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Speaker 1: All right, So Chris Steve on Steve HARVEYFM says this weekend,

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend's parents have invited us to spend Easter weekend

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Speaker 1: at their place. We've been dating for a round a

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Speaker 1: year and we're all quite familiar with each other, so

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Speaker 1: it should be fun. There's an issue, though, they're relatively

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Speaker 1: old fashioned and don't want us sleeping together in the

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Speaker 1: same room, even though they know we live together. My

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Speaker 1: girlfriend is really pushing back on this, but I don't

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Speaker 1: think it's that big of a deal, seeing as how

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Speaker 1: it's their place and their rules. What's the best way

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Speaker 1: to stay out of the drama when we get there?

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Speaker 2: Tell your girl, we're gonna obey your father and mother's

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Speaker 2: rules oft they house, and we're gonna get a hotel room,

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Speaker 2: or you stay with your mom Neil and I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: get a room. Won't be here because bruh, you're doing

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Speaker 2: the right thing by being respectful of their rules. And

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Speaker 2: I don't care how hard she pushing back. Even if

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Speaker 2: you win the argument, you know how uncomfortable you gonna be. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you sleep in these people house?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 2: Want you sleep in there?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? All right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Tracy on Steve Harvey FM. Tracy says,

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Speaker 1: my thirteen year old daughter has started hanging out with

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Speaker 1: a new group of kids at school, and everything about

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Speaker 1: her has changed. Her attitude, has changed, her clothes, even

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Speaker 1: the way she talks to us. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: be the overbearing mom who controls her every move, but

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Speaker 1: I also can't ignore the feeling that these new friends

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Speaker 1: are bringing out the worst in her. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I have to walk a narrow line here. What should

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Speaker 1: I do? How can I get back to her, get

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Speaker 1: her back to her old self without pushing her away?

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Speaker 2: Have you tried backhand in her?

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Speaker 3: Why is violence you're always as your first go to?

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Speaker 2: I'm just I'm asking has that been put out? Have

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Speaker 2: you backhanded her yet?

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Speaker 1: She said she doesn't want to be the overbearing mom

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Speaker 1: who controls her every move.

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Speaker 2: Well, or you can be the Or you can be

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Speaker 2: the underbearing parent and then let her control all her

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Speaker 2: own moves and make all her decisions with that thirteen

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Speaker 2: year old mindset and wind up pregnant somewhere or on drugs,

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Speaker 2: or run away with the older boy them your options. See,

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Speaker 2: as parents, our first obligation is to parent, and in

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Speaker 2: parenting your children will not always like the decisions you make.

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Speaker 2: But see, y'all also busy with this new stuff, trying

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Speaker 2: to be their friend and all this here. Try to

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Speaker 2: stay out the way and get the decide. They're too

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Speaker 2: stupid to decide. Your child is stupid like the rest

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Speaker 2: of the kids.

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Speaker 3: Come to terms with that.

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Speaker 2: Nobody say this under your breath. My child is stupid

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Speaker 2: like the rest of them. And the reason you should

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Speaker 2: say this is because I promise you they are. They

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Speaker 2: don't let you see it, but now she done got

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Speaker 2: so comfortable she letting you see it. You don't want

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Speaker 2: to be the overbearing parent, then fine, if you okay

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Speaker 2: with visitations and all of that. No, y'all gotta look

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Speaker 2: at it this way. Your job is to parent, and

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Speaker 2: in parenting, they will not like all of your decisions,

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Speaker 2: but you have to do something that's best for them.

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Speaker 2: Later on they'll go, man, I see what you were saying.

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Speaker 2: They don't get it now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but she doesn't want to push her daughter away.

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Speaker 1: If she starts that, that's what she's already away.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what y'all see. She's already away, gotcha. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: she doing stuff you don't want her to do, and

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Speaker 2: you're scared to say something.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I can't be afraid.

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Speaker 2: Then visitations is coming soon. All you're gonna be taking

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Speaker 2: her down to the tenant. What you want to do

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Speaker 2: this because this can go bad. This is a girl, man.

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Speaker 2: It goes bad for girls and it can go bad

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Speaker 2: for boys. And you gotta protect your child with the

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Speaker 2: knowledge that you have based on what you know. Now

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Speaker 2: feel how you want to feel about me.

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Speaker 3: And she's only thirteen, Yeah, she's only thirteen.

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Speaker 2: Buying all these club where you're getting the money from.

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