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Speaker 1: So organic let fifty nine forty eight says, I don't

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Speaker 1: even know where to begin with this. Me thirty four male,

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Speaker 1: been together for twelve years and married for eight. Around

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Speaker 1: a year ago, I noticed my wife increasingly sending me

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Speaker 1: these trad wife or traditional housewife tiktoks. I've got nothing

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Speaker 2: Wait, what is a tried wife?

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Speaker 1: Uh? What do you think?

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Speaker 2: Phil?

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Speaker 1: You guys you need to angle the camera down.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'll get I'll get fill in here.

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Speaker 1: Also before I answer Riley's very good question, welcome again.

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Speaker 1: I no longer sound like a robot. I've regained my

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Speaker 1: You don't get that joke. What do you mean to

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Speaker 1: explain it? You don't understand, Riley, a trad wife For

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Speaker 1: any any people out there who don't know, you're about

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Speaker 1: to see why we're laughing. A trywave is like a

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Speaker 1: traditional quote unquote like traditional wife, someone who wants to

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Speaker 1: be a housewife or stay at home. Well, you know, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: what do you guys think? What do you think about it? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Why would you say that? My god, Phil, You're gonna

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Speaker 1: get canceled. Also, okay, I think I like someone saying

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Speaker 1: I said bones for the other guy, and I liked

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, bones and bony bones.

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Speaker 1: I was like Boner, Yeah, that was Riley's great name.

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Speaker 1: Around a year ago, I said that I do earn

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Speaker 1: She's got increasingly increasingly pushy about it over the past

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Speaker 1: Like it's totally fine to want to be a traditional

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Speaker 2: So so she was like, I'll make you food and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's like, why this is a bad deal?

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Speaker 2: Bad deal?

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Speaker 1: Because no, because they both like they both have enough

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Speaker 2: I feel like she could have got this as she

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Speaker 1: No, no, so she just went in and quit.

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Speaker 2: That phrase the same as like chill out or calm down. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: My mom also used to be a stay at home mom,

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Speaker 1: but this is like so different. You can't just decide what,

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Speaker 2: Even than a kid right now, you'd be a stay

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Speaker 1: Maybe people disagree. Maybe it's just if you're at home

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Speaker 1: Kristin Foylehat says, no, just because you work from home

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Speaker 1: but the key is communication between the two of them.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing. Like it's I don't think it would

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Speaker 1: First of all, I just want to thank you guys

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, it's so fun. You're working, it's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I feel like she's like gotta like go back on

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Speaker 1: I feel like she's, yeah, she's gonna change her mind

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Speaker 1: trad wife forums. Well, it seems like she was showing

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Speaker 1: him a lot of like TikTok videos about being a

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Speaker 1: trod wife. It seems like she was kind of in

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Speaker 1: that echo chamber for a while.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Nate Mackie said a little bit ago, she's red pilled.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's what. Yeah, it seems like she's been stuck

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Speaker 1: in it for like a I don't know, they said

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Speaker 1: at least a couple of months. I think, because said

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Speaker 1: she kept bringing it up to me and I was

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Speaker 1: ignoring it. Eah. I just held her as she started

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Speaker 1: to apologize for what she did. She claimed she didn't

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Speaker 1: understand how much she hurt me, she was sorry for

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Speaker 1: making me feel like an afterthought, et cetera. We ended

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Speaker 1: up sleeping in the same bed. Yesterday, I felt like

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Speaker 1: things were finally moving in the right direction, and I

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Speaker 1: again asked her about searching for a new job. Today.

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Speaker 1: Instead of getting mad, she just replied with, I need

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Speaker 1: to think about it. Okay, okay, So maybe they're getting

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Speaker 1: somewhere and some thought behind it. She needs to think

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Speaker 1: about it. That's still not still not you know much,

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Speaker 1: but it is a thought. It's more than before. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's where things are as of today. It feels like

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Speaker 1: progress is being made, but I don't know if this

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Speaker 1: is just another one of her manipulation tactics. I'll probably

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Speaker 1: make a final update in a month or so. Reddit

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Speaker 1: isn't doing my mental health any favor favors maybe yours.

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Speaker 1: How would you guys move forward in this situation? Could

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Speaker 1: I have done something better? Is she being genuine? And

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Speaker 1: to those insults who constantly bring up Islam as a

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Speaker 1: way to justify her behavior, please shut the f up.

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Speaker 1: And there are some relevant comments, but no more updates,

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Speaker 1: so should we just get into those or actually, I'll

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Speaker 1: read I'll read some of your fuel comments. First, Dutchess

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Speaker 1: Cassanta says, if he'd talk to her instead of ignoring

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Speaker 1: her for months, maybe things would be different now too.

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Speaker 1: That is also what I was thinking, because we've been

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Speaker 1: talking a lot about communication, and if she had kind

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Speaker 1: of been broaching this subject four months, I probably shouldn't

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Speaker 1: have ignored the issue. He probably should have been like, hey,

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Speaker 1: that's not going to work out for us. We just not, like,

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Speaker 1: aren't financially in the right place. Miss jay Bird says

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Speaker 1: time for her to lose some things, since no one

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Speaker 1: should lose anything due to her financial decisions. Yeah, if

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Speaker 1: she can't afford it, then yeah, maybe she doesn't get

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Speaker 1: a buy it. Also, someone brought up earlier. I don't

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Speaker 1: know who said it, but someone brought up her like

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Speaker 1: trying to seduce him to get a baby, which would

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Speaker 1: probably yeah, kind of baby having to stay at home. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Tanja Assistany says, what choice does she really have if

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Speaker 1: they divorce, she'll certainly need to go back to work. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so it's like she either gets help in income or

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Speaker 1: she has to work on her own, or like she

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Speaker 1: has to go back to work and gets a second income,

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Speaker 1: or she doesn't get a second income and still has

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Speaker 1: to go back to work. Either way, she's I feel

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Speaker 1: like she's got to have to go back to work,

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Speaker 1: says Minds. Noomi says, Okay, to be fair, he sounded

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Speaker 1: jerky when describing stay at homes moms, like they do

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Speaker 1: nothing all day while the kids are at school. But

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Speaker 1: that's no excuse for her behavior. Should have done therapy

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Speaker 1: long ago. Yeah, that's fair, he was, well, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if he was necessarily describing all stay at home

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Speaker 1: moms like that. I think he was just saying that

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Speaker 1: it like the because the kids are school, she would

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Speaker 1: she would be doing significantly, like she wouldn't be doing

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Speaker 1: as much work as like a stay at home mom

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Speaker 1: to to babies, especially because he's coming home at like,

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Speaker 1: you know, five or something, so it's not like she

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Speaker 1: is alone in the house all day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, maybe not five.

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Speaker 1: I don't know that was a random number. Yeah, evening time,

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Speaker 1: evening three to five. Maybe. But let's get into these

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Speaker 1: last relevant comments. Nice when commoner says, if you're still

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Speaker 1: questioning things at this point, respectfully, take your effing head

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Speaker 1: out of your butt. Opie says, I guess you're hinting

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Speaker 1: at divorce. Let me make it clear for you. In

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Speaker 1: our culture, divorce is the last resort and extremely frowned upon,

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Speaker 1: and especially if there are kids involved. I want to

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Speaker 1: fix this. If she shows no improvement after I've tried everything, yes,

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Speaker 1: then I'll go to divorce commoner and other commoner says

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Speaker 1: she's not even being a good trad wife since they're

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Speaker 1: supposedly meant to put their husband's needs ahead of their own.

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Speaker 1: But she's definitely putting her wants out of your needs.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like you really need couples counseling. Opie responds,

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Speaker 1: she believes my needs solely revolve around sex. That's the problem.

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Speaker 1: And Opie responds to a different comment saying she's always

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Speaker 1: been like this. She fs up or wants something from

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Speaker 1: me equals trying to f me twenty four to seven.

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Speaker 1: That's also pretty messed up, Like trying to resolve all

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Speaker 1: of your problems with like sleeping with the person doesn't

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Speaker 1: seem like a healthy way of communication.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because then soon it's like the dog and the

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Speaker 2: Bill Pavlov's dog.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're performing all Yeah, it just doesn't seem very healthy.

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Speaker 1: Another commoner says when she came to you with her issue.

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Speaker 1: What did you do to help find a solution? Opie says,

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Speaker 1: I constantly told her she can reduce her hours if

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Speaker 1: she wants. Okay, So they did have a kind of

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Speaker 1: solution brought up. That's fine with me being at home

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Speaker 1: twenty four to seven without my consent is where I

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Speaker 1: draw the line. Another person says, do you have life insurance? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I work for insurance. And then couples counseling, Thank you,

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Speaker 1: Opi says, couples therapy can definitely help.

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Speaker 2: I love that. That was the last comment on here,

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Speaker 2: what couples therapy. Couples therapy, It was like divorce just

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Speaker 2: forget about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and couples counseling. Yeah, I think that's that seems

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Speaker 1: like the the the answer that op he is most

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Speaker 1: comfortable with right now because he doesn't want divorce. But

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Speaker 1: if they don't come to an agreement, it just seems

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Speaker 1: they're like they're both at an impasse right now. Like

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Speaker 1: she so desperately wants this trad like trad wife life

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Speaker 1: have to give and he's like, I can we can't

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Speaker 1: affoid that. Yeah. Gabby B says, Damn, she's using sex

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Speaker 1: as a weapony, a weapon slash bargaining tool. Yeah, very

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Speaker 1: not good. Um, but that's all. That's the whole story.

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Speaker 1: That's the full thing. There's no more. Maybe he'll update

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Speaker 1: and we'll include it on our update episode. But in

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Speaker 1: the meantime, I shall read your donations. Martika Waterman, thank

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Honestly, no, I find it so difficult to engage

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Speaker 1: Just god here, what's happening in the story so far?

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Speaker 1: We did just finish the story.

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Speaker 2: But about to read another one. Don't you worry what

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Speaker 1: So let's get into this next story.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.

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Speaker 1: It's freaking cool.

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Speaker 2: Also well, Sophia's pulling it up. We have seven hundred

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Speaker 2: What do you like the Willspin? What do you not

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Speaker 1: Where you are seven hundred and five concurrent viewers and

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Speaker 1: Fate would you? Seems like all of you guys who

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Speaker 1: for rejecting my ex husband when he begged me to

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Speaker 1: give him his old life back? What's his old like?

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Speaker 1: He wants to restart the marriage.

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Speaker 2: We gotten nerved?

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Speaker 1: I don't know that, so throw ray Love Baking says

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Speaker 2: he'd like for me to be a stay at home

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Speaker 2: wife and mom. A lot of stay at home partners

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Speaker 2: in this in this collection of stories, it's gonna be you, Riley.

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Speaker 2: I'd like that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I don't think I want to be

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Speaker 1: stay at home partner.

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Speaker 2: I mean, as long as I can still podcast.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to spend I want to have

650
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Speaker 1: a job that allows me to spend a lot of

651
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Speaker 1: time with my kids. But I still want to have

652
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Speaker 1: a job.

653
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Speaker 2: Like this schedule is perfect, like I have with the

654
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Speaker 2: kids in the morning and the night and the night

655
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Speaker 2: live stream at twelve, get done around, hopefully never have kids.

656
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Speaker 2: Will you guys please let me be done by like

657
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 2: six to hang up with my kids. Yeah, gonna be like, no,

658
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Speaker 2: bring them on.

659
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm gonna have my kids be on

660
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Speaker 1: any sort of social media like. I don't want to.

661
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to like advertise them on my social media.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean, dude? Those are cash cows right there.

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Speaker 1: No, exactly, I'm not. I'm not profiting up with my children.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean monetize everything?

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be one of those like YouTubers

666
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:54,760
Speaker 1: that just post their kids for content. Just all my life.

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00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 2: I mean, costing you a lot of money. Why not

668
00:35:57,840 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 2: get that money back?

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Speaker 1: No, I made them come into this world. I have

670
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Speaker 1: to take care of them. They don't know me anything,

671
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Speaker 1: and I agreed because I wanted us to get along

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Speaker 1: at the time and trusted his judgment. During our marriage,

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Speaker 1: I did most of the housework and dealt with the kids'

674
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Speaker 1: school stuff, extracurricular activities, play dates, etc. Also, Riley, can

675
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Speaker 1: you change the tail.

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Speaker 2: Dr Oh my gosh, yes, thank you. Sorry guys.

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Speaker 1: He was very busy during most of it, so whenever

678
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Speaker 1: he was home, he spent the time he wasn't sleeping

679
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Speaker 1: playing with the kids, so he didn't make much time

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Speaker 1: for our marriage. Uh Oh. I tried my best to

681
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Speaker 1: entertain him. I wanted him to be interested in me

682
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Speaker 1: a little more, and I just wanted him to spend

683
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Speaker 1: time with me, but he refused most of the time

684
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 1: because he was tired from work and other stuff. Our

685
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: main issue was that he didn't do anything with the

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Speaker 1: kids besides playing with them or buying them things. I

687
00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: was the only one enforcing some type of discipline, and

688
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 1: he was undoing all of it. If I scolded any

689
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: of our kids in front of me, he'd side with

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00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 1: the kid and disregard me. It was very frustrating, but

691
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 1: I loved him, so I stayed. I basically spent our

692
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Speaker 1: entire marriage trying to appease him until twenty twenty one. Oh,

693
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Speaker 1: what happened in twenty twenty one? What's about it happened? Also?

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Speaker 1: Before we get into the juicy details of what happened

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty one, thank you Samantha for the five

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Speaker 1: buck tip. I missed the live stream yesterday, so I

697
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:34,319
Speaker 1: help out today by growing the wimb on me. You'll

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Speaker 1: welcome everyone, well, thank you.

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Speaker 2: Throw the bones bones? What all right? Just bones? I

700
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:46,360
Speaker 2: really want to call it my name murm bones, his

701
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 2: name's bones? All right? Wait? Show bones? Oh bones bones

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Speaker 2: in Phil and Phil.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Cory B. For the five gifted memberships. You'll

704
00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 1: are so nice today. Thank you Kristin Foyle had for

705
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:05,319
Speaker 1: the ten gifted memberships. Natalie noa, thank you for the

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00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 1: ten buck tip. Is that like a jazz hand the wave?

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Speaker 1: Ohaz hand? I guess he had needed too, someone said,

708
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Speaker 1: put some jazz hands in the chat. Thank you, Dominica

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Speaker 1: Strangerska for the two forty six love you all and

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Speaker 1: we love you, love you watch Let's find out what

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00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: happened in twenty twenty one. In twenty twenty one, I

712
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: found out he slept with a coworker of his.

713
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:38,759
Speaker 2: Sock Grayboo doc Le Blu.

714
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: He begged to go to therapy, but I said no.

715
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 1: He never believed in couple's therapy up until that moment,

716
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 1: I was. I was depressed for months because of this.

717
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 1: I filed for divorce a week after I found out,

718
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: and after a lot of resisting, he finally agreed and

719
00:38:56,200 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: we had a peaceful divorce. No fighting, no threatening, no nothing.

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Speaker 1: He has the kids on the weekends and I have

721
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Speaker 1: them on the weekdays, so I see him only on

722
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Speaker 1: the weekends. After the divorce, we barely talked, mostly because

723
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: I was avoiding him. But when I started going out

724
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Speaker 1: with friends. He started sending me angry messages about the

725
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:19,320
Speaker 1: way I was dressing at my age as a mom. Basically,

726
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:22,720
Speaker 1: he started slute shaming me for going out and living

727
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 1: my life without him. He sucks. Yikes. He called me

728
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Speaker 1: crying a few hours ago, begging me to get back

729
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 1: to him. He's so needy, He's like, so pathetic. Yeah,

730
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: he's shaming her, and then he's like, oh, watch it back.

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Speaker 2: No, gress is always going on the other side. But

732
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,840
Speaker 2: it's cold, it's the most green where you've water it. Yeah,

733
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Speaker 2: should have thought about.

734
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Speaker 1: That shit, daughter net Where was I? I didn't hang up.

735
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: I just listened. I kept listening until he had nothing

736
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: else to say and hung up. I cried for an

737
00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:02,319
Speaker 1: hour And now I'm just thinking of what to do now.

738
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Speaker 1: I know I can't go back to him because it

739
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 1: isn't fair to our kids or to me. But I

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00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 1: don't know how to reject him without upsetting him. He's

741
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,439
Speaker 1: gotta be upset either way himself. But he did Yeah,

742
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 1: he did that to himself. He cheated on you, and

743
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:20,280
Speaker 1: now he's being a baby about it. You you deserve

744
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 1: better and you don't owe him your kindness, right, You don't. Yeah,

745
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 1: just just tell him no, say I have no intention

746
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Speaker 1: of getting back together with you. You suck.

747
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it seems like you're a very kind person.

748
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 2: You have the right to be mad about this.

749
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: You know what you should do?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

751
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 1: Oh, you should find a twenty four year old pop

752
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 1: star I knew it and and start a fling with him.

753
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:54,440
Speaker 1: Or you travel around Europe together until the paparazzi find

754
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: you and expose your relationship, and then you and then

755
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 1: you go back and forth on whether or not you

756
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:03,240
Speaker 1: can stay together, and then you you break up because

757
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: your daughter is getting so much flak at school. And

758
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 1: then five years later.

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Speaker 2: Something stop stop you just said the plot of the movie. Okay,

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00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:17,719
Speaker 2: Sophie and I what happens? Oh my gosh, we watched it.

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00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,839
Speaker 2: I can't. I cannot watch movies with you anymore. You

762
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 2: get so she gets so like excited about seeing like

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00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 2: handsome men on the screen.

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Speaker 1: That's not why I was excited. There was a lot

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Speaker 1: of really cute moments happening. We saw a movie l

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Speaker 1: last night, but you were all like and I kind

767
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 1: of spoiled it. So now I'm like, should I just

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Speaker 1: not tell you? Guys?

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Speaker 2: The name of it.

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Speaker 1: You guys don't get yeah, because I did kind of

771
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Speaker 1: spoil parts.

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Speaker 2: Of it, like just like sliming around in her chair

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Speaker 2: the whole time.

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00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was just a good movie. It was a

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00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: good Riley liked it too.

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Speaker 2: It was pretty nice. Nice. What you doing dude? Whoa

777
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 2: are you doing here?

778
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,280
Speaker 1: I also like you're sitting on my worm?

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00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 2: This is filling bones time?

780
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know what time it really is?

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00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 2: Oh wait wait wait, wait wait wait Sam, I want

782
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 2: to name the other one not bones.

783
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 1: And I want to keep it bones. No, give me

784
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Speaker 1: my worm, Scolly scoundrel scoly Wug his name is Bone.

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Speaker 2: Whoa Dragons twenty four six?

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00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 1: Thank you? I've seen dragons before even Yeah. I love

787
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: listening to your show whenever I can. You're all very entertaining.

788
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 1: I'm Finns starting to get to listen to the live stream.

789
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 1: Oh finally the thanks for the fun worm queen. You're

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00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: welcome anything for you. Thank you, Stanley co stuff for

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00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 1: the five book tip. Com on, guys, let's get another hour.

792
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 1: I need to write my paper lol. Yes, so we

793
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:10,680
Speaker 1: need to help Stanley goes to write their paper only Yeah,

794
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 1: I don't approve of chat gubt for writing papers. Use

795
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:19,479
Speaker 1: your own words. No plagiarism in this chat. But let's

796
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 1: get into this next story.

797
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 2: Let's get into it. Were you joining or are you

798
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:24,879
Speaker 2: just hanging out for a bit.

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00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: I'm just hanging out for a bit.

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Speaker 2: I have other works. John.

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00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: Did John handle the ants downstairs? Is there ants in

802
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 1: the kitchen? There's ants in the kitchen. There was a

803
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:36,320
Speaker 1: whole line of them. A line. You know why why

804
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 1: because you leave crumbs everywhere? That is not true. I

805
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 1: didn't even have have anything this well anyway, last morning.

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00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: Any who, I think he raided the kitchen. Let's get

807
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 1: into the cay cancer in our food.

808
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 2: We already got in there. Plastics.

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00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for wanting to leave my

810
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,919
Speaker 1: husband after he stole from me? No? I think that's

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Speaker 1: Can you bring me water?

812
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 2: So?

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00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 1: I think that's I think that's pretty pretty natural. If

814
00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: you know your husband steals from you, I feel like

815
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 1: you should divorce. So okay. Prestigious guest says, When I

816
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 1: was five, my nana gave me her tea set. It

817
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: was given to her by my mother, oh, by her mother.

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00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:22,920
Speaker 1: My nana had no daughters of her own, and I

819
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: was the only girl of her eleven children grandchildren, so

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00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 1: she gave it to me. It's a full bone china set,

821
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: bone china set. What is it? What makes it a

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00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: bone china set? Interesting Cuban bones? I don't think so.

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Speaker 2: It's china.

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00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 1: I don't know if it has monetary value, but its

825
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:49,520
Speaker 1: sentimental value is immeasurable. I have had it, kept it,

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Speaker 1: used it for nearly twenty eight years. Wow. I wanted

827
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Speaker 1: to pass it down to my own daughter or granddaughter

828
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Speaker 1: one day. My husband knows all of this. I'm really

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Speaker 1: worried about this tea set. I'm really worried about this

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Speaker 1: tea set.

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00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 2: What do you mean It sounds like it's gonna be fine.

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00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 1: I'm so worried about this tea set. Her sister and

833
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:12,959
Speaker 1: her family came to stay with us for a week.

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00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: Whenever I have little girls over, I pull out my

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00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 1: tea set for a tea party. I make tea sandwiches, scones, cakes, biscuits.

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00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:22,880
Speaker 1: My nana made tea parties a big deal with me,

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00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 1: and I carry that on. So me and my sister

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00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 1: in law and her daughter had an afternoon tea party.

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00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: It was a couple of weeks after that. I had

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00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 1: my friend and her daughters coming to visit. I planned

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00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 1: a tea party. Morning of I baked my sandwich, made sandwiches,

842
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,760
Speaker 1: went to pull my tea set out, and it was gone.

843
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 1: This is so messed up. This is so messed up.

844
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 1: He took something that she uses all the time, or.

845
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 2: He was gonna go clean it.

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00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 1: We'll find out. I kept it in a cabinet in

847
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 1: my kitchen. I wash it and put it away every

848
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 1: time until the next time.

849
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 2: Never mind, hmm, and put it.

850
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:09,240
Speaker 1: I went a little mad looking for it. The visit

851
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: came and went. I spent days tearing my house apart

852
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:16,720
Speaker 1: looking for it. Every cabinet, drawer, cupboard, the whole house

853
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:21,280
Speaker 1: was turned inside out. My husband even helped me. No,

854
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 1: he helped her. He helped her. It's unbelievable. He was

855
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 1: insistent that it couldn't have grown feet and walked away

856
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 1: on its own. Not the gas lighting. No, no, no,

857
00:46:34,760 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 1: that's funny.

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00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:37,360
Speaker 2: It looks like you have feet and hands.

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00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, you could have tooken it from there and a

860
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 1: thieving spirit. That's what gets to me. He knew damn

861
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: well where it was, but he pretended that I had

862
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,880
Speaker 1: misplaced it. He knew how upset I was, and tried

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00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 1: to comfort me with the promises to buy me a

864
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 1: new set, as though a new set could replace my

865
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 1: nanas a few weeks later, he came home with a cheap,

866
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: thin looking st that he had bought at Walmart or something.

867
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 1: I threw it in the bin. Call me ungrateful if

868
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 1: you want, I don't care. I was ungrateful. Something you treasure,

869
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 1: something of great sentimental value given to you by your

870
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 1: long dead nana cannot be replaced, no matter how much

871
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: or little. In this case, the replacement costs.

872
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 2: Oh guess what, Sophia.

873
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 1: But we're going for another hour. Oh my goodness, was

874
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: that Kristin for that ya? Thank you gifted memberships, look

875
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 1: as you guys go. You're incredible, constantly raising the bar

876
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 1: for us all. And thank you Jojo forty five for

877
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 1: the twenty twenty five buck tip Happy Friday, worms uh.

878
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,879
Speaker 1: And then lastly, or maybe not lastly, Hidie Browning, thank

879
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: you for the one buck tip. Sofia could be the

880
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:50,399
Speaker 1: lead of My girlfriend is an alien. The alien race

881
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 1: reacts to testosterone like we do to a very addictive drugs,

882
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 1: So anytime she sees a hot mail, she's sniffing them

883
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:58,839
Speaker 1: and trying to feel them up.

884
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,879
Speaker 2: Oh my god, yes, what are.

885
00:48:01,800 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 1: You talking about?

886
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 2: Every time there's a guy on the movie.

887
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 1: Street, you're like funny and it makes you a squirm

888
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 1: and it's funny to do that.

889
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: It is pretty hilarious. And I'm like, dude, stop, like

890
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:17,680
Speaker 2: I don't actually care what Okay, I doubt that if

891
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 2: you were to see her in the movie theater, She's like, that.

892
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 1: Is not true. Slapping you. I'm going because it's funny. Crazy.

893
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 2: He's blushing now she knows she's just.

894
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: A blush. That's just my blush on my cheeks. I

895
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: put it on them this morning. Anyway, Courtney, thank you

896
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 1: for the time buck tip. Y'all are the best. You're

897
00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:46,279
Speaker 1: the best, the best, Lady Morgan, thank you for the one,

898
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:50,319
Speaker 1: uh the two buck tip, and thank you Blama five

899
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: for the den buck tip. Just got here hoping for

900
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: another hour. Your wish is granted. All hail the worm,

901
00:48:56,239 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 1: queen the Pigeonami stands no chance. All right, all right,

902
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 1: you're right, and you should say it. This is I

903
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: feel like this is like my my I need a

904
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 1: crown and this is my septa. You know, yeah, you

905
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 1: know what you know his scepta is right like a

906
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 1: it's like a it's like a what do they called

907
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:20,720
Speaker 1: the caine kind of thing, like a royal cane.

908
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 2: Oh, John has one of those, but it's like a

909
00:49:24,560 --> 00:49:25,160
Speaker 2: regular kid.

910
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 1: Then I heard my husband on the phone.

911
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:30,240
Speaker 2: Hello.

912
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:33,520
Speaker 1: I heard him say that when we visit, to put

913
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 1: it away and tell Mellie not to mention it because

914
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 1: I'm still upset about it. He didn't say the words

915
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 1: tea set, but I knew. I knew that's what he

916
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,319
Speaker 1: was talking about. I walked in while he was still

917
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 1: on the phone and called him a thief. He was

918
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 1: like a deer in headlights. He quickly hung up and

919
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:59,160
Speaker 1: tried to explain. I wouldn't hear it. I told him

920
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 1: to get it back. His sister called me, and I

921
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:04,360
Speaker 1: called her a thief. I told her to return it

922
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,720
Speaker 1: in the same condition she took it, or I would

923
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:09,239
Speaker 1: be calling the police. Then I hung up on her.

924
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: My husband tried reasoning with me. He told me his

925
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: niece loved it so much, and that that kind of

926
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 1: thing is really is for little girls. It's a tea set.

927
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 1: What how is it just for little girls? Adults have

928
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 1: tea yeah? Have you not seen movies that you have

929
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:29,880
Speaker 1: tea all the time in the British stuff. Yeah, what

930
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 1: are you talking about? He said he was going to

931
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 1: talk to me about leaving it to her anyway, So

932
00:50:34,760 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: where is the harm that she isn't now? He said,

933
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: I was too old to be playing around with kids' toys.

934
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:46,280
Speaker 2: What you are also too old to be taking toys?

935
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:50,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, little thief, and I really should grow up. He said,

936
00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:53,880
Speaker 1: I was immature, and it means nothing when he meant.

937
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:56,239
Speaker 1: What he meant is that it means nothing to him,

938
00:50:56,560 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 1: So I should forget it, divorce this man. This man,

939
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 1: he is a thief and a scoundrel. Jelbis says, it's heirloom,

940
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:10,960
Speaker 1: real bone china. Yeah, obviously this means something and is

941
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,399
Speaker 1: important to OPI, and it is outrageous that this man

942
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 1: would steal it and then gaslight her about it. The

943
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:21,840
Speaker 1: next day, I not only went to the police to

944
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 1: report the theft, I also called my brother, who lives

945
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 1: in the same city as my husband's sister. My brother

946
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:31,319
Speaker 1: went around and got my tea set. My husband was

947
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 1: livid and spent a couple of days calling me a

948
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 1: lot of derogatory names. His tune changed when he came

949
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 1: home to find me packing my stuff. He stole from me,

950
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 1: pretended he didn't know anything about it, insulted me, tried

951
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 1: to gaslight me. And now he's saying how sorry he

952
00:51:49,719 --> 00:51:52,280
Speaker 1: is and that we can work this out. I don't

953
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 1: think we can. I look at him and see someone

954
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 1: who steals from me, lies to me, makes me feel small,

955
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:03,320
Speaker 1: someone untrustworthy, who doesn't care about me. Yeah, we're Amnion,

956
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 1: says divorce and press charges. I've been told that I'm

957
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: an a hole to leave him over a tea set.

958
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: But it's not just a t set. It's my nana's history.

959
00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:16,719
Speaker 1: It's my history. It's years of happy memories with her,

960
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,799
Speaker 1: with my mother and other female relatives and friends. He

961
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 1: stole all that from me when he gave it away.

962
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:27,799
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for calling it quits? No, Op,

963
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:31,239
Speaker 1: you are hondo person, not the ale.

964
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:32,520
Speaker 2: Or good, not like.

965
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:40,439
Speaker 1: He's all he's all. He gaslighted you, he insulted ja,

966
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: he's the worst. That's crazy, And then he has the

967
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 1: audacity to be like it didn't mean anything. You don't

968
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: get to You don't get to describe, like decide what

969
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:57,440
Speaker 1: has meaning for people that are not you, Like if

970
00:52:57,520 --> 00:53:03,440
Speaker 1: Riley Riley, if you really liked that tape measure and

971
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 1: you're like, this is sentimental value for me. My grandfather

972
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 1: got it from me and I was like, no, it doesn't.

973
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:12,799
Speaker 1: That would make me an a hole. And that's what

974
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 1: he did.

975
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 2: Oh if you said like guitar hero stupid yeah, or

976
00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 2: like took it away and like sold it.

977
00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 1: I sold it and you were like but that was

978
00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 1: mine and it meant a lot to me, And I'm like, well,

979
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:26,440
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean anything to me, so it can't mean

980
00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 1: anything to you.

981
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, I know you.

982
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Wild Pigeon proselytizer says dump him. Some people

983
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 1: see things as just things, and some people see things

984
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 1: as personal history. Give away your own stuff Opie's husband, Yeah,

985
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 1: give away the husband more like it? Uh also changed

986
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:47,839
Speaker 1: the child r Uh.

987
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 2: Guys, I'm so sorry.

988
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: Okay, we have to change it again because we're moving

989
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:58,320
Speaker 1: on to the next story and we have four hundred

990
00:53:58,360 --> 00:54:00,920
Speaker 1: and forty nine likes and eight one hundred and forty

991
00:54:00,960 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 1: two people.

992
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 2: Yes, please Jay, Jay, what is making you from like

993
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 2: doing one of these? What's stopping you from doing? What's

994
00:54:12,040 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 2: stopping you?

995
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 1: Or you can use one of these or if you're

996
00:54:17,120 --> 00:54:22,399
Speaker 1: feeling funky, yeah, pinky action, creative, get creative? Maybe maybe

997
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 1: a two finger like a.

998
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:29,280
Speaker 2: Okay, what else? What else? I'm trying to find the story?

999
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:37,399
Speaker 2: Whoa okay? Or like a what other body parts could

1000
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:37,799
Speaker 2: you use?

1001
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 1: I don't know about that.

1002
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 2: Your nose? Uh, your elbow, your toes? Oh chill, all right,

1003
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 2: we're good.

1004
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: Now, bam, we're ready to start this next story. Okay, Doki,

1005
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 1: I'm already on that.

1006
00:54:55,160 --> 00:55:00,439
Speaker 2: Uh or we have some donations. Ted ed in Line Jews,

1007
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 2: thank you for the one buck tip. I'm you read it,

1008
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 2: you read it, you have it up? What yeah, oh

1009
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:12,880
Speaker 2: you can read it, you read it. Okay. I'm pretty

1010
00:55:12,880 --> 00:55:15,720
Speaker 2: sure I was the first one to say the name bones.

1011
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 2: That's still up for debate, and I it's a really

1012
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:20,759
Speaker 2: cool name, and I'm that chosen it for our wonderful

1013
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 2: little worm. Yes, yeah, agreed, it's not confirmed.

1014
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 1: Yet, Thank you, Ted. I think it's confirmed Bones. My

1015
00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:30,279
Speaker 1: other option was boneless, like toothless.

1016
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 2: You know what, if I want to name it, you can't.

1017
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:38,800
Speaker 1: Martika Waterman, thank you for the one buck tip. Riley,

1018
00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 1: be nice to John. There's going to be a day

1019
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:44,160
Speaker 1: that you're going to be his age or older. I

1020
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,919
Speaker 1: know it's all fun, but nice. Also, my son said,

1021
00:55:46,960 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 1: be nice to John. That's his favorite. Lloel, I'm older

1022
00:55:50,520 --> 00:55:53,200
Speaker 1: than all of you. Lll back to my video game.

1023
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:55,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I probably should stop. I don't know if you

1024
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 2: can handle it at his age.

1025
00:55:59,080 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 1: Damn.

1026
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:00,840
Speaker 2: I was waiting.

1027
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 1: I was like, what's happening, what's he gonna do? And

1028
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:05,359
Speaker 1: he got me. Well he got John.

1029
00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 2: I suppose he's not listening. He can't hear me.

1030
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 1: A scroll up. I need that water, Sam, I'm just

1031
00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:21,080
Speaker 1: supposed to get water water. That echoed Titania, thank you

1032
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 1: for celebrating your one month of membership. Tell that horrible

1033
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:28,320
Speaker 1: man that he can find something more mature to lie

1034
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: and steal. Oh, he can find someone more mature and

1035
00:56:31,480 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 1: to lie and steal from, not the a whole oh,

1036
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:37,680
Speaker 1: because he was like, you're immature for caring about a

1037
00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 1: te set. Yeah. If you want someone more mature, I

1038
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:43,759
Speaker 1: don't know, go steal some. You can be like that

1039
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:45,840
Speaker 1: tender date that stole perfume from someone.

1040
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 2: You remember that, Yeah, I do remember that.

1041
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 1: My voice is so dry, I yem, but let's get

1042
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:58,360
Speaker 1: into this story. Am I the a hole for refusing

1043
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 1: to donate my hair? To my aunt with cancer. Was

1044
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 1: she asking for all of your hair? How much hair

1045
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 1: was she asking for? Were you already cutting it? What

1046
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 1: are the extenuating circumstances so donate hair? Throwaway says for context,

1047
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm adopted and have super long and very thick red hair.

1048
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 1: No one in my adopted family has hair like mine,

1049
00:57:25,880 --> 00:57:28,680
Speaker 1: and it's been kind of a thing for them to touch, admire,

1050
00:57:28,760 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 1: and talk about my hair at family gathering since I

1051
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: was a kid. Don't touch other people's hair. Don't do

1052
00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 1: that unless they asked you to stop it. My aunt

1053
00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:40,919
Speaker 1: has lung cancer and it's really taken a toll on her.

1054
00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:43,680
Speaker 1: She's lost all her hair and has talked about getting

1055
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: a wig, but they're too expensive, and she says she

1056
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 1: wants real hair. My mom suggested I donate my hair

1057
00:57:50,320 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 1: to make a wig for my aunt at Easter dinner,

1058
00:57:52,800 --> 00:57:56,960
Speaker 1: and my aunt got so excited she started crying. Hold up,

1059
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:01,160
Speaker 1: that is so messed up. My mom didn't even ask

1060
00:58:01,200 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 1: op on her own. She brought it up in front

1061
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 1: of everyone. She's trying to like guilt her into doing this.

1062
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: This is messed up. I felt horrible about it and

1063
00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: didn't say anything. We went to this wig place, and

1064
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 1: the lady said she could make a shoulder length wig

1065
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 1: for my aunt using my hair. I keep it up

1066
00:58:21,120 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: extremely well and it's down to my knees. Wow, that's

1067
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: all hair. My aunt started crying again and again, and

1068
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:32,360
Speaker 1: I feel so awful, but I really don't want to

1069
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 1: part with my hair. I know it grows back, but

1070
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 1: still no one has asked me how I felt. But

1071
00:58:37,640 --> 00:58:39,640
Speaker 1: I think my mom could tell I wasn't very excited

1072
00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 1: about it, because she asked the lady if she could

1073
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 1: donate her own hair. Thank you very much, just toldhi,

1074
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 1: thank you, virgin. All right, I'm good now, I'm moist

1075
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 1: and anyway, so where was because she asked the lady

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00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:15,040
Speaker 1: if she could donate her own hair, and she said

1077
00:59:15,080 --> 00:59:20,040
Speaker 1: she'd need both my sister, mom's biological daughter and my

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00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 1: mom to donate their hair since it's very thin and

1079
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 1: she could only make a chin length wig with it.

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00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:30,440
Speaker 1: My mom my Alma, my aunt also wants red hair,

1081
00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:32,480
Speaker 1: so the lady said she'd have to dyet and that

1082
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:35,800
Speaker 1: would cause it damage and cost more than using my hair.

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00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:38,520
Speaker 1: My uncle then said it'd make much more sense to

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00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: use mine. That's you can't just take someone's hair.

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00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 2: Wait, so she was like, I need your hair, mom's hair,

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00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:48,439
Speaker 2: a sister's hair.

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00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:56,760
Speaker 1: Oh. So she was saying that basically, either we could

1088
00:59:56,800 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 1: use Opie's hair because it's thicker and longer, or if

1089
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:04,360
Speaker 1: we use the mom's hair like Opie's mom's hair, it

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01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:07,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't be thick enough to use on her own, so

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01:00:07,320 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 1: she would have to use both the mom and the

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01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:14,479
Speaker 1: mom's biological daughter, and then also have to diet because

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01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 1: I guess aunt wants red hair. I think the on

1094
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:21,600
Speaker 1: is being a little too picky, like she can't just

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01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:24,600
Speaker 1: use people's hair that don't want to give their hair

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01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: just because she likes the color. Let's yeah, it's been

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01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:33,480
Speaker 1: a month and my aunt wants to know when we

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01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 1: can make the appointment so presumptuous. I don't know what

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01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 1: to do. I told my sister, and she called me

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01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 1: ungrateful and told me to stop being selfish because it

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01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 1: would grow back. If I'm the ahle, I won't hesitate

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01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,600
Speaker 1: to donate it. But I don't know anymore, And at

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01:00:48,680 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 1: it people suggested I clarify I have knee length hair

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01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,600
Speaker 1: and I'd have to cut it all off to the

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01:00:53,760 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 1: scalp in order to make the.

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01:00:56,560 --> 01:01:02,160
Speaker 2: Wig what, there's that much hair. That's crazy just.

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01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:04,800
Speaker 1: To shave off basically shave off her hair.

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01:01:05,040 --> 01:01:06,040
Speaker 2: It's years.

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01:01:06,480 --> 01:01:10,800
Speaker 1: That's you cannot ask someone to do that, especially especially

1110
01:01:10,840 --> 01:01:13,600
Speaker 1: when it seems like Opie care is deeply like hair.

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01:01:13,640 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 1: Her hair is a part of her self.

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01:01:16,360 --> 01:01:19,360
Speaker 2: But that's why the aunt wants it, because she cares

1113
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:21,439
Speaker 2: so deeply that it's like, I'll care so deeply about

1114
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:21,720
Speaker 2: it too.

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01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's yeah, a Gabby Best's aunt should remember

1116
01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 1: beggars can't be choosers. Yeah, she can't. Just she can't

1117
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 1: just like be super picky about the hair. To all

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01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:36,640
Speaker 1: the people saying it doesn't take that much hair to

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01:01:36,680 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 1: make a wig, it does. One average donation of hair

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01:01:40,200 --> 01:01:43,440
Speaker 1: doesn't make a full wig. They match it with other donations.

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01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:45,800
Speaker 1: It usually takes two to three heads of hair for

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01:01:45,840 --> 01:01:49,560
Speaker 1: a full wig. Mine is long enough on its own

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01:01:49,600 --> 01:01:51,920
Speaker 1: for a full wig, and my aunt doesn't want synthetic

1124
01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:55,880
Speaker 1: hair mixed in to supplement it. I completely understand everyone

1125
01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:57,800
Speaker 1: that said I was the a hole for not saying

1126
01:01:57,840 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: no in the beginning. I'm not trying to justify that,

1127
01:02:00,800 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 1: but I want to make it clear that's extremely different

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01:02:03,200 --> 01:02:05,720
Speaker 1: difficult for me to stand up to my family. I

1129
01:02:05,760 --> 01:02:07,919
Speaker 1: don't think I've ever had a say in anything since

1130
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 1: I started living with them, and that's how it's always been.

1131
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:12,800
Speaker 1: They never give me a voice, even though I should

1132
01:02:12,800 --> 01:02:15,920
Speaker 1: have spoken up. It always goes without saying that what

1133
01:02:16,080 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 1: my mom says will happen. And there are some relevant

1134
01:02:21,320 --> 01:02:27,200
Speaker 1: comments and an update, but let's get into what y'all think.

1135
01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:30,800
Speaker 1: What are y'all thinking? Because I think this is pretty easy.

1136
01:02:30,840 --> 01:02:35,040
Speaker 1: I think it's not the ahle Christy Steele says Opie

1137
01:02:35,080 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 1: is probably gorgeous and they're all jealous. Well, yeah, we

1138
01:02:38,320 --> 01:02:40,240
Speaker 1: know that Opie was adopted, so I feel like there

1139
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:43,880
Speaker 1: might be some kind of like othering going on, like

1140
01:02:43,920 --> 01:02:47,000
Speaker 1: the family's othering Ope and kind of making her a

1141
01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 1: bit of an outsider or making her feel that way.

1142
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:52,439
Speaker 1: Devil Girl says, I can understand why the aunt would

1143
01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 1: want the wig and such, but Opie should be doing

1144
01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:57,240
Speaker 1: this of her free will. Yeah, it shouldn't be an expectation,

1145
01:02:57,400 --> 01:03:02,160
Speaker 1: it should be a gift given. Really. Uh And Logan

1146
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 1: bad Wolf says, people freeze up all the time. That's

1147
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 1: not on her. Also again, yeah, her whole family at

1148
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:14,040
Speaker 1: dinner altogether said hey, op give give your hair that

1149
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:16,560
Speaker 1: that's like, how do you say no in that circumstance?

1150
01:03:16,600 --> 01:03:21,720
Speaker 1: That's really hard. Meggie says, I would literally rather shave

1151
01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:24,200
Speaker 1: my eyebrows than my head. It's crazy they want her

1152
01:03:24,240 --> 01:03:24,640
Speaker 1: to do that.

1153
01:03:25,080 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 2: No.

1154
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:28,360
Speaker 1: I was like, for a lot of women, hair is

1155
01:03:28,360 --> 01:03:30,840
Speaker 1: is a big part of our like sense of self,

1156
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:33,720
Speaker 1: which is not to say that you know it's it's

1157
01:03:33,760 --> 01:03:36,640
Speaker 1: it is your sense, it is your it is yourself.

1158
01:03:36,680 --> 01:03:40,560
Speaker 1: But it does change how people feel about themselves. And

1159
01:03:40,640 --> 01:03:44,959
Speaker 1: to to tell a woman who has knee length hair

1160
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:47,280
Speaker 1: that she has to shave her head or like cut

1161
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:50,640
Speaker 1: all of her hair off is is pretty like hard

1162
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:58,320
Speaker 1: to deal with. Yeah, wait, can you scroll down? Wait

1163
01:03:58,400 --> 01:04:04,120
Speaker 1: scroll up? Umm. Lady Morgan says, I'm wondering how old

1164
01:04:04,200 --> 01:04:07,680
Speaker 1: Opie is too. I don't know. It seems like she's

1165
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:09,600
Speaker 1: under twelve. Oh, I think she's under eighteen.

1166
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:10,960
Speaker 2: Under eighteen.

1167
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 1: That's because she's living with her family.

1168
01:04:13,080 --> 01:04:15,880
Speaker 2: Oh well, I would say, like in her twenties, maybe

1169
01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:17,760
Speaker 2: like going to college or something like that.

1170
01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 1: To the same thing about college, but a month I okay,

1171
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:28,000
Speaker 1: Riley says college. I think she's under eighteen. But let's

1172
01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 1: get into these relevant comments. Delete it, says not the

1173
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:35,760
Speaker 1: a hole but you have to stop stringing your aunt along.

1174
01:04:36,600 --> 01:04:39,160
Speaker 1: Tell them that you are feeling pressured and it's making

1175
01:04:39,160 --> 01:04:41,280
Speaker 1: you uncomfortable and you aren't going to donate your hair.

1176
01:04:41,440 --> 01:04:44,080
Speaker 1: It was completely inappropriate of your mom to donate your

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01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:47,600
Speaker 1: hair for you in the presence of the aunt. Opie says,

1178
01:04:47,640 --> 01:04:49,480
Speaker 1: I do really want to tell her no and not

1179
01:04:49,560 --> 01:04:51,640
Speaker 1: get her hopes up anymore. It's just that she got

1180
01:04:51,680 --> 01:04:54,760
Speaker 1: so excited the moment my mom suggested it. I can't

1181
01:04:54,800 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 1: figure out how to tell her, and I'm afraid I'm

1182
01:04:57,160 --> 01:05:00,840
Speaker 1: in the wrong, so I haven't told her anything. Also,

1183
01:05:00,880 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 1: I feel like, well, yeah, obviously it's there's the expectation,

1184
01:05:04,960 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 1: expectation that she just has to donate this, so she's

1185
01:05:07,120 --> 01:05:10,240
Speaker 1: not really getting any Like, yeah, she's not getting any

1186
01:05:10,520 --> 01:05:12,280
Speaker 1: anything out of this. She's just supposed to do it

1187
01:05:12,320 --> 01:05:14,640
Speaker 1: out of the kindness of her heart. But she doesn't

1188
01:05:14,640 --> 01:05:19,440
Speaker 1: even like she wasn't even asked. Not an NPC sixty

1189
01:05:19,520 --> 01:05:21,880
Speaker 1: nine says, not the a hole, Jesus Christ. I can

1190
01:05:21,880 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: feel your stress through the screen, Opie says, Honestly, I

1191
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:28,040
Speaker 1: don't know what to do at all. It's kind of terrifying.

1192
01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:30,240
Speaker 1: I know it sounds stupid, but my hair is the

1193
01:05:30,240 --> 01:05:32,480
Speaker 1: only thing I have that I feel is connected with

1194
01:05:32,560 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 1: my birth family. I love my family, but I have

1195
01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:37,360
Speaker 1: a weird thing with my hair. I know it grows back, though,

1196
01:05:37,400 --> 01:05:43,440
Speaker 1: so that's something. And then s JP SJB. Sophira says,

1197
01:05:43,960 --> 01:05:53,560
Speaker 1: I also have natural red hair. It's extremely long. Uh hem,

1198
01:05:53,960 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 1: it's extremely long, maybe not quite as much as yours.

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01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:02,000
Speaker 1: And I honestly started sweating just thinking about this. I

1200
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 1: get that it's a very selfless thing to do, but

1201
01:06:04,560 --> 01:06:07,560
Speaker 1: there are decent quality synthetic wigs that put no one

1202
01:06:07,680 --> 01:06:10,480
Speaker 1: in an awkward position. I consider my hair to be

1203
01:06:10,520 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 1: a vital part of my identity. It ties me to

1204
01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:15,440
Speaker 1: my gran as I have inherited the color from her.

1205
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 1: If anyone asks me about their comment is always oh,

1206
01:06:20,000 --> 01:06:23,480
Speaker 1: the girl with the long red hair. I think because

1207
01:06:23,480 --> 01:06:26,120
Speaker 1: so few people naturally have red hair, they don't realize

1208
01:06:26,120 --> 01:06:29,000
Speaker 1: how important it becomes to your own identity and not

1209
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:32,640
Speaker 1: gonna lie, folks are seriously weird about red hair. Not

1210
01:06:33,000 --> 01:06:37,000
Speaker 1: the a hole. I understand you completely, and Opie says,

1211
01:06:37,560 --> 01:06:40,280
Speaker 1: thank you so much for the comment, and how all

1212
01:06:40,360 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 1: is Opie? I was right? I turned seventeen weeks A

1213
01:06:44,200 --> 01:06:46,280
Speaker 1: few weeks ago. I was adopted when I was a

1214
01:06:46,320 --> 01:06:48,720
Speaker 1: seven when I was seven, and I don't really know

1215
01:06:48,760 --> 01:06:51,320
Speaker 1: why my parents gave me up or anything about them,

1216
01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:55,880
Speaker 1: so there's no contact until I turn eighteen. I'm really

1217
01:06:55,880 --> 01:06:58,160
Speaker 1: grateful to my mother for adopting me and taking care

1218
01:06:58,200 --> 01:07:01,160
Speaker 1: of me, but I feel so awful about this situation.

1219
01:07:02,320 --> 01:07:06,680
Speaker 1: And there is an update two days later conspiracy theory

1220
01:07:06,800 --> 01:07:09,920
Speaker 1: what he was adopted.

1221
01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 2: She could give her hair to her a hand.

1222
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:18,240
Speaker 1: It's all been leading to this moment. Yeah, Miss day

1223
01:07:18,240 --> 01:07:21,360
Speaker 1: Bird says, it's just hair. It'll grow back so well

1224
01:07:21,400 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 1: the aunts, So why should ope goo balls? Yeah, there's

1225
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 1: it seems like there's kind of a double standard here.

1226
01:07:26,960 --> 01:07:29,360
Speaker 1: Dutchess Casana says her hair is part of her identity.

1227
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:33,080
Speaker 1: Telling her to donate it is awful, and then Nomi

1228
01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:35,800
Speaker 1: says they can all pitch in and buy the aunt

1229
01:07:35,800 --> 01:07:39,600
Speaker 1: a real wig, and uh, checking Monkey says, I had

1230
01:07:39,640 --> 01:07:42,000
Speaker 1: a really long hair when I was younger, but had

1231
01:07:42,000 --> 01:07:43,880
Speaker 1: to cut it off and ask the hairdresser to put

1232
01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:46,040
Speaker 1: the hair into a bag because my hair meant a

1233
01:07:46,040 --> 01:07:49,880
Speaker 1: lot to me. Now I cut all my hair every

1234
01:07:49,960 --> 01:07:52,240
Speaker 1: three years. Yeah, hair can be very important to people.

1235
01:07:52,960 --> 01:07:56,120
Speaker 1: And thank you Shin Stuff for the four fifty nine donation.

1236
01:07:56,640 --> 01:08:01,120
Speaker 1: There are organizations that donate wigs from other patients in remission. Yeah,

1237
01:08:01,120 --> 01:08:04,520
Speaker 1: I feel like there are other other routes that they

1238
01:08:04,560 --> 01:08:07,720
Speaker 1: could go before they make this girl bottle her hair

1239
01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 1: off Lydia Whitaker, thank you for the three forty donation.

1240
01:08:11,360 --> 01:08:16,840
Speaker 1: Definitely not the a hole. Yeah, definitely not very true.

1241
01:08:17,479 --> 01:08:18,200
Speaker 2: We wigs?

1242
01:08:18,960 --> 01:08:19,840
Speaker 1: Do you have bigs?

1243
01:08:20,160 --> 01:08:25,000
Speaker 2: Have you won figs? No? Will you ever wear wigs?

1244
01:08:25,400 --> 01:08:33,360
Speaker 1: Maybe? I love that video. Well, let's get into this update.

1245
01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:38,200
Speaker 1: Thanks to everyone who commented, and especially those who offered

1246
01:08:38,240 --> 01:08:40,960
Speaker 1: to help with sending me their wigs. I've talked to

1247
01:08:41,160 --> 01:08:43,680
Speaker 1: my mom about it, and she said, we could have

1248
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:46,639
Speaker 1: bought hair from anyone. This is special to your aunt

1249
01:08:46,680 --> 01:08:50,320
Speaker 1: because it's your hair, but it's her hair. That's the point.

1250
01:08:50,360 --> 01:08:56,160
Speaker 1: It's her hair. She gets decided, so I decided to

1251
01:08:56,360 --> 01:09:01,479
Speaker 1: just go ahead and do it. I feel so bad

1252
01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:06,800
Speaker 1: for her because she was bullied into this. I feel she.

1253
01:09:06,760 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 2: Feels like she owes it to him because they adopted her.

1254
01:09:08,840 --> 01:09:12,400
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, this family's not cool.

1255
01:09:13,080 --> 01:09:19,559
Speaker 2: Boom boo he has booze the chat boom f family.

1256
01:09:20,800 --> 01:09:27,040
Speaker 1: This is a stinky family. I felt after reading all

1257
01:09:27,040 --> 01:09:29,160
Speaker 1: the year the a whole comments who was calling, oh

1258
01:09:29,160 --> 01:09:33,880
Speaker 1: pe the a hole? What to call this seventeen year

1259
01:09:33,880 --> 01:09:36,400
Speaker 1: old girl an a hole for not wanting to cut

1260
01:09:36,439 --> 01:09:37,479
Speaker 1: all of her hair off?

1261
01:09:37,760 --> 01:09:40,920
Speaker 2: So people just like to comment mean things, and that's.

1262
01:09:40,920 --> 01:09:44,280
Speaker 1: Literally like the fact that she's seventeen years old is

1263
01:09:44,320 --> 01:09:49,400
Speaker 1: even more, I think even more is a like signal

1264
01:09:49,439 --> 01:09:51,200
Speaker 1: to me that you should not make her cut off

1265
01:09:51,200 --> 01:09:56,520
Speaker 1: her hair. She is one like impressionable to the desires

1266
01:09:56,520 --> 01:09:59,280
Speaker 1: of her parents and is wanting to follow like what

1267
01:09:59,360 --> 01:10:03,840
Speaker 1: they ask her. But also like hair is so significant

1268
01:10:03,840 --> 01:10:08,920
Speaker 1: to teenage girls, like ah, I hate this family. Yeah,

1269
01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:12,360
Speaker 1: we went to the salon yesterday. Oh wait, sorry, I

1270
01:10:12,360 --> 01:10:16,360
Speaker 1: felt Yeah, we went to the salon yesterday. I cried,

1271
01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 1: I have a really gross hipster crew cut. Now my

1272
01:10:21,520 --> 01:10:23,920
Speaker 1: aunt was so happy. They told her it wouldn't be

1273
01:10:23,920 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 1: ready for a few months, so she bought a blonde wig.

1274
01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:32,200
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me? She could

1275
01:10:32,200 --> 01:10:36,160
Speaker 1: have bought the wig the whole time. She told us

1276
01:10:36,200 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 1: she's going to alternate between the blonde wig and my

1277
01:10:38,640 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 1: wig to match her outfits. I hate this woman so much.

1278
01:10:47,680 --> 01:10:50,439
Speaker 1: I don't even care if this sounds selfish anymore, because

1279
01:10:50,479 --> 01:10:53,080
Speaker 1: I did what they wanted. I hate not having my hair.

1280
01:10:53,200 --> 01:10:55,719
Speaker 1: I look like a boy now. I hope that happiness

1281
01:10:55,760 --> 01:10:58,360
Speaker 1: that wig brought my aunt helps her get through the cancer,

1282
01:10:58,439 --> 01:11:00,639
Speaker 1: but it won't because she is going to keep smoking

1283
01:11:00,720 --> 01:11:03,920
Speaker 1: if she survives this. Anyways, I don't know how I

1284
01:11:03,960 --> 01:11:06,599
Speaker 1: feel about anything, but I missed my hair. My mom

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Speaker 1: is really happy, though, so is my aunt, so hopefully

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Speaker 1: I'll just get over my hair. I don't know. This

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01:11:13,120 --> 01:11:16,679
Speaker 1: aunt sucks and I feel so bad that she went,

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01:11:16,840 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 1: that she had to go through this.

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Speaker 2: That sucks. I cannot believe.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The worst thing, Yeah, the worst thing is her

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01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:31,280
Speaker 1: alternating the wigs. You know that. That's the worst thing.

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01:11:31,360 --> 01:11:33,559
Speaker 1: The fact that she said specifically, oh, I have to

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01:11:33,640 --> 01:11:38,639
Speaker 1: match my outfits to my wigs. Your niece just gave

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01:11:38,800 --> 01:11:42,200
Speaker 1: up her hair, which meant a lot to her, so

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01:11:42,240 --> 01:11:44,840
Speaker 1: you could match your hair to your outfits.

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01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:49,080
Speaker 2: And like the fact that she's like a minor still

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01:11:49,120 --> 01:11:51,559
Speaker 2: in school, she has no other option. They would probably

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01:11:51,600 --> 01:11:55,120
Speaker 2: guilt trip her until well they did, Yeah.

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01:11:55,640 --> 01:12:00,160
Speaker 1: Going to continue to they guilt tripped her. Eh, who

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Speaker 1: is this? Like? Oh my god, I hate everyone. I

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01:12:04,439 --> 01:12:06,960
Speaker 1: hate this family and I hate everyone in the comments

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01:12:06,960 --> 01:12:09,400
Speaker 1: who said that op was an a hole. You suck,

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Speaker 1: and you're the a hole.