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Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

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Speaker 2: You know, producer Sam. During your around the Room segment

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Speaker 2: a little while ago, you were talking about a friend

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Speaker 2: of yours, Yes, who needed to take a second look

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Speaker 2: at her relationship. She's in correct, maybe from someone else's viewpoint,

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Speaker 2: and and you helped her out, right, Yes, So can

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Speaker 2: we go back to that for a minute.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: I mean I don't want to, you know, I don't

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Speaker 2: want to embarrass anyone to use names or anything.

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Speaker 4: No, I won't use her name. And she's a very

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Speaker 4: very smart girl. I've known her since high school, so yeah,

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Speaker 4: she's a very wise person. But sometimes when you're in

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Speaker 4: the thick of a relationship and feeling in love with someone,

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Speaker 4: you fail to see what was to me a really

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Speaker 4: obvious red flag.

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Speaker 2: Right, So what's the obvious if I may ask, what's

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Speaker 2: the obvious red flag?

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Speaker 4: They've been together for over a year and he keeps

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Speaker 4: coming up with different reasons why he's yet to introduce

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Speaker 4: her to any of his friends.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, well we could break that down on well,

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Speaker 2: maybe he hangs out with people he's embarrassed to hang

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Speaker 2: out with, or maybe he doesn't want them to meet her,

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Speaker 2: so true.

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Speaker 4: There's so a bunch of different reasons. So I was

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Speaker 4: very careful to not be like that means he's blank

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Speaker 4: because I don't know. I don't know the guy.

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Speaker 3: I couldn't tell you what it is.

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Speaker 4: But I couldn't even come up with a best case

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Speaker 4: scenario where I felt like that was treating her the

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Speaker 4: way she deserved to be treated in a relationship.

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Speaker 2: I get that if I had a friend come to

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Speaker 2: me and say, hey, you know, we've been dating for

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Speaker 2: a year and I haven't met anyone that they are

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Speaker 2: friends with, but they go out with them. So I'm

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Speaker 2: assuming this person goes out with the friend time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he goes out with his friends.

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Speaker 2: But she's not invited, correct, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I mean it could be that his friends are just

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Speaker 5: scumbags and he doesn't want her around them because he

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Speaker 5: values what he has. But if that's the case, then

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Speaker 5: do you want to be with someone who has friends

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Speaker 5: that are scumbacks?

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Speaker 2: Exactly? So you know you are who you surround yourself with.

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Speaker 2: But wait, why has she not asked him? You say

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Speaker 2: I would.

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Speaker 3: She said she's asked him.

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Speaker 4: But she's kind of a passive personality, so she's not

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Speaker 4: like me, it would be like we're doing this this

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Speaker 4: weekend or not at all. She just kind of like

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Speaker 4: lets him know and then kind of lets herself get

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Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 3: A little walked on.

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Speaker 2: See I couldn't I couldn't you know me? I'd be

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Speaker 2: right under that hood? Man, what's going right? Who are

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Speaker 2: your friends? Who are these friends?

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 4: There's so many reasons that are potential and most of

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Speaker 4: them are bad, most of them.

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Speaker 2: Is there something wonky about her that he doesn't want

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Speaker 2: them to know about?

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Speaker 3: I don't think so, not at all.

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Speaker 4: She's like a little bit of a silently intimidating character,

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Speaker 4: So I think that like might be possible. But if

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Speaker 4: we're in a committed relationship, you prioritize me, if you

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Speaker 4: pick this personality, let me know by actually actively choosing me.

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Speaker 2: But here's the thing, I don't consider this a committed relationship. No,

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Speaker 2: If you can't bring me around, yeah, yeah exactly. If

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Speaker 2: how do your.

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Speaker 3: Friends not know about me? That's like a secret.

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Speaker 2: They know, they know the part of a relationship is

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Speaker 2: you were a part of their lives. I agree with you,

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Speaker 2: So they know she exists.

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Speaker 4: Yes, she's talked to a few of them on social Oh, Oh,

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Speaker 4: he's just never allowed her or invited her, and she

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Speaker 4: has not invited herself to mesh with these friends. And

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Speaker 4: when it comes up in conversation, he's, you know, just

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Speaker 4: kind of does a great job skirting it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's consider another possibility, maybe a sort of on

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Speaker 2: the heels of what Danielle said. There are a bunch

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Speaker 2: of scumbacks. Maybe they're not, but maybe for some reason,

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Speaker 2: he is ready for a new life. He wants a

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Speaker 2: life with new people. But then again, if he's still

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Speaker 2: hanging out with them, then that's not the case. I

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he says he has one, like she says, he

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Speaker 4: has one core group, like that person you know that

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Speaker 4: always hangs out with the same friends, and that's that,

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Speaker 4: that's his social life.

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Speaker 2: I have a really dear friend who has been in

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Speaker 2: a relationship for many years and has never met the family,

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Speaker 2: has never met anyone in his circle ever. Okay, they

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Speaker 2: continue to move on and life is still whatever it is.

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Speaker 3: And they're both happy about that.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't seem that way. I think it's more of a

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Speaker 2: it's just the way it is, so we live with it.

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Speaker 2: I would I don't know. I don't want to sit

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Speaker 2: here and say, well, I would never do that. I

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Speaker 2: would never because I mean, because we're all different. I

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Speaker 2: mean we all have different different levels of patience and whatever.

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Speaker 4: But it wasn't making her feel very secure, Like that's

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Speaker 4: what started this part of the conversation is the way

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Speaker 4: she talked about it. She's feeling a little insecure with

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Speaker 4: herself and her relationship to him. So that's why I'm like,

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Speaker 4: all right, let's let's just talk about the potential of

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Speaker 4: this being a serious red flag. And maybe it's not

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Speaker 4: quite as rosy as you feel like it is.

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Speaker 2: I like this text. Maybe he's a gamer and all

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Speaker 2: his friends are online.

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Speaker 5: Maybe maybe all his friends are just imaginary friends.

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Speaker 2: Maybe or maybe maybe maybe she needs to like follow follow.

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Speaker 3: Him some might that's the best answer.

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Speaker 2: Follow him. Where's he going with these Let's go see

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Speaker 2: what they're doing. What if they're like, you know, some Satanists.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, actually they worked for this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe they're they're like they're killing frogs and things.

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Speaker 3: Even I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Hello, Melissa, Hi, how are you guys

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Speaker 2: doing very well? I'm so glad you're listening. I'm so

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Speaker 2: glad you're participating in the conversation. I know that you

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Speaker 2: said you were in a relationship for two years and.

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Speaker 1: Never ever were of a situationship.

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Speaker 2: A situationship and never met his friends.

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Speaker 1: All right, go ahead, Yeah, So we had met online

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Speaker 1: and it was all great in the beginning, and then

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Speaker 1: I couldn't wait for him to meet my family and friends.

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Speaker 1: My sister went on two double dates with two of

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Speaker 1: my friends, but I never met his family, never met

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Speaker 1: his friends, and it started to make me feel like

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Speaker 1: I was a kept secret. So I ended up breaking

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Speaker 1: up with him on Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 2: Okay, cool, but wait, what's your gut feeling telling you?

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Speaker 2: Why do you think? It may not be accurate? But

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Speaker 2: why do you what's your hunch? Why do you think

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Speaker 2: he never ever introduced you to his family or friends

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Speaker 2: in two years?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 1: I think it was a couple things. His parents, he

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Speaker 1: told me, were really strict. It was also an inter

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Speaker 1: racial relationship, so I think he was a little nervous

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Speaker 1: to introduce me and have different aspects that he wasn't

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Speaker 1: used to introduce me to. But I also think, like

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Speaker 1: for him, he had trouble with commitment, Like I was

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Speaker 1: looking to always define it and he was like oh,

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Speaker 1: I feel like we're moving too fast. But he was

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Speaker 1: also older than me. He was about six years older

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Speaker 1: than me, So I'm like, what do you mean?

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Speaker 6: Like how long do you think you.

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Speaker 1: Know you're looking for a commitment and how long do

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Speaker 1: you think you would know? And I just felt like

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Speaker 1: I was always making abusive is for him, like why

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Speaker 1: he couldn't come out to me out with friends, because

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Speaker 1: we're always invited to things that I would always show

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Speaker 1: up by myself.

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Speaker 2: That's not a relationship, I mean, well it is, it's

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Speaker 2: just not a very healthy one in my opinion. I mean,

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Speaker 2: and you obviously, after two years, realized that you deserved

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Speaker 2: better than that. So kaboom, you know, goodbye, Yeah, yeah exactly.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm now I'm in a new relationship and couldn't

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Speaker 1: be happier right away. He couldn't wait to introduce me

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Speaker 1: to friends and family. I'm like, to me, it was

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Speaker 1: such a big deal, but it was also bare minimum

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Speaker 1: and it just made me realize how easy it is

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Speaker 1: to just be treated respect.

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Speaker 2: And yes, there you go. Yeah all right, Well, thank you, Melissa,

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Speaker 2: and best of luck with your new fresh I know

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Speaker 2: his friend's relationship.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Guys, I love you guys so much.

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Speaker 1: I hope you have a great day.

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Speaker 2: Oh you too, hope you do too. And finally we

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Speaker 2: talked to Shannon. Hi. Shannon, Hi, how.

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Speaker 3: Are you guys doing very well?

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Speaker 2: We're doing well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to speak for everyone. If you're not

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Speaker 2: doing well, speak now.

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Speaker 6: So I totally think she should leave him. I mean,

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Speaker 6: I was in a relationship for four years. I got

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Speaker 6: engaged in December. It was done by June. There were

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Speaker 6: so many red flags. I wasn't allowed to go out

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Speaker 6: with the boys with him. He would go out all

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Speaker 6: the time. When I asked, so can I come, No,

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Speaker 6: I was never allowed to come. I mean I did

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Speaker 6: meet his family and everything, I mean down the line.

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Speaker 6: There was some toughle there, but he was definitely a

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Speaker 6: Mohamed's boy. But honestly, I think that it's better off.

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Speaker 6: She's better alone. There's definitely some piss in this dating

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Speaker 6: pool nowadays. I think men are dogs, and you know,

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Speaker 6: if they can't bring you around their friends and show

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Speaker 6: you your family, like I don't understand, I don't see

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Speaker 6: really anything happening there.

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Speaker 2: There you go. You want someone that makes you feel

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Speaker 2: secure and loved and protected and you know, and there's

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Speaker 2: there should be no doubt that they're that they're into

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Speaker 2: you and they want you to meet their family and friends.

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Speaker 5: What's that, Danielle Sam did she has she ever said hey,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's let him know. He has just said no,

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 4: He's not he's crafty. He hasn't said no. It's more

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Speaker 4: like we'll make a plan. This one won't work.

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Speaker 3: We'll get there. And it's been a year of not

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Speaker 3: getting there, which just saying no. We're just saying no

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Speaker 3: basically exactly.

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Speaker 2: Shannon sounds like you know exactly what it is you

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Speaker 2: want and exactly what it is you deserve. And I'm

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Speaker 2: so happy that you that. It's totally totally, totally uh

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Speaker 2: your walk in life, right. I love that. I love

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Speaker 2: that go for it.

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Speaker 6: And exactly nobody should fight for love. It should be

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Speaker 6: you know, given and taken and you should give it

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Speaker 6: him return.

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Speaker 2: Amen. I love it all right, Shannon, Thank you very much.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate your call.

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Speaker 6: Thank you guys, we love.

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Speaker 1: You, love you.

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Speaker 2: See there you go, so best of luck with your friend.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 4: I think the bare basement of any relationship should be

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Speaker 4: at least making you feel better about yourself than you

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Speaker 4: would without them, whatever that means to you.

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Speaker 2: So if it's not well, at least in dialogue you say, look,

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Speaker 2: you're making me feel like crap about myself because you

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Speaker 2: make me feel like there's something wrong right, right, you're

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Speaker 2: not introducing me to your friends and your family.

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Speaker 3: If you think you deserve better, you probably do