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It helps keep the 39 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 6: ministry going. 40 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 4: Enjoy the message. 41 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 6: Well, God bless you. It's always a joy to come 42 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 6: into your homes. And if you're ever in our area, 43 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 6: please stop by and be a part of one of 44 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 6: our services. I'll promise you we'll make you feel right 45 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 6: at home. But thanks so much for tuning in, and 46 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 6: thank you again for coming out today. And I like 47 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 6: to start with something funny and I heard about these 48 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 6: two ladies that died and went to heaven. Peter met 49 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 6: them at the gate and said, you'll be. 50 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 7: Happy here if you follow one main rule. 51 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,239 Speaker 6: Don't step on a duck. If you step on a duck, 52 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 6: they make a terrible racket. A week later, one of 53 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 6: the ladies accidentally stepped on a duck. Peter came up 54 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 6: to her with this extremely unattractive man, nothing appealing about 55 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 6: him whatsoever, said is your punishment. You're going to be 56 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 6: chained to this man. Seeing this, the other lady was 57 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 6: very careful. A month later, Peter came up to her 58 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 6: with this incredibly handsome man, amazing physique, looked like a 59 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 6: movie star, chained them together. 60 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 7: The lady was thrilled. 61 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 6: She said to him, I don't know what I did 62 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:03,959 Speaker 6: to deserve getting chained to you. He said, I don't 63 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:06,239 Speaker 6: know what you did, ma'am, but I stepped on a duck. 64 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 6: Say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 65 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 6: I am what it says I am. I have what 66 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 6: it says I have. I can do what it says 67 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 6: I can do. Today I will be taught the word 68 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 6: of God. I boldly confess my mind is alert, my 69 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 6: heart is receptive. 70 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 7: I will never be the same. In Jesus's name. 71 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 6: I want to talk to you today about keeping strife 72 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 6: out of your life. One of the biggest challenges we 73 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 6: all face is getting along with people. 74 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 7: Because everyone is different. 75 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 6: We have different personalities, different temperaments, we come from different backgrounds. 76 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 6: When somebody doesn't agree with us, or they do something 77 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 6: we don't like, it's easy to get in conflict with them, argue, 78 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 6: try to straighten them. 79 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 7: Out, prove our point. 80 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 6: Before long, we're at odds, mad at each other, living offended, 81 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 6: their stress, tension in the home. What's happened We've allowed 82 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 6: strife in Strife is a spirit, just like. 83 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 7: Peace is a spirit. 84 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:16,039 Speaker 6: You've walked into a place before. You don't know anybody, 85 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:19,359 Speaker 6: you've never been there, but you can feel the tension 86 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 6: in the room, in the atmosphere, there's stress, discord. Nobody 87 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 6: said anything, but you know something is not right. 88 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 7: That's the spirit of strife. 89 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 6: If we would see it as the destructive force that 90 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 6: it is, we would be more careful about allowing it 91 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:42,720 Speaker 6: in our lives. After all, it's easy to argue, especially 92 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 6: with those closest to you. 93 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 7: Let's be real, your spouse can get on your nerves. 94 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,600 Speaker 7: You love the man, you can't live without him. Sometimes 95 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:54,720 Speaker 7: you feel like choking him. A reporter asked. 96 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 6: Billy Graham if he'd ever thought about divorce. 97 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 7: He said, divorce, no, but murder, yeah. 98 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:00,160 Speaker 8: Yes. 99 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:05,039 Speaker 6: But when we let our guard down and say things 100 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 6: that are hurtful, disrespectful, demeaning, that's not only damaging the relationship, 101 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 6: that's opening the door to strife. That's inviting that destructive. 102 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 7: Spirit into our life. That's why the scripture says, give 103 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 7: no place to the enemy. 104 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 6: Strife can't just come in when it wants bring division, disharmony, 105 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 6: tear relationships apart. 106 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:29,279 Speaker 7: We have to open the door. 107 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,719 Speaker 6: And I'm not saying that we should never have an argument, 108 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 6: never say a wrong word. 109 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 7: That's not reality. 110 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 6: But when it comes a part of who we are, 111 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:46,160 Speaker 6: it becomes common. We're constantly arguing, fighting, being disrespectful. 112 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 7: That means we've gone way too far. 113 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 6: And Jesus said in March chapter three, a home filled 114 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 6: with strife and. 115 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 7: Division destroys itself. 116 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,839 Speaker 6: If you allow the spirit of strife in, it'll tear 117 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 6: part relationships, tear apart your marriage, your family. 118 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 7: I've seen lifelong friendships destroyed over one disagreement. That's strife 119 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:13,040 Speaker 7: doing what it does best. Now, you said, Joel, I 120 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 7: wouldn't get. 121 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 6: So upset if my coworker wouldn't be disrespectful to me. 122 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 6: I wouldn't argue if my spouse wouldn't push my buttons. 123 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 6: That's why we fight all the time. No, you have 124 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:29,119 Speaker 6: to be the bigger person. Just because somebody is doing 125 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:33,679 Speaker 6: wrong doesn't mean you have to engage. That's the spirit 126 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 6: of strife baiting, you saying, come on, let me in argue, fight, 127 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 6: be disrespectful, don't take the bait. 128 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 7: It takes a mature. 129 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:47,920 Speaker 6: Person to overlook an offense and say, no, I'm not 130 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 6: taking that bait. 131 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:54,799 Speaker 7: I'm staying in peace. It takes maturity to apologize, even 132 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 7: when it wasn't your fault. If you're going to. 133 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 6: Keep strife out, you have to get good at walking 134 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 6: away when everything in you says to let them have it. 135 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 7: There will be times when you know you're right, the. 136 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 6: Other person is being disrespectful, they're not telling the truth, 137 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 6: but for the sake of. 138 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 7: Peace, you let it go. 139 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 6: Jesus said, blessed are the peacemakers. He didn't say blessed 140 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 6: are the people who are right. Sometimes you have to 141 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 6: let the other person think they're right, even when you 142 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 6: know they're wrong. We think, well, if i'm right, I'm 143 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 6: not going back down. I'm gonna prove to them that 144 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 6: I'm right. I'm gonna win this battle. Can I tell 145 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 6: you being right is overrated. You can be right and 146 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 6: be miserable. You can be right and sleep on the couch. 147 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 6: You can be right your whole life and have nobody 148 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 6: at your funeral. You can prove your point always win 149 00:07:54,720 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 6: the battle, but you don't realize it's damaging your relationships. 150 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 7: We're in I don't always agree. One of my. 151 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 6: Strengths is I won't argue. Things start to get a 152 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 6: little heated, I walk away. It takes two people to fight. 153 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 6: You don't have to engage. I would rather have peace 154 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 6: than have my way. 155 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 7: I would rather have. 156 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 6: A loving, kind, fun atmosphere in my home than to 157 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 6: win the battle. 158 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 7: But be so miserable, I don't want to be there. 159 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 6: I've learned if you'll let God do it his way, 160 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,239 Speaker 6: he'll change what needs to be changed. 161 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:37,199 Speaker 7: God is the potter. We can't change people. Only God can. 162 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 7: These are tests that we must pass. 163 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 6: Well, you stay on the high road and bite your 164 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 6: tongue even when you feel like telling somebody off. Will 165 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 6: you put your ego down and let somebody else. 166 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 7: Be right even when you know they're wrong. 167 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 6: The scripture says one can chase a thousand, but two 168 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 6: can put ten thousand to flight. When you're in unity, 169 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 6: the favor on your life is increased. You are ten 170 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 6: times more powerful when you're in agreement. This means you 171 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 6: have ten times the strength to withstand attacks, to overcome obstacles. 172 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 6: You can accomplish dreams ten times bigger, ten times more rewarding. 173 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 6: You will go so much further if you will keep 174 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 6: unity in your home. Some of the obstacles you can't 175 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 6: seem to overcome, the doors that are not opening. 176 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:36,079 Speaker 7: It may be because. 177 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 6: You're operating with the strength of one their strife and division. 178 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:43,840 Speaker 6: You need the ten times power to reach the fullness 179 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:47,199 Speaker 6: of your destiny. And that person God put in your 180 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 6: life is not just there for companionship. 181 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 7: There is a spiritual force released when you live in 182 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 7: peace and harmony. 183 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 6: When Victoria and I first got married, like all couples, 184 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 6: we had to work through some things. 185 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 7: The scripture says, the two shall become one. You don't 186 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 7: become overnight. 187 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:11,200 Speaker 6: It takes some time. Twenty eight years later, I'm still 188 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 6: training her. I mean she's still training me. But we 189 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:17,959 Speaker 6: made a decision early on in our relationship that we 190 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:19,119 Speaker 6: were going to keep. 191 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 7: Strife out of our home. It didn't happen automatically. 192 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 6: We're two different people, have two different ways of doing things. 193 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 6: We had to grow together make allowances overlook some things. 194 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 6: Had we not stayed on the offensive and worked to 195 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:40,079 Speaker 6: keep strife out, not only would we not still be together, 196 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 6: but we wouldn't be where we are. When we were 197 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 6: believing for this place, the former Compact Center, it was 198 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 6: going to take more than just my faith. I needed 199 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 6: that ten times power. This dream was so big the 200 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 6: only way it could be accomplished is for somebody else 201 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 6: to come into agreement. 202 00:10:59,160 --> 00:10:59,959 Speaker 7: Says in Psalm. 203 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:04,439 Speaker 6: Where there's unity, there is a commanded blessing on your life. 204 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 6: That's when you'll accomplish things that you could not accomplish 205 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 6: on your own. If we realized what we were giving 206 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 6: up by allowing all these petty things to tear us apart, strife, discord, 207 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 6: being at odds with each other, if we really saw 208 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 6: how that was holding us back, we would work over 209 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:28,559 Speaker 6: time to keep peace in our life. God has big 210 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 6: things in your future, but it's going to take more 211 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 6: than just your faith. You're going to need the ten 212 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:37,559 Speaker 6: times power that comes from having unity in your home. 213 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 6: Think about what your children can accomplish when you are 214 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 6: in agreement with your spouse. Ten times the influence, ten 215 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 6: times creativity, ten times the power. This is one of 216 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 6: the things that holds us back. It's not our lack 217 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,679 Speaker 6: of talent, education, the background we come from. It's the 218 00:11:56,720 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 6: fact that we're operating on one tenth the power. What 219 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 6: would happen if you would draw the line in the 220 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 6: sand and say that's it from this day forward, I'm 221 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 6: keeping strife out of my life. No more arguing, no 222 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 6: more petty fights, no more saying disrespectful things. 223 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 7: I'm staying on the high road. I'm not allowing division, discord, 224 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:23,960 Speaker 7: tension in my home. I'm going to be a peacemaker. 225 00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 6: When you do that, God will release the ten times power, favor, increase, 226 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:33,560 Speaker 6: blessing like you've never seen. Well, Joel, If I don't 227 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:36,320 Speaker 6: stand up for myself, if I don't tell people what 228 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 6: I think, that's. 229 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 7: Going to make me look weak. It's just the opposite. 230 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 7: When you go the extra mile to keep strife out 231 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 7: of your home. That's not being weak. That's a sign 232 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 7: of strength. 233 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 6: The most mature person is the one that walks away 234 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 6: from the argument. 235 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 7: The most mature person is not always the one that's right. 236 00:12:57,559 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 7: It's the one that keeps the peace. 237 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,680 Speaker 6: And you know what, arguing and having to be right 238 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 6: really boils down to pride. 239 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:07,240 Speaker 7: I'm not going to let them get the best of me. 240 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:11,079 Speaker 6: You have to put your ego down and say, I'd 241 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,320 Speaker 6: rather have peace in my life. I would rather have 242 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 6: the ten times blessing. 243 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 7: Than just being right. 244 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,080 Speaker 6: This couple I know had been trying to have a 245 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 6: baby for many years with no success. The lady took 246 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:28,400 Speaker 6: the infertility treatments. They were praying, believing, doing everything they could, 247 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:32,200 Speaker 6: but still no child. One day, the man was flying 248 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 6: home from India. He's a minister and he'd been over 249 00:13:35,400 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 6: there teaching the people. 250 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:38,359 Speaker 7: He was very discouraged. 251 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:42,600 Speaker 6: Sitting on the flight all alone, he said under his breath, 252 00:13:42,960 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 6: God is not fair. I'm over here doing what you've 253 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 6: asked me to do. Why won't you give us a baby? God, 254 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:53,679 Speaker 6: I don't understand why we can't have a child. God 255 00:13:53,760 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 6: said something back to him, not out loud, but in 256 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:58,960 Speaker 6: his spirit. He said, son, you're not going to have 257 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 6: a baby until you start treating your wife better. 258 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,360 Speaker 7: He was a good man, he loved the Lord. 259 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:07,959 Speaker 6: When you see him out in public, they seemed as 260 00:14:07,960 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 6: happy as can be. But deep down he knew he 261 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:14,360 Speaker 6: wasn't treating his wife the way he should be. 262 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 7: Wasn't anything big, just little things. 263 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 6: He'd become disrespectful, saying things that he'd know he shouldn't say, 264 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 6: become argumentative. Where he used to overlook things let it go, 265 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:31,080 Speaker 6: now he'd keep it stirred up. He'd become hard to 266 00:14:31,080 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 6: get along with, unfriendly, not putting any effort into the relationship. 267 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:40,520 Speaker 6: The good news is he was willing to change. He 268 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 6: took it to heart. He made the adjustments. A couple 269 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 6: of years later, his wife gave birth to a beautiful 270 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 6: baby daughter. 271 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 7: Maybe, like my friend, you know you're not being your 272 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 7: best in this area. You drifted down the wrong path. 273 00:14:55,640 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 6: God is not here to condemn us to make us 274 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 6: feel bad about our ourselves, but he will convict us 275 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 6: and challenge us to come up higher. Condemnation pushes us down. 276 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,520 Speaker 6: Conviction is there to push us up. But we have 277 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 6: to do like my friend and say okay, I'm willing 278 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:14,680 Speaker 6: to change. 279 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:16,359 Speaker 7: I can make some adjustments. 280 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 3: Now. 281 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 7: Don't sit here and think, boy, I wish my husband 282 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 7: would have come today. He really needs this. No, God 283 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 7: has the right people here. Don't ask how God can 284 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 7: change somebody else. 285 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 6: Look inside and say, God, how can I change? How 286 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 6: can I get along better with people? Or maybe God, 287 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 6: what am I doing that's keeping my spouse and eye 288 00:15:38,920 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 6: from that. 289 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 7: Ten times blessing? 290 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 6: What am I doing that's going to make it harder 291 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:46,680 Speaker 6: on my children? Passing down things that are going to 292 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 6: hold them back. What we're modeling in our homes is 293 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 6: the way our children are going to treat people they 294 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 6: get in relationship with Mothers. If you want your son 295 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 6: to have a healthy, loving relationship with his wife, then 296 00:16:03,120 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 6: you have to sow a seed by treating your husband 297 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 6: in a loving, healthy way. Fathers, if you want your 298 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 6: daughter to be treated with respect and honor, like the 299 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 6: queen that she is, then make sure you're treating your 300 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 6: wife like the queen that she is. 301 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 7: With respect and honor. 302 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 6: That means not saying everything you feel like saying, not 303 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 6: pushing the buttons, not allowing the spirit of strife in 304 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 6: your home. If you don't do it, for yourself. At 305 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 6: least do it for your children. Do it to make 306 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 6: it easier on those that come after you. A lot 307 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 6: of times we think I'll change when they change. When 308 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 6: he starts treating me better, then I'll be nice to him, Joel, 309 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 6: when she stops nagging me, then I'll be friendly again. 310 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 7: Now here's the key. 311 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 6: The bigger person is the one that makes the first move. 312 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 6: God will reward you in a greater way if you'll 313 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 6: take the first step. Pride will tell you. 314 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,120 Speaker 7: Don't do it. They don't deserve it. 315 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:08,240 Speaker 6: I'm not gonna treat them right when they're treating me wrong. 316 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 6: You're not just doing it for them. You're doing it 317 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,960 Speaker 6: unto God. You're not just saying. 318 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:18,600 Speaker 7: I approve your behavior. It's okay to treat me this way. 319 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 6: You're saying, God, I know the importance of keeping strife. 320 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:24,359 Speaker 7: Out of my life. 321 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 6: Even though I don't like this, I'm going to stay 322 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:30,760 Speaker 6: on the high road and be a peacemaker, knowing that 323 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 6: you will make it up to me. But human nature 324 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 6: says to treat people the way they treat us. You 325 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:40,320 Speaker 6: want to be disrespectful, two people can play at that game. 326 00:17:40,960 --> 00:17:44,600 Speaker 6: You want to be argumentative, unfriendly, sarcastic. You've met your match. 327 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 7: Let's go. All that's gonna do is make matters worse. 328 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:52,640 Speaker 6: God brought the people in your life on purpose. It's 329 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 6: not an accident. It's a part of his divine plan. 330 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 6: No person is perfect. We all have flawed and weaknesses. 331 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 6: If you blow that person off because of their issues, 332 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:09,760 Speaker 6: the problem is the next person you get in relationship 333 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:13,199 Speaker 6: with will have some kind of issues as well, something 334 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 6: to get on your nerves. You have to learn this 335 00:18:15,840 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 6: principle to rise above it and keep strife out of 336 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 6: your home. 337 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 7: You can be the difference. 338 00:18:22,359 --> 00:18:26,720 Speaker 6: Maker when you honor your spouse, When you treat them 339 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:29,719 Speaker 6: with respect, even when they don't deserve it. 340 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:32,120 Speaker 7: That's what causes them to come up. 341 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 6: Higher, not arguing, being disrespectful, pushing them down. It's like 342 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 6: you're pouring water into a jar with a small cork 343 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 6: in it. 344 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 7: The more water you. 345 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:48,480 Speaker 6: Pour, the higher that cork will rise. Your spouse is 346 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 6: the cork. Your honor is the water. The more honor 347 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 6: you pour in, the higher your spouse will rise. Jesus said, 348 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 6: a house divided is can continually being brought to destruction 349 00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 6: and will not stand when we allow strife in our life. 350 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:08,160 Speaker 7: Something is happening. 351 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:13,360 Speaker 6: We're continually going down our relationships, our dreams, our attitudes, 352 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 6: our energy. You will make better decisions if you'll get 353 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 6: rid of the discord. You'll be more creative, more productive, 354 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:26,439 Speaker 6: more successful. If you'll take these steps to keep peace 355 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 6: in your home where there's unity, God's blessing, his favor, 356 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 6: his anointing is on your life, your marriage, your career, 357 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 6: your finances. 358 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:39,199 Speaker 7: There is power in agreement. 359 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:42,920 Speaker 6: There's power when you rise up and say, I'm going 360 00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 6: to do everything I can to keep unity in my home. 361 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 6: My spouse may be argumentative, my children may be hard 362 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 6: to get along with, But as for me. 363 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 7: I'm going to be a peacemaker. 364 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 6: Let me tell you, one peacemaker is more powerful than 365 00:19:59,840 --> 00:20:03,920 Speaker 6: a dozen troublemakers. The piece you bring will have such 366 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 6: an anointing on it. It will break the forces that 367 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 6: are trying to tear your family apart. Years ago, Victoria 368 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 6: and I went on a bike ride with our two children. 369 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 6: Jonathan was eight years old and he was riding his 370 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 6: own bike and Alexander was five. She was on the 371 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:23,800 Speaker 6: bike seat behind me on my bike. I'd had a 372 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:28,160 Speaker 6: long day. I was kind of irritated at something Victoria 373 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:31,280 Speaker 6: had done was no big deal, just a small thing. 374 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 7: But I chose to hold onto it, magnify it, let 375 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 7: it sour me. 376 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 6: You know how sometimes it feels good to be ticked off. 377 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:43,199 Speaker 6: Now I knew it wasn't right, but the flesh loves 378 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,879 Speaker 6: to have its way. I remember thinking, I'm not in 379 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:49,680 Speaker 6: a good mood. You aggravated me. I'm miserable. I'm gonna 380 00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 6: make your life miserable. You know what I was doing, 381 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 6: opening the door to trouble. I was inviting that destructive 382 00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 6: strife into our life. James three says, where there's strife, 383 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 6: there will be. 384 00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:04,960 Speaker 7: Discord, confusion, and trouble. 385 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,400 Speaker 6: So we were out riding on this bike trail, supposed 386 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 6: to be having fun, but the tension was so thick 387 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 6: you could cut it with a knife. I was giving 388 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:18,399 Speaker 6: Victoria the cold shoulder treatment. Not friendly, not talking it 389 00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 6: just matter of fact. 390 00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,200 Speaker 7: She said, how was your day? Fine? 391 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,240 Speaker 6: Something wrong? Nothing's wrong? Why are you being unfriendly? I'm 392 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:29,440 Speaker 6: not being unfriendly, just being hard to get along with. Now, 393 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 6: don't look at me like I'm the only one that's 394 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 6: ever done to us. We're gonna let you confess your 395 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:39,200 Speaker 6: sins next. Jonathan wasn't real sure of riding his bike. 396 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 6: He'd just been doing it for a little while, and 397 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:44,359 Speaker 6: we were on this five foot wide bike trail. I 398 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:46,840 Speaker 6: looked up about one hundred yards in front of me. 399 00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 6: There was this biker coming toward us full speed. He 400 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,640 Speaker 6: looked like a professional, like he was in training, had 401 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,639 Speaker 6: on all of his bike gear, and I said, Jonathan, buddy, 402 00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,440 Speaker 6: stay over to the side. This man is coming really 403 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 6: really fast. Jonathan got over and he was doing fine. 404 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,480 Speaker 6: But when the men got close to us, Jonathan looked 405 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:07,879 Speaker 6: at him and veered right into his path. 406 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,520 Speaker 7: They had this huge head on collision. 407 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 6: Jonathan went flying off his bike and the other man 408 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,840 Speaker 6: tumbling over in the grass. And I jumped off my 409 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 6: bike as fast as I could, and I thought for 410 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 6: sure he had broken arms, broken legs, his whole bike 411 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 6: frame was bent. Thankfully, all he had were scrapes and bruises. 412 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 6: Both he and the other men were fine. As I 413 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:34,439 Speaker 6: was walking back to the car carrying his bike, I 414 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 6: felt this impression in here, saying Joel, you opened the 415 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:39,920 Speaker 6: door to this trouble. 416 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 7: It could have been avoided if you would have kept 417 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,200 Speaker 7: the strife out. 418 00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 6: That's what the scripture says When we allow strife, it 419 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:54,639 Speaker 6: opens the door to unnecessary trouble. There will be conflicts, disappointment, 420 00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:57,440 Speaker 6: setbacks that we didn't have to encounter. 421 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 7: Don't be stubborn like I was. 422 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 6: We have enough battles to fight in life where we 423 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 6: don't have a choice. Don't make it harder on yourself 424 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,159 Speaker 6: by opening the door to trouble. Matthew five and the 425 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:17,119 Speaker 6: Amplified says, blessed are the makers and maintainers of peace. 426 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:19,560 Speaker 7: We know what it means to make peace. 427 00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 6: We make up after an argument, we apologize, forgive, move forward. 428 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:28,479 Speaker 6: That's important, but we need to be more aware about 429 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 6: maintaining our peace. That means you stay on the high road, 430 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:37,720 Speaker 6: You bite your tongue, you let things go, you don't argue. 431 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 6: I've found it's much easier to maintain your peace than 432 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:46,880 Speaker 6: to have to always try to make peace. Victoria aggravated 433 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:48,440 Speaker 6: me that day, big deal. 434 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:49,600 Speaker 7: She's human. 435 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:54,160 Speaker 6: There's not another person alive that you're in relationship with 436 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:57,960 Speaker 6: that at some point will not irritate you, offend you, 437 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,640 Speaker 6: hurt you, or get on your nerve. Instead of being 438 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:06,440 Speaker 6: upset every time things don't go your way, be an argumentative, 439 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 6: giving them the cold shoulder. Why don't you try this 440 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 6: new approach and start maintaining your peace. Don't open the 441 00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 6: door to strife. When you go the extra mile to 442 00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,439 Speaker 6: keep unity in your home, you will not only have 443 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:25,879 Speaker 6: God's blessing and favor because of the power of agreement, 444 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,800 Speaker 6: but you will have his protection. He'll keep you from 445 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:34,440 Speaker 6: unnecessary trouble. This can save a marriage today, It can 446 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:35,720 Speaker 6: save a relationship. 447 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 7: It's not always big things. Sometimes it's a small thing. 448 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 6: If you will make these minor adjustments, they can make 449 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 6: major improvements. Proverbs twenty says avoiding a fight is a 450 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:52,800 Speaker 6: mark of honor. Sometimes we think winning a fight is 451 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:56,040 Speaker 6: a mark of honor. We come back after an argument, 452 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:59,240 Speaker 6: give ourselves a high five and thank boy, I let 453 00:24:59,240 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 6: them have it. 454 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:03,919 Speaker 7: I showed her who was boss. That's not really winning. 455 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:07,679 Speaker 6: You fed your ego, You made yourself feel good, but 456 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:12,280 Speaker 6: didn't strengthen the relationship. You may have won in one sense, 457 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,080 Speaker 6: but what did it costs you? How much damage was 458 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 6: done When we say hurtful words, when we're disrespectful, that's 459 00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:24,399 Speaker 6: a very heavy price. The way to really win is 460 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,439 Speaker 6: to avoid it, to stay on the high road, to 461 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:28,159 Speaker 6: walk away. 462 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,840 Speaker 7: That's a mark of honor. This takes humility. 463 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 6: Pride will tell you have the last word, stay at it, 464 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 6: let them have it. That verse goes on to say 465 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:43,639 Speaker 6: only a fool loves to argue. Instead of thinking about 466 00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:47,440 Speaker 6: how you can win the argument, strategize and what you're 467 00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 6: gonna say, spend that same time thinking about how you're 468 00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:54,720 Speaker 6: going to avoid the argument. Now, I'm not saying to 469 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 6: not address issues, but there's a right way and there's 470 00:25:58,840 --> 00:25:59,720 Speaker 6: a right time. 471 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 7: You should do it. 472 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 6: Calmly, express your concerns and then leave it there. If 473 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,800 Speaker 6: it starts to get heated disrespectful, that's the. 474 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:09,760 Speaker 7: Time to walk away. 475 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,680 Speaker 6: If you'll do it God's way, he'll fight your battles. 476 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,640 Speaker 6: He'll change what needs to be changed. Plus, we need 477 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,880 Speaker 6: to ask ourselves what am I arguing over? 478 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:22,400 Speaker 7: Is it worth it? 479 00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:27,159 Speaker 6: Sometimes we argue over petty things that in the big picture, 480 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 6: they don't really matter. You may have seen on the 481 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:34,879 Speaker 6: news a professional football player punched his teammate. 482 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:36,920 Speaker 7: The quarterback, and broke his jaw. 483 00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,679 Speaker 6: He was upset because he had purchased a six hundred 484 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,359 Speaker 6: dollars ticket for the quarterback to come to his event. 485 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:45,720 Speaker 7: The quarterback wasn't able to make it. 486 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,199 Speaker 6: Instead of handling it the right way, he let his 487 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 6: emotions take over led to this fight. When the coaches 488 00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 6: found out, he was immediately dismissed from the team. He 489 00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:01,679 Speaker 6: lost his multi million dollar contract act. He let a 490 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 6: six hundred dollars offense cost him several million dollars. While 491 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 6: we may not lose millions from an argument, we can 492 00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:15,480 Speaker 6: lose something even more valuable, the people God has put 493 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:19,640 Speaker 6: in our lives, your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends. 494 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 6: It's easy to get at odds, let little things build up, 495 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,439 Speaker 6: Say hurtful things here, argue there, disrespectful. One day you 496 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,679 Speaker 6: look up and they're not there anymore. Don't take the 497 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,160 Speaker 6: people in your life for granted. Are you treating them 498 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:41,640 Speaker 6: with respect and honor? Do they feel treasured, valued, loved? 499 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:47,600 Speaker 6: Or are you hard to get along with? Unfriendly argumented friends? 500 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:52,440 Speaker 6: Life is too short to live that way. Where there's disharmony, 501 00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:56,959 Speaker 6: you'll weakened, you won't reach your highest potential. I'm asking 502 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 6: you today to be a maker and a maintainer of peace. 503 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,960 Speaker 6: Do what you can to keep the atmosphere in your 504 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:09,800 Speaker 6: home loving, friendly kind, be a person of honor, and 505 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 6: avoid the fight. Remember one can chase one thousand two 506 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,080 Speaker 6: can put ten thousand to flight if you'll keep strife 507 00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 6: out because there's unity in your home. I believe and 508 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 6: declare you're going to see that ten times blessing. God 509 00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:28,200 Speaker 6: is going to increase you with more wisdom, more favor. 510 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,920 Speaker 6: You will accomplish dreams and reach the fullness of your 511 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,800 Speaker 6: destiny in Jesus's name. And if you receive it today, 512 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 6: can you say amen? We never like to close our 513 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,760 Speaker 6: broadcast without giving you an opportunity to make Jesus the 514 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 6: lord of your life. Would you pray with me? 515 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:52,160 Speaker 7: Just say, Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. Come 516 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 7: into my heart. 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