off the four or five

1381
01:16:23,600 --> 01:16:28,080
Speaker 1: somewhere that's the four oh five. Is that freeway that

1382
01:16:28,160 --> 01:16:31,200
Speaker 1: goes the one on one the west Lake, And like, no,

1383
01:16:32,240 --> 01:16:33,800
Speaker 1: I'm off the one the one on one. I'm sorry,

1384
01:16:34,280 --> 01:16:35,920
Speaker 1: the one on one. I'm far fine with you living

1385
01:16:35,960 --> 01:16:38,640
Speaker 1: somewhere off the one on one. How far are you

1386
01:16:38,680 --> 01:16:41,280
Speaker 1: from the studio, Mark, I can get there in thirty

1387
01:16:41,320 --> 01:16:46,559
Speaker 1: eight minutes without traffic. Fine, you can do that. That's okay.

1388
01:16:47,000 --> 01:16:51,840
Speaker 1: We'll talk about this. Um anyways, We love you guys.

1389
01:16:52,200 --> 01:16:54,799
Speaker 1: Thank you for being with us for three whole years.

1390
01:16:54,920 --> 01:16:58,960
Speaker 1: I literally can't believe that, um this has grown into

1391
01:16:59,040 --> 01:17:02,680
Speaker 1: what it has grown in too, and I'm eternally grateful. You.

1392
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:05,680
Speaker 1: Can't wait to do live shows again. I can't wait

1393
01:17:05,760 --> 01:17:08,120
Speaker 1: to do meet and greets again. I just can't wait

1394
01:17:08,160 --> 01:17:12,519
Speaker 1: to see you guys again. Like, uh, I think I'm drunk.

1395
01:17:12,880 --> 01:17:14,760
Speaker 1: Oh no, I was just gonna say, your eyes got

1396
01:17:14,880 --> 01:17:19,320
Speaker 1: so glassy? Really? Um Okay, we love you guys, and

1397
01:17:19,680 --> 01:17:21,600
Speaker 1: we will see you next week. I'm gonna keep the

1398
01:17:21,640 --> 01:17:23,360
Speaker 1: party going over here with the rat pad