WEBVTT - Live Community Q&A! 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:08.440 Who baby, my baby off. I need you, Oh Hell, 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:13.840 I need you. What to Expect is a production of 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:18.040 I Heart Radio. I'm your host Heidi Murko, and I'm 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:20.800 a mom on a mission, a mission to help you 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:26.200 know what to expect every step of the way. If 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:30.120 you know me, you know I love moms. I also 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:33.559 love hanging out with them, whether it's in person or 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:38.000 on social media, whether it's in South Carolina or South Korea. 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:41.800 And the easiest place for me to connect with moms 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:44.960 is in the What to Expect community. So if I 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:47.680 could talk to the oh for twenty million moms in 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:51.240 our What to Expect family right now, I totally would. 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:55.760 Logistically we couldn't figure that out. So instead, in honor 0:00:55.800 --> 0:01:00.000 of Mother's Day this week, we have a very special episod, 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:03.800 So we've invited five What to Expect moms from across 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:08.440 the country, in all different stages of their pregnancies, here 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:12.959 today to share their pregnancy journeys and ask their biggest 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:18.040 pregnancy questions. Those questions may sound a little familiar, because 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:22.240 though every pregnancy is different, just like every pregnant mom, 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:25.800 we all have questions. And today we're going to cover 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:29.480 as many questions as we can. We're gonna talk about 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:34.720 morning sickness and gestational diabetes, switching doctors and much more. 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:38.120 And at the end we're doing a fun speed round 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:44.960 all about pregnancy. We have Amy, Adriana Mignon, Candice and 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:50.560 Lindsay all joining us today. So let's start with Amy. Hi, Hi, 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:54.440 so happy to have you here. And Amy, you're you're 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:59.600 in Michigan and you have four year old right I do? 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:04.480 Oh yes, very rambunctious four year olds A daughter. What's 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:08.560 her name? Her name is Rose, and I may or 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:12.720 may not have looked and seen her pictures on Instagram. 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:16.519 She is adorable. Thank you. Let's just get that out 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:19.639 of the way. But I do wonder how has this 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:25.280 pregnancy been different from your pregnancy with her. Well, I'd say, 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:29.000 first off, due to COVID, it's been you know, actually 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:31.080 a blessing in a way because I've been able to 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.120 stay home and you know, with her, I was working 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:36.440 full time all the way pretty much until like a 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.360 few weeks before I had her. So I'm kind of 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:41.680 more aware of everything that's going on. I'm not like 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.679 stracted too much by work. You know, I noticed a 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:47.600 lot of similarities. I feel like I was able to 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.640 predict like how I would feel a little bit, but 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:52.840 there are some differences. I have a little bit more 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:57.360 like swelling this type around. But it's been a really 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.760 good pregnancy, I have to say, like I um and 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:03.080 coarse the beginning in the first trimester, I had a 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:06.120 little bit of morning sickness, but it pretty much disappeared. 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:09.120 And with her I had some sciatic pain. I don't 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:10.760 know if that's like I was more on my feet, 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:12.760 you know, when I was working full time when I 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:15.240 was pregnant with her. Yeah, it probably has something to 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:18.000 do with the fact that everything loosens up more the 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:22.320 second time, and you don't have as much support from 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:26.120 your muscles as you did in your ligaments. So yeah, 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:29.240 everything hurts a little bit more. But certainly sitting a 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:32.639 lot and being at home that can increase welling too. 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.680 So right, yeah, I try to stay active all I 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:39.680 feel like this pregnancy has been pretty good. So I 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.800 feel really grateful. Good news, good news. We love good news. 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:46.080 So is your daughter Rose is. She's super pumped about 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:51.160 the new baby coming. She's very excited now, Heidi. I like, 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:54.680 we'll see what happens when baby get here. But it's 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:59.040 very very excited right now. I think it's gonna be 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.520 a really good age gap too, because she's kind of 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:05.000 like really coming into her independence and she I think 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:07.920 she's gonna be very helpful, you know so, But I'm 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.160 sure it'll still be a shock when babies here all 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:13.000 the time. Take your cues from her, like she may 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:15.840 get over the baby stuff for she may be totally 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:19.880 into it forever. My daughter Emma would breastfeed her dolls 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:22.520 and her teddy bears, like when I was breastfeeding her 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:25.880 brother Wyatt. It's just, you know, go with the flow. Now. 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:28.680 You are hoping for a vaginal birth this time, right, 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.640 you had a c section last time? Yeah, I am 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:33.880 and um my O b G y an, I do 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:36.520 have the same one this time that I had last time. 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:39.359 He did say I was a good candidate for it 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.240 and everything. But I do know that I could go 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:44.280 either way, you know, but he he said I was 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:47.239 a good candidate to at least attempt it and try 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:50.520 for it. Honestly, I wouldn't be heartbroken either way. But 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:52.920 I did have a little bit of a hard recovery 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:56.040 with my c section from her um. I just had 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:58.919 to go through some physical therapy and stuff to really 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:01.960 kind of get things feeling back to normal. So it 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.200 took a couple of months for me to kind of 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:06.720 recover from it all the way. But on the other hand, 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:10.240 I was thinking, well, I know what to expect if 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:11.920 I do have to go into it this time, it 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:15.039 won't be such a shock, you know, but I'm hoping 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:18.359 for it. Yeah, if you have a doctor's on board, 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:21.120 that's the most important thing. But I hear you have 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.960 a question not about birth, but about when you bring 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:30.000 that baby home and visitors, right, So this is something 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:33.719 I was noticing. Like, I'm like the community forums people 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:36.560 have been disgusting too, but I was kind of wondering 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:39.480 what you thought about, you know, like masking, Like do 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:42.719 you suggest that people who haven't gotten the vaccine should 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:45.000 be wearing a mask or on the baby or even 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:48.479 visiting or I mean, I know it's a touchy subject, 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:51.200 but it's just, you know, something you want to think about. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:53.839 I've got to say that, you know, in a way, 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:58.840 this is another silver lining of COVID is that we 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:02.480 are live meetting guests. You know, it's actually the kind 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:05.440 of the perfect excuse not to have guests when the 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:08.279 new baby comes home, and that's good for a lot 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:11.080 of reasons. The most important reason is that it gives 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.720 you a chance as a family, just the four of you. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:19.000 Now it's going to be all to bond together without 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:24.760 outside interference. And I know sometimes the interference can be helpful. Um, 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.359 you know, they bring cast roles or you know, but 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.120 they can leave the cast roles at the door. I'm 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:32.480 just saying. But they also bring germs. I think it's 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:35.839 a really good thing that COVID has made us more 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:41.160 aware of germs, especially for newborn babies. Yeah, there was 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:45.400 always like yes for six weeks babies immune systems still 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:49.560 needs some beefing up, so you know, limit the gas. 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:53.960 But we weren't masking back then. And I feel like 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:58.320 most doctors are going aside on on caution right now 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:01.839 and say mass are a good eye you not only 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.680 for those who have not been vaccinated, but even for 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.760 those who have. And keep in mind that, you know, 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:13.560 COVID's been our primary concern for over a year, but 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:18.160 there are many other germs out there and it's important 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:21.040 to keep babies away from those two. So I talked 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.240 to a pediatrician the other day. He said, you know what, 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:25.480 let's just go with a two month rule. You know, 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:28.880 one baby has that first set of shots. You know, 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:33.080 there's nothing magical about that number, but it's a good milestone. 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:37.240 So up until that point, visitors should wear masks, okay, 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:40.640 And if you're going out, you want to be super careful, 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:43.320 you know, where your baby. That's the best way to 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:46.800 keep your baby away from Germany people. I feel like 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:50.280 playing a safe even if the grandparents have been vaccinated, 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:52.080 and of course they have to get their tea depths 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:56.240 as well, so that everybody around the baby can cocoon 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.440 the baby until she is old enough to have all 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:02.640 of her vaccines um and of course if you had 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:06.520 the COVID vaccine, you're going to be giving her antibodies 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:09.840 against COVID as well, which is another good thing, very helpful. 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:13.400 Thank you so much for your input. I really appreciate it. 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.120 And if anyone gives you a hard time, you send 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:22.040 them to me directly. Yes, totally, thank you, Thank you, Amy. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:27.680 And now next we are welcoming Adrianna from Florida. How 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:31.760 are you doing? Oh? Great? So you have a ten 0:08:31.840 --> 0:08:36.240 year old boy named Jason, and I've got to ask, 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:40.040 first of all, what's it like having an age difference 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:43.520 like that in terms of the pregnancy, Like everything's changed, 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.480 right in ten years. It's completely different, completely different. I 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:52.000 mean just everything. How care is baby stuff and go 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:55.880 buy it? It's so different. Now. How different has this 0:08:55.960 --> 0:09:00.520 pregnancy been. It's been a lot different, you know, um 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:02.800 just being that I am ten years older now, so 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.880 my body is a lot different. Anyways. But with with 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:09.320 my son, I had a very very healthy pregnancy, and 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:13.080 with this one, I've usually been diagnosed with gestational diabetes. 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:16.959 I've had some part complications, nothing too crazy, but um 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:19.880 so it's just a little more scary this go around. 0:09:21.080 --> 0:09:24.040 So the gestational diabetes took you by surprise. You had 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:27.880 morning sickness both times? Right, Yeah, super bad. I got 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:31.520 diagnosed with h D both times. Oh that's hyperas that's 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:34.480 really tough. How long did it last with my son? 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:37.160 It was up until I was seven months pregnant. And 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.800 then with this one, they finally found a medication that 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:42.160 worked for me, so I only had it until about 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:46.520 sixteen weeks. What medication worked, it was pro mephezy So 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:50.560 God send drug. Yeah that's good to know with your 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.520 g D. What questions do you have about that? I 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:56.840 just wanted to know about. You know, what snacks do 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:59.440 you recommend, because I'm having a hard time with my 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:02.280 fasting umbers, Like all my other numbers are perfect, it's 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:04.640 just being that fast number where it needs to be. 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:09.320 So the whole idea when you have gestational diabetes. But 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:13.240 actually this is a good tip for anyone who's pregnant. 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:16.480 I call it the six meal solution, right, and it's 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:21.679 essentially breaking up everything you eat into smaller amounts and 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:26.559 focusing on the two categories of food that will sustain 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:30.160 your blood sugar the best, and that's complex carbs and protein. 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:33.120 So there are certain snacks that are better than others 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:36.760 for keeping your blood sugar level. Has your doctor booked 0:10:36.760 --> 0:10:39.640 you up with a nutritionist at all? So I did 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:44.680 speak to a diabetic nutritionist, but she was very vague 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:47.800 on what to eat. So it's like, you know, three 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.360 things for breakfast, three things for lunch, three things for 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:54.480 then I was like, I'm gonna die. Yeah, you need 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:59.360 more variety, girl, Yeah, that's no fun. So years and 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:02.000 I mean to pay ending on how much they restrict 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.720 the carbs, and complex carbs are always a better idea, 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:08.920 of course than refined carbs. So if you can stick 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:12.560 to whole grains. But also how much fruit they allow 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.960 you is are their restrictions on that? Yeah? I have 0:11:16.080 --> 0:11:18.199 to limit my fruit and take, which is really sad 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:21.360 because my number one creating is those little cuties. Oh 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:25.560 that's terrible. Which fruits are they allowing you? Um? I 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:30.880 can have berries, so raspberries, blueberries, strawberries, that's great. I'm 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:35.200 I'm thinking, you know, if you can live on substantial snacks, 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:37.839 that's always the best way to go, you know, eating 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:41.880 at least five or six times a day. And have 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:45.400 you found something called I trust me. I don't own 0:11:45.400 --> 0:11:48.200 any stock in this company, but I discovered it like 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.280 years ago and I tell every pregnant woman about it. 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:56.640 Moon Cheese. It's freeze dried cheese. It's like genius. I 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:59.040 know they make it in other brands now, but it's 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:03.400 crunchy little nuggets of cheese that are not perishable, so 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:10.920 you can take them with you anywhere you go. Um, Nuts, almonds, walnuts, pistachios, 0:12:11.000 --> 0:12:14.640 all of those are great. Do you like eggs? I mean, 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.920 I know they can make a stink, but deviled eggs 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:21.319 or horribled eggs also those egg bites. Have you ever 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:24.520 seen those. Those are awesome. You can also make those 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:27.400 and store them in the freezer so you always have 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:30.160 some handy Um. Have you ever tried a baked egg 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:35.880 in an avocado? No, it's delicious. Top it with a 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:40.800 little salt if you're feeling spicy. Um, a smoothie with 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:46.520 like Greek yogurt and maybe some frozen berries. That's a goodie. Also, 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:52.600 what about some almond butter on apple slices. That's probably 0:12:52.760 --> 0:13:10.240 my favorite to see. You've got some amazing snag ideas. Okay, 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:15.760 so next we're going to Atlanta to visit with Ninon. Hey, Minoon, 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:21.679 So you are having a boy. Yes, I'm having a boy. 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:25.720 We found out two weeks ago. So so excited. That's 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:29.400 so exciting. And this is your first my first, Yes, 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:33.680 that's so cool. What has been your favorite part of 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:39.160 pregnancy so far? Honey? This hair is like growing like grass. 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.280 I have never felt so beaut I was telling my 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:46.840 boyfriend the other day. I was like, I feel so beautiful, 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.600 like I'm always I grew up having like skin problems 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.760 acne even into adulthood, and every once in a while 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.520 I still have, like, you know, a few little things 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:59.559 that pop up and like just my skin is glowing, 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:04.440 I my hair, I just I feel like a different 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:08.640 form of beauty and womanhood. It's it's so, it's like undescribable. 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.800 I love that. Yeah. Yeah, there's something about being pregnant. 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:19.360 It's super sexy and um unfortunately, not every mom feels 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:22.720 that great when she's pregnant. But it sounds like you're 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:27.040 having a pretty easy ride. Well, you know in the beginning. Well, 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:31.160 so my background, I'm a professional bodybuilder, so I'm used 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:35.160 to looking a certain way throughout the year. The biggest 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:38.120 transition for me was just really seeing my body go 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:41.240 through changes that I had never seen it go through before. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.320 And I have a lot of my pro bodybuilder friends 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:47.400 that have babies, they've been pregnant and they were like 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:50.640 just embraced the process. So when I let go of 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.040 that mindset of like what I used to look like 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:56.680 and just embraced being a mother, that's when it became 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:01.800 beautiful to me. So you have a question, and that 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:07.000 is about your doctors. Yes, yes, so I Um, I 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:10.040 chose my doctor, my O B from a friend of 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.960 mine who had twins and she had a great experience, 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:17.680 so I got the referral from her and my experience 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:22.040 has not been quite so great. Um. And so I 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:25.280 talked to other friends that also have babies, and they 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.800 referred me to other people. I'm trying to transition from 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:32.600 one practice to another, and I know it's business, so 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:34.360 it's not going to hurt their feelings that I leave, 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:37.000 But I just want to know what should I know 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:40.800 going to the next practice, Like what questions should I 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:44.240 have for the next physician and for the next practice 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.280 so that I don't experience the same thing. Oh? Absolutely, 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:51.640 isn't it funny how we always think about the doctor's feelings. Yeah, 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:55.280 but no, if you're not happy with those people, you're 0:15:55.320 --> 0:15:59.360 seeing too many different doctors. Maybe you're seeing a different 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:03.640 one at every appointment. Um, and there's not consistency, and 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:08.480 you're just not feeling like anybody gets you or taking 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:12.000 the time to get you. That's not good. You need 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:14.960 to feel comfortable with a person who is going to 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:18.280 deliver your baby. And the biggest red flag for me 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:22.600 was I had fibroids back in twenty fifteen, sixteen seventeen. 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:26.040 I got them shrunken in seventeen they're starting to grow back, 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:29.200 And that was like my first question, and it just 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:31.400 kept getting brushed off and brushed off and brushed off 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:34.840 until I had my twenty week um ultrasound and they're like, 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:38.920 oh my, your fibroids are pretty close to your cervix um. 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:41.600 We might need to do a c section, but we'll 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:44.440 monitor the growth up until you know it's time to deliver. 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:47.600 And I'm like, I brought this up when I first 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:51.400 came in and guys kept brushing it all, so that 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:53.840 was a big red flag to me. That is a 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:55.880 huge red flag. And I don't know if you other 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:59.120 moms have had this experience, but I hear it all 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:02.680 the time. You know that the doctor just doesn't listen 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:08.679 or underplays, dismisses concerns that you have. Who has lived 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:12.600 in your body your whole life, you have you know 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:16.320 it's a partnership. There needs to be communication between you, 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:20.359 and that gets exceptionally important later in pregnancy, during birth 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.080 and also postpartum. You know a lot of times women 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:27.160 are not listened to and symptoms are ignored. So you've 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:30.280 got to persevere, trust your mom, got and find a 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:33.840 doctor who you feel is going to listen. I mean, 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:36.400 it's possible you could go to a practice where there's 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:39.919 midwives and doctors because that way you have, you know, 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:42.320 you get the best of all worlds. The other good 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:44.800 thing to look into is having a do law. I 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:48.560 recommend that for every mom. But they're there just for 0:17:48.640 --> 0:17:50.840 you and to advocate you. So no matter who the 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:53.879 doctor ends up being UM and you never know because 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:56.320 even if you switch practices and you go to a 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:59.960 really amazing doctor, they might not be on call then 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:03.720 night that your baby decides to come, and so that 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:05.879 you want to make sure you have an advocate with 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:08.679 you at all times. But the most important thing is 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:13.160 that you don't leave your old doctor until you get 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:14.920 a new one, because you don't want to be uncovered 0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:19.320 for even five seconds. So go have some pre interviews 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:22.600 with various doctors. If you've asked around and you have 0:18:22.680 --> 0:18:26.280 some good candidates. Asked those questions about your five woids 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:29.360 and anything else that's on your mind, UM, and you'll 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:33.159 get a sense just from listening to the answers what 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:37.280 kind of communication skills they actually have, and that's important. 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:41.919 You also, of course have insurance to consider UM the 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:45.000 hospital that you want to deliver at, you know, you 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.520 have to make sure that they have privileges and deliver 0:18:47.760 --> 0:18:50.360 at that hospital, one that's close to you, and one 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:53.840 that has a good reputation. So once you do that 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:58.640 and you've settled on a practice that you like, then 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:02.440 you can even out or call the office and just say, 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:06.040 could you please transfer my records to this new practice. 0:19:06.080 --> 0:19:09.639 That's it, Okay. So I'm in that process now, and 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:12.760 that records are transferred to the new office, then I 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:15.280 can make an appointment. So I'm happy with the person 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:18.119 that I chose. Um, she just had a baby for 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:24.040 I think five months ago. Obviously it's from experience, so 0:19:24.200 --> 0:19:29.840 oh that's perfect. So we're gonna move on. Candice. Candice 0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:34.000 is here from Texas. Hello, I hear that you had 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:40.280 kind of uh long struggle within fertility. Yeah. I was 0:19:40.440 --> 0:19:43.840 a student athlete. Um, so I played sports my whole life. Um, 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:49.200 losing your period is normal during season, but then mine 0:19:49.240 --> 0:19:51.719 never came back and my foot I was in college. 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:55.200 It wasn't my focus or worry. Fast forward about five 0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:58.840 six years, I still had no period, and so finally 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:01.480 I saw a doctor. Um, he had to refer me 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:04.719 to someone else to referred me to a specialist. You know, 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:07.760 I'm with my husband. We're talking about a family. So 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:11.480 we meet my ari and go to a fertility doctor 0:20:11.960 --> 0:20:14.159 right away. He diagnosed me. He's like, I know what 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:19.760 you have, malic amnrhea. Fix this um. Getting that diagnosis 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:23.800 right away, Like, I feel really terrible for people that 0:20:23.880 --> 0:20:28.679 are unexplained because there's no goal to work towards. So 0:20:28.800 --> 0:20:31.280 for me, I knew what I had, so I knew, okay, 0:20:31.359 --> 0:20:33.679 I need to like not work out as much, I 0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:36.760 need to try to gain weight. I did all those things. 0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:41.840 I didn't ag retrieval. We transferred, and we transferred a 0:20:41.920 --> 0:20:45.000 boy embryo and I found out it didn't stick. Found 0:20:45.040 --> 0:20:47.919 out at work. But then you know, we we have 0:20:48.040 --> 0:20:51.440 to move forward. We have two other embryos. We also 0:20:51.480 --> 0:20:55.120 had done an I U I before I v f UM. 0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:58.280 We had a few canceled cycles due to health issues 0:20:58.280 --> 0:21:00.359 with my family and me having to go home, but 0:21:01.280 --> 0:21:06.320 then COVID hit UM, so we got delayed. Then we decided, 0:21:06.359 --> 0:21:09.359 since we only had two more embryos left and we 0:21:09.440 --> 0:21:11.520 wanted more than two kids and we didn't know what 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:14.479 would happen with the next one, we decided to do 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:18.240 another egg retrieval. So we went through that process again 0:21:19.000 --> 0:21:23.679 and then it got delayed because my husband got COVID, 0:21:24.200 --> 0:21:28.480 so we couldn't transfer. Um. So it at that point 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:32.280 it was if you don't laugh, you cry, and it 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:35.639 was like, of course, this all right, this is what happens, 0:21:35.680 --> 0:21:38.280 this is our story. It's gonna make it sweeter when we, 0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:41.320 you know, share with the news with everyone. So then 0:21:41.440 --> 0:21:45.600 August we did the transfer. This time we said we 0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:48.600 don't want to know, we don't care, picked the best embryo, 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:52.119 and then we found out that we were pregnant. We 0:21:52.160 --> 0:21:54.600 got the call. We cried each other's arms, called our 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:57.880 families and cried until this day. We don't know if 0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:00.359 we have a boy or girl because we to wait, 0:22:00.359 --> 0:22:04.359 and I mean going through the trauma of ibia, like 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:07.800 we just literally just want to helpy baby. So I'm 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:12.320 so so happy for you and excited for you. I 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:15.680 know all the moms here are now after all that, 0:22:16.640 --> 0:22:19.760 just please tell me you how to really easy pregnancy. 0:22:20.560 --> 0:22:22.840 I like to say I did my time because it's 0:22:22.920 --> 0:22:26.879 been a breeze and it almost was like I wanted 0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:29.840 to have morning sickness. So I wanted to have something 0:22:30.880 --> 0:22:33.639 because I needed that reassurance. I was so worried all 0:22:33.680 --> 0:22:36.000 the time. Anything I would do like I don't have 0:22:36.040 --> 0:22:40.120 symptoms are we sure I'm pregnant, but yeah, I mean 0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:43.000 it's been really easy. And I almost kind of feel 0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:46.480 guilty for saying that, because I know there's like other 0:22:46.600 --> 0:22:49.960 people who have had a lot of difficulties um during 0:22:50.000 --> 0:22:53.440 the pregnancy, but I feel like I did my time 0:22:55.240 --> 0:23:00.240 and then and then, yeah, I'm just worried my baby 0:23:00.359 --> 0:23:04.399 um was breached last time I got a sonogram. Because 0:23:04.760 --> 0:23:07.760 being an IVF patient, were monitored more heavily, so I 0:23:07.840 --> 0:23:11.000 have twice as many appointments. But my worry was that 0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:13.600 I don't want to have a c section. I want 0:23:13.600 --> 0:23:16.480 to be able to recover faster. And so I was 0:23:16.560 --> 0:23:20.920 doing a lot of research about like breach babies and go. 0:23:21.080 --> 0:23:23.040 When you're pregnant, you don't have much control over what 0:23:23.080 --> 0:23:24.880 your body is going to do, and then being an 0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:29.160 IVF patient, you feel even less control. So I've been 0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:31.760 doing a lot of different yoga poses or something to 0:23:31.800 --> 0:23:36.760 try to get my baby to be head down um. 0:23:36.840 --> 0:23:40.520 And I had asked my midwife if they delivered breach babies, 0:23:40.560 --> 0:23:43.679 and she talked about a doctor having to break someone's 0:23:43.760 --> 0:23:47.480 pelvic phone because the head got stuck. Yeah, So I 0:23:47.520 --> 0:23:51.439 mean the reality is that fewer than five percent of 0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:54.879 babies end up breach when it's all said and done, 0:23:55.320 --> 0:24:00.120 when labor starts. UM. Actually know a mom whose baby 0:24:00.160 --> 0:24:03.840 flipped during labor, actually flipped the wrong way, so she 0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:06.399 ended up with a breach baby after the baby was 0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:09.880 head down. Now, the baby was really small, so smaller 0:24:09.920 --> 0:24:13.480 babies have more room for moving around and flipping. But 0:24:13.600 --> 0:24:16.040