WEBVTT - 2nd Date Update PODCAST: That Sounds Interesting

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<v Speaker 1>Second dat up date. People always say that you should

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<v Speaker 1>just be yourself on a first date. Absolutely. If you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you're a little too boring, then you can

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<v Speaker 1>always google how to be somebody else on a date

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe it'll work out in your favor. And that

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like it's what Oscar did. Who's on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>for a second date update? Right now? What's up Oscar? Hey? Guys,

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<v Speaker 1>scold up not much. Your email said that you googled

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<v Speaker 1>how to date or something like that. Can you explain? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I've found something out from a friend recently that

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know about myself, and apparently a few of

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<v Speaker 1>my friends, uh feel this way. Um, he said, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a boring dater. Wait, how would your friend even know?

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<v Speaker 1>Because have you have you been on a date with

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<v Speaker 1>your friend? Oh? Yeah, we've been on double dates and

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<v Speaker 1>things like that. Okay, I mean, how did that feel

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<v Speaker 1>when your friends said that you're boring and that's why

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<v Speaker 1>you're not successful in dating? I mean, at first, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't believe him. I thought, no, there's no way that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm a fun guy. But then after a

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<v Speaker 1>while I kind of took a real look at myself

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, hey, maybe maybe he's right. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>why would he be friends with you if you're such

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<v Speaker 1>a boring person? A lot of boring person, just boring dater? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the difference. Okay, actually be a good friend. So how

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<v Speaker 1>did you correct being a boring dater? So, I, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>did what everybody does. I googled how to not be

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<v Speaker 1>a boring dater? All right, and did you find out

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<v Speaker 1>any good information? Yeah? So I found this one article

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<v Speaker 1>and it gave me three pretty pretty good tips that

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to try out. Okay. Number one was be

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<v Speaker 1>a dating anthropologist, which basically just means observe everything and

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<v Speaker 1>be curious, to have an open mind, lie about your

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<v Speaker 1>occupation anthropologist. So observe thing and keep an open mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you do that? Yeah, it did. That's a really

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<v Speaker 1>good tip. What else did you do? Well? The second

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<v Speaker 1>thing it said was it's okay to laugh at the

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<v Speaker 1>other person's jokes and stories. So I did that. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you not feel like it was okay before? Like if

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<v Speaker 1>someone says it's being funny, I guess before I would

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<v Speaker 1>have just dominated the conversation a little bit more, not

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<v Speaker 1>paid attention as much to their You can always judge

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<v Speaker 1>their comedy too, Like if they make a bad jokes

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<v Speaker 1>like that wasn't funny, here's why, let me tell you

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<v Speaker 1>how that joke could have been better. You can always

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<v Speaker 1>critique their their material, you know exactly all right? What

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<v Speaker 1>was the third thing that you learned about dating from Google?

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<v Speaker 1>The third thing? I thought this is interesting. It said

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<v Speaker 1>relax and don't be quote fake fun and yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was just means don't try too hard. So I guess

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<v Speaker 1>in the past I've always tried a little bit too hard,

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<v Speaker 1>like like saying like we're having a great time, aren't, well,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a great time, it's amazing something along those lines. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I imagine it sounds like you get pretty nervous,

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<v Speaker 1>so you probably clam up and then try extra hard

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<v Speaker 1>to almost not be yourself, and then it comes off

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<v Speaker 1>boring and weird. I think I think it's something like that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So how did it all go when you use these

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<v Speaker 1>tips on your date? It went really well. First we

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<v Speaker 1>went to a bar, and you know, for some pizza

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<v Speaker 1>and drinks. Then she wanted to get tacos, so we

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<v Speaker 1>went to a taco truck instead. And normally I would

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<v Speaker 1>never do that because you know the reputation that taco

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<v Speaker 1>trucks have for being dirty. But you know, I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be loose and follow the list. So that's what

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<v Speaker 1>we did. Oh loose and follow the list like that,

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of against each other. But that's cool. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully the tacos were at least decent. Yeah, they're okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Any other notable things from the date, like how did

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<v Speaker 1>the actual conversation and stuff go? I mean, the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>went well. We we both talked about our work. I

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<v Speaker 1>let her talk a lot about what she does, and

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<v Speaker 1>instead of you know, trying to talk more about myself

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<v Speaker 1>and force things in, I said things like, hmm, that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was being the anthropologist And were you actually

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<v Speaker 1>listening sometimes? You know, I mean, you know where she works, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>at least you heard that piece what she does for

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<v Speaker 1>a living. I'm pretty sure I heard that. Yeah. And

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<v Speaker 1>on top of that, I laughed at all of her jokes,

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<v Speaker 1>even the ones that weren't funny. So you sound like,

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<v Speaker 1>you're really proud of yourself for this date. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I did a good job. How did how did the

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<v Speaker 1>date end? Well, I mean it didn't end with a kiss,

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<v Speaker 1>if that's what you mean. I didn't try to kiss

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<v Speaker 1>her because I just went into it not trying to

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<v Speaker 1>expect anything. I mean, did you guys make plans or

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<v Speaker 1>what was the kind of parting words? I said A

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<v Speaker 1>call her, and I mean she didn't say anything. She

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of smiled and walked away. Okay, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you think? Why do you think she's not calling you?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I just hope she he's not cheating on

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<v Speaker 1>someone else. That's because did you think that maybe she

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<v Speaker 1>was in a relationship or that you're just jumping to

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<v Speaker 1>that conclusion. That's the only thing I can think of.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a really pretty girl, and you know I followed

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<v Speaker 1>the list exactly, So I don't know why she wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be into me. Yeah, she's either taken her dead. Those

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<v Speaker 1>are pretty extreme measures, I don't think, so. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>think of any other reason she wouldn't call me back.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we had a great time, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't know why she wouldn't want to call me for

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<v Speaker 1>another date. Okay, Well we'll play a song and then

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<v Speaker 1>come back and call her and get your second date update. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>sounds great. I really appreciate it, no problem, hang on,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, we'll do it right after that. Looking cubile

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning updates if you're just joining us for

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<v Speaker 1>today's second date update. Oscar is on the phone, and

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar is quite a bore. That's not what I say

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<v Speaker 1>about him. I think Oscar's a lot of fun. But

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<v Speaker 1>apparently Oscar's friends have told him that he's a little

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<v Speaker 1>boring when it comes to dating. So he went online

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<v Speaker 1>and googled how to have fun on a date, and

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<v Speaker 1>he shared with us that he learned things like be

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<v Speaker 1>a dating anthropologist, which means to observe everything with a

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<v Speaker 1>curious hmm. Isn't that interesting mindset. He also said that

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay to laugh at the other person's jokes no

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<v Speaker 1>matter what, even if you don't find it funny, and

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<v Speaker 1>relax and don't have fake fun. But he's not getting

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<v Speaker 1>a call back from a girl named Jade, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>about to get her on the phone and see why.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Oscar, anything else that you want to say

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<v Speaker 1>before we give her a call? I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>say I really like this girl, and you know, she's

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<v Speaker 1>really pretty and a lot of fun, and I really

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<v Speaker 1>hope she picks up when you guys call her. And

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<v Speaker 1>is it going to be okay if we tell her

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<v Speaker 1>about your googling and your three tips and trying to

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<v Speaker 1>improve your dating self. I'd rather if you didn't. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a little embarrassing, Okay, So I'll start with that, then

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<v Speaker 1>I'll start with that you have a good date. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go. I'm dialing her fund of her right now? Hello? Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>is this Jade? This is she? Hey Jade, how are you?

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<v Speaker 1>This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>From what Brook and Jewel in the Morning. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>radio show. Okay. Sounds like you're wondering why I'm calling. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll explain. We do a segment on our show. It's

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<v Speaker 1>called the second Date Update. So we got an email

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<v Speaker 1>about you from a dude that listen to our show.

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<v Speaker 1>His name is Oscar. Okay do you know Oscar? Yeah? Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar emailed us. He told us a little bit about

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<v Speaker 1>your date, and he also says he's really interested in

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<v Speaker 1>seeing you again, but you're not answering any of his

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<v Speaker 1>phone calls or text messages. He's interested in seeing me again? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>did it not seem like it? Not at all. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>he said that you're really pretty and funny and he

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<v Speaker 1>was really into you. Okay, Uh, maybe you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>talking about a different Oscar than I have no idea. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe if we were, that would be an amazing coincidence

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<v Speaker 1>that a guy named Oscar emailed us to call a

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<v Speaker 1>woman named Jade had your phone nubrenn. It's a different Oscar.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so. I think it's probably the same guy.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I thought he was very cute, but I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't think he was very into me. Why why didn't

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<v Speaker 1>you think that? I mean, basically, God, Honestly, everything I

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<v Speaker 1>said in the conversation he responded with, m that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>And it just it just felt like he was mocking me.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. Really, I assume, like I, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>know what it's like dating in this time, and like

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<v Speaker 1>he's probably seeing other people and whatever. Maybe I just didn't,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, pique his interest. It just didn't feel like

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<v Speaker 1>he was genuinely into me. Really, that's interesting. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like you talked to him, because that is

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<v Speaker 1>exactly what he was saying. We did. We talked to

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<v Speaker 1>him about your date, and he was really trying to

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<v Speaker 1>pay attention to you, believe it or not, even if

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<v Speaker 1>he was trying to pay attention to me. At one point,

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<v Speaker 1>I went up to the bar to get us another

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<v Speaker 1>round of drinks, and this other dude came up and

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<v Speaker 1>started very like obviously hitting on me, and I thought that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm on a date. I figured Oscar would

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<v Speaker 1>probably come up and try to stop that, but instead

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar did come up. However, he was trying to encourage

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<v Speaker 1>me to give that guy my number. What Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, clearly he's trying to get rid of me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, trying to paw me up on somebody else.

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<v Speaker 1>So that surprised me because he said you liked you

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. I don't know why you'd be on a

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<v Speaker 1>date though, and be like, yeah, go ahead, man, get

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<v Speaker 1>her number. It. Yeah, I don't know. He was passing

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<v Speaker 1>me around, so I like, he kept checking his phone.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know it just I was not getting vibes

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<v Speaker 1>that he wasn't all interested in me. Okay, well let's

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<v Speaker 1>see if he was actually interested in you, like he

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<v Speaker 1>says he is because he's on the other line listening

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<v Speaker 1>and wants to talk to you. Uh, okay, Oscar, are

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<v Speaker 1>you still there? Hey? Yeah, Jade, I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>this happened. I don't really know who whoa whoa whoa

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<v Speaker 1>whoa whoa whoa? What is going on right now? Jade?

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<v Speaker 1>I understand why you feel that way, and I promise

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<v Speaker 1>I have a really good explanation. Okay, I'm super confused

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<v Speaker 1>right now, but sure, I'm I. Let's hear the explanation.

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<v Speaker 1>When I when I kept checking my phone, I had

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<v Speaker 1>written down how to be funner on a date, so

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<v Speaker 1>I was checking that to see how to be funner

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<v Speaker 1>on a date. You were checking to be how to

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<v Speaker 1>be funner on a Yeah, my friends told me that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a boring date, so before our date, I googled

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<v Speaker 1>how to be better on dates, So I was checking

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<v Speaker 1>the list. You actually kept checking your phone to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you were doing it. I don't know. I just

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<v Speaker 1>I get nervous on dates, you know. I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>I had to just keep reminding myself. Yeah, but that

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<v Speaker 1>still doesn't explain all the other weird stuff that you

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<v Speaker 1>were doing on the date. I mean, for example, she

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<v Speaker 1>said that a guy came up to her at the

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<v Speaker 1>bar and was hitting on her. The old Oscar would

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<v Speaker 1>have jumped in and immediately gotten aggressive, but the new

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar just plays things cool and tried to go with

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<v Speaker 1>the flow and let it happen. So going with the

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<v Speaker 1>flow is allowing me to pick up other men on

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<v Speaker 1>a date. I guess it's just what was happening. So

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<v Speaker 1>I just kind of went with it. You know, it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't sound like allowing you. It sounds like he was

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<v Speaker 1>your wing man in that situation. I didn't want you

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<v Speaker 1>to actually go out with him. I just thought that

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<v Speaker 1>if I played it cool, go with the flow, and

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that you would think, oh, he's pretty cool

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<v Speaker 1>and fun, and you know, you would like me more

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<v Speaker 1>if you if you if I encourage you to get

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<v Speaker 1>another dudes' phone number, you might like me more, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. I just I needed to look

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<v Speaker 1>like I was an easygoing guy, and an easy going

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<v Speaker 1>guy would just let her give out her number. You

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<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't encourage your date to be seeing other people

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<v Speaker 1>like especially not on the date. And I just look,

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<v Speaker 1>you're a nice guy. I don't understand. Why can't you

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<v Speaker 1>just be yourself on a date. Well, because then I

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<v Speaker 1>would be boring. Why would you say that? Well, like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, for instance, when you said that, I kept saying,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't that interesting what I was doing? The list said

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<v Speaker 1>to be a dating anthropologist, so I was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>be curious, and I know you thought that I was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to mock you, but I wasn't. I was just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to be a dating anthropologist, right, But if you

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<v Speaker 1>had no response to anything I was saying besides, hm,

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<v Speaker 1>that's interesting, that doesn't make for a conversation. That just

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<v Speaker 1>makes for me saying something and you ending the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>by saying it's interesting by adding anything to it. I

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<v Speaker 1>know it didn't seem like I was listening, but I

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<v Speaker 1>really was. But that's not how conversations work. Well, the

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<v Speaker 1>list said that you would react in a positive way

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<v Speaker 1>to all this, and you think that I was cool

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<v Speaker 1>and laid back, and apparently that's not what you're thinking. Hmm,

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<v Speaker 1>that's interesting, Jane, I mean joking aside, like he was

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<v Speaker 1>doing something to try to make a date really go

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<v Speaker 1>well and it obviously backfired. Like do you have any

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<v Speaker 1>sympathy for him at this point? I mean, it makes

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<v Speaker 1>a lot more sense now, Like I finally get what

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<v Speaker 1>he was doing, and he is cute, but I would

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<v Speaker 1>like to know what he's really like, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>not just some list okay of what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>they should be? Like? Well, perfect, then why don't you

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<v Speaker 1>go out on another date with him? Jade? Would you

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<v Speaker 1>like to go out with Oscar again? We'll pay for it. Listen, Jid,

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<v Speaker 1>before you answer, you can date the old Oscar. The

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<v Speaker 1>old Oscar is still around, the old boring Oscar change.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am very very interested to see who you

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<v Speaker 1>truly are, because I do think you're a very attractive guy.

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<v Speaker 1>But if we go out again and another dude hits

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<v Speaker 1>on me, I do not want you to encourage that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I want you to shut that down and be like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>this is my date. You know that I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be with me. I can definitely do that. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm much more aggressive than I was on our

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<v Speaker 1>last date. I might actually hit the guy this time.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make it better? Jade? If ye don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to do that, middle ground, go somewhere in the middle.

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<v Speaker 1>There he got it, so no punching, but also don't

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<v Speaker 1>let him give you his numbers. That what you're saying. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that sounds great. Perfect, All right, Well, congratulations Oscar, you

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<v Speaker 1>got a second date? All right, guys, thank you so much. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm looking forward to getting to know the real

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<v Speaker 1>you and not a dating anthropologist. M isn't that interesting?

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<v Speaker 1>That was a joke, right, that was a joke. Yeah, okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>making sure in the morning text in at seven eighty

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<v Speaker 1>five nine two, it says, never believe what the Internet says. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. Talking about today's second date update if you

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<v Speaker 1>missed it, Oscar wanted to call this girl named Jade.

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<v Speaker 1>His friends told him that they think he's a boring

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<v Speaker 1>dater and that's why he doesn't do very well when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to dating. So he said, he went online

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<v Speaker 1>and googled how to have fun on a date and

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<v Speaker 1>took some notes. We called Jade and she said that

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar didn't seem genuinely interested in her during their date

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<v Speaker 1>because he kept checking his phone. His response was that

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<v Speaker 1>he was checking his phone because he was looking at

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<v Speaker 1>his notes and his phone for how to respond her

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<v Speaker 1>so that he could seem interested. And I guess he

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<v Speaker 1>kept saying, hmm, that's interesting. After like everything, she said,

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<v Speaker 1>because the Internet told him too. I will say, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I like that he put some effort in, but his

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<v Speaker 1>notes were literally listen to someone and be engaged in conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>like why do you have to keep checking those? His

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<v Speaker 1>notes should have been like, don't look at your phone

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<v Speaker 1>too much, don't stare at your phone the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>The worst part is even when another guy came over

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<v Speaker 1>and hit on Jade, Oscar actually encouraged the guy to

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<v Speaker 1>get the number. He said he was just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>seem cool and laid back, so weird that she thought

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<v Speaker 1>he wasn't interested. After explaining that all, Jade did agree

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<v Speaker 1>to go on a second date with him. Hopefully this

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<v Speaker 1>time he leaves his notes at home and doesn't encourage

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<v Speaker 1>her to go out with another dude while they're dating.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see how that goes. Remember, if you want a

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<v Speaker 1>second date update, just email the show and we will

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<v Speaker 1>call the person that didn't call you back five