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Speaker 1: This is the Fresh Show. Dame is taking over Las

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Speaker 1: to the January twenty fifth show to night Hotel State

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Speaker 1: and round trip airfare. Text tattoo to three seven three

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Speaker 2: When you can.

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Speaker 1: I guess I'm pretty glad.

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Speaker 3: That's sure.

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Speaker 1: Hello, you said she's.

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Speaker 4: Scared at me.

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Speaker 1: I'm mean, I don't see what she sees from. Maybe

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Speaker 1: it's because.

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Speaker 2: Somewhere we not come.

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Speaker 5: Well, I grew up in a house that was haunted,

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Speaker 5: and no one told me that, like until the ghost

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Speaker 5: mess with me.

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Speaker 6: It shows brouh, you're never going to with the ghost

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Speaker 6: like they're real to share our space.

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Speaker 1: Brid show is what is the you're doing? The fat

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Speaker 1: seventy five? What is it? The hard seventy five?

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Speaker 5: Oh god, seventy five hard?

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Speaker 6: Well there's different versions, right, there's soft, medium and hard.

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Speaker 5: I discovered this yesterday. Wait what yesterday?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah? Why would I? Why would I do seventy

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Speaker 1: five to get soft.

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Speaker 7: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I would do seventy five to get hard, I guess,

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Speaker 1: but I wouldn't do seventy five to get I already

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Speaker 1: am yeah, same, I am soft medium, So I'm not

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Speaker 1: trying to get soft. I mean the seventy five soft

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Speaker 1: he's going to culverts every day or something like or

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Speaker 1: you know wherever eating MC nuggets every day. That's the

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Speaker 1: seventy five soft exactly.

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Speaker 6: And I didn't know that because I got the app.

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Speaker 6: So I guess you could you like I said hard

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Speaker 6: or soft, but I guess just means like how intense

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Speaker 6: do you want.

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Speaker 8: This to be?

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Speaker 1: So think it was like the outcome of your body? No, no,

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Speaker 1: I mean it's some hard means that the hard you

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Speaker 1: would be, like Tiki has more issues with restaurants. And

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Speaker 1: you know what's interesting is I do too, Okay. And

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Speaker 1: so it's funny that you you brought this up this

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Speaker 1: morning because I've noticed something too. It happened to me yesterday.

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Speaker 1: But you go first, So your latest this isn't this

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Speaker 1: actually isn't the latest grape You've had this grape before

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Speaker 1: about going out to you?

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Speaker 9: Oh yes, And it happened this weekend again, which like,

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Speaker 9: we got to do something about this.

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 9: We have to free our waiters from these long scripts

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Speaker 9: about whatever we're ordering and the history of the restaurant

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Speaker 9: and the history of the building and the history of America.

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Speaker 9: I don't want to hear it. I just want to order,

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Speaker 9: and I'm not trying. Like, Kaylen, you would be very

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Speaker 9: proud of me. I sat there, I gave I've made

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Speaker 9: eye contact for forty five Miraca, little student, Yeah, for

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Speaker 9: tive minutes while I learned about the history of the cow.

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Speaker 1: I was about to eat, and I'm just like, why

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Speaker 1: are you doing this?

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Speaker 9: Like I know you don't want to do this, and

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Speaker 9: I don't want you to do this, so like, why

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Speaker 9: are we doing this?

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Speaker 1: I learned about this on Bar Rescue. John Taffer tell

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Speaker 1: me about this. The reason they do that is about

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Speaker 1: perceived value. So like if they sit there and talk

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Speaker 1: to you about the cow from where the steaks came from,

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Speaker 1: and they give you like a twenty minute spiel about

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Speaker 1: how they're the only people in the world and have

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Speaker 1: access to these magic cows that came from Jupiter, and

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Speaker 1: they fly down on a space ship that bushets to

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Speaker 1: you that can't get on and they come down from

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Speaker 1: space and they're so tender because they've never actually been

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Speaker 1: in gravity before or whatever. Whatever the story is. It

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Speaker 1: makes you think that whatever the price is is more worthwhile.

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Speaker 1: So then when they charge you seventy bucks for a steak,

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Speaker 1: you're like, well, I mean it's you know, it's Mars Prime.

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Speaker 1: You know nobody else has that Mars Prime meat or whatever, like.

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Speaker 9: I love you, but I don't care. I just want

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Speaker 9: to eat. And then like she would come back and

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Speaker 9: she was we would be in a deep conversation with

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Speaker 9: the people at the table and she was like, you know,

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Speaker 9: excuse me. Okay, so you wanted the girl, but let

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Speaker 9: me tell you about the garlic butter. It was turned

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Speaker 9: by somebody's grandma in nineteen seventy two weeks, hold on

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Speaker 9: it until you came in here today. And now we

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Speaker 3: I don't care, write some garlic butter and the butter

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Speaker 1: That's why, see it is.

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Speaker 9: It's so, I mean, we got we gotta wrap it up. Man,

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Speaker 9: word economy, bro please. Well, I went to this restaurant

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Speaker 1: I went by myself because I'm I'm traveling and I

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Speaker 1: went as his restaurant and my friends like, you gotta

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Speaker 1: go there and Shood at the bar and like order,

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Speaker 1: you know, the taco's there, and then whatever. So I'm

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Speaker 1: so then I'm like, I'm gonna go. So I went

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Speaker 1: and I'm eating or Ifood didn't come yet. I got

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Speaker 1: the beer, I guess, and I took a picture of it.

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Speaker 1: And then my friend's like, oh, no, wait, you gotta

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Speaker 1: get the guacamole there too. You gotta get the guacamole.

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Speaker 1: So I stay at the bartender. I'm like, hey, I

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Speaker 1: know I just ordered half the menu, but can I

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Speaker 1: get the guacamole too. My friend says it's good, and

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Speaker 1: she just kind of stares at me for a second,

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Speaker 1: and she goes, would you like that spicy extra spicy mild?

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't know how spicy spicy and

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Speaker 1: she goes, well, I'm about to make it for you,

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Speaker 1: so it's whatever you wanted to be. And she wasn't

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Speaker 1: like mean about it, but you could tell that she

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Speaker 1: was just sort of I guess it's table side guacamole.

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Speaker 1: But if you're at the bar, then the bartender has

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Speaker 1: to make it for you, and they have a little

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Speaker 1: station behind the thing. But she just kind of looked

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Speaker 1: at me like really because I mean, again, not rude

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Speaker 1: or anything, but she's just probably tired of making guacamole.

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Speaker 1: Plus you got other stuff to do. I did not

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Speaker 1: realize this was a table side guacamole situation. Those sorts

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Speaker 1: of things make me uncomfortable. I tend not to order

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Speaker 1: them because I feel like, you know, like the table

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Speaker 1: side caesar salad, the guy's gotta come and it's getting

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Speaker 1: and this is the whole thing, and they it's like

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Speaker 1: the really thing that guy wants to do that you

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Speaker 1: really think the guy wants to like chop up the

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Speaker 1: in front of He Probably not. I just figured it

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Speaker 1: was back in a kitchen somewhere. They'd bring it to me,

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Speaker 1: and I immediately felt bad. As soon as she started

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Speaker 1: like chomping away at this thing instead of you know,

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Speaker 1: mixing drinks or whatever else she had to do, I immediately

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Speaker 1: felt bad. Now again, I think they can charge you

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Speaker 1: more because you know, if they do the banana foster,

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Speaker 1: the flambay or whatever by the table. Then other people

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Speaker 1: see it, they want it, and then it looks like

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Speaker 1: it you know, a lot more works, so more effort.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure they make more tips from it. So there's that.

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Speaker 1: But I'm I was uncomfortable watching her make like chop

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Speaker 1: up my avocado right in front of me. It's like,

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Speaker 1: it's like I can go back there and do it.

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Speaker 1: It's no problem, you know, they just wouldn't let me.

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Speaker 1: But here's the thing. This is where I was going

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Speaker 1: with this. Eight five five, five nine one one three

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Speaker 1: five you can call in Texas, same number. The guacamole

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Speaker 1: was fire, Okay, I don't And here's the thing about

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Speaker 1: fire guacamole too. By the way, there's not really much

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Speaker 1: to it. I mean I watched her do it. There's avocado,

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Speaker 1: there's lime, there's tomato, onion, and then jalapeno pepper, and

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Speaker 1: there may have been like salt and something else. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. No, no garlic, no garlic. No garlic and

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Speaker 1: no garlic. No and so I've made that mistake before.

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Speaker 1: No no garlic can I mine? And so but I'm

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Speaker 1: looking at this, go why is this so damn good

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Speaker 1: because you didn't put any kind of crazy krack in

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I was looking, but I got

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Speaker 1: to think that this woman in her private life, people

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Speaker 1: are like make the guacamole, Like, make guacamole. Hey, you

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Speaker 1: you work at this place, bring over, make the guacamole

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Speaker 1: and bring it over to the party. Or like when

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Speaker 1: we did the Beni Hanna thing a few weeks ago

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Speaker 1: and the guy let me do the the be the

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Speaker 1: I was like, your friends must always be asking you

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Speaker 1: to be like the habachi guy at the parties, right,

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Speaker 1: because that you work at Beni Hanna, they must always

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Speaker 1: be asking you to do it. And he goes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: they do, and I tell him no, I'll do it

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Speaker 1: for other people if they hire me to do it,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not doing it for my friends. And so

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Speaker 1: I just I wonder what is the thing whether it's

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Speaker 1: what you do now or what you did in your past,

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Speaker 1: but what is the thing that you now know how

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Speaker 1: to do when everybody wants you to do it because

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Speaker 1: is at bart he was a bartender, and so now

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Speaker 1: my mom thinks this is the greatest thing ever. And

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Speaker 1: she has the guy like batch make Margarita's before he

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Speaker 1: him in her refrigerator, like every drink has to be

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Speaker 1: really good at He's better at it than the rest

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Speaker 1: of us are. So like the guy is trying to evolve.

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Speaker 1: He's a computer programmer now, like I'm a bar that

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Speaker 1: so much my past. Okay, we don't have to keep

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Speaker 1: bringing that up. But yet that's all that you know,

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Speaker 1: everyone wants him to be the bartender because it's like

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Speaker 1: you know how to do it? Do you guys know

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Speaker 1: how to do anything that everybody wants you to do

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Speaker 1: all the time.

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Speaker 9: It's like you said it before, your family always expects

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Speaker 9: you to host like everything, like it's a baby shower,

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Speaker 9: here's give the mic to Fred, it's a funeral.

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Speaker 1: Give the mic to Fred.

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Speaker 9: It's like I don't want to host this, like I

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Speaker 9: just want to attend.

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Speaker 1: No, that is true. For whatever reason, I have to

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Speaker 1: give the eulogie and anyone's funeral, anyone's funeral. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you'll do it. I'm like, what do you mean i'll

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Speaker 1: do it? They're like, well, you're a public speaker. I'm like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm not. I talk to my friend in a microphone

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Speaker 1: every day, and I guess people listen to it. Not many,

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Speaker 1: but I guess people listen to it. So why do

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Speaker 1: I have to go up there? It's a whole different thing,

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Speaker 1: you know, going up in front of a crowd of people,

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Speaker 1: especially if you're emotional about it or whatever. Why do

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Speaker 1: I have to be the one? Like, let somebody else did.

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Speaker 1: Surely somebody else comanda, you go do it. You're a

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Speaker 1: therapist who.

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Speaker 9: Was hosting the parties before I got in radio, Like

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Speaker 1: Because this is very stressful, Yes, Jason, I mean I

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Speaker 11: Oh lord, well, you know, I try not to tell

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm sure all my doctor friends hate meek. I

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Speaker 11: Know, exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what's the strangest thing someone's asked you to look at.

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Speaker 11: An abscess on their anal area?

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Speaker 1: Oh no, No, I'm not that good of a friend

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Speaker 1: with anybody. No, I'll drive you, not in Mike, if

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Speaker 1: great day. I'm glad you called. Oh Cody, Cody, Cody,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Good morning. Cody is a massage therapist. So

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Speaker 1: And but I'm sure you don't do that to people, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And it's usually always right when you get off of work,

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Speaker 1: which I've been doing this all day. I'm all set

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Speaker 1: never mind, You're not anybody to the party. No, you

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Speaker 1: have a great day. Thank you, thank you, glad you called. Hey, Sue,

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Speaker 1: Good morning Sue. How are you hi? Good morning Sue?

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Speaker 12: You?

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Speaker 1: What did you used to do? And what is everyone

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Speaker 12: I am a former hairstylist slash makeup artist from back

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Speaker 12: in the day, back in the nineties, you know the

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Speaker 1: Way back and then oh wow, whoa yes, the twentieth

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Speaker 13: Everybody wants me to do their hair. So whenever there's

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Speaker 12: So I've done like funeral makeup. Oh my makeup artists.

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Speaker 12: But yeah, I literally but you know, those that are

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Speaker 14: It is.

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Speaker 13: But it was for my my relatives.

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Speaker 9: So I did.

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Speaker 12: It was, you know, a little I was freaked out

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Speaker 1: So yeah, Well, good for you, Good for you, Thank you, Sue,

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Speaker 1: Have you seen this is another TikTok thing? Who watches

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Speaker 1: Oh oh I love those videos. Oh well, mama, Mama

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Speaker 1: what did you just sign me up for? And it's

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Speaker 1: like you need oh you need meals for fifty people

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Speaker 1: for you? Oh yeah, mama, mam will do that for

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Speaker 1: sitting there going I will not do that, Like who

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Speaker 9: I love those videos. I actually wanted to do that

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Speaker 1: What were you gonna make me do? I don't know.

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Speaker 9: Just say like, yeah, friend will come, he'll come with me, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 15: You know what.

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Speaker 1: Nobody would believe you. Nobody would everyone know. He won't

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Speaker 9: But you would have been like, oh my god, I'm

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Speaker 1: A married man recently sparked debate after turning to Reddit

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Speaker 1: I'm going to tell my wife just so you know,

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Speaker 1: so if you tell me, I'm going to tell her,

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Speaker 1: Is that what you assume? I want to know from

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Speaker 5: It depends on what you tell me.

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Speaker 16: If it's like something health related or something you're going

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Speaker 16: through like mental health, physical health, and I'm not repeating

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Speaker 16: that that's not for me to share, Okay.

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Speaker 1: But if I'm cheating on someone, you're gonna run home

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Speaker 16: Yes, yeah, I mean probably yeah, I mean because you're

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Speaker 15: Right?

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Speaker 1: they look at your partner. And so I feel the

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Speaker 1: same way about you know, Like I've had a friend

435
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Speaker 1: who's going through kind of a tough thing and he's

436
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Speaker 1: a family friend and we know all parties involved, and

437
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Speaker 1: so I'm not sharing with like my mom and dad

438
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Speaker 1: the full extent of what I know, because what happens

439
00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:04,840
Speaker 1: if everything is resolved and then it's like they don't

440
00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,879
Speaker 1: they're not getting constant updates, they're not fully immersed in

441
00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:10,040
Speaker 1: this situation. And then let's just say, are they just

442
00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:14,000
Speaker 1: supposed to forget because they probably favor one side more

443
00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:15,720
Speaker 1: than the other. And if they're only getting information from

444
00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:17,760
Speaker 1: one side, and this is a family friend who's gonna

445
00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:19,600
Speaker 1: come around and blah blah blah, then you know it's

446
00:19:19,720 --> 00:19:23,240
Speaker 1: unfair because to the other person because they're only getting

447
00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:25,040
Speaker 1: one side of the story. So like, I don't want

448
00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:27,880
Speaker 1: my family to think differently about anybody because they are

449
00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:30,879
Speaker 1: only getting some information, right, So I don't really share

450
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Speaker 1: anywhere near as much as I know because I don't

451
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Speaker 1: want this person to be in that situation. And I

452
00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:38,919
Speaker 1: feel like that's what happens when you share a story

453
00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:42,119
Speaker 1: secondhand with someone else in your life, you know what

454
00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:44,399
Speaker 1: I mean. It's like what you're saying, you're giving them

455
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Speaker 1: the information and then you're trusting them to forget and

456
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Speaker 1: move on. But they may hold on to that and

457
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Speaker 1: then they have bad feelings about someone forever. Like let's say, okay,

458
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Speaker 1: let's say my I'm in a relationship, which that in

459
00:19:56,760 --> 00:20:00,760
Speaker 1: itself would be hysterical, right, that would be why and

460
00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:05,160
Speaker 1: uh and Jason's cheating on Mike, which would never happen,

461
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,080
Speaker 1: but uh, and I tell her that and then and then,

462
00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:09,680
Speaker 1: but there's more of the story, or there's a whole

463
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Speaker 1: lot more context, or I've known you for fifteen years

464
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Speaker 1: so I know that the relationship can be up and down,

465
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Speaker 1: or I'm just making all this up and then you

466
00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 1: guys resolve it. But my friend over here doesn't have

467
00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:21,919
Speaker 1: my girlfriend hypothetical, doesn't have all that context, doesn't know

468
00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:23,679
Speaker 1: the ins and outs, doesn't see you every day, so

469
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Speaker 1: all she knows is you cheated and now you're back

470
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Speaker 1: in the relationship again, Like that might affect the way

471
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Speaker 1: she thinks about you.

472
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Speaker 10: And that's not fair to you. No, no, it's not.

473
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Speaker 10: And that's why I'm very selective of what I tell

474
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Speaker 10: Mike because I can't hold the grudge, like to save

475
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Speaker 10: my life, like anyone can do whatever to me, I

476
00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:40,200
Speaker 10: get mad, I get over it, whatever.

477
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Speaker 1: I get mad at you for that. Like Jason hold

478
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Speaker 1: a grudge. He is the complete opposite.

479
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Speaker 10: Like if I tell him anything negative or someone did

480
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Speaker 10: something especially to me or to someone that he cares about,

481
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,959
Speaker 10: he will hold on to that and remember that for forever.

482
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Speaker 1: And so I'm like, okay, we're good. I have to

483
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Speaker 1: be very selective.

484
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Speaker 5: Share Sam, good morning.

485
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Speaker 1: Hi Sam. So you tell your husband everything, no matter

486
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Speaker 1: what one percent?

487
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Speaker 7: Yes?

488
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Speaker 1: Is that fair?

489
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Speaker 4: You know?

490
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Speaker 17: To me?

491
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Speaker 14: Like, my partner is my partner through thick and thin,

492
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Speaker 14: and I tell him everything, and even if he doesn't

493
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Speaker 14: agree with me, like that's why he's there. So we

494
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,680
Speaker 14: can kind of be soundboards off of each other, and

495
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Speaker 14: so you know, it kind of keeps me balanced. But

496
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Speaker 14: at the same time, like I like sometimes I want

497
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Speaker 14: advice or sometimes I you know, we just want to

498
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Speaker 14: talk about stuff. So it's one hundred percent like I

499
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:38,080
Speaker 14: trust him, he trusts me. And if we say don't

500
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Speaker 14: tell anybody else and we don't, and then that's it.

501
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Speaker 5: I get it.

502
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Speaker 1: Like when you're in a relationship that you're kind of

503
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 1: supposed to be one unit, and so you should be

504
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Speaker 1: able to bounce anything off of that person. I guess

505
00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,000
Speaker 1: Emily detects it. You're losing me. I guess all I'm

506
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 1: saying is, if there's one person and one person and

507
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Speaker 1: you're sharing this information with other people and they're not

508
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Speaker 1: seeing all perspectives, that I don't think it's fair for

509
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:03,399
Speaker 1: you to be sharing information because they're only going to

510
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:05,840
Speaker 1: sort of side with the side that you're telling them.

511
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, Like, unless I have all

512
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Speaker 1: the information that I don't think I should be sharing

513
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 1: because I don't want you to hold on to long term,

514
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 1: you know things, because I only told you a little bit.

515
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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Absolutely, Yeah, you're tainting that.

516
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:22,800
Speaker 1: You're tainting that you're peeing in the water. You're peeing

517
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Speaker 1: in the pool.

518
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Speaker 14: Everybody peace in the pool, Fred, Come on, whether you

519
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:28,439
Speaker 14: say it or not, everybody peace in.

520
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Speaker 1: The pool, all right? See will he's gonna.

521
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 18: Say you will three sides to the story.

522
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Speaker 1: A large body of water maybe, but not a pool.

523
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Speaker 1: Thank you, Sam, have a good day, have a good one.

524
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Speaker 1: And I'm thoughtful enough to go downstream when I do

525
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Speaker 1: it too. For the record, Yeah, very thoughtful. M Kelsey,

526
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Speaker 1: Hi Kelsey, Hi, Hi, Hi, how are you hey? So

527
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Speaker 1: what do you think this? Do you think that you

528
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Speaker 1: should tell your partner absolutely everything that you learn about

529
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Speaker 1: other people?

530
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Speaker 18: I'm not sure whether you should or not. I mean,

531
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Speaker 18: I think that's something personal.

532
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Speaker 5: The only real thing that.

533
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Speaker 18: I had to say. Still, Like, if you hear something

534
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 18: about someone and it's not something that someone told you directly,

535
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 18: then that can cause major issues. I think that anything

536
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 18: that you hear that you want to share with just

537
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 18: about anybody, you should probably validate before you start sharing it,

538
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Speaker 18: because a lot of people get into arguments with people

539
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 18: or something like that, and then they start making up

540
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Speaker 18: stuff and then once your partner hears that, it's like

541
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Speaker 18: oh what, Yeah, you know. I just think it's really

542
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Speaker 18: especially as far as cheating and stuff go, they think

543
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Speaker 18: that it's really important to, you know, verify the information

544
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Speaker 18: before you start telling anyone.

545
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I also think you have to keep your your

546
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 1: circle really small when it comes to relationship arguments and

547
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Speaker 1: stuff because again, like you're likely to be telling your

548
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 1: side of the story and the person's likely to react

549
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Speaker 1: in favor of the story you just told them, not

550
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Speaker 1: only because they love you, they're going to try and

551
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 1: see the good in you, but they're going to listen

552
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Speaker 1: to the story you just told that probably is devoid

553
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Speaker 1: of all the details about and so then you're getting

554
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,640
Speaker 1: that now you're being enabled by this advice. But then

555
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: the real story is maybe somewhere more towards the middle.

556
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: So then you then you find resolution, you get back

557
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,640
Speaker 1: with that person, and now your friend is over here going,

558
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 1: I can't believe you took that jack a back, but

559
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 1: they didn't know the whole thing.

560
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Speaker 18: Yeah, I can fully agree. I've always said that there's

561
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 18: your story and then there's the other person's story, and

562
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 18: then somewhere in between is the truth. And I don't

563
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 18: think that you ever because emotions are involved in regardless

564
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Speaker 18: of what you're telling someone basically all the time. So

565
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Speaker 18: there's always and you know what, I don't hang out

566
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Speaker 18: at somebody else's house. You know, I don't know their relationship,

567
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 18: and as I shouldn't, so, especially like you're saying, with

568
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:47,360
Speaker 18: relationships as things like that, it's really important to understand

569
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,720
Speaker 18: that exactly what you said, there are there's definitely three.

570
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Speaker 5: Sides of the story.

571
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Speaker 18: There's one person's side, the other person's side, and then

572
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 18: there's the truth. And sometimes, you know, I think most

573
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,400
Speaker 18: of the time, you don't need to know the truth.

574
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Speaker 18: I don't need to that intimate with people in their

575
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 18: personal relationships because I'm kind of in the situation with

576
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Speaker 18: my daughter because herr HU get along. I get along

577
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Speaker 18: with both of them, obviously obviously her. But you know,

578
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 18: the thing about it is is I don't really think

579
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Speaker 18: that maybe their relationship is super.

580
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Speaker 12: Great for her.

581
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 18: However, you know, I'm not in their house after dark.

582
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: Because that's the problem. Right, So, like your daughter comes

583
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 1: and tells you, Hey, you know, so and so did

584
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,919
Speaker 1: this to me, and you're like, wow, that sucks. And

585
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: then they go get married and you're like, wait a minute,

586
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,639
Speaker 1: but I thought he did this to you, you know?

587
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 1: But but again, like how did that start? What are

588
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: the details? I need to know all the infra? And

589
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,640
Speaker 1: you you hold onto this as her mother, right, even

590
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 1: though you should be a trusted source. But but now

591
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: you have to hang on to that as they move

592
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: forward and they get over it, and you may not. Hey, Kelsey,

593
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 1: I got to go have a good day.

594
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Speaker 11: Okay, have a good day.

595
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Speaker 1: I'm glad you called. Hey, Rachel, Right, you tell your

596
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:55,879
Speaker 1: husband everything, no matter what.

597
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 12: Always he tells me everything.

598
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Speaker 17: I tell him everything most of the time. It's like

599
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 17: they said before, to get you know, an opinion of

600
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 17: Hey am I handling this writer?

601
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 12: Hey?

602
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 17: What do you think about this? I had a friend

603
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 17: tell him that the best thing he did for his

604
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 17: marriage was to cheat on his wife.

605
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Speaker 12: So of course he of.

606
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Speaker 17: Course he told me that, and you know, did they.

607
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 4: Be friends after that?

608
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 19: Yeah?

609
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 17: But was there you know, certain things we might not

610
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 17: do with him or stuff like that.

611
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I mean. So Okay, So your husband's

612
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 1: friend cheats on his wife, right and tells you this,

613
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 1: You're like, wow, okay, why don't I like cheating? And

614
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 1: that makes me think differently in him? But okay, fine,

615
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,399
Speaker 1: whatever he did it. And then your husband's like, hey,

616
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out with so and so tonight. Is

617
00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: there no part of you that's like, I realize you

618
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 1: trust your husband, but like this guy, this guy, this

619
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: dude has you know, lose loose definition of what a

620
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:53,479
Speaker 1: marriage is. And I don't know. And while my husband

621
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 1: is trustworthy and a good person, like I don't know,

622
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily want to hang it out with that person.

623
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Speaker 1: That being said, if you trust your husband, you know

624
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 1: that he wouldn't cheat on you, and he never gives

625
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 1: you this information, then you have no reason to suspect anything.

626
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 1: So everyone's fine.

627
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 17: So the way my husband is though he also, you know,

628
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 17: didn't appreciate the comment. So if we hung out, it

629
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 17: was mostly as like couples.

630
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 19: Instead of just one on one.

631
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 17: It was okay, let's go. They you know, they stay together,

632
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 17: so let's go you and me and we'll go to dinner.

633
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 1: That's so uncomfortable. Now, now you're at dinner. Now you're

634
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:30,159
Speaker 1: sitting there eating your soup, and you know all the

635
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,160
Speaker 1: details that you didn't need to know because they've moved forward.

636
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: And if he hadn't told you, then you wouldn't have

637
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: to suffer through that meal knowing that this dude was

638
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 1: out here with fluosy, you know. And that's I don't know, Rachel,

639
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm not sure about this. Thank you have a good day.

640
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know that you need to

641
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:49,120
Speaker 1: know everything? Do you tell Big Tim everything? I'm big

642
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: Tim and listening to me. I'm going to talk to y'all.

643
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 9: But I always think that people tell you tell your

644
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:57,159
Speaker 9: friends something. They're telling two people that they trust. So

645
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 9: when I tell you something, I expect you to tell

646
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 9: Mama for it and get therapists.

647
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 1: Do you know what I say? I just know what's

648
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: going to them too. You know what? You think I'm

649
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 1: over here an executive coach and talking about you. Yes,

650
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: I go to my executive coach each week. You think

651
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:12,959
Speaker 1: I'm sure talking about you.

652
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Speaker 9: Jason's going to tell Caitlin and probably, you know, like

653
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Speaker 9: that to happen.

654
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Speaker 1: Well maybe, I mean, it's probably fair to assume.

655
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Speaker 10: But funny, there's always a kiky segment in his executive coaching.

656
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Speaker 1: And we sit down there, an executive coach, and she

657
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Speaker 1: didn't We sit down in the first like, what what'd

658
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Speaker 1: she do? What did she tell you? First week? The

659
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 1: first fifteen minutes, we have to dissect what you did?

660
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: Forty thousand music fans they asked. Research has found that

661
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: younger people explore a wide range of music genres and artists. However,

662
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: as they transition into adulthood and beyond, their music choice

663
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: is narrow, often influenced by nostalgia and personal experiences. Older

664
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Speaker 1: listeners tend to revisit songs from their youth while also

665
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 1: engaging with new music, leading to a more individualized taste.

666
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: The shift poses challenge just from music recommendation services, which

667
00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: may need to tailor suggestions to different age groups to

668
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: better relign there evolving preferences. Get emotional about that?

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Speaker 5: Can who's not a music fan? Like they asked forty

670
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 5: thousand music fans. He was like, no, I'm good. I

671
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 5: don't like music, like what?

672
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Speaker 1: Yeah, there were a lot of people who's walk right by.

673
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 1: I don't like that. Yeah, I'm familiar with it. But

674
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Speaker 1: do you feel like eight five, five, five, nine one

675
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 1: one oh three five you can call it text the

676
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: same number. I mean, I look, we've been talking about

677
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: this for years and years in and I do believe

678
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 1: that nostalgia plays such a huge role in certain phases

679
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: in life. People remember songs and attach themselves to songs,

680
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 1: and I would imagine a lot of people's favorite songs

681
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: are from certain like your favorite song key, if you

682
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Speaker 1: had to name one that's not Omaron.

683
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Speaker 9: Okay, Currently, I've been writing to work every day listening

684
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Speaker 9: to Nelly e.

685
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Speaker 3: I okay, so that song probably reminds you of high school? Yeah, yeah, okay,

686
00:29:57,600 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 3: so you and that reminds me of college. I can

687
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 3: remember where I was when I heard that song. I

688
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 3: can remember where it was when the radio station that

689
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 3: where my first job when we played that song.

690
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Speaker 1: So, yeah, what is it for you, Kaitlin? I bet

691
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: it's high school or college?

692
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Speaker 16: The first thing that came to mind, like a song

693
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Speaker 16: I'll always love I'm Sprung by tea Pain.

694
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 1: See, that'd be high school.

695
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, yep, yeah, yeah, I.

696
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 10: Mean behind these Haye lies Kelly Clarkson, Yeah, back every

697
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 10: single time I hear it.

698
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: Also high school yep, Paulina, Honestly, luck if you buck.

699
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 6: Well, I was gonna say when I'm listening to write

700
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Speaker 6: so on not give you buck I kind of been

701
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 6: listening to like the freestyle stuff again, like I bring

702
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 6: it up every once in a while.

703
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Speaker 5: Kaylen gets in my car, sh'll hear it, like.

704
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 6: This TVB stuff like like Diamond Girl because that's super

705
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Speaker 6: de sect. Yes, I mean I had no business dancing

706
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Speaker 6: or listening to any of that when I was like

707
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Speaker 6: six or seventy eight, but.

708
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Speaker 1: I love it. Okay, it's like nineties. It was like nineties,

709
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: Like yeah, I guess late eighties. Yeah, nineties okay, but

710
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 1: a lot of it's from when you were young. But

711
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: how many times would you say, as a grown up

712
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 1: you say this is my favorite song, like the one

713
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 1: you just heard today at thirty five, and he goes,

714
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 1: this is my favorite. I don't feel like anybody says that.

715
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 5: I say favorite right now. I feel like I went like.

716
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 10: Temporary yeah, and then I always go back right behind

717
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 10: these hazel eyes, always fears.

718
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 5: Yeah yah, seemed like yes, so good.

719
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Speaker 1: I feel like in mind were from Europe when I

720
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 1: was growing up, like really young, when I fell in

721
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 1: love with this stupid business. But like the songs I

722
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: listened to when I was obsessed over you know, radio

723
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 1: and listening to the radio in yeah, late eighties, I

724
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 1: guess it was when I was really little. Those are

725
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 1: the songs that I resonate, or the songs that my

726
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:31,959
Speaker 1: mom played in the house a lot, which were all

727
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: pop songs because we grew up listening to that. I also,

728
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: I also contend a lot of your music taste is

729
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: based in what you're introduced to by your parents, because

730
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Speaker 1: I know, you know people that are my age who

731
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 1: love motown like I love motown. Okay, A lot of

732
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: people don't even know what that is because their parents ever,

733
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 1: you know whatever, and it was it was thirty years

734
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Speaker 1: past my prime, right or prime past my birth. I

735
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: know a lot of people that like Zeppelin, and you

736
00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: know that's sort of like seventies sixty seventies, like rock.

737
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 1: Never listen to any of that. Growing up, people love

738
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 1: the Beatles because their parents obsessed over the Beatles.

739
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 16: And now you don't, like you, I don't understand the Beatles.

740
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: You with it, you'd either probably be nauseated by it,

741
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 1: or you'd love it because your grandparents played it for

742
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: you or or whatever.

743
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't get it.

744
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: Jazz music. I like jazz music because I necessarily like

745
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 1: jazz music because my grandfather that was always what he played,

746
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: because he was a jazz musician. So like, I guess

747
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,480
Speaker 1: I just think that those things are rooted in you

748
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: by like if your parents love country music, like I

749
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 1: bet you love. You know, country music is a thing

750
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: pretty ricky grind with me. Somebody said, oh, did you

751
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: perform that song recently?

752
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 3: Right?

753
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 8: Me?

754
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 1: Even though it's with me? Oh right, yeah, I listened

755
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 1: to oh the goofy movie sound draps.

756
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 5: Oh yes, remember we did that?

757
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 1: Yeah? Which it's who is? It's Tevin Campbell? Which I

758
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:56,479
Speaker 1: didn't know for the longest time. My favorite to this

759
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 1: day is deer Agony by Breaking Benjamin. So that's what

760
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,959
Speaker 1: two thousand? Yeah, yeah, but I would imagine that person's

761
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: like twenty or twenty five thirty something like that, because again,

762
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 1: if you were like really immersed in two thousands of music,

763
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 1: and I'm sure there are exceptions, but I have a

764
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 1: really hard time believing anyone listening is My favorite song

765
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 1: is that Sabrina Carbenter man Eater's song you know what, Manchild,

766
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 1: whatever it is man that's standing for title. That's my

767
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 1: favorite song because man Eater, you know. But yeah, So

768
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 1: do you think though that over time you have because

769
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 1: you would think the older you get, the more songs

770
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 1: you're exposed to, the more songs you might like. But

771
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 1: it turns out you wind up just weeding them all

772
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: down to fewer songs, which is kind of interesting. Yeah, Summertime, DJJZ,

773
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 1: Jeff and the Fresh Prince High School right, so nineties.

774
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: My parents listened to Bruce Springsteen exclusively during my childhood.

775
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 1: I'm now a thirty one year old, still in my

776
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: EMO phase. I don't know what that says about me.

777
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 1: I get that, Yeah, party like a rock star shop

778
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: was Wow, these are funny songs.

779
00:33:58,680 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 12: I don't know.

780
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 1: To me, these are fun to say that your favorite,

781
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: But if you grew up in that era, then I

782
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 1: say your favorite.

783
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 5: Yeah.

784
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 1: So I mean that's why I love he's got hit.

785
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: I got a lot of hits.

786
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 20: Yes more Fred Show next right here.

787
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,359
Speaker 1: FM, Chicago's number one in music station. It's the Fred

788
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 1: Show and our final holiday wish of the season with

789
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: Amy with the right and one eight hundred truck Creck.

790
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 1: Good morning, Amy. Hey, Hey, this is it.

791
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,719
Speaker 5: This is the last one.

792
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 15: This is disappointing.

793
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 1: This is it. We've spent like twenty five thousand dollars

794
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: of your money in four days, but this one. Look,

795
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: they've been very emotional, and you know, unfortunately, we've had

796
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: some folks that are dealing with you know, illness and

797
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: homelessness and people who need help, you know, with with

798
00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 1: equipment for their business and and uh, I mean there

799
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 1: was the one earlier in the week with the daughter

800
00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: and her dad that I think really touched a lot

801
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:53,280
Speaker 1: of people. And this one is I think this is

802
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 1: this is going to put a smile on people's faces,

803
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:58,840
Speaker 1: especially Katie and and Hector. Good morning Katie and Hector.

804
00:34:58,840 --> 00:34:59,359
Speaker 1: How are you?

805
00:34:59,480 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 12: Good morning?

806
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 1: How are you friend doing great? Hector? What's up with you?

807
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:03,000
Speaker 13: Man?

808
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:03,399
Speaker 12: He good?

809
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: Hello, Hey, you know what we're doing. You know what

810
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 1: we're doing? Right, friend from just a phone press, that's

811
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 1: the same guy. Are their other friends with a friend?

812
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 1: It's not Fred Flintstone. How are you, dude? But more

813
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:23,800
Speaker 1: importantly than forget about me, I'm a nobody, Amy wither Right. Yeah, Hector,

814
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 1: you're a waiting you're a waiting mother phone. No, you're

815
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: not my friend, my friend Amy wither Right this year

816
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 1: from one one hundred truck Greg. And that's the most

817
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:34,400
Speaker 1: important part of this call. Say good morning to Amy.

818
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 15: Good morning, Amy.

819
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 11: Hey, Hey, hey, Hector and Katie.

820
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 12: This is going to be a great call. I'm excited

821
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:41,760
Speaker 12: about your story.

822
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 14: And to close the loop on uh you all get

823
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 14: married five years ago.

824
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 1: This is gonna be fun, Hector. You're gonna like how

825
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:50,759
Speaker 1: this ends up, I think. But so we got a

826
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 1: note from Katie. Katie, can I share at least part

827
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: of this note for sure? So it says, dear Fred

828
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:57,240
Speaker 1: showing Amy this year, my holiday wish is to finally

829
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: give my husband the honeymoon that we never had. The

830
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 1: chance to take. When we got married, our wedding plans

831
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 1: were changed because of the twenty twenty pandemic. Many of

832
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 1: our family and friends were unable to celebrate with us

833
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 1: at our wedding. Travel was challenging and we knew that

834
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 1: the experience would not be the same during a shutdown.

835
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: We promise each other that we would take our honeymoon

836
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: trip on our five year anniversary, our way of reclaiming

837
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: something special that was taken from us. But our anniversary

838
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 1: has already passed, and the truth is we still aren't

839
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,280
Speaker 1: sure if we'll ever be able to make the trip happen.

840
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: Life has been full since our wedding. You have two

841
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:33,439
Speaker 1: amazing kids, Nora and Salvador, three and one. They bring

842
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: joy to our days and keep us busy from morning tonight. Financially,

843
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: the season of life is challenging as well. We're doing

844
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 1: our best to save for our children's futures, especially their education,

845
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: so putting aside money for a big trip feels out

846
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 1: of reach at times. Still, our dream vacation has been

847
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: to travel to Mexico. Hector's parents are both from Mexico,

848
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 1: and he has long hoped to visit his grandparents and

849
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,400
Speaker 1: reconnect with a place that holds so much of his

850
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: family's history. This Christmas, more than anything, I wish for

851
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 1: the chance to take that long awaited trip with my husband,

852
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 1: the honeymoon that we missed, the adventure we postponed, and

853
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: the time together that we've been hoping for. And then

854
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 1: you included some nice things about the Fred Show, which

855
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: is very helpful. I will say to getting us on

856
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:19,839
Speaker 1: the phone, but we gotta we gotta hook him up.

857
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 8: Yeah we do, Yeah, we do, so, Hector. Where's your

858
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 8: family from in Mexico?

859
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:25,279
Speaker 15: Both of my parents are from the.

860
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:29,800
Speaker 21: State of Okay, So it's the biggest tourist town to Jalisco.

861
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 15: Yeah, in Haalisco, they're the two biggest areas.

862
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:34,399
Speaker 1: Yes, So where do you want to go though, Because

863
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Like I want you to see your

864
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:42,399
Speaker 1: grandparents and your family, but like that's not quite the honeymoon. Vize. Yeah,

865
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't have you doing some stuff in

866
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: Abuelo's guest room, you know what I'm saying. Like it's

867
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 1: a honeymoon, so you know, we need to mix family

868
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 1: in a little bit of fun. So where would you

869
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 1: like to go? That would be like sort of more

870
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: honeymoon esque.

871
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 15: Oh my gosh, oh wow, I guess this is this

872
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 15: is surprising. So I don't know there's canon, there'sa there's Cabo,

873
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 15: I mean in all types of different parts of Mexico.

874
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:05,400
Speaker 1: Obo.

875
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 8: Well, there's there's no doubt about that. And I've been

876
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 8: to all those places.

877
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 11: I just got back from Cabo.

878
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 2: So why don't.

879
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 5: You you think really hard about where.

880
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 12: You and Katie want to go celebrate your honeymoon. And

881
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 12: I'll just do my job what I do best. So

882
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 12: on behalf the one eight hundred truck wreck.

883
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 4: I got five thousand dollars for your honeymoon.

884
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 1: Boom, whoa hector with us? I told you, I told

885
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 1: you it wasn't important talking to me. It's important talking

886
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 1: to Amy with right. One one hundred truck rack. Five

887
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for your honeymoon. You're really going to r

888
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 1: at the morning?

889
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 15: Yes, I'm on here.

890
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: Oh, your wife is on the phone. You're going to pray?

891
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 15: Oh my gosh, thank you, that's so's fun.

892
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: Thank you. You better find someone to watch the kids,

893
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 1: because you're going to go on a great trip. Five

894
00:38:58,160 --> 00:38:59,320
Speaker 1: thousand dollars from maybe with it?

895
00:38:59,360 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 19: Right?

896
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 1: What a hundred truck breck. I hate you guys have

897
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 1: the best holiday? Okay, yes, do you want to do

898
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 1: have an issue or a phobia or anything with Yeah,

899
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 1: well and then and here's a song and then we'll

900
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 1: go back and Fred show is.

901
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 16: Non is great. I'm a great time. I have fun,

902
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 16: you know, like really like I don't know. You don't

903
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 16: gotta fight with anybody telling anybody good night. No, you

904
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 16: do what you want to do, eat what you want

905
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 16: to eat, not talk you want.

906
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:29,760
Speaker 1: To watch, not check anyone nobody.

907
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 3: No.

908
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 6: I swear if I ever get divorced or like separated,

909
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 6: I swear to God like I will never let anyone

910
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 6: touch me again like I want to.

911
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 16: I swear you touch you, but like oh I at

912
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 16: their house, you will be at my at my like

913
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,800
Speaker 16: discretion description of course, I hope, so it would always

914
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 16: know what's fun in the day.

915
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes I touch myself. I didn't, I never mind. Yeah,

916
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 1: I told you to ask for permission first you yes,

917
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 1: hand you know. Sometimes I sneak attack on myself, so

918
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: it feels a little bit more. Organic's ever been left

919
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:12,959
Speaker 1: waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Shell. Hey Carly, Hey,

920
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 1: how's it going. Can you hear me, yes, loud and clear,

921
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 1: loud and clear, clear morning morning to Carly, what's going

922
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 1: on with this guy Chris?

923
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 4: Who?

924
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 1: I guess why don't you tell us how you met,

925
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 1: about any dates you've been on and then where things

926
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 1: are now or yeah.

927
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 19: I don't know, man.

928
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 8: It was such It was interesting because.

929
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 22: We met on a dating app, and you know how

930
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 22: those are, like sometimes just you get some randos. But

931
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 22: I met this guy Chris and the super hot and

932
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,800
Speaker 22: he suggested that we go on a weekend trip for

933
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 22: our first day.

934
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 4: Really, and I just, yeah, isn't that wild?

935
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: That's kind of a bold. So you meet a guy

936
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 1: in a dating app and he's like, let's go out

937
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 1: of town immediately. I mean, that's that's how Dately episodes

938
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 1: started ends.

939
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:57,280
Speaker 8: But yeah, that's how you end up dead.

940
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 1: But you were like, okay, you know, oh, I was.

941
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 22: Like, he's super hot, and I thought, you know what,

942
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 22: I'm just going to take the risk, and I thought

943
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 22: the worst that could happen is we meet at the airport.

944
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 8: He's not who he said he.

945
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 19: Was, and I leave.

946
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 22: And the wild thing is he ended up being totally

947
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:19,720
Speaker 22: who he said he was, and you know, he had

948
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 22: he had like.

949
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 8: Hot friends on must Pro Kyle.

950
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 22: He looked like he did some things, and we ended

951
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 22: up going to New Orleans. We had a great weekend.

952
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 22: He was a gentleman, he paid for everything. We had

953
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 22: a great time. And then at the end of the

954
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:38,879
Speaker 22: trip we hugged at the airport and I never heard

955
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 22: from him again.

956
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: Really, this dude took you to New Orleans and you're

957
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: saying that the trip went well and then he never

958
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: called you after the trip Like that is that's a

959
00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 1: wild story. I mean you met at random standard and

960
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 1: went on a trip. I will tell you this though, Carly.

961
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 1: When I'm first dating someone, if I think it's going

962
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: to go somewhere, which just doesn't happen very often, but

963
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,320
Speaker 1: if I think it's going somewhere, I do kind of

964
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 1: rush the trip effort. Now, not like on the first date,

965
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: but you know, within like the first month or two,

966
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:07,160
Speaker 1: because I think you can tell a lot about somebody

967
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: about how they travel and how you travel together. And

968
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 1: you know, are they the people that show up after

969
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 1: the flight already left?

970
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 12: People?

971
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like how much do they pack?

972
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:20,359
Speaker 1: You know, do they have a TSA pre check or not.

973
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:22,839
Speaker 1: It's a huge deal for Yeah.

974
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 8: Well, now I'm wondering.

975
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 22: I agree, but now I am thinking, maybe there's a

976
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 22: reason we do that after a month or two and

977
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 22: not you've ever met.

978
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: But okay, so I get it totally. Yeah, you go

979
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 1: on a trip with this man and you think it

980
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: went well, and then he never calls you again, and

981
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 1: you're like, what what on earth? So we're gonna call

982
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 1: this guy Chris. We're going to ask these questions on

983
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: your behalf and try and figure this out. And the hope,

984
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 1: of course, as always, is that we can straighten this out.

985
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 1: Maybe there's some good reason why he hasn't called you,

986
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: and and maybe you guys can go out again. We're

987
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: not paying for a trip, we don't have that kind

988
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,879
Speaker 1: of money, but we'll pay for a tabe locally and

989
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: you should go on that if we can work it out.

990
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: Sound good? Try Hey, Carly, all right, I always call

991
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 1: this guy Chris. You met on the dating apps, and

992
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: you just described to us something that I really haven't

993
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 1: heard maybe ever in waiting by the phone. But you

994
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 1: never met the guy. You just messaged with him. You

995
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: thought the profile looked good. He asked you if you

996
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 1: wanted to go to New Orleans and you said sure,

997
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 1: and you met the guy at the airport and you

998
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 1: went on a trip for the weekend and you say

999
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: it went really well, and he was and he says

1000
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:29,800
Speaker 1: he was and the trip was a success. Accept Carly,

1001
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 1: you told us a minute ago. You haven't heard from

1002
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: him since then, you got.

1003
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 8: Is exactly right?

1004
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:35,760
Speaker 22: The airport.

1005
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is wild. Well, let's call Chris. He we

1006
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 1: can get him on the phone figure out why he's

1007
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 1: ghosting you. Now, all right, good luck, thank you? Hello?

1008
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: Hi is this Chris Chris Hi, good morning. My name

1009
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 1: is Friend. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning

1010
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 1: radio show. I have to tell you the whole crew

1011
00:43:57,520 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: is here. We are on the radio, and I would

1012
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:01,040
Speaker 1: need your permission to continue with the call. Can which

1013
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: halter for just a second? Would you mind? Do you

1014
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:05,400
Speaker 1: have to do you?

1015
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:06,879
Speaker 4: I mean, do you have to use my last name?

1016
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 1: No, I'm not going to use your last name. I

1017
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 1: don't even know your last name. I'm only using your

1018
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: first name. Sure, so that's fine, that's yeah, you're sure? Okay, Well,

1019
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:20,359
Speaker 1: i'd so no last name, just Chris. But I'm calling

1020
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 1: on behalf of a woman named Carly, who I guess

1021
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:24,279
Speaker 1: you just went to New Orleans with you met her

1022
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: on the dating nap and he went to New Orleans.

1023
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: Do you remember this?

1024
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 4: I hope I do remember that.

1025
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, Well, she reached out to us, had nice

1026
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: things to say about you, said that, you know, she

1027
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:34,840
Speaker 1: took a risk in meeting you with the airport and

1028
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: going to New Orleans, and she came back alive, which

1029
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 1: is nice. But she said you were good looking, You

1030
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 1: were who you said you were. She said you were

1031
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 1: a gentleman on the trip, paid for everything. But what

1032
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:48,439
Speaker 1: she's wondering is why you haven't reached out for another date,

1033
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: because in her opinion, everything went really well. That was

1034
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: kind of a big risk and everybody went for it,

1035
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 1: and here we are. Why are you calling her? I mean.

1036
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 4: It's like this, Okay, I like to go big, you

1037
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:05,279
Speaker 4: know obviously. I mean it's not very common for somebody

1038
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 4: to ask somebody to go on a day in New Orleans.

1039
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 4: That is that is a big thing. And she said yes.

1040
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:13,240
Speaker 4: And for me, when somebody says that, that means something,

1041
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:15,320
Speaker 4: you know. So like, yeah, what I saw at the airport,

1042
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,319
Speaker 4: everything was lined up. She was hot, just like you know,

1043
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 4: just like I expected. She was willing to take a risk,

1044
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 4: which is attractive, and everything looked like it was going

1045
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 4: to be a great weekend, so I was. But she

1046
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 4: I mean, let me just lay it out here. She

1047
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 4: didn't want to stay in the same hotel room as me,

1048
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 4: which is I mean, that's pretty common knowledge that that

1049
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 4: is like part of the deal of something like this.

1050
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 1: Well, what do you hold on a second, Let's stop

1051
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 1: right there. So when did you learn that she wasn't

1052
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 1: going to stay in the same hotel room as you?

1053
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 13: Like?

1054
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: Was that part of the Hey, I'll go with you

1055
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 1: on this trip? But here are the rules? Like did

1056
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: you guys text about that ahead of time or how

1057
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:56,320
Speaker 1: did you know that that's what she wanted?

1058
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 4: So when we got to the hotel is when.

1059
00:45:58,360 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: I found out.

1060
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 4: And it's fine, you know, I'm like, like, you know,

1061
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 4: I'm willing to pay for everything. But I mean, number one,

1062
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:05,920
Speaker 4: it was inconvenient. I found out right when I'm getting

1063
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 4: to the hotel. You know, I could have you've gotten

1064
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 4: that information. I mean, it would have screwed up the

1065
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 4: whole thing from the get go, but I mean it

1066
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,280
Speaker 4: still would have been better to get that information early.

1067
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, right when we get to the hotel, I

1068
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 4: find out, and you know, we kind of went back

1069
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 4: and forth on it and be compromised.

1070
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 1: That is what I would say.

1071
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:25,479
Speaker 4: We got like two beds in the same room, which

1072
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 4: is weird, you know, And she didn't show any affection,

1073
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 4: you know, because I I flew her, I paid for everything,

1074
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 4: you know, and I just nothing happened, like there was

1075
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 4: no reciprocal action at all.

1076
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 1: Okay, So you know, I mean, so you did, there

1077
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 1: was nothing physical. You didn't You didn't have any adult

1078
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: interaction of the naked prt uh is what you're saying.

1079
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 1: And you're and you so and and you suggested that

1080
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 1: if you had no that she wouldn't sleep in the

1081
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 1: same bed or room as you. You kind of alluded

1082
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:06,879
Speaker 1: to how maybe this trip wouldn't have even happened if

1083
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 1: you had known from the beginning. M hm, yes, okay,

1084
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:12,280
Speaker 1: we agree with that. We agree with that. So so basically,

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Speaker 1: because you paid for everything and she agreed to go

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Speaker 1: that it was implied that there was supposed to be

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Speaker 1: other things that happened like that was just implied but

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Speaker 1: never said that. Well, there's I forgot to mention Carly's here.

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Speaker 1: I'm very forgetful, Carly, Chris you guys know each other.

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Speaker 1: But I want to get to this part. So I

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Speaker 1: just want to be clear. I don't want to mischaracterize here.

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Speaker 1: You you said, hey, let's go on a trip. I'll

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00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 1: pay for everything. But it wasn't It had conditions, they

1094
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 1: were just unspoken.

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Speaker 4: In my opinion, it's common knowledge. That is a common

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Speaker 4: knowledge thing that you know. Otherwise I would have just

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Speaker 4: taken my buddy. It's common knowledge.

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Speaker 1: You go, you okay, So back to you, Carly. It's knowledge, right,

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00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:06,320
Speaker 1: I mean you heard the man. Uh no way, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: There's nothing we've just met.

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Speaker 1: We go on a trip.

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Speaker 4: There's no set recedent for that.

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Speaker 19: I look on a neuraland date.

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Speaker 1: You have some drinks, you needed a bar, you can

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Speaker 1: make it.

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Speaker 22: We literally get on a plane, we go straight to

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00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 22: the hotel and I'm going after some sort of contingency here.

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00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 2: And they didn't talk about it.

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Speaker 22: You sort of made a very boss minute choice, like

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00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 22: they're what. We didn't talk particulation. They just said we're

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00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 22: gonna feel it out.

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Speaker 4: I mean that's what you say. Listen, if you didn't

1113
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 4: want to get you know, intimate, you shouldn't have agreed

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00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 4: to the trip. Like it's I would.

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00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: I would never you didn't.

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00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 8: You didn't.

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00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,640
Speaker 2: You didn't toxture me on a trip. You didn't say anything.

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00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:51,240
Speaker 22: You made it sound like you were.

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00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:54,919
Speaker 8: Totally having a good a good time, Like I wasn't

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Speaker 8: even aware that you were.

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Speaker 19: Upset until I didn't hear from you.

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00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 22: You didn't say anything either, Nobody. I can promise you

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Speaker 22: that nobody said.

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Speaker 4: It's like you want a free car, and you went

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00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,880
Speaker 4: to the lot and you didn't leave a car, Like

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00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 4: it didn't make sense.

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00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 1: Who got a freakia? What happened? Look, here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: She owes you nothing, Chris. Let's just be really clear.

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00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 1: She doesn't owe you code whether they travel or not.

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00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:26,879
Speaker 6: Though, like even if it was their hometown, nobody owes

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00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 6: you nothing.

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00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: Nobody owes you anything now now here, I will say

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00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:33,600
Speaker 1: this a code I don't know. I will say this

1134
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: though I suppose that it might have been a good

1135
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 1: thing to maybe set out some ground rules before we go.

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00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Because I will say if

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00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,320
Speaker 1: I'm if I'm staying in a hotel room with a stranger,

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00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: I guess I in some ways in my mind, I

1139
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 1: think there's a possibility we're just throwing all the rules

1140
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 1: out the window. We're really just going for it here. Honestly,

1141
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 1: I don't think that's an unfair thing to consider that

1142
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: being said, she didn't you anything. This was not an

1143
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: this is not a this is not a you're not

1144
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:07,600
Speaker 1: buying things so that she does other things. That's there's

1145
00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:10,760
Speaker 1: a there's a name for that. It's the world's oldest profession,

1146
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,920
Speaker 1: and and and that's something that happens to other places.

1147
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 1: But I don't know that. Maybe there couldn't have been

1148
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 1: some kind of conversation from one side or the other, like, hey,

1149
00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 1: I will accept this trip for and this is just

1150
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:26,239
Speaker 1: an example. I will accept this trip. I'm excited to go.

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00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 1: I just want you to know, you know, nothing is

1152
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 1: happening here, like we're going to get to know each

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00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:32,839
Speaker 1: other and have a good time. I don't want there

1154
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 1: to be any expectations. And maybe I'll get my own

1155
00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:38,479
Speaker 1: hotel room, just so we're clear about that. Because guess what, Chris,

1156
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: it sounds like you would have said no, I don't

1157
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 1: want to go anymore, and then we would have, you know,

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00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 1: exactly where everybody stood exactly. No, I'm not I'm not

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00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 1: I'm not defending you. I'm just trying to say that

1160
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 1: I understand why it might have been valuable to discuss

1161
00:50:57,640 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 1: these kind of things before we go on trip with strangers.

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00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: But she doesn't owe you anything, man, She owes you nothing.

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Speaker 4: You know. In my mind, like I said, there's an

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00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 4: unspoken code and she broke it, and it just you know,

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00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 4: I didn't put any pressure on her. The pressure. I

1166
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 4: didn't put any pressure. She agreed to go. So there

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00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 4: is that code and it is what is expected, and

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00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:22,320
Speaker 4: I was missing. I feel like I was misled.

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Speaker 1: I don't think you were misled. I think he took

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00:51:24,560 --> 00:51:26,360
Speaker 1: a chance, and I think it didn't work, and I

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00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,359
Speaker 1: think she has every right to not do anything with

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00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 1: you and and you, guys, it appears that you had

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00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:34,279
Speaker 1: a good time anyway, So why are we blowing it down.

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00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: It sounds like maybe if you go on another date,

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00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:38,320
Speaker 1: like things could have happened. But now I don't know, Carly,

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00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:39,440
Speaker 1: what do you think you want to go out with

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Speaker 1: him again? We'll pay for.

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Speaker 8: It, I mean definitely not now.

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Speaker 19: But that's all that said before was no rules, So

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00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 19: in my mind that means you go and you see

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Speaker 19: and I feel.

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00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:57,799
Speaker 22: Like you're right, Like he didn't indicate so for me.

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00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 22: The fact that he asked is like he has making

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00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 22: a good time and this is what he was thinking.

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00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 22: Is really that's the part that you know makes me

1186
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 22: very turned off.

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Speaker 4: So this is a blatant example of me being used?

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00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 1: Is what this is?

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Speaker 7: You?

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I would use you to You don't even know

1191
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:20,839
Speaker 9: her name, You don't know her favorite color, You don't

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00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 9: light like you.

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00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 4: I mean, she knows I don't know her favorite color, right,

1194
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 4: she she knows if I fly first class or coach.

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00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:36,320
Speaker 4: You know, she knows a lot about Maies.

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Speaker 1: New Orleans.

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00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 5: And I don't blame city girls are okay?

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Speaker 1: You use sung thing and I respect the move. I

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00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,200
Speaker 1: see what you were doing. It didn't work. She doesn't

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00:52:47,239 --> 00:52:48,880
Speaker 1: know that to you. You don't have a right to

1201
00:52:48,920 --> 00:52:51,600
Speaker 1: be angry about it. Now, I'm not.

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00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:52,560
Speaker 4: I'm not angry.

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Speaker 1: I'm not angry.

1204
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 4: I'm not angry. I'm I'm disappointed and I feel used,

1205
00:52:57,760 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 4: and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Just not really.

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Speaker 4: And you said that a first date is the first date.

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Speaker 22: And if you were like you may not come on

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00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 22: this trip unless you give me sets, you should have

1210
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:08,759
Speaker 22: said that.

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Speaker 8: You didn't say it.

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00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 1: Right, I agree, I didn't.

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00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 4: You don't have to say it. You don't have to

1214
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:14,360
Speaker 4: say it if.

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00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 1: You read the you know what I'm saying. You know

1216
00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 1: what's ever read the fine front of the ticket, but

1217
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 1: it says it right there. You have to look a

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00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:22,239
Speaker 1: little more carefully, says Chris.

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Speaker 4: Uh, it's implied. We flew, we flew to a different

1220
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 4: city together.

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Speaker 18: We didn't go to the first date.

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00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 8: You didn't present yourself that way.

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00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 11: You never said anything, and to me.

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00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 22: Even implied that. That's like, there are dates that are

1225
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,399
Speaker 22: very clearly we're gonna go on this date and there's

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00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 22: no expectations we're going to get to know each other.

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Speaker 22: And there's other dates where you know, if you show

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00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,080
Speaker 22: up to that date, the guy is interested in one thing,

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00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:50,439
Speaker 22: and you show up to those dates knowing that that's

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00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 22: the only thing on his mind.

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Speaker 8: And you were very much the.

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00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 4: First that's every date. That's every date.

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00:53:57,400 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: You just that's every date, and you're just morn okay.

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Speaker 1: Because here's the thing. If Chris had been like, hey,

1235
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: so we're getting it on, well, then I suppose that

1236
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:07,759
Speaker 1: that makes it very clear. But then you know, he

1237
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: didn't do that because he knows that runs the risk

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00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:12,520
Speaker 1: of her not going. And then she could have been like, hey,

1239
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: I'm not by just for the record, but nothing's happening.

1240
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:17,960
Speaker 1: That also could have shut things down. I mean, so yeah,

1241
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 1: I guess there could have been a very unromantic conversation

1242
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 1: about ground rules to begin, or there just could have

1243
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: been you know, common human decency, which did happen. But

1244
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: all the while he's mad about it, and now he

1245
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 1: won't go out with her again. I think that's the

1246
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,200
Speaker 1: risk you take. But look, she doesn't want to go

1247
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:34,399
Speaker 1: out with you again. Chris, I'm not. I don't think

1248
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:37,120
Speaker 1: you were used. You took a shot, it didn't work.

1249
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 1: I wish you the best, card I wish you the

1250
00:54:40,320 --> 00:54:45,960
Speaker 1: best as well than it is The freend Show. Good morning.

1251
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:47,840
Speaker 1: Thanks for having us on the radio, on the iHeart

1252
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:50,920
Speaker 1: app live and anytime search for The Freend Show on demand. Okay,

1253
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: so here's our morality Monday, and this is from our

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00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:55,879
Speaker 1: friends that reddit. Am I the a whole eight five, five,

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Speaker 1: five nine, one one oh three five. You can context

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Speaker 1: the same number. My wife, who's twenty nine and I,

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Speaker 1: he's a thirty one year old male, have a three

1258
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 1: year old son. I think some people can relate to this.

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Speaker 1: I work ten to twelve hour days as a contractor

1260
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 1: while she stays home. Lately, she's been venting online and

1261
00:55:11,600 --> 00:55:14,040
Speaker 1: too friends, saying that she feels like a single mom

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00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 1: because I'm never around. This is from the perspective of

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Speaker 1: the I'm the guy who works all the time. I

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00:55:19,680 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 1: get that she's overwhelmed. I am too, but I'm working

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Speaker 1: my butt off to keep us afloat. The other night,

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Speaker 1: I heard her refer to herself as a solo parent

1267
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 1: during a zoom call with her mom. After she hung up,

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Speaker 1: I told her that I didn't appreciate that. I'm not partying,

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00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 1: I'm not neglecting our family. I'm working. She said I'm

1270
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:41,160
Speaker 1: being defensive and that she feels like a single mom

1271
00:55:41,239 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 1: because she handles everything alone at home. Now I feel guilty.

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00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:48,000
Speaker 1: I don't want to invalidate her, but I also feel

1273
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 1: like she's ignoring everything I do. Am I the a

1274
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: hole for calling her out? I mean, she's not a

1275
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:58,359
Speaker 1: single mom. No, And if it requires ten to twelve

1276
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: hours a day of this man working to to provide

1277
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:04,839
Speaker 1: their lifestyle, then it sounds like they're both doing jobs right.

1278
00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 1: He's doing his job to make money. She's doing her job,

1279
00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:11,360
Speaker 1: which is a job to raise the kids. But I

1280
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:14,000
Speaker 1: hear this argument sometimes when one person's at home and

1281
00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 1: the other person's at work, and that's a decision that

1282
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 1: was made within the relationship that this is how we're

1283
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,920
Speaker 1: going to do this. And I hear this sometimes like oh,

1284
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 1: it must be nice, and I think you can. I

1285
00:56:24,040 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't think one side always sees the

1286
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: other side, you know, cause it's like my buddies that

1287
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,200
Speaker 1: travel live pilot buddies. Right, they're gone for you know,

1288
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 1: a week at a time. They've always been this for

1289
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 1: thirty years, right, It's been this way forever, and then

1290
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: they come back and it's like it must have been

1291
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:39,000
Speaker 1: nice to be and you know, Dubai for a week,

1292
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 1: it must have been nice. I was out here making

1293
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 1: lunches and driving a soccer practice and it's like, well,

1294
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 1: first of all, you know, maybe maybe it was nice

1295
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 1: in some regards, but in other regards, like this is

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Speaker 1: my life. I got, I got aluminum, platinum, diamond gold.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm the biggest badass status at Hilton because

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Speaker 1: I don't sleep in my house. Like anytime you see

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Speaker 1: somebody who'd like they when they check in, someone hands

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Speaker 1: them a bottle of champagne and like kisses their feet.

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00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:08,520
Speaker 1: At first, I'm like, Wow, they're going to get a

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Speaker 1: really nice room. And then I'm like, in order to

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Speaker 1: get that, they don't ever get to go home, right, So,

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Speaker 1: so my buddies I talk about this all the time.

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Speaker 1: He's like, you know, I would much try to be

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Speaker 1: here with my family. I would much try to be

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Speaker 1: here on my terms. But I'm here because the boss

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00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 1: needs to be here. And if the boss calls me

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00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:25,439
Speaker 1: right now, it says we're leaving, we're leaving, which means

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Speaker 1: I'm not at the bar. You know, I'm not partying,

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Speaker 1: I'm not on a I'm not riding a camel, you know,

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Speaker 1: or whatever. Like this is not my vacation. This is work,

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Speaker 1: and I don't get to choose when or where or

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Speaker 1: how or any of it. And so yeah, I guess

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Speaker 1: I'd get to sleep in a hotel bed and sleep

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Speaker 1: in sometimes and eat room service. But at the same time,

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Speaker 1: maybe I would rather be driving to soccer practice. And

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Speaker 1: then on the flip side, you know, you've got the

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Speaker 1: people going, you know, on the side of the person

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Speaker 1: who's doing all that, it's like, well, maybe i'd like

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Speaker 1: the night out sometimes or the night away, or maybe

1322
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Speaker 1: I'd like the exposure to adults. Yes, you know, I'd

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Speaker 1: like to be able to go to I would like

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Speaker 1: to go to work for eight ten hours a day.

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Speaker 1: And you know, I know people who in this case,

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Speaker 1: it's the man who goes to work and the wife

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Speaker 1: keeps a part time job, and it actually costs them

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Speaker 1: money for her to go to work as a flight attendant.

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Speaker 1: I've used this example before. But they do it anyway

1330
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Speaker 1: because like for him to stay home, he makes three

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Speaker 1: times what she does as a pilot, so for her

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Speaker 1: to go to work costs money, But they do it

1333
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Speaker 1: anyway because for her, it's like, this is my independence,

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Speaker 1: this is my job, this is part of my identity.

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Speaker 1: I want to go on a trip, I want to

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Speaker 1: hang out with adults. I want to make a little

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Speaker 1: bit of money.

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Speaker 5: He's cool for that, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But I just I think that this sort of argument

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Speaker 1: fundamentally is based on one side not seeing the other,

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Speaker 1: or one side wanting some elements that the others. I

1342
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Speaker 1: think everybody wants a little bit of the other thing.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just curious for those of you who deal

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Speaker 1: with this. If one person is primarily raising kids and

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Speaker 1: one person is primarily working do you really think you

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Speaker 1: could say that? Is that a fair thing to say

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Speaker 1: out loud? Because it makes it solo parent, kind of

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Speaker 1: implies that the other parent isn't involved or doesn't care.

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Speaker 1: It's like deadbeat. It's giving deadbeat. It is, but it's

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Speaker 1: the exact opposite.

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Speaker 16: Also, like if you feel that way, it's it's not

1352
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Speaker 16: the time to get it out on a zoom call

1353
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Speaker 16: when it can just be overheard by your partner. And

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Speaker 16: what's sad is I think it takes both people to

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Speaker 16: make the raising the children work.

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Speaker 5: It does, you know? And comparison is the thief of joy.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I just I And if I heard I

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Speaker 1: hear if this is me and I heard my wife

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Speaker 1: saying this to her mom, that's even worse because it's

1360
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Speaker 1: like you're telling your mom that I'm basically about dad.

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Speaker 13: True.

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't like dead el is it l

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Speaker 1: or Ellie? This l thing?

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Speaker 19: Oh?

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Speaker 1: How you doing? So this scenario, it's like you've got

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Speaker 1: the dad working twelve hours a day. In this case,

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Speaker 1: you've got the mom at home and the mom feels

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Speaker 1: like she's a single parent, and the dad's like, hey,

1369
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Speaker 1: at first he was upset, Now he feels guilty, but

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Speaker 1: I don't necessarily think that's a fair thing to say about.

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Speaker 23: Him, not at all as a truly solo parent.

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Speaker 11: This makes me so angry.

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Speaker 23: I'm actually shaking, because she's still like, she's not had

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Speaker 23: to work, she's not worried about the bills herself. She's

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Speaker 23: getting support in some way, shape or form, even though

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Speaker 23: he might not be present. So it's just not something

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Speaker 23: that you can just say like that, because she's just

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Speaker 23: not even realizing the impact she's getting from having that

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Speaker 23: man in her life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that would trigger me too, because what

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Speaker 1: about the people who are in fact solo parents and

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Speaker 1: it all falls on them. They have to somehow figure

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Speaker 1: out a way to pay for the you know, pay

1384
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Speaker 1: pay the bills and the mortgage and the rats and

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Speaker 1: the food and carry at soccer practice and figure out

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Speaker 1: the logistics of the rest of that. I mean, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not minimizing one or the other, but for you,

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Speaker 1: you have to figure out both.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and not to min in lided either, because she still.

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Speaker 23: Has to step up in ways that maybe she didn't

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Speaker 23: anticipate when they originally decided to have a child. But

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Speaker 23: I mean, I remember when I just had a three

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Speaker 23: month old and I couldn't even just go to the bathroom.

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Speaker 23: I couldn't just go down the street and get a coffee.

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Speaker 23: Like there's just so much you don't realize thattually happens

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Speaker 23: when you are a truly solo parent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, thank you so much.

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Speaker 11: Definitely the ale in this one.

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Speaker 1: Okay, A fair enough. I'll let her know. Thanks, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Will guys love your show, Thank you, love you too. Y.

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Speaker 6: I mean it's a good point that you've made though, too,

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01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 6: where it's like you look at one side look at

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Speaker 6: the other side right like you got it better.

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Speaker 5: I know you got it better, but I think.

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Speaker 6: It's also like for my personal experience, from my experience,

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Speaker 6: I feel like I'm looking at it that what does

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Speaker 6: his husband do when he comes home? Is he playing

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Speaker 6: video games? Is he disassociating from his family. I know

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Speaker 6: that the ten to twelve hour shifts are long, and

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01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 6: they're lengthy and hard, but I feel like they can

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Speaker 6: at least come home right, play with the kids, make dinner,

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Speaker 6: like help out, because I think then that would take

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Speaker 6: less off of the mom who is home all day

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Speaker 6: with the kids.

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Speaker 4: You know you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So there's a question. I don't know the answer.

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Speaker 1: I'm asking like an open ended question, But is it

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Speaker 1: fair for someone who worked ten hours a day to

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Speaker 1: then come home and take an hour to decompress?

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Speaker 17: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Because because what I think. I think sometimes it's it's like, yeah, you, yes,

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01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:01,280
Speaker 1: you were at home with the kids all day, but

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Speaker 1: then am I expected I don't know the answer, but

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01:02:03,480 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 1: am I expected to just after my ten hour day

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Speaker 1: walk in and then just take over the parenting role

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Speaker 1: and then you get a break? I don't know the

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Speaker 1: answer to that, but like I think, sometimes there's not

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Speaker 1: a respect for what the other one's doing. It's like

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Speaker 1: I just went to work. I just sat in traffic

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Speaker 1: for an hour, right, Yeah, I just had spit up

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Speaker 1: on me all day and watched Miss Rachel for the

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Speaker 1: thirty seven times. Sounds like me, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: So it's like, I don't know, I've heard that one

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Speaker 1: before where that guy comes home he sortaedy, he wants

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Speaker 1: to go to bed. And it's not that I don't

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Speaker 1: know that he's a bad guy or a bad girl

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Speaker 1: or whatever, but like you're only capable of so much.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, communicate. I think you had a community with a partner,

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01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:40,439
Speaker 6: how are you feeling this moment? Hey, I just walked

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Speaker 6: in the house like give me, you know, thirty minutes

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01:02:42,520 --> 01:02:43,720
Speaker 6: and then I think, just so you got to work

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Speaker 6: it out.

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Speaker 5: It's hard, but you got to balance it some way.

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Speaker 1: Melissa. Yeah, Melissa, good morning, welcome. What do you think so?

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Speaker 2: I think the bad here is a for not pie hole.

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01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:59,480
Speaker 2: She just needs to reorganize her thinking to be able

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Speaker 2: to include him or incorporate him with more parental responsibilities.

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Speaker 2: Like you said, they're both performing a job here. His

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Speaker 2: is the financial income.

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Speaker 8: The financial stability, the security there. She is providing the

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Speaker 8: parenting here, whether she wants it or not. If that's

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Speaker 8: something that she kind of and formally agreed to that

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01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:24,040
Speaker 8: that's just the way it is. If she's not reporting

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Speaker 8: somewhere to go to and provide the same way he does,

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01:03:27,720 --> 01:03:30,360
Speaker 8: then she's not the solo parent here. She's just they're

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Speaker 8: just providing different job aspects of the family part the

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01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,640
Speaker 8: being at home, that being the parent like the absent

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Speaker 8: or the present parent. She's just the main go to

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Speaker 8: right now for him physically, but the dad is definitely

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Speaker 8: there to provide for them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Melissa, thank you, have a good day. Absolutely, I

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Speaker 1: feel like sometimes people would switch roles even like I know,

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what you think. It's you think it's

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Speaker 1: so great, you know, doing this, and the other that

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Speaker 1: you think it's so great you're going to work and

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Speaker 1: dealing with these idiots, Like how about I stay home

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Speaker 1: and I'll take care of my kids? Because you know,

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Speaker 1: I think the other thing that's sort of negated here

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Speaker 1: is like maybe he loves I'm sure he loves his

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Speaker 1: kids too, and I'm sure he would rather be at

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Speaker 1: soccer practice or being the coach or going to the

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Speaker 1: games or feeding the kids or whatever. I'm sure there's

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Speaker 1: bonding time that he's missing. So it probably has moments

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Speaker 1: where it's like, Okay, cool kids crying, I gotta go

1475
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Speaker 1: to work, by you deal with it. But then I'm

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Speaker 1: sure it also has moments where it's like, man, I

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Speaker 1: can't believe I'm missing that. But if he were there,

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Speaker 1: then who is making the money to pay the bills?

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Speaker 1: In this case, you know you can you could flip

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Speaker 1: it and it could be the other way around. It's

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Speaker 1: like the grass is always greener. I feel like Ashley

1482
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Speaker 1: hi O in this scenario, if you're just tuning in,

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Speaker 1: there's a woman and this is from the male perspective,

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Speaker 1: But he heard his wife saying that she is a

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Speaker 1: solo parent because he works ten to twelve hours a

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Speaker 1: day and she's telling people this, like her mom and friends,

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Speaker 1: and he's offended, and then he sort of vacillates on Well,

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Speaker 1: so I feel bad for saying something to her or not,

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Speaker 1: But this is the agreement that we came up with.

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Speaker 1: I work in a traditional setting. I pay the bills

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Speaker 1: and you take care of the kids. That doesn't make

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Speaker 1: you a solo parent. What do you think?

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Speaker 21: No, she is absolutely wrong saying that she's a solo parent.

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Speaker 21: Parent I think is just really hurtful. I have a

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Speaker 21: two year old and a baby on the way in

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Speaker 21: three weeks, and my husband has a traveling job and

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Speaker 21: his travel is sporadic. He can up and go and

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Speaker 21: I only have a week or a couple of weeks notice,

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Speaker 21: and sometimes he's gone, you know what seems like half

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Speaker 21: a month, and sometimes it's us. By no means am

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Speaker 21: I a solo parent at all. It is very hard,

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Speaker 21: especially with two small kids. But we had a conversation,

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Speaker 21: and I knew his work before we made these decisions,

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Speaker 21: and we have to continue to have conversation about hey,

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Speaker 21: is do we need to make a change? And I

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Speaker 21: know job changes and things like that, they're not easy

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Speaker 21: at all, but is it do I need to go

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Speaker 21: part time? Do we want does he want to be

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Speaker 21: home more? Do we need to make a change there?

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Speaker 21: Or do we need to make a lifestyle change, you know,

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Speaker 21: with you know home or otherwise? And those are big

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Speaker 21: changes and really tough decisions. But if it's bothering her

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Speaker 21: that much, it's definitely a conversation because she's not a

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Speaker 21: solo parent at all. I will say that like, oh

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Speaker 21: I'm I'm I'm solo this week. My husband's gone and

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Speaker 21: we have a village that helps me out. So it's

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Speaker 21: just you got to talk about options. There was ways

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Speaker 21: to work things out. I'm with her, it's not easy,

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Speaker 21: especially with two kids being super pregnant, but by no

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Speaker 21: means am I solo mom? And that's really hurtful to

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Speaker 21: say about her husband.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, especially but us thank you for sharing reratulations

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Speaker 1: by the way on the new one in a couple

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Speaker 1: of weeks.

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Speaker 21: Making more listeners.

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Speaker 17: You got to.

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Speaker 1: Get you know, in my understanding is as soon as

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01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:12,280
Speaker 1: that baby's born, he said, boy or a girl, girl,

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Speaker 1: this time. Apparently Jessica listener number eleven is moving to

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Speaker 1: like Microneese or something and like in the jungle there.

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01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:20,960
Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a jungle there, but my

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Speaker 1: understanding is some form of jungle and there's no internet.

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Speaker 1: So we lost her. So the baby just so it'll

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Speaker 1: never be more than thirteen. So don't even try and

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Speaker 1: get greedy. Okay, okay, So I'm gonna start.

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Speaker 21: We'll let you guys start the whole NAT leave.

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Speaker 1: I like it. Thanks, you have a good day, Ashley.

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Speaker 15: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: We keep adding cities and we only have the same

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Speaker 1: number of listeners. Hey, Linda, good morning, Linda. Hi doing great,

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Speaker 1: Thanks for calling, Thanks for listening. So I'm gonna give

1542
01:07:45,120 --> 01:07:48,120
Speaker 1: you the final say here. And someone brought up military

1543
01:07:48,160 --> 01:07:50,440
Speaker 1: families too, by the way, which I mean there's one.

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Speaker 1: It's like people gone for you know, Shelley's husband gone

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Speaker 1: for two three months at a time, longer years at

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Speaker 1: a time, sometimes depending on what's going on. And does

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Speaker 1: that make that person any less of a parent? I

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Speaker 1: would I would argue, no, they're they're they're doing what

1549
01:08:04,240 --> 01:08:07,560
Speaker 1: they got to do. What do you think, right, well,

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Speaker 1: I think.

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Speaker 24: The hardest part of this this whole argument is that

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01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:18,960
Speaker 24: the role of motherhood is always somehow less stressful than

1553
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Speaker 24: going to work for twelve hours.

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Speaker 7: My ex husband was an air traffic bro one of

1555
01:08:24,280 --> 01:08:26,839
Speaker 7: the most stressful jobs in the world, as.

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Speaker 1: You might know.

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Speaker 7: And you know, I'm at home with two kids under two,

1558
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Speaker 7: and all I want to do is take a shower.

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Speaker 1: That's all I want to do is take a shower.

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Speaker 7: And so, you know, he comes home from work, and yeah,

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Speaker 7: he wants to unwind, and yeah, you know, he's not

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Speaker 7: really interested in two screaming, you know, two year olds.

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Speaker 7: But at the same time, I need you to acknowledge

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Speaker 7: that my job is as important as yours and I

1565
01:08:50,479 --> 01:08:53,160
Speaker 7: just need to take a shower. And so there was

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Speaker 7: always that, there was always that argument of who's is

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Speaker 7: more important, and they both are, they both are important.

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Speaker 24: But for me, I felt.

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Speaker 7: That as a mother, a stay at home mother, my

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Speaker 7: job was made less important because of the importance of

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Speaker 7: his job in the world. And and so I was

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Speaker 7: just like, you know, can I have five minutes him

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Speaker 7: He's like, well, you know, I've been busy all day

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Speaker 7: and you know, my brain you can't even think.

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Speaker 5: And I'm like, I understand.

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Speaker 7: That, and He's like, well, you've been home all day,

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Speaker 7: you know, as if that's a vacation. So I think

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Speaker 7: in the world in general, we need to give mothers

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Speaker 7: credit for how hard it is to be a mom

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Speaker 7: full time, and it is just as important, and it

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Speaker 7: is just as taxing at times, especially with two hundred two.

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Speaker 1: I agree. I agree, but you know, I hey, in

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Speaker 1: his defense, he's been dealing with you know, screaming pilots

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01:09:46,320 --> 01:09:48,640
Speaker 1: all day that are just the same as baby.

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Speaker 7: The story is audible hair.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, pilots are just annoying his baby. It's the

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Speaker 1: same thing, Linda, thank you, have a good day.

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Speaker 20: More Bread Show Next, The Fread Show is on Fread's

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Speaker 20: Fun Fact.

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Speaker 9: Bread Fun.

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Speaker 1: Learn so much guys, did you know this? Blew my mind?

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01:10:20,360 --> 01:10:29,519
Speaker 1: It blew my mind. Bananas are berries. Strawberries are not berries. Yeah,

1593
01:10:29,760 --> 01:10:32,760
Speaker 1: botanically speaking, And that's the that's the only way I

1594
01:10:32,800 --> 01:10:37,920
Speaker 1: talk is Botanically, bananas qualify as berries while strawberries do not.

1595
01:10:38,439 --> 01:10:41,439
Speaker 1: It's all about how the fruit forms from the flower.

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01:10:43,439 --> 01:10:47,000
Speaker 1: So bananas are considered a berry, but a strawberry is

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Speaker 1: not a berry.

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Speaker 5: But how do you open your bananas?

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01:10:52,000 --> 01:10:53,960
Speaker 1: I open it the way that you're supposed to, which

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Speaker 1: is the stem and you crack the steam and peel

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Speaker 1: it down. I don't care what a monkey does. This

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Speaker 1: is That's not what I do.

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Speaker 4: So here, get up, I got more thread show next.

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Speaker 18: Never have I ever called my sister from the finish

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Speaker 18: line of my first marathon.

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Speaker 3: Hello, you won't