WEBVTT - Joan + Noa 0:00:03.600 --> 0:00:07.680 Ellen, how did your morning go? Today? Like every other morning, 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:10.120 I have to put a face on because I can't 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:13.440 let your girls see me without my face. I just 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.119 have to tell you that my bill at Macy's for 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:19.279 the makeup for the Today Show was two hundred and 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:24.040 seventy eight dollars. Peter was gonna die when he saw 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:28.040 the bill. To eight dollars were ellipsick, I said, Peter, 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:30.960 I needed a limp pencil, I needed eyebrow pencils. I 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:33.760 needed mascara. Did you tell him you were only on 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:36.680 the Today Show once in a lifetime, the first time 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:39.960 I called it the first time I'm on the Today Show. Okay, 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:44.080 you're very optimistic. Who are we going to hear today? Today, 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:47.159 we're going to hear from Joan, the grandmother, and know 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:50.720 with the granddaughter it should be fun and they just 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:54.160 love each other. They're the best of friends. I can't 0:00:54.160 --> 0:01:07.720 wait to get started. Here. We have Joan Mendelssohn. She's 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:10.959 eighty seven years old, full of sass. Yeah, the shame 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:15.360 that she's twenty five. Who asked you how old I was? 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.399 I just thought it was important that people know how 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:19.800 much of a life you've lived and how much knowledge 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:22.319 you'll have to share with the world. That's the end 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:24.920 of Hugh Jackman for me. Now we know as I 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:29.920 made these seven thanks. No. It is my most beautiful granddaughter. 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:36.120 She's wonderful and she has a terrific personality and happy 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:44.039 to say she has my hair, gorgeous long blonde brown hair. 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:50.200 Did I do good? Sweet? Huh? You did great? Grandma? 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:52.520 What would you say? Was kind of a moment that 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:56.480 defined our relationship. Oh, I was thrilled because and I 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:58.640 didn't have to speak to your mother. I had you 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:09.560 is perfect, perfect, Sorry, Susan. My grandmother and I have 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:13.080 been super close for a very long time. I think 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:18.079 that we started to reach an exceptionally close level when 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.080 she realized that I could have a glass of wine 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.080 with her, and that's when she really introduced me to 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:26.480 her world. Right, Grandma, that's it. The only reason for 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:31.000 having the children in the first place was to have 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:35.239 the grandchildren in the second place, so I could get 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:39.160 rid of the children and just be with my grandkids, 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.480 the divine. I love them madly. We have a wonderful 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:47.799 time together. My daughter is okay too. You know. As 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:52.760 a kid, she was always there at all of my performances, 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:55.640 and as I've gotten older, you know, I go to 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:59.480 her for dinner once a week. My friends are absolutely 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:02.400 obsessed with my grandmother. So one time, a couple of 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.640 friends and I were meeting up for drinks and we 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:08.440 stopped at a couple of different rooftop bars. They all 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:11.200 had insane lines. So I was like, you know what, 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.200 my grandma lives across the street. Let's just go grab 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:15.799 a drink at her apartment. And we walked in and 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:19.320 she immediately start sharing her stories and her jokes. And 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:21.400 they look at me, They're like, why wasn't this plan 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.080 a She's amazing and I want to hang out with 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:27.080 her all the time. You know, with a parent, I 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:29.400 tend to be a little more reserved with sharing information. 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:31.680 But my grandma, you tell her anything, she forgets it. 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:34.679 So I can kind of just tell her anything anything 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:37.520 I want. You're so lucky. I can't. I don't even 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:40.000 know who you off hav and say, what are we 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:45.880 doing here? Ge? No? She what don't we like to 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:51.880 polish nails? We polish nails, We eat together, We miss 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:56.080 everybody up together. We planned how to get rid of 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:59.000 a bunch of the kids that we don't like together. 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:07.120 We very close. We are very close. I love the relationship. 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:09.680 I love the way that girl loves her grandmother and 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:12.040 the way the grandmother loves her. Yeah. But but but 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.680 this grandmother is a funny lady. She's got a good 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:16.960 sense to human To me that you know how important 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.680 it's that to humor is absolutely and I love. And 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:21.880 she said, we get rid of the door. It's are 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:24.800 you kidding? I would never say that about my daugh 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:28.960 It's they killmate. That's a funny way to think. I'd say, 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:32.039 you have kids, so when you forget your kids? Remark 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:35.200 you which When we gave my mother a ninety five 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:38.760 birthday party at my niece's house. The next day I 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:41.360 call her and say, Mom, how do you like the party? 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:46.480 She says, what party? It's his mom, the main ballroom 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:50.520 of the Plaza hotel. You you don't remember that party 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:54.080 in one top of the line. She didn't remembers. So 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.240 I figured I might as well make a nice party, 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:58.680 let her be happy, let her think it really were 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:05.040 to all. That's right, that's right, Okay, I've just been 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:08.640 handled the part titles and here we go Part one. 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:17.120 Hugh Jackman, is that a grandchild? I want you to 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:19.360 give me one of your elaborate stories that you usually 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:25.000 come up with. Oh you want me to lie? Yes, okay. 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:29.000 Oh I got up this morning. I guess who was 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:33.719 lying next to me? Who? Hugh Jackman? How did assist that? 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.839 What do you guys do? Why would I tell you that? 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:40.560 You're busy body? And I'm not answering any more of 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:44.200 those questions. Get a life. I don't have a life. 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:53.640 My life is you. Why don't you tell us a 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:57.719 true story? Now? How about the time you actually met 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:02.640 Paul Newman? I bumped ginches car. Yeah, what happens? He 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:06.320 read to the house in my neighborhood? And what you do? 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:09.440 He stopped the one stop sign in to day. But 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:12.240 and I was madly in love with him always. I 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.520 would have to give Hugh Jackman up for him, I 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:17.039 really would. But what happened? Graham? He stopped at the 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:21.240 stop sign, and what I ran into his car. It 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:27.279 was a perfect meeting, and he was so sweet. I 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:30.080 thought he would immediately fall madly in love with me 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:34.160 and get rid of his wife. I mean, well, what's 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:38.159 the point of talking about it? Gone? My one chance 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:42.760 at glory missed? It's okay, now you have Hugh Jackmen 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:47.080 to think about. That's true. I want to make something 0:06:47.200 --> 0:06:51.080 very clear. I know he's married and has several children, 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:55.560 maybe five. I don't want him on a permanent basis. 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:59.279 I want his wife to understand that as well. I 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:03.040 just want to borrow him, and when I'm finished with him, 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:06.520 I'm gonna send him back to his wife if he 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:10.920 wants to go. I don't want anything permanent. Did you 0:07:10.960 --> 0:07:13.840 tell him this when you met him? She did truly 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.920 get to meet him once. I think his wife was there. 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:20.520 Maybe he's laughing in the pics there, so maybe I 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:28.679 did tell him the woman has a fantastic fantasy life. 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:32.160 I'll tell you that. I can't wait till i'm eighty seven. 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:36.040 I've was eighty seven. I don't have things happening. Jackman 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:38.400 in the bed next to me. I let Paul Noman 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:40.920 have to be perfectly honest. His eyes were beautiful, but 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.520 I was taller. No, he's not so short. I like 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:50.520 short man. I don't think it's relative right right for me. Listen, 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.640 now she's got it's no guide from Bridgeton. Did you 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:58.840 all see him? It's no Renee Page jan Page. Oh yes, 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:02.840 Oh he's beauty. Oh my god, so she can give 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:05.280 up Hugh Jack. Mit, She'll have this new guy now 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:09.440 he's mine, is mine, he is gorgeous. Listen, at this age, 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:11.720 a D seven is not that far from nineties. And 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.680 that's how you live when you get to our rage. 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.160 A lot of n ands oil in the head, can't 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:27.360 wait in the body. Next up Part two, Ironing and crying, well, crying, 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:35.840 I know, ironing. I don't do so, Grahams. But I 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.360 want to go back to college with you. Yes. Tell 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:42.160 me about when you met aunt Lane, Auntie Lane. I 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:44.920 decided to come in as a freshman because I didn't 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:48.080 want to be in the sophomore dorm. So I came 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:53.080 in and there in the launchry room was Auntie Lane. 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:58.320 She's my friend for a hundred years, ironing and crying, 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:02.080 and I said, what's the matter with you? I have 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:05.720 to leave, I shaid, he just got here. What do 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:09.240 you have to leave? Because there are no Jewish people 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:14.120 with my dormitory. I said, I'm Jewish. Well, I was 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:18.840 exhibit A. She dragged me out. I met her parents 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:24.080 and she said, she's jealoush's Jewish. I can stay and 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:29.000 that was it. They let her stay ironing and crying. 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:37.520 She's been doing that for the last fifty six years. So, Grandma, 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:40.320 do you remember this at all? My freshman year of college, 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.320 I'm sitting in my dorm room and I got a 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:45.480 call for my high school ex boyfriend. Haven't spoken to 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.920 him in a while. I'm like, what's up? He goes, 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.800 You're never going to believe who I just bumped into 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:55.160 in the hallways of Baruk. Who your grandma? What the 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:59.360 hell was my grandma doing at school? He's like, she's 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:01.400 trying to figure out how she could sign up for 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:04.680 some art classes. Grandma, do you remember that at all? Yes? 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:07.600 I do. Indeed, I don't believe she ever found the 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.679 art classes, but they were. Now she's just to go 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:13.400 get her. You know, that's my motto, you want to 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:18.200 go for it. There were no no Jewish girl sea. 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.800 Oh you know that's surprising. Listen, You find Jews wherever 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.840 you go. They just have a way of getting in somehow, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.319 I don't know it. And once they get in, they 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:30.920 never leave you alone. Your friends for life. Yeah, but 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.480 when I went to college, you know, they were no Jewish. 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:36.360 They were I had my roommate and one other girl, 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:40.000 and that was it. So I went to Syracuse London 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:43.120 Jewish girls with Syracuse. But do you know what, who cares? 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:46.240 My daughter went to American University and she pledged a 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:50.200 sorority that was very Southern. And I was speaking to 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:52.640 my son and he says, you know, mom, we're gonna 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:58.599 have to change our name to Culpepper, right, But do 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:00.840 you know what are You'm all young college kids. You go, 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:04.160 you have fun, I love each other and whatever. And 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:07.480 she had investigated. She wouldn't know to tell you the truth. 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.520 But UCAN is a business school. You're not gonna find 0:11:10.679 --> 0:11:14.040 Arcolan in the business school. But okay, she didn't know. 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.679 She went and she said met somebody thought that was fine. 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:19.400 She does her thing and everybody seems to know her 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:25.280 and love her. And I'm trying to save her little footsteps. Okay, 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:33.760 Part three is up next. Dumbo an Elephant? Grandma? What 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:36.040 was dating like back in the day? Like me, when 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:37.520 I go on a date, I wear jeans and a 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:40.480 T shirt. What would you wear? First of all, nobody 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:44.120 wore jeans. It was still such thing as jeans. People 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:47.160 didn't walk around in jeans. They walked around and skirts 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:52.000 with matching sweaters. It was an ensemble, my dear, And 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:56.320 you looked elegant, well as elegant as a kid could look. 0:11:57.000 --> 0:12:03.000 And you wore Bobby's socks and loafers. Did you ever 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:06.360 go out for dinner? No, you did not go to dinner. 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:10.480 That course money. You have to understand. This was right 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:14.079 after the depression. People didn't have money. If you were 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:17.880 going out with somebody wealthy, which I was not, that's 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:21.120 a different circumstances. No, nobody took you out to dinners. 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:24.280 You want to tell us how you and Papa Matt 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:28.440 I finagled it. That's how I got him. Yeah, tell 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:35.000 us he was every girl's dream. He was his nice 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:38.720 Jewish boy and six ft tall and he was about 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:43.400 a hundred and thirty pounds. All the girls loved him. Well, 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.360 that's all I had to hear that he now became 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:52.720 a challenge, and I knew this was it. He used 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:57.520 to go off campus every weekend to see another girlfriend, 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:01.320 and I knew where he was going. And one day 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:04.920 he was sitting at coffee shop and I sat right 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:08.760 behind him. He had his hands on his head. I said, 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:11.640 I always thought you were thinking deep thoughts, but now 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:17.840 I know you're nursing a hangover. Well, he said, who 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:22.720 are you? And I told him, and he said, what 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:25.360 is it your business? I said, everything you do is 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:30.760 my business. That was it. After that, it was made 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:34.440 in heaven. He never went off campus again because I 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:38.559 never went off campus again. And I snagged him and 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.120 I was not sorry from the first to the day 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:45.960 he died. He was the love of my life. Oh 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:53.800 I miss him. M hmmm, I really do miss him. 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:56.760 So when you and Papa started dating, what kind of 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.480 dates did you guys go on? We went dancing. There 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.680 was a play surround the corner on Marshall Street where 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:07.680 they had a jukebox and if you had the money, 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:10.480 you could put five cents in and you would have 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:14.400 five songs. I don't think they served alcohol. I'm sure 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:17.120 they did not. There was coke or whatever, and we 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:20.240 had that and everyone was there, all your friends when 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:23.400 they are dancing, and we had a very innocent, very 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:25.680 nice time. Why don't you tell us a little bit 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:28.240 about what he looked like and what your mother said 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:36.480 about it? Oh uh, Glee. Well, you see, he could 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:40.440 fly because his ears were flapping. So I told my 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.080 mother how madly in love I was with this guy, 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:46.000 and my mother said, you're madly in love with me. 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:49.520 Looks like dumbbo And I realized she was right. But 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:54.240 I could help that look, and so I did. I 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.120 went with him to the barber and I said, listen, 0:14:57.800 --> 0:14:59.960 the ears on the side of the head. We can't 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:04.320 cut them off. Let's let the hair grow all around it, 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:08.440 so there'll be no space between the ear and the head. 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:10.640 And that's what we did. He had a full head 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:14.160 of hair, all curly, and it was not shaved, because 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:17.040 in those days the guys used to have their heads 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:21.000 very very short, like a Scott. Yeah, I said, he's 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.240 very handsome. Mother, you don't see it, No, she said, 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:28.480 I think he's quite ugly. Well, it took her a while, 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.760 but once I got rid of the ears sticking out, 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.360 with the hair growing, he was stunning, wasn't he studying? 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:40.560 He was? You picked a good one, you know what. 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:45.120 Of all the podcasts we've heard, she's the only grandmother 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.240 that said, you know, I missed Papa. But it was 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:50.600 so nice. She says, I missed him. There was a 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.320 nice love affair. Look how nice you mentioned him out. 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:56.920 She made his hair grow over the ears. We all 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:00.120 do things to make them better looking. Well, that's it. 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:03.680 We all have a vision. At once we get the guy, 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:07.200 we start to mold them into that vision. That's it. 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:13.120 Never happens, but we keep trying. Okay, Allen, it's time 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:16.600 for commercial. Nikki is scratching at the door. Gotta get 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:29.560 the dog out. Okay, Crumpet, tell us here comes apart 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:34.000 four marriage and money. Let's see how this is handled 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:41.880 in this marriage. I know how it's handled in my house. So, Grandma, 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:43.880 what was Papa like as a husband and a father? 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:48.280 It was very faithful. It was a different era. I 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:53.800 guess his word was his bond. He was honorable, He 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.320 was wonderfull, he really was. He was a pain in 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.360 the ass as well, by the way that would be expected. 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:03.720 But he was a very good husband. I think, a 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:07.680 very good father, though I suspect that if he wasn't 0:17:07.760 --> 0:17:09.960 as good a father as he should have been, it 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:15.239 was because of the gulf that was his downfall. And 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:17.600 he was very good at He was a wonderful athlete. 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.240 And Grandma, how did you used to know when Papa 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.040 was mad at you picture in the refrige. You know 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:29.119 that my sister aunt Myra, and she was a spy 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:33.160 for me, and when I was in trouble with Grandpa, 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:36.840 she would call me up and say, your pictures in 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:41.840 the refrigerator. But if things got really bad, then my 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:44.720 picture was in the freezer. And if it was in 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:48.800 the freezer and face down, I should look for another boyfriend. 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:54.399 Because this was over. So tell me about your first job. 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:57.800 I'm curious how did that figure into your marriage. I 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:02.800 worked privately with two students, both of them were deaf. 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:08.080 One student, Richard Mead, who was the first deaf student 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:12.960 to be accepted by m I t he was brilliant. 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:16.320 I worked with them at school and then their parents 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.919 was so pleased with the results of my work that 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:23.000 they asked me if I would work every day privately, 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:25.959 which I did, and I made in those days a 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:30.200 lot of money because I worked by the hour. Today 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:34.840 they would stone me. I gave all of my money 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:39.320 to my husband and he said, how much do you 0:18:39.400 --> 0:18:41.639 need to live on and run the house and so 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:44.320 and so forth. I said, I think forty dollars a 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:47.679 week will do it, and he gave me forty dollars 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:54.480 and he took several hundred dollars of my money, our money, 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:59.240 my money, and he put it in the bank in 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:03.160 a saving account. But he did do that to save 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:05.359 money for the two of you and your families and 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:09.280 your lives together. He wasn't taking it for himself. Oh no, 0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:12.040 of course not. No, no, no, no no. He wasn't 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:16.360 taking my money and going out on the town. No, no, no, 0:19:17.359 --> 0:19:20.840 it was a different time. I gave him the money. 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:24.359 Some guys would have just gone and blown the money. 0:19:24.359 --> 0:19:30.560 But he was so honorable and so trustworthy. So did 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:32.960 Papa support the fact that you were working that he 0:19:33.000 --> 0:19:36.199 appreciate it? Are you kidding? He almost killed me when 0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:39.280 I stopped working. I was making more money than he was. 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:44.960 So what should I look for in a man? First 0:19:45.000 --> 0:19:49.880 of all, make sure that he's a challenge and everyone 0:19:50.000 --> 0:19:55.440 wants him. That's very important. He's got to have something special. 0:19:55.880 --> 0:19:59.760 Can't be just an ambishi kid that slumps along. It 0:20:00.119 --> 0:20:03.960 be wonderful if he had a lovely imagination. You make 0:20:04.000 --> 0:20:06.919 the decision. Don't leave it up to the guy, because 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:10.080 they never make decisions, and they're usually wrong if they 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:12.959 make them, so forget that. But he has to be smart. 0:20:13.320 --> 0:20:16.200 He doesn't have to be wealthy. The rest will come 0:20:16.240 --> 0:20:20.600 if he's intelligent, and he has to love you more 0:20:20.640 --> 0:20:24.479 than you love him. That would be very helpful. So 0:20:24.520 --> 0:20:26.960 what would you wish for me when I get married 0:20:27.000 --> 0:20:30.840 one day? What do I wish for you? Well? Happiness, 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:35.800 of course, health, happiness, a lot of love of course, 0:20:35.880 --> 0:20:40.840 babies that's to be expected. How many babies do you want? 0:20:41.520 --> 0:20:45.000 A hundred? You're not going to have a hundred, trust me. 0:20:45.080 --> 0:20:51.280 How many do you want? As many as I can handle? Three? Four? Well, 0:20:51.560 --> 0:20:54.959 please start now, because I'm not getting any younger. You 0:20:54.960 --> 0:20:57.800 could have a baby now, you know. I wouldn't care. 0:20:58.119 --> 0:20:59.960 I don't think I'm going to have a baby right now. 0:21:00.440 --> 0:21:05.240 Oh ratch, Grandma? Why do you think of Adam? My boyfriends? 0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:08.040 How how do you think? I did? I think he's 0:21:08.160 --> 0:21:12.200 lovely and he loves you two pieces, which is so nice. 0:21:13.160 --> 0:21:16.280 It's so nice. So you like having him around? Of 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:20.320 course I picked someone that you're okay with. Yeah, anyone 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:22.359 that makes you happy. I would be happy with what 0:21:22.440 --> 0:21:26.639 he happens to be a very exceptionally wonderful boy. And 0:21:26.720 --> 0:21:29.840 don't lose some where you're out, You're out of the will. 0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:32.600 Too bad for you. Grandma already have your whole will 0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:35.399 on the wall. Because she asked me for a favor, 0:21:35.440 --> 0:21:37.919 and I said, well, if I'm gonna do this, you 0:21:38.040 --> 0:21:42.080 have to sign this that says Grandma's will, Noah gets everything. 0:21:42.320 --> 0:21:45.080 And she signed it, and that's hanging up in our kitchen, 0:21:45.240 --> 0:21:47.399 so I don't know if you've got me out of there. 0:21:52.800 --> 0:21:55.240 You know, it's so funny. She said something that my 0:21:55.320 --> 0:21:58.040 mother used to say to me. She said, you know, 0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:01.880 it's nice to have a love relationship, but the man 0:22:01.920 --> 0:22:07.280 should always love you a little bit more. And she's right, absolutely, 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:11.280 But I'm just telling you younger girls, marriage is like 0:22:11.320 --> 0:22:14.320 a game. You have to know how to play it right, 0:22:14.400 --> 0:22:16.520 how to play up to your husband, how not to 0:22:16.600 --> 0:22:19.439 play up the oven when give and take. It's a 0:22:19.440 --> 0:22:22.439 whole philosophy of how to be married. Yeah, but you 0:22:22.520 --> 0:22:26.040 know that ends at a certain point where because once 0:22:26.080 --> 0:22:28.359 you got the power, you got the power. You know, 0:22:29.760 --> 0:22:33.440 they should have a cause how to be married. There's 0:22:33.480 --> 0:22:37.200 little things in marriage that we all old women would 0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:40.080 come in with and you'd see it worked out. Make 0:22:40.080 --> 0:22:43.240 sure they love you more. Okay, Rida, it's time to 0:22:43.280 --> 0:22:46.320 go to a commercial. I hate to switch gears like this, 0:22:46.840 --> 0:22:49.399 but who's paying the bills? I'm not gonna be you 0:22:49.480 --> 0:23:05.040 and I next up Part five The Gramercy Grandma. I 0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:09.919 wonder what this could mean. Grandma, tell us about how 0:23:09.960 --> 0:23:13.000 you ended up living in the Grammercy Park Hotel. Oh, 0:23:13.440 --> 0:23:16.439 my husband was a lawyer. One of his clients are 0:23:16.480 --> 0:23:20.480 owned the hotel, and one day he came back from 0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:24.679 Manhattan and he looked so upset. Apparently a couple of 0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:28.159 kids were hassling him. They threw his glasses on the 0:23:28.160 --> 0:23:32.480 floor and they stepped on them, and he said, you 0:23:32.520 --> 0:23:35.840 know what, let's stay there during the week and we'll 0:23:35.880 --> 0:23:39.320 go home on the weekends. And that's what we planned 0:23:39.320 --> 0:23:42.439 on doing. And then he said, you know what, let's 0:23:42.480 --> 0:23:45.639 just stay here and we'll sell our house, which is 0:23:45.680 --> 0:23:48.800 what we did, and that's how we got to be 0:23:48.880 --> 0:23:52.800 at the Gramercy Park Hotel forever and ever. Yeah, so, 0:23:52.840 --> 0:23:56.280 the original owner and management wasn't what it is now, 0:23:56.720 --> 0:23:59.480 and when these new owners took over, they turned the 0:23:59.480 --> 0:24:01.960 Grammercy Hard Hotel into what it is today. It's this 0:24:02.640 --> 0:24:06.040 super hip hotel where all the celebrities stay. And so 0:24:06.240 --> 0:24:09.040 my four ft eight grandmother, who was best friends with 0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:11.280 all of the doormen there, would come home every day 0:24:11.320 --> 0:24:13.800 and they'd let her know who was there weekly i'd 0:24:13.800 --> 0:24:18.040 get a call. No, uh, do you know who bouncy is, Grandma? 0:24:18.080 --> 0:24:21.600 Remember when Bouncy was in your hotel? Yeah? Who was bouncy? 0:24:22.119 --> 0:24:28.480 Bouncy is Beyonce Um a famous singer, Beyonce Bouncy. Nah huh. 0:24:29.160 --> 0:24:32.760 And tall sports guys would be staying in the hotel, 0:24:32.840 --> 0:24:35.560 she would go knock on their shoulder. You're very tall? 0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:40.800 Like yes. So, my cousins and I actually decided to 0:24:41.640 --> 0:24:44.800 make an instagram about her life. The Grammarcy Grandma is 0:24:44.840 --> 0:24:47.199 what we called it. It didn't start out as a 0:24:47.280 --> 0:24:51.440 Hugh Jackman fan page, but it slowly but surely turned 0:24:51.480 --> 0:24:55.000 into that did I show it? I've showed you before? Yes? 0:24:55.240 --> 0:24:57.520 Did I like it? I think you did? I think 0:24:57.560 --> 0:25:01.120 you did. Do we charge? We don't large for Oh 0:25:01.280 --> 0:25:07.480 too bad? Oh? You know why relate to her? Because 0:25:07.520 --> 0:25:09.679 she said she's four ft in and I was like 0:25:09.760 --> 0:25:12.520 four ft nine. My god. We could be a team, 0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:15.440 the two of us. But she's killed. I get her. 0:25:15.680 --> 0:25:19.280 I get the little lady. Oh she's adorable, she's absolutely 0:25:19.240 --> 0:25:22.560 I just see her as like a senior citizen Eloise 0:25:22.920 --> 0:25:26.359 at the Grammasee Park Hotel. You know what she she'd 0:25:26.359 --> 0:25:31.000 be my competition because people see me, they said, oh, 0:25:31.280 --> 0:25:35.439 Dr Roof. They all think I'm Dr Ruth Westimer. She 0:25:35.560 --> 0:25:38.280 knows a lot about sex. What I forgot about sex, 0:25:38.359 --> 0:25:43.960 you could write a book about, you know, Rita. When 0:25:43.960 --> 0:25:46.960 I was much younger, I looked like Beverly Sills. And 0:25:47.040 --> 0:25:49.480 I was in the Russian tea room one day and 0:25:49.520 --> 0:25:52.320 a couple was sitting at a table near us, and 0:25:52.359 --> 0:25:54.919