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Speaker 1: this visual, ja, I got that pitch. I'm gonna find

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Speaker 1: Incent subject man problems. Dear Steve, I'm a thirty eight

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Speaker 1: guess none of that really matters when it comes to love.

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Speaker 1: My problem is I know this guy who wants to

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Speaker 1: get back with me. We were together a long time ago.

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Speaker 1: We attend the same church and have the same friends.

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Speaker 1: My friends keep telling me that I should give the

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Speaker 1: brother a chance. Now, Steve, he doesn't have a car,

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Speaker 1: nor a place to call his own. He is forty

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Speaker 1: years old, no steady job because of health problems, health issues.

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Speaker 1: He will work. I do love him, but Steve, I

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Speaker 1: want someone who can bring me something to the table.

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Speaker 1: Who can bring something to the table. I know love

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Speaker 1: is important, but Steve, a little security will help a

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Speaker 1: little bit more. What do you think I need to do?

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Speaker 1: Marriage is a serious step, and I've got to be sure.

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Speaker 1: Prayer is the only way I know. I just wanted

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Speaker 1: to get a male point of view. Okay, I'm a female,

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Speaker 1: but you don't care what I got to say. But anyway,

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Speaker 1: I say, this man problems. You're a successful lady, you've

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Speaker 1: got three degrees, your own, your own home and all that.

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Speaker 1: You say that doesn't matter when it comes to love,

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Speaker 1: But I say, yeah, it does matter, and it matters

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Speaker 1: big to you because you put it in your letter.

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Speaker 1: These are great accomplishments, great accomplishments, so it should matter

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Speaker 1: to you. Um, you've worked hard, you're highly educated, your homeowner.

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Speaker 1: going on like that, So why would you want to

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Speaker 1: set yourself up to fail. This man doesn't have a

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Speaker 1: place of his own, you say, doesn't have a car

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Speaker 1: or a steady job. The things bother you. He's not

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Speaker 1: ready for a relationship. I can tell you that right now,

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Speaker 1: because he's got too many issues to work out. What

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Speaker 1: real man. You said he will work, so help him

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Speaker 1: with his resume, you know, help him with his health,

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Speaker 1: health problems and stuff. But don't marry him. Don't get

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Speaker 1: into a relationship with him right now, and tell your

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Speaker 1: friends to pull up on this one. She in the relationship,

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Speaker 1: She in love with him, she's got three degrees, she

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Speaker 1: can find some matter, need a letter. She in love

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Speaker 1: with him man, and she's considering it. Yeah, are you

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Speaker 1: consider going? Alright? But somebody and not being this is

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Speaker 1: an accident? Is this letter about you? Tod? You write this?

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Speaker 1: I wrote no letter, that's true? Right, all right, we'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response to today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to Steve? All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: get to part two of your response to today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: What you got, Dear Steve? Subject man problems. Dear Steve,

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Speaker 1: Now this is directly to me. I am a thirty

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Speaker 1: I guess none of that really matters when it comes

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Speaker 1: to love. My problem is I know this guy who

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Speaker 1: long time ago, we attend the same church and have

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Speaker 1: the same friends. Just wanted to get a male point

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Speaker 1: of view. Well, here's a couple of things. Need to

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Speaker 1: dress first. Prayer is the only way I know other

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Speaker 1: than righting in on the national radio shows. You should

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Speaker 1: put that in preventhices, because that's what you did. Now,

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Speaker 1: so maybe you out the way nonn answer from God.

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Speaker 1: So I maybe then here come Maybe this could be both.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm gonna try to help this woman.

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Speaker 1: First of all, this woman has a number of degrees,

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Speaker 1: got her own home and car. But then she clearly

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Speaker 1: when it comes to love. No, it don't, cause love

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Speaker 1: is an emotion. Ain't got nothing to do with your education,

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Speaker 1: how much you got, where you stay. Love just pop

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Speaker 1: up at any time and it's hard to control. Now, Steve,

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Speaker 1: his own. He is forty years old, all right. Now,

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Speaker 1: Cabs is everywhere, subways, public transportation. This ain't a New

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Speaker 1: York letter. This letter from somewhere else. Now, your man

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Speaker 1: ain't got no car. That's a problem. He doesn't have

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Speaker 1: to call his own. This woman is in the novel

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Speaker 1: righting mode. Now, this ain't how you're right about no

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Speaker 1: which is what a lot of women end up doing.

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Speaker 1: You end up bending around to your natural nurturing needs

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Speaker 1: as women and mothers, and that nurturing thing y'all do.

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Speaker 1: And now y'all want to nurture a grown ass man

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Speaker 1: nor a place to call his own? To hell, you mean,

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Speaker 1: nor a place to call He ain't got no crill.

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Speaker 1: He ain't got no house. How you gonna have a house.

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Speaker 1: He ain't got a car. I can tell you a

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Speaker 1: Something is wrong here, and the reason is you ain't

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Speaker 1: got a steady job. No, And she go right after that,

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Speaker 1: no steady job because of health issues. He will work, okay, lady,

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Speaker 1: hold on now, if he will work, how come it

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Speaker 1: ain't working? He's sick? What what health issues you're talking about? Now?

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Speaker 1: Either he got a bad back or his kidnen is

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Speaker 1: his shot? What you one? Is it? Okay? But I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying, if you got a bad back. Your ask

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Speaker 1: how so, now let's really find out what we're talking

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Speaker 1: about here his health issues? What health issues that causes

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Speaker 1: you where you can't work? He ain't got no steady job,

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Speaker 1: but he will work. If he'll work, he'll go down there.

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Speaker 1: But hold up, though, when you ain't got no car,

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Speaker 1: ain't working you've been doing for or why on the reel? Okay,

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Speaker 1: but now here we go. But Steve, I do love him,

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Speaker 1: but I want someone who can bring something to the table.

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Speaker 1: Of course you do. Every woman wants that your table full.

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Speaker 1: You got degrees on your own car and your home.

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Speaker 1: Now you fin this mood? This dude in here, get

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Speaker 1: somebody in to take care. I'm get it out, I say,

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Speaker 1: get a dog. Not now look here, look here. I

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Speaker 1: know love is important, but Steve, a little security will

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Speaker 1: help a little bit more. Yeah, we'll see. Uh, what

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Speaker 1: what do you think I do? I do love him? No, no, no, no, lady,

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Speaker 1: you love who he is but you don't love what

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Speaker 1: he is, and women get that confused sometimes. If you

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Speaker 1: love who he is, but you don't love what he

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Speaker 1: is to what he is, is gonna get in the

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Speaker 1: way who he is all the time. Women do that

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Speaker 1: all the time. You're nurturing, and I can get him through.

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Speaker 1: When you came, listen to me before I run out

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Speaker 1: of time. You no matter what you do, you cannot

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Speaker 1: make email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at my Girl Shirley, and don't forget to

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