1 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: Ellen, how did your morning go? Today? Like every other morning, 2 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:10,120 Speaker 1: I have to put a face on because I can't 3 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: let your girls see me without my face. I just 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:16,119 Speaker 1: have to tell you that my bill at Macy's for 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,279 Speaker 1: the makeup for the Today Show was two hundred and 6 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 1: seventy eight dollars. Peter was gonna die when he saw 7 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: the bill. To eight dollars were ellipsick, I said, Peter, 8 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: I needed a limp pencil, I needed eyebrow pencils. I 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: needed mascara. Did you tell him you were only on 10 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 1: the Today Show once in a lifetime, the first time 11 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 1: I called it the first time I'm on the Today Show. Okay, 12 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: you're very optimistic. Who are we going to hear today? Today, 13 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: we're going to hear from Joan, the grandmother, and know 14 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: with the granddaughter it should be fun and they just 15 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: love each other. They're the best of friends. I can't 16 00:00:54,160 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 1: wait to get started. Here. We have Joan Mendelssohn. She's 17 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: eighty seven years old, full of sass. Yeah, the shame 18 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: that she's twenty five. Who asked you how old I was? 19 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: I just thought it was important that people know how 20 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: much of a life you've lived and how much knowledge 21 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: you'll have to share with the world. That's the end 22 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: of Hugh Jackman for me. Now we know as I 23 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 1: made these seven thanks. No. It is my most beautiful granddaughter. 24 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: She's wonderful and she has a terrific personality and happy 25 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: to say she has my hair, gorgeous long blonde brown hair. 26 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: Did I do good? Sweet? Huh? You did great? Grandma? 27 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: What would you say? Was kind of a moment that 28 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: defined our relationship. Oh, I was thrilled because and I 29 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: didn't have to speak to your mother. I had you 30 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 1: is perfect, perfect, Sorry, Susan. My grandmother and I have 31 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 1: been super close for a very long time. I think 32 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:18,079 Speaker 1: that we started to reach an exceptionally close level when 33 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: she realized that I could have a glass of wine 34 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 1: with her, and that's when she really introduced me to 35 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: her world. Right, Grandma, that's it. The only reason for 36 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: having the children in the first place was to have 37 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 1: the grandchildren in the second place, so I could get 38 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: rid of the children and just be with my grandkids, 39 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: the divine. I love them madly. We have a wonderful 40 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:47,799 Speaker 1: time together. My daughter is okay too. You know. As 41 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: a kid, she was always there at all of my performances, 42 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 1: and as I've gotten older, you know, I go to 43 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: her for dinner once a week. My friends are absolutely 44 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: obsessed with my grandmother. So one time, a couple of 45 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: friends and I were meeting up for drinks and we 46 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: stopped at a couple of different rooftop bars. They all 47 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 1: had insane lines. So I was like, you know what, 48 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: my grandma lives across the street. Let's just go grab 49 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:15,799 Speaker 1: a drink at her apartment. And we walked in and 50 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: she immediately start sharing her stories and her jokes. And 51 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: they look at me, They're like, why wasn't this plan 52 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,080 Speaker 1: a She's amazing and I want to hang out with 53 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:27,080 Speaker 1: her all the time. You know, with a parent, I 54 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: tend to be a little more reserved with sharing information. 55 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 1: But my grandma, you tell her anything, she forgets it. 56 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,679 Speaker 1: So I can kind of just tell her anything anything 57 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: I want. You're so lucky. I can't. I don't even 58 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: know who you off hav and say, what are we 59 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: doing here? Ge? No? She what don't we like to 60 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: polish nails? We polish nails, We eat together, We miss 61 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 1: everybody up together. We planned how to get rid of 62 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: a bunch of the kids that we don't like together. 63 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: We very close. We are very close. I love the relationship. 64 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: I love the way that girl loves her grandmother and 65 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: the way the grandmother loves her. Yeah. But but but 66 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: this grandmother is a funny lady. She's got a good 67 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: sense to human To me that you know how important 68 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 1: it's that to humor is absolutely and I love. And 69 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: she said, we get rid of the door. It's are 70 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: you kidding? I would never say that about my daugh 71 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: It's they killmate. That's a funny way to think. I'd say, 72 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: you have kids, so when you forget your kids? Remark 73 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: you which When we gave my mother a ninety five 74 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: birthday party at my niece's house. The next day I 75 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: call her and say, Mom, how do you like the party? 76 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 1: She says, what party? It's his mom, the main ballroom 77 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: of the Plaza hotel. You you don't remember that party 78 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: in one top of the line. She didn't remembers. So 79 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 1: I figured I might as well make a nice party, 80 00:04:56,839 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: let her be happy, let her think it really were 81 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 1: to all. That's right, that's right, Okay, I've just been 82 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 1: handled the part titles and here we go Part one. 83 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: Hugh Jackman, is that a grandchild? I want you to 84 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: give me one of your elaborate stories that you usually 85 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: come up with. Oh you want me to lie? Yes, okay. 86 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 1: Oh I got up this morning. I guess who was 87 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: lying next to me? Who? Hugh Jackman? How did assist that? 88 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: What do you guys do? Why would I tell you that? 89 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: You're busy body? And I'm not answering any more of 90 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: those questions. Get a life. I don't have a life. 91 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: My life is you. Why don't you tell us a 92 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:57,719 Speaker 1: true story? Now? How about the time you actually met 93 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: Paul Newman? I bumped ginches car. Yeah, what happens? He 94 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: read to the house in my neighborhood? And what you do? 95 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: He stopped the one stop sign in to day. But 96 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: and I was madly in love with him always. I 97 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: would have to give Hugh Jackman up for him, I 98 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: really would. But what happened? Graham? He stopped at the 99 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: stop sign, and what I ran into his car. It 100 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:27,279 Speaker 1: was a perfect meeting, and he was so sweet. I 101 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: thought he would immediately fall madly in love with me 102 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: and get rid of his wife. I mean, well, what's 103 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: the point of talking about it? Gone? My one chance 104 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: at glory missed? It's okay, now you have Hugh Jackmen 105 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: to think about. That's true. I want to make something 106 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: very clear. I know he's married and has several children, 107 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: maybe five. I don't want him on a permanent basis. 108 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: I want his wife to understand that as well. I 109 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 1: just want to borrow him, and when I'm finished with him, 110 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna send him back to his wife if he 111 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: wants to go. I don't want anything permanent. Did you 112 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 1: tell him this when you met him? She did truly 113 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: get to meet him once. I think his wife was there. 114 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: Maybe he's laughing in the pics there, so maybe I 115 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:28,679 Speaker 1: did tell him the woman has a fantastic fantasy life. 116 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: I'll tell you that. I can't wait till i'm eighty seven. 117 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: I've was eighty seven. I don't have things happening. Jackman 118 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: in the bed next to me. I let Paul Noman 119 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: have to be perfectly honest. His eyes were beautiful, but 120 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 1: I was taller. No, he's not so short. I like 121 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: short man. I don't think it's relative right right for me. Listen, 122 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: now she's got it's no guide from Bridgeton. Did you 123 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: all see him? It's no Renee Page jan Page. Oh yes, 124 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: Oh he's beauty. Oh my god, so she can give 125 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 1: up Hugh Jack. Mit, She'll have this new guy now 126 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 1: he's mine, is mine, he is gorgeous. Listen, at this age, 127 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: a D seven is not that far from nineties. And 128 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 1: that's how you live when you get to our rage. 129 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 1: A lot of n ands oil in the head, can't 130 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: wait in the body. Next up Part two, Ironing and crying, well, crying, 131 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: I know, ironing. I don't do so, Grahams. But I 132 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: want to go back to college with you. Yes. Tell 133 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 1: me about when you met aunt Lane, Auntie Lane. I 134 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: decided to come in as a freshman because I didn't 135 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 1: want to be in the sophomore dorm. So I came 136 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: in and there in the launchry room was Auntie Lane. 137 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 1: She's my friend for a hundred years, ironing and crying, 138 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: and I said, what's the matter with you? I have 139 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:05,720 Speaker 1: to leave, I shaid, he just got here. What do 140 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: you have to leave? Because there are no Jewish people 141 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: with my dormitory. I said, I'm Jewish. Well, I was 142 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: exhibit A. She dragged me out. I met her parents 143 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: and she said, she's jealoush's Jewish. I can stay and 144 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: that was it. They let her stay ironing and crying. 145 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: She's been doing that for the last fifty six years. So, Grandma, 146 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 1: do you remember this at all? My freshman year of college, 147 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: I'm sitting in my dorm room and I got a 148 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: call for my high school ex boyfriend. Haven't spoken to 149 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: him in a while. I'm like, what's up? He goes, 150 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: You're never going to believe who I just bumped into 151 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: in the hallways of Baruk. Who your grandma? What the 152 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: hell was my grandma doing at school? He's like, she's 153 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: trying to figure out how she could sign up for 154 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,680 Speaker 1: some art classes. Grandma, do you remember that at all? Yes? 155 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: I do. Indeed, I don't believe she ever found the 156 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,679 Speaker 1: art classes, but they were. Now she's just to go 157 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: get her. You know, that's my motto, you want to 158 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:18,200 Speaker 1: go for it. There were no no Jewish girl sea. 159 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 1: Oh you know that's surprising. Listen, You find Jews wherever 160 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:24,840 Speaker 1: you go. They just have a way of getting in somehow, 161 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:27,319 Speaker 1: I don't know it. And once they get in, they 162 00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: never leave you alone. Your friends for life. Yeah, but 163 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 1: when I went to college, you know, they were no Jewish. 164 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 1: They were I had my roommate and one other girl, 165 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: and that was it. So I went to Syracuse London 166 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: Jewish girls with Syracuse. But do you know what, who cares? 167 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: My daughter went to American University and she pledged a 168 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: sorority that was very Southern. And I was speaking to 169 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 1: my son and he says, you know, mom, we're gonna 170 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:58,599 Speaker 1: have to change our name to Culpepper, right, But do 171 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 1: you know what are You'm all young college kids. You go, 172 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: you have fun, I love each other and whatever. And 173 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: she had investigated. She wouldn't know to tell you the truth. 174 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: But UCAN is a business school. You're not gonna find 175 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: Arcolan in the business school. But okay, she didn't know. 176 00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: She went and she said met somebody thought that was fine. 177 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: She does her thing and everybody seems to know her 178 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: and love her. And I'm trying to save her little footsteps. Okay, 179 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: Part three is up next. Dumbo an Elephant? Grandma? What 180 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 1: was dating like back in the day? Like me, when 181 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: I go on a date, I wear jeans and a 182 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: T shirt. What would you wear? First of all, nobody 183 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 1: wore jeans. It was still such thing as jeans. People 184 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: didn't walk around in jeans. They walked around and skirts 185 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 1: with matching sweaters. It was an ensemble, my dear, And 186 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 1: you looked elegant, well as elegant as a kid could look. 187 00:11:57,000 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 1: And you wore Bobby's socks and loafers. Did you ever 188 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: go out for dinner? No, you did not go to dinner. 189 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: That course money. You have to understand. This was right 190 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:14,079 Speaker 1: after the depression. People didn't have money. If you were 191 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: going out with somebody wealthy, which I was not, that's 192 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: a different circumstances. No, nobody took you out to dinners. 193 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: You want to tell us how you and Papa Matt 194 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:28,440 Speaker 1: I finagled it. That's how I got him. Yeah, tell 195 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 1: us he was every girl's dream. He was his nice 196 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: Jewish boy and six ft tall and he was about 197 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: a hundred and thirty pounds. All the girls loved him. Well, 198 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:46,360 Speaker 1: that's all I had to hear that he now became 199 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: a challenge, and I knew this was it. He used 200 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 1: to go off campus every weekend to see another girlfriend, 201 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 1: and I knew where he was going. And one day 202 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 1: he was sitting at coffee shop and I sat right 203 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:08,760 Speaker 1: behind him. He had his hands on his head. I said, 204 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 1: I always thought you were thinking deep thoughts, but now 205 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 1: I know you're nursing a hangover. Well, he said, who 206 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:22,720 Speaker 1: are you? And I told him, and he said, what 207 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: is it your business? I said, everything you do is 208 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 1: my business. That was it. After that, it was made 209 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 1: in heaven. He never went off campus again because I 210 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:38,559 Speaker 1: never went off campus again. And I snagged him and 211 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: I was not sorry from the first to the day 212 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:45,960 Speaker 1: he died. He was the love of my life. Oh 213 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: I miss him. M hmmm, I really do miss him. 214 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 1: So when you and Papa started dating, what kind of 215 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 1: dates did you guys go on? We went dancing. There 216 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:02,680 Speaker 1: was a play surround the corner on Marshall Street where 217 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:07,680 Speaker 1: they had a jukebox and if you had the money, 218 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 1: you could put five cents in and you would have 219 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 1: five songs. I don't think they served alcohol. I'm sure 220 00:14:14,440 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 1: they did not. There was coke or whatever, and we 221 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: had that and everyone was there, all your friends when 222 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: they are dancing, and we had a very innocent, very 223 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:25,680 Speaker 1: nice time. Why don't you tell us a little bit 224 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 1: about what he looked like and what your mother said 225 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: about it? Oh uh, Glee. Well, you see, he could 226 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: fly because his ears were flapping. So I told my 227 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 1: mother how madly in love I was with this guy, 228 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 1: and my mother said, you're madly in love with me. 229 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: Looks like dumbbo And I realized she was right. But 230 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:54,240 Speaker 1: I could help that look, and so I did. I 231 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 1: went with him to the barber and I said, listen, 232 00:14:57,800 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 1: the ears on the side of the head. We can't 233 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 1: cut them off. Let's let the hair grow all around it, 234 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 1: so there'll be no space between the ear and the head. 235 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: And that's what we did. He had a full head 236 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: of hair, all curly, and it was not shaved, because 237 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: in those days the guys used to have their heads 238 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 1: very very short, like a Scott. Yeah, I said, he's 239 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: very handsome. Mother, you don't see it, No, she said, 240 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: I think he's quite ugly. Well, it took her a while, 241 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: but once I got rid of the ears sticking out, 242 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 1: with the hair growing, he was stunning, wasn't he studying? 243 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 1: He was? You picked a good one, you know what. 244 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: Of all the podcasts we've heard, she's the only grandmother 245 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 1: that said, you know, I missed Papa. But it was 246 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 1: so nice. She says, I missed him. There was a 247 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,320 Speaker 1: nice love affair. Look how nice you mentioned him out. 248 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 1: She made his hair grow over the ears. We all 249 00:15:56,920 --> 00:16:00,120 Speaker 1: do things to make them better looking. Well, that's it. 250 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 1: We all have a vision. At once we get the guy, 251 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: we start to mold them into that vision. That's it. 252 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: Never happens, but we keep trying. Okay, Allen, it's time 253 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 1: for commercial. Nikki is scratching at the door. Gotta get 254 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 1: the dog out. Okay, Crumpet, tell us here comes apart 255 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 1: four marriage and money. Let's see how this is handled 256 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: in this marriage. I know how it's handled in my house. So, Grandma, 257 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 1: what was Papa like as a husband and a father? 258 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: It was very faithful. It was a different era. I 259 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 1: guess his word was his bond. He was honorable, He 260 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 1: was wonderfull, he really was. He was a pain in 261 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 1: the ass as well, by the way that would be expected. 262 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 1: But he was a very good husband. I think, a 263 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 1: very good father, though I suspect that if he wasn't 264 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 1: as good a father as he should have been, it 265 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:15,239 Speaker 1: was because of the gulf that was his downfall. And 266 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 1: he was very good at He was a wonderful athlete. 267 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 1: And Grandma, how did you used to know when Papa 268 00:17:20,320 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 1: was mad at you picture in the refrige. You know 269 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:29,119 Speaker 1: that my sister aunt Myra, and she was a spy 270 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:33,160 Speaker 1: for me, and when I was in trouble with Grandpa, 271 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 1: she would call me up and say, your pictures in 272 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 1: the refrigerator. But if things got really bad, then my 273 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,720 Speaker 1: picture was in the freezer. And if it was in 274 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 1: the freezer and face down, I should look for another boyfriend. 275 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 1: Because this was over. So tell me about your first job. 276 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 1: I'm curious how did that figure into your marriage. I 277 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 1: worked privately with two students, both of them were deaf. 278 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: One student, Richard Mead, who was the first deaf student 279 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 1: to be accepted by m I t he was brilliant. 280 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 1: I worked with them at school and then their parents 281 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:19,919 Speaker 1: was so pleased with the results of my work that 282 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 1: they asked me if I would work every day privately, 283 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:25,959 Speaker 1: which I did, and I made in those days a 284 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 1: lot of money because I worked by the hour. Today 285 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 1: they would stone me. I gave all of my money 286 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:39,320 Speaker 1: to my husband and he said, how much do you 287 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 1: need to live on and run the house and so 288 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 1: and so forth. I said, I think forty dollars a 289 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 1: week will do it, and he gave me forty dollars 290 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: and he took several hundred dollars of my money, our money, 291 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 1: my money, and he put it in the bank in 292 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:03,160 Speaker 1: a saving account. But he did do that to save 293 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 1: money for the two of you and your families and 294 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 1: your lives together. He wasn't taking it for himself. Oh no, 295 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:12,040 Speaker 1: of course not. No, no, no, no no. He wasn't 296 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:16,360 Speaker 1: taking my money and going out on the town. No, no, no, 297 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 1: it was a different time. I gave him the money. 298 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:24,359 Speaker 1: Some guys would have just gone and blown the money. 299 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: But he was so honorable and so trustworthy. So did 300 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 1: Papa support the fact that you were working that he 301 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:36,199 Speaker 1: appreciate it? Are you kidding? He almost killed me when 302 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: I stopped working. I was making more money than he was. 303 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: So what should I look for in a man? First 304 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:49,880 Speaker 1: of all, make sure that he's a challenge and everyone 305 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 1: wants him. That's very important. He's got to have something special. 306 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: Can't be just an ambishi kid that slumps along. It 307 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 1: be wonderful if he had a lovely imagination. You make 308 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,919 Speaker 1: the decision. Don't leave it up to the guy, because 309 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: they never make decisions, and they're usually wrong if they 310 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:12,959 Speaker 1: make them, so forget that. But he has to be smart. 311 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:16,200 Speaker 1: He doesn't have to be wealthy. The rest will come 312 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:20,600 Speaker 1: if he's intelligent, and he has to love you more 313 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:24,479 Speaker 1: than you love him. That would be very helpful. So 314 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 1: what would you wish for me when I get married 315 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:30,840 Speaker 1: one day? What do I wish for you? Well? Happiness, 316 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 1: of course, health, happiness, a lot of love of course, 317 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:40,840 Speaker 1: babies that's to be expected. How many babies do you want? 318 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 1: A hundred? You're not going to have a hundred, trust me. 319 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 1: How many do you want? As many as I can handle? Three? Four? Well, 320 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:54,959 Speaker 1: please start now, because I'm not getting any younger. You 321 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 1: could have a baby now, you know. I wouldn't care. 322 00:20:58,119 --> 00:20:59,960 Speaker 1: I don't think I'm going to have a baby right now. 323 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 1: Oh ratch, Grandma? Why do you think of Adam? My boyfriends? 324 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: How how do you think? I did? I think he's 325 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 1: lovely and he loves you two pieces, which is so nice. 326 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 1: It's so nice. So you like having him around? Of 327 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: course I picked someone that you're okay with. Yeah, anyone 328 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,359 Speaker 1: that makes you happy. I would be happy with what 329 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:26,639 Speaker 1: he happens to be a very exceptionally wonderful boy. And 330 00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: don't lose some where you're out, You're out of the will. 331 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 1: Too bad for you. Grandma already have your whole will 332 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:35,399 Speaker 1: on the wall. Because she asked me for a favor, 333 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,919 Speaker 1: and I said, well, if I'm gonna do this, you 334 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 1: have to sign this that says Grandma's will, Noah gets everything. 335 00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:45,080 Speaker 1: And she signed it, and that's hanging up in our kitchen, 336 00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:47,399 Speaker 1: so I don't know if you've got me out of there. 337 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 1: You know, it's so funny. She said something that my 338 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:58,040 Speaker 1: mother used to say to me. She said, you know, 339 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,880 Speaker 1: it's nice to have a love relationship, but the man 340 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 1: should always love you a little bit more. And she's right, absolutely, 341 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:11,280 Speaker 1: But I'm just telling you younger girls, marriage is like 342 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: a game. You have to know how to play it right, 343 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: how to play up to your husband, how not to 344 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,439 Speaker 1: play up the oven when give and take. It's a 345 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:22,439 Speaker 1: whole philosophy of how to be married. Yeah, but you 346 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 1: know that ends at a certain point where because once 347 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,359 Speaker 1: you got the power, you got the power. You know, 348 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:33,440 Speaker 1: they should have a cause how to be married. There's 349 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 1: little things in marriage that we all old women would 350 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,080 Speaker 1: come in with and you'd see it worked out. Make 351 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: sure they love you more. Okay, Rida, it's time to 352 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 1: go to a commercial. I hate to switch gears like this, 353 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,399 Speaker 1: but who's paying the bills? I'm not gonna be you 354 00:22:49,480 --> 00:23:05,040 Speaker 1: and I next up Part five The Gramercy Grandma. I 355 00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:09,919 Speaker 1: wonder what this could mean. Grandma, tell us about how 356 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 1: you ended up living in the Grammercy Park Hotel. Oh, 357 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,439 Speaker 1: my husband was a lawyer. One of his clients are 358 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:20,480 Speaker 1: owned the hotel, and one day he came back from 359 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,679 Speaker 1: Manhattan and he looked so upset. Apparently a couple of 360 00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:28,159 Speaker 1: kids were hassling him. They threw his glasses on the 361 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 1: floor and they stepped on them, and he said, you 362 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: know what, let's stay there during the week and we'll 363 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:39,320 Speaker 1: go home on the weekends. And that's what we planned 364 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:42,439 Speaker 1: on doing. And then he said, you know what, let's 365 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:45,639 Speaker 1: just stay here and we'll sell our house, which is 366 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 1: what we did, and that's how we got to be 367 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 1: at the Gramercy Park Hotel forever and ever. Yeah, so, 368 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 1: the original owner and management wasn't what it is now, 369 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,480 Speaker 1: and when these new owners took over, they turned the 370 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: Grammercy Hard Hotel into what it is today. It's this 371 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 1: super hip hotel where all the celebrities stay. And so 372 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:09,040 Speaker 1: my four ft eight grandmother, who was best friends with 373 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 1: all of the doormen there, would come home every day 374 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:13,800 Speaker 1: and they'd let her know who was there weekly i'd 375 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: get a call. No, uh, do you know who bouncy is, Grandma? 376 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,600 Speaker 1: Remember when Bouncy was in your hotel? Yeah? Who was bouncy? 377 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:28,480 Speaker 1: Bouncy is Beyonce Um a famous singer, Beyonce Bouncy. Nah huh. 378 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: And tall sports guys would be staying in the hotel, 379 00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,560 Speaker 1: she would go knock on their shoulder. You're very tall? 380 00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: Like yes. So, my cousins and I actually decided to 381 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 1: make an instagram about her life. The Grammarcy Grandma is 382 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,199 Speaker 1: what we called it. It didn't start out as a 383 00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:51,440 Speaker 1: Hugh Jackman fan page, but it slowly but surely turned 384 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: into that did I show it? I've showed you before? Yes? 385 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,520 Speaker 1: Did I like it? I think you did? I think 386 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,120 Speaker 1: you did. Do we charge? We don't large for Oh 387 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:07,480 Speaker 1: too bad? Oh? You know why relate to her? Because 388 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,679 Speaker 1: she said she's four ft in and I was like 389 00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,520 Speaker 1: four ft nine. My god. We could be a team, 390 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,440 Speaker 1: the two of us. But she's killed. I get her. 391 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 1: I get the little lady. Oh she's adorable, she's absolutely 392 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:22,560 Speaker 1: I just see her as like a senior citizen Eloise 393 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:26,359 Speaker 1: at the Grammasee Park Hotel. You know what she she'd 394 00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 1: be my competition because people see me, they said, oh, 395 00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:35,439 Speaker 1: Dr Roof. They all think I'm Dr Ruth Westimer. She 396 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 1: knows a lot about sex. What I forgot about sex, 397 00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:43,960 Speaker 1: you could write a book about, you know, Rita. When 398 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,960 Speaker 1: I was much younger, I looked like Beverly Sills. And 399 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,480 Speaker 1: I was in the Russian tea room one day and 400 00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:52,320 Speaker 1: a couple was sitting at a table near us, and 401 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:54,919 Speaker 1: they kept on staring over, and my sister was with me, 402 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 1: and she said to me, they think of Beverly Sills. 403 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 1: She says, watch and she turns around and she says, 404 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,880 Speaker 1: you know, Beverly, we have a lot of things to do. 405 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,760 Speaker 1: She says, let's get going. So we go out, and 406 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,800 Speaker 1: she went one way. I went the other way, and 407 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 1: I got into a cab and the cab driver he 408 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,119 Speaker 1: turned around and he smiled at me, you know, and 409 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 1: he says, I know who you are. He says, but 410 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,640 Speaker 1: I know better than to ask. So when I got 411 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:23,159 Speaker 1: out and he says, I can't help it. Can I 412 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 1: have your autograph? I said sure, and he handed me 413 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 1: a piece of paper and I said, you're a terrific driver. 414 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 1: With all my best wishes, Ellen Grodsky, No, I told 415 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:38,920 Speaker 1: you the one minute. The lady, I says, walk into 416 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,359 Speaker 1: the subway. Oh, Dr Ruth, Doctor Ruth. I said, no, 417 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm not Dr Ruth. Yes you are. I would need 418 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,359 Speaker 1: an autograph, and I said, I have no paper and pencil. 419 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 1: She said, bleak lay here. She goes into the supermarket 420 00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: right there, and I started walking towards the subway and 421 00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 1: she comes and she's this is a gods on the strength, 422 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 1: Dr Ruth. I gotta paper. I gotta paper. So I thingured, 423 00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:01,439 Speaker 1: oh my god, And if I don't say I'm doctor, 424 00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:05,520 Speaker 1: She's going to be so upset. So true enough, I 425 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 1: wrote Dr Ruth west time and she goes running in 426 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,639 Speaker 1: the street. I got her autography so I didn't a 427 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:19,199 Speaker 1: miss for she was so happy. Okay, Ruda, this is it. 428 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:24,679 Speaker 1: This is the end, part six, and it's evolving. We 429 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:31,119 Speaker 1: all have to evolve. Let's see how she evolves. I 430 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:38,560 Speaker 1: love that word evolving. Grandma, being a woman when you 431 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,040 Speaker 1: were growing up is very different from what being a 432 00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:44,040 Speaker 1: woman is like now. What differences do you really see 433 00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:47,240 Speaker 1: in that? And what would you have preferred? Women are 434 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:51,439 Speaker 1: their own people, and they do their own thing, and 435 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 1: they make a living, and they go home from work 436 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,199 Speaker 1: and they don't expect that somebody is going to be 437 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:03,199 Speaker 1: there cooking for them. Your life is harder then my 438 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:07,119 Speaker 1: life was. We had roles to play, and we understood 439 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 1: what those roles were, and we brought into those roles 440 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,840 Speaker 1: and it made our lives easier because we knew what 441 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,159 Speaker 1: we were supposed to do. But isn't it kind of 442 00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: special that I don't have to live by those roles? 443 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,720 Speaker 1: I can be whatever it is that I want to be. 444 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:28,359 Speaker 1: It's only special if you wanted to be, if you 445 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:34,880 Speaker 1: buy into it, it's special. What were you like as 446 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 1: a mother? I don't think I was a great mother. 447 00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,000 Speaker 1: I kind of let them do their own thing most 448 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: of the time because I had trust in them. But 449 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:46,920 Speaker 1: you'd have to have the kids said, I don't know, 450 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:50,440 Speaker 1: I have no idea, and you better say the right thing. Kids? 451 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 1: Where are? How do you think you are as a 452 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:58,080 Speaker 1: grandma better than I was as a mother? My little 453 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:05,840 Speaker 1: mushy baby girl, Oh, musty musty grandma. Yeah? So what 454 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 1: makes a good grandmother? I think being a grandmother gives 455 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:14,160 Speaker 1: you a perspective and sense of time. You do not 456 00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:18,880 Speaker 1: have infinite number of years, and that this is like 457 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 1: a gift that you get. Whatever you did wrong, you 458 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 1: can make up for with these kids, and it's fun. 459 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,720 Speaker 1: How do you think our relationship has evolved now that 460 00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:33,040 Speaker 1: I'm an adult. It doesn't evolve now that you're an adult. 461 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 1: It evolves from the moment you opened your eyes. It's 462 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,600 Speaker 1: a growing thing. It's like a plant. Can you nurture 463 00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: it and you water it, and you careful it and 464 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 1: you love it. That's how it works. So your grandkid, 465 00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:51,320 Speaker 1: so me, Ben Hank, Sophie, Michael, Annie, Aman's a test, Ruby, Margie. 466 00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 1: Do you think that our values and ideas about how 467 00:29:54,600 --> 00:30:00,520 Speaker 1: to live life match your own? Well exceed my own? Actually? 468 00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 1: Not just magic seed? Because you're very close to one another. 469 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 1: You care about one another. Perfect You guys make me cry. 470 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 1: We love you. Have we surprised you in any way? 471 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:29,640 Speaker 1: Grahams No. I mean I expected you to be good people, 472 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:35,360 Speaker 1: honorable people, and you are and that's all I ask 473 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:39,480 Speaker 1: of you. I mean, you love each other and you 474 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,120 Speaker 1: show it, and that's the best thing I can ask. 475 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:47,600 Speaker 1: I just know that all of you make me happy. Well, 476 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,560 Speaker 1: you make all of us happy. Gee, you know the 477 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 1: highlight of our week every week is walking through your door, 478 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 1: hearing your stories. Having a drink with you, and we 479 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 1: all feel so lucky to have the chance to spend 480 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 1: all this time with you. Why do you read the 481 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,520 Speaker 1: papers obituaries? Tear them out and leave them around the 482 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:15,120 Speaker 1: house for me and my mother to see. Oh, because 483 00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:18,360 Speaker 1: there are certain that are very nice obituaries. And then 484 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:22,360 Speaker 1: I can decide which one I want. I am gonna 485 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:25,640 Speaker 1: underline some of them too. By the way, So when 486 00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 1: Ruth Bader Ginsburg passed away and you said, I want 487 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 1: this one, she was Supreme Court justice, and you read 488 00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,640 Speaker 1: it word for word, and you said, don't change a thing, 489 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 1: just the name. Why not? Who's gonna remember? Oh, she's 490 00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 1: a riot? She is so funny. I think that people 491 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 1: of a certain age have a preoccupation with deaths. You 492 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 1: know what it is there? And I'm ninety. Now, if 493 00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:59,120 Speaker 1: you live to ninety, that was a good old age, 494 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,400 Speaker 1: and them ninety, I say, I don't know where did 495 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 1: ninety years go? And I like to impress upon everybody, 496 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: no matter what the ages. When you get to ninety, 497 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 1: you look back and say, how fast I got to nine? Yes, yes, 498 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:20,480 Speaker 1: I agree. So every day is a gift and and 499 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:24,200 Speaker 1: and don't let anything pass you by because I don't 500 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:27,320 Speaker 1: want to say when I get older, I'm sorry. I 501 00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:32,480 Speaker 1: didn't do this. Taken everything you possibly can. I agree. 502 00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,480 Speaker 1: You gotta live life to the fullest. Every minute counts. 503 00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:40,000 Speaker 1: And this podcast, I hope all the grandmother to bring 504 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,760 Speaker 1: the myths to Chump to all the grandkids. Live life, 505 00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 1: enjoy life, be kind and loving to each other. Remember 506 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,880 Speaker 1: you want everybody to say, I miss you, girls, Ray, 507 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,080 Speaker 1: I miss you, I miss you. When I don't talk 508 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:59,680 Speaker 1: to you for one day, call your grandmother. As a 509 00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:04,600 Speaker 1: duction of I Heart Radio and Superb Entertainment. The hosts 510 00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:08,840 Speaker 1: of the show are me Rina Kay and me Ellen Bernstein. 511 00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:15,000 Speaker 1: Grodsky created by Meryl Poster, produced and directed by Anna Stump, 512 00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:22,920 Speaker 1: with producer abuzafar An, associate producer Emily Maronoff, managing producer 513 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:28,640 Speaker 1: Lindsay Hoffman, and executive producers are Merral Poster, Nikki I 514 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 1: Tore and Mangesh Haatika Door music and mastering by Hamilton 515 00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 1: Lighthouser and Anna Stump. Listen, just listen to me. I'm 516 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,040 Speaker 1: an old grandmother, So tell everybody you know you've got 517 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,080 Speaker 1: to listen to Coy your grandmother