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Speaker 1: could talk to the oh for twenty million moms in
Speaker 1: our What to Expect family right now, I totally would.
Speaker 1: Logistically we couldn't figure that out. So instead, in honor
Speaker 1: of Mother's Day this week, we have a very special episod,
Speaker 1: So we've invited five What to Expect moms from across
Speaker 1: the country, in all different stages of their pregnancies, here
Speaker 1: today to share their pregnancy journeys and ask their biggest
Speaker 1: pregnancy questions. Those questions may sound a little familiar, because
Speaker 1: though every pregnancy is different, just like every pregnant mom,
Speaker 1: we all have questions. And today we're going to cover
Speaker 1: as many questions as we can. We're gonna talk about
Speaker 1: morning sickness and gestational diabetes, switching doctors and much more.
Speaker 1: And at the end we're doing a fun speed round
Speaker 1: all about pregnancy. We have Amy, Adriana Mignon, Candice and
Speaker 1: Lindsay all joining us today. So let's start with Amy. Hi, Hi,
Speaker 1: so happy to have you here. And Amy, you're you're
Speaker 1: in Michigan and you have four year old right I do?
Speaker 1: Oh yes, very rambunctious four year olds A daughter. What's
Speaker 1: her name? Her name is Rose, and I may or
Speaker 1: may not have looked and seen her pictures on Instagram.
Speaker 1: She is adorable. Thank you. Let's just get that out
Speaker 1: of the way. But I do wonder how has this
Speaker 1: pregnancy been different from your pregnancy with her. Well, I'd say,
Speaker 1: first off, due to COVID, it's been you know, actually
Speaker 1: a blessing in a way because I've been able to
Speaker 1: stay home and you know, with her, I was working
Speaker 1: full time all the way pretty much until like a
Speaker 1: few weeks before I had her. So I'm kind of
Speaker 1: more aware of everything that's going on. I'm not like
Speaker 1: stracted too much by work. You know, I noticed a
Speaker 1: lot of similarities. I feel like I was able to
Speaker 1: predict like how I would feel a little bit, but
Speaker 1: there are some differences. I have a little bit more
Speaker 1: like swelling this type around. But it's been a really
Speaker 1: good pregnancy, I have to say, like I um and
Speaker 1: coarse the beginning in the first trimester, I had a
Speaker 1: little bit of morning sickness, but it pretty much disappeared.
Speaker 1: And with her I had some sciatic pain. I don't
Speaker 1: know if that's like I was more on my feet,
Speaker 1: you know, when I was working full time when I
Speaker 1: was pregnant with her. Yeah, it probably has something to
Speaker 1: do with the fact that everything loosens up more the
Speaker 1: second time, and you don't have as much support from
Speaker 1: your muscles as you did in your ligaments. So yeah,
Speaker 1: everything hurts a little bit more. But certainly sitting a
Speaker 1: lot and being at home that can increase welling too.
Speaker 1: So right, yeah, I try to stay active all I
Speaker 1: feel like this pregnancy has been pretty good. So I
Speaker 1: feel really grateful. Good news, good news. We love good news.
Speaker 1: So is your daughter Rose is. She's super pumped about
Speaker 1: the new baby coming. She's very excited now, Heidi. I like,
Speaker 1: we'll see what happens when baby get here. But it's
Speaker 1: very very excited right now. I think it's gonna be
Speaker 1: a really good age gap too, because she's kind of
Speaker 1: like really coming into her independence and she I think
Speaker 1: she's gonna be very helpful, you know so, But I'm
Speaker 1: sure it'll still be a shock when babies here all
Speaker 1: the time. Take your cues from her, like she may
Speaker 1: get over the baby stuff for she may be totally
Speaker 1: into it forever. My daughter Emma would breastfeed her dolls
Speaker 1: and her teddy bears, like when I was breastfeeding her
Speaker 1: brother Wyatt. It's just, you know, go with the flow. Now.
Speaker 1: You are hoping for a vaginal birth this time, right,
Speaker 1: you had a c section last time? Yeah, I am
Speaker 1: and um my O b G y an, I do
Speaker 1: have the same one this time that I had last time.
Speaker 1: He did say I was a good candidate for it
Speaker 1: and everything. But I do know that I could go
Speaker 1: either way, you know, but he he said I was
Speaker 1: a good candidate to at least attempt it and try
Speaker 1: for it. Honestly, I wouldn't be heartbroken either way. But
Speaker 1: I did have a little bit of a hard recovery
Speaker 1: with my c section from her um. I just had
Speaker 1: to go through some physical therapy and stuff to really
Speaker 1: kind of get things feeling back to normal. So it
Speaker 1: took a couple of months for me to kind of
Speaker 1: recover from it all the way. But on the other hand,
Speaker 1: I was thinking, well, I know what to expect if
Speaker 1: I do have to go into it this time, it
Speaker 1: won't be such a shock, you know, but I'm hoping
Speaker 1: for it. Yeah, if you have a doctor's on board,
Speaker 1: that's the most important thing. But I hear you have
Speaker 1: a question not about birth, but about when you bring
Speaker 1: that baby home and visitors, right, So this is something
Speaker 1: I was noticing. Like, I'm like the community forums people
Speaker 1: have been disgusting too, but I was kind of wondering
Speaker 1: what you thought about, you know, like masking, Like do
Speaker 1: you suggest that people who haven't gotten the vaccine should
Speaker 1: be wearing a mask or on the baby or even
Speaker 1: visiting or I mean, I know it's a touchy subject,
Speaker 1: but it's just, you know, something you want to think about.
Speaker 1: I've got to say that, you know, in a way,
Speaker 1: this is another silver lining of COVID is that we
Speaker 1: are live meetting guests. You know, it's actually the kind
Speaker 1: of the perfect excuse not to have guests when the
Speaker 1: new baby comes home, and that's good for a lot
Speaker 1: of reasons. The most important reason is that it gives
Speaker 1: you a chance as a family, just the four of you.
Speaker 1: Now it's going to be all to bond together without
Speaker 1: outside interference. And I know sometimes the interference can be helpful. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, they bring cast roles or you know, but
Speaker 1: they can leave the cast roles at the door. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying. But they also bring germs. I think it's
Speaker 1: a really good thing that COVID has made us more
Speaker 1: aware of germs, especially for newborn babies. Yeah, there was
Speaker 1: always like yes for six weeks babies immune systems still
Speaker 1: needs some beefing up, so you know, limit the gas.
Speaker 1: But we weren't masking back then. And I feel like
Speaker 1: most doctors are going aside on on caution right now
Speaker 1: and say mass are a good eye you not only
Speaker 1: for those who have not been vaccinated, but even for
Speaker 1: those who have. And keep in mind that, you know,
Speaker 1: COVID's been our primary concern for over a year, but
Speaker 1: there are many other germs out there and it's important
Speaker 1: to keep babies away from those two. So I talked
Speaker 1: to a pediatrician the other day. He said, you know what,
Speaker 1: let's just go with a two month rule. You know,
Speaker 1: one baby has that first set of shots. You know,
Speaker 1: there's nothing magical about that number, but it's a good milestone.
Speaker 1: So up until that point, visitors should wear masks, okay,
Speaker 1: And if you're going out, you want to be super careful,
Speaker 1: you know, where your baby. That's the best way to
Speaker 1: keep your baby away from Germany people. I feel like
Speaker 1: playing a safe even if the grandparents have been vaccinated,
Speaker 1: and of course they have to get their tea depths
Speaker 1: as well, so that everybody around the baby can cocoon
Speaker 1: the baby until she is old enough to have all
Speaker 1: of her vaccines um and of course if you had
Speaker 1: the COVID vaccine, you're going to be giving her antibodies
Speaker 1: against COVID as well, which is another good thing, very helpful.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for your input. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: And if anyone gives you a hard time, you send
Speaker 1: them to me directly. Yes, totally, thank you, Thank you, Amy.
Speaker 1: And now next we are welcoming Adrianna from Florida. How
Speaker 1: are you doing? Oh? Great? So you have a ten
Speaker 1: year old boy named Jason, and I've got to ask,
Speaker 1: first of all, what's it like having an age difference
Speaker 1: like that in terms of the pregnancy, Like everything's changed,
Speaker 1: right in ten years. It's completely different, completely different. I
Speaker 1: mean just everything. How care is baby stuff and go
Speaker 1: buy it? It's so different. Now. How different has this
Speaker 1: pregnancy been. It's been a lot different, you know, um
Speaker 1: just being that I am ten years older now, so
Speaker 1: my body is a lot different. Anyways. But with with
Speaker 1: my son, I had a very very healthy pregnancy, and
Speaker 1: with this one, I've usually been diagnosed with gestational diabetes.
Speaker 1: I've had some part complications, nothing too crazy, but um
Speaker 1: so it's just a little more scary this go around.
Speaker 1: So the gestational diabetes took you by surprise. You had
Speaker 1: morning sickness both times? Right, Yeah, super bad. I got
Speaker 1: diagnosed with h D both times. Oh that's hyperas that's
Speaker 1: really tough. How long did it last with my son?
Speaker 1: It was up until I was seven months pregnant. And
Speaker 1: then with this one, they finally found a medication that
Speaker 1: worked for me, so I only had it until about
Speaker 1: sixteen weeks. What medication worked, it was pro mephezy So
Speaker 1: God send drug. Yeah that's good to know with your
Speaker 1: g D. What questions do you have about that? I
Speaker 1: just wanted to know about. You know, what snacks do
Speaker 1: you recommend, because I'm having a hard time with my
Speaker 1: fasting umbers, Like all my other numbers are perfect, it's
Speaker 1: just being that fast number where it needs to be.
Speaker 1: So the whole idea when you have gestational diabetes. But
Speaker 1: actually this is a good tip for anyone who's pregnant.
Speaker 1: I call it the six meal solution, right, and it's
Speaker 1: essentially breaking up everything you eat into smaller amounts and
Speaker 1: focusing on the two categories of food that will sustain
Speaker 1: your blood sugar the best, and that's complex carbs and protein.
Speaker 1: So there are certain snacks that are better than others
Speaker 1: for keeping your blood sugar level. Has your doctor booked
Speaker 1: you up with a nutritionist at all? So I did
Speaker 1: speak to a diabetic nutritionist, but she was very vague
Speaker 1: on what to eat. So it's like, you know, three
Speaker 1: things for breakfast, three things for lunch, three things for
Speaker 1: then I was like, I'm gonna die. Yeah, you need
Speaker 1: more variety, girl, Yeah, that's no fun. So years and
Speaker 1: I mean to pay ending on how much they restrict
Speaker 1: the carbs, and complex carbs are always a better idea,
Speaker 1: of course than refined carbs. So if you can stick
Speaker 1: to whole grains. But also how much fruit they allow
Speaker 1: you is are their restrictions on that? Yeah? I have
Speaker 1: to limit my fruit and take, which is really sad
Speaker 1: because my number one creating is those little cuties. Oh
Speaker 1: that's terrible. Which fruits are they allowing you? Um? I
Speaker 1: can have berries, so raspberries, blueberries, strawberries, that's great. I'm
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, you know, if you can live on substantial snacks,
Speaker 1: that's always the best way to go, you know, eating
Speaker 1: at least five or six times a day. And have
Speaker 1: you found something called I trust me. I don't own
Speaker 1: any stock in this company, but I discovered it like
Speaker 1: years ago and I tell every pregnant woman about it.
Speaker 1: Moon Cheese. It's freeze dried cheese. It's like genius. I
Speaker 1: know they make it in other brands now, but it's
Speaker 1: crunchy little nuggets of cheese that are not perishable, so
Speaker 1: you can take them with you anywhere you go. Um, Nuts, almonds, walnuts, pistachios,
Speaker 1: all of those are great. Do you like eggs? I mean,
Speaker 1: I know they can make a stink, but deviled eggs
Speaker 1: or horribled eggs also those egg bites. Have you ever
Speaker 1: seen those. Those are awesome. You can also make those
Speaker 1: and store them in the freezer so you always have
Speaker 1: some handy Um. Have you ever tried a baked egg
Speaker 1: in an avocado? No, it's delicious. Top it with a
Speaker 1: little salt if you're feeling spicy. Um, a smoothie with
Speaker 1: like Greek yogurt and maybe some frozen berries. That's a goodie. Also,
Speaker 1: what about some almond butter on apple slices. That's probably
Speaker 1: my favorite to see. You've got some amazing snag ideas. Okay,
Speaker 1: so next we're going to Atlanta to visit with Ninon. Hey, Minoon,
Speaker 1: So you are having a boy. Yes, I'm having a boy.
Speaker 1: We found out two weeks ago. So so excited. That's
Speaker 1: so exciting. And this is your first my first, Yes,
Speaker 1: that's so cool. What has been your favorite part of
Speaker 1: pregnancy so far? Honey? This hair is like growing like grass.
Speaker 1: I have never felt so beaut I was telling my
Speaker 1: boyfriend the other day. I was like, I feel so beautiful,
Speaker 1: like I'm always I grew up having like skin problems
Speaker 1: acne even into adulthood, and every once in a while
Speaker 1: I still have, like, you know, a few little things
Speaker 1: that pop up and like just my skin is glowing,
Speaker 1: I my hair, I just I feel like a different
Speaker 1: form of beauty and womanhood. It's it's so, it's like undescribable.
Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah. Yeah, there's something about being pregnant.
Speaker 1: It's super sexy and um unfortunately, not every mom feels
Speaker 1: that great when she's pregnant. But it sounds like you're
Speaker 1: having a pretty easy ride. Well, you know in the beginning. Well,
Speaker 1: so my background, I'm a professional bodybuilder, so I'm used
Speaker 1: to looking a certain way throughout the year. The biggest
Speaker 1: transition for me was just really seeing my body go
Speaker 1: through changes that I had never seen it go through before.
Speaker 1: And I have a lot of my pro bodybuilder friends
Speaker 1: that have babies, they've been pregnant and they were like
Speaker 1: just embraced the process. So when I let go of
Speaker 1: that mindset of like what I used to look like
Speaker 1: and just embraced being a mother, that's when it became
Speaker 1: beautiful to me. So you have a question, and that
Speaker 1: is about your doctors. Yes, yes, so I Um, I
Speaker 1: chose my doctor, my O B from a friend of
Speaker 1: mine who had twins and she had a great experience,
Speaker 1: so I got the referral from her and my experience
Speaker 1: has not been quite so great. Um. And so I
Speaker 1: talked to other friends that also have babies, and they
Speaker 1: referred me to other people. I'm trying to transition from
Speaker 1: one practice to another, and I know it's business, so
Speaker 1: it's not going to hurt their feelings that I leave,
Speaker 1: But I just want to know what should I know
Speaker 1: going to the next practice, Like what questions should I
Speaker 1: have for the next physician and for the next practice
Speaker 1: so that I don't experience the same thing. Oh? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: isn't it funny how we always think about the doctor's feelings. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but no, if you're not happy with those people, you're
Speaker 1: seeing too many different doctors. Maybe you're seeing a different
Speaker 1: one at every appointment. Um, and there's not consistency, and
Speaker 1: you're just not feeling like anybody gets you or taking
Speaker 1: the time to get you. That's not good. You need
Speaker 1: to feel comfortable with a person who is going to
Speaker 1: deliver your baby. And the biggest red flag for me
Speaker 1: was I had fibroids back in twenty fifteen, sixteen seventeen.
Speaker 1: I got them shrunken in seventeen they're starting to grow back,
Speaker 1: And that was like my first question, and it just
Speaker 1: kept getting brushed off and brushed off and brushed off
Speaker 1: until I had my twenty week um ultrasound and they're like,
Speaker 1: oh my, your fibroids are pretty close to your cervix um.
Speaker 1: We might need to do a c section, but we'll
Speaker 1: monitor the growth up until you know it's time to deliver.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I brought this up when I first
Speaker 1: came in and guys kept brushing it all, so that
Speaker 1: was a big red flag to me. That is a
Speaker 1: huge red flag. And I don't know if you other
Speaker 1: moms have had this experience, but I hear it all
Speaker 1: the time. You know that the doctor just doesn't listen
Speaker 1: or underplays, dismisses concerns that you have. Who has lived
Speaker 1: in your body your whole life, you have you know
Speaker 1: it's a partnership. There needs to be communication between you,
Speaker 1: and that gets exceptionally important later in pregnancy, during birth
Speaker 1: and also postpartum. You know a lot of times women
Speaker 1: are not listened to and symptoms are ignored. So you've
Speaker 1: got to persevere, trust your mom, got and find a
Speaker 1: doctor who you feel is going to listen. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's possible you could go to a practice where there's
Speaker 1: midwives and doctors because that way you have, you know,
Speaker 1: you get the best of all worlds. The other good
Speaker 1: thing to look into is having a do law. I
Speaker 1: recommend that for every mom. But they're there just for
Speaker 1: you and to advocate you. So no matter who the
Speaker 1: doctor ends up being UM and you never know because
Speaker 1: even if you switch practices and you go to a
Speaker 1: really amazing doctor, they might not be on call then
Speaker 1: night that your baby decides to come, and so that
Speaker 1: you want to make sure you have an advocate with
Speaker 1: you at all times. But the most important thing is
Speaker 1: that you don't leave your old doctor until you get
Speaker 1: a new one, because you don't want to be uncovered
Speaker 1: for even five seconds. So go have some pre interviews
Speaker 1: with various doctors. If you've asked around and you have
Speaker 1: some good candidates. Asked those questions about your five woids
Speaker 1: and anything else that's on your mind, UM, and you'll
Speaker 1: get a sense just from listening to the answers what
Speaker 1: kind of communication skills they actually have, and that's important.
Speaker 1: You also, of course have insurance to consider UM the
Speaker 1: hospital that you want to deliver at, you know, you
Speaker 1: have to make sure that they have privileges and deliver
Speaker 1: at that hospital, one that's close to you, and one
Speaker 1: that has a good reputation. So once you do that
Speaker 1: and you've settled on a practice that you like, then
Speaker 1: you can even out or call the office and just say,
Speaker 1: could you please transfer my records to this new practice.
Speaker 1: That's it, Okay. So I'm in that process now, and
Speaker 1: that records are transferred to the new office, then I
Speaker 1: can make an appointment. So I'm happy with the person
Speaker 1: that I chose. Um, she just had a baby for
Speaker 1: I think five months ago. Obviously it's from experience, so
Speaker 1: oh that's perfect. So we're gonna move on. Candice. Candice
Speaker 1: is here from Texas. Hello, I hear that you had
Speaker 1: kind of uh long struggle within fertility. Yeah. I was
Speaker 1: a student athlete. Um, so I played sports my whole life. Um,
Speaker 1: losing your period is normal during season, but then mine
Speaker 1: never came back and my foot I was in college.
Speaker 1: It wasn't my focus or worry. Fast forward about five
Speaker 1: six years, I still had no period, and so finally
Speaker 1: I saw a doctor. Um, he had to refer me
Speaker 1: to someone else to referred me to a specialist. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm with my husband. We're talking about a family. So
Speaker 1: we meet my ari and go to a fertility doctor
Speaker 1: right away. He diagnosed me. He's like, I know what
Speaker 1: you have, malic amnrhea. Fix this um. Getting that diagnosis
Speaker 1: right away, Like, I feel really terrible for people that
Speaker 1: are unexplained because there's no goal to work towards. So
Speaker 1: for me, I knew what I had, so I knew, okay,
Speaker 1: I need to like not work out as much, I
Speaker 1: need to try to gain weight. I did all those things.
Speaker 1: I didn't ag retrieval. We transferred, and we transferred a
Speaker 1: boy embryo and I found out it didn't stick. Found
Speaker 1: out at work. But then you know, we we have
Speaker 1: to move forward. We have two other embryos. We also
Speaker 1: had done an I U I before I v f UM.
Speaker 1: We had a few canceled cycles due to health issues
Speaker 1: with my family and me having to go home, but
Speaker 1: then COVID hit UM, so we got delayed. Then we decided,
Speaker 1: since we only had two more embryos left and we
Speaker 1: wanted more than two kids and we didn't know what
Speaker 1: would happen with the next one, we decided to do
Speaker 1: another egg retrieval. So we went through that process again
Speaker 1: and then it got delayed because my husband got COVID,
Speaker 1: so we couldn't transfer. Um. So it at that point
Speaker 1: it was if you don't laugh, you cry, and it
Speaker 1: was like, of course, this all right, this is what happens,
Speaker 1: this is our story. It's gonna make it sweeter when we,
Speaker 1: you know, share with the news with everyone. So then
Speaker 1: August we did the transfer. This time we said we
Speaker 1: don't want to know, we don't care, picked the best embryo,
Speaker 1: and then we found out that we were pregnant. We
Speaker 1: got the call. We cried each other's arms, called our
Speaker 1: families and cried until this day. We don't know if
Speaker 1: we have a boy or girl because we to wait,
Speaker 1: and I mean going through the trauma of ibia, like
Speaker 1: we just literally just want to helpy baby. So I'm
Speaker 1: so so happy for you and excited for you. I
Speaker 1: know all the moms here are now after all that,
Speaker 1: just please tell me you how to really easy pregnancy.
Speaker 1: I like to say I did my time because it's
Speaker 1: been a breeze and it almost was like I wanted
Speaker 1: to have morning sickness. So I wanted to have something
Speaker 1: because I needed that reassurance. I was so worried all
Speaker 1: the time. Anything I would do like I don't have
Speaker 1: symptoms are we sure I'm pregnant, but yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: it's been really easy. And I almost kind of feel
Speaker 1: guilty for saying that, because I know there's like other
Speaker 1: people who have had a lot of difficulties um during
Speaker 1: the pregnancy, but I feel like I did my time
Speaker 1: and then and then, yeah, I'm just worried my baby
Speaker 1: um was breached last time I got a sonogram. Because
Speaker 1: being an IVF patient, were monitored more heavily, so I
Speaker 1: have twice as many appointments. But my worry was that
Speaker 1: I don't want to have a c section. I want
Speaker 1: to be able to recover faster. And so I was
Speaker 1: doing a lot of research about like breach babies and go.
Speaker 1: When you're pregnant, you don't have much control over what
Speaker 1: your body is going to do, and then being an
Speaker 1: IVF patient, you feel even less control. So I've been
Speaker 1: doing a lot of different yoga poses or something to
Speaker 1: try to get my baby to be head down um.
Speaker 1: And I had asked my midwife if they delivered breach babies,
Speaker 1: and she talked about a doctor having to break someone's
Speaker 1: pelvic phone because the head got stuck. Yeah, So I
Speaker 1: mean the reality is that fewer than five percent of
Speaker 1: babies end up breach when it's all said and done,
Speaker 1: when labor starts. UM. Actually know a mom whose baby
Speaker 1: flipped during labor, actually flipped the wrong way, so she
Speaker 1: ended up with a breach baby after the baby was
Speaker 1: head down. Now, the baby was really small, so smaller
Speaker 1: babies have more room for moving around and flipping. But
Speaker 1: it happens. I mean, it doesn't happen a lot. It's
Speaker 1: actually pretty rare. But those you know, those few cases
Speaker 1: of breech birth, like unless it's a super easy, you know,
Speaker 1: frank breach and the but it's butt down. Um, they
Speaker 1: usually do go first section. But there's so much time.
Speaker 1: You're only thirty three weeks. There's so much time for
Speaker 1: your baby to flip anyway at this point. And they
Speaker 1: can do that way up until you know, close to delivery,
Speaker 1: or like I said, even in labor once in a while.
Speaker 1: And they can also do external cephalic version, which is
Speaker 1: where the doctor turns the baby manually from the outside.
Speaker 1: That's another option, but I wouldn't worry about it at
Speaker 1: this point. And it sounds like babies moving towards the
Speaker 1: exit in the right direction at this point. I've been
Speaker 1: doing everything in my control to make sure that happens.
Speaker 1: I like put little earbuds there and played music so
Speaker 1: it or the warm in the cold, yes, yeah, and
Speaker 1: turn um. But butt up, I mean butt up is
Speaker 1: if you're going to do anything, just keep your butt up.
Speaker 1: So lindsay you're from California, So now you had a
Speaker 1: really rough first trimester. So rough, I mean like Candice
Speaker 1: when you were talking earlier about like I feel bad,
Speaker 1: Like don't feel bad, you know, feel so grateful, and
Speaker 1: I know you probably do. But I had a really
Speaker 1: rough go the first I mean I found out early.
Speaker 1: I found out like I don't even think I was
Speaker 1: four weeks. And then by five weeks I think, I
Speaker 1: like woke up and I told my husband, like with
Speaker 1: so much arrogance, I was like, oh God, like I
Speaker 1: don't even feel pregnant, like I have barely any symptoms.
Speaker 1: This is gonna be a breeze for me. And then
Speaker 1: I swear the next day I was flattened on my back.
Speaker 1: It was like famous last words. Um. And that was
Speaker 1: around five weeks and then probably five to eight weeks
Speaker 1: I was like, I truly I would have if I
Speaker 1: were working full time in an office. Um, I would
Speaker 1: have had to take a sick leaf. I mean I
Speaker 1: truly could not get up. I had to either sleep
Speaker 1: or get on the couch to just like change it
Speaker 1: up and then go back to bed again. It was awful,
Speaker 1: And I guess for me, I had no idea how
Speaker 1: bad it could get. I think sometimes, um, you know,
Speaker 1: of course, you don't know it until you're in it, right,
Speaker 1: Like people can say they relate only so much and
Speaker 1: only to a certain degree. But you hear the term
Speaker 1: morning sickness, and you yeah, hilarious, right, I mean, of
Speaker 1: course we all know that it's not just in the
Speaker 1: morning it could be. For me, it was all day,
Speaker 1: everyday sickness. Well any were seven, yes, it was twenty
Speaker 1: four seven sickness. So I had truly no idea how
Speaker 1: how bad it could get. So to me, I guess
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I'm really wondering why. And again I know, uh,
Speaker 1: there were very few people in my life who had
Speaker 1: experienced the you know, degree of sickness that I did. Um, like,
Speaker 1: nobody in my family, none of my close girlfriends. I
Speaker 1: really just was not prepared. But to think that, you know,
Speaker 1: we don't really I know, so many women go through
Speaker 1: it and then when their baby comes to like, oh,
Speaker 1: you just forget all about it and that's why you
Speaker 1: can have more babies. And Adriana, I know you said
Speaker 1: you had hyperomesis up until seven months, like you're probably
Speaker 1: feeling some like even greater than what I have been
Speaker 1: experiencing because my you know, fortunately only went to about
Speaker 1: fifteen weeks. It feels a little sad that we're kind
Speaker 1: of dismissing morning sickness is just all one more like
Speaker 1: normal symptom of pregnancy. And you know, it feels like
Speaker 1: our only options are like ginger candies, which are laughable
Speaker 1: that doesn't work, or crackers, which also like feels like
Speaker 1: a big f you, and then also um like scary
Speaker 1: prescriptions that you have to really weigh out risks for.
Speaker 1: So it doesn't feel like we have really come a
Speaker 1: long way in that. And you know, I read somewhere
Speaker 1: that you know, the early twentieth century that this was
Speaker 1: listed under hysteria, like female hysteria or something like that,
Speaker 1: which just drove me nuts to think about. Right, well,
Speaker 1: so much of women's health has been in that general
Speaker 1: category of hysteria. Um, and so you're so right about that,
Speaker 1: and I think a lot of it is patrenalistic. You know,
Speaker 1: let's face it, if you haven't had debilitating I'm using
Speaker 1: air quotes here, then you don't have the slightest clue.
Speaker 1: So the most you know, empathetic of doctors, um truly
Speaker 1: cannot feel what you're going through and may, you know,
Speaker 1: may underplay it. And that's not okay. I mean there
Speaker 1: are options that are not as scary. I don't know
Speaker 1: what you tried, whether I'm just cliges. I tried so fran,
Speaker 1: I tried from ethazine, I tried reguland I tried vitamin
Speaker 1: B six and uh, you know some I mean I've
Speaker 1: I've tried it all. The only the only thing that
Speaker 1: helped for me was was having dofran on hand at
Speaker 1: all times. And I'm a little bit holistic. I'm a
Speaker 1: little bit you know California who who. I'll be the
Speaker 1: first to admit it. I don't love taking medicine period.
Speaker 1: So the idea of taking a medicine like while I'm
Speaker 1: pregnant that has like a lot of controversy around it
Speaker 1: was not something that I loved. But like a girlfriend
Speaker 1: of mine who was ahead of me and our pregnancy,
Speaker 1: she was like you just have to survive. If you
Speaker 1: don't survive, if you don't eat, if you don't drink,
Speaker 1: if you don't have you know, some management over your
Speaker 1: stress levels, and that's not good for baby either. That's
Speaker 1: absolutely true, and I mean that's why we have what
Speaker 1: to expect as a community is to open up those
Speaker 1: conversations and tell it like it is, because it isn't
Speaker 1: all you know, rainbows and unicorns. You just snapp and yeah, well,
Speaker 1: good news is I'm sixteen weeks and I haven't been
Speaker 1: sick in over a week. So a corner, I'm so happy.
Speaker 1: I feel like a different person. I forgot what it
Speaker 1: feels like to feel normal, So you never know. Now
Speaker 1: we're gonna do something called speed round. We could call
Speaker 1: it a lightning round, but I don't know if any
Speaker 1: of you have had lightning crotch yet, and I don't
Speaker 1: want to, like I did, I think twice terrible. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So we're gonna go around and get your answers to
Speaker 1: these questions. And this is my favorite one. What was
Speaker 1: your weirdest pregnancy symptom? Or lindsay you were too busy
Speaker 1: throwing up? I was gonna say, like the aside from
Speaker 1: being completely ill for fourteen weeks. I don't know. Veins
Speaker 1: on my boobs. I had no idea what that was.
Speaker 1: I'm like covered in veins. It's odd. It looks like
Speaker 1: a road map. Yeah, I remember that. Anybody else I
Speaker 1: would say weird dreams. Um, that was not something I
Speaker 1: remember with my first this one. So many weird dreams.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's just like my mind spinning
Speaker 1: at night or what. But yeah, it's the hormones talking.
Speaker 1: And the fact that you you have more rem sleep,
Speaker 1: which is dream sleep when you're pregnant. You have more dreams,
Speaker 1: but you also wake up to pee, so you, uh,
Speaker 1: you wake up during a dream and then you're more
Speaker 1: likely to remember it. But the fact that they're so
Speaker 1: vibrant and strange, sometimes very sexual or very violent. They
Speaker 1: have all different kinds of themes. You know. There's always
Speaker 1: the theme about, oh my god, I just drank a
Speaker 1: whole picture of Martini's, you know, and a plate of
Speaker 1: sashimi or something like that. Just like the guiltful and
Speaker 1: guilt dreams. They are normal. Okay, so anybody else have
Speaker 1: a weird pregnancy something here? But it's disgusting. It was
Speaker 1: first try Mr. The gas was off the chain. I
Speaker 1: would be so embarrassed to be around myself, like I
Speaker 1: would be in the grocery store and of course you
Speaker 1: can't help it, and I would try to get away
Speaker 1: from people. It was so bid. That is so so common.
Speaker 1: You can keep a dog with you and always say
Speaker 1: it was I think the weirdest thing for me. Like
Speaker 1: I you guys know, I said, I didn't really have
Speaker 1: any symptoms, but there was one day I was brushing
Speaker 1: my teeth and I gagged. Huh, So that to me,
Speaker 1: I was like, what what is this? And that happened.
Speaker 1: I think there was the first trimester, and I thought,
Speaker 1: is your body just so in tune that you're not
Speaker 1: going to get food poisoned or anything. Like You're more
Speaker 1: likely to throw something up than ingest something that is
Speaker 1: bad for you and your baby, so your gag reflexes
Speaker 1: are heightened. There's also the fact that you have so
Speaker 1: much drool in the first timester often, and when you're
Speaker 1: drooling a lot, then you tend to gag a lot.
Speaker 1: You might have a lot of gagging nocturnal gagging too,
Speaker 1: So they are all kinds of blessings. Um, how about
Speaker 1: we're pregnancy food cravings or versions. I couldn't eat meat
Speaker 1: in the first part and I usually me eater, but
Speaker 1: no meat in that first trimester. It would just even
Speaker 1: the smell, like I was diagnosed with low iron at
Speaker 1: the beginning, so I had really weird, like kind of
Speaker 1: cool like I loved like lysol. Oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: wanted to clean clank clinks. I couldn't get enough that smell. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's called pike. And when you craze something that's not
Speaker 1: a food, So yeah, you don't want to necessarily um
Speaker 1: spray it like in your mouth. But that does commonly
Speaker 1: mean that you have an iron deficiency, and that could
Speaker 1: also go for chewing ice And pretty much every woman
Speaker 1: becomes anemic at some point, usually after twenty weeks, so
Speaker 1: they'll typically test for it. But if you have one
Speaker 1: of those strange nonfood cravings, you always always check with
Speaker 1: the doctor. Okay, do you have a nickname for your baby?
Speaker 1: At Adriana, we call ours pancake. Pancake. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's so cute based on what So when the day
Speaker 1: that we found out we were pregnant, our favorite YouTube
Speaker 1: family also found off they were pregnant and they were
Speaker 1: trying to be secretive, the mom and the daughter trying
Speaker 1: to be secretive about the pregnancy, and the kids running
Speaker 1: and go what are we having? What are we having?
Speaker 1: And the dad runs down he goes, we're having pancakes.
Speaker 1: So ever since then, we've been calling the baby pancake.
Speaker 1: And I told my son because he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: my gosh, you're so sick all the time. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's the pancakes. He's like, my mom's allergic to pancakes.
Speaker 1: That's a keeper, Okay, mignon Um. We've always in our mind,
Speaker 1: even like a year and we were dating years ago,
Speaker 1: we would call him BJ because his name is Robert,
Speaker 1: so like Bobby's always call him be J. The baby.
Speaker 1: It's nothing like spectacular, but yeah, that's super cute. Candice, Well,
Speaker 1: we don't know the gender, but we named our baby
Speaker 1: either way, so it's fin or Finley. I don't mind
Speaker 1: saying that. So if we're not saying baby because we
Speaker 1: can't say he or she and we don't want to
Speaker 1: say it, it's a way for us to connect because
Speaker 1: knowing the gender, you're able to I think get that
Speaker 1: connection more. I'm connected, but not to the extent of
Speaker 1: knowing I have a boy or girl growing in me. Um,
Speaker 1: So by having that name association, it's able I'm able
Speaker 1: to connect more with the baby that's in me. That's
Speaker 1: totally adorable. Amy, how about you while we're naming our
Speaker 1: daughter eleanor um and right now my daughter is taking
Speaker 1: a liking to calling her alle in my belly. It's
Speaker 1: too cute, Okay, Lindsay Europe, we don't know what we're
Speaker 1: having either. We're gonna wait, and I've just been calling
Speaker 1: like a little one, little or a little one or bubba.
Speaker 1: We do a lot of bubba. What's one nice thing
Speaker 1: you've done for yourself this week or plan to? Because
Speaker 1: this is really important. We need some pampering ourselves. So
Speaker 1: what's one nice thing you're going to do for yourself.
Speaker 1: I'm getting a lymphatic drainage massage and I've been doing
Speaker 1: it like once every few weeks and it just like
Speaker 1: helps me deep bloat. I feel really relaxed, like and
Speaker 1: I'm kind of detoxing after. But it's really safe. You
Speaker 1: just can't do it on your belly obviously, but it
Speaker 1: feels so good at that and yoga yay. How about you, Adriana,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get my nails done. That's important. Yeah, excited, amazing, Okay, Minon,
Speaker 1: how about you. I actually gave myself like a at
Speaker 1: home spotty. So I just drew a bath. I got
Speaker 1: that thing called bump boxes, like my friend gave it
Speaker 1: to me for my birthday. So it had like the
Speaker 1: little lavender salts in there, so I put those in there.
Speaker 1: I bought this like steam facial machine from Amazon with
Speaker 1: like my favorite essential oils, and just like gave myself
Speaker 1: a self care Sunday spotty. So that was very necessary.
Speaker 1: Oh so nice. Yeah, and Candice, we had a trip
Speaker 1: to Europe plan that was canceled from COVID, and so
Speaker 1: I got pregnant, so we canceled the trip and instead
Speaker 1: we're doing a staycation. We're going to Dallas a nice
Speaker 1: hotel and taking our dog. We're gonna go hiking and
Speaker 1: then um just get massages, like a couple of massage,
Speaker 1: have dinner at the hotel, and just stay one night there.
Speaker 1: And it's our five year one anniversary too, so the
Speaker 1: time it was sorry and Amy, how about you? I'm
Speaker 1: with you And I've done a lot of the bands.
Speaker 1: They've been taking a lot of Yeah, you guys, I
Speaker 1: just chapped all my here and went to the salon.
Speaker 1: Usually I'm really love here, like six inches cut off,
Speaker 1: so I'm like still getting used to it. But that
Speaker 1: was the big thing, Like going to the salon yesterday.
Speaker 1: Looks good, super cute, super cute. It'll be easy care,
Speaker 1: yeah for sure. Yeah. Okay, guys, I could talk to
Speaker 1: you all day. I may have already done that, but
Speaker 1: it's so much fun to hang out with you, and
Speaker 1: I hope that we can do it again soon. And
Speaker 1: if I end up anywhere else Atlanta, Michigan, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: I'm gonna totally get in touch. Thank you, guys. And
Speaker 1: Happy Mother's Day you, I mean every day is Mother's Day,
Speaker 1: and all the moms listening today, I want to wish
Speaker 1: you a very very happy Mother's Day. Lots of love
Speaker 1: and lots of hugs, baby love, my baby love. I
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