WEBVTT - Two Jersey Js: Don't Worry, Be Thankful 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:01.800 Hello. 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:05.440 Hello, It's Jackie Gildschneider and Jen Besler. We are two 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:11.000 Jersey Jays. Hi, guys, I cannot believe that it is November. 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:12.880 Right since we are here in New Jersey. One of 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:17.240 the good things is these is the leaves changing. It's beautiful, 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:17.799 it really is. 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:19.680 I know, I feel like I'm getting really hokey as 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:22.239 i get older, but I drive down the street and 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:23.759 I'm like, it's just so pretty. 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:25.840 It is it is, it is. That's one of the 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:28.720 good That's the news about not living in Florida, which is, 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:30.280 I know, I love the seasons. 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:31.800 I don't think I'll ever be able to leave. Like 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:33.760 I went to college in Boston and it was very, 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:34.360 very cold. 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:35.239 Yeah, and I was. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:37.720 Like, you know, I hope my kids go somewhere that's 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:39.800 a little bit warmer, but I still want them. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.240 To have the seasons. Yeah, and I do love fall, 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:44.760 but I can do without winter. Oh it's so cold. 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:47.480 The worst maybe it's snowbird. But the good news is 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:54.360 because fall is in fact here, so is drummer leaves. Well. Thanksgiving, 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:56.760 I know, I love Thanksgiving. 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.800 I didn't always love Thanksgiving either, but I love Thanksgivting. 0:00:59.800 --> 0:01:03.000 Now it's funny because, oh, by the way, you guys 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:07.440 were talking about Thanksgiving today, which I'm really excited about. 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:11.600 I actually my kids recently before we even decided to 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:15.000 do this episode on Thanksgiving, I guess, we were in 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:18.360 the car and talking about it. My niece was there too, 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:20.000 and I was like, you know, you guys excited for 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:21.760 Thanksgiving and I want to say that my son is like, 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:24.080 oh my god, yes, the best day of the year. 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:27.080 And Danielle, my niece, chimed in, and Rachel chimed in, 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:31.920 and it's like, makes me so unbelievably happy that they 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:32.720 feel that way. 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:36.840 Yeah, and you like, you're an empty nester, so to 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:39.240 have your kids back home now they live in this city, 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:41.440 so they like do they sleep over though Thanksgiving? 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:42.160 Yeah? 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:45.200 Yeah, so we don't have that full house again, and 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.680 like the smells of the season and just like how 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.040 it's not cold, but it's not warm, and it's just 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:55.120 so festive and everyone's together. The thing is now, as 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:59.360 I get older, it makes me sad sometimes, like the 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.840 happiness is mixed with sadness and I wish that it wasn't. 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:05.760 But I like when I think back on old Thanksgivings, 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:09.760 I missed my grandparents. I'm sad about my parents getting older. 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:12.720 I get nervous. Is this my dad's last night? I 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.800 hope my dad's not listening, But like I always think, like, 0:02:14.880 --> 0:02:16.800 is this my dad's last Thanksgiving? Is this my father 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:19.880 in law's last Thanksgiving? I get nervous and sad, and 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.080 I wish I didn't let those thoughts come in, but 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.120 they do, And I think I think that's probably the 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:25.080 case for a lot of people. 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:29.960 We always my in laws have passed, and you know, 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:33.880 Thanksgiving was for us. There's so many traditions, and one 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.119 of them was that my father in law made every 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:40.200 year this antipast. So my father in law was Jewish 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:43.720 and my mother in law is Italian, and my father 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:45.880 in law was in love with his mother in law, 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.639 so she used to make this antipast and every year 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:50.160 he used to make it, and none of us really 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:53.680 ate it. It was huge. It was like all these 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.360 Italian meats and cheeses and those little gurkins, and like 0:02:57.440 --> 0:02:59.720 at one point I think he even put like sardines 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:02.919 or something thing. And to this day now we make it. 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:05.880 Jeff and Rachel make it. Oh well, I can't say 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:07.919 no one needs to. I think Jeff likes it. Maybe people, 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:10.919 but it always ends up in this big ziplock gets slimy. 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.960 I sneak it into the garbage, but it's like, we'll 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:14.600 never not make it because it's just. 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:17.160 It's a traditions, all right, So what are your other traditions? 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:18.679 What was it like for you growing up? 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:21.400 So I was thinking about this, Jack, I don't have 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:25.080 that many memories of Thanksgiving growing up. I really don't, 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:26.799 Like I was thinking back now. I mean, my life 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:30.400 was a very very chaotic, to put it mildly, childhood, 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:35.280 and so I don't remember if I was with my 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:39.040 mom with my dad. Like I'm telling you, I was 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:41.320 thinking about it, and it just wasn't It's not a 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:45.560 memorable part of my childhood. And maybe that's why I 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:47.520 turned into When I first got married and had kids, 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:50.960 I became Martha Stewart around this time. I mean I 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.040 had like I was watching the Food Network. I was 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:57.960 getting the Food Network magazine, and I like, this is 0:03:58.040 --> 0:03:59.920 not to know me now, is to know like that's 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.880 seems so far from who I actually am. I was 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.720 combing through recipes. It made me so happy to watch 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.360 just I had the Food Network on like a loop 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:13.200 but as maybe because as a kid it wasn't that's special. 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.440 I don't remember it being I remember maybe in my 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:18.680 twenties going to my aunt's doing it with my cousins, 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.520 but it wasn't like it is now. Now it's like 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.640 this huge part of how many people do do you host? 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.680 My host? Okay? And how many people? A lot? Depending 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:29.480 some years is more than more than others. I think 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:31.960 it's your maybe twenty five. Oh wow, that's a lot. 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:35.719 Yeah, yeah, we started hosting. You know, my Thanksgivings as 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:37.039 an adult have been. 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:39.760 Very like split up. 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:43.960 Yeah, because you know so, I'm estranged from my sister, 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:48.159 and so we never had Thanksgiving as a family, so 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.840 as a full family, but I don't really even know her, 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.840 so it's like weird to me, like it always felt 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.160 like a full family, but I knew she wasn't there. 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:57.960 So my parents were very split in the middle of course. 0:04:58.000 --> 0:05:00.200 And what about growing up though? Were you growing up? 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.520 She was always there, but always like we never going directed, no, no, no. 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:06.240 We always had all four of my grandparents and my 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:09.200 dad had a brother, and his brother and his wife 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:11.800 and two kids would come. I'm I'm his sister, the 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:15.680 sister and her husband and their kids would come, so 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:18.760 we always had a very full house. Yeah, because I 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:22.039 had four cousins who were right around my age. I 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:23.960 did lose one of my cousins when I was in 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:25.800 my twenties. Yeah, he had a heart attack. 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:27.280 My gosh, awful. 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.960 But I had four cousins that were right around my age, 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.880 and we just had the best time together exactly. And 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.320 I was always, you know, my brother, we always had 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:37.359 a good time together, and my sister didn't really interact 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:40.520 that much, but you know, it was like I always 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:41.240 had a great time. 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:43.720 I had the what I do remember the Thanksgivings when 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:45.040 I was in my twenties because I was living in 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:47.520 New York and I'd go to my aunt and uncles 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:49.880 and my cousins. Like being with my cousins was always 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:53.480 just both Robin and myself. That was just the best. 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:54.960 I know, it really was. 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:57.560 Like That's one thing I'm so grateful for is even 0:05:57.600 --> 0:06:00.560 though I don't speak to my sister, my kids and 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:02.920 their cousins are very close. I mean they were a 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:04.599 little older, but like Friday, We're. 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:06.760 Going to have dinner with my parents and my cousins. 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:08.240 Their cousins are coming, Like. 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:10.320 They really do love each other, but there's a there's 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:11.520 a pretty big age gap. 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:14.239 So it's nice that you guys were able to. Yeah, 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:17.560 that's not an easy care anymore, what's you know? 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.880 I mean, like I it is, and as they get older, 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:24.280 it's even harder because everyone has their own lives and 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.760 you know too, are in college and so it's just hard. 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:32.800 But anyway, so we were all split up for so 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:35.839 every Thanksgiving was my parents would go to me one 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:39.120 and then we would go to Evan's parents on the 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:43.280 year that we weren't with my parents. And then in 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:48.800 recent years it just got too hard for our parents 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:52.400 to go through the whole Thanksgiving set up. So it 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:53.960 was a lot for Evan's parents are both in their 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.400 mid eighties and. 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.200 It's a lot for them to host, just like I've 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:01.880 hosted year for the past. I always since I probably 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.200 since I got married, we've been hosting. But I just 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.560 had this like memory of my mother in law and 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:09.280 she was sickly, but she for years she would get 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:13.480 wheeled in in the same coat. It's like it had 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:16.280 she's like leather with fur, and she always had her 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:18.080 aid with her and we'd wheel her in and I 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:20.400 would help her take off her coat, and she was 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:23.680 so excited about Thanksgiving. But she was and she was 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:26.680 so easy, like my in laws were both just the 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:31.600 most like loving, wonderful, easy people. And she would just 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:35.360 sit there like actually cry a little because she was like, 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.360 I don't know, I feel bad for Jeff. Thanks, thanks, 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:40.120 thanks for saying it. Yeah, now it's good. You just 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:44.200 ruined my whole Thanksgiving. No, but I just I miss that, 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:46.720 I missed just her presence, you know. But yeah, and 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.720 she loved it. So she loved the food. 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:51.000 I have to say that I'm very lucky. Also, I 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:53.520 have wonderful in laws, so I do look forward to 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:56.200 these holidays that were all together. And this year my 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.400 parents and Evan's parents are both coming to me, so 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:02.200 it's really nice. And Evan's sister and my brother and. 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:03.880 So it's nice, you know. Good. 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:15.440 I'll tell you one really funny, okay Thanksgiving story. Okay, 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:19.480 when I was in law school, I had a boyfriend 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:24.560 and his It was just him and his. 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:28.040 Brother were the kids, two boys. 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:31.600 And their mom super super warm, very warm. And my 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:35.000 parents got close to their parents and they came over 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:40.280 for Thanksgiving one year when we were together, and his 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:44.000 mom had way too much wine at the Thanksgiving table, 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:46.600 and you know, we were in the early twenties. We 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:49.640 weren't getting married yet, you know, but like we were 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:54.199 starting to like think about serious and his mom got 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:56.719 really drunk at the table at the Thanksgiving table and 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:58.480 she said, really loud. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:03.520 She said, I'm always going to be your best girl, right. 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:06.480 And my mom looked at me and she was like, 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:08.280 did you just hear what to say? 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:14.760 And she repeated that line to me like for years afterwards. 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:16.600 She was like, I'm always going to be your best girl, right. 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.199 Oh my god, that's so I know. 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:22.679 But I's a perfect Thanksgiving story. Yeah, And he was like, oh, 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:26.880 like he didn't know what to say. 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:27.600 But yeah, obviously what I'll say to my son. At 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:29.440 some point. I didn't end up marrying him, but not 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.240 because of that. Well, that would have been a good 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:34.160 enough reason. Yeah. I asked my kids. I sent like 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:37.520 a family uh text whatever, a group text, and I 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:41.200 said to them, we're doing this Thanksgiving podcasts, you know. 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.160 And it's funny because I'm so happy to ask them 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:45.680 because I'm just so curious because they did recently say it. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.959 It's like their favorite Like, what do you have any 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:51.120 like funny things that you remember, and I got like flooded. 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:56.839 Oh tell me something that was really cool. Well, some 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:01.480 were not that funny, but like so Rachel sent me 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:05.680 one that said, when you guys were like where the kids. 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:07.920 The kids were always in the basement hanging out doing 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:10.160 their things, so cute that they all would go down there, 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:13.120 even like the younger ones. And it was years before 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:15.480 he realized they were down there getting baked, Like, oh 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.839 no way, Like every Thanksgiving my kids were like in 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:21.600 high school, and the older cousins would they come back 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.160 up stairs and eat everything insight. But who knew, I 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:27.600 mean it was Thanksgiving now we all just join them. 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:32.040 And then one of my cousins. The cousins always bring 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:34.480 their animals and not this year because we have these 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.840 ugly cats, but whatever, but one of the dogs got 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:41.520 out and chased the neighbor's cat up the tree, and 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:44.080 for hours we were all dealing with this. There were 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:46.480 so many like glitches all the time, which just like 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:48.920 makes it kind of fun. My kids also, they're so 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:53.200 tied into the traditions. Like I say to them every year, 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.560 I get so sick of the same Thanksgiving food and 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:00.280 they're so sentimental about it, which also secretly like makes 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:05.640 me so happy. So but it's like the same stupid 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:08.360 like games every So, like Jeff has this thing and 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:11.760 he has to make the sweet potatoes the yams, and 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.720 he makes a whole production out of it, and how 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:18.160 great they are. He literally takes cans of yams, MUSHes 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:22.079 them up, puts some brown sugar and marshmallows. But it's 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:25.480 a whole thing about his secret recipe, and Daddy has 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:29.160 to make the yams or maybe in there. I mean, 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.360 one can only hope because they get so much attention. 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.800 But like every like, it has to be for cooking 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:38.679 something I love. Really, that's not cooking, that's that's oh 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:42.800 my god, I cook not you don't. No, I don't cook. Well, 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:44.239 A big reason. 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:47.439 Why I don't cook is because for twenty years I 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:52.000 didn't eat, so I never wanted to taste. When you're anorexic, 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:56.640 like every bite matters, So I never wanted to taste 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:59.760 anything that I was cooking. So since I couldn't taste it, 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:01.480 want to subject everyone else to it. 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:06.440 So I never cooked. Now will you? Now, I'm just 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:07.559 really not interesting. 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:10.800 We just order in yeah with cater Well, for many years, 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.480 we were members of a country club, so we would 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:15.880 cater from there because we had this money amount that 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:17.480 we had to ease out dining, and we never went 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:19.600 there when we would go out to eat, so we 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:22.640 never really used the money. So we'd cater in the holidays. 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.760 Now we cater from a local place. Yeah, it's delishous. 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:30.600 I mean yeah, even if I wanted to or even 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:32.600 to change it up, I feel guilty because it's like 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:36.319 the one day a year it's this big family event. 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:40.000 I know everybody is gets so excited for it, and 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:42.280 I didn't have this growing up like it is so 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:45.679 such a cherished I'm so proud of myself, first of 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:48.560 all that I have hosted it, and that I've given 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:51.640 this to my kids, and because again I can't even 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.679 remember Thanksgiving as a kid, and I know these are 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.240 like for my kids to say it's the best day 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.800 of the year. But like silly things like so I 0:12:59.840 --> 0:13:02.520 like prep the turkey with my best friend, you know, 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:04.679 my friend Helene, So her and I since the kids 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:06.920 were very little, for whatever reason, I figured out how 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:09.280 to do turkey and she had this recipe for brisket. 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:12.040 So neither one of us ever writes it down and 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:14.280 we're on the phone all day figuring it out, like 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.280 remembering again. And then you put this in the brisket 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:18.720 and this ginger ale and this and whatever the turkey 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.120 do you tie it so like that's fun. And then 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:22.960 we get ready. And then at two in the morning, 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:24.840 Jeff and I wake up because we want our ovens 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:26.880 to be empty. And plus you put like hot gravy 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:28.360 on it, and we put it in. We put the 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:31.160 turkey in the morning to do this. We get like 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:33.920 twenty five pound turkey, kind a turkey breast, so we 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:35.720 put it all links. We win our ovens free like 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:38.120 once every cause my family starts pouring in at like 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:41.440 nine am. Wow, we start pouring mimosas at like well 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:45.040 nine am. So but when the kids wake up, like 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:48.880 the whole house smells like turkey. Oh, I know that's 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:49.640 so nice. Week. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.560 Can I tell you one story from last year? And 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:54.200 then we'll get into some of our stuff. But you know, 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:57.000 I'm a real sucker from my dad, and so we 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:00.000 order all our Thanksgiving stuff like weeks and weeks in advance. 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:03.719 And so my dad calls me two days before Thanksgiving 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:07.320 and he says, Jackie, I want a fried turkey this year, 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:11.160 and I'm like, a fried turkey, I don't know what 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.120 to be getting, you know. So he's like, do you 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:15.679 think you can get one? I said, all right, I'll 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:19.120 figure it out, right. So I call the place we 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:22.080 cat it from and they're like, yeah, we're definitely not 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:23.480 going to be able to give you a fried turkey 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:27.120 right now, like we're totally done taking orders. So I 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:30.160 sit down on my computer and I call every place 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:33.200 within a half hour radius or a forty five minute 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:35.600 radius where I could get a fried turkey, and there 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.960 is just none to be had. So I go on 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:40.560 some like online you're not going to tell me you 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:41.240 got a fright? 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:43.000 Wait? No, I didn't, Okay. 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:46.480 So I go on this online forum and there's a 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:51.080 bunch of people saying, don't judge me, okay, no room 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:53.920 to day that the best fried turkeys are at Popeyes. 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.760 So Evan's like, you are not getting Popeyes for they 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:59.880 told me so anyway, I'm like, all right, I got 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:01.760 come through from my dad because I promised. 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:04.680 So I go to Popeye's the day before. 0:15:05.160 --> 0:15:07.040 So it turns out that fried turkey is not like 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.040 a deep fried turkey, Like there's not like a batter 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:12.360 crust on like fried chicken. It's this way of I 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:15.120 think it means like it's like a Cajun rub spice. 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:17.600 I mean it's like a little bit denser than a 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:20.280 regular turkey. But anyway, I go to Popeyes, I'm like, 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:20.440 do you. 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:21.200 Have a fried turkey. 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.640 It's not fully cooked, it's marinated in this like fried 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.720 Cajun Southern whatever. I get the fried turkey, it take 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:30.160 it home. I stick it in the oven, I cook it, 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:32.520 I bring it out. I'm like, this is this is 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:34.600 the fried turkey. He's like, all right, let me tell you. 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:38.160 My entire family ignored the regular turkey that come on. 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:41.840 It was so good. It was so so good. 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.200 This year I'm getting it. I mean, this year, I'm 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:45.960 not going to get it from Popeyes, but the fried turkey, 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.360 and it's the best. Yeah. It was delicious. I was 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:50.600 really like juicy inside. 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:51.000 Wow. 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:54.760 Yeah you go. Jeff starts thinking about Thanksgiving literally, like 0:15:55.360 --> 0:15:57.760 I don't know, halfway through October, already has his order 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:00.120 in it. Goffle Farms. Goffle Farms. Is this farm? Do 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:03.160 they go? Yeah? Fresh killed? I feel like one episode 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:09.160 of the New Jersey Housewives, Teresa and Joe Joe, jud 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:13.120 Dicey might have gone and picked up their turkey at 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:16.120 like a fresh kill place, maybe Goffle Farms. Oh really well, 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:17.320 probably everything's local. 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:19.640 That wasn't the episode where they were sitting at the 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:21.120 picnic table and he took the phone call. 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:23.560 No, no, no, no, this is Thanksgiving. Wasn't that like 0:16:23.680 --> 0:16:26.640 a vineyard? And yeah, I think those Italy or who knows, Oh, 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:28.600 I don't know, but this was no, this was like 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:31.720 Thanksgiving time and like they went and Esa had on. 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:33.360 I don't know why all of a sudden that popped 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:36.440 into my head, but anyway, so Jeff orders it and 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.880 I go and pick it up usually for whatever reason, 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:43.000 and I get so upset because you can like they're 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:46.160 fresh killed, and it's like you see the turkeys like 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:51.960 rooming around. No I know, you know, So so what 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:55.560 do you do? So everybody comes, everybody start point, momoses 0:16:55.720 --> 0:17:00.920 and so listen. My family is big and loving and dysfunctional, 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:05.359 So it's not like there's always if you stop and listen, 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.720 somebody's whispering about somebody in some corner, like that's that's 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:12.480 just the way you guys be talking about politics. I 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:14.640 don't think so I don't think, well, we've gotten into 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:16.320 it a few years, and I don't I don't think 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:19.040 there was a year you have a big divide. Things 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:23.680 have shifted somewhat, but there was a year it didn't 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:25.960 start at Thanksgiving, but my cousin, one of my cousins, 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:28.080 didn't even come to Thanksgiving because her and I had 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:31.359 had such we were such a bad place because of politics, 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:33.960 and which is so sad I think about it now. 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:35.639 She's one of like the people I love the most 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:37.639 in the world, and I didn't speak to her for 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:42.080 over a year. And it's funny because then they she 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:44.000 couldn't come because of her mother in law. And this 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:46.920 year is the first year they're back in like four years, 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:52.360 and I'm so everybody's so excited. But so I probably 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:57.160 will put a like a ban on any political talk. 0:17:57.359 --> 0:18:00.639 I mean, it's the timing of it could be worse. Right, 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:04.240 it's like right after the election. So I think that 0:18:04.680 --> 0:18:06.600 a few weeks nerves will be for a few weeks. 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:09.240 I cannot ban my father from talking about anything. 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:12.480 My dad will do whatever he wants to do, which 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:14.280 is what I love about him. Yeah, but he will 0:18:14.280 --> 0:18:16.560 do whatever he wants to do whenever he wants to do. Yeah, 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:26.199 so good for him. I do want to get to 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:28.720 because I just all of this like just I don't know. 0:18:28.720 --> 0:18:30.120 It makes me happy to talk about, but I want 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:33.359 to know. Like you don't cook, I cook, but also 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:35.320 like what do you guys have? Like I cook every year. 0:18:35.760 --> 0:18:39.119 I'm in charge of the turkey and the brisket, so 0:18:39.160 --> 0:18:41.000 those are the two biggies. And I also make these 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:43.240 cookies every year. I make them two days before I 0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:47.160 freeze them. Jeff makes yams and antipas. My kids always 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:50.320 want to make something, but everything else is I just 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:55.040 like give out assignments. Like everybody comes and there's so 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:59.240 much food it is vulgar. But I am the best. 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:03.080 Now I can make turkey and brisket like with the 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:04.960 best of them. Really, Oh my god, I'm so good. 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:09.840 I don't cook anything, but our policy is we get 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:15.360 all the main course food and appetizer food, and we 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:20.000 let everybody bring dessert or wine. Okay, So the grandparents 0:19:20.080 --> 0:19:22.960 love bringing dessert because it's really the kids who eat 0:19:23.000 --> 0:19:26.320 the dessert and it makes them happy to make the 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:26.960 kids happy. 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:29.840 So we leave that to them. 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:34.480 And my mother and father live in Central New Jersey 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:37.520 and there's all these farms around that, so they go 0:19:37.600 --> 0:19:40.080 to this place called wem Rock and get like these 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:45.960 most delicious pies. So yeah, Thanksgiving for me for many 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:49.160 years was you know, like a very joyous holiday because 0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:52.080 I loved being with family. But the food, the food, 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:54.840 you know, everything with food was always an issue for me. 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:59.120 But Thanksgiving in particular, there's so much emphasis on not 0:19:59.200 --> 0:20:02.439 just eating, on overeating, yes, and it was always a 0:20:02.560 --> 0:20:06.840 really really uncomfortable setting for me because my rules never 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:10.840 there was never any like leniency in the way that 0:20:10.920 --> 0:20:15.240 I ate, and so it was really hard for me 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:18.520 to get around that at the Thanksgiving table, like to 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:21.800 fake it and to be able to not eat and 0:20:21.960 --> 0:20:24.640 your family pick up on it. I mean, everybody knew 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:25.080 I was sick. 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:26.000 There was nothing you could do. 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:31.360 But for a long time, it was really uncomfortable for 0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:33.520 me to sit there while everyone just kept eating and 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:36.480 eating and eating, and for me to have eaten my 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:41.719 portion and not be able to like you know, to 0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:44.359 give myself any flexibility. It was very very hard for me. 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:47.199 But I do remember so before I was anorexic, I 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:50.000 was always a very big yoyo dieter. My first diet 0:20:50.400 --> 0:20:52.720 weight Watchers nineteen ninety four. After that, I was a 0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:57.119 humongous yoyo diter. I mean like up twenty town, twenty twenty, down. 0:20:57.000 --> 0:20:59.119 Twenty yes and came to the right place. 0:20:59.640 --> 0:21:03.880 My sophomore year in college, I came home from school 0:21:03.920 --> 0:21:07.400 and I had gained a little bit of weight, which 0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:10.280 always very very hard for me to come home. When 0:21:10.320 --> 0:21:12.680 I gained weight, I never felt good about myself. I 0:21:12.680 --> 0:21:14.400 didn't want to see anybody. 0:21:14.280 --> 0:21:16.640 Especially see my dad and my mom too. 0:21:16.680 --> 0:21:19.680 But it was like everybody people from high school, even 0:21:19.760 --> 0:21:22.800 my parents, my dad, you know, like they wouldn't say anything, 0:21:22.840 --> 0:21:24.720 but like I could tell that they could tell, you know, 0:21:24.760 --> 0:21:26.840 Like I just always felt very bad and I felt 0:21:26.920 --> 0:21:30.080 terrible about myself. And that Thanksgiving was the only time 0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:33.919 I ever like really binge. I remember just eating a 0:21:34.000 --> 0:21:36.720 pie and I couldn't stop, and I was just eating 0:21:36.720 --> 0:21:38.280 the pie and eating the pie, and I was like 0:21:38.320 --> 0:21:40.760 fuck it, and I just kept eating the pie and 0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:43.240 I canceled all my plans. I didn't have that many 0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:44.960 friends in high school. I had a really hard time 0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:47.520 in high school, but I did have some plans that weekend, 0:21:47.600 --> 0:21:48.640 and I canceled all them. 0:21:48.680 --> 0:21:50.760 I could literally couldn't even button my pants and I 0:21:50.760 --> 0:21:51.840 felt sick to my stomach. 0:21:52.480 --> 0:21:55.560 And you know, even in recovery, Thanksgiving is one of 0:21:55.600 --> 0:21:58.240 those holidays where I feel this pressure to eat more 0:21:58.240 --> 0:22:01.520 than I want to eat. So it's always it's always 0:22:01.520 --> 0:22:06.679 been a pretty loaded holiday from a food perspective, just me. 0:22:07.080 --> 0:22:10.160 But I do enjoy now being. 0:22:10.000 --> 0:22:12.760 Able to eat everything and taste everything, and I give myself, 0:22:12.800 --> 0:22:15.080 you know, of course, permission to eat everything that I want, 0:22:15.200 --> 0:22:16.080 but I also. 0:22:15.880 --> 0:22:19.080 Try to stop. Well, we get full, it's because you're 0:22:19.200 --> 0:22:21.320 and I hate this, because we have. We start eating 0:22:21.359 --> 0:22:25.760 appetizers and whatever, and then by the time dinner is served, 0:22:25.800 --> 0:22:29.440 there's been so much picking and that like we sit 0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:32.680 down for I don't know, maybe forty minutes and it's 0:22:32.680 --> 0:22:36.200 been so much prep, days of prep, and then so full, 0:22:36.359 --> 0:22:40.800 so sick, bring out dessert anyway. And then usually what 0:22:40.840 --> 0:22:44.199 happens is the adult and I can't believe I'm saying that, 0:22:44.200 --> 0:22:48.440 but I mean the grandparents they leave now like everybody's 0:22:48.440 --> 0:22:51.679 still sort of hanging out and they don't sleep over, no, 0:22:52.560 --> 0:22:55.560 but then we all start eating again. Usually it's like, 0:22:56.000 --> 0:22:56.560 but what is. 0:22:56.520 --> 0:22:58.679 It like on ozebic? If you don't mind me asking 0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:00.680 you out eat ozempic. 0:23:01.720 --> 0:23:05.639 Yeah, I mean honestly, like the level of fullness that 0:23:05.680 --> 0:23:09.080 you get isn't like, oh God, I'm gonna die, Like it's. 0:23:08.880 --> 0:23:11.760 Not I don't know fullness like that. I never eat 0:23:11.760 --> 0:23:14.440 to that level, which is like a mental thing. 0:23:14.640 --> 0:23:17.000 I don't know. I don't even know the science behind it. 0:23:17.040 --> 0:23:22.320 But there are times when I like don't even like 0:23:22.520 --> 0:23:25.560 ozempics mozembic, Like I don't even feel it. It's like 0:23:26.359 --> 0:23:29.200 sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, but especially when I'm 0:23:29.200 --> 0:23:31.000 like looking forward to a meal, like even like tonight, 0:23:31.040 --> 0:23:34.600 we're going out for my niece's birthday, and so just 0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:38.000 like any other I guess person that doesn't like I 0:23:38.080 --> 0:23:39.719 really won't eat that much during the day to day 0:23:39.720 --> 0:23:41.600 because I want to have like a great appetite. We're 0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:43.840 going to this I don't know, special dumpling place that 0:23:43.880 --> 0:23:45.639 she wants to go to. But are you hungry and 0:23:45.640 --> 0:23:47.720 you're not eating or you just don't even feel the hungry? No, 0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:51.200 I do, Oh I feel hunger. It's I can't. I mean, 0:23:51.320 --> 0:23:53.240 it's such a good question. I wish I had the answer. 0:23:53.240 --> 0:23:57.160 But yes, I am absolutely able to eat way more 0:23:57.200 --> 0:24:01.760 than I usually would enjoy it more. But Also, it's 0:24:01.760 --> 0:24:05.360 funny because Jeff got on recently what he got on ozmpic. 0:24:05.800 --> 0:24:08.240 We always say ozempic, right, that's what that's the catch 0:24:09.040 --> 0:24:11.720 or whatever it is. And yeah, and he said to me, 0:24:11.760 --> 0:24:14.280 he's like, I'm gonna go off it because I want 0:24:14.280 --> 0:24:17.400 to have a really good appetite for Thanksgiving. He's never 0:24:17.440 --> 0:24:20.240 had a Thanksgiving on it, so which, yeah, you know, 0:24:20.760 --> 0:24:24.439 go for it. He tolerated, He's tolerated very well. He 0:24:24.440 --> 0:24:27.520 hasn't had he's lost like he needed to lose some 0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:32.440 weight because he just has tried everything and crazy diets. 0:24:32.480 --> 0:24:35.320 And I just was worried because he's he's short, you know, 0:24:35.359 --> 0:24:38.560 and he is just this big belly and it's kind 0:24:38.560 --> 0:24:40.440 of dangerous when you're short, I think, but really short 0:24:40.520 --> 0:24:44.679 or really tall, right, and his grandfather had heart disease. 0:24:44.720 --> 0:24:48.840 So anyway, because he's not a vain person, he wasn't like, 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.480 you know, you don't have to justify it to each through. 0:24:51.600 --> 0:24:53.760 I know, yeah I don't, but whatever, I mean, I 0:24:53.800 --> 0:24:55.600 don't agree with it when you don't. 0:24:56.000 --> 0:24:59.040 My my issue is with the unregulated use, but that's 0:24:59.359 --> 0:25:01.960 for another time. Like if he's being if he needed 0:25:02.000 --> 0:25:04.639 it and for health reasons and he's watching himself and 0:25:04.640 --> 0:25:06.840 he was overweight, then go for it. 0:25:06.920 --> 0:25:11.000 So he I don't know, he's lost like probably maybe 0:25:11.040 --> 0:25:13.840 eight pounds. Those we love it. It's just it's a 0:25:13.960 --> 0:25:16.600 very listen, we won't go too deep into this, but yeah, 0:25:16.640 --> 0:25:18.159 but everybody, when I find when people get on it, 0:25:18.160 --> 0:25:20.880 they're like, it's a very strange thing to not have 0:25:21.000 --> 0:25:27.400 your brain so preoccupied with food or to like get satiated. 0:25:28.240 --> 0:25:31.199 And I, well, he did. It's a different thing. I 0:25:31.320 --> 0:25:33.920 always had eating disorder, not always, but in and out 0:25:33.920 --> 0:25:35.560 of eating disorders, but like I never knew what it 0:25:35.600 --> 0:25:37.520 was like to just not be in the mood, Yeah, 0:25:37.560 --> 0:25:39.639 to like push like alright, I'm done. I don't need that. 0:25:39.720 --> 0:25:41.280 I mean, there are moments where I'm like, God, I 0:25:41.280 --> 0:25:43.720 could get rid of all of this. I could stop 0:25:43.760 --> 0:25:48.520 worrying about everything, sure, you know, but then I would 0:25:48.600 --> 0:25:52.520 never do it personally, because number one, that's not the way, 0:25:52.640 --> 0:25:55.280 that's not the relationship with food that I want for myself. 0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:58.760 But also the knowing that I'd have to be on 0:25:58.800 --> 0:26:02.480 it forever and that without it I would gain so 0:26:02.560 --> 0:26:05.760 much weight it would make me crazy mentally. 0:26:05.400 --> 0:26:09.240 I know. So I get that. I fully get that. Yeah, anyway, Okay, 0:26:09.280 --> 0:26:12.639 let's transition. Do you shop? Do you go out that 0:26:12.720 --> 0:26:15.520 night shopping? So we used to not, well, that's not true. 0:26:15.520 --> 0:26:17.240 I guess it was still No, it was morning. But 0:26:17.359 --> 0:26:19.520 we used to get up on Thanksgiving and it used 0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:22.439 to be way colder. Whatever this is about global warming 0:26:22.760 --> 0:26:25.119 or whatever, but it used to be freezing on Thanksgiving 0:26:25.200 --> 0:26:27.879 here in New Jersey. And we would get up, especially 0:26:27.920 --> 0:26:30.960 my cousin Debbie and I, at like four o'clock in 0:26:31.000 --> 0:26:34.560 the morning for Black Friday. We would yes, we would 0:26:34.640 --> 0:26:37.560 bundle up, we stop Dunkin Donuts. It was a lot 0:26:37.600 --> 0:26:38.880 of times it was four of us. I have two 0:26:38.920 --> 0:26:40.919 cousins and would be my sister and my two and 0:26:40.960 --> 0:26:43.040 we would go stand online. And this is at the 0:26:43.040 --> 0:26:46.040 time where like we had little ones, so like we'd 0:26:46.040 --> 0:26:50.320 stand online at Toys r Us and waiting to get 0:26:50.320 --> 0:26:53.399 in and then oh, Jackie, it was so much fun. 0:26:54.160 --> 0:26:56.160 I mean, I guess it wasn't when we were freezing, 0:26:56.200 --> 0:26:58.640 but I have such great memories of it. Like Toys 0:26:58.680 --> 0:27:00.880 r Us is not even around anymore, which breaks my heart. 0:27:00.920 --> 0:27:03.480 But you know, it was the best and you get 0:27:03.520 --> 0:27:05.560 the yes and you'd get into that toy store and 0:27:05.600 --> 0:27:09.359 everything have let's say like a yellow tag and two 0:27:09.400 --> 0:27:12.760 for one, and you felt like you were I know. 0:27:12.920 --> 0:27:14.560 It was so fun, you know, Formonica. 0:27:14.600 --> 0:27:17.399 I used to stick the kids in when they were 0:27:17.440 --> 0:27:19.600 really little, you know, so they were all really close 0:27:19.640 --> 0:27:20.000 in age. 0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:21.240 They were only two years apart. 0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:24.480 So when they were like four and two, I used 0:27:24.520 --> 0:27:26.320 to take them to the one in Paramus right so 0:27:26.840 --> 0:27:29.720 near where jen Aiden lives. And there was a huge 0:27:29.840 --> 0:27:32.880 choice of us and I'd have two in the wagon 0:27:33.200 --> 0:27:35.240 right and then two like. 0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:36.040 Walking with me. 0:27:36.480 --> 0:27:39.560 And I used to let them pick out like a 0:27:39.560 --> 0:27:42.280 few gifts each for Hankah, and it was just the funnest. 0:27:42.440 --> 0:27:44.840 I never like four hours, oh my god, and your 0:27:44.880 --> 0:27:46.520 little kid comes back in like I would want to 0:27:46.520 --> 0:27:48.879 go into the doll section. Now, Rachel, of course was 0:27:48.880 --> 0:27:51.439 never into dolls, right, she was always into like, you know, 0:27:52.040 --> 0:27:54.119 I don't know, different, and I wanted her because I 0:27:54.119 --> 0:27:55.600 was so into baby dolls. And I would go into 0:27:55.640 --> 0:27:58.480 the doll section and like you're you know, you're inner, 0:27:59.280 --> 0:28:01.800 little girl all comes out and I just, I don't know, 0:28:01.880 --> 0:28:03.720 I loved it. I loved it, loved it, loved it, 0:28:03.880 --> 0:28:05.359 like I don't know. 0:28:05.440 --> 0:28:06.679 That was toy stores. 0:28:06.680 --> 0:28:08.920 They're so great, you know, toy stores and you know 0:28:08.960 --> 0:28:11.160 what else I miss video stores? 0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:13.680 Really. I remember the smell of. 0:28:14.080 --> 0:28:16.720 Video store, well sort of Blockbuster. There was this one 0:28:16.720 --> 0:28:18.560 on Staten Islands that we used to go to. My 0:28:18.640 --> 0:28:21.720 dad and I used to go every week, right, and 0:28:21.760 --> 0:28:25.200 it was called Selective Video. And I remember looking I 0:28:25.280 --> 0:28:27.040 used to look at the dirty covers. 0:28:27.160 --> 0:28:29.520 Yeah, like and there was this movie spring Break. 0:28:29.560 --> 0:28:31.359 Do you remember that movie spring Break where they went 0:28:31.400 --> 0:28:33.840 to Fort Lauderdale And on the cover there was like 0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:36.600 a girl in a bikini and her body was stretched 0:28:36.600 --> 0:28:39.360 out on the sand and like there was little figurines 0:28:39.360 --> 0:28:41.360 of all the guys walking on her body. 0:28:41.520 --> 0:28:44.320 And I used to think it was like porn. I 0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:45.040 loved it. 0:28:45.080 --> 0:28:47.560 I used to look at like the porky'st cover and 0:28:47.680 --> 0:28:49.160 like I thought it was like porn. 0:28:49.760 --> 0:28:52.560 Yeah. I love the smell of a video So I 0:28:52.640 --> 0:28:54.200 love going in there because I love like it in 0:28:54.240 --> 0:28:56.840 the candy and the boxes. Yeah, that was your night, 0:28:56.960 --> 0:29:00.440 Like like are listening to do or don't remember that? 0:29:00.520 --> 0:29:03.960 But that was like TV simpler time. 0:29:04.080 --> 0:29:06.320 God, everything was so much simpler and no phones and 0:29:06.360 --> 0:29:08.360 like the kids know, like the concept of the fact 0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:09.880 that we didn't have phones when we were growing up, 0:29:09.880 --> 0:29:11.280 but like how. 0:29:11.120 --> 0:29:14.840 Beautiful and even just from then to now, like the 0:29:14.840 --> 0:29:16.760 times that we would go to toys r us. Now 0:29:16.760 --> 0:29:19.760 everything is online. We don't get up. We shot, we 0:29:19.920 --> 0:29:21.480 try to get out there, but even getting out there 0:29:21.520 --> 0:29:23.360 doesn't matter because we know that we could something about 0:29:23.360 --> 0:29:24.719 the fact that we could be home and on our 0:29:24.720 --> 0:29:28.920 computer and on getting Amazon Prime. It's like and it 0:29:29.000 --> 0:29:30.800 just took away. It takes away this. I know. 0:29:30.880 --> 0:29:35.400 It makes me worry, like there's so many beautiful, real 0:29:35.440 --> 0:29:39.360 life things that are being missed. Yeah, that are just online. 0:29:39.520 --> 0:29:44.080 This is like a very glum sad. No, no, it's amazing. Listen, 0:29:44.160 --> 0:29:46.120 you're alive, you're breathing. It's thank god. 0:29:46.320 --> 0:29:47.080 Hey, now you're. 0:29:46.960 --> 0:29:50.040 Having family over for Thanksgiving. I have all four of 0:29:50.040 --> 0:29:52.560 my in laws, I have my four healthy kids. 0:29:52.600 --> 0:29:54.880 Like, it's amazing. Do you guys do I like Black 0:29:54.880 --> 0:29:58.840 Friday because you're also thinking about the next celebration, which 0:29:58.880 --> 0:29:59.960 is whatever Christmas? 0:30:00.440 --> 0:30:04.720 Like I am that jew who absolutely loves Christmas music. 0:30:04.800 --> 0:30:07.720 Yeah, me too. Oh my god, you put me you 0:30:07.920 --> 0:30:10.400 tarn a candle and put on some Christmas music too. 0:30:10.480 --> 0:30:13.480 I don't cry at a Folders's commercial. I love it. 0:30:13.520 --> 0:30:16.680 I love Christmas specials. I love Christmas. I love fireplaces, 0:30:16.720 --> 0:30:19.280 I love Christmas trees. I love driving around my neighbor 0:30:19.400 --> 0:30:21.400 looking at the lights. Yep, I love all of it. 0:30:21.440 --> 0:30:23.960 I love a friends giving. Yes, I love my friends 0:30:24.000 --> 0:30:24.880 around the holidays. 0:30:24.920 --> 0:30:26.880 I love being cozy. Yeah, I love all of it. 0:30:27.040 --> 0:30:28.160 I do too. Yeah. 0:30:28.200 --> 0:30:31.920 So I guess even with technology and online and social media. 0:30:32.040 --> 0:30:36.800 There is there is still beautiful you know moments. 0:30:36.880 --> 0:30:41.520 But I do think that it's a particularly hard time 0:30:41.720 --> 0:30:44.360 with social media for people who are lonely, who maybe 0:30:44.360 --> 0:30:47.040 don't have the family. But we'll do a loneliness episode 0:30:47.040 --> 0:30:48.920 one day, because I think that's an epidemic that really 0:30:48.920 --> 0:30:51.360 needs to be addressed. But I can't imagine like you 0:30:51.440 --> 0:30:54.720 and I having these wonderful thanksgivings. Yours are bigger than mine. 0:30:54.800 --> 0:30:57.640 Mine are still, you know, super special. But like for 0:30:57.720 --> 0:31:01.160 people who have access to seeing what everybody else is 0:31:01.200 --> 0:31:04.480 doing and don't have that family must be very difficult. 0:31:04.640 --> 0:31:06.600 You know. One of the things that I love is 0:31:06.600 --> 0:31:09.440 that somebody's always bringing someone, so there's always someone who 0:31:09.440 --> 0:31:12.800 hasn't been here before. And like this year, Zach is 0:31:12.800 --> 0:31:16.880 bringing one of his friends from law school. But the 0:31:16.960 --> 0:31:19.800 kids also either they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend 0:31:20.000 --> 0:31:23.920 or whatever, and it's fun to have like that person 0:31:24.400 --> 0:31:27.800 come back again and like join just somebody else, because 0:31:27.800 --> 0:31:29.160 you know, you get like you're looking at it through 0:31:29.160 --> 0:31:32.800 somebody else's eyes kind of. And my family is nuts 0:31:32.920 --> 0:31:35.360 and completely over the top and loud, and I think 0:31:35.400 --> 0:31:38.959 that it's fun and funny. Yeah to be around. Yeah, 0:31:39.080 --> 0:31:41.040 you know, it's nice. Do you remember that story? I 0:31:41.080 --> 0:31:42.120 think it was Thanksgiving? 0:31:42.120 --> 0:31:44.760 Correct me if I'm wrong, but where the old lady 0:31:45.360 --> 0:31:50.040 sent the Thanksgiving invite to the wrong number to this kid, 0:31:50.520 --> 0:31:52.960 and the kid said, you sent it to the wrong number, 0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.120 But I'd love to come. And it's been like a decade, 0:31:55.120 --> 0:31:56.560 and who's been going to her house every year? 0:31:56.560 --> 0:31:59.200 I have it. I think it was Thanksgiving. Yeah, it's 0:31:59.200 --> 0:32:01.760 the most beautiful. I love it be Christmas, but I 0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:04.320 think it is Thanksgiving. I always have Thanksgiving. I was 0:32:04.320 --> 0:32:06.680 in both. My friend Lane and I both invite my 0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:09.720 We had a friend who passed from ovarian cancer quite 0:32:09.760 --> 0:32:13.640 a few years ago, and her husband also passed unexpectedly 0:32:13.680 --> 0:32:15.760 when she was sick of a heart attack. So they 0:32:15.760 --> 0:32:19.360 had two kids, Oh wow, who and then at that 0:32:19.400 --> 0:32:22.360 point raised by their grandparents, who I'm very close to anyway, 0:32:22.480 --> 0:32:24.800 So this was a dear friend of ours, and so 0:32:24.840 --> 0:32:28.200 we always have them their grandparents and the boys always stop. 0:32:28.360 --> 0:32:29.680 I always want them to say, but they always have 0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:32.560 like reservations in the city. So but like every Thanksgiving, 0:32:32.600 --> 0:32:34.080 I don't get to see them a lot, so we 0:32:34.120 --> 0:32:36.560 get to see them and it's just like special. It's 0:32:36.600 --> 0:32:38.960 just nice. It's like my whole family now knows them, 0:32:39.000 --> 0:32:41.320 and it's just things like you know, like I guess 0:32:41.360 --> 0:32:44.760 it's just like everything else goes away. I feel like, 0:32:44.840 --> 0:32:46.840 oh my god, I'm so happy we are talking about this. 0:32:46.880 --> 0:32:49.320 It makes me excited for it. I know, I do. 0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:50.560 I love it. I really really. 0:32:50.920 --> 0:32:52.560 It reminds me that I have to put in my order. 0:32:52.680 --> 0:32:54.640 Oh god, looking, but it's late this year. It's the 0:32:54.760 --> 0:32:56.160 very end of November. 0:32:56.720 --> 0:32:57.000 Yeah. 0:32:57.120 --> 0:33:00.640 Last year, I remember on Black Friday, I took Alexus 0:33:00.680 --> 0:33:02.040 to get her ears pierced. 0:33:01.920 --> 0:33:05.200 And because she really wanted a second hole, and. 0:33:05.160 --> 0:33:07.719 I was like, I'll get some piercings too, So I 0:33:07.760 --> 0:33:09.040 have You're so funny. 0:33:09.080 --> 0:33:10.360 You have like this rocktership. 0:33:10.680 --> 0:33:13.400 Oh I want my entire back covert and tattoos. By 0:33:13.440 --> 0:33:17.240 the way, yes, I'm actively thinking about my guys. 0:33:19.160 --> 0:33:19.520 So much. 0:33:19.520 --> 0:33:22.080 So I've eight of them on my back and I 0:33:22.120 --> 0:33:24.960 only let myself get one a year, otherwise I will like, 0:33:25.040 --> 0:33:27.600 I'll Pete Davidson the hell and myself. But I although 0:33:27.600 --> 0:33:30.640 he's getting his removed, my getting like that, and I 0:33:30.720 --> 0:33:33.680 love they're so addictive. So I'm actively thinking about my 0:33:33.720 --> 0:33:35.160 next one send ideas. 0:33:35.360 --> 0:33:38.040 But so I was like, all right, I'll get I'll 0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:38.960 get my ears pierced. 0:33:39.760 --> 0:33:42.040 And I don't know if it's because I'm an old 0:33:42.080 --> 0:33:44.280 fuddy duddy or what, but like I got so, I 0:33:44.280 --> 0:33:46.520 got a third hole in one ear and a fourth 0:33:46.520 --> 0:33:49.680 hole in the other, and both of them like just 0:33:49.760 --> 0:33:53.280 did not work out. They were so painful, and now 0:33:53.280 --> 0:33:58.880 they are both ciss to look. They're like big white. 0:34:00.000 --> 0:34:03.200 I know I have to get them like taken out, 0:34:03.360 --> 0:34:05.080 like I have to get them. I mean, like they 0:34:05.120 --> 0:34:09.560 closed up like you never saying listen, dude, oh you're old. 0:34:10.320 --> 0:34:12.920 I know this is such a this is like an aside, 0:34:12.960 --> 0:34:14.680 but you and I have got to at some point 0:34:14.719 --> 0:34:16.839 get to the bottom of the tattoo thing. No one 0:34:16.840 --> 0:34:18.560 can explain it to me. I look at my sister 0:34:18.640 --> 0:34:20.799 and my cousin, I'm like, why do you have one? Oh? 0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:24.400 Not one? No, you do. I had my eyelids, my eyeliner. 0:34:24.520 --> 0:34:26.160 Now you have that one. No, I took it off 0:34:26.200 --> 0:34:28.560 a long time ago. I had them when I was separated. 0:34:28.600 --> 0:34:30.359 You guys that I'm not sure. Okay, No, I didn't 0:34:30.360 --> 0:34:32.680 mean to blow up your spot and you can. Doesn't matter. 0:34:32.840 --> 0:34:34.680 But I had one, a really stupid one that when 0:34:34.760 --> 0:34:37.200 Jeff and I were separated and I had this boyfriend 0:34:37.360 --> 0:34:40.600 and we were wasted in Miami and I got this tattoo. 0:34:40.920 --> 0:34:43.560 And it's it's really not a good story. I don't 0:34:43.560 --> 0:34:45.360 even know that. I kind of I'd like to be 0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:48.919 an open book. It was a really really stupid move. 0:34:48.960 --> 0:34:50.439 I just let's just leave it there for now. Maybe 0:34:50.480 --> 0:34:53.400 we'll cover that another time. But anyway, that's removed. But 0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:56.120 I didn't get it. I almost got it. Whatever, I've 0:34:56.120 --> 0:34:59.040 never been into tattoos, but I don't get what is 0:34:59.080 --> 0:34:59.480 the well. 0:34:59.480 --> 0:35:01.399 I didn't get my first one until I was thirty eight, 0:35:02.120 --> 0:35:04.160 and then I've gotten one like almost. 0:35:03.880 --> 0:35:07.000 Every year since. All right, sorry, so all right, so 0:35:07.040 --> 0:35:09.240 we digress. So Black Friday. 0:35:09.560 --> 0:35:13.040 I do love shopping on Black Friday, but I don't 0:35:13.080 --> 0:35:13.880 love crowds. 0:35:14.080 --> 0:35:16.919 I love crowds, I don't love it. Like when you're 0:35:16.960 --> 0:35:20.440 hot and you brought your jacket and it's like it's on, 0:35:20.640 --> 0:35:22.880 it's off, you're sick of it whatever. But at the beginning, 0:35:22.880 --> 0:35:24.040 I love it because I love like being in the 0:35:24.080 --> 0:35:26.400 source with the Christmas used to playing like and I 0:35:26.440 --> 0:35:27.000 love a deal. 0:35:27.640 --> 0:35:32.880 Yeah, I do remember in college the Macy's near me 0:35:33.239 --> 0:35:37.120 used to make the most festive, like everything was just 0:35:37.160 --> 0:35:38.439 like red velvet and. 0:35:38.440 --> 0:35:41.200 Smelled like pumpkin. Yes, oh god, I used to. 0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:43.120 When I would get homesick in college, I would go 0:35:43.200 --> 0:35:45.200 over to the Maces and just like stroll around and 0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:46.400 like feel cozy. 0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:49.640 Really yeah, I love that. I love the Maces in 0:35:49.640 --> 0:35:51.279 New York City used to work right across the street 0:35:51.560 --> 0:35:53.880 at holiday time. That was also very cool. I know, 0:35:54.040 --> 0:35:56.759 I love the holidays in New York. You know, so yeah, 0:35:56.800 --> 0:36:00.080 so Black Friday. I don't know what deals where you 0:36:00.120 --> 0:36:03.360 ask Jeff Vessel right now, Like we are spending money recently, 0:36:03.360 --> 0:36:05.400 like it's just going out of style. We just had 0:36:05.400 --> 0:36:07.000 our boiler break. I don't know how much money we're 0:36:07.000 --> 0:36:09.239 spending on on guys here. Yeah, that was a quick 0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:13.040 fifteen thousand dollars and then traveling even Vegas. We went 0:36:13.040 --> 0:36:15.880 to Vegas for my birthday. For everything is a fortune. 0:36:15.920 --> 0:36:19.719 Everything is so expensive. My kids don't even understand money, 0:36:19.760 --> 0:36:22.640 and they just want and want and like you want 0:36:22.680 --> 0:36:23.440 to give them, but you. 0:36:23.400 --> 0:36:26.640 Also listen Jack, I mean my kids there, Yeah, we 0:36:26.719 --> 0:36:31.680 spoil them. But my son is definitely very money conscious 0:36:31.719 --> 0:36:34.080 and like now that he's in school, but he's very 0:36:34.080 --> 0:36:35.560 He made money, you worked for a couple of years. 0:36:36.040 --> 0:36:40.640 My daughter not as much. But we're working on it. Yeah. 0:36:40.680 --> 0:36:44.160 But I just I love shopping. I love and I 0:36:44.320 --> 0:36:46.320 love getting a deal. So I love Black Friday. I 0:36:46.360 --> 0:36:52.000 love getting into Cyber Monday. Or yes, okay, so Black Friday. 0:36:53.000 --> 0:36:55.480 What else before we talk about something a little deeper 0:36:55.520 --> 0:36:58.200 in terms of gratitude and thanksgiving to all the guys. 0:36:59.280 --> 0:37:02.040 I know that sounds access, But to do people leave 0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:04.440 to watch football? Yes? Yes, and they all go sit 0:37:04.520 --> 0:37:04.960 on the couch. 0:37:05.160 --> 0:37:08.319 That's a nice moment when like everybody is full and 0:37:08.360 --> 0:37:11.239 everything was successful and everyone got along and then you 0:37:11.280 --> 0:37:13.279 all go like just sit, you have. 0:37:13.239 --> 0:37:14.680 A glass of wine and. 0:37:14.680 --> 0:37:17.880 Watch football and talk. That's that's maybe one of my 0:37:17.920 --> 0:37:18.640 favorite parts. 0:37:18.719 --> 0:37:21.719 I don't watch football. I'm actually trying to recently like 0:37:22.000 --> 0:37:25.400 understand it. My you know, my son and my husband 0:37:25.400 --> 0:37:28.560 had been obsessed with football it's whatever. So I'm trying 0:37:28.600 --> 0:37:31.600 because it's just always on in my house. But anyway, yeah, 0:37:31.600 --> 0:37:33.560 I love that too. Well, they're Giants fans, right, yes, 0:37:33.760 --> 0:37:36.560 are the Giants staying well? I don't know. My family 0:37:36.600 --> 0:37:39.279 is Jet fans, okay, and the Jets never do well 0:37:39.360 --> 0:37:40.560 and they are Now. Do you know that my son 0:37:40.600 --> 0:37:41.720 is named after the Jets? 0:37:41.840 --> 0:37:42.080 No? 0:37:42.320 --> 0:37:42.600 Yeah. 0:37:42.800 --> 0:37:45.880 So when we had our first set of twins, I 0:37:45.920 --> 0:37:49.160 said to Evan, because my maiden name is A is 0:37:49.200 --> 0:37:53.040 a first name, so I said, it's Mark, and I said, 0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:57.760 I would like our firstborn son to be named after 0:37:58.560 --> 0:38:01.640 my family name. His middle name to be Mark because 0:38:01.719 --> 0:38:06.360 I love it. That's done. Like my brother didn't have kids, 0:38:07.000 --> 0:38:10.080 and my only male cousin is not here. Oh he 0:38:10.120 --> 0:38:13.640 wasn't Mark anyway, but yeah, so my last name is 0:38:13.640 --> 0:38:17.640 pretty much done okay. And so he said, yeah, that's great, 0:38:17.680 --> 0:38:21.080 that's fine. I want this baby be I want his 0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:22.520 middle name to be after the Jets. 0:38:22.520 --> 0:38:24.839 And I said, well, what are you thinking? He said, Jet? 0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:26.600 So Aiden's name is Aiden Jet. 0:38:27.400 --> 0:38:30.279 I said, though, I said, you can if you do this, 0:38:30.719 --> 0:38:33.560 you can never say this is not my team anymore. 0:38:33.560 --> 0:38:34.759 You can never give up on the seam. 0:38:35.120 --> 0:38:37.480 So every year when he screams like I'm getting done 0:38:37.520 --> 0:38:39.080 with this team. I hate this team. I said, no, 0:38:39.160 --> 0:38:41.600 you can't. You named our child after them, said with 0:38:41.680 --> 0:38:42.440 them forever? 0:38:42.760 --> 0:38:46.080 Yeah no, I mean my were a Giants family, whatever 0:38:46.120 --> 0:38:48.480 that means. But if you to know Jeff Wesler is 0:38:48.480 --> 0:38:51.080 to know to never probably ever hear him scream or 0:38:51.200 --> 0:38:56.160 escalate really except when he's watching football and he's so 0:38:57.080 --> 0:38:59.600 I think to myself, this is like his outlet, Like 0:38:59.600 --> 0:39:02.759 he's he has all this rage apparently from knows where 0:39:02.760 --> 0:39:04.920 it comes from that and the only time that he 0:39:05.000 --> 0:39:09.960 gets to like release it is around fort It's like 0:39:10.000 --> 0:39:12.400 there's a different pert. So he's not even the same person. 0:39:12.480 --> 0:39:14.960 He starts screaming, and it doesn't matter what time it is. 0:39:15.600 --> 0:39:18.760 I could be sleeping as Kevin too. He doesn't anything 0:39:18.800 --> 0:39:29.759 except sport. It's the weirdest thing. Yeah, Jack, you had 0:39:29.760 --> 0:39:32.040 made a list of like just fun like conversations. 0:39:32.120 --> 0:39:33.960 Yeah, like if you run out of things to talk 0:39:34.000 --> 0:39:38.279 about at the Thanksgiving table, like conversation starters. Okay, So 0:39:38.400 --> 0:39:40.719 if you could only eat one thing for the rest 0:39:40.760 --> 0:39:41.080 of your. 0:39:40.960 --> 0:39:43.319 Life, what would it be? That's always easy because like 0:39:43.360 --> 0:39:45.120 I love the question of like if you're going to 0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:48.560 the chair, to the electric chair. God forbid, Big Mac 0:39:49.000 --> 0:39:52.440 extra pickles hot though, Like, haven't hit Mac extra pickle? 0:39:52.520 --> 0:39:54.200 Oh my god, I haven't had it since in the cakes? 0:39:54.239 --> 0:39:54.919 Oh my god? 0:39:55.120 --> 0:39:55.359 Good? 0:39:56.040 --> 0:39:58.359 Is it good? Well, I'm telling you it's the last 0:39:58.360 --> 0:40:01.040 thing that I would eat with like French eyes, like 0:40:01.080 --> 0:40:02.480 they have to come right off of the thing. 0:40:02.520 --> 0:40:05.919 I think I would get myself like like a ton 0:40:06.200 --> 0:40:08.360 of hot bread and butter. 0:40:08.560 --> 0:40:10.440 Yeah, and just eat that. I can hear. I can 0:40:10.480 --> 0:40:13.680 hear that. I mean pizza, pasta bread. But if it's 0:40:13.719 --> 0:40:16.680 my if that's it, Big Mac, Oh my god hot. 0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:18.360 All right, Well, if I ever decided to eat a 0:40:18.480 --> 0:40:20.240 big Mac, I want to do it with you. Please 0:40:20.280 --> 0:40:23.439 do please. Oh that's a good one. Oh my gosh. 0:40:23.480 --> 0:40:25.120 What do you think was the best prank you ever pulled? 0:40:25.200 --> 0:40:25.799 Can I tell you what? 0:40:25.840 --> 0:40:28.880 One of my favorite moments, yes, ever, was when you 0:40:28.960 --> 0:40:31.320 and I first started becoming friends. 0:40:31.320 --> 0:40:32.360 Do you know what I'm going to say? 0:40:33.120 --> 0:40:35.960 When you and I first started becoming friends. Okay, so 0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:40.560 we were going to Ireland. Jenna and I really were getting. 0:40:40.440 --> 0:40:41.600 Like to be close friends. 0:40:41.680 --> 0:40:44.560 But anyway, I sort of started noticing that you really 0:40:44.680 --> 0:40:48.080 was like funny and goofy and we had only known 0:40:48.120 --> 0:40:49.320 each other for a few months. 0:40:49.440 --> 0:40:51.760 Yeah, and I actually say that you did this on purpose? 0:40:51.760 --> 0:40:55.640 Are you talking about the No? No, not not the luvas? Okay? 0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:58.719 And we had to go shopping for Ireland, and I 0:40:58.760 --> 0:41:03.520 remember I called her and I was like, where are you? 0:41:04.040 --> 0:41:06.120 Like we were talking and she's like, I'm at nordstrum 0:41:06.120 --> 0:41:09.080 Man and I was at Nordstrom too, and I was like, okay, 0:41:09.239 --> 0:41:11.360 So I saw her in the department. 0:41:11.440 --> 0:41:13.600 So I went into the same department. 0:41:14.640 --> 0:41:17.839 She was by a rack and I crouched down next 0:41:17.840 --> 0:41:19.920 to the rack and I like reached through and I 0:41:20.080 --> 0:41:20.799 grabbed her. 0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:25.040 She screamed. It was just the funniest I have not 0:41:25.120 --> 0:41:27.120 thought about that since it happened. Isn't that the fun 0:41:27.640 --> 0:41:30.000 So that was how I can't even believe that that 0:41:30.120 --> 0:41:33.440 was a million years at that time. So everything was 0:41:33.480 --> 0:41:36.040 really happy on the show. We had a group check 0:41:36.080 --> 0:41:39.239 go and imagine this everyone. We had a group chat 0:41:39.360 --> 0:41:41.480 with everyone and people weren't and not everybody was like 0:41:41.520 --> 0:41:45.080 there was every everybody. Every memory saw off of it 0:41:45.160 --> 0:41:47.400 because we wanted to get her things for because it 0:41:47.520 --> 0:41:51.200 was like it was like a bachelorette things. Imagine that 0:41:51.440 --> 0:41:55.279 what a difference two years make what happened? You're asking 0:41:55.320 --> 0:41:55.920 the wrong girl. 0:41:55.840 --> 0:41:58.080 And the fights just go too far. I wish that 0:41:58.160 --> 0:42:00.439 they didn't, you think, like I wish every it could 0:42:00.440 --> 0:42:01.080 just move forward. 0:42:01.160 --> 0:42:03.759 But like, whatever that was, that is so bizarre to 0:42:03.840 --> 0:42:06.200 me that we actually I remember being in Nordstroms. I 0:42:06.320 --> 0:42:09.600 was like that for a long time. Everybody was like chat. 0:42:09.719 --> 0:42:12.279 It was always fighting, but it was never it was 0:42:12.480 --> 0:42:15.480 a like show ending. But okay, anyway, these are just 0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:17.799 some like topics. You guys, you want to eat as 0:42:17.800 --> 0:42:19.520 a kid with the best movie your TV show. You're 0:42:19.520 --> 0:42:21.120 just saying you see it as a kid. Wait, there 0:42:21.200 --> 0:42:22.360 was this thing called bagel dogs. 0:42:22.400 --> 0:42:23.839 I don't know if they're still around, but we used 0:42:23.840 --> 0:42:26.200 to get them delivered to the house by like I 0:42:26.280 --> 0:42:28.000 don't know. They came in pacts of like thirty and 0:42:28.000 --> 0:42:29.399 you stuck them in your freezer. 0:42:29.600 --> 0:42:33.840 And they were a hot dog on a stick covered 0:42:33.920 --> 0:42:37.399 in bagel bread. Corn dog. I used to I don't 0:42:37.400 --> 0:42:39.279 know what it is a corn dog? Is that this 0:42:39.360 --> 0:42:41.400 is because I grew up in Texas. I don't know 0:42:41.440 --> 0:42:42.960 what a corn dog. Corn dog is like picture like 0:42:43.040 --> 0:42:45.800 corn muffin or corn meal over the hot dogs. So 0:42:45.920 --> 0:42:48.120 I guess instead of cornmeal. It was a big old 0:42:48.880 --> 0:42:50.919 so I used to cut the top off. 0:42:51.160 --> 0:42:53.480 This is when I was a kid, cut the top off, 0:42:53.880 --> 0:42:57.280 and I used to stuff ketch up a ketchup mustard 0:42:57.400 --> 0:42:58.920 and pickles inside and eat. 0:42:58.800 --> 0:43:01.759 It like that and it was so freaking good. Right, Yeah? 0:43:02.040 --> 0:43:03.560 Do you feel like there are certain things I had 0:43:03.560 --> 0:43:05.560 as a kid, certain foods that I've been chasing ever 0:43:05.680 --> 0:43:09.000 since and can't get the same, Like Swedish fish, Like, 0:43:09.160 --> 0:43:12.200 why don't they? They used to be so Now I 0:43:12.360 --> 0:43:15.040 just they're just another candy and I keep waiting for 0:43:15.120 --> 0:43:17.080 them to bring me the match. Are you a candy 0:43:17.120 --> 0:43:19.880 corn hater or a lover? I love it too, love her? 0:43:20.080 --> 0:43:23.799 It's so good. Okay, hold on, all right, let's see. Uh, 0:43:25.000 --> 0:43:27.759 what's your favorite song right now? On repeat? Well? Do 0:43:27.800 --> 0:43:30.960 you play music here? Yeah? Yeah, I mean during Thanksgiving? No, 0:43:31.880 --> 0:43:34.440 it's too loud, but definitely, like I like to have 0:43:34.560 --> 0:43:36.879 music going, Yeah, I like to have happy music going, 0:43:37.000 --> 0:43:40.480 especially now upbeat happy. What is my favorite song right now? 0:43:42.800 --> 0:43:44.560 I'm trying to think, like the ones that actually stick 0:43:44.640 --> 0:43:50.800 in my head. Yeah. So Sabrina Carpenter Espresso only because 0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:52.080 of what happened on Saturday. 0:43:51.800 --> 0:43:52.160 Night Live. 0:43:52.400 --> 0:43:55.280 Did you say, watch it? So they did this skit 0:43:55.760 --> 0:43:57.600 and it just got me like obsessed with the song. 0:43:57.719 --> 0:43:59.960 But and if you had you don't know, you don't 0:44:00.160 --> 0:44:01.960 because it was just like the funniest skit never. You 0:44:02.080 --> 0:44:03.000 have to watch it for a while. 0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:03.759 You have to watch it. 0:44:03.920 --> 0:44:06.319 Yeah, Do you have a secret talent that no one 0:44:06.360 --> 0:44:11.000 knows about? Hmm? I mean I think I did. I 0:44:11.080 --> 0:44:13.120 posted some like weird things that I could do, but 0:44:13.280 --> 0:44:15.719 the weird things in my mouth or like I can do, 0:44:16.680 --> 0:44:18.959 I can actually touch. There's certain like only a certain 0:44:19.200 --> 0:44:21.840 double jointed like a little bit maybe not maybe not 0:44:21.960 --> 0:44:23.920 like I used to be, but there's like apparently you 0:44:24.000 --> 0:44:27.680 can't not everybody can do this or I don't know 0:44:27.800 --> 0:44:30.360 something I thinks like that. But do you I have 0:44:30.480 --> 0:44:33.600 this one weird talent where there's a spot on your hand. 0:44:33.840 --> 0:44:37.080 This freaks my kids out. There's a spot on your 0:44:37.120 --> 0:44:40.120 hand that if you slam it down, it doesn't didn't. 0:44:40.239 --> 0:44:41.680 Did I show you this? I don't know. Do you 0:44:41.719 --> 0:44:42.279 want me to show you? 0:44:42.400 --> 0:44:44.960 No? Yeah, let me show you. Okay, okay, you guys 0:44:45.000 --> 0:44:47.239 can't see this, maybe you can see it. Let me 0:44:47.280 --> 0:44:51.680 position the camera so it's this held up this spot 0:44:51.760 --> 0:44:52.400 in the middle. 0:44:52.160 --> 0:44:54.880 Of your hand. Do not try this out the middle 0:44:54.920 --> 0:44:57.360 of your hand right there, wait under the num takeoff. 0:44:57.800 --> 0:45:02.120 Yeah this red watch freaked out. Okay, watch hold on, 0:45:04.200 --> 0:45:06.880 I care I don't feel anything. If you hit it 0:45:07.000 --> 0:45:08.760 right there, you don't feel anything. 0:45:08.840 --> 0:45:11.400 I wish you guys could see if you are for me. 0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:16.000 It freaks everybody a bruise. No, no, no, I do 0:45:16.120 --> 0:45:18.040 this all the time. You don't feel anything. You do 0:45:18.200 --> 0:45:22.600 not feel a damn thing. Yeah, it's very strange. Whoa 0:45:23.239 --> 0:45:25.480 I am a weirdo. Hold on, I almost want to 0:45:25.520 --> 0:45:27.920 try it like here. Yeah, we are really digressive. Rate 0:45:27.960 --> 0:45:31.600 your hand out like that. Yeah, yeah, and then you 0:45:31.840 --> 0:45:33.320 bang it. You're not going to feel anything. 0:45:33.520 --> 0:45:36.800 I can't. Yeah, I'll do that one day for everybody. 0:45:37.160 --> 0:45:39.480 How we're going to transition from that? It's such a 0:45:39.560 --> 0:45:43.880 fun thank What am I thankful? Because this is doing that? 0:45:44.080 --> 0:45:46.239 I want to say, I'm going to so do that 0:45:46.360 --> 0:45:47.000 on Thanksgiving? 0:45:47.160 --> 0:45:51.960 Yeah, it is you, the entire family. I will Oh 0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:54.239 my gosh, what am I thankful for? 0:45:54.400 --> 0:45:57.439 Well, I'm always above and beyond thankful for the fact 0:45:57.480 --> 0:46:00.400 that I have four healthy children. 0:46:00.560 --> 0:46:02.719 Or because you know they say that. 0:46:04.400 --> 0:46:06.200 You can have a million problems until you have a 0:46:06.239 --> 0:46:08.719 health problem, then you have one problem, you know. So 0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:12.040 I'm very grateful that i have four healthy children and 0:46:12.080 --> 0:46:15.480 that I'm still celebrating with all four grandparents. That to 0:46:15.600 --> 0:46:19.680 me is above and beyond the number one thing, the 0:46:19.800 --> 0:46:22.440 fact that you know, with with so much you know, 0:46:22.600 --> 0:46:26.000 upheaval in the world, that I'm in like a peaceful, 0:46:26.120 --> 0:46:30.120 calm home with a loving husband, and you know, all 0:46:30.200 --> 0:46:31.920 the food we could eat, that we have, the luxury 0:46:31.960 --> 0:46:35.960 of getting full, the really simple things is what I'm 0:46:35.960 --> 0:46:36.440 grateful for. 0:46:37.040 --> 0:46:39.600 I always my grandmother used to always tell me to 0:46:39.640 --> 0:46:42.279 count my blessings. That was like her expression, and I do, 0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:46.759 and I try to every day practice like gratitude, but 0:46:47.080 --> 0:46:49.440 like trying to think because I have those same I'm 0:46:49.480 --> 0:46:51.480 grateful for the same things that you just mentioned, and 0:46:51.520 --> 0:46:53.200 then try to think of like the little things, and 0:46:53.280 --> 0:46:56.000 I think about, like what an adventure this year has been, 0:46:56.120 --> 0:47:00.960 and good and bad. But you know, being on this 0:47:01.120 --> 0:47:05.799 show Housewives of New Jersey brought me to this podcast, 0:47:06.320 --> 0:47:09.520 these adventures, the adventure that is the show. But also 0:47:10.239 --> 0:47:13.480 like you know, and I always reference my age, but 0:47:13.960 --> 0:47:15.959 you've been doing this a long time, long much longer 0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:19.520 than I have. But it's still to me, like sometimes 0:47:20.719 --> 0:47:25.160 it's a very strange thing to experience, you know, this 0:47:25.480 --> 0:47:30.360 world of I don't know TV and people and meeting 0:47:30.440 --> 0:47:33.200 people and having these like new people in my life 0:47:33.320 --> 0:47:36.960 that you know, I wouldn't have known and getting to 0:47:37.080 --> 0:47:39.719 do this stuff. It's like, I am grateful, and it 0:47:39.840 --> 0:47:41.840 is a mixed bag. We both know that it is 0:47:41.960 --> 0:47:44.319 good and it is bad. And there's the fighting part 0:47:44.480 --> 0:47:47.120 is bad. The fighting part is bad. There's a lot 0:47:47.160 --> 0:47:49.160 of at least for me, there's anxiety around a lot 0:47:49.200 --> 0:47:52.440 of it. Yeah, there's stuff, but it's also I'm grateful 0:47:52.560 --> 0:47:54.239 that I had a chance this late in life to 0:47:54.320 --> 0:47:56.680 have fun, to do this, to have that and Jurie 0:47:56.760 --> 0:47:57.799 it doesn't and no matter what. 0:47:57.840 --> 0:48:00.800 Happens with the show, keep reminding yourself, that's that's not 0:48:00.960 --> 0:48:01.400 the end. 0:48:01.560 --> 0:48:04.320 Yeah, that's not the end. That's your launching pad for 0:48:04.440 --> 0:48:08.280 doing other things. You know, I'm grateful, but I'm grateful 0:48:08.360 --> 0:48:10.680 for that. I'm grateful for Jeff Fessler. I'm always grateful 0:48:10.719 --> 0:48:13.200 for him. But like, as we're getting older and like 0:48:13.280 --> 0:48:14.879 I just think of what we've done in the past year, 0:48:14.920 --> 0:48:17.040 and like I just I'm just grateful to be in 0:48:17.080 --> 0:48:20.400 a peaceful marriage. I think it's so hard. I mean, 0:48:20.440 --> 0:48:24.760 we celebrated twenty five years this April. This past April. 0:48:24.840 --> 0:48:28.000 People are dropping like flies around, like a lot of marriages. 0:48:28.120 --> 0:48:30.840 I like every week I feel like a year of 0:48:30.880 --> 0:48:34.000 another because you do friend or especially like the House 0:48:34.120 --> 0:48:37.759 right and the Housewife Girl, House Girl. It's like contagious. 0:48:37.840 --> 0:48:40.000 But I don't know, I'm grateful to have that kind 0:48:40.040 --> 0:48:43.520 of a peaceful life like that with him, you know, 0:48:43.680 --> 0:48:48.640 if we're getting specific. Yeah, same, Really grateful for this podcast. 0:48:48.719 --> 0:48:51.800 I love doing. Yeah, I've been watching Nobody Wants This? 0:48:51.960 --> 0:48:55.520 Did you watch that? Maybe we're Sarah Foster and weis 0:48:55.520 --> 0:48:57.680 shooting the Hot Rabbit. Yeah, yeah, I watched it and 0:48:57.760 --> 0:48:59.759 they have their podcast, and I was like, yeah, it's 0:48:59.800 --> 0:49:04.080 a sister. Yes, I love that. It is fun. Yeah, 0:49:04.280 --> 0:49:06.600 I hope it's fun for you guys to listen. Yeah, 0:49:06.920 --> 0:49:10.920 me too. And if it is Leaveles Server, yes, yes please. Anyway, 0:49:11.040 --> 0:49:12.919 I love this episode, really fun. 0:49:13.080 --> 0:49:17.200 I hope that everybody has a really really nice Thanksgiving 0:49:17.239 --> 0:49:19.440 and you stop for a second and think about what 0:49:19.560 --> 0:49:20.440 you are grateful for. 0:49:21.520 --> 0:49:23.640 Me too, And hopefully it's weird that we're doing this 0:49:23.800 --> 0:49:27.000 on election day because this world and this country is 0:49:27.719 --> 0:49:30.360 in quite a bit of upheaval, so days just like 0:49:30.520 --> 0:49:32.240 stop and breathe. 0:49:32.480 --> 0:49:36.640 Yeah, I just I really hope that everything is peaceful too, 0:49:36.719 --> 0:49:39.000 no matter who wins, that there's no. 0:49:40.600 --> 0:49:45.200 Craziness and come home. Oh yeah so that also, but yeah, 0:49:45.760 --> 0:49:49.080 yeah again for another episode. Okay you guys, happy, happy, happy, 0:49:49.160 --> 0:49:52.080 healthy Thanksgiving, Happy Thanksgiving. See you soon.