1 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: Personally old men. 2 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 2: Our next series is all about family, and there is 3 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 2: a double on Tandre there because it's Christmas Week, which 4 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 2: to me is all about family. I'm bringing out my 5 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 2: sister for her first ever podcast episode. She's a brand 6 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 2: new mama to my niece and she's a speech language pathologist. 7 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 2: We're talking all things baby, pregnancy, motherhood, and postpartum. Next 8 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,160 Speaker 2: week I'll bring on Michelle Pool, who is a nurse 9 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:39,560 Speaker 2: at the Maven Clinic, which specializes in family building, fertility 10 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 2: and all things parenthood. We're getting into some special talks 11 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:44,880 Speaker 2: for the mamas especially, but also the father's out there, 12 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 2: so let's do this. This is gonna be a fun, 13 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 2: chaotic episode because my sister is Jordi Reeve, but not 14 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 2: just my sister, her very precious new baby, Miss Collins, 15 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 2: and my niece. 16 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 3: Hey Tay, thanks for coming on. I'm glad to be here. 17 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 3: And Collins is just staring. 18 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 2: She's very confused about what's happening, but she's learning the 19 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 2: podcast life very early. 20 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:14,959 Speaker 3: I'm excited to talk to you about being a new 21 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 3: mom in Miss Collins. How old is Collins now? 22 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: Collins is eleven weeks old now. She was born September tenth. 23 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,040 Speaker 2: So, and what's it like being a new mom, Because 24 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:25,960 Speaker 2: it's been fun for me as your sister to watch 25 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 2: you enter this life that you've been waiting for what 26 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:31,039 Speaker 2: seems like decades. You were a mom to me as 27 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:33,479 Speaker 2: a kid, so this has been everything you've ever wanted. 28 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 3: It has been. 29 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 1: I always knew that I wanted to be a mom, 30 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: And as hard as that it's been some days, it's 31 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: truly just the best. 32 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,040 Speaker 3: And I don't think anything can. 33 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: Prepare you for what motherhood truly is, and I just 34 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: love it so much. 35 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 3: You did you read all the books. 36 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 2: I didn't listen to every podcast, you watched all the 37 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:55,559 Speaker 2: Instagram videos we did. 38 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 3: Did it all go out the window when she arrived 39 00:01:59,000 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 3: a little bit? 40 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: I think you can only be prepared so much until 41 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: she's here, and then you realize, Okay, I have a 42 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: human life that now looks at me to provide everything 43 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: for her, to protect her, to give her the nutrition 44 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: she needs, and then it's okay. I read all of 45 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: that about what does reality actually look like? And I 46 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 1: think the biggest thing for me was people said, oh, 47 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: you're not gonna get sleep, blah blah blah. 48 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 3: Okay, Well, The biggest. 49 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: Thing is my baby does sleep, but when you are breastfeeding, 50 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: you have to wake them every two to three hours 51 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: when they're babies, and so even if your baby wants 52 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: to sleep, you're still waking them. And so I think 53 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: it is that is really challenging in the first few weeks, 54 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: but it's all worth it. 55 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 2: Is there anything that people were telling you where you 56 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 2: heard them and now it's happening and you feel, Okay, 57 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 2: this person was legit and other things where okay that 58 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 2: person was lying, that's not actually true. 59 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 3: Oh for sure. 60 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 1: I think just you know how much you will love them, 61 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: Everyone's like it's a different kind. 62 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 3: Of love, like you can't explain it. 63 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 1: And that is so true because until you've been through it, 64 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: there's just no love like that. And I can't even 65 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 1: explain it. I just I would lay my life down 66 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 1: for her. I would do anything to protect her and 67 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: give her the very best. So I think that's hard 68 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: to explain. So I think they're totally spot on with that. 69 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 1: As far as like things that people said that, I'm like, 70 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it's like everyone's situation is different. 71 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 3: Everyone baby Collins is chiming in. 72 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:33,639 Speaker 1: Everyone's birth story is different, so everything just happens differently. 73 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 3: Was that true? Was your story different? Ms? Collins? 74 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: Yes, it's just different and what works for one mom 75 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: doesn't work for the other mom, and there's nothing wrong 76 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: with that. 77 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 3: And we're talking lots of morning. 78 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 2: We learned that baby Collins really likes to talk in 79 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 2: the mornings. 80 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 3: We're in the morning a little bit right now, A Hi, Yes, 81 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 3: just baby noises. It's really what the whole podcast is 82 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 3: going to be anywhere. So that's very much true. 83 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 2: I feel like from the outside looking into you've had 84 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: a lot of realizations of that where oh, well, that 85 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 2: was not the same story that happened for us, So 86 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 2: it feels does that feel isolating. 87 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 3: A little bit? 88 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 2: Where there's moments you're like, nobody understands what I'm going through? 89 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 2: There might be some, but not really, Yeah. 90 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 3: For sure. 91 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 1: And I think that's when you just lean in and 92 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: you're like, this is our story, and you take it 93 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: day by day. And that's the biggest thing I've learned 94 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 1: is like things change with babies so much when they're 95 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 1: little that if you try to look too far ahead, 96 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,920 Speaker 1: it's overwhelming. And so it's just very much Okay, We're 97 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:37,920 Speaker 1: gonna get through today and this week and then we'll. 98 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 3: Just take it by day. 99 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 2: So when you see all those videos and stuff online, 100 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 2: if people are like one day, it's going to be 101 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 2: really important about who you marry. 102 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 3: I feel like you're in that moment right now of 103 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 3: your life. 104 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,239 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, And the best thing I did for Collins 105 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: was choo Seth. 106 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 3: That's her dad. That's truly just the best thing I 107 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 3: did for her. 108 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: And it matters who you marry because at two am, 109 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: when you are getting hooped and peed on and spit up, 110 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 1: and the last thing you want is to be fighting 111 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: with your partner, you want somebody who's there and is 112 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: a teammate because those are hard times middle of the night, 113 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 1: when you've had no sleep. It's not good for anyone. 114 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,280 Speaker 1: So it matters, so you marry for sure. 115 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 3: Yeah. 116 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 2: And Seth loves being a dad. That's my brother in law, 117 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 2: my sister's husband, and Colin's dad. And he's very much 118 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 2: hands on. He loves to be with Collins all the time, 119 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,919 Speaker 2: even when he's watching football. Collins is there ready to 120 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:35,479 Speaker 2: also support the next Oregon fan here. And you also, 121 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 2: I imagine there's been moments where you guys have also 122 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 2: wanted to kill each other. 123 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 3: Oh, absolutely happy. Yeah, for sure. We're very normal too, 124 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 3: and I am. 125 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 1: It's not perfect, Like there are moments where you're like, 126 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I haven't slept, I haven't showered, I 127 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: don't know in the last time I ate was But 128 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 1: I'm going to take it out on you because you're 129 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:00,160 Speaker 1: the one who's right here versus thinking I'm probably just hungry, 130 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: probably just need a meal actually. But and so then 131 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: you come back to the table and you're like, hey, 132 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 133 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 3: That wasn't weared at you. 134 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,719 Speaker 1: We have to remind ourselves often, like we're on the 135 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 1: same team. Sometimes she cludes against us a little. 136 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 3: Bit, not on purpose. I didn't do that. 137 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna make it hard on you guys sometimes. 138 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 3: And yeah, she's learning how to be a human too. 139 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 1: She's learning how to live, and we're learning how to 140 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 1: be parents for the first time. So we're all learning together, 141 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 1: and we just try to remind ourselves of that. And 142 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: for some reason, when I look at her, like little 143 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 1: hands and little feet, that is like the biggest reminder 144 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:39,239 Speaker 1: for me. She's so tiny and she's learning with us too. 145 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 2: So she's just a little human that's morphing into gonna 146 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 2: be one day a little toddler and then a little 147 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:49,159 Speaker 2: kid and as they grow. Are you having that moment 148 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 2: with her where she's already starting to grow and it 149 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 2: feels like time's flying by? 150 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 3: It really does. 151 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, And everyone says that too. The days are so long, 152 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: but the years are so short, and even weeks right now, 153 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 1: the weeks seem like they are just flying by. She'll 154 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,280 Speaker 1: be three, three months here soon, and it doesn't seem 155 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: possible that my maternity leave is already up and I'm 156 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: going to be a working mom and we're going to 157 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: navigate that together too. So it's just, yeah, I just 158 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: it truly flies by. I feel in a way I 159 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: just had her yesterday. 160 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 3: So are you scared going into the change of working mom? Oh, 161 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 3: bless you, bless uses. 162 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm about to not want that, Okay, I would 163 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 2: like to turn this subject away from that. 164 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's going to be another challenge that I'm just 165 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: going to again take it day by day because that's 166 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: really all I can do is just try to figure 167 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:41,840 Speaker 1: it out. And I love my job and I love 168 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 1: working with kids, and so I hope to be able 169 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: to still do that and be a good mom for Collins. 170 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 2: And you're a speech language pathologist for all the people 171 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 2: who don't know. 172 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:56,239 Speaker 3: Yes, fit up. We gotta make sure we look our best. 173 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 1: Yes, I am a speech language pathologist out an elementary school. 174 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: So I've done that for gosh, I think nine or 175 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: ten years now. 176 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 3: So yep. And it prepped you too in a lot 177 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 3: of ways. 178 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 2: I feel like you've done different things with cons to 179 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 2: be sure, because of the things that you know and 180 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 2: things that you've learned to help her make sure she's 181 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 2: set up for success for. 182 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 1: Sure, and just how important these first two years are 183 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 1: for their development, speech language, brain development, all of it. 184 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: So much happens within their first three to five years 185 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: of life, and so it's just so important to just 186 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 1: be aware of that. And even now we talk to 187 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: her constantly and she's get bombarded with language and vocabulary, 188 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: and even though it might not look like she's truly 189 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: taking it all in. 190 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 3: She is. 191 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So speak to it from that perspective as 192 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 2: a speech language pathologist because you have these skills, and 193 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 2: what other things would you tell first time parents about 194 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 2: their kid from that perspective and also being a mom 195 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,199 Speaker 2: now that you've had both experiences. 196 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I think just truly talking to them constantly, 197 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 1: even if it's just about what we're doing, like talking 198 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: to her about changing her diaper, and oh, we're going 199 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,200 Speaker 1: into the next room, and here are my dogs and 200 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: these are my dog's names, and okay, and now we're 201 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 1: going to go outside for a little bit, and oh 202 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:10,440 Speaker 1: do you see the trees. And we are constantly telling 203 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: her about her surroundings, what's going on, interacting with her, 204 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:20,319 Speaker 1: reading to her, because their vocabulary just flourishes when they 205 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 1: are talked to when they are read too. And I 206 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 1: think it's hard at this age because they're not always interacting. 207 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: She's just beginning to start to interact with us and 208 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: smile at us and stuff, but before there's really not 209 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: a lot of interactions. So you're like, I don't need 210 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,319 Speaker 1: to talk to them. They're just sitting there. They're not 211 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 1: really interacting with me. But they really truly are. All 212 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: of those brain neurons are firing and connecting and they're 213 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: trying to make sense of everything, so it really does matter. 214 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so cool that you have that added layer. 215 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:50,080 Speaker 2: It's like when you think of somebody being a nurse 216 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 2: and they know you get that extra benefit of the skill, 217 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 2: whereas me, if I ever do choose to have kids, 218 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't really have anything to help you. 219 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 3: If you want to speak into a microphone, this is 220 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 3: not gonna be good. 221 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: So but I think to that point also, there's so 222 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 1: much that's innate that you don't realize until you're a mom. 223 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: I trust my gut more now than I have ever before. 224 00:10:11,720 --> 00:10:13,719 Speaker 1: And people are like, trust your mom gut, trust you 225 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:16,319 Speaker 1: like I don't have one, Like I'm not a mom, 226 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: I don't know. 227 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 3: What that gut is. 228 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: And people said that to me even during my pregnancy, 229 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't trust myself yet. But 230 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: like as soon as I had her, something in me click, 231 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:28,360 Speaker 1: Something in me changed, So it's like, Okay, I trust 232 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:30,559 Speaker 1: my mom gut. Now I have one, and I know. 233 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 3: What that's like. 234 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: So I think some of that truly is just innate 235 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:36,560 Speaker 1: and you know what's best for your child and you 236 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: do that. 237 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 2: So is that kind of the mom instinct as well 238 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 2: that all kind of correlates. 239 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 3: So it didn't click until the moment she was born. 240 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: It didn't for me, and I think probably sometimes people 241 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,600 Speaker 1: maybe with pregnancy it does. It didn't for me until 242 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: like I had her and then it was like, okay, 243 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 1: I got it. 244 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 3: Now there it is. It clicked and we are here. 245 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:00,040 Speaker 2: Do you ever have to use Google or now I 246 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 2: or anything to answer questions because things happen, I imagine, 247 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 2: and you don't have all the answers. 248 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 1: All the time, I honestly, like I say it all 249 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: the time too, like I don't know how people survived 250 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:15,960 Speaker 1: before Chat, GPT and Google because they're ah same girl, 251 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: same that. 252 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 3: It's a big yon for a little girl that's been 253 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 3: saying this. Here's a lot of our Thanksgiving this week. Yes, 254 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 3: you've heard that a lot. You know. 255 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 2: She's smiling me right now and it always just melts 256 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 2: my little heart when she smiled. 257 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 3: Yes, you know, we still have both. 258 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:36,680 Speaker 2: Of your parents, sess parents and ours obviously, so they're 259 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 2: great to lean on. 260 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 3: But again, different experiences. 261 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I remind them too, Like that was thirty years ago, 262 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:45,960 Speaker 1: and a lot has changed since then too, even the 263 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:48,720 Speaker 1: way we put babies to sleep, Like they used to 264 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: cover us up with blankets and all these things, and 265 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: that's a big no. Now you place your baby on 266 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 1: the back, you don't put any blankets in there because 267 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:58,559 Speaker 1: of the risk of SIDS. And so that has changed 268 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 1: in thirty years because we know better, we do better 269 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:03,199 Speaker 1: kind of thing, and so yeah, a lot has changed. 270 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 1: And so I'm so thankful for Google and Chat GPT 271 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:10,200 Speaker 1: because I truly, like, at two am, I can't call 272 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: my doctor's office and be like, why. 273 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 3: Is her poop green? 274 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 1: It just it helps me to be like, hey, that's 275 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:19,080 Speaker 1: actually not a big deal. It's pretty common things like 276 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 1: that that you're like, I don't know who else to 277 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:23,199 Speaker 1: ask this. I'm sure I read it in one of 278 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 1: those books, but I don't know what page it was on. 279 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:28,520 Speaker 3: Like, because you guys did read a few books before 280 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 3: all this happened. 281 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 2: I do you feel like any of them really helped 282 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:35,199 Speaker 2: or was it just more preparing you that it helped a. 283 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: Lot of it was preparation, and I think the books 284 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: I read were more for like pregnancy and what to 285 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 1: expect as like my pregnancy progress, which was really helpful 286 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 1: because it does change a lot and it was my 287 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:49,679 Speaker 1: first time being pregnant, it's for my first time being 288 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 1: a mom. 289 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:51,719 Speaker 3: But yeah, I would for. 290 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: Any moment, I would suggest reading as much as you can, 291 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: because I think that's another thing that I didn't I 292 00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 1: wasn't as I don't know, just like prepared for is 293 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: that I have zero time to read or do any 294 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: of that now. She is all like time consuming in 295 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: the best way, and I wouldn't change that at all, 296 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 1: but I'd be like, oh, yeah, I'll wait until I 297 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: have her and I'll read. And I'm like, okay, yeah, 298 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 1: you got five minutes. You're not going to read all 299 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: of that. Yeah, you're like I have learned. 300 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 2: You don't have time to shower. You don't even have 301 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 2: time sometimes to wear a clean shirt. Was we were 302 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 2: about to go do something this week for Thanksgiving weekend 303 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 2: and Taylor had just changed, got ready, she took Collins 304 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 2: and hall Its just threw up all on the back 305 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:31,920 Speaker 2: and she's, okay, you gotta go. 306 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 3: Change, do a new shirt. Very mom life, codd it is. 307 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 3: I always wondered about that with the books. You see 308 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 3: everybody gift books to. 309 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:43,839 Speaker 2: New parents, and I was always just so curious that 310 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 2: they're truly helpful or you know where the boundaries lie there. 311 00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 3: Because you can do and consume so much. 312 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 2: But everything, to my knowledge that you've told me about 313 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:56,680 Speaker 2: is that it all changes when they get here. 314 00:13:56,800 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 1: It does, and every baby's different, so like even all 315 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: that good advice, like it might work for your baby, 316 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:04,680 Speaker 1: but it might not also, and so I think that's 317 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 1: where it's nice to have search engines too. And it's okay, 318 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: this isn't working. Is there any other things I can try? So? 319 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 3: Or guys, we're doing it with Tommy Time the other day. 320 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, because she starts she's learned to roll herself over 321 00:14:16,240 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 2: and they're like, okay, so is it? 322 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 3: Are we just done? Tommy Time's done? What does that mean? 323 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 3: And I saw, so just get on his phone. It's okay, Google, 324 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 3: I gotta do some research. What's happening? How many time? 325 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: It's not done just because they started rolling, Although that's 326 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 1: a great milestone, but we still have. 327 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:30,760 Speaker 3: Work to do. So it's like, how do we get 328 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 3: her to. 329 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: Stay in Tonny Time? But it things like that, like 330 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: how else would you know that? Either there's no class, 331 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:37,960 Speaker 1: they don't come with. 332 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 3: A rule book. No, they do not. 333 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 1: They don't come with an instruction manual, and so you're 334 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: just you're left to figure it out. So God bless 335 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 1: all of our parents that came before us that did 336 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:50,920 Speaker 1: not have tragypt your Google, because they are saints. I 337 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 1: don't know how they did it. And then that just 338 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 1: goes back to that mom and seeing here in that 339 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:56,600 Speaker 1: mom goud of you know what's best for them. 340 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I wanted to talk to you too about 341 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 2: the You talked about the pregnancy a little bit. 342 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 3: You had such a great pregnancy. 343 00:15:04,920 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 2: In moments, but you're also very sick at the beginning, 344 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 2: and then your pregnancy plan went. 345 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 3: Out the window. It did, sadly. 346 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think some new moms need to hear that, 347 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 2: because I think I've heard a lot of them who 348 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 2: you plan to a tea what you want to happen, 349 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 2: And you had done that, but you also had the 350 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 2: knowledge of some other things, so I did. 351 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 352 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, my first trimesters is pretty sick, just nausea and 353 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 1: stuff like that. I think for a lot of moms 354 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:31,040 Speaker 1: that's typical. 355 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 3: And then I. 356 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 1: Had a really great pregnancy. I was able to work 357 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,920 Speaker 1: out throughout my pregnancy up until the day that we 358 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: went in for her induction. We were almost a forty 359 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 1: one weeks when I was induced, and while not ideal, 360 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:47,960 Speaker 1: it was a god wink for me at that point 361 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,680 Speaker 1: because as soon as I went in for my induction, 362 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 1: my blood pressure was in the severs, which can be 363 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 1: really bad. For me, the risk is stroke or seizures, 364 00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: and so I was in me put on magnesium to 365 00:16:01,760 --> 00:16:05,960 Speaker 1: prevent that, which for any homes that have been on magnesium, Oh, 366 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: it's a wild ride. It was just a rush of it. 367 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:10,680 Speaker 1: I truly thought I had the flu, and so at 368 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 1: forty plus weeks pregnant, the last thing he was being 369 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:16,800 Speaker 1: there and being like, oh no, I feel like I 370 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:18,880 Speaker 1: have the flu. This is great, and so I just 371 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: I blew up, like I look at pictures that I 372 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: have so much extra fluid and me and everything, And 373 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:27,920 Speaker 1: I'm so thankful for modern medicine because I don't know 374 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 1: what would have happened if we didn't go in I 375 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,120 Speaker 1: didn't get those meds. But it was also very scary 376 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 1: at that moment because my pregnancy had been so great 377 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: up until that time. So that really changed everything because 378 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: my goal was to go without an epidural for as 379 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:44,720 Speaker 1: long as I could and to be able to labor 380 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 1: in different positions. And because I got the magnesium, I 381 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 1: was in bedrid and I couldn't do any of that. 382 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:52,640 Speaker 3: Were there still some things we could do? Yes? 383 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: And my biggest thing is I really truly didn't want 384 00:16:56,440 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 1: to have a C section. Unless it was medically necessary. 385 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:02,160 Speaker 1: And that's something that I advocated for myself. And for 386 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: some moms they want that, and that's great, more power 387 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:06,919 Speaker 1: to them. You can go in and you can have 388 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:10,280 Speaker 1: a baby within an hour, and how amazing is that? 389 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,280 Speaker 1: And for some moms they don't have a choice at all. 390 00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:14,600 Speaker 1: And so I don't want to ever say the ones 391 00:17:14,640 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 1: better than the other. Both of them are hard in 392 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 1: their own ways. So it was just what I wanted 393 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: and so I did. That was one thing that I 394 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: really did advocate for, and that was one thing that 395 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 1: worked out for me. I didn't have to have a 396 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:28,359 Speaker 1: sea section. But did I was my labor in turn 397 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 1: twenty three hours in total? 398 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:33,679 Speaker 3: Yes? Did I push for almost three hours? Yes? Was 399 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:35,159 Speaker 3: it hard? Absolutely? 400 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 1: But I would do it all over again in a 401 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: heartbeat for the outcome of Collins, And. 402 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:40,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, you had. 403 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:42,719 Speaker 2: Your pregnancy in general was just a It was a 404 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,400 Speaker 2: wild ride. But there was so many moments, I think, 405 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:48,199 Speaker 2: where you were exhausted and you didn't know it was 406 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 2: to come, especially then the baby comes. 407 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 3: You haven't slept, you haven't really. 408 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:54,439 Speaker 2: Ate, you haven't done anything, and then the baby's here 409 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 2: is oh, you still don't get to eat? Or sleep 410 00:17:56,760 --> 00:18:00,080 Speaker 2: or do anything, and it becomes this I feel like 411 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:03,200 Speaker 2: wild tornado for the first however many weeks, and I 412 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:05,720 Speaker 2: don't feel like people talk about that whole much. Yeah, 413 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:07,640 Speaker 2: the labor's intents and you're about to push a baby 414 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 2: out of you, But also what you're not realizing is 415 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,439 Speaker 2: you're not going to get to recover after that. No, 416 00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:16,199 Speaker 2: you don't just go to sleep for two weeks, make 417 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 2: up for it and bounce back. You now have the 418 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 2: baby right and hopefully you have a really great community 419 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 2: around you that helps you. But gosh, we just don't 420 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:28,880 Speaker 2: talk about those really first few weeks when it's all 421 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,880 Speaker 2: happening for the first time and you're still not fully recovered. 422 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 2: I still feel like, even now, you're not fully recovered. 423 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:38,679 Speaker 1: No, no, And I know that there's I've heard different 424 00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 1: things about it takes six months to like up to 425 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:44,959 Speaker 1: a year for your body to fully recover. And Miobi 426 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:48,280 Speaker 1: doesn't even recommend having another baby for eighteen months because 427 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:51,280 Speaker 1: your body takes that long to recover. And we're very 428 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 1: blessed with amazing parents and siblings that. 429 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:56,919 Speaker 3: Help support us through all of that. 430 00:18:57,119 --> 00:19:00,199 Speaker 1: But yeah, it's hard because there's only so much that 431 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,959 Speaker 1: other people can do for you. When you're breastfeeding and 432 00:19:03,040 --> 00:19:05,840 Speaker 1: you're on a two hour time clock, there's no way 433 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:08,399 Speaker 1: to get good sleep at that point. So those first 434 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 1: two weeks for me was even longer because we're trying 435 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:13,240 Speaker 1: to get her back up to birthway because she did 436 00:19:13,280 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 1: lose a little bit, and just in general for a 437 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:18,240 Speaker 1: lot of people too. And I was the same way 438 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 1: getting her to latch and learning how to breastfeed again, 439 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:21,920 Speaker 1: that was our first time. 440 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 3: How do we do this? 441 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,360 Speaker 1: It's hard, And so when you're on a two hour 442 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 1: three hour time clock and it takes thirty forty five 443 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 1: minutes to do. 444 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,479 Speaker 3: That, it's okay. 445 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:32,879 Speaker 1: Now I have maybe an hour left, and so I 446 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:34,399 Speaker 1: am supposed to do all the things I need to 447 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 1: do within that hour. 448 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:37,720 Speaker 3: So that's just it's difficult. 449 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 1: And so yeah, I think that you get through it 450 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 1: and you see her cute little face and it makes 451 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:46,320 Speaker 1: it all worth it, even when it's really hard. 452 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 2: Sometimes I was gonna ask you, what are the things 453 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:52,399 Speaker 2: that Collins has done that'll make that moment worth it? 454 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,920 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I want to know, like mom perspective, 455 00:19:54,960 --> 00:19:56,919 Speaker 2: because I see her and she's so singing cure. She 456 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 2: came out in her little leopard outfit that if you're 457 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 2: watching the video you will see her in, which just 458 00:20:02,119 --> 00:20:04,480 Speaker 2: made me smile. But I have to believe there's moments 459 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:07,280 Speaker 2: that you two have gotten to have that have been 460 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 2: made truly that worth it because people say that for sure, 461 00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 2: what are the actual. 462 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 3: Moments for sure? 463 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,200 Speaker 1: Like early on, it was like getting her to latch 464 00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: and knowing that she was getting enough like breast milk wise, 465 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: we did a few feedings where my lactation consultant was 466 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 1: able to wait her before and then I fed her 467 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:27,919 Speaker 1: and then weigh her after and like to know that, 468 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,879 Speaker 1: like she's happy, content, she was getting enough. Early on, 469 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 1: that was amazing. Lately it's been laughs and giggles and smiles, 470 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:39,960 Speaker 1: like her actually truly looking at us and knowing, oh 471 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 1: my god, she's actually smiling at us. Before they smile 472 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: in their sleep or whatever, they randomly smile and you're like, 473 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:46,640 Speaker 1: that wasn't at me, but. 474 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 3: I still love it. 475 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 1: But now she will giggle and laugh at us, So 476 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 1: that's been the best so far. And just recognizing us too. Yeah, 477 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:57,520 Speaker 1: like she actually can see a little bit better too. 478 00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:00,080 Speaker 2: But just being around you guys for this past week, 479 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,240 Speaker 2: she can very much tell when she is in mom 480 00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 2: or dad's arms, like she's happy being in other people's arms, 481 00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 2: but mom and dad it makes it all better. And 482 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 2: I think that's probably a cool feeling, yes, that you 483 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:15,360 Speaker 2: are the connection to her that keeps that going. Absolutely 484 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:19,120 Speaker 2: always weak girl, She's like trying really hard to get 485 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 2: fussy on us. 486 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 3: She's doing so good though we are now Collins List. 487 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 3: She has gone to her father for a little bit. 488 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:28,480 Speaker 3: If you're in the Little. 489 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 2: Crist took us a little break, But I wanted to 490 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 2: talk to you about one of the important conversations around 491 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,879 Speaker 2: having kids, and it's really more about the mom because 492 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:40,639 Speaker 2: the mom kind of gets lost and everything, and postpartum is. 493 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,159 Speaker 3: A huge deal. So what has that part of all 494 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 3: this been like for you? For sure? 495 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, for me, I've been blessed that it hasn't been extreme. 496 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:52,880 Speaker 1: I would say the hormone rush is very real, and 497 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,639 Speaker 1: there'll be points where I will just start crying for 498 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: no reason and I'm like, what's wrong with me? And 499 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 1: it's this rush of emotion that I don't remember ever 500 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 1: having before Collins. But other than that, I did get 501 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 1: Bell's palsy, so that was something that did happen postpartum. 502 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:14,399 Speaker 1: To me, and that can contribute to even more depression 503 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,199 Speaker 1: and anxiety and stuff. And when that hit, that was 504 00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:20,640 Speaker 1: pretty rough because I was four weeks postpartum and very 505 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,320 Speaker 1: solid four weeks, half of my face didn't work. So 506 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,880 Speaker 1: not only was I trying to still work on breastfeeding 507 00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 1: and then eat to sustain breastfeeding, now I couldn't really 508 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: eat very well because my face was so droopy that 509 00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 1: things were falling out, and I was having trouble just 510 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,399 Speaker 1: swallowing and all of those things too. So thankful that 511 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:43,160 Speaker 1: I have had a full recovery from that since then. 512 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:45,280 Speaker 1: But I think when I was in that it was 513 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:48,120 Speaker 1: like a very much Okay, I really hope this gets better, 514 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:52,399 Speaker 1: because well, one my job, I rely on that my 515 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,840 Speaker 1: face and my lips and my mouth to work correctly 516 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:57,679 Speaker 1: for my job. And so I was questioning that and 517 00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,479 Speaker 1: then questioning my ever going to look the same? Already 518 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,760 Speaker 1: questioned that when you have changed so much throughout nine 519 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 1: months of pregnancy. 520 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,080 Speaker 3: So now is my face ever gonna look the same? 521 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 3: And so I will say that was. 522 00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 1: Maybe a little dip of ooh, are we gonna get 523 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:13,960 Speaker 1: the We're gonna get the baby blues? Here? 524 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:14,439 Speaker 3: Yeah? 525 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 1: But I think just like I said, I just I 526 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:18,919 Speaker 1: keep going back to it. I was just day by 527 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,119 Speaker 1: day like okay, and I would take videos with my 528 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 1: face to be like, is it getting any better or 529 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 1: is it getting any better? And for a couple of 530 00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 1: weeks it really done him. Now we're here and it 531 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,640 Speaker 1: did fully recover. So I would say, all in all, 532 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 1: I don't think mine was very extreme, but the doctors 533 00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:35,679 Speaker 1: were great about asking and making sure two which I 534 00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,879 Speaker 1: think I'm thankful because I think before I don't know 535 00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: that doctor's checked in as much as they do. 536 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:42,919 Speaker 3: Now, they're very aware. 537 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: Of it, and they give you and my husband they 538 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 1: gave him things to look for because I think sometimes 539 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,720 Speaker 1: like as a mom, you don't see those signs. You're 540 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,560 Speaker 1: just like, no, I'm just exhausted, tired, I don't feel 541 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:57,520 Speaker 1: like myself versus somebody from the outside of your husband 542 00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 1: or your spouse or whatever, can see those signs and 543 00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:04,080 Speaker 1: then say I think these are maybe signs of postpartum 544 00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 1: blues or post partum depression. 545 00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:09,880 Speaker 2: Well, and it's scary because I think as a mom, 546 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:13,000 Speaker 2: I would assume that you're really just focused on Collins 547 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:15,640 Speaker 2: or your baby and doing the best you can for her. 548 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:20,600 Speaker 2: So you're laser focused. It's not on the self care 549 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 2: you need to do, not that you have time for it, right, 550 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 2: and not that you really have time to eat and 551 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,480 Speaker 2: do the things you need to do to keep your 552 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:28,359 Speaker 2: body in a better state. 553 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:28,840 Speaker 1: Right. 554 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 2: Your body's already completely diplenished of all of these things 555 00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,520 Speaker 2: and you need a lot of different moments, but you 556 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,040 Speaker 2: don't have the time. You don't have the patience at 557 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:41,520 Speaker 2: that right, and so it's almost like it's hard and 558 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:43,639 Speaker 2: you at least want to talk about it, so it's 559 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:46,920 Speaker 2: well known and the husbands can step up. And I'm 560 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 2: going to assume that Seth played a significant role to 561 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:53,119 Speaker 2: make sure that you didn't have really deep dips. 562 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 3: Absolutely absolutely. 563 00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:56,880 Speaker 1: He was there every step of the way and took 564 00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:00,439 Speaker 1: over when he did see me getting frustrated or getting 565 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:02,480 Speaker 1: to the point where I was like, Okay, this is 566 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 1: too much. I'm getting overwhelmed, and he would always step 567 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: in and was there for me one hundred percent of 568 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:09,240 Speaker 1: the time. I think the other thing that we were 569 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:13,240 Speaker 1: really great about is getting outside every day. That saved us, 570 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 1: and I think it's hard to when I look at people, 571 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,080 Speaker 1: it always depends on what time of the year your 572 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,200 Speaker 1: pregnancy is and where you live and if that's even 573 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 1: an option. But we were really lucky that we had 574 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:25,040 Speaker 1: her in a fall season where it was beautiful outside 575 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: and we were able to get outside every day, even 576 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,520 Speaker 1: if it was just for a fifteen minute walk. Sometimes 577 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 1: I could go longer, and some at the very beginning 578 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,879 Speaker 1: it was just a little lap around the block. But 579 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: just thought fresh air really helped us. And it helped 580 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:40,520 Speaker 1: us to reconnect too, because you don't realize how you're 581 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:44,359 Speaker 1: stuck inside and doing the same thing over and over again, 582 00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:47,040 Speaker 1: and just getting outside. And it was great for Collins too, 583 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:50,159 Speaker 1: like she already loves being outside, and I attribute that 584 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,480 Speaker 1: to just us getting outside every day when she was little, 585 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:55,120 Speaker 1: and we still do that now. There's some days where 586 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,120 Speaker 1: we can't do it, but the majority of the days 587 00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 1: we still do well. 588 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,920 Speaker 2: It became a great thing all around for everything, absolutely, 589 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:04,159 Speaker 2: and that's always a cool part of that experience. But 590 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,480 Speaker 2: also you mentioned you and Sef being able to connect again, 591 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 2: because that also is a factor in all of this. 592 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:13,280 Speaker 2: A lot of marriages change after having a baby, and 593 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 2: so besides the walks, is there anything else that you 594 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 2: guys have learned to make sure to do to check 595 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 2: in with each other and just make sure you're still 596 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: on the same page together. 597 00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the biggest thing for us has been 598 00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 1: one just checking in constantly. 599 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:29,280 Speaker 3: Where are you at? Do you need me to take over? 600 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 3: Are you good? Is there anything I can get you? 601 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:33,680 Speaker 1: Especially when you're nap trapped and you have a baby 602 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,880 Speaker 1: on you if you're sitting there for two hours, hey 603 00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 1: let me get you something to snack on or drink whatever. 604 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,479 Speaker 1: But also reconnecting once we put her down to for bed. 605 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,120 Speaker 1: Is that's the time we have a little bit more 606 00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 1: time than we do in the day, but just you 607 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:50,560 Speaker 1: know how the day went and how we're feeling. So 608 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: that's what we've tried to do so far, and some 609 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:54,360 Speaker 1: days are better than others. 610 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:55,479 Speaker 3: So well. 611 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 2: And you guys also have four big dogs, two dobies, 612 00:26:59,000 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 2: two doodles. 613 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:01,680 Speaker 3: What has that been experienced? 614 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,760 Speaker 2: Like? There are people that tell me that the relationship 615 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 2: with your dogs changes, And I'm so curious from my 616 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:10,240 Speaker 2: sister who we are massive animal lovers in the same right, 617 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:11,920 Speaker 2: what is the hot take? 618 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:13,840 Speaker 3: I need the opinion we. 619 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:16,240 Speaker 1: Love them just as much as we did before Collins. 620 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 1: I will say the biggest thing is our patience just 621 00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: isn't as high with them. That's the biggest thing is 622 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,320 Speaker 1: when you have a sleeping baby that you've been working 623 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,200 Speaker 1: to get to sleep for a long time and they're 624 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,440 Speaker 1: sleeping and they're swinging. And our dogs are great and 625 00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 1: they've been exposed to collins and we were always around 626 00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:38,200 Speaker 1: them when she's around. But they will sometimes come over 627 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,199 Speaker 1: and usually they just sniff, but when they get a 628 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,320 Speaker 1: good licking and that wakes her up and startles her. 629 00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 1: There is nothing more than irritates you as a parent 630 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 1: when you work so hard to get her to sleep 631 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: and now she's wailing and you're like, okay, now we 632 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 1: have to start all the way over yep. 633 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:59,640 Speaker 2: Whereas people without dogs probably don't have that same experience exactly. 634 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:01,800 Speaker 3: So, yeah, we love them so much. 635 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:04,159 Speaker 1: And at first it was a transition for them the 636 00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,240 Speaker 1: first twenty four to forty eight hours, and you were there, 637 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:08,600 Speaker 1: you saw it. It was hard on the dogs. They 638 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,200 Speaker 1: were very anxious and just confuse, what is this screaming. 639 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:12,439 Speaker 3: Thing you brought in? 640 00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:14,879 Speaker 1: And we did expose them to baby crying sounds early 641 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:18,160 Speaker 1: just to try to hopefully transition them a little bit easier. 642 00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:20,840 Speaker 1: And we had our parents take home a blanket from 643 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,080 Speaker 1: the hospital that had her sent on it. So we 644 00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,120 Speaker 1: did some of those things to help we thought transition, 645 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 1: but those first twenty four to forty hours are still 646 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,280 Speaker 1: tricky for them, and it was just navigating a new 647 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,679 Speaker 1: normal for them and a new baby. And two of 648 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:36,399 Speaker 1: them are rescued, so I don't know that any of 649 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 1: them have if they've been around babies before. S's dogs 650 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,080 Speaker 1: had not been around babies before, so it was just 651 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: all new for them. But then I would say after that, 652 00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 1: they just have done so great with her, and. 653 00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:51,680 Speaker 2: One of them, one of the Adobies, has turned into 654 00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 2: Adobe nanny. 655 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:58,160 Speaker 1: Yes it's Penny. Yeah, we always joke that it's Penny's baby. 656 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 1: It's not my baby, it's one hundred or sent Bennie's baby. 657 00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 1: So she will protect Collins at all costs, and yeah, 658 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: she loves her like Collins is her own. So it's 659 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,840 Speaker 1: great and I'm I'm happy for Collins that she gets 660 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,480 Speaker 1: to grow up in a house with dogs because I 661 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: think there's so many benefits to that. It'll be a 662 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,600 Speaker 1: challenge when she starts walking and crawling and all the 663 00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 1: other things, but they've been great so far, so I 664 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 1: don't anticipate that it'll get be any different. 665 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 3: Well, I've been waiting for that answer because everybody. 666 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,600 Speaker 1: Does say they call it like the dogic, I think, 667 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:29,480 Speaker 1: or something like that. 668 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:30,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, you haven't. 669 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,920 Speaker 2: Gotten that, so okay, Well maybe people are getting the 670 00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:36,040 Speaker 2: dog at aren't as big as dog lovers. 671 00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 3: That's the thing. 672 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:40,720 Speaker 2: I don't know what else this whole pregnancy and having 673 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,920 Speaker 2: from pregnancy to now having collins. Are there things you've 674 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:49,760 Speaker 2: learned about yourself that maybe you didn't ever anticipate coming 675 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:50,640 Speaker 2: to fruition. 676 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,160 Speaker 3: In your life? Just how much sleep I need? 677 00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, like you are already a really sleepy girl. Yeah, 678 00:29:57,120 --> 00:30:00,080 Speaker 2: my sister loves her naps. I would get yelled by 679 00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 2: if I called her and oh and disrupted a nap 680 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:03,360 Speaker 2: mind you. 681 00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,280 Speaker 3: And I was on the allowed to call through. 682 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,800 Speaker 2: Things list and I think you removed me from that 683 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 2: at one point because I kept calling during her nap time. Yeah. 684 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 1: I just I require a lot of sleep. And I 685 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,720 Speaker 1: didn't used to be like that. Like in high school 686 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 1: I could and I'm sure everyone's like, yeah, well, in 687 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 1: high school you can do anything whatever. But as I've 688 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: gotten older, I realized, Okay, I'm a seven to eight 689 00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,640 Speaker 1: hour like night. I need that every night for sleep, 690 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 1: and then I call and said I was like, Okay, 691 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:32,720 Speaker 1: now I don't get that anymore and. 692 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 3: I need three hours at least hopefully. 693 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:38,040 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I think, yeah, that's one thing. And then 694 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,520 Speaker 1: I think, just like how much patience I truly have 695 00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:45,480 Speaker 1: because a baby takes a lot of patience, that's the thing. 696 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,719 Speaker 1: And so with my job, I think that's something I 697 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 1: just have learned. 698 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 2: I can't leave you on this podcast and people not 699 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,800 Speaker 2: answer or want to have answers about our childhood and 700 00:30:56,840 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 2: stuff like this. So what was it like growing up 701 00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:02,719 Speaker 2: as having to take care of your younger sister all 702 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:03,000 Speaker 2: the time. 703 00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,000 Speaker 3: Do you think that prepared you for having a child? 704 00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:06,520 Speaker 3: I think maybe a little bit. 705 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,840 Speaker 1: But what's funny to me is like people that know 706 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,760 Speaker 1: of us but don't really know us think that you're older. 707 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,800 Speaker 1: And I don't know if it's because like you are 708 00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,200 Speaker 1: more well known or like why, but I'm like, no, 709 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,800 Speaker 1: that's my little sister, and They're like, oh, I thought 710 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,440 Speaker 1: you were younger, and I'm like, what made you think that. 711 00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,640 Speaker 2: It's also a funny change that has happened is when 712 00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,520 Speaker 2: I was growing up in high school, I was always 713 00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,320 Speaker 2: known as Taylor's sister, that was just my name. I 714 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,720 Speaker 2: didn't have a name to all of your friends. And 715 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,080 Speaker 2: then now in adulthood, she is Morgan's sister. 716 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:39,840 Speaker 3: Yep, that's been a. 717 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:43,800 Speaker 1: Funny rose they truly have have. 718 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:48,000 Speaker 2: But also one of the most special things is sisterhood. 719 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:51,720 Speaker 2: Taylor and I have been so close through majority of 720 00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:53,640 Speaker 2: our lives. Once we got through our phase of a 721 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 2: lot of nails and clawing at each other in fights 722 00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:58,320 Speaker 2: that we used to have, I would. 723 00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 3: Say, like elementary school, probably. I don't think we were 724 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:04,880 Speaker 3: in elementary school when you push me in the shower. Yeah, 725 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:06,680 Speaker 3: that was a low point. We don't need to talk 726 00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 3: about that. No, that's a funny story. 727 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,720 Speaker 2: So this tells me anything about sisters, is that Taylor 728 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:13,360 Speaker 2: and I were in a fight, probably about the fact 729 00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:14,840 Speaker 2: that I still were close because I did that. 730 00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:16,920 Speaker 3: Often, probably, and then lining about it. 731 00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then I'd be like, I don't have that, 732 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,080 Speaker 2: and it'd be in my closet somewhere. But we were 733 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,760 Speaker 2: in a fight, and we were in the bathroom, and 734 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:26,239 Speaker 2: it wasn't like a WD we push, but she did 735 00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:28,160 Speaker 2: push me enough that I fell into the shower and 736 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,200 Speaker 2: the whole curtain came down with me, and you just 737 00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,800 Speaker 2: hear our dad, yell Or, Helene, Nicole, Taylor, Lee, Elizabeth 738 00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 2: and government names. 739 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:37,479 Speaker 3: We knew we were in trouble. 740 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 2: So Taylor offers her hand, pulls me out of the thing, 741 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,480 Speaker 2: and we collectively put the curtain back up. 742 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,280 Speaker 3: And our dad walks in. He goes what just happened? 743 00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,240 Speaker 2: But within two minutes before my dad came in, Taylor 744 00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,800 Speaker 2: looks at me and says, that did not happen. Do 745 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,720 Speaker 2: not tell Dad anything. And I, after just being pushed, 746 00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,040 Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, Taylor, that's fine. I won't say anything. 747 00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,640 Speaker 3: So Dad box in, He's like, what just happened? Nothing? 748 00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 3: Nothing at all? And I listened to my older sister 749 00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:08,240 Speaker 3: after that, we just bumped into it. Nothing happened. Is 750 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,040 Speaker 3: that how you remember that story? It was something like that, 751 00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:12,120 Speaker 3: something like that. 752 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,560 Speaker 1: But one thing like with you, you would grow your 753 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:18,360 Speaker 1: nails out, like as long as they could be, like 754 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,720 Speaker 1: to the point where I'm like, somebody please cut those. 755 00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:23,800 Speaker 1: She You would think she did it to make them 756 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,479 Speaker 1: look pretty. You didn't make You didn't do that. You 757 00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 1: did them so you could claw me. 758 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 2: There were defense mechanisms if you wanted to, But now 759 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:34,920 Speaker 2: like who has claws? 760 00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,080 Speaker 3: And luck? Who does. It always has pretty claus I 761 00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 3: have none. I don't use them as clause though I 762 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,080 Speaker 3: don't either, not anymore. That was just a tactic. You 763 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 3: had to get what you could get when you were 764 00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:47,760 Speaker 3: the youngest in the family. Yeah, pulling hair. 765 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think back on that and it's crazy because 766 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 1: you I look back and I'm like, there were periods 767 00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,640 Speaker 1: where we did not like each other, but we loved 768 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 1: each other. It is one of those things where I 769 00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,000 Speaker 1: love you, but I do not like you right now. 770 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,040 Speaker 1: And we definitely went through that phase. 771 00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:02,760 Speaker 3: Just says. 772 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:05,880 Speaker 1: We're twenty two months apart, so we're pretty close in 773 00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:09,520 Speaker 1: age two years and a great age gap honestly, because 774 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:11,200 Speaker 1: we weren't super close to where we had all the 775 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,120 Speaker 1: same friends, but close enough. 776 00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:13,960 Speaker 3: Were crossover. 777 00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, not quiet enough, but like close enough where we 778 00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 1: still went to school together and we're still on same teams, 779 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,440 Speaker 1: we got to be in college together. Things like that 780 00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:24,879 Speaker 1: I'm so thankful for. But yeah, we definitely went through 781 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,960 Speaker 1: a period of not the best of friends. But then 782 00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,680 Speaker 1: I feel like once high school hit, it. 783 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,480 Speaker 2: Was really about when you went to college was I 784 00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,960 Speaker 2: think the realization for both of us that was like, oh, 785 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 2: that's my sister, and I want her here now that 786 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:40,399 Speaker 2: she's gone. I don't want her to be gone, right, 787 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,960 Speaker 2: for sure, so much just because we were again, you 788 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,440 Speaker 2: go through all the same things, and you're two teenage girls. 789 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 2: There's a lot happening there in general. But then it 790 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,719 Speaker 2: was like when my sister was gone, I was just 791 00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:54,040 Speaker 2: sad because that was my best friend, even still through 792 00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,839 Speaker 2: the fighting, Like we were still best friends, right, but 793 00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,880 Speaker 2: you just that's kind of the relationship of siblings. 794 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,439 Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, when you went to college, everything changed. 795 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,440 Speaker 2: I feel like that's when our relationship exponentially came closer 796 00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:07,279 Speaker 2: because I'd go out and visit her when she was 797 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,520 Speaker 2: at college. And then when I went out to college 798 00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:11,479 Speaker 2: joining the same sorority that she did. 799 00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,040 Speaker 3: Most people would be like, wouldn't you want to do 800 00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:13,720 Speaker 3: something different? 801 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,919 Speaker 2: Nope, right where Taylor was, we were in the same 802 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,920 Speaker 2: sorority together. And then yeah, even moving to Nashville was 803 00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:23,320 Speaker 2: really hard. I took that pretty hard, so to Taylor. 804 00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:24,840 Speaker 2: So for sure, and still do. 805 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,120 Speaker 3: There's still moments where she's going to move back yet 806 00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 3: or yeah, I have a baby waiting for me to 807 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,719 Speaker 3: be the living take care of them. Let's go. So 808 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,160 Speaker 3: thank goodness, her FaceTime, but it's still not the same. 809 00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 3: It's still hard, no, and I'm still trying to get 810 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:40,279 Speaker 3: everybody to move here. 811 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:42,239 Speaker 2: I've been working on that for a while. I think 812 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,280 Speaker 2: I've at least convinced her husband. 813 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,560 Speaker 3: You would do it hard, you would move party. We 814 00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:48,160 Speaker 3: have him. 815 00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,920 Speaker 2: But yeah, it's such a special thing. Sisterhood is something 816 00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,160 Speaker 2: that I'm very lucky to have. It's something I know 817 00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:55,200 Speaker 2: that you also. 818 00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:59,280 Speaker 3: Sisterhood or sibling hood. I guess you hope for Collins 819 00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,359 Speaker 3: one day. It was part of your guys's plan. 820 00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:06,000 Speaker 2: So it's I feel really lucky and very just honored 821 00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,640 Speaker 2: that you're the person that gets to be a part 822 00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:09,480 Speaker 2: of my life. We don't get to choose him, but 823 00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,880 Speaker 2: like this is going to ask for anything more than this. Yeah, 824 00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:15,640 Speaker 2: and getting to be collinsant is the new fun thing. 825 00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,279 Speaker 2: We get to share a middle name. Why did you 826 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 2: guys choose to do that middle name? 827 00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:23,040 Speaker 3: We just loved it, truly, Like it was first we 828 00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:25,520 Speaker 3: had looked at doing my name Lee and it just 829 00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:26,560 Speaker 3: didn't go as well. 830 00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 1: And it was like, well, Morgan's middle name is Lane, 831 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 1: and we both like we really like Lane, and like, 832 00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,000 Speaker 1: how cool is it that she gets to share a 833 00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,520 Speaker 1: middle name with her aunt, like a family name, so 834 00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:40,680 Speaker 1: because her first name is not a family name, so 835 00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:42,919 Speaker 1: it was like, how do we bring a family name 836 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:44,960 Speaker 1: into this, and it just it worked out. 837 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:47,759 Speaker 3: So it is funny how that's become kind of the 838 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:49,320 Speaker 3: family name. Yea or Dad. 839 00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:53,520 Speaker 2: He has all girls, he has not become the family name. 840 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,759 Speaker 2: So that's because most of the girls are continuing. 841 00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,640 Speaker 3: So we're working on that. But Lane has turned into it. 842 00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,120 Speaker 2: And I love that I get to share a name 843 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:05,719 Speaker 2: with her, and she's so special and I'm excited to 844 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,520 Speaker 2: keep watching you and Seth as parents because it's fun. 845 00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,640 Speaker 3: You guys were meant to do this, clearly. Thanks. 846 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,239 Speaker 2: It's cool to be a part of something when two 847 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 2: people really wanted this life so much and now you 848 00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:19,400 Speaker 2: guys have it, and that's a cool thing to witness. 849 00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:19,839 Speaker 3: It is. 850 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so fun to look back on how much 851 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,759 Speaker 1: has changed in a year and something that you pray for. 852 00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:27,799 Speaker 1: We are here at this time last year and it 853 00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:29,759 Speaker 1: was something we were praying about and now we're here 854 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:31,279 Speaker 1: with her, and how cool is that? 855 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:35,600 Speaker 3: So a lot can change in a year. A lot. 856 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:38,600 Speaker 2: Any advice is what we always in the podcast on 857 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,320 Speaker 2: is either a piece of advice or inspiration or motivation 858 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,680 Speaker 2: or just anything that's on your heart to share it. 859 00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,040 Speaker 3: I would say, once you become mom, you just trust 860 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,240 Speaker 3: your mom. Gut, you trust your mom. 861 00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,319 Speaker 1: And steeks sand you let those take over and do 862 00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:53,799 Speaker 1: what's best for you and your baby and blur out 863 00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:58,200 Speaker 1: all the rest because everyone has an opinion, everyone has advice, 864 00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,400 Speaker 1: and take it with a grain of salt and just 865 00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:03,880 Speaker 1: do what's best for you. Because if you get bogged 866 00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:07,239 Speaker 1: down by all of that, it's overwhelming and it can 867 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:10,560 Speaker 1: be hard to navigate through all of that, and you 868 00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:12,920 Speaker 1: wonder you know what's right and what's wrong, and the 869 00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,040 Speaker 1: truth is like it's probably somewhere in the middle, so. 870 00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,000 Speaker 3: That gray areas where everything tends to be for sure. 871 00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:20,040 Speaker 3: So we'll tay. 872 00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 2: Thanks for sharing everything, Thanks for coming on our first 873 00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:23,520 Speaker 2: Sister episode. 874 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,279 Speaker 3: I love you. I have a feeling there'll be more. 875 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:26,040 Speaker 3: I love you too. 876 00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:28,680 Speaker 2: We love all the new mamas and dads out there 877 00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,480 Speaker 2: just doing their best to be the best parents they 878 00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:32,279 Speaker 2: can be for their kiddos. Shout out to all of 879 00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:34,719 Speaker 2: you guys. There will be a new episode next week 880 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:36,520 Speaker 2: before we find our way into the new year. It's 881 00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:38,479 Speaker 2: another one for the New Moms and Dads with Nurse 882 00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,400 Speaker 2: Michelle Pool, so don't miss it. Subscribe to the podcast 883 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,520 Speaker 2: if you're listening, that's a huge help, and follow the 884 00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:46,600 Speaker 2: podcast on Instagram at take this personally, those are the. 885 00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:48,879 Speaker 3: Best Christmas gifts so you could give me. I love 886 00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,840 Speaker 3: you all so much. Have a merry Christmas and happy Holidays. 887 00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:53,120 Speaker 3: Thanks for spending your year with me.