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Speaker 1: Second dat up date. People always say that you should

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Speaker 1: just be yourself on a first date. Absolutely. If you

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Speaker 1: feel like you're a little too boring, then you can

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Speaker 1: always google how to be somebody else on a date

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Speaker 1: and maybe it'll work out in your favor. And that

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Speaker 1: sounds like it's what Oscar did. Who's on the phone

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Speaker 1: for a second date update? Right now? What's up Oscar? Hey? Guys,

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Speaker 1: scold up not much. Your email said that you googled

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Speaker 1: how to date or something like that. Can you explain? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I've found something out from a friend recently that

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Speaker 1: a boring dater. Wait, how would your friend even know?

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Speaker 1: did what everybody does. I googled how to not be

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Speaker 1: any good information? Yeah? So I found this one article

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Speaker 1: a dating anthropologist, which basically just means observe everything and

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Speaker 1: The third thing? I thought this is interesting. It said

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Speaker 1: today's second date update. Oscar is on the phone, and

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Speaker 1: Oscar is quite a bore. That's not what I say

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Speaker 1: Here we go. I'm dialing her fund of her right now? Hello? Hi,

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Speaker 1: is this Jade? This is she? Hey Jade, how are you?

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Speaker 1: This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning.

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Speaker 1: From what Brook and Jewel in the Morning. It's a

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Speaker 1: His name is Oscar. Okay do you know Oscar? Yeah? Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: Oscar emailed us. He told us a little bit about

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Speaker 1: your date, and he also says he's really interested in

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Speaker 1: phone calls or text messages. He's interested in seeing me again? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: did it not seem like it? Not at all. Really,

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Speaker 1: talking about a different Oscar than I have no idea. Really,

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Speaker 1: you still there? Hey? Yeah, Jade, I don't know how

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Speaker 1: this happened. I don't really know who whoa whoa whoa

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Speaker 1: whoa whoa whoa? What is going on right now? Jade?

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Speaker 1: I understand why you feel that way, and I promise

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Speaker 1: I have a really good explanation. Okay, I'm super confused

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Speaker 1: When I when I kept checking my phone, I had

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Speaker 1: missed it, Oscar wanted to call this girl named Jade.

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Speaker 1: His friends told him that they think he's a boring

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