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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: Hey everyone, welcome back to the Almost Famous podcast.

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Speaker 3: And is Ashley here today?

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Speaker 2: We are in San Francisco with the iHeart team here

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Speaker 2: for Jonas brother concert.

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Speaker 3: That is how Amy Sugarman got me here. She name.

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Speaker 2: Amy's like, Ashley hasn't been to the West Coast eight

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Speaker 2: or so our podcast forster Amy Sugarman, who our listeners

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Speaker 2: have been aware of for a long time.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't fly, she hasn't flownd since nineteen ninety nine.

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Speaker 2: We know, so, we we know, so we drive, so

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Speaker 2: she drives and we have to do like all of

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Speaker 2: our things on the West Coast. And then she was like, man, Ashley,

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Speaker 2: mom of two, hasn't been to do this for quite

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Speaker 2: some time, how do we get her to come Jonahs Brothers?

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Speaker 2: And I was like, yes, one thousand percent quickest, Yes

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Speaker 2: she's ever gotten. And I am now joined by two

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Speaker 2: of everybody's golden favorites, Susan Knowles and Kathy Schwartz. You guys,

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Speaker 2: well you know them from The Golden Bachelor. You know

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Speaker 2: Kathy from well being a Golden and Bachelor in Paradise

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Speaker 2: and they both host the Golden Hour podcast. I know

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Speaker 2: you guys just finished wrapping up your recap the first

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Speaker 2: episode of.

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Speaker 3: The Golden The New Golden A little bit good time,

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Speaker 3: quick quick first impressions from both of you.

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Speaker 4: Go first, I was not on his side, but I

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Speaker 4: am now.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I'm not sure enough. I think that the

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Speaker 2: women are great.

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Speaker 4: The women, that's a whole nother story.

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Speaker 3: He seems like not like the most charming human in

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Speaker 3: the entire world.

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Speaker 4: He is handsome, he's got a look, but it's not humble.

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Speaker 4: It's not mine forgiveness and give them a chance. Okay,

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Speaker 4: so you got it. Yeah, we're human.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I think the women are fabulous. They all have lots

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Speaker 5: of hair, they have extensions, and I'm like, you know,

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Speaker 5: they were bikinis, Like I just want to be one

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Speaker 5: of them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're not golden. They're not golden. They're really.

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Speaker 2: Is golden to you if you don't mind. It's always

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Speaker 2: sixty plus. That's like our definition as a franchise, right.

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Speaker 4: I think sixty five five security.

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Speaker 5: It was supposed to be sixty five, but you know

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Speaker 5: what five years, yes, four crew was but they started

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Speaker 5: it was supposed to be sixty five and then they

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Speaker 5: lowered it. And here's my thing. I think the women

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Speaker 5: are fabulus. I think they're you know, young, they're talented.

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Speaker 5: I think I can't wait to see how the season

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Speaker 5: develops because I think that they have the benefit of

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Speaker 5: watching having watched our season. So some of my things

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Speaker 5: are there for the right reason. Some of them are

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Speaker 5: there to build their social media platforms and their businesses.

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Speaker 3: Do you have a problem with them? No, I'm just

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Speaker 3: we didn't know what social media want. I don't know

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Speaker 3: what it means. Answer was or a collaborator. I was like,

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Speaker 3: you guys are like pretty much golden influencers. I think

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Speaker 3: now we didn't come on.

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Speaker 4: That's what they asked this woman when we meet them,

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Speaker 4: And how did you go?

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Speaker 3: I don't know just what the women want to know?

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Speaker 2: How a career because now both of you are immediate personality.

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Speaker 3: Yes, well, and I got to.

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Speaker 5: Say, I'm mel I've I've said from the get go,

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Speaker 5: he said something stupid.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know he is. He's right. He is going

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Speaker 5: But you know what, I'm going to cut him some

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Speaker 5: grace because give him some grace because he doesn't know

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Speaker 5: what he's in for. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: He's he's he's.

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Speaker 5: Got some lots of beautiful women, and he might really

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Speaker 5: want a woman between forty and sixty until he meets

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Speaker 5: this crowd, and now I think he's like, whoa, there

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Speaker 5: are some hot women. So that's a good message.

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Speaker 4: As I said this morning, how many times have I

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Speaker 4: or you opened your mouth and insert at your foot.

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Speaker 3: In my mouth?

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Speaker 4: He said, like you got to give them a risk?

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Speaker 3: So true.

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Speaker 2: Me included what do you guys think about like him

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Speaker 2: as a lead versus Gary.

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Speaker 5: As light and day listen if there could have been

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Speaker 5: one more on his season. In fact, I'm still thinking

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Speaker 5: I can go meet him and sweet him away. If

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Speaker 5: you if you chose something, you know, it's not too

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Speaker 5: late to break him up. I'm certainly not talking about Gary.

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Speaker 3: I know you aren't. I love the tag.

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Speaker 2: You guys are so honest about the fact that like

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Speaker 2: Gary like after you guys depart from the show is

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Speaker 2: just like not.

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Speaker 5: Let me just break this down really quickly. A lawyer,

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Speaker 5: a football player, a guy who can string together sentences,

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Speaker 5: or you can go pick cotton and a corn Mason Indiana,

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Speaker 5: I don't know what do you want to do.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, did you know what when we were finally they

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Speaker 4: didn't let us know to the last minute when we

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Speaker 4: were on the show, and then he's announced, my phone

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Speaker 4: was blowing up and my friends, are you still going?

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Speaker 4: That's mean, you know, my daughter said.

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Speaker 5: My daughter said, Mom, I've known you my whole life.

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Speaker 5: You really think you're moving to Indiana? It's never happened.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well I have the same thing with crystals, or like,

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Speaker 2: you aren't moving to Iowa to a cornfield, and then

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Speaker 2: well you're in the bachelor bubble and you're like, I

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Speaker 2: could totally live on a cornfield.

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Speaker 3: No, no, I never said you guys were mature enough

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Speaker 3: to know that you.

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Speaker 5: Couldn't the cod That's as close as I want to

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Speaker 5: get to a cornfield, thank you very much.

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Speaker 4: And then your girls in our room saying he called

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Speaker 4: that a lake. It's a pond. Remember, yeah, he lives

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Speaker 4: he said, he lives on a lake. It's like, you know,

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Speaker 3: I just love obsessed with how you do not care?

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Speaker 4: We love him, we love him, we're good friends, but hey.

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Speaker 5: It is what I love him anymore. He's perfectly fine.

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Speaker 5: He's got a new girlfriend. Actually, I wish him all

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Speaker 5: the best. Her name is Lana, not Lana Lana like.

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Speaker 4: They look alike?

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Speaker 3: They look alike? They do?

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Speaker 4: They look alike?

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's what the people say that you end up

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Speaker 3: with people that you look like. Oh god, I'm in trouble.

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Speaker 2: My husband looks like me, people say, and I probably agree.

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Speaker 4: I don't think I look like Frederick at all. Now

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Speaker 4: is your new relationship? Great? Great? He's at my house?

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Speaker 4: Oh nice, I'm here.

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Speaker 5: He's doing the dishes, more in the lawn, just where

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Speaker 5: a good man should be serving a woman.

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Speaker 3: It's a long distant relationship. So how's that going.

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Speaker 4: It's difficult at times. Yeah, he was in an island, yes,

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Speaker 4: Saint Martin.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Well I'm happy for you. Now it's

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Speaker 2: it's Kathy's turn. Yeah, to get a man. Kathy, we

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Speaker 2: need like a spin off show with you, where you

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Speaker 2: where you date people?

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Speaker 3: You know? Why wait, why aren't you on a Ben

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Speaker 3: spinoff where he has.

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Speaker 4: We planned a show? Helloth of us?

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Speaker 5: Directors, producers, directors, producers?

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Speaker 3: Where is the show for Kathy? To find?

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Speaker 4: Lots?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Was there somebody that you want to show up to paradise?

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Speaker 3: You didn't come. Oh, yes, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean anybody, Yeah, anybody.

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Speaker 5: I meant anybody with an IQ over ninety, preferably over

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Speaker 5: six feet. No, I mean there was nobody from Jonesy.

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Speaker 2: Nobody from Jones season that you wanted. You wanted people

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Speaker 4: They wanted maybe somebody that applied for the job, you

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Speaker 5: Just I want someone. You know, I'm not asking for

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Speaker 5: that much. I want someone who will accept me for

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Speaker 5: who I am. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but like,

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Speaker 5: I live life and I enjoy life, and I want

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Speaker 5: as he's not living on Social Security.

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Speaker 2: Is Like in Paradise, it almost felt like they didn't

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Speaker 3: They didn't really you know, there wasn't enough of you.

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Speaker 4: Keith possible.

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Speaker 5: When we got there, many of us thought that there

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Speaker 5: were they were going to bring in other Goldens or

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Speaker 5: other people that applied, when I didn't. And I knew Keith.

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Speaker 5: I knew all those guys because they'd been on our podcast.

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Speaker 5: I'd met them at different iHeart events, so I knew them.

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Speaker 2: Like I already and you in that reject pile.

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Speaker 5: You know, your your resume is in the circular file.

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Speaker 5: So but Keith is a great guy and we were

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Speaker 5: friends and it was never going to be more than that.

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Speaker 3: He's a great guy. But no, what about where you

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Speaker 3: could you've ever gotten like there was a moment, not.

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Speaker 5: Even a nano sec I mean, I got to tell

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Speaker 3: And not because I mean April and Jack.

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Speaker 5: That's like like Mickey Mouse with I don't know, it's

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Speaker 5: just no Jessica Rabbit. Yeah exactly, I mean anyway, So no,

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Speaker 5: there was never a moment where I thought, now, if

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Speaker 4: You still wouldn't.

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Speaker 5: You're right, not enough now if you like, you know,

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Speaker 5: I no, never okay, just but I love him.

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Speaker 2: But no, let's get back into this episode. Stand out

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Speaker 2: girls to you. Well, it's so funny going through my bracket.

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Speaker 2: I had Maya Maya.

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Speaker 3: Maya Yeah, min from.

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Speaker 2: Sheets Eliminated Rose Ceremony Number one also Sandra's sister sister

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Speaker 3: How can you? I mean, why was she eliminated? She's was?

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Speaker 2: She was, she's sent seven and she looks like she

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 4: Seventy five.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. I mean, I just don't think regardless, we all

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Speaker 5: accept Mel's apology, we all want the best, but I

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Speaker 5: don't see Mel. Unfortunately our culture, I don't know, see

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Speaker 5: a sixty six year old going for a seventy seven

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Speaker 3: I just don't say it.

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Speaker 2: I did he even know her age because she didn't

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Speaker 3: I mean, who knows why.

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Speaker 2: I guess like it's just one of those situations like

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Speaker 2: I always refer to grocery store Joe.

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Speaker 3: Everybody thought he's the most charming, cute, handsome guy. How

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Speaker 3: did Betha eliminate him? Night one?

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Speaker 2: And then you hear that she was like, no, you

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Speaker 2: guys don't understand. There was so little chemistry, but we

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Speaker 4: It's a fla.

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Speaker 2: No matter how cute somebody can be, you just like

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Speaker 2: it's not there.

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Speaker 3: Trust me.

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Speaker 5: The older you get that becomes like ye, A lot of.

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Speaker 4: And to tell her. I think that we should cool it.

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Speaker 3: Like I want more of that story. I want to know.

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Speaker 3: And I love hearing that as a goolden.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So I have like a lot of fun questions

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Speaker 3: What are you talking about? Are talking about hormone?

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Speaker 2: Some of the metopausal symptoms. And I don't know how

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Speaker 5: Anything you want on the open book, let me let

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Speaker 3: What can I help you out? Okay?

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Speaker 5: No no no no no no no no no no no.

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Speaker 2: I I actually want to talk to Kathy about dating

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Speaker 3: I think dating after a divorce.

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Speaker 2: Like Susan and after the passing of your husband has

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Speaker 3: It is, right.

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Speaker 2: So were you, Susan excited to get back into dating

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Speaker 3: Did you even want to do it?

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Speaker 4: Not for a while?

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Speaker 3: And did it evolve into anything of interest?

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Speaker 3: When was the first time you got butterflies again after

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Speaker 4: A few years later?

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Speaker 4: And I've had those a few times. So I've had

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Speaker 2: Know the difference, and you know that who you're with

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Speaker 2: now is so far so six months okay, great. I

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Speaker 4: The guy that I went on a date with, We

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Speaker 2: Ask Kathy about that because like you kind of inferred

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Speaker 5: Well sexually active a romantic.

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Speaker 3: Actually, how comfortable you're willing to go were? I mean,

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Speaker 4: She's alive? Of course, we're so.

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Speaker 5: My first date I think was and it was way

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Speaker 3: Feel like being physical at all? Was somebody after you've

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Speaker 5: For forty so I will tell you that was really scary.

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Speaker 3: I met my husband when I was eighteen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah? You know, I got a date later with one

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Speaker 5: Actually, honestly, my truth about dating is I don't really

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Speaker 3: I used to guy.

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Speaker 5: I used to play tennis, I used to swim, I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, so you always go a little younger.

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Speaker 5: I like to date men who are younger. I've dated

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Speaker 3: It is my best date? Is honestly, yeah, that's exactly.

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Speaker 5: I I have the guy said I've dated. There was

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Speaker 5: Number three in your life is your daughter. Fourth in

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Speaker 3: What's your type?

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Speaker 5: So? I like a smart guy. I like a guy

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Speaker 5: to snowski, but he damn right. Well, better have the

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Speaker 5: taller than I am. I'm five to eight, so you know,

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Speaker 5: six feet is good. But more it's a guy who

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Speaker 5: has a sense of of of enjoyment of life, a

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Speaker 3: I just want to report to you that the Jonahs

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Speaker 4: Seven at best.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'll make an exception.

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Speaker 2: I think we should end this here and we'll go

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Speaker 2: into all my follow up questions in our later episode.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you guys are so much fun. Thank you for

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Speaker 3: being here and experiencing this.

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Speaker 2: All right. Until next time, I've been Ashley and they've

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Speaker 2: been Kathy and Susan.

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Speaker 3: Bye bye.

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