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Speaker 1: for our show, Guys, What Up? Welcome to episode nine

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Speaker 1: find your purpose, UM, someone asked me on those Instagram stories,

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Speaker 1: how conscious do you need to be to realize your

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Speaker 1: God given purpose? That's from j Can Honeybean. How conscious

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00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 1: do you need to be to realize your God given purpose? Um?

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Speaker 1: Both vary and also not very I think the thing

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Speaker 1: about purpose again with it being that that being that

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Speaker 1: is constantly evolving and taking new shape. I mean, there's

436
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: so much opportunity for so many different versions of it.

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00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: So you can absolutely, even at the bare bones level

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Speaker 1: of your growth, be exhibiting pieces of your purpose in

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Speaker 1: the way in which they're available to you in that

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Speaker 1: moment um and then as you expand that and you

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00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: grow and you become more of who you've always been, UM,

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Speaker 1: you get to really tackle maybe some bigger service projects.

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00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 1: You get to tackle bigger ways and bigger vessels for

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Speaker 1: you to use that. UM. So, I think at whatever

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Speaker 1: stage you're in in your growth, you absolutely have an

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Speaker 1: incredible amount of all you and worthiness within which to

447
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Speaker 1: display your purpose. Another question that I got in that

448
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: same vein was how do you find your purpose in life?

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00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 1: I'm having a hard time finding mine. That's from at

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Speaker 1: Beautiful to four seven seven. This actually reminds me one

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00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: of my dear girlfriends who I know is listening to

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Speaker 1: this episode right now. I'm not going to call her

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00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 1: out by name, but I know she's going to know

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00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 1: who she is and text me when she hears this. UM.

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Speaker 1: You know, she had she had listened to one of

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Speaker 1: my other episodes, and she at texts me and she said,

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Speaker 1: you know, I just don't know what's wrong with me

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Speaker 1: because I have been spending the whole last few months

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00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: trying to figure out my purpose and I just haven't

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00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: figured it out yet. I don't know what's wrong with me. Um,

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Speaker 1: And I just want to bring back to what I

462
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Speaker 1: said earlier. You know, more than likely you are already

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Speaker 1: living a great deal of your life in purpose and

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Speaker 1: on purpose. You're just not giving yourself the credit for it.

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Speaker 1: And you're also thinking of purpose as a destination. You're

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Speaker 1: going to be arriving at your thinking of purpose in

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Speaker 1: terms of it being a job title. So because maybe

468
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Speaker 1: you didn't find the gig or the career or the

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00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: job that you can now stand in and say, yes,

470
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Speaker 1: this is my purpose, Um, then you think you failed.

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Speaker 1: Well new splash. The majority of the world, not just America,

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Speaker 1: but if we look at the scope of the world,

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Speaker 1: who's really doing that anyway? You know, Like, who's really

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Speaker 1: having these gigantic lives, um, where they're getting paid to

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Speaker 1: quote unquote being their purpose? I mean stop it be

476
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Speaker 1: way more gentle with yourself, you know. And and for her,

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00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 1: it's kind of like from outside looking in on her life,

478
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Speaker 1: I see this brilliant, incredible, like deeply empathetic woman who

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Speaker 1: serves as such a pillar of strength to not only

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Speaker 1: her own family, her husband and her kids, but a

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Speaker 1: pillar of strength to her friendship. She is one of

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Speaker 1: the most thoughtful people that I've ever met. She has

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00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 1: a hundred percent um strengthened me as a friend, been

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00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:08,959
Speaker 1: been so supportive. She's one of those people that when

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00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: you know her, you feel seen, you feel heard, you

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00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: feel valued. And I'm like, girl, that's that's you standing

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00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 1: in your purpose. Whatever you do, You're already sharing your

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Speaker 1: purpose with so many people. Which leads me to another

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Speaker 1: question I got from at Carlita Durand she her question

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Speaker 1: to me, was you mentioned serving quote unquote a lot.

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Speaker 1: What does that exactly mean? So serving was one of

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Speaker 1: my favorite words, UM that I begin using in kind

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Speaker 1: of my more spiritual vocabulary. UM. I specifically use it

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Speaker 1: in terms of you've probably seen online me saying like

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Speaker 1: you know, UM, I make choices that are the most

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Speaker 1: serving to me. So there's a big difference between I

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00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: make good choices, or I make good choices for myself,

498
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: or this is the best choice or option for me,

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00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: and I have serving choices. I'm making serving decisions. Serving

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00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 1: is not necessarily equated with like the best option, but

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00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: it is the most soul satisfying option. Right. So if

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00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 1: I'm making if I'm saying I made the best choice,

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00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: that's more like ego line. That's more me talking about

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00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 1: my human experience and how that choice is going to

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00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:30,479
Speaker 1: benefit me as a person in the world. Right, the

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Speaker 1: most serving choice is what fills my soul. It is

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Speaker 1: the choice that is the most spiritually beneficial to me,

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00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: and the choice that is the most beneficial to not

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Speaker 1: just myself but all those that are connected to me. So,

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Speaker 1: when you do things based from a space of thinking,

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Speaker 1: is this serving me? It's not is this rewarding me?

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Speaker 1: You know, it's this really serving what my soul needs

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00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: and desires. Is it really serving to help me ascend

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Speaker 1: to the best version of myself? Or is it serving

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Speaker 1: me in a way that helps this situation ascend to

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Speaker 1: the best possible outcome for those involved? So that's kind

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Speaker 1: of like the way that I think of that term

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Speaker 1: and the way that I use that term. So right now,

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Speaker 1: if you've been listening to the show and you are

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00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 1: feeling like a girl, I still don't know what the

521
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: hell are you talking about? Or I still don't know

522
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: what my damn purposes? Um again, that's completely fine. But

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00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: here here's some really like tangible ways to start diving

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Speaker 1: into that. Okay, A really important component about finding your

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00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: purpose and standing in your purpose is connecting with your

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Speaker 1: intuition and tapping into the things that are inherent to

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Speaker 1: you and the things that flow through you with effortless ease.

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Speaker 1: That is the real, real route of the way to

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Speaker 1: find what your gifts are. Because if if you were

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Speaker 1: listening to the show earlier and you're like, well, I

531
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 1: don't know what my gifts are. I mean I don't

532
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 1: I can't sing, I can't dance. What is my gift? Well,

533
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 1: I can't do either of those things either. That's why

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00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,800
Speaker 1: when I listed my gifts, you know, it's I really

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00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:24,839
Speaker 1: listed for you, guys. The things that come really naturally

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00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 1: to me, that are in that are inherent facets of

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00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:33,799
Speaker 1: my character, that are are inherent facets of who I

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00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 1: am no matter what I'm doing, and and facets of

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00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 1: who I've always been. Um. There are also things that

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00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:45,120
Speaker 1: come really deeply easy to me. Communication. It's always been

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00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:48,320
Speaker 1: so easy to me. Um, That's what I always excelled

542
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Speaker 1: at in school. You know, even I think I was

543
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,760
Speaker 1: in first grade and I was reading a twelfth grade

544
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 1: level or something. I got tested for something, right, Because

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00:34:55,560 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 1: I loved to communicate, and I loved to be curious

546
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 1: about everything in the world. You know, I'm curious about

547
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 1: myself and I'm curious about the world, and those are

548
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 1: two of my superpowers. So I absolutely identify those things

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00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 1: as vessels for my purpose and pieces of my purpose puzzle.

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00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 1: So think of it in terms of that, you know, Um,

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00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 1: what are the things that are so effortless to you?

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00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 1: I I and even start looking at, you know, some

553
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 1: some things in childhood that maybe you haven't paid attention to.

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00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 1: You know, I've always been someone that I think, when

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00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: I'm my most balanced, UM, give really good advice, you know.

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00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: I I've naturally always been more of a counselor to

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00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 1: people in my life, and not because I know everything,

558
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 1: but just for whatever reason, that's how my soul connects

559
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: with other people. You know. UM, I think back to

560
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 1: I was in daycare when I was in elementary school,

561
00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: and one of the daycare teachers asked me for advice

562
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 1: about her man, which now is crazy because no adult

563
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 1: better be talking to my child about their man problems.

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00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: But you know, I think that just really spoke to

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00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 1: someone's comfortability with me and relatability with me, and just

566
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: interest on what my perspective could be. UM. And so

567
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: look back at things like that, you know, what, what

568
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 1: are things that just kind of kept stumbling your way

569
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:27,439
Speaker 1: or coming out of you really effortlessly that you do well.

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00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: You know, some people are master motivators. Some people are

571
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: so exceptional about helping other people see themselves. That's purpose.

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00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 1: You can do any job and be in and on

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00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 1: purpose with that gift, you know, with that ability. So

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00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 1: really spend some time connecting with your intuition. You know,

575
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 1: it's really important that before you buy every single course online,

576
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 1: before you go to every single empowerment brunch, which are

577
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: awesome tools, but they don't work if you don't work.

578
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 1: You know, before you do all of that, before you

579
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 1: expend all this money trying to get someone else to

580
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 1: guide you and lead you to the truth about yourself,

581
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:14,360
Speaker 1: consider taking some time with you being more connected and

582
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 1: grounded in yourself, you know, valuing yourself more, loving yourself more,

583
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 1: accepting yourself more, and slowly uncovering and unlayering those pieces

584
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 1: of you that stand out that are so uniquely you,

585
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 1: that have benefited the people in your life in some

586
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:32,880
Speaker 1: way or another. You know, you don't have to have

587
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,840
Speaker 1: a lot of money to be generous of spirit. You

588
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: don't have to have a bunch of opportunities or things

589
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 1: um to serve other people, Like, what are ways in

590
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: which you have really helped people that don't include money,

591
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 1: or that don't include job perks, or that don't include,

592
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:56,240
Speaker 1: you know, something physically tangible. Are you a great listener?

593
00:37:56,440 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: Are you somebody that you know is great at helping

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00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:05,359
Speaker 1: people unlock themselves? Um? Are you somebody that is just

595
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 1: kind of naturally a safe place for others? Like? That's purpose?

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00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 1: You know. Another great way to access that too, if

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00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 1: if you're still kind of feeling like, you know, I'm

598
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 1: not centered enough is ask people that know you, Ask

599
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 1: people that you trust and admire. Don't just ask anybody,

600
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,800
Speaker 1: don't just allow any and everybody input into your life,

601
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 1: but definitely tap into people that you trust and that

602
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: you admire for help people that know you and see you.

603
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: I'm sure you would be shocked and surprised at some

604
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,360
Speaker 1: of the things that these people have to share with

605
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 1: you about yourself. You know, sometimes we're we're way too

606
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 1: hard on ourselves, We're way too biased to see ourselves

607
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,319
Speaker 1: clearly and in real time, and it is important and

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00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 1: necessary for us to kind of concede to a deeper understanding.

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00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 1: Someone else may have some kind of intuitive input that

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00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 1: they can have into our lives. So I would really

611
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: really strongly suggest you go that route too. And for

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00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,840
Speaker 1: those that are listening right now that are really really

613
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 1: serious and committed to either finding your purpose or activating it,

614
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 1: standing deeper inside of what you already know to be

615
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:21,360
Speaker 1: your purpose, whichever whichever place you kind of fall on

616
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 1: that tree. Something that is truly a non negotiable to

617
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:31,759
Speaker 1: that is developing your spiritual practice. It's really connecting with yourself,

618
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 1: getting to know yourself deeper, accepting all of the aspects

619
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 1: of who you are, the light and the dark, you know,

620
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: the shadow parts you don't want people to know about,

621
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,919
Speaker 1: and the best parts that you want everyone to see.

622
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 1: It's really embracing all the sides of yourself and and

623
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Speaker 1: committing yourself to to a very serving daily practice, you know,

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00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 1: and daily practice, your daily spiritual practice. It doesn't by

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00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: that personally. I don't mean like, you know, you have

626
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Speaker 1: to be in church every day, or you know you

627
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: have to do all these really grand, grandiose rituals um

628
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: for me my spiritual practice. And I've done this on

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Speaker 1: i G t V before, So if you're on my

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00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 1: Instagram at Debbie Brown, one of the videos is me

631
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Speaker 1: going over what my daily spiritual practices. UM. But for me,

632
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Speaker 1: that looks like meditation. Meditation is my gateway drug. To me,

633
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: it is the most important part of my spiritual development,

634
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:32,280
Speaker 1: That ability to get quiet and get still, that ability

635
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:39,239
Speaker 1: to stop asking and trying to interpret and rationalizing and

636
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,840
Speaker 1: all of the things, and being able to just let God,

637
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 1: let the universe download into me, input into me, you know, UM, meditation.

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Speaker 1: I do a lot of affirmations throughout my day. The

639
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:54,799
Speaker 1: affirmation I created for myself for this season in my

640
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 1: life is I am a precious child of God living

641
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 1: in the mastery of my most loving and authentic self,

642
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 1: exercising joyful discipline and leading from my soul's center. So

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that again. I'm a precious child of

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Speaker 1: authentic self, exercising joyful discipline and leading from my soul's center.

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Speaker 1: That is affirmation I wrote just for me. If you

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Speaker 1: want to use it, please feel free. But that is

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Speaker 1: something I say to myself throughout the day. I have

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Speaker 1: it taped on the mirror in my bathroom. I start

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Speaker 1: my day with it, in my day with it. Whenever

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Speaker 1: I happen to pass by that bathroom at another point.

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Speaker 1: You know, throughout the day I say it, I stop,

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Speaker 1: I take a deep breath while I look at it.

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Speaker 1: And the way that that has subtly worked in my

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Speaker 1: life has been indescribable. You know. It's it's really all

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Speaker 1: of those little steps that make you who you are,

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Speaker 1: those little steps that are your unlocking and not the

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Speaker 1: grand gestures. You know. Um, I have that affirmation up

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Speaker 1: the thing that I say in my life, the moment

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Speaker 1: I wake up, before I get out of the bed

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Speaker 1: to go to the restroom, before I brush my teeth,

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Speaker 1: before I scroll, I start every day and I look up,

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Speaker 1: even on my most tired days, I look up with

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Speaker 1: a smile and I say, thank you God for my son,

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Speaker 1: thank you God for my family, thank you God for

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Speaker 1: my friends, thank you God for my life. I say

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Speaker 1: that all my best days. I say that all my

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Speaker 1: worst days. But that has really helped to cultivate a

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Speaker 1: lot of extra gratitude in my life. Finding daily joys

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Speaker 1: has become a part of my spiritual practice, identifying small

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Speaker 1: moments of joy that make me smile or make me

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Speaker 1: feel peace, um, and just appreciating them in real time.

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Speaker 1: And really taking a moment to notice them. That has

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Speaker 1: become a huge part of my spiritual practice. I'm a

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Speaker 1: big reader. I'm a big for lack of a better word,

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Speaker 1: like do good or like I like to reach out

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Speaker 1: to people. I like to do special things for people

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Speaker 1: that I care about on a daily basis in some

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Speaker 1: kind of way. Um, those are all parts of my

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Speaker 1: spiritual practice. But more than just giving me something to

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Speaker 1: do every day, those are all tools that have helped

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Speaker 1: me further unlock and deepen what my purposes and become

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Speaker 1: the most authentic version of myself. I would also say,

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Speaker 1: and and if you have a pen and paper nearby,

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Speaker 1: please I really want you to write these down. If

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Speaker 1: you are trying to figure out what your purposes or

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Speaker 1: again to stand more deeply inside of it. Here are

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Speaker 1: some great self inquiry questions to ask yourself and to

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Speaker 1: share with God. One of them is, God, please show

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Speaker 1: me my next step. If you have the job of

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Speaker 1: your dreams or if you're searching for a better one.

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Speaker 1: If you are trying to figure it out, do not

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Speaker 1: look up at that mountain and feel defeated. Get God involved,

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Speaker 1: but not in a way that it's you dictating to

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Speaker 1: him what you want your comes to be. He has

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Speaker 1: to lead you, he has to be in control. So say, God,

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Speaker 1: please show me my next step. Another one that I

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Speaker 1: think is really great if you're on your journey to

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Speaker 1: really figuring out who you are, or to loving all

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Speaker 1: of who you are, to being at peace and an

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Speaker 1: acceptance of who you are. God, please show me the

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Speaker 1: truth of who I am. That's probably one of the

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Speaker 1: most powerful things that you can say on your road

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Speaker 1: to purpose, that you can really say to yourself and

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Speaker 1: your mind and also outloud to the universe several times

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Speaker 1: throughout the day. Write this down, God, please show me

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Speaker 1: the truth of who I am. We play so many

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Speaker 1: expectations on God in the universe. While on one hand,

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Speaker 1: I do think it's really important to be as specific

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Speaker 1: as possible when you're creating your vision, to write out,

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Speaker 1: you know, line by line, all the ways in which

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Speaker 1: you want things to happen. I want the car, I

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Speaker 1: want the house, I wanted this, putting the pictures up.

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Speaker 1: All of that is amazing, But we also have to

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Speaker 1: be really clear that some of the things that we

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Speaker 1: want for us are not the things that are for us.

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Speaker 1: And usually there is so much more There's so much

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Speaker 1: more depth that God wants to offer to you. There's

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Speaker 1: so many more gifts an opportunity that God wants to

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Speaker 1: offer to you that we limit by creating the full

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Speaker 1: terms of our agreements with this life. So God, please

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Speaker 1: show me the truth of who I am and be

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Speaker 1: in full acceptance of whatever is revealed to you. Because

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Speaker 1: with saying that, it is such a powerful unlocking, and

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Speaker 1: it is such a powerful catalyst for transformational growth in

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Speaker 1: your life because it can be many things. It can

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Speaker 1: be God showing you the great pieces of you that

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Speaker 1: you are not looking at. And it can also be

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Speaker 1: God showing you your darkness so you can see yourself

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Speaker 1: with full eyes, you know, and and both of those

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Speaker 1: things are necessary for you to become the next evolution

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Speaker 1: of whoever you're meant to be. So those two things

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Speaker 1: one more time, where God please show me my next step.

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Speaker 1: Say that with me. God, please show me my next step.

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Speaker 1: God please show me the truth of who I am.

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Speaker 1: Say that with me, God, please show me the truth

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Speaker 1: of who I am. Yeah, I'm still here. I just

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Speaker 1: want to take a second and really create some space

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Speaker 1: after invoking that energy for us. All right, I have

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Speaker 1: some homework for you. I want you to go on

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Speaker 1: my I G t v s on my Instagram at

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Speaker 1: Debbie Brown, and there's two videos I want you to watch.

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Speaker 1: Both of them are nine minutes. Each one of them

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Speaker 1: is me going over my daily spiritual practice. The next

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Speaker 1: one is five Books to read for spiritual Growth. I

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Speaker 1: go over five of my current favorite books that I

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Speaker 1: think you'll really dig. I think it'll really add some

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Speaker 1: new layers of discovery for yourself that you can really

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Speaker 1: utilize on this journey to purpose. Also a great DVD.

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Speaker 1: I don't know all the places this is available. I

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Speaker 1: have it on iTunes. I also have it on DVD,

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Speaker 1: even though I don't have a DVD player anymore. Um,

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Speaker 1: but it's it's a movie that I watched long, long,

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Speaker 1: long time ago that I think really beautifully expresses and

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Speaker 1: illustrates what the true meaning of a life purposes. And

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Speaker 1: the movie is called Finding Joe. Finding Joe, it's a

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Speaker 1: documentary about the teachings of Joseph Campbell. Now, Joseph Campbell

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Speaker 1: was many things. Um theologist, he was a I meant God,

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Speaker 1: just a researcher on all the belief systems and all

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Speaker 1: of time, and in a lot of his teachings, he

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Speaker 1: has identified what he considers to be the purpose of life,

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Speaker 1: like the very real purpose of why we're even here,

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Speaker 1: the point of it all. UM. And it's also a

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Speaker 1: common thread that he had identified in every story ever

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Speaker 1: told and in every religion ever believed and followed. UM.

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Speaker 1: And it's it's this thing that he has identified, UM,

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Speaker 1: that I think can aid everybody really greatly in their purpose.

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Speaker 1: It's called the hero's journey. That's the thing that's the

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Speaker 1: common tie, the commonality in every story ever told and

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Speaker 1: every religion ever followed, UM, the Hero's Journey. And so

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Speaker 1: it's a really beautiful, beautiful movie. A lot of incredible

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Speaker 1: thought leaders are in this document, Nry. It's about ninety minutes.

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Speaker 1: Watch it, Watch it with your spouse, watch it with

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Speaker 1: your kids. It's really really beautiful no matter what background

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Speaker 1: you are. UM, this is not trying to change your

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Speaker 1: beliefs in any way. This is more so just highlighting

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Speaker 1: some of the beauty and what your beliefs are in

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Speaker 1: a way that is more applicable to you. So that

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Speaker 1: is called finding Joe. It might be on a streaming service,

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Speaker 1: but I do know for shorts on iTunes. So try

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Speaker 1: to rent or buy it there um and you won't

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Speaker 1: regret it. And if you check it out, please let

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Speaker 1: me know. So I hope this episode turned out okay.

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Speaker 1: I had a good time recording it. Um, it was

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Speaker 1: interesting to me. Uh yeah. So the pressures of purpose.

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Speaker 1: In closing, I just really want to say, please, please,

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Speaker 1: please be gentle with yourself. Um, do not use purpose,

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Speaker 1: the idea of purpose, in the same way that you

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Speaker 1: are using your Instagram, which is as a tool of comparison. Okay,

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Speaker 1: not all purpose has to be grant in the way

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Speaker 1: that is quantifiable by likes or by curated perception. Please

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Speaker 1: know and believe that because of the truth of the

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Speaker 1: matter is that's not everybody's mission in this life. Everybody's

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Speaker 1: mission in this life is not to be world famous

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Speaker 1: or super rich or whatever else you know society glorifies.

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Speaker 1: We are all here to learn and to be and

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Speaker 1: to do different things. But none of those things are

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Speaker 1: greater than another person's or better than another person's. We

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Speaker 1: just have to stop looking at our own growth and

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Speaker 1: our own lives through the very warped perspective of American society.

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Speaker 1: You will cause your own suffering if you do that.

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Speaker 1: You have to find the beauty and whatever your life

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Speaker 1: is in this moment, and whatever cards you were dealt,

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Speaker 1: whatever hands you're playing. All right, I gotta go before

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Speaker 1: Quest week, So I love y'all of peace. Big thank

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Speaker 1: you for listening to this episode of The Dropping Gym's podcast.

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Speaker 1: This show is executive produced by Adrian Scott and me

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Speaker 1: Debbie Brown. Our theme music was created by producer Day one,

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Speaker 1: and the poem that you heard at the beginning of

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Speaker 1: the show, well that was created especially for us by

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Speaker 1: award winning poet and Namie ok four. If you have

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