Speaker 1: Ellen, how did your morning go? Today? Like every other morning,
Speaker 1: I have to put a face on because I can't
Speaker 1: let your girls see me without my face. I just
Speaker 1: have to tell you that my bill at Macy's for
Speaker 1: the makeup for the Today Show was two hundred and
Speaker 1: seventy eight dollars. Peter was gonna die when he saw
Speaker 1: the bill. To eight dollars were ellipsick, I said, Peter,
Speaker 1: I needed a limp pencil, I needed eyebrow pencils. I
Speaker 1: needed mascara. Did you tell him you were only on
Speaker 1: the Today Show once in a lifetime, the first time
Speaker 1: I called it the first time I'm on the Today Show. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're very optimistic. Who are we going to hear today? Today,
Speaker 1: we're going to hear from Joan, the grandmother, and know
Speaker 1: with the granddaughter it should be fun and they just
Speaker 1: love each other. They're the best of friends. I can't
Speaker 1: wait to get started. Here. We have Joan Mendelssohn. She's
Speaker 1: eighty seven years old, full of sass. Yeah, the shame
Speaker 1: that she's twenty five. Who asked you how old I was?
Speaker 1: I just thought it was important that people know how
Speaker 1: much of a life you've lived and how much knowledge
Speaker 1: you'll have to share with the world. That's the end
Speaker 1: of Hugh Jackman for me. Now we know as I
Speaker 1: made these seven thanks. No. It is my most beautiful granddaughter.
Speaker 1: She's wonderful and she has a terrific personality and happy
Speaker 1: to say she has my hair, gorgeous long blonde brown hair.
Speaker 1: Did I do good? Sweet? Huh? You did great? Grandma?
Speaker 1: What would you say? Was kind of a moment that
Speaker 1: defined our relationship. Oh, I was thrilled because and I
Speaker 1: didn't have to speak to your mother. I had you
Speaker 1: is perfect, perfect, Sorry, Susan. My grandmother and I have
Speaker 1: been super close for a very long time. I think
Speaker 1: that we started to reach an exceptionally close level when
Speaker 1: she realized that I could have a glass of wine
Speaker 1: with her, and that's when she really introduced me to
Speaker 1: her world. Right, Grandma, that's it. The only reason for
Speaker 1: having the children in the first place was to have
Speaker 1: the grandchildren in the second place, so I could get
Speaker 1: rid of the children and just be with my grandkids,
Speaker 1: the divine. I love them madly. We have a wonderful
Speaker 1: time together. My daughter is okay too. You know. As
Speaker 1: a kid, she was always there at all of my performances,
Speaker 1: and as I've gotten older, you know, I go to
Speaker 1: her for dinner once a week. My friends are absolutely
Speaker 1: obsessed with my grandmother. So one time, a couple of
Speaker 1: friends and I were meeting up for drinks and we
Speaker 1: stopped at a couple of different rooftop bars. They all
Speaker 1: had insane lines. So I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: my grandma lives across the street. Let's just go grab
Speaker 1: a drink at her apartment. And we walked in and
Speaker 1: she immediately start sharing her stories and her jokes. And
Speaker 1: they look at me, They're like, why wasn't this plan
Speaker 1: a She's amazing and I want to hang out with
Speaker 1: her all the time. You know, with a parent, I
Speaker 1: tend to be a little more reserved with sharing information.
Speaker 1: But my grandma, you tell her anything, she forgets it.
Speaker 1: So I can kind of just tell her anything anything
Speaker 1: I want. You're so lucky. I can't. I don't even
Speaker 1: know who you off hav and say, what are we
Speaker 1: doing here? Ge? No? She what don't we like to
Speaker 1: polish nails? We polish nails, We eat together, We miss
Speaker 1: everybody up together. We planned how to get rid of
Speaker 1: a bunch of the kids that we don't like together.
Speaker 1: We very close. We are very close. I love the relationship.
Speaker 1: I love the way that girl loves her grandmother and
Speaker 1: the way the grandmother loves her. Yeah. But but but
Speaker 1: this grandmother is a funny lady. She's got a good
Speaker 1: sense to human To me that you know how important
Speaker 1: it's that to humor is absolutely and I love. And
Speaker 1: she said, we get rid of the door. It's are
Speaker 1: you kidding? I would never say that about my daugh
Speaker 1: It's they killmate. That's a funny way to think. I'd say,
Speaker 1: you have kids, so when you forget your kids? Remark
Speaker 1: you which When we gave my mother a ninety five
Speaker 1: birthday party at my niece's house. The next day I
Speaker 1: call her and say, Mom, how do you like the party?
Speaker 1: She says, what party? It's his mom, the main ballroom
Speaker 1: of the Plaza hotel. You you don't remember that party
Speaker 1: in one top of the line. She didn't remembers. So
Speaker 1: I figured I might as well make a nice party,
Speaker 1: let her be happy, let her think it really were
Speaker 1: to all. That's right, that's right, Okay, I've just been
Speaker 1: handled the part titles and here we go Part one.
Speaker 1: Hugh Jackman, is that a grandchild? I want you to
Speaker 1: give me one of your elaborate stories that you usually
Speaker 1: come up with. Oh you want me to lie? Yes, okay.
Speaker 1: Oh I got up this morning. I guess who was
Speaker 1: lying next to me? Who? Hugh Jackman? How did assist that?
Speaker 1: What do you guys do? Why would I tell you that?
Speaker 1: You're busy body? And I'm not answering any more of
Speaker 1: those questions. Get a life. I don't have a life.
Speaker 1: My life is you. Why don't you tell us a
Speaker 1: true story? Now? How about the time you actually met
Speaker 1: Paul Newman? I bumped ginches car. Yeah, what happens? He
Speaker 1: read to the house in my neighborhood? And what you do?
Speaker 1: He stopped the one stop sign in to day. But
Speaker 1: and I was madly in love with him always. I
Speaker 1: would have to give Hugh Jackman up for him, I
Speaker 1: really would. But what happened? Graham? He stopped at the
Speaker 1: stop sign, and what I ran into his car. It
Speaker 1: was a perfect meeting, and he was so sweet. I
Speaker 1: thought he would immediately fall madly in love with me
Speaker 1: and get rid of his wife. I mean, well, what's
Speaker 1: the point of talking about it? Gone? My one chance
Speaker 1: at glory missed? It's okay, now you have Hugh Jackmen
Speaker 1: to think about. That's true. I want to make something
Speaker 1: very clear. I know he's married and has several children,
Speaker 1: maybe five. I don't want him on a permanent basis.
Speaker 1: I want his wife to understand that as well. I
Speaker 1: just want to borrow him, and when I'm finished with him,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna send him back to his wife if he
Speaker 1: wants to go. I don't want anything permanent. Did you
Speaker 1: tell him this when you met him? She did truly
Speaker 1: get to meet him once. I think his wife was there.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's laughing in the pics there, so maybe I
Speaker 1: did tell him the woman has a fantastic fantasy life.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you that. I can't wait till i'm eighty seven.
Speaker 1: I've was eighty seven. I don't have things happening. Jackman
Speaker 1: in the bed next to me. I let Paul Noman
Speaker 1: have to be perfectly honest. His eyes were beautiful, but
Speaker 1: I was taller. No, he's not so short. I like
Speaker 1: short man. I don't think it's relative right right for me. Listen,
Speaker 1: now she's got it's no guide from Bridgeton. Did you
Speaker 1: all see him? It's no Renee Page jan Page. Oh yes,
Speaker 1: Oh he's beauty. Oh my god, so she can give
Speaker 1: up Hugh Jack. Mit, She'll have this new guy now
Speaker 1: he's mine, is mine, he is gorgeous. Listen, at this age,
Speaker 1: a D seven is not that far from nineties. And
Speaker 1: that's how you live when you get to our rage.
Speaker 1: A lot of n ands oil in the head, can't
Speaker 1: wait in the body. Next up Part two, Ironing and crying, well, crying,
Speaker 1: I know, ironing. I don't do so, Grahams. But I
Speaker 1: want to go back to college with you. Yes. Tell
Speaker 1: me about when you met aunt Lane, Auntie Lane. I
Speaker 1: decided to come in as a freshman because I didn't
Speaker 1: want to be in the sophomore dorm. So I came
Speaker 1: in and there in the launchry room was Auntie Lane.
Speaker 1: She's my friend for a hundred years, ironing and crying,
Speaker 1: and I said, what's the matter with you? I have
Speaker 1: to leave, I shaid, he just got here. What do
Speaker 1: you have to leave? Because there are no Jewish people
Speaker 1: with my dormitory. I said, I'm Jewish. Well, I was
Speaker 1: exhibit A. She dragged me out. I met her parents
Speaker 1: and she said, she's jealoush's Jewish. I can stay and
Speaker 1: that was it. They let her stay ironing and crying.
Speaker 1: She's been doing that for the last fifty six years. So, Grandma,
Speaker 1: do you remember this at all? My freshman year of college,
Speaker 1: I'm sitting in my dorm room and I got a
Speaker 1: call for my high school ex boyfriend. Haven't spoken to
Speaker 1: him in a while. I'm like, what's up? He goes,
Speaker 1: You're never going to believe who I just bumped into
Speaker 1: in the hallways of Baruk. Who your grandma? What the
Speaker 1: hell was my grandma doing at school? He's like, she's
Speaker 1: trying to figure out how she could sign up for
Speaker 1: some art classes. Grandma, do you remember that at all? Yes?
Speaker 1: I do. Indeed, I don't believe she ever found the
Speaker 1: art classes, but they were. Now she's just to go
Speaker 1: get her. You know, that's my motto, you want to
Speaker 1: go for it. There were no no Jewish girl sea.
Speaker 1: Oh you know that's surprising. Listen, You find Jews wherever
Speaker 1: you go. They just have a way of getting in somehow,
Speaker 1: I don't know it. And once they get in, they
Speaker 1: never leave you alone. Your friends for life. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: when I went to college, you know, they were no Jewish.
Speaker 1: They were I had my roommate and one other girl,
Speaker 1: and that was it. So I went to Syracuse London
Speaker 1: Jewish girls with Syracuse. But do you know what, who cares?
Speaker 1: My daughter went to American University and she pledged a
Speaker 1: sorority that was very Southern. And I was speaking to
Speaker 1: my son and he says, you know, mom, we're gonna
Speaker 1: have to change our name to Culpepper, right, But do
Speaker 1: you know what are You'm all young college kids. You go,
Speaker 1: you have fun, I love each other and whatever. And
Speaker 1: she had investigated. She wouldn't know to tell you the truth.
Speaker 1: But UCAN is a business school. You're not gonna find
Speaker 1: Arcolan in the business school. But okay, she didn't know.
Speaker 1: She went and she said met somebody thought that was fine.
Speaker 1: She does her thing and everybody seems to know her
Speaker 1: and love her. And I'm trying to save her little footsteps. Okay,
Speaker 1: Part three is up next. Dumbo an Elephant? Grandma? What
Speaker 1: was dating like back in the day? Like me, when
Speaker 1: I go on a date, I wear jeans and a
Speaker 1: T shirt. What would you wear? First of all, nobody
Speaker 1: wore jeans. It was still such thing as jeans. People
Speaker 1: didn't walk around in jeans. They walked around and skirts
Speaker 1: with matching sweaters. It was an ensemble, my dear, And
Speaker 1: you looked elegant, well as elegant as a kid could look.
Speaker 1: And you wore Bobby's socks and loafers. Did you ever
Speaker 1: go out for dinner? No, you did not go to dinner.
Speaker 1: That course money. You have to understand. This was right
Speaker 1: after the depression. People didn't have money. If you were
Speaker 1: going out with somebody wealthy, which I was not, that's
Speaker 1: a different circumstances. No, nobody took you out to dinners.
Speaker 1: You want to tell us how you and Papa Matt
Speaker 1: I finagled it. That's how I got him. Yeah, tell
Speaker 1: us he was every girl's dream. He was his nice
Speaker 1: Jewish boy and six ft tall and he was about
Speaker 1: a hundred and thirty pounds. All the girls loved him. Well,
Speaker 1: that's all I had to hear that he now became
Speaker 1: a challenge, and I knew this was it. He used
Speaker 1: to go off campus every weekend to see another girlfriend,
Speaker 1: and I knew where he was going. And one day
Speaker 1: he was sitting at coffee shop and I sat right
Speaker 1: behind him. He had his hands on his head. I said,
Speaker 1: I always thought you were thinking deep thoughts, but now
Speaker 1: I know you're nursing a hangover. Well, he said, who
Speaker 1: are you? And I told him, and he said, what
Speaker 1: is it your business? I said, everything you do is
Speaker 1: my business. That was it. After that, it was made
Speaker 1: in heaven. He never went off campus again because I
Speaker 1: never went off campus again. And I snagged him and
Speaker 1: I was not sorry from the first to the day
Speaker 1: he died. He was the love of my life. Oh
Speaker 1: I miss him. M hmmm, I really do miss him.
Speaker 1: So when you and Papa started dating, what kind of
Speaker 1: dates did you guys go on? We went dancing. There
Speaker 1: was a play surround the corner on Marshall Street where
Speaker 1: they had a jukebox and if you had the money,
Speaker 1: you could put five cents in and you would have
Speaker 1: five songs. I don't think they served alcohol. I'm sure
Speaker 1: they did not. There was coke or whatever, and we
Speaker 1: had that and everyone was there, all your friends when
Speaker 1: they are dancing, and we had a very innocent, very
Speaker 1: nice time. Why don't you tell us a little bit
Speaker 1: about what he looked like and what your mother said
Speaker 1: about it? Oh uh, Glee. Well, you see, he could
Speaker 1: fly because his ears were flapping. So I told my
Speaker 1: mother how madly in love I was with this guy,
Speaker 1: and my mother said, you're madly in love with me.
Speaker 1: Looks like dumbbo And I realized she was right. But
Speaker 1: I could help that look, and so I did. I
Speaker 1: went with him to the barber and I said, listen,
Speaker 1: the ears on the side of the head. We can't
Speaker 1: cut them off. Let's let the hair grow all around it,
Speaker 1: so there'll be no space between the ear and the head.
Speaker 1: And that's what we did. He had a full head
Speaker 1: of hair, all curly, and it was not shaved, because
Speaker 1: in those days the guys used to have their heads
Speaker 1: very very short, like a Scott. Yeah, I said, he's
Speaker 1: very handsome. Mother, you don't see it, No, she said,
Speaker 1: I think he's quite ugly. Well, it took her a while,
Speaker 1: but once I got rid of the ears sticking out,
Speaker 1: with the hair growing, he was stunning, wasn't he studying?
Speaker 1: He was? You picked a good one, you know what.
Speaker 1: Of all the podcasts we've heard, she's the only grandmother
Speaker 1: that said, you know, I missed Papa. But it was
Speaker 1: so nice. She says, I missed him. There was a
Speaker 1: nice love affair. Look how nice you mentioned him out.
Speaker 1: She made his hair grow over the ears. We all
Speaker 1: do things to make them better looking. Well, that's it.
Speaker 1: We all have a vision. At once we get the guy,
Speaker 1: we start to mold them into that vision. That's it.
Speaker 1: Never happens, but we keep trying. Okay, Allen, it's time
Speaker 1: for commercial. Nikki is scratching at the door. Gotta get
Speaker 1: the dog out. Okay, Crumpet, tell us here comes apart
Speaker 1: four marriage and money. Let's see how this is handled
Speaker 1: in this marriage. I know how it's handled in my house. So, Grandma,
Speaker 1: what was Papa like as a husband and a father?
Speaker 1: It was very faithful. It was a different era. I
Speaker 1: guess his word was his bond. He was honorable, He
Speaker 1: was wonderfull, he really was. He was a pain in
Speaker 1: the ass as well, by the way that would be expected.
Speaker 1: But he was a very good husband. I think, a
Speaker 1: very good father, though I suspect that if he wasn't
Speaker 1: as good a father as he should have been, it
Speaker 1: was because of the gulf that was his downfall. And
Speaker 1: he was very good at He was a wonderful athlete.
Speaker 1: And Grandma, how did you used to know when Papa
Speaker 1: was mad at you picture in the refrige. You know
Speaker 1: that my sister aunt Myra, and she was a spy
Speaker 1: for me, and when I was in trouble with Grandpa,
Speaker 1: she would call me up and say, your pictures in
Speaker 1: the refrigerator. But if things got really bad, then my
Speaker 1: picture was in the freezer. And if it was in
Speaker 1: the freezer and face down, I should look for another boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Because this was over. So tell me about your first job.
Speaker 1: I'm curious how did that figure into your marriage. I
Speaker 1: worked privately with two students, both of them were deaf.
Speaker 1: One student, Richard Mead, who was the first deaf student
Speaker 1: to be accepted by m I t he was brilliant.
Speaker 1: I worked with them at school and then their parents
Speaker 1: was so pleased with the results of my work that
Speaker 1: they asked me if I would work every day privately,
Speaker 1: which I did, and I made in those days a
Speaker 1: lot of money because I worked by the hour. Today
Speaker 1: they would stone me. I gave all of my money
Speaker 1: to my husband and he said, how much do you
Speaker 1: need to live on and run the house and so
Speaker 1: and so forth. I said, I think forty dollars a
Speaker 1: week will do it, and he gave me forty dollars
Speaker 1: and he took several hundred dollars of my money, our money,
Speaker 1: my money, and he put it in the bank in
Speaker 1: a saving account. But he did do that to save
Speaker 1: money for the two of you and your families and
Speaker 1: your lives together. He wasn't taking it for himself. Oh no,
Speaker 1: of course not. No, no, no, no no. He wasn't
Speaker 1: taking my money and going out on the town. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: it was a different time. I gave him the money.
Speaker 1: Some guys would have just gone and blown the money.
Speaker 1: But he was so honorable and so trustworthy. So did
Speaker 1: Papa support the fact that you were working that he
Speaker 1: appreciate it? Are you kidding? He almost killed me when
Speaker 1: I stopped working. I was making more money than he was.
Speaker 1: So what should I look for in a man? First
Speaker 1: of all, make sure that he's a challenge and everyone
Speaker 1: wants him. That's very important. He's got to have something special.
Speaker 1: Can't be just an ambishi kid that slumps along. It
Speaker 1: be wonderful if he had a lovely imagination. You make
Speaker 1: the decision. Don't leave it up to the guy, because
Speaker 1: they never make decisions, and they're usually wrong if they
Speaker 1: make them, so forget that. But he has to be smart.
Speaker 1: He doesn't have to be wealthy. The rest will come
Speaker 1: if he's intelligent, and he has to love you more
Speaker 1: than you love him. That would be very helpful. So
Speaker 1: what would you wish for me when I get married
Speaker 1: one day? What do I wish for you? Well? Happiness,
Speaker 1: of course, health, happiness, a lot of love of course,
Speaker 1: babies that's to be expected. How many babies do you want?
Speaker 1: A hundred? You're not going to have a hundred, trust me.
Speaker 1: How many do you want? As many as I can handle? Three? Four? Well,
Speaker 1: please start now, because I'm not getting any younger. You
Speaker 1: could have a baby now, you know. I wouldn't care.
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm going to have a baby right now.
Speaker 1: Oh ratch, Grandma? Why do you think of Adam? My boyfriends?
Speaker 1: How how do you think? I did? I think he's
Speaker 1: lovely and he loves you two pieces, which is so nice.
Speaker 1: It's so nice. So you like having him around? Of
Speaker 1: course I picked someone that you're okay with. Yeah, anyone
Speaker 1: that makes you happy. I would be happy with what
Speaker 1: he happens to be a very exceptionally wonderful boy. And
Speaker 1: don't lose some where you're out, You're out of the will.
Speaker 1: Too bad for you. Grandma already have your whole will
Speaker 1: on the wall. Because she asked me for a favor,
Speaker 1: and I said, well, if I'm gonna do this, you
Speaker 1: have to sign this that says Grandma's will, Noah gets everything.
Speaker 1: And she signed it, and that's hanging up in our kitchen,
Speaker 1: so I don't know if you've got me out of there.
Speaker 1: You know, it's so funny. She said something that my
Speaker 1: mother used to say to me. She said, you know,
Speaker 1: it's nice to have a love relationship, but the man
Speaker 1: should always love you a little bit more. And she's right, absolutely,
Speaker 1: But I'm just telling you younger girls, marriage is like
Speaker 1: a game. You have to know how to play it right,
Speaker 1: how to play up to your husband, how not to
Speaker 1: play up the oven when give and take. It's a
Speaker 1: whole philosophy of how to be married. Yeah, but you
Speaker 1: know that ends at a certain point where because once
Speaker 1: you got the power, you got the power. You know,
Speaker 1: they should have a cause how to be married. There's
Speaker 1: little things in marriage that we all old women would
Speaker 1: come in with and you'd see it worked out. Make
Speaker 1: sure they love you more. Okay, Rida, it's time to
Speaker 1: go to a commercial. I hate to switch gears like this,
Speaker 1: but who's paying the bills? I'm not gonna be you
Speaker 1: and I next up Part five The Gramercy Grandma. I
Speaker 1: wonder what this could mean. Grandma, tell us about how
Speaker 1: you ended up living in the Grammercy Park Hotel. Oh,
Speaker 1: my husband was a lawyer. One of his clients are
Speaker 1: owned the hotel, and one day he came back from
Speaker 1: Manhattan and he looked so upset. Apparently a couple of
Speaker 1: kids were hassling him. They threw his glasses on the
Speaker 1: floor and they stepped on them, and he said, you
Speaker 1: know what, let's stay there during the week and we'll
Speaker 1: go home on the weekends. And that's what we planned
Speaker 1: on doing. And then he said, you know what, let's
Speaker 1: just stay here and we'll sell our house, which is
Speaker 1: what we did, and that's how we got to be
Speaker 1: at the Gramercy Park Hotel forever and ever. Yeah, so,
Speaker 1: the original owner and management wasn't what it is now,
Speaker 1: and when these new owners took over, they turned the
Speaker 1: Grammercy Hard Hotel into what it is today. It's this
Speaker 1: super hip hotel where all the celebrities stay. And so
Speaker 1: my four ft eight grandmother, who was best friends with
Speaker 1: all of the doormen there, would come home every day
Speaker 1: and they'd let her know who was there weekly i'd
Speaker 1: get a call. No, uh, do you know who bouncy is, Grandma?
Speaker 1: Remember when Bouncy was in your hotel? Yeah? Who was bouncy?
Speaker 1: Bouncy is Beyonce Um a famous singer, Beyonce Bouncy. Nah huh.
Speaker 1: And tall sports guys would be staying in the hotel,
Speaker 1: she would go knock on their shoulder. You're very tall?
Speaker 1: Like yes. So, my cousins and I actually decided to
Speaker 1: make an instagram about her life. The Grammarcy Grandma is
Speaker 1: what we called it. It didn't start out as a
Speaker 1: Hugh Jackman fan page, but it slowly but surely turned
Speaker 1: into that did I show it? I've showed you before? Yes?
Speaker 1: Did I like it? I think you did? I think
Speaker 1: you did. Do we charge? We don't large for Oh
Speaker 1: too bad? Oh? You know why relate to her? Because
Speaker 1: she said she's four ft in and I was like
Speaker 1: four ft nine. My god. We could be a team,
Speaker 1: the two of us. But she's killed. I get her.
Speaker 1: I get the little lady. Oh she's adorable, she's absolutely
Speaker 1: I just see her as like a senior citizen Eloise
Speaker 1: at the Grammasee Park Hotel. You know what she she'd
Speaker 1: be my competition because people see me, they said, oh,
Speaker 1: Dr Roof. They all think I'm Dr Ruth Westimer. She
Speaker 1: knows a lot about sex. What I forgot about sex,
Speaker 1: you could write a book about, you know, Rita. When
Speaker 1: I was much younger, I looked like Beverly Sills. And
Speaker 1: I was in the Russian tea room one day and
Speaker 1: a couple was sitting at a table near us, and
Speaker 1: they kept on staring over, and my sister was with me,
Speaker 1: and she said to me, they think of Beverly Sills.
Speaker 1: She says, watch and she turns around and she says,
Speaker 1: you know, Beverly, we have a lot of things to do.
Speaker 1: She says, let's get going. So we go out, and
Speaker 1: she went one way. I went the other way, and
Speaker 1: I got into a cab and the cab driver he
Speaker 1: turned around and he smiled at me, you know, and
Speaker 1: he says, I know who you are. He says, but
Speaker 1: I know better than to ask. So when I got
Speaker 1: out and he says, I can't help it. Can I
Speaker 1: have your autograph? I said sure, and he handed me
Speaker 1: a piece of paper and I said, you're a terrific driver.
Speaker 1: With all my best wishes, Ellen Grodsky, No, I told
Speaker 1: you the one minute. The lady, I says, walk into
Speaker 1: the subway. Oh, Dr Ruth, Doctor Ruth. I said, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not Dr Ruth. Yes you are. I would need
Speaker 1: an autograph, and I said, I have no paper and pencil.
Speaker 1: She said, bleak lay here. She goes into the supermarket
Speaker 1: right there, and I started walking towards the subway and
Speaker 1: she comes and she's this is a gods on the strength,
Speaker 1: Dr Ruth. I gotta paper. I gotta paper. So I thingured,
Speaker 1: oh my god, And if I don't say I'm doctor,
Speaker 1: She's going to be so upset. So true enough, I
Speaker 1: wrote Dr Ruth west time and she goes running in
Speaker 1: the street. I got her autography so I didn't a
Speaker 1: miss for she was so happy. Okay, Ruda, this is it.
Speaker 1: This is the end, part six, and it's evolving. We
Speaker 1: all have to evolve. Let's see how she evolves. I
Speaker 1: love that word evolving. Grandma, being a woman when you
Speaker 1: were growing up is very different from what being a
Speaker 1: woman is like now. What differences do you really see
Speaker 1: in that? And what would you have preferred? Women are
Speaker 1: their own people, and they do their own thing, and
Speaker 1: they make a living, and they go home from work
Speaker 1: and they don't expect that somebody is going to be
Speaker 1: there cooking for them. Your life is harder then my
Speaker 1: life was. We had roles to play, and we understood
Speaker 1: what those roles were, and we brought into those roles
Speaker 1: and it made our lives easier because we knew what
Speaker 1: we were supposed to do. But isn't it kind of
Speaker 1: special that I don't have to live by those roles?
Speaker 1: I can be whatever it is that I want to be.
Speaker 1: It's only special if you wanted to be, if you
Speaker 1: buy into it, it's special. What were you like as
Speaker 1: a mother? I don't think I was a great mother.
Speaker 1: I kind of let them do their own thing most
Speaker 1: of the time because I had trust in them. But
Speaker 1: you'd have to have the kids said, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I have no idea, and you better say the right thing. Kids?
Speaker 1: Where are? How do you think you are as a
Speaker 1: grandma better than I was as a mother? My little
Speaker 1: mushy baby girl, Oh, musty musty grandma. Yeah? So what
Speaker 1: makes a good grandmother? I think being a grandmother gives
Speaker 1: you a perspective and sense of time. You do not
Speaker 1: have infinite number of years, and that this is like
Speaker 1: a gift that you get. Whatever you did wrong, you
Speaker 1: can make up for with these kids, and it's fun.
Speaker 1: How do you think our relationship has evolved now that
Speaker 1: I'm an adult. It doesn't evolve now that you're an adult.
Speaker 1: It evolves from the moment you opened your eyes. It's
Speaker 1: a growing thing. It's like a plant. Can you nurture
Speaker 1: it and you water it, and you careful it and
Speaker 1: you love it. That's how it works. So your grandkid,
Speaker 1: so me, Ben Hank, Sophie, Michael, Annie, Aman's a test, Ruby, Margie.
Speaker 1: Do you think that our values and ideas about how
Speaker 1: to live life match your own? Well exceed my own? Actually?
Speaker 1: Not just magic seed? Because you're very close to one another.
Speaker 1: You care about one another. Perfect You guys make me cry.
Speaker 1: We love you. Have we surprised you in any way?
Speaker 1: Grahams No. I mean I expected you to be good people,
Speaker 1: honorable people, and you are and that's all I ask
Speaker 1: of you. I mean, you love each other and you
Speaker 1: show it, and that's the best thing I can ask.
Speaker 1: I just know that all of you make me happy. Well,
Speaker 1: you make all of us happy. Gee, you know the
Speaker 1: highlight of our week every week is walking through your door,
Speaker 1: hearing your stories. Having a drink with you, and we
Speaker 1: all feel so lucky to have the chance to spend
Speaker 1: all this time with you. Why do you read the
Speaker 1: papers obituaries? Tear them out and leave them around the
Speaker 1: house for me and my mother to see. Oh, because
Speaker 1: there are certain that are very nice obituaries. And then
Speaker 1: I can decide which one I want. I am gonna
Speaker 1: underline some of them too. By the way, So when
Speaker 1: Ruth Bader Ginsburg passed away and you said, I want
Speaker 1: this one, she was Supreme Court justice, and you read
Speaker 1: it word for word, and you said, don't change a thing,
Speaker 1: just the name. Why not? Who's gonna remember? Oh, she's
Speaker 1: a riot? She is so funny. I think that people
Speaker 1: of a certain age have a preoccupation with deaths. You
Speaker 1: know what it is there? And I'm ninety. Now, if
Speaker 1: you live to ninety, that was a good old age,
Speaker 1: and them ninety, I say, I don't know where did
Speaker 1: ninety years go? And I like to impress upon everybody,
Speaker 1: no matter what the ages. When you get to ninety,
Speaker 1: you look back and say, how fast I got to nine? Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I agree. So every day is a gift and and
Speaker 1: and don't let anything pass you by because I don't
Speaker 1: want to say when I get older, I'm sorry. I
Speaker 1: didn't do this. Taken everything you possibly can. I agree.
Speaker 1: You gotta live life to the fullest. Every minute counts.
Speaker 1: And this podcast, I hope all the grandmother to bring
Speaker 1: the myths to Chump to all the grandkids. Live life,
Speaker 1: enjoy life, be kind and loving to each other. Remember
Speaker 1: you want everybody to say, I miss you, girls, Ray,
Speaker 1: I miss you, I miss you. When I don't talk
Speaker 1: to you for one day, call your grandmother. As a
Speaker 1: duction of I Heart Radio and Superb Entertainment. The hosts
Speaker 1: of the show are me Rina Kay and me Ellen Bernstein.
Speaker 1: Grodsky created by Meryl Poster, produced and directed by Anna Stump,
Speaker 1: with producer abuzafar An, associate producer Emily Maronoff, managing producer
Speaker 1: Lindsay Hoffman, and executive producers are Merral Poster, Nikki I
Speaker 1: Tore and Mangesh Haatika Door music and mastering by Hamilton
Speaker 1: Lighthouser and Anna Stump. Listen, just listen to me. I'm
Speaker 1: an old grandmother, So tell everybody you know you've got
Speaker 1: to listen to Coy your grandmother