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Speaker 3: in to our newest episode. Stevie, you have some issues
Speaker 3: with your shirt you ordered.
Speaker 2: You say, what color do you think it is? I
Speaker 2: would say your shirt is, uh purple lavender?
Speaker 1: Lavender? Yeah, it was not even purple. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: alf purp.
Speaker 4: I ordered a pink one, that's something, and it came
Speaker 4: back this. I forget what the company is called.
Speaker 2: It's called colorblind dot org. You can't read that, right,
Speaker 2: I can't read that.
Speaker 5: But it's like a pricey It's like a little price heer.
Speaker 1: I will say this is nice. I like it.
Speaker 4: It's a nice sweatshirt, but it's not the color I ordered,
Speaker 4: nor is it a color I normally would wear.
Speaker 1: And here's why, because it washes you out. It washes
Speaker 1: me out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a terrible color for you would look it
Speaker 2: on me though, So when you're done with it at
Speaker 2: this episode, do you want to take it.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take that shirt for real. For sure. It
Speaker 1: looks comfy. It's a good color for me. For you,
Speaker 1: it doesn't. It doesn't do you any favors. Jesus. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying you look bad. I've seen you look better.
Speaker 1: It's all I'm saying, Stevie, and I'm gonna shoot you.
Speaker 1: Strength is That's how I do. Okay, Oh I know?
Speaker 1: And the hero she mat too soon. This alphant has
Speaker 1: got a lot of misses.
Speaker 6: I love you, buddy. All right.
Speaker 1: Well, I guess I'll go get my Holocaust Shiller's list
Speaker 1: hat on it. I got. I got a two strip
Speaker 1: that says, you see my T shirt.
Speaker 5: I'm a grown man. I do what my dog wants.
Speaker 1: Get it. Yeah, he's a Christmas gift. Well you are
Speaker 1: how many dogs you up to? Right now?
Speaker 2: We got twelve of them in the hood. Right now,
Speaker 2: we've got twelve of us. Well that's lower, Well, no,
Speaker 2: twelve of ours. And then oh for us actually out
Speaker 2: out to adopt only we're down to nine right now.
Speaker 2: We've crushed it.
Speaker 1: Gattops, how many? How many have you? How many have
Speaker 1: you saved? We just did the numbers.
Speaker 6: We just ran the numbers.
Speaker 1: We had our big we had our big holiday Pawtye,
Speaker 1: and we ran the numbers while we did our little toast.
Speaker 1: We have saved one hundred and ninety six dogs come
Speaker 1: since inception, one hundred and thirty four have been adopted
Speaker 1: out to homes. Wow. The other ones either ended up
Speaker 1: as a.
Speaker 2: Ghatto pupp or had passed on and we gave a
Speaker 2: hospice situation at our house, or we're unable to say,
Speaker 2: but we gave it a good shot.
Speaker 1: So two hundred lives, two hundred lives have gone. You've
Speaker 1: changed for the better, for the better. Congratulate that, which
Speaker 1: is great.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and Ghetto Pups is still running strong, Gatto Pups
Speaker 2: and Friends dot com.
Speaker 1: That's it. You got it going, got a little going.
Speaker 2: This year, we're gonna try to do some big things here,
Speaker 2: try to do some bigger things this year. We're going
Speaker 2: to figure out some other ways to make it keep
Speaker 2: going and growing. Because Bessie's just doing a great job
Speaker 2: with it, and we've been having so much fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's become a real part of the fam,
Speaker 1: real part of the real part of the mission of
Speaker 1: being a Gatto.
Speaker 4: I think, how did you get into just curious? How
Speaker 4: did you, like, when did you nurture like your appreciation
Speaker 4: and love for dogs?
Speaker 1: When did that happen?
Speaker 2: I think through Bessie, Like, so, we got Biscotti, our
Speaker 2: first rescue ten years ago, and I think that was
Speaker 2: a big thing for me when we realized how much
Speaker 2: a rescue dog happens.
Speaker 1: That is. Yeah, I think that's the one of Piscotti. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's Piscotti. There, that's Piscotti.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but Scotti is one of our little uh, our
Speaker 2: first rescue, our sweetest one. My up tied for my
Speaker 2: favorite dog. I go back and forth between Hern's Pomoni.
Speaker 2: Yeah in the picture right, Yeah, they're they're in the
Speaker 2: photo there, that's right. So there's a photo here if
Speaker 2: you'l watching on YouTube, there's a photo of me and
Speaker 2: my two pups. And that got drawn by a fan,
Speaker 2: which I love. I get a lot of I get
Speaker 2: a lot of fan art. This one's actually good. A
Speaker 2: lot of it is ship but that's a nice.
Speaker 1: One I get. I get so much people terrible I drew,
Speaker 1: Oh that's what I look like.
Speaker 4: You really genuinely get a ton of gifts I do,
Speaker 4: which is rich is very sweetier fans.
Speaker 2: I don't mind. Listen the moment of the handing off
Speaker 2: the gether. I always think it's so nice and I
Speaker 2: appreciate that someone to think of you.
Speaker 1: Right. For me, it's when I see what people think
Speaker 1: I look like and it's like, oh, I look like that,
Speaker 1: and then it's like or reflex like, oh do I
Speaker 1: really look like that? I need to get to the gym.
Speaker 4: But if you want to feel bad about yourself, ask
Speaker 4: a child to draw you, and they'll trud they'll accentuate
Speaker 4: the worst parts of you.
Speaker 2: My son draws a jelly bean family, like you know,
Speaker 2: he's a jelly bean aproached to it. You circle with
Speaker 2: legs and arms and a smile, right as my son does.
Speaker 2: And the I'm always six to seven times bigger than
Speaker 2: any other.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need three more pieces of paper.
Speaker 2: Except he drew Uncle Vinnie. Once he drew Uncle VINNI
Speaker 2: wants right my brother in law, Vinnie, you know, Big Vin.
Speaker 6: And it was.
Speaker 2: Hysterical, how big venue was everything else? Yeah, but uh,
Speaker 2: I do like I do get a lot of fan art.
Speaker 2: I do have gotten some great dog stuff. I've gotten
Speaker 2: some really, my office is filled with a lot of
Speaker 2: great fans stuff I've got to meet and greets and whatnot.
Speaker 1: I think it's really cool.
Speaker 4: What's one of the odder more eccentric pieces or something?
Speaker 2: So I framed it a woman I had posted a
Speaker 2: photo of me and my kids a selfie photo on
Speaker 2: my Instagram, and she did it with shiny beads. She
Speaker 2: recreated the photo with shiny beads, really, and it was unreal.
Speaker 1: I actually got it from her. It took her forever.
Speaker 1: She shared the story and I was.
Speaker 2: So sweet and I was like, wow, they take all
Speaker 2: the time to do this, and it was like, it's
Speaker 2: unlike anything I've ever seen.
Speaker 1: Real. It's me and my two kids in the shiny
Speaker 1: bead art that I framed in a tanging in my office.
Speaker 1: It's heavy, it's nice. Yeah, that's pretty sick. That's pretty cool.
Speaker 5: Also a little scary, a little bit little.
Speaker 1: It has the same blood type as me. It was cool.
Speaker 4: It was good to go back. So Bessie got you
Speaker 4: involved with the dogs. Yes, and then you guys both
Speaker 4: is that something that a bond was just another asset
Speaker 4: to the relationship between you and Bessie where it's like,
Speaker 4: let's foster this part of our relationship.
Speaker 2: Literally were literally her dream and literally I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: am I, I'm going to dive in and support this thing.
Speaker 1: So we we we.
Speaker 2: Did it, and I was like it really was like
Speaker 2: just such. She feels like it speaks to our heart.
Speaker 2: It's her mission, it's her purpose, right, and you know
Speaker 2: when you love somebody and you want to support them,
Speaker 2: like it's like a right, let's do it.
Speaker 1: So you know, it's funny. We make jokes. You know,
Speaker 1: it's very expensive because they're old.
Speaker 2: And I always say, I gotta go to work for
Speaker 2: the dogs, you know, like that's what we do. Like
Speaker 2: holcome when she'd be like, hey, we just found this
Speaker 2: one and it needs a surgery. We have one dog
Speaker 2: that we spent over thirty grand on to save, which
Speaker 2: is real crazy, yeah, and lives with us.
Speaker 1: It is one of our pack now. Because you know,
Speaker 1: it's French fry. Because you're pretty cut and dry kind
Speaker 1: of guy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you seem like you know, you know, but to
Speaker 4: know that you would go the extra distance thirty grand
Speaker 4: on a dog.
Speaker 1: I mean that's yeah, yeah, I was like this better limp.
Speaker 2: But you know, it's it is. You know, we get
Speaker 2: a lot of support from the community, which is good.
Speaker 2: You know, a lot of people kick in. We've got
Speaker 2: a great network of volunteers. We do a lot of
Speaker 2: things right. But it's like it's senior dog is like
Speaker 2: no joke. It's like, you know, these things, you get
Speaker 2: them and messed up situate. Most of them are abandoned
Speaker 2: because people can't afford to fix them or help them. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you know, so you get these dogs coming in the door,
Speaker 2: which are you know, got the limp or the tooth
Speaker 2: or the tongue of.
Speaker 1: The cancer, and you're like trying to help them. They're
Speaker 1: not pretty. They're not going to Westminster.
Speaker 2: They're not Westminster there, they're there east they're Eastminster.
Speaker 1: They're from the other side of the track, you know.
Speaker 2: But they're you know, they get in the We get
Speaker 2: a lot that they like the vets are like all
Speaker 2: this dog ones got a couple of months and then
Speaker 2: they get in a loving home and these sons of
Speaker 2: bitches they just come back to life and they're like
Speaker 2: like puppies again and they live longer, and so it's interesting.
Speaker 2: But we've been doing great with a lot of homes,
Speaker 2: a lot of people you know, coming into UH to
Speaker 2: help us with with adoptions. It's been really great that
Speaker 2: they have rewarding years. Bestially literally broke into tears two
Speaker 2: days ago because she got a picture an update from
Speaker 2: somebody about the daughter cuddling this dog. That what we
Speaker 2: had was like on its way out and gotten into
Speaker 2: a loving home. We had helped rehabilitate it. We had
Speaker 2: to remove an eye, and it was so sweet that
Speaker 2: she sees this little girl cuddling her dog. And she
Speaker 2: started crying, and I was like, this is why we
Speaker 2: do it. You know, it's unbelievable. So's yeah, it's really
Speaker 2: really cool. And uh, you know, I love dogs.
Speaker 1: And now my dogs that we are getting old, you know,
Speaker 1: they're older now.
Speaker 2: But Scotty, my girl, we got her one and a half,
Speaker 2: she's ten and she can't get up on the bed anymore.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna have to like lose her and
Speaker 2: it's gonna be like, ah, so gut wrenching, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because uh, BEMONI went on the road. Money comes
Speaker 1: on the road.
Speaker 6: With me and my little girl.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's my littlest she I adopted her on the road.
Speaker 2: She's eight now, she got some she got some time left.
Speaker 2: She's any dog, so she'll be around in like a
Speaker 2: little monster. She'll be a little goblin. You know, we
Speaker 2: have a seventeen year old at our house, Mocha. We
Speaker 2: had a sweet sixteen for her life. Can I guess
Speaker 2: something comes out in the middle of the night you
Speaker 2: come downstairs.
Speaker 1: You know the power of price compel. You're like one
Speaker 1: of those I swear to God that thing is you.
Speaker 4: I don't know if we talked about this last time,
Speaker 4: but there was there was a moment where, oh, I
Speaker 4: came out for your book, ready for your book read,
Speaker 4: and because of where, because of where we were, you said,
Speaker 4: you know it, just stay at my house.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 4: And I was like, okay, great, and you're you have
Speaker 4: a gorgeous home and your family's fantastic and your kids
Speaker 4: are so sweet. Light comes, and it comes anytime you
Speaker 4: hear this many compliments like.
Speaker 1: Knock. You go, okay, we're going to put you in
Speaker 1: this guest bedroom.
Speaker 4: I go, okay, great, and it's a beautiful guest bedroom
Speaker 4: and it's right next to the bar, which I appreciate.
Speaker 1: You're like, now just so you know, and I'm.
Speaker 5: Like, oh God, here we go.
Speaker 1: What is it?
Speaker 5: You go, Uh, there's a like a kettle underneath your.
Speaker 4: The rescue is in the basement are sanctuary, and you're
Speaker 4: right above two dogs, and you're gonna hear something that
Speaker 4: you've never heard anything. You're like, the dog, it's gonna
Speaker 4: sound demonic, it's gonna sound like not a dog.
Speaker 1: You're the house is not possessed.
Speaker 4: Just you know, you're gonna hear it like six in
Speaker 4: the morning, seven in the morning. So I was like okay,
Speaker 4: and I'm thinking, okay, this is hilarious.
Speaker 6: And then.
Speaker 1: The fellows then.
Speaker 4: Here, like what the fuck is that? Like what you
Speaker 4: said couldn't even prepare me for what the what noise
Speaker 4: is that? Because it's I've never by the way, not
Speaker 4: even a dog, like an animal.
Speaker 5: I've never heard that in my Like.
Speaker 4: Like no, Sperato should have like they should have recorded
Speaker 4: it and used it in ar It was unlike anything
Speaker 4: I've ever heard.
Speaker 2: And we had a dog at that point that was
Speaker 2: making some that had a very weird and distinct bark
Speaker 2: that was its part.
Speaker 1: That's Quo quota the park. Yeah, that was living under
Speaker 1: you at that point.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we have since re home that when that
Speaker 2: one got at home, so that one got a home.
Speaker 6: They all get anything.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh you get a home, you get home.
Speaker 4: An if that dog can get a home, anything is possible.
Speaker 5: Who adopted it, like Lucifer, like is crazy.
Speaker 1: It's living in Transylvania. A beautiful name.
Speaker 2: Man named van helsing it in No. But it's funny
Speaker 2: because like you'll get some of those dogs like that.
Speaker 2: But at feeding time, the house gets very loud, which
Speaker 2: is interesting. Yeah, and the downstairs when the volunteers come
Speaker 2: in to feed are the people that work with our
Speaker 2: We have some wonderful women that work with our rescue
Speaker 2: that come in to help feed and you know, do
Speaker 2: it all. You'll hear the downstairs in the mornings. My
Speaker 2: kids are such good sleepers, thank goodness.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's out of necessity, it's just because.
Speaker 4: Pretty interesting that that they're gonna have that upbringing with
Speaker 4: all those dogs and they're just gonna kind of become.
Speaker 2: I said to my daughter, we talked about it all
Speaker 2: the time. I was like, I was like, you know,
Speaker 2: this is gonna be your thing. You know, when mom
Speaker 2: and Daddy go, you're gonna have.
Speaker 1: All these dogs and she's like, you know, I have
Speaker 1: some friends that only have one dog. Only She's like,
Speaker 1: only have one dog. You know. It's it's interesting to
Speaker 1: see that.
Speaker 2: But as our dogs start to dwindle, as they get older,
Speaker 2: you know, eventually our pack upstairs at the Ghatto pups
Speaker 2: is gonna start lower, and it's gonna be interesting to
Speaker 2: see what that's like that only have It's crazy to say,
Speaker 2: but to only have six dogs, that'd be half the
Speaker 2: amount of dogs I.
Speaker 1: Have, right, you know, which is nuts.
Speaker 4: But it is interesting because in my Facebook feed, just
Speaker 4: the algorithm knows that I will watch, like, you know.
Speaker 5: We met this puppy on the side of the road,
Speaker 5: and then it's a Dodo.
Speaker 4: Dodo, yeah, Dodo, Yeah, So I follow Dodo and it's
Speaker 4: just all these great animal videos and I'd say half
Speaker 4: of them are like wounded or like neglected dogs that
Speaker 4: you see the personality change and you see what love
Speaker 4: can do it to an animal, and it's pretty interesting.
Speaker 1: In order a human order a human yeah, sure.
Speaker 2: You see some of these despicable humans and they get
Speaker 2: a dog. And if everyone don't shows them love and
Speaker 2: it's so interesting, that's true.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because the other way. I mean, look, my brother
Speaker 1: came back from Iraq.
Speaker 4: Definitely affected with PTSD and got a dog named Cracker.
Speaker 4: And Cracker, I would say single handily changed his life
Speaker 4: may percent.
Speaker 1: And he would attest to it too. Yeah, And Cracker.
Speaker 4: Passed away two years ago and my brother, you know,
Speaker 4: it definitely affected him and he's waiting to get another
Speaker 4: dog wanted.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yes, I know I put you guys in touch with
Speaker 4: each other, but now but he is, uh yeah, it
Speaker 4: really did turn him around. Absolutely, he was a lot more,
Speaker 4: you know, because I think that a lot of things
Speaker 4: is like in the nature of those guys, they they
Speaker 4: just kind of they get super introverted. They stay sheltered
Speaker 4: because they know they're going to be safe. Yeah, in
Speaker 4: this particular environment wherever they're staying. And then having that
Speaker 4: dog force my brother to get out and take walks
Speaker 4: and get some sunshine, get some vitamin D.
Speaker 2: The bottom line is like nothing is happy to see
Speaker 2: you as a dolt, Like you can't deny the fact
Speaker 2: that thing doesn't care about anything and just as happy
Speaker 2: to see you like that changes your you know, your
Speaker 2: persona instantly, like even if like you're in the worst
Speaker 2: mood or whatever happens, that dog comes up, Yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: you'll just have them. I remember when I got separated
Speaker 2: with Bessie. I remember I was living alone and before
Speaker 2: I decided to take the two dogs with me. Bescotty
Speaker 2: Spimoni lives with me. That's why I'm so tight with
Speaker 2: them too. It was like completely changing experience.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't I was.
Speaker 2: Having fun, but I would say, wow, it was like
Speaker 2: such a different thing that I have to exactly like
Speaker 2: get up, get out, go take them outside, you know,
Speaker 2: and just feel like, oh my god, I have a
Speaker 2: little bit of a purpose or like just start smiling
Speaker 2: and playing with them or whatever, you know.
Speaker 1: So it does for sure change it, so I could.
Speaker 2: I can't recommend more adopting a dog and bringing a
Speaker 2: dog in your home if you don't have them.
Speaker 4: Well, it's great work that you and best do. And
Speaker 4: if people want to get what is it.
Speaker 2: Ghatto Pups and Friends dot com or at Ghatto Pups
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Speaker 1: What do you got for us? All right? This one
Speaker 1: comes from Lauren and be edny nicer. Impossible. It makes
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Speaker 7: I've been on my own, working and traveling for about
Speaker 7: three years now. I'm moving back to my home state
Speaker 7: for grad school next year. I'm a teacher and twenty
Speaker 7: six years old. Wondering if I should move back in
Speaker 7: with my parents to save money or suffer financially, to
Speaker 7: have stable mental health and continue living alone. Side note,
Speaker 7: my boyfriend lives alone, so I feel bad constantly using
Speaker 7: his place to get together. Please give me some of
Speaker 7: your advice. Love you, mommy. Since day one.
Speaker 1: What's her name again? Lauren?
Speaker 4: I love Lauren. I love the fact that she got
Speaker 4: that experience right. She sounds independent and so I would
Speaker 4: not move back in with your folks. It's almost kind
Speaker 4: of like you're you're going back, keep going forward, keep
Speaker 4: pushing forward. And that's so cool that she doesn't want
Speaker 4: to infringe upon her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, you could you could just
Speaker 1: you could, you could disseminate a lot of good stuff
Speaker 1: about Laura.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like I like her out of the gates.
Speaker 4: She's she's she's on a great trajectory and she wants
Speaker 4: to She's being respectful to her boyfriend, being respectful to
Speaker 4: herself with her parents, and being respectful to her parents.
Speaker 4: I think she's just got She just sounds like she
Speaker 4: got a great head.
Speaker 1: She dropped a little mental health thing in that I
Speaker 1: guess sounded felt like a little bit of a dig
Speaker 1: to the parents. That's true. But that's what that's what
Speaker 1: you heard. That heard the little team pockup, ready ready
Speaker 1: to pour some tea? There are we pull it off?
Speaker 1: Pull it off there?
Speaker 6: Too hot?
Speaker 1: Yeah it's a little too hot there, too hot, too hot?
Speaker 1: Too hot?
Speaker 6: Baby?
Speaker 1: Uh, you know she wants to She don't want to
Speaker 1: pull a pole abduls. She don't want to take two
Speaker 1: steps forwards. She wants to take two steps back.
Speaker 2: She wants to go right back in her own spot,
Speaker 2: and I think, you know what, she needs to be
Speaker 2: a DJ sassy cat.
Speaker 1: What's his name, j Scotcat, s got cat. She wants
Speaker 1: to pull a scot Cat here. What I would say is
Speaker 1: definitely live on your own, for sure, you know, but
Speaker 1: maybe let's uh take it easy on the parents. They're
Speaker 1: just trying to help a little bit. You don't have
Speaker 1: to talk about the mental health here.
Speaker 5: The fact that they're opening your house.
Speaker 1: Is that's nice to them. They're doing it to be controlling.
Speaker 1: We don't know this.
Speaker 2: I don't want to get into it either, but I
Speaker 2: would definitely I think there's always so much there is
Speaker 2: progression to that.
Speaker 1: Look you're talking to a guy. I moved back home.
Speaker 2: I was living in mommy's basement for a while, and
Speaker 2: I will say that it probably.
Speaker 1: Inhibited my freedom.
Speaker 2: I remember when I moved out finally, I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: this is unbelievable to me out on your own and
Speaker 2: do that. So I will say I did move back
Speaker 2: in after I was moving it lived out on my own,
Speaker 2: and I did feel like a heavy, like, uugh, this
Speaker 2: isn't good. So I would definitely say stay out and
Speaker 2: about and well, you know what, then you can entertain
Speaker 2: your boy at your place, which is so nice.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think in terms of like mental health,
Speaker 4: you know, everybody's dealing with issues, right, Everybody's got things
Speaker 4: they need to and what better time to do it
Speaker 4: than when you can reflect on your own and have
Speaker 4: your own space to do that in. And whether you
Speaker 4: move in with your folks or whether you do it
Speaker 4: five years or whatever, you're going to have to do
Speaker 4: it eventually. Sure to just get to it now and
Speaker 4: develop all those resources and be dependent on yourself, you'll.
Speaker 2: Make it work better on you exactly. Yeah, that's what
Speaker 2: I would say, bet on you for sure. How old
Speaker 2: do you when you moved out? You moved across country
Speaker 2: at a young bucket? What twenty one, twenty two.
Speaker 4: Twenty two out of Ohio, went to New York, stay
Speaker 4: with my folks for maybe four or five months, and
Speaker 4: then I got a place on twentieth in dit Mars.
Speaker 1: Nice roomy.
Speaker 4: Yes, I had a roommate, first roommate who was it Nicky?
Speaker 4: Her name was Nicky? Uh romantical or just a situation,
Speaker 4: just a she was. She was just my roommatemate. And
Speaker 4: then things happened.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Johnny Walker knocked on the door, and then so
Speaker 2: you saw it was just a room and then she
Speaker 2: moved down.
Speaker 1: How did you how did you find? Do you not
Speaker 1: want at this? It's fine, it is what it is.
Speaker 1: How did you find? Okay, what do you.
Speaker 6: Want to hear?
Speaker 1: She was pretty hot? She was pretty hot? Yeah, So
Speaker 1: what happened with uh? How did you find her? To start? Though?
Speaker 6: Was it?
Speaker 4: We were working together at a perfect so Caroline's Comedy Club.
Speaker 4: I was working there as a as a greeter, like
Speaker 4: a you know, ye whatever, the host, and she worked
Speaker 4: upstairs a comedy Nation, which was the restaurant that's now
Speaker 4: Junior's Cheesecakes, and Caroline has gone now too, it's now
Speaker 4: like a ping pong thing. But I worked down there
Speaker 4: and she worked upstairs, and we got to know each other.
Speaker 1: She seemed super cool.
Speaker 2: So then you moved in with you see the same
Speaker 2: thing happened with me and our good friend Justin in California.
Speaker 6: You guys, uh, very well, you know what.
Speaker 1: We don't talk about it.
Speaker 2: I don't think of it, but me and Justin we
Speaker 2: worked together and became roommates.
Speaker 1: I think that's a big thing in life. Like you're
Speaker 1: like you end up work like, hey, you need a roommate.
Speaker 1: I need a roommate. We're both struggling. Let's get together,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 4: And by the way, one of the coolest dudes I've
Speaker 4: ever remember, I say, the coolest dude I know. Just
Speaker 4: a great, great hang. There's some people you meet instantly
Speaker 4: go oh, this dude's cool. Yes, this dude's cool.
Speaker 1: I like him.
Speaker 4: Yeah, just a great hang. And what how fortunate are
Speaker 4: you to have met somebody like that out of the
Speaker 4: gates in l A right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in LA friend for life, friend for life man,
Speaker 2: one of the best.
Speaker 1: It's great.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think that's a situation. Well, maybe you
Speaker 2: could find maybe she could find a roommate. She got
Speaker 2: someone she works with, and it'll help these the bills.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I should bring up with the boyfriend. H Well,
Speaker 1: I hope that helped. I think that felt that felt good.
Speaker 1: That felt good.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I would say stay we're on the same page. I
Speaker 2: would say, stay on your own.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: The next one comes from RJ, Hi, Joe and Steve
Speaker 7: and Jiggy. I guess we'll just throw you in there too,
Speaker 7: and Andrew.
Speaker 6: Thanks r J.
Speaker 7: I have a relationship quandary I've been having for years.
Speaker 7: My wife thirty and I he's thirty one, got married
Speaker 7: last year, and we're still discussing the topic of our
Speaker 7: last names. She doesn't want to take my last name,
Speaker 7: which is fine, but when we eventually have kids, we
Speaker 7: both agree that we want our whole family unit to
Speaker 7: share a last name. To complicate the matter, I'm the
Speaker 7: only male left on my side of the family able
Speaker 7: to carry on the last name, and she only has sisters,
Speaker 7: so she's in a similar boat. Do we hyphenate them,
Speaker 7: pick the cooler one, make up our own, help me
Speaker 7: cool moms, you're our only hope.
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 5: Wow, what's the name again? J rjj RJ's in.
Speaker 4: A tough boat because I'm actually the last burn. So
Speaker 4: I was like, if I don't have a son, it's
Speaker 4: over right.
Speaker 1: Same deal, are you really? Yeah? Wow? And you got
Speaker 1: you got Remo? Yeah? Sorry, yeah, but you got Remo. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I didn't know if I was able to say the
Speaker 1: name or whatever, my son's name. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, No, it's not he's not he's not Baltimore.
Speaker 2: If you say three times, will pop out from behind
Speaker 2: that planet with a calculator.
Speaker 1: Got I do your taxes? No, that's that's that's interesting.
Speaker 1: That's a tough boy. I wonder why.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 1: Look, tradition says, Tradition says, you got to go with
Speaker 1: the guy's name. I will say this, making up a
Speaker 1: new name's bullshit. I wouldn't do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not I you know, you leave it to
Speaker 2: a coin flip. I mean you let fate decide somehow.
Speaker 1: Maybe. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think you maybe when you name the kid, you
Speaker 2: see what sounds like a better last name. Making up
Speaker 2: a new name is is tough, I think, because then
Speaker 2: you lose both of you.
Speaker 4: I don't like the hyphenated thing, you know what, you
Speaker 4: know what we and I just did this just to
Speaker 4: do it.
Speaker 1: Her main names the middle name, Yeah, it's gonna.
Speaker 4: Say my because my nickname for my wife is Jansen.
Speaker 4: I was going, hey, Jansen, Jansen. And so one time
Speaker 4: we shoot, we were out with her sister Lawn and
Speaker 4: she's like, would you call her Jansen?
Speaker 1: She and she started laughing. She's like, that's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1: So I call her Janssen. So our daughter. The middle
Speaker 1: name is her mom's maiden name. That's I like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you put the the loser of the name
Speaker 1: goes as the middle name.
Speaker 2: When you guys pick one, I would just put the
Speaker 2: middle in the middle, because the middle name is wasted anyway,
Speaker 2: the hyphenated.
Speaker 1: It's not like that.
Speaker 4: I don't like look the guy's name is. I'm just
Speaker 4: a traditionalist. I like tradition and I think that you know, if.
Speaker 1: I canna blame, I would say, I would say, the
Speaker 1: grandfather fucked up. You only had daughters. That's not on you.
Speaker 5: Shot Zil in the water.
Speaker 1: The name's dead. You gotta live with that man.
Speaker 6: That's it goes with you.
Speaker 2: Uh No, I would say I. I would think that's
Speaker 2: a nice way to do it. It's like put the
Speaker 2: the middle name as the as the last name, but
Speaker 2: the girls.
Speaker 5: You're you're going in between though. I'm staying with the girls.
Speaker 4: Uh oh, you say the girl, I say, the wives
Speaker 4: name is the boy name, and the boy gets that
Speaker 4: because that's tradition. And it's like, okay, so she's got sisters,
Speaker 4: she's got sister. Are they in the same dilemma?
Speaker 1: I bet not. Ah, they might have a boy there
Speaker 1: to carry it on or not. Yeah, yeah, interesting, Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: I think I think I can see only so far
Speaker 1: that to me would be and that's what I love
Speaker 1: about you. You a line in the sand kind of fella,
Speaker 1: and that's all you're gonna put right there. Then you
Speaker 1: get this DP bitch sorry, wow, sniffery, snip. What's your pronouns?
Speaker 6: God?
Speaker 1: Say it? You know you want to fuck her? All right,
Speaker 1: so I'll take all that out. Yeah, So I would say, use.
Speaker 5: The middle phone answer dong wang, we gotta feed you lunch.
Speaker 4: The last thing, the last thing anybody thinks about anythink
Speaker 4: about Dix's Asians is the two worst.
Speaker 1: Wang. Sorry, Okay, we're way off course here, gotcha.
Speaker 2: I would say take the middle use that middle name
Speaker 2: slot and and put put somebody's last name in there.
Speaker 1: That's what I was, all right, Cool, we solved it.
Speaker 1: Let's solve that one. Good luck to them, though. That'sms
Speaker 1: like a tough one. I feel like there's not gonna
Speaker 1: be a winter in that situation too. R J, your
Speaker 1: wife sounds like a cunt? Do we cut that up?
Speaker 2: That's what that's a clip, that's that's that's the RJ's
Speaker 2: wife is is the name of the episode. God, alright,
Speaker 2: so you could just use that little.
Speaker 1: I don't even know all the good stuff.
Speaker 5: This is the stuff we cut is always the funniest.
Speaker 1: It's always the funniest. Okay, we'll keep it. I love
Speaker 1: the you see that Hollo Oat song.
Speaker 4: There's a guy in a studio, he's playing eight different
Speaker 4: instruments and it's the one dent D D D den
Speaker 4: it then it D and he goes, you're a cunt.
Speaker 1: I love that video. That video makes me so happy.
Speaker 1: It is because it's the it's the song. The song
Speaker 1: has that little riff in it and then there's that
Speaker 1: little he just says it. It's so perfect. It's such
Speaker 1: a great video. Well, I'll get you that as a
Speaker 1: T shirt for all right, we got to talk for
Speaker 1: another one. Let's say it.
Speaker 7: Okay, this one's pretty juicy. It comes from Live and
Speaker 7: she says, my boyfriend broke up with me after over
Speaker 7: a year. He completely blindsided me. I thought we were
Speaker 7: hanging out, but he came to say he was done
Speaker 7: with me and that he had trash bags.
Speaker 1: Of my stuff from his place.
Speaker 7: Two reasons for breaking up with me were one, he
Speaker 7: didn't like the man he became because he got fatter,
Speaker 7: became worse with his money because he spent too much
Speaker 7: on me, which wasn't my fault that he bought me things.
Speaker 7: He didn't hang out with his friends as much. Again,
Speaker 7: not my fault, et cetera. And number two, he felt
Speaker 7: a relationship with disproportionate. I am emotional and know how
Speaker 7: to communicate and ask for help. He is the opposite.
Speaker 7: He gave me things to be mindful of. A month
Speaker 7: before the breakup. I worked on these things. He was
Speaker 7: so impressed with how well I'd worked on them. But
Speaker 7: then two weeks later he broke up with me for
Speaker 7: entirely different reasons.
Speaker 1: What should I do? Oh, my goodness, Wow, you say juicy.
Speaker 4: I want both of us to go outside, get our
Speaker 4: pants on, pull him up. It says juicy, juicy, and
Speaker 4: we read them and then we sit down. Jesus is
Speaker 4: very juicy. This episode should be called detail.
Speaker 5: My God, there's a lot here.
Speaker 1: Wow, okay, lot. Well, your stuff's in the trash. That's
Speaker 1: what I want to tell it. Take to talk to
Speaker 1: put it in bad He's just throwing trash bags. He
Speaker 1: got you out quick.
Speaker 2: He didn't want to deal with any of it, so
Speaker 2: I just throw it all in this I will say
Speaker 2: he did you a favor. From my point of view,
Speaker 2: it seems like he emptied it all for you. He
Speaker 2: gave you stuff to work on and you did that,
Speaker 2: and then there was other problems. It seems like there's
Speaker 2: just a lot of problems in this relationship. So I
Speaker 2: would say accept it and move forward.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Look, obviously there's always two sides to the trash bag.
Speaker 1: There's a recycling bent and there's the trash bag.
Speaker 4: By the way to your point, like that's there's there's like, right,
Speaker 4: you could put it in a hamper, You could put it.
Speaker 1: You could. Yeah, when it's in a trash bag, it
Speaker 1: means did he nodded, even kno rip ripped it up violently?
Speaker 1: That says a lot.
Speaker 5: And then to hear like he got fat and blaming,
Speaker 5: it's like, what that's crazy.
Speaker 1: I don't like the person I becod.
Speaker 5: I mean at your fuck God, Yeah, it's like.
Speaker 2: She did it does seem like, I will say Devil's
Speaker 2: advocate a little bit. She's not thinking any responsibility for
Speaker 2: anything though, and what we're going there's a reason why
Speaker 2: he broke up with you, right, And she's like, he
Speaker 2: didn't like the many became not my fault, he didn't need,
Speaker 2: he didn't spend it like he was it money not
Speaker 2: my faulty bought me all this stuff, like it's always
Speaker 2: just literally saying like okay, well like you did so
Speaker 2: something went wrong, Like you know, it's not all it's
Speaker 2: not built up out of no way.
Speaker 4: Feeding him, it's like she's pulled out a trough and
Speaker 4: like filling it with cool range doritos and go eat
Speaker 4: you pig. Like he's making his own decisions. But then
Speaker 4: he's blaming her for getting fat, right that.
Speaker 1: One of that one, I'm not with him. Not my fault.
Speaker 1: I get it that.
Speaker 2: I understand he's buying me nice things, not my fault,
Speaker 2: Like you know, okay, a lot of not my faults
Speaker 2: coming at me, And I'm saying she could be the
Speaker 2: San Andreas a little bit.
Speaker 1: Some of it could read fault, not my fault, some
Speaker 1: of it is. Some of it something's got to be
Speaker 1: our fault.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think, look, there's probably a warning flair there
Speaker 4: hearing not my fault, not my fault, What is your fault?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Because then she's saying a lot of stuff came
Speaker 2: at me that was you know that he asked me
Speaker 2: to work on this. Other stuff came out of nowhere.
Speaker 2: So kind of it seems like he just wanted out
Speaker 2: of the relationship too well, he couldn't wait to throw that.
Speaker 4: Stuff communicated to her. Yeah, things that he didn't appreciate.
Speaker 4: It doesn't sound like maybe she was accountable for him,
Speaker 4: or maybe she was.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: She said she fixed them those things, yeah, but he
Speaker 2: didn't give her these other ones. So that just makes
Speaker 2: me sound like he just wanted out. Anyway, He gave
Speaker 2: you stuff to work on, you fix them, and according
Speaker 2: to you, not according to him, but you said you
Speaker 2: fixed them. But then I guess, you know what, To
Speaker 2: be fair, she did fix them, because he's not. He's
Speaker 2: not pointing to them when he's bringing up with her.
Speaker 2: He's pointing at different things now, So it just sounds
Speaker 2: like he's grabbing at anything.
Speaker 1: Just he wants you out. He wants to put you
Speaker 1: into trash.
Speaker 2: And he did that physically and mentally and emotionally. And yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: so that he just wanted out. So I would say,
Speaker 2: it's just don't try to salvage it.
Speaker 1: It's over. Move on.
Speaker 4: Year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, they were, they were in it a year.
Speaker 1: They were in it a year. Yeah, that's all year.
Speaker 1: I mean three or sixty five. You get that back.
Speaker 4: I know, it sounds like a lot, right, But they
Speaker 4: say it's I think the grieving process is one week
Speaker 4: for every month, really is what I've heard, So twelve weeks,
Speaker 4: growth weeks, three months over it. But I think that's
Speaker 4: also like, is what what's the science behind that?
Speaker 1: You know? Yeah, who knows. I don't know. You could
Speaker 1: get mathematical with it like that. That's what I've read.
Speaker 1: Of course, you read it, we get it. You read
Speaker 1: Did you watch the documentary about it too?
Speaker 6: Or no?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Did you? Yeah?
Speaker 2: You probably did, right, the documented the science of the breakup?
Speaker 2: Did you write say that's directed by John Polm. I would, yeah,
Speaker 2: I would think. I think you're fine, right, I think
Speaker 2: you move on from it. He's hurtful, you get out,
Speaker 2: you're gonna get throw it though.
Speaker 4: She seems cool, like again you can glean things from
Speaker 4: very detailed that there's a lot coming at us, at us,
Speaker 4: but she's also like I think she's setting the foundation
Speaker 4: for like, hey make an educated choice.
Speaker 1: Here here's the situation. And yeah, if it's a year,
Speaker 1: it's like nothing, it's really nothing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know it sounds it's so easy to say
Speaker 4: that to people, right, but you got so much road ahead.
Speaker 6: For sure, time for one more of another quick one?
Speaker 1: You got, you got? You got a mini one over there? Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: give us give us not not as juicy steak, Give
Speaker 1: us a tidbit.
Speaker 6: Will you give us a skewer?
Speaker 1: Yeah, give us an app?
Speaker 6: Okay?
Speaker 1: This one's pretty Yeah, well you could. You could also
Speaker 1: just make one up if you want. I can't do that.
Speaker 1: I mean we can. If you don't have one, we
Speaker 1: can just make one up.
Speaker 7: This one sounds good. Okay, it's from Tyler. This one's
Speaker 7: a kabab. I say it's a veggie. It's not juicy,
Speaker 7: but you know what, it's still good healthy. This one's
Speaker 7: from Tyler. What advice do you have for a newly
Speaker 7: engaged couple.
Speaker 1: Oh, don't talk to anybody about it. Make all your
Speaker 1: own decisions.
Speaker 2: You're gonna hear so much unsolicited advice and bullshit about it.
Speaker 1: You're gonna spend that much on the wedding. You should
Speaker 1: buy a house.
Speaker 2: But just shut up everybody and let us enjoy ourselves
Speaker 2: for this one year we have before we're gonna be
Speaker 2: hitched together and my train is locked to you and
Speaker 2: we're just going through the road of life.
Speaker 1: And you don't know there's gonna be ice storms, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be rough road, could be sunshine. You don't know.
Speaker 1: Enjoy this moment because the rest of it is bullshit.
Speaker 2: A second, I would say, you got two people out.
Speaker 2: That was the number one thing I would say about
Speaker 2: engage with.
Speaker 1: Just tune people out. Enjoy your own journey. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Right, By the way, that's great advice because you're gonna
Speaker 4: you're gonna ask people for things and then people are
Speaker 4: unsolicited gonna tell you things.
Speaker 1: You need to do this. You have to get that Oh,
Speaker 1: talk to that guy. You're gonna love this.
Speaker 4: It's just like do it makes you happy. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: And I would say get to the butt stuff quick.
Speaker 1: Quick quick? Why wait, you know you earned it. I
Speaker 1: would say this too. This is something else I would say. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I will say treat it as a time. You enjoy it,
Speaker 2: don't treat it like a job. A lot of people
Speaker 2: get engaged like, okay, we gotta do this.
Speaker 1: Look, we all know this to do.
Speaker 2: You got to plan this, do this, you know, deal
Speaker 2: with the family dramas of integrating and whatnot. But I
Speaker 2: will say, there's supposed to be an enjoyment to the engagement.
Speaker 2: There's supposed to be you should be focusing on, Wow,
Speaker 2: I found my person, I'm in love.
Speaker 1: This is great. We're gonna start our journey together in
Speaker 1: our next chapter.
Speaker 2: Definitely revel in that and don't get caught up in
Speaker 2: the in the administrative stuff that comes with engagement.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think if I it's interesting to say that
Speaker 4: because I've looked back on my marriage.
Speaker 1: A handful of times, like the actual wedding.
Speaker 4: Itself, and I don't think I ever gave myself enough
Speaker 4: time to really enjoy it because everybody's there. You're like,
Speaker 4: oh my god, they're all here. You gotta take the picture,
Speaker 4: you got to shake the hands, you got to thank
Speaker 4: you for oh my god, you flew from where. It's
Speaker 4: just like right, and yes, you want to do that, right.
Speaker 4: You want to acknowledge the people gave up a weekend,
Speaker 4: people got a hotel, they got air fair, they got
Speaker 4: to fill a thousand things to do too, but they
Speaker 4: came out.
Speaker 1: Of course, you want to acknowledge that.
Speaker 4: But it is kind of like as much as it's
Speaker 4: her day, because every girl dreams of it, like very
Speaker 4: what dude dreams of this wedding? Yeah for sure, right, oh,
Speaker 4: like but I do wish I enjoyed it a bit
Speaker 4: more because it was more like, okay, are you happy?
Speaker 1: Is everything?
Speaker 2: Like for my wife, especially when it comes to the day,
Speaker 2: I will say, you are going to be spending a
Speaker 2: lot of doing a lot like you really just need
Speaker 2: to remember, eat, drink and laugh, like that's what you
Speaker 2: need to do.
Speaker 1: Like that day, it's got to be something you want
Speaker 1: to make memories of. You want to do that stuff.
Speaker 2: You don't have to worry as much as you think
Speaker 2: about being a host and people see people already there
Speaker 2: celebrating you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, bump into people on the dance floor. It's enough.
Speaker 1: You don't have to go table to table. I thank you.
Speaker 2: Oh that's it's just making a party, make an experience,
Speaker 2: but mostly make it for you too, because you're the
Speaker 2: one paying for it, right, You're gonna have all this time.
Speaker 2: You want to get something out of that day. You
Speaker 2: want to be memorable for sure.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Take that moment before with your boys.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's one of my favorite memories is just hanging
Speaker 4: out with that with the fellas before and just I
Speaker 4: remember doing a shot with everybody and just having it
Speaker 4: was like, wow, this is this is pretty cool.
Speaker 1: I remember we were all just laughing, getting dr I
Speaker 1: love getting dressed together. That was fun. Yeah, we got
Speaker 1: the tuxes together and all that or by knt of
Speaker 1: the apartment. I thought that was really cool. So fun thing,
Speaker 1: fun hanging there was some food out. We just hung
Speaker 1: out and stuff. I think it'sportant.
Speaker 4: You enjoy, enjoy it and again like to your to
Speaker 4: your point, Joe, like that's something you guys are going
Speaker 4: to do together that you'll never do together again. That's right,
Speaker 4: and it's the most exciting. You might do it again,
Speaker 4: but biggest cross you don't. But you know, enjoy that,
Speaker 4: Enjoy all those decisions, because that's that you guys. It's
Speaker 4: the beginning of a brand new life and a commitment.
Speaker 4: And it's uh, I mean, what's better than that?
Speaker 1: It's pretty cool? Nothing? All right, there we go.
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