WEBVTT - Try a virtual lunch

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to have virtual lunches without of town friends

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<v Speaker 1>and family. A virtual lunch is a great way to

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<v Speaker 1>stay connected without adding any complexity to your schedule. It

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<v Speaker 1>will create an energizing change of focus during a busy

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<v Speaker 1>work day after way too much virtual everything. During twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty and twenty twenty one, many people were ready to

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<v Speaker 1>ditch zoom for personal get togethers and when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to meaningful connection with the people we love. Nothing beats

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<v Speaker 1>meeting face to face, but when locations and schedules make

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<v Speaker 1>in person get togethers few and far between, virtual get

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<v Speaker 1>togethers can be a great alternative. Virtual lunches, in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>are an excellent option for starters. You can build someone

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<v Speaker 1>you don't see all that much into your regular rotation.

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<v Speaker 1>A college friend who lives across the country you can

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<v Speaker 1>have lunch once or twice a month. A dear elderly

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<v Speaker 1>aunt who is mostly housebound. You are seeing her on

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<v Speaker 1>an average Tuesday. As we all know from pandemic times,

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<v Speaker 1>seeing someone on a computer screen is not quite the

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<v Speaker 1>same as in person but it's not terrible either. Our

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<v Speaker 1>brains don't really distinguish between the two all that well,

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<v Speaker 1>so you will get some of that sense of close

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<v Speaker 1>interaction even if you aren't actually in the same place.

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<v Speaker 1>Another benefit as that you are getting the socialization of lunch,

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<v Speaker 1>likely without the extra time or money costs. You can

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<v Speaker 1>brown bag your lunch or just eat luftovers at home,

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<v Speaker 1>but still make the lunch feel special and as anyone

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<v Speaker 1>with a short lunch break knows, going to a restaurant,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if you have to drive and park and waiting

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<v Speaker 1>for your food and waiting for your check, can eat

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<v Speaker 1>up a lot of time, which means you might not

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<v Speaker 1>do such things regularly. But even if you only get

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<v Speaker 1>thirty to forty five minutes for lunch, you can be

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<v Speaker 1>social virtually, even on busy work days. An added bonus

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<v Speaker 1>is that catching up with a friend or relative over

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<v Speaker 1>lunch provides a great change of pace. You are going

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<v Speaker 1>to stop working to eat at some point, so you

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<v Speaker 1>may as well do something that will add to your

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<v Speaker 1>energy levels. So pick a d eight a time and

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<v Speaker 1>a platform, perhaps FaceTime or Zoom or anything like that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then protect the time just as you would for

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<v Speaker 1>an in person lunch. When the time comes, grab your

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<v Speaker 1>brown bag lunch and close your office door, or find

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<v Speaker 1>a quiet corner of your building, or just sit in

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<v Speaker 1>your car and settle in for a good chat. As

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<v Speaker 1>with an in person gathering. If you enjoy your virtual lunch,

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<v Speaker 1>you should aim to make it a recurring event. Find

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<v Speaker 1>a time that generally works for you and your lunch body,

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<v Speaker 1>and get it on both your calendars. Perhaps the second

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<v Speaker 1>Thursday of the month at twelve thirty Eastern. You know

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<v Speaker 1>you and your college roommate will FaceTime. No tedious correspondence.

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<v Speaker 1>To find a time that works, You just choose a

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<v Speaker 1>recurring time once and then schedule around it. Of course,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you will have to adjust it, but if that

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<v Speaker 1>monthly call at a particular time is your default, it

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<v Speaker 1>will happen more often than not. As friendship expert Shasta

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<v Speaker 1>Nelson reminds us, frequency is fundamental to relationships. When you

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<v Speaker 1>talk with your virtual lunch buddies regularly, you will find

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<v Speaker 1>yourself getting closer. You'll know the basics of what is

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<v Speaker 1>going on in each other's lives, so you can talk

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<v Speaker 1>more about how you are feeling or questions you're grappling

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<v Speaker 1>with book or movie or recipe recommendations, and the myriad

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<v Speaker 1>deep and light things you talk about with people you

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<v Speaker 1>see often. You won't have to remind them of your

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<v Speaker 1>partner's name and your kids ages, or your boss's difficult quirks.

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<v Speaker 1>They know all of that already, so you can launch

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<v Speaker 1>right in to whatever is on your mind. Virtual lunches

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<v Speaker 1>are a great way to add connection to your days

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<v Speaker 1>without having to give up work time or family time,

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<v Speaker 1>and without having to spend time in transit. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to deepen your relationships with loved ones far

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<v Speaker 1>and near this year, consider whether virtual lunches might work

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<v Speaker 1>for you. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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