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Speaker 1: Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thanks

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Speaker 1: so much for coming back and joining us, and we

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Speaker 1: are so excited about today's episode.

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Speaker 2: Kathy, we certainly are. Just be sure to check out

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Speaker 2: our latest episode. We have been having so much fun

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Speaker 2: answering your questions, disagreeing with each other, chatting with all

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Speaker 2: your Bachelor.

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Speaker 1: Nation face and today I'm so excited we have two

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Speaker 1: very special guests. Please welcome from this season of Paradise

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Speaker 1: New love birds, Allie Joe and Sam m if you will. Hi, guys,

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Speaker 1: welcome to that Golden Hour.

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Speaker 3: What's up? Thanks for having us guys?

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Speaker 2: How great are you? Okay, So we have so much

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Speaker 2: that we want to dive into today, so we're just

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Speaker 2: going to get things started right away. But I have

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Speaker 2: to say you make the most fabulous looking couple. I

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Speaker 2: just have to say that.

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Speaker 1: Right, That's something Kathy and I agree on.

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Speaker 3: Yes, pretty one. She's a pretty one.

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Speaker 2: You're pretty pretty yourself. Sam. We're gonna give.

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Speaker 4: You some credit.

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Speaker 1: There's something I learned that Kathy and I both also.

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Speaker 1: Did we all have our motorcycle license? Yeah? I just

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Speaker 1: sold my bike like three years ago.

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 2: All right, but before before we talk about motorcycle because

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Speaker 2: you know, been there and done that. We have the

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Speaker 2: biggest question that everyone wants to know. How did you

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Speaker 2: two start dating?

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'll go first, Okay because I'm older, Older people

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Speaker 5: go first, ladies versa. So I reached out to him

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Speaker 5: a couple of months ago during Grand Season, like the

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Speaker 5: show was just on. I was teaching a rumble class

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Speaker 5: and one of my clients had said something to mean

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Speaker 5: a lotty before class at her son knew his sister

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Speaker 5: and it was like a mutual person. That person was

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Speaker 5: also from Jersey, so Jersey thing in common, and I

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Speaker 5: had messaged him and then I was like, I just

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Speaker 5: actually got compared to you on the show. It was

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Speaker 5: like right after the episode, after the basketball date. So

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Speaker 5: we started chatting a little bit. And then a couple

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Speaker 5: of months later, I posted a photo and he DMS

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Speaker 5: me and we started talking about paradise and we both

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Speaker 5: like didn't know if we were going or not. And

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Speaker 5: then he answered me and I stopped answering his messages.

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Speaker 2: And wait minute, I saw you stop answering his messages.

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Speaker 4: Yes I can.

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Speaker 5: I ask why because we were like talking about paradise

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Speaker 5: and we both didn't know if we were going, but I

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Speaker 5: think we were both like hopeful, but he wasn't sure

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Speaker 5: if he wanted to. And I was like, if I'm

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Speaker 5: I knew if I went and he went, like he

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Speaker 5: to keep the conversation going and asking questions because if

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Speaker 5: he was going to be on the beach, I wanted

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Speaker 5: it to happen organically. I didn't want to know all

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Speaker 5: Like we both really didn't.

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Speaker 1: Know, Joe. When you did get to Paradise, how did

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Speaker 1: you feel knowing that Sam had just gone home?

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Speaker 4: I was really really disappointed.

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Speaker 5: But that's so I kept saying he was the only

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Speaker 5: go in, I knew I was coming in late with

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Speaker 5: was like, this is my opportunity, Like I've never had

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Speaker 5: a date on Grant season. People only saw like a

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Speaker 5: So to find out he had just went home, and

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Speaker 5: that was like, I was really shocked.

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Speaker 4: I was surprised. I was super disappointed.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So let me just say when I rolled into

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Speaker 2: Paradise and found out that both of you had gone home,

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Speaker 2: you know, truly, I was really disappointed because I wanted

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Speaker 2: to meet both of you in person. But I want

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Speaker 2: to know what were your experiences like each of you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I think they were kind of similar. I think

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Speaker 6: I was told that I was walking down with a date.

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Speaker 3: Card.

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Speaker 6: I was extremely excited to take her out. She was

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Speaker 6: even in my interviews leading up to it, it was

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Speaker 2: And I mean, come on, sim you could have said

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Speaker 3: Listen, if you were there and she was, I would

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Speaker 3: have taken you. That's how I would have gone.

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Speaker 2: Anything you want, Sam, You're my man, all right, you boyd? Sorry?

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Speaker 6: No, So it was it was kind of the same thing.

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Speaker 6: They told me that I was gonna go down late,

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Speaker 6: because then I'm asking myself, like, what the hell am

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Speaker 6: I doing here right now?

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Speaker 3: You know? And no offense to any of the girls there.

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Speaker 6: I thought they were all sweet, but I kind of

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Speaker 6: like asking myself, you know, am I am I wasting time?

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Speaker 6: Or I've come this far? Do we just try it

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Speaker 6: I think both of us kind of had the same story. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: So it was a I think a little disheartening maybe

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Speaker 6: in the moment not not getting it or not it

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Speaker 6: not happening on TV, But but we.

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Speaker 3: Knew we were going to make stuff happen. We didn't

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Speaker 6: I didn't need TV to, you know, to book a

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Speaker 2: Basically, Costa Rica is in your rear view mirror.

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Speaker 6: Once I found out she wasn't there and I was

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Speaker 6: going home, I'm like, all.

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Speaker 5: Right, well, we don't like to say that we met

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Speaker 1: Who called who first after the show.

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Speaker 5: I did, because he was already home. He didn't know

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Speaker 5: I had gotten back and I got on my phone

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Speaker 5: and I messaged him and I said, hey, I heard

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Speaker 4: And I was like really disappointed.

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Speaker 5: I'm really upset, and he goes, chin up, here's my number,

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Speaker 5: give me a call. And I called him before I

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Speaker 5: got on the flight, and then ever since then, Oh.

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Speaker 2: God, so wait a minute, I want to know a

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Speaker 2: when was your first date and what's digging been like

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Speaker 2: so far? Like some of your best moments you've had.

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Speaker 4: We've had a lot, and.

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Speaker 3: We had a lot. I think it's scary. I think

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Speaker 3: a lot of it.

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Speaker 6: One of my favorite moments was facetiming her for the

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Speaker 6: first time, and it was with her and her mom actually,

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Speaker 6: and this was fresh off of Paradise. I don't know

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was like Mother's Day weekend because after Paradise,

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Speaker 5: I was I was really like not in a great headspace.

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Speaker 4: I was actually like just depressed over everything.

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Speaker 5: And I flew right to Jersey after Paradise and then

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Speaker 5: I facetimed him with my mom. We were going to

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Speaker 5: but the first time he came to Florida was early June. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: so we were talking on the phone but facetiming for

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Speaker 1: I love this, I love it.

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Speaker 2: I love it. Is there anybody just literally smiling?

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 1: Is there anybody from the season that you guys would

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Speaker 1: want to double date with? Do you have any favorite couple?

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Speaker 1: If you will, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: What would you say?

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Speaker 5: I don't know, because I'm watching the couples play out

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Speaker 5: right now. I'm like, there's so much drama.

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Speaker 1: We don't want the problem.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. True.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I think everybody's just so different than And one

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Speaker 6: thing that really attracted me to her was just what

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Speaker 6: real life it really is.

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Speaker 3: You know, the show is awesome.

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Speaker 6: And it but it only makes up just a certain

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Speaker 3: And I think being able.

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Speaker 6: To separate yourself from TV and reality and make sure

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Speaker 6: other stuff was something that you know why I was

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Speaker 6: drawn to her as much as I have been, so.

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Speaker 3: I think looking back at the show now, I.

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Speaker 2: Mean, I just want to say. I just want to

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Speaker 2: say again, Kathy is in Bachelor Nation and available for

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Speaker 2: double date. All you require is that you find me

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Speaker 2: the person that's going on the date with me.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty simple.

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Speaker 5: Well, going to double date with you guys, and you're men.

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Speaker 5: But Katy, I remember I was talking to you and

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Speaker 5: I told you about him.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, in fact, in fact, we're to know. So

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Speaker 2: that's exactly where I was going. You read my mind.

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Speaker 2: I was going to ask you, did you tell you

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Speaker 2: anyone in Bachelor Nation that you were dating? For you

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Speaker 2: in public? And then I was going to say, besides me,

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Speaker 2: because you actually did tell me and Alie Joe, I

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Speaker 2: didn't tell anyone.

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Speaker 1: I can't tell anybody.

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Speaker 2: I didn't tell Susan. I didn't tell anyone because it

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Speaker 2: Did you tell anyone else?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Juliana, I told We talked about it like we

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, you told me that. Yeah, And so

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Speaker 2: that's it. Boy, I mean a really small league club here.

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Speaker 2: I feel on wait Kathy going.

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Speaker 1: When we had Ellie Joe on the podcast, I specifically

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Speaker 1: asked her if perhaps you were asked to go on Paradise,

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Speaker 1: is there anyone in particular that you would hope to

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Speaker 1: be there and you were that wouldn't.

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Speaker 5: Say anything because I didn't want to like put my

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Speaker 2: That's what you said. That's what you said. You didn't

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Speaker 2: want to and you wanted to. You said you had

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Speaker 2: people in mind, by someone in mind, but you did

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Speaker 2: want to say who it was.

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Speaker 4: And I didn't either, because look what happened.

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Speaker 5: I got there and he wasn't there, and I me

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Speaker 5: and him talk about it, and I said it the

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Speaker 5: other day like I was still there. I still wanted

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Speaker 5: to make the most of my time. You know, you'd

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Speaker 5: put your life on pause. And I really felt like confident.

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Speaker 5: Well I felt confident before when I thought he was there,

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Speaker 5: but afterwards, I still wanted to get to know people

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Speaker 5: were still there. We're on this amazing opportunity and you

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Speaker 5: don't know what can transpire from it. So I was

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Speaker 5: going to like shoot myself in the foot. Yes, did

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Speaker 5: I want to be with him, of course. I mean listen,

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Speaker 5: I was only on beach for like thirty hours, thirty

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Speaker 1: But we were trying to be careful.

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Speaker 3: You know, we are with this is real life.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we want to live our life like we're not

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Speaker 2: So I watch what. We want to know what's going

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Speaker 4: Well, we both met each other's families.

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Speaker 5: We both had like super big weekends like my mom,

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Speaker 4: He flew in that weekend. He took a rumble.

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Speaker 5: Class, the rumble class, and I met his entire family.

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Speaker 5: I watched some coach a baseball tournament. I met, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And how about where we're living? Where are you now? Sam?

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Speaker 1: You are in Myrtle Beach Okay, yes, ma'am.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So you know the question. I'm asking it always

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Speaker 1: Yes, long distance relationships, and that's not even really that

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Speaker 6: I think it's it's tough, like knowing that she's leaving

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Speaker 3: So for right now, we're making that work.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we see each other like every other weekend. It's

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Speaker 2: Do you do you have your next visit?

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Speaker 2: Some of the interviewed, I think it was Ben Higgins,

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Speaker 2: date planned. You are you guys doing that?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we were.

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Speaker 6: It's funny we were. I was literally just looking at

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Speaker 6: of that. You want something to look forward to. I

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Speaker 4: Chaldging.

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Speaker 5: But listen, like all of his friends and good friends

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Speaker 5: that point, like I mean, at least me and to like,

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Speaker 5: we don't want to go out and just like go out,

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Speaker 4: You know, how old are you?

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Speaker 2: Guys? Again, you're older? Ally Joe, Right, how old are you?

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Speaker 4: I'm thirty one, I'm twenty eight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't care. You know what I like?

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Speaker 3: I like the older women. I like the older women.

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Speaker 2: Wait a second, Wait a minute, Sam, I am the Kathy.

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Speaker 3: She better be good to me if she's not.

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Speaker 2: Good to me, Joe, Ali, Joe, I'm tag teaming. I'm watching.

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Speaker 2: I say, you know you've been I'm hiding. All right,

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Speaker 2: Here we go a lot of our listeners right in

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Speaker 2: most people miss?

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Speaker 4: Well, you're guys, let's see what you say.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I would say, checking your phone often during the

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Speaker 2: Who that's a good one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say, not giving a firm answer as

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Speaker 2: What about you, Ali, Joe, what do you think?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like what if they were on a first date

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Speaker 5: to see if it's a second date would happen?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: That he doesn't you know, make sure you got home, okay,

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Speaker 5: it doesn't need to be a whole big thing, like

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Speaker 4: Hey, you know, I love seeing you last night. What's

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Speaker 1: We're all busy.

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Speaker 2: How about this one? If he lets you pay for

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Speaker 1: First date, you now it wasn't going to be a second.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't walk into your car. I mean there's you know,

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Speaker 5: To know if he does actually that I love and

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Speaker 5: I'm more like old school, Like every single time we

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Speaker 5: That is something that's so important to me and I

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Speaker 2: So I have a question that that My question of

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Speaker 2: Do you think women don't care if guys don't have

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Speaker 2: they'll say, I'm old fashioned. Exactly what you said, Ali, Joe,

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Speaker 2: I'm old fashioned the door for me? What's the deal?

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Speaker 3: But I just think it comes back to probably the

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Speaker 1: I taught that right, absolutely taught respect your women and

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Speaker 6: And she was driving, and I didn't because some people

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Speaker 6: And then the next time I was like, you know,

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Speaker 3: Comments it can we.

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Speaker 2: Just go on record here for anyone listening, chivalry is

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Speaker 6: Door, Open the door for your lady, and any other

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Speaker 1: How about sorry, when you're walking down the street and

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Speaker 2: But I guess do you I know the answer to this.

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Speaker 2: Do you mean at least is what I was told.

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Speaker 2: We could look it up. You know, why do you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no it's not.

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Speaker 2: Now again you know writers, here's writing and let me

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Speaker 1: The guy that's safety right, So it's car.

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Speaker 2: You know, health and safety. Whatever. Wait nights before we

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Speaker 2: What was your first date? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: We we went to the beach, We went to a

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Speaker 4: And then what was a week long date? Weekends long?

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Speaker 5: And then Saturday we woke up, we went for a walk,

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Speaker 4: It was my best friend's thirtieth birthday.

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Speaker 3: Are we going to skip out on what you said

445
00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:53,960
Speaker 3: whenever I first got.

446
00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:58,120
Speaker 2: There, Oh no, we're not stepping out because we're both

447
00:19:58,280 --> 00:19:58,960
Speaker 2: straight bar eyes.

448
00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:01,000
Speaker 4: I was like, I got nothing, Like, I don't think

449
00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 4: I'm your type.

450
00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:05,639
Speaker 1: Really, why did you say that?

451
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,879
Speaker 2: You said that you didn't think he was his type.

452
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:09,879
Speaker 4: I didn't think that I was his type.

453
00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:10,960
Speaker 2: When would you say that?

454
00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:15,320
Speaker 5: Damn when, like, within like the first two hours hanging out.

455
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,560
Speaker 1: Why did that come on like that?

456
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:22,600
Speaker 5: Because he's, like, you know, from South Carolina. It's a

457
00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:27,880
Speaker 5: little slower pace here, mostly blonde girls like our girls

458
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:29,840
Speaker 5: and sweet people.

459
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:31,639
Speaker 4: Not that I'm not sweet, but just girls.

460
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:33,480
Speaker 5: I feel like, and I don't want this sound wrong way,

461
00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:35,680
Speaker 5: but like maybe that don't have like a voice as much.

462
00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:37,560
Speaker 4: And you know, I mean you mean.

463
00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,520
Speaker 2: Alie Joe, you don't say bless your little heart.

464
00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:42,879
Speaker 4: Exactly.

465
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Speaker 1: So I learned what that meant.

466
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 2: I don't know if say a li I'm from Massachusetts,

467
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,879
Speaker 2: so I live in Texas, where I was like, bless

468
00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:51,800
Speaker 2: your little heart? What?

469
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:52,640
Speaker 3: Yeah?

470
00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 2: What?

471
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 3: Yeah? But see I'm being from so I don't want that.

472
00:20:56,320 --> 00:21:00,960
Speaker 6: Like I'm pretty good eighty percent, maybe ninety percent of

473
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:02,879
Speaker 6: the time, but you know, if I ever kind of

474
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:05,960
Speaker 6: wander off, like I need somebody that can put me

475
00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 6: back in my place.

476
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 1: That's right, She's not going to let you skip along.

477
00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, she's not that. That's that jersey girl in her. Okay, Well,

478
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 2: I have another question before we move on to our

479
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:20,920
Speaker 2: next part. Sam, both of you, of course honesty here.

480
00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:24,080
Speaker 2: When you met each other for the first time, you

481
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:26,359
Speaker 2: looked at each other's eyes, did you know.

482
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:28,159
Speaker 6: What?

483
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 2: Did you know?

484
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:32,600
Speaker 1: Was it a feeling? Was it a for me? Yeah?

485
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:33,880
Speaker 4: I was just so excited.

486
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:35,800
Speaker 5: I was like, this is either going to be something

487
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 5: that's amazing or it's going to be like a one

488
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 5: time thing. But the way we connected, I just I

489
00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 5: was really excited.

490
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:43,560
Speaker 1: I just knew.

491
00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:44,800
Speaker 3: I knew before I met her.

492
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:48,359
Speaker 1: How did you know?

493
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 6: Back up I say whenever I say, I knew before

494
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 6: I met her, I knew what type of personality she had,

495
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 6: and I knew that her and I would get along

496
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:57,679
Speaker 6: very well.

497
00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 1: What was it about her that you like?

498
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:01,119
Speaker 3: That?

499
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:02,119
Speaker 1: What attracted you?

500
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:07,159
Speaker 3: I think just very unapologetically herself.

501
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:10,920
Speaker 2: And outspoken, says what she thinks. Yes, she means and

502
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 2: means what she says.

503
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, well sure, but she's also like very in touch

504
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 6: with her feminine side. And I actually really love that like,

505
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 6: I love somebody that doesn't feel like like she knows

506
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 6: that she doesn't have to wear the pants and anything,

507
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,479
Speaker 6: she doesn't need to be the one to make all

508
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 6: the plans. She's a girly girl and I love that.

509
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 6: But she's also very strong and very independent and she

510
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:35,680
Speaker 6: will say things. She'll say what she wants and that's

511
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 6: what I need.

512
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 1: But that's a perfect relationship when you're able to speak

513
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 1: whatever it is on your mind and be comfortable saying

514
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 1: it to your significant.

515
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 2: All this up with the big bow of they're both

516
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 2: you are easy on the is, Sam and Ali Joe,

517
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 2: you are absolutely stunningly gorgeous. So I mean to get

518
00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 2: all this in two packages. I don't know me hope

519
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 2: for the future.

520
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:04,159
Speaker 5: I feel so lucky because usually, you know, if this

521
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 5: sounds horrible to say, but like sometimes there were people

522
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 5: who are really good looking have like a horrible personality

523
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 5: or like sometimes you know, but like he doesn't, and

524
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,679
Speaker 5: I think we're both just like very genuine. And I

525
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 5: think people think he's a certain type of way just

526
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 5: from a show that they watched, you know, but I

527
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,160
Speaker 5: know who he truly is, and I think his colors

528
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:22,879
Speaker 5: show and yeah, kind of.

529
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 1: When your mom met him on the FaceTime, she was happy, right.

530
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 5: She's like, oh my god, he's so cute, Like, what

531
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:30,920
Speaker 5: are you going to be her? I was like, I

532
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 5: don't know, Mom, you're embarrassing me.

533
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 1: And how about you, Sam, when your family met?

534
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, So my sister is a pretty harsh critic

535
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 6: and any girl that I ever dated, she's always like, Sam,

536
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 6: you could do better, you could do better. And then

537
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,640
Speaker 6: I showed her a picture of Ali Joe and she's like, yeah,

538
00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 6: I think that's your ceiling.

539
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:52,159
Speaker 3: Sam. I'm like, yeah, yeah, they saw her and just

540
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 3: kind of the same thing.

541
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,640
Speaker 6: Just just said like it looks like she has her

542
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:56,880
Speaker 6: her shit together.

543
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

544
00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 3: She's just very like, very independent, just very well spoken,

545
00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 3: put together and just thought that we'd make a perfect.

546
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:09,440
Speaker 1: And I know you're also an efficient like I am.

547
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 1: So when that day comes, you know, you can call me,

548
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 1: let's go and Kathy comes. Whatever I do one, I

549
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 1: love it.

550
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 2: I'll come and throw rose pedals and say I almost

551
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 2: had him.

552
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 1: All right. Today, now we're going to answer some of

553
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 1: our viewers or our listeners questions and they like to

554
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 1: know what we think our advice. If you will, you

555
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 1: guys game to give some advice.

556
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Speaker 3: Let's do it.

557
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, all right. The first one reads, Hi, guys,

558
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: I need to know if I'm in the wrong here.

559
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,919
Speaker 1: The other night, I went on a hinge date with

560
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 1: a guy. Our plan was to pick up ingredients together

561
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: and cook since we both love cooking. Amazing right, Yeah, yeah,

562
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 1: I thought so too. We were in the car heading

563
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: back to his place with groceries when he looked at

564
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: me and said, so funny story. I have a four

565
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 1: year old daughter. Hello, I'm twenty four. I can't be

566
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 1: a mom. I have so much respect for single parents,

567
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: and I have nothing against being a step parent later

568
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 1: down the line, but not when I'm a baby myself.

569
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: I was polite during the rest of the date, knowing

570
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: i'd never see him again. Now my friends are split.

571
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: Some think I made the right choice, while others think

572
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 1: I blow off a great guy too soon. It was

573
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 1: a great date and I really do like him. I

574
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 1: don't know. What do you think? Thanks, ladies?

575
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:45,879
Speaker 2: What says you? What do you think? Guys?

576
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 5: I think that if she, at the end of the

577
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 5: day isn't ready to be a step mom, then that

578
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 5: says a lot, no matter how much she likes But

579
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 5: I because you're not just dating the guy, you are

580
00:25:55,760 --> 00:26:00,119
Speaker 5: also essentially dating his family, like you know, so you

581
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 5: can't persuade yourself that you can do something of deep

582
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 5: down you know you can do it. So I would

583
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,159
Speaker 5: take it as that's a great friend. Maybe down the

584
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,400
Speaker 5: line if she gets older and she decides like she's

585
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 5: ready for that, But if she's not ready for it now,

586
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 5: then she she's not ready, and that's okay.

587
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think it's I think it's a little maybe

588
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 6: selfish to think that it would. It's so easy to

589
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 6: find true love later on down the road. And we

590
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,440
Speaker 6: talked about this, you know, I think at twenty four,

591
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 6: you know, five years, five years can go by just

592
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 6: like that. And I've learned that the love that you

593
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 6: want is not just you can't just open up your

594
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 6: door and it's right there in front of you.

595
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 2: So if you that's what I've been doing wrong. I

596
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,959
Speaker 2: sit my door waiting for her to open.

597
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 1: You got to get on the outside of the door.

598
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 2: Thank you, Sam.

599
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: You know, when when I was reading it her, as

600
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 1: soon as he said he had a daughter, she already

601
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,119
Speaker 1: tuned amount she didn't give it a chance, and later

602
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 1: she really did like him.

603
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm just going to play because I always

604
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 2: like to devil's advocate my stepmom and I know, Ali Joe,

605
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 2: you have a stepdad. My dad married my stepmother when

606
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 2: I was six and my stepmom was thirty two, and

607
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 2: she took on five children from the ages of six

608
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 2: to thirteen and had one of her own, so six

609
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 2: kids at the age of thirty two. But she loved

610
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 2: my dad so much, you would they were married over

611
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,000
Speaker 2: forty years before he died. I don't think she would

612
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 2: have done it end definitely because she loved him. But

613
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 2: I think people thought she was nuts when she married

614
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 2: my dad, and she would be the first to say

615
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:53,119
Speaker 2: to you that it was really tough. So at twenty four,

616
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 2: if she says I can't be a mom, that I'm

617
00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: with you, Ali Joe. It's saying that she does doesn't

618
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:01,879
Speaker 2: want to do it. And if you don't want to

619
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 2: do it, that child comes along with this fabulous guy

620
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 2: and it's a package deal, right. So if she does

621
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:12,359
Speaker 2: can't be a mom for whatever reason, I think she

622
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 2: has to move along.

623
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: I don't have been true to herself. But she says

624
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:19,199
Speaker 1: it's a great date. I really do like them. I

625
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: don't know what to do. So she's questioning something, But

626
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 1: how did you guys feel about I love the date,

627
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 1: thing about going to get the groceries and making dinner

628
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 1: and then you spring that on her in the car.

629
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: I think that's a conversation that maybe should have been

630
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 1: had prior to the date. On Hinge.

631
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 5: You can say if you have a kid or not,

632
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 5: so like Heke should have been a little bit more honest,

633
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 5: because if she saw that, she might have never want

634
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 5: on the dates with and this issue wouldn't.

635
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 2: Have So it's a lie. It's a lib biomission. Right.

636
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: It's the same thing if I go on Hinge and

637
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 2: put my age down it's fifty five. It's just a

638
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 2: small detail. It's just a little right, a little one.

639
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 2: I mean, if you really like me, do you care

640
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 2: how old I am? So four year old kid who

641
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 2: cares that.

642
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 6: He put her in a bad spot by not being

643
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 6: honest off that, because that's something you got to know.

644
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 6: And she's got to make that decision immediately, because it's

645
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 6: the kid that will end up paying the consequences for

646
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 6: honesty between two adults.

647
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 1: Well, I do wish you luck and if you can't

648
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: stop thinking about him, then maybe reevaluate the whole thing.

649
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 5: I always say that, Like if I'm shopping and there's

650
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 5: like a really nice pair of jeans that I want,

651
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 5: but I'm not sure if I really want to spend

652
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 5: the money. If I keep thinking about want the jeans

653
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 5: and I'm going to.

654
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 1: Go, I always want them though, well, Joe, I always.

655
00:29:49,320 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, Susan gets herself into trouble. All right, So you

656
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 2: now we've we've talked about other people's We're going to

657
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 2: give you a chance to ask us some questions. But Ali, Joe,

658
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 2: you know me a little bit. You know I'm going

659
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 2: to do this to you, So let's just spring for it. Okay,

660
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 2: do you think each other are the one? Are you

661
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: each other?

662
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 1: It's them? See it?

663
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 2: That's Susan for them to answer, I see it. You

664
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 2: can yell at me later.

665
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 4: I yeah, yes, listen.

666
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 5: I think we have a lot of things to like

667
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 5: figure out, like living wise, like right now, it's like

668
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 5: working right now. But I think living with somebody tells

669
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 5: you a lot about them and changes things.

670
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 2: But that but that doesn't mean that when I say

671
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 2: are you the one, it means the one that at

672
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 2: this point I see myself spending the rest of my

673
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 2: life with.

674
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, to me, it's like all in or nothing. I'm

675
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 5: not going to lose my time or someone else's time.

676
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 5: And I'm not dating just to date, like I'm dating

677
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 5: someone to see a potential future with. And We've had

678
00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 5: like conversations of things.

679
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 2: But Ali Joe, it is time to fess up. Do

680
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 2: we say, have you told them about your four year

681
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,239
Speaker 2: old child? Yeah?

682
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 1: My, is the l word happening?

683
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 3: I don't know. I really I have no idea is

684
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 3: that happening.

685
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 1: I don't know.

686
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 6: I think we're just kind of like moving at our

687
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 6: own pace. And I think one thing that we both

688
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 6: love a lot is keeping what we have between us.

689
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 6: There's certain things that I don't mind sharing with the world,

690
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 6: and then there's other things where I'm like, this is something.

691
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: For you guys. Just know that we all envaccination. We

692
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 2: are really rooting for you guys because we're both wonderful people.

693
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 4: We weren't sure, honestly, we weren't sure.

694
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 5: We're also like this is us, like if you know

695
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 5: people will support it or not, So that we were

696
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 5: really happy to see some really kind comments and just like,

697
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 5: yeah from people is really nice.

698
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 3: Focused on those guys, So it was nice to see.

699
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 3: I said, look, she's already, she's already making me look better.

700
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: So I met. I absolutely love it all right, what

701
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 1: do you have questions for us?

702
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 4: If any I want to go, you want to go first? Well, yeah,

703
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 4: how's your relationship?

704
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: It's absolutely perfect. He loved being in the United States.

705
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 5: Okay, because I know you were like in the what

706
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 5: island were you in? I know you were in Saint

707
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 5: Martin St.

708
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 4: Martin. I was going to say Saint Thomas.

709
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. So when he was leaving, he saw New York,

710
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 1: he saw Jersey, sure, he saw the casinos. He's all

711
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: South Jersey. I had him everywhere, and when he was leaving,

712
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: he's like, when are we going to see each other?

713
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 1: And I gave him dates. I only have a week

714
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 1: and he was like, Darling, that's not long enough. I

715
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 1: come back. So he's coming back.

716
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 4: Doing like the long distance thing too.

717
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 5: You know, it's it's not easy, but I would say

718
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 5: nothing worth having Kevin comes Easy's that's awesome.

719
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

720
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 2: What about me.

721
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 1: In Canada right now?

722
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: At the moment, I'm CAUs my sister lives in Ottawa

723
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 2: and I've been here. My family came up, my kids,

724
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 2: my grandkids, came up. You want to know about my

725
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 2: dating life?

726
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 1: Yes, you hear it, Although you just did a show an.

727
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 2: Amazing I gotta tell you, Uh, you know, I went

728
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 2: when Keith came on the show, when we were on

729
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 2: the show and Keith said, Kathy and I I have

730
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 2: no romantic neither of us. We're just good friends. But

731
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 2: you know, I was like, great, Now my d ms

732
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 2: are gonna flood with you.

733
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: Do you remember that, Katy, even that we're getting off

734
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: a Golden Bachelor. Oh, your dms are gonna blow.

735
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: Up all these honestly, Honestly, Sam, though, the truth is

736
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 2: I would I have a ton of energy. I love

737
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: to do adventure, I love to do stuff, and I

738
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 2: would love to find that person that would love to

739
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 2: share uh this stage, this last great chapter of my life.

740
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 2: I would love to find that person. But here's what

741
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 2: one of the main things I've learned about myself is

742
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 2: I am a complete and happy person. Why I am,

743
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 2: and I have great family and great grandkids. And if

744
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:20,959
Speaker 2: it happens, it's great. And if it doesn't happen, then

745
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 2: you know, I can chase after you when Alie Joe's

746
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 2: you know it doesn't.

747
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 3: Work, That's right, that's exactly right.

748
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 2: You know, share and share a like do unto others

749
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 2: all those things. Well, I'm a happy person. Friendship, but

750
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 2: anyone have a But since you brought up Sam, you

751
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:39,360
Speaker 2: got a father and uncle, a stepfather.

752
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 3: Grand listen, we do I know a lot of people.

753
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 4: So we should do like a dating game. You guys

754
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:47,359
Speaker 4: should come here, we go there, and.

755
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 2: Come on come to oft.

756
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 4: I think US three would have obviously seased you two

757
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:55,800
Speaker 4: if you're in Paris, but US through we're in Paris

758
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:57,760
Speaker 4: the same time, Like that would have been.

759
00:34:59,160 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 3: Our own show.

760
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was so disappointed you guys weren't there. I

761
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 2: really was, and.

762
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 1: I'm disappointed, but you weren't there at the same time.

763
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: It would have been great.

764
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 3: I know, I know.

765
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:11,439
Speaker 6: What do you guys think about the show so far?

766
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,720
Speaker 6: What do you guys think about the money the money aspect.

767
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:20,879
Speaker 1: I think it changed the dynamic of everything. I mean,

768
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 1: it was exciting that you could win, but I don't

769
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:27,479
Speaker 1: trust any of the relationships now. It put it, yeah,

770
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: a twist, I do.

771
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 2: I think. You know they say not for love, nor

772
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 2: money or money corrupts. I think it can. I think

773
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:41,760
Speaker 2: it's an interesting aspect to the show. It definitely changes

774
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,280
Speaker 2: the show, but in some ways, I think it makes

775
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 2: it more interesting and just seeing how some of the

776
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:53,399
Speaker 2: relationships are going to play out. I'm loving watching the show.

777
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:54,439
Speaker 2: I'm a big fan.

778
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:58,399
Speaker 1: I'm such a romantic I'm in love with love and

779
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: I've seen couples that like disappointed me when I saw

780
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,319
Speaker 1: some things that were happening, like I really believe they

781
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: were really in it together, and now I'm looking like

782
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: you bastards.

783
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 2: I'll tell you, I always want to know, and I

784
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 2: you know, I will ask almost anything, but I want

785
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 2: to know when. Like when I watched back the show

786
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 2: in my own I'm not surprised. I mean, I know

787
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,759
Speaker 2: what I said, I know what I did. But I

788
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 2: wonder when other people watch the show back in those

789
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 2: that are in relationships, what do they think about hearing

790
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 2: things about their guy or girl that they didn't know happened.

791
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 2: That always just just from a yeah, we sociological point

792
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 2: of view.

793
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 4: We talked about that.

794
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, because you don't know, and there's anything that you

795
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 6: weren't honest with maybe to her, and it was in

796
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 6: front of a camera and then you're kind of playing.

797
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 3: You have no idea it could get shown. It cannot.

798
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 1: So is there any specific couple that you really have

799
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 1: hopes for as of right now? What you see, I would.

800
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,760
Speaker 5: Say Spencer and Justin don't really just like the most

801
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 5: genuine for each other and like good energy and for

802
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 5: the right reasons and like not for clouts.

803
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,839
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I like them a lot, I think, I mean,

804
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 6: especially because I took Jess on a date.

805
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 3: Whenever I was.

806
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 1: There, did look at you like you joke about it?

807
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 2: I think?

808
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 3: Yeah?

809
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 4: Episode and I was like, how was that spongebath?

810
00:37:37,719 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 2: Do you like any shower?

811
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 4: When he takes a shower, I'm like, you want a

812
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 4: sponge bath?

813
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:45,240
Speaker 1: That's cute.

814
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,399
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, I think that they're I think that they're

815
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 3: really good for each other.

816
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 6: Though I think that I probably put Jess and it

817
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 6: really I don't think it was a difficult decision for

818
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 6: her at all, And I think that just spoke volumes

819
00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 6: about her commitment to Spencer at that time, and then

820
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 6: to see them like still kicking it and going strong

821
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 6: right now. Out of everybody, I know, every relationship has

822
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 6: its challenges. I think the weight of those challenges though,

823
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 6: can They're all different, and it seems like maybe their

824
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 6: obstacles and their challenges are a little bit lighter and

825
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 6: maybe a little bit more reasonable than what I'm seeing

826
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 6: from a lot of these other relationships.

827
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 2: On what did you think? I have to ask you

828
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 2: what did you think about the Goldens? And be nice,

829
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 2: what did you think about the Goldens.

830
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 6: Being on listen? I think that you guys are the

831
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 6: freaking best. I'm just pissed that I didn't get to

832
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 6: meet you guys. And the whole world loves you guys too.

833
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 6: It's kind of funny. I joke with her about it.

834
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 6: I'm like, yeah, we all went on Gen season, weren't

835
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 6: really like Grant season, you know.

836
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 3: But and then the Goldens came about and everybody's like

837
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 3: the Golden Yeah, yeah, And I didn't get to see

838
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 3: you guys. You guys came in hot.

839
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: They did great entrance entrance.

840
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 2: I I you know, by I don't you saw it?

841
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 2: But my secret that whole thing, like damn, I was

842
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:06,919
Speaker 2: getting a date because I did not get a date

843
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 2: on our season. I was determined I was scoring to

844
00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 2: win a date.

845
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 4: Yeah that's how I felt too.

846
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 1: So do you do every other one who travels to

847
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 1: who is that part of a thing.

848
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 5: Or yeah, but it doesn't really bother I was like,

849
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 5: there's been occurrences where like I came here the past

850
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 5: couple of times, but that's okay because like we went

851
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 5: to Atlanta this weekend.

852
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 1: Different.

853
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,520
Speaker 4: It just like has worked out like like that, you know, and.

854
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 1: Your schedule is flexible enough.

855
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, it depends.

856
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 2: I mean, Sam, I gotta ask one more question you

857
00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: you are you not afraid that she could haul off

858
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 2: and give you a left jab and a right hook.

859
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 6: Listen, that's what I That's what I kind of like

860
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 6: though a little bit, I'm like, yeah, I gotta be

861
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 6: all my best behavior for the most part.

862
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 4: So yeah, he's very like supportive.

863
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 5: Like I've gone to him a couple of things have

864
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 5: been going on with like personal things, and I've gone

865
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 5: to like ask for questions and just advice, and he's

866
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 5: given me the best advice and just been so supportive.

867
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 5: So that was something that was really important to me

868
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 5: because you know, we're not together, so to pick up

869
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 5: a phone or to have like important conversations on FaceTime,

870
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 5: you know, you don't.

871
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:09,760
Speaker 4: Want it to be here.

872
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 5: And I think it's just it's not like it was

873
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 5: a test, but I think it's a good test to see,

874
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 5: you know, when things do go sideways or south in

875
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 5: life because how it happens, like how he'll show up there,

876
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 5: how he'll show up for me.

877
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 2: So let me say, we don't know whether you guys

878
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 2: what your fuguals, but Susan, would you not agree he

879
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 2: the words you guys are using. You show up for

880
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 2: each other, You listen, you communicate well, you spend time

881
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 2: making time for each other, all your families get along.

882
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 2: All these things are ingredients that make a good relationship.

883
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 2: And so, whether you know, our hope is that it

884
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 2: just continues to grow.

885
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: For you listen to friends, they paid attention. The friendship

886
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 1: has to be strong, yes, right, and we see it.

887
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Speaker 1: We see it. We love this.

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Speaker 3: When you care that much, it's it's easy.

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Speaker 6: It's easy to listen when the person front of you.

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Speaker 1: We love this. I hate to say this, but I

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Speaker 1: think that does it. For today's episode A Bachelor Happy Hours,

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Speaker 1: Golden Hour, I want to thank you both for opening

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Speaker 1: up to us and being here with us today. It

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Speaker 1: means the world to us, right, Katy, really?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Thanks you guys. Your advice was great. We love seeing

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Speaker 2: you guys so happy. Thank you all so much for

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Speaker 2: joining us, and be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour

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Speaker 2: because we do have new episodes coming out every week

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Speaker 2: about Sam and Ali Joe, Well, you don't know who's

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