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Speaker 1: What we doing to that girl?

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Speaker 2: Let's do some career some juicy, juicy career questions. By

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Speaker 2: this person who we call THEO, submitted a question last summer.

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Speaker 2: He was an engineer, a chemical engineer, and he was wondering.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, wait a second. THEO, I remember

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Speaker 2: and he said, I'm writing in to update you since

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Speaker 2: I accepted my new job offer last September, which increased

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Speaker 2: and personal affirmation. I'm sorry didn't get a chance to

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Speaker 2: and I worked my last two weeks before transitioning to

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Speaker 2: the new firm. Now eight months later, I am expanding

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Speaker 1: S sister, does that, Carol, she used to do?

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Speaker 2: That? Sounds fliancy. I am also utilizing my MBA outside

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm really curious to say what I said? What

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Speaker 2: We both were like, ooh, yes, juicy.

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Speaker 1: So we're gonna call this person Fomo because that's what

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Speaker 2: First of all, I think that your manager is a

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Speaker 2: But a social event that you don't invite everyone to,

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Speaker 2: I don't know one a few or the first or whatever.

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Speaker 2: And I think it helps to make your titles and

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Speaker 2: your like little like if you're gonna name a method

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Speaker 2: or it seems kind of kitchy and cheesy, but I

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Speaker 2: do think it helps differentiate you stick in people's mind

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Speaker 2: and make it a little bit harder for people to

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Speaker 2: just lift it, you know, because if I was going

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Speaker 2: to call my my my method, like or not even

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Speaker 2: have a method, but just say this is how you

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Speaker 2: negotiate your salary, then it'd be a lot harder to say, Okay,

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Speaker 2: someone has taken her method or copied and pasted it,

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Speaker 2: but I made it unique by calling it the five

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Speaker 2: step maker method and having it broken down the way

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Speaker 2: that I do, and from like an intellectual property standpoint,

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Speaker 2: because I there sometimes it's so egregious and if it's

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Speaker 2: really taking away your business, then maybe a lawyer is necessary.

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Speaker 2: Probably not in your case, but what I've heard is

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Speaker 2: once you write something and put it out there, it's copywritten,

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Speaker 2: like it's it's you have a copyright against it. If

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Speaker 2: it's it's intellectual property that you created, you don't have

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Speaker 2: to like go trademark and get every single thing that

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Speaker 2: you produce copywritten, copyrighted, copyrighted. But you do want to

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Speaker 2: like have a record of it and be able to

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Speaker 2: at least say that I have ownership of it, because

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Speaker 2: if you do want to pursue legal action, then you

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Speaker 2: know to have that. To have those receipts is going

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Speaker 2: to be important, you know, moving forward, because it's IP

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Speaker 2: is like the it's critical. It's the foundation of our businesses.

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Speaker 2: I told you, like, our ideas are all we.

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Speaker 1: Got like year three of Budgeanista because I have everyone

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Speaker 1: should have Google alerts on their business. And it was

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Speaker 1: like being you're the Budgeanista is on this like think

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Speaker 1: of like the top five banks that you see on

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Speaker 1: the corner. One of those banks, right, And I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I think it was a little Asian

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Speaker 1: lady like I'm the Budganessa. I said, God, no, not

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Speaker 1: me me. So I didn't know what to do because

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Speaker 1: I was so but thank God, baby Jesus, teenage Jesus,

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Speaker 1: middle aged Jesus, and you know, could have been old

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Speaker 1: man Jesus. Thank God that a friend of mine, like

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Speaker 1: a year or two prior, was like, have you trademark Budganessa,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't have any money, and

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Speaker 1: he was like, it's like I think at the time

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Speaker 1: it was like seventy five bucks or one fifty something

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Speaker 1: like that. He was like, put it on a credit

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Speaker 1: card and I will sit with you. And like, so

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Speaker 1: we I didn't I couldn't afford to hire an attorney.

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Speaker 1: So he sat with me and helped me trademark the Budganessa.

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Speaker 1: Thank god, because and so I didn't even have to

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Speaker 1: reach out to them within like twenty four to forty

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Speaker 1: eight hours. Somebody must have done a Google search over

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Speaker 1: there at the bank, at the big bank, because it

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Speaker 1: was gone, you know. But I had this, like I

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Speaker 1: trademarked the Budganessa, and they were using it in a

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Speaker 1: way that like that's how I show up. And so

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Speaker 1: I just say all that to say to Mandy's point that, like,

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Speaker 1: you know, like certain legal action maybe needed to be taken,

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Speaker 1: may need to be taken. But what I love what

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Speaker 1: you said, Mandy, which is true. I love that even

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Speaker 1: if you are teaching like a budgeting system or a

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Speaker 1: negotiating system or whatever, that's not new under the sun.

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Speaker 1: But I love the fact that Mandy creates because I

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Speaker 1: do the same creates, Like this is the cupcake system,

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Speaker 1: this is the Mandy money maker system. So if you

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Speaker 1: hear it again, you're like, like Mandy, Like, that's why

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Speaker 1: I my ten Steps to financial wholeness, Like right, I

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Speaker 1: actually trademark the word financial wholeness or the phrase because

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Speaker 1: that's something new. It did not exist before and no

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Speaker 1: one was using it casually. So I wanted when you

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Speaker 1: heard it again, you're like, well, one, Tiffany owns that,

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Speaker 1: and then two like that came from here. So I'm

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Speaker 1: always looking for a way to remain like a normal

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Speaker 1: thing into something that can be traced back to me,

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Speaker 1: and so like, no, I love that, so like and honestly,

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Speaker 1: the thing is people are gonna copy all the time.

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna be able to chase down every single person.

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Speaker 1: So some things I just let go. And unless it's,

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Speaker 1: like I said, super egregious to man point, there's litigious

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Speaker 1: activities you can participate and in like having an attorney

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Speaker 1: or you know, certainly you can confront them and say

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Speaker 1: what the entire hell is wrong with you?

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Speaker 2: Girl?

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Speaker 1: So let us know, honestly, because that's really like, yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to know if you actually have that

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Speaker 2: conversation how it went hands.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, we don't con though, we don't condone.

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Speaker 2: There was another creator. We've had her on the show

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Speaker 2: Deli and Barrows. She's been public with this, but another

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Speaker 2: creator basically copy and pasted her whole sales page. I

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Speaker 2: remember for her, yeah, for her stock and she did

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Speaker 2: an Instagram live. It was for her sales page and

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Speaker 2: all of her I think her emails and stuff.

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Speaker 1: It was really sick.

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Speaker 2: She had all the receipts and she named the person

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Speaker 2: because I mean, this person was getting more popular on

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Speaker 2: social media and like actually making sales, and you know,

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Speaker 2: I think that that's brave of Delhi to do that.

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Speaker 2: But I also think you have to kind of be

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Speaker 2: a be a Tiger mom, just be like, you know,

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Speaker 2: protective of your work and be willing to fight for

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Speaker 2: it and put people on blast if they're egregiously doing it.

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Speaker 2: And her community people like me like telling us so

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Speaker 2: that we we know we're on alert and we can

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Speaker 2: you know, unfollow. I think she was you know, I

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Speaker 2: think I sent a DM to the person because I had,

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Speaker 2: I think met them before something like that, Like this

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Speaker 2: is really bad like, what's going on? And before we

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Speaker 2: knew it, her page was private and kind of taken down,

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Speaker 2: and you know, and DELI had her her attorney also

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Speaker 2: sound like a cease and desist. Yeah, but yeah, so

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Speaker 2: in that case, I'm like, you can't. I'm glad that

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Speaker 2: you muted her, but also I'm just like, keep one

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Speaker 2: eye open for like, like Tiffany said, the Google alert,

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Speaker 2: even having an admin like I would, it's actually smart.

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Speaker 2: I could have my admin crawl pages and just check

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Speaker 2: so that you're not really exposed to it. You're not

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Speaker 2: in that comparison trap. But I do think it's important

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Speaker 2: for us to keep tabs on what everyone else is doing,

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Speaker 2: just in case. Yeah, the legal hit lazy and sloppy,

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Speaker 2: you know, because that we do conzone on legal hands.

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Speaker 2: You know, so exactly. Well, not of us though, because

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Speaker 2: we're your financial not your financial advice. We didn't say

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Speaker 2: that part. Not your financial advisors, not your investment advisors,

554
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Speaker 2: to assume them, not us.

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Speaker 1: Yes, think what we say with a grain of sound,

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Speaker 1: chide the smallest of the greens.

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Speaker 2: Yes, well, this is a fun b a q A.

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Speaker 2: That too, just everywhere. If you can't find us, it's

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Speaker 2: not because we did not make ourselves. We're here, hey,

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Speaker 2: cry the bare minimum effort. You can find a way

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Speaker 2: to contact us.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, never answered the question. Honestly, we love updates,

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Speaker 1: so like, you know, send some updates.

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Speaker 2: It is fun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, make sure you put the name in that we

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Speaker 1: called you, you know, like if your name is Sarah

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Speaker 1: and we called you Tanya because we protected your identity,

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Speaker 1: just be like, y'all call me Kanya.

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Speaker 2: So oh can you hear that? Miss Stephanie and mister

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Speaker 2: ms Fomo. I really want to hear back on these

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Speaker 2: questions me too, But until next week, BA Fam, I'm Mandy,

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Speaker 2: I'm Tiffany that's Tiffany. Goodbye bye, Hey, ba Fam. We

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Speaker 2: could not do this show without your support or the

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Speaker 2: support of our team behind the scenes. The Brown Ambition

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Speaker 2: Podcast is produced by Imani Crosby and Dennis Sanplinsky is

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Speaker 2: our in house tech guru. I am your co host

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Speaker 2: Mandy Woodrif Santos, and we will see y'all next week,

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Speaker 2: ba Fam.