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Speaker 1: First Date is follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Rachel is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Zaye.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: I feels else why he's ghostinger, and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: a second date if she still wants one. But first, Rachel,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Zay?

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Speaker 3: It's been five days since I heard from Zay.

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Speaker 1: Okay, because we're not counting or anything, right, Oh no,

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Speaker 1: we're definitely not kidding.

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Speaker 2: Now, Okay, how have you tried to reach out to it?

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Speaker 3: I have, and like, you know, I heard from him

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Speaker 3: like right after our date, like that night, and like

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Speaker 3: everything seemed chill, and then I heard nothing after that.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, And like he even posted some stuff on

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Speaker 3: his like is the story about the we went to

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Speaker 3: a concert? And you know he also actually like posted

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Speaker 3: it in his grid and stuff like that, and people

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Speaker 3: who have commented on it, he's responded to them there.

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Speaker 3: So I guess if you can respond on Instagram, why

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Speaker 3: can't you respond to your day? Yeah? So that's like

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Speaker 3: me the big like, uh, oh, what's going.

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Speaker 2: On, dude, all right, tell us about the date and.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we like met at this venue in and

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Speaker 3: it was this total dive bar like vibes. It was

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Speaker 3: very tounk energy, like we had message on and off

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Speaker 3: about the band that we both happened to like have

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Speaker 3: tickets to this underground indie group thing like so it

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Speaker 3: was just perfect. It was like, you know, a thing

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Speaker 3: that we're both into, you know, and like it was

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Speaker 3: a blast. We were in the front row. We were

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Speaker 3: like both super sweating and dancing and screaming the lyrics,

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Speaker 3: like he actually knew all the lyrics, like so he

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Speaker 3: wasn't a poser, you know what I mean. And it

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Speaker 3: just felt like we were teams again, like you know,

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Speaker 3: he told me close during this one like slow build song,

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Speaker 3: and like we made out hard in the front row,

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Speaker 3: no shame, like teenagers. Like it was so good. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: like you know, like it got a little handsy, but

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Speaker 3: like I'm not gonna lie, like it felt like natural

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Speaker 3: and like in the moment, it wasn't anything like sleepy,

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Speaker 3: so he wasn't like there were no bad vibes or

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Speaker 3: like red flags like the night of the day, you know,

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Speaker 3: mm hm.

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Speaker 2: Did you guys do anything after the concert?

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Speaker 3: I mean, we didn't do anything like after the concert,

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Speaker 3: you know, like we were outside and like talk and

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Speaker 3: stuff a bit, but like you know, we didn't. We

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Speaker 3: didn't go to like you know, like to take a

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Speaker 3: coffee or something afterwards. It was just a concert. We

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Speaker 3: were staying up pretty late.

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Speaker 2: You know, Okay, it was okay, you know, we.

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Speaker 3: Felt like seeing at that point, it was like I'm try, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Is there anything that happened then during the concert or

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Speaker 1: any point that may have been why he's gone?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, Like it felt so real and like honestly,

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Speaker 3: like so many guys pretend to like live music and stuff,

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Speaker 3: but like Zain actually knew this stuff, like I said,

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Speaker 3: like he was scream singing the lyrics and he knew

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Speaker 3: He was like actually into it like I am. So

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it felt real, Like there are definitely

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Speaker 3: some guys who like you know, again, I guess they're

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Speaker 3: just posers who like try to be like, oh yeah

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Speaker 3: I love pop punk still.

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Speaker 2: Right, Okay, Well, why do you think he's ghosting you?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, Like so like maybe like when we

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Speaker 3: were outside, like it was freezing, so I asked him

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Speaker 3: a real gentleman would have offered it to me by now,

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Speaker 3: and like we both laughed and like then he gave

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Speaker 3: he said, like, oh, you didn't give me a chance

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Speaker 3: like laugh and walked away. So it seemed very like oh,

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Speaker 3: like I don't know, it was flirty, but like weird

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Speaker 3: maybe like maybe I offended him by asking for his jacket.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it's weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be a strange reason to go somebody,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And like and he gave me the jacket, like

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Speaker 3: I really offended him. I don't think, like I have

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Speaker 3: like he's letting me wear his jacket and I'll give

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Speaker 3: it to him, like back to him on the second date.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he just felt weird that you got to it first,

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Speaker 1: because you know, dudes can be like that, like if

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Speaker 1: it's not their idea or if they're not the ones

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Speaker 2: I mean, which again it would be a stupid.

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Speaker 3: Reason, but just you know, especially because I have his

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Speaker 3: jacket like I have it. Yeah, don't go see if

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Speaker 3: you want your clothes back?

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Speaker 2: All right, well we'll see if that is the reason.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay, all right,

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Speaker 2: we'll get your first day follow up next. If you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us for today's first Day follow up. Rachel

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Speaker 2: is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a

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Speaker 2: guy named Zaine. So in a second we're going to

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Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghostinger and maybe get her a second date if she

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Speaker 2: still wants one. But before we do that, Rachel, why

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Speaker 2: don't you break down your situation with Zaane real quick?

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Speaker 3: First date when and thought some live music, made out

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Speaker 3: in the front left row, like we're teenagers, had a

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Speaker 3: great time. He maybe I upset him because I said, hey,

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Speaker 3: a gentleman would have offered his jacket by this point

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Speaker 3: when we went outside and it was cold. Maybe you

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Speaker 3: took it the wrong way. I still have his jacket.

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard from him in five days, but he

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Speaker 3: is responding to comments on his coach from the concert.

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Speaker 3: So so yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: You ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 4: I am okay, here we go, okay, hell hi man,

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Speaker 4: I speak to sayin please.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, where's going?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Zane? How are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jewbel Show. Hi, Imina. Hi, I'm Victoria

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Speaker 2: and my name is Jewbel. What's going on?

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh cool? Hey, thank you man. I appreciate it. Well,

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Speaker 2: we're calling you today because somebody wanted us to call you.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know if you how much you listen

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Speaker 2: to the show, But we do a segment called the

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Speaker 2: First Dight follow Up. That's where if you go out

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Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and then you go some

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Speaker 2: that person can email us to get you on the

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Speaker 2: phone and ask why you're ghosting. Oh yeah, yes, it

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Speaker 2: is about Rachel. Yeah, do you have a second ty're

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Speaker 2: ghosting her? Man?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: God, okay, uh, Like I mean she's super cool, like fun,

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Speaker 5: but there's palace. It's like it's just like this thing.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 5: Uh, she's got this she's got this nose ring and

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Speaker 5: it's like this this like giant hoop, right, and it's

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Speaker 5: Like once we got outside and like I couldn't take

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Speaker 2: Oh no, so like you kissed her and stuff though.

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Speaker 5: Right, yeah, no, for sure. I mean, like you know,

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Speaker 5: we were in the heat of the moment in the

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Speaker 5: You know, all felt really good at the moment, but

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Speaker 5: Like I could not stop looking at it, Like I

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Speaker 2: It was bad. Oh no, then that's the reason just that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I just.

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Speaker 5: Like I just like could not stop looking at it.

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Speaker 2: It was not what if she took it out? Can

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Speaker 5: I mean I don't know. I mean it feels like

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Speaker 5: I don't know, man, just like kind of like put

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Speaker 5: I just was not feeling it.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, thank you for telling us. Appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of know how big this nosering is. Hey, Rachel,

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Speaker 2: how big is your nose ring?

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Speaker 3: A windshine for space.

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Speaker 2: That Rachel, She's been listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: No, okay, I did not realize you were on there too, Okay, Oh.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I like aesthetic takedown. So you're ghosting me because

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Speaker 3: of my style with my like average size nose ring,

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Speaker 5: You're look okay, like I'm not trying to be a

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Speaker 5: jerk or anything. It's just not for me, all right,

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Speaker 5: you know, it's just not a mess of good.

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Speaker 3: You made out with me like you were going to propose,

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Speaker 3: and then you disappeared because my jewelry wasn't minimal enough

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Speaker 3: for your sensitive indie eyes.

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Speaker 5: Come on, like that's kind of funny, but like it's

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Speaker 5: not personal, right, I just like I couldn't unsee it,

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Speaker 5: like the thing just saw like it had like a

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Speaker 3: His name is Gerald, he swings my laugh, and you

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Speaker 3: would have been great friends. Okay, Okay, that's got it

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Speaker 3: actually okay, Like you're such a poser, like you're acting

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Speaker 3: like you're into punk shows, but you can't handle a

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Speaker 5: I am Bobby. Clearly I did a puncture though, right, Like,

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Speaker 5: I mean, I just don't want to date the merch table, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, and I don't want to date a suit who

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Speaker 3: stakes his way through life.

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Speaker 5: What are you talking about? Don't make any sense.

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Speaker 3: Listen.

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Speaker 6: I'm going to keep your jacket vein. You don't deserve it.

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Speaker 6: It's too cool for you.

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Speaker 3: You know what.

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Speaker 5: You can keep the jacket because I don't really ever

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Speaker 5: want to see that thing again.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, another date with Rachel won't pay for it.

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Speaker 5: No, No, that's gonna be a hard pass for you guys.

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Speaker 3: Oh cool. You know Gerald feels the same way and

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Speaker 3: he doesn't want to see you again. So yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: with Gerald. We don't want to see you again. We

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Speaker 3: don't need this date.

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Speaker 5: Cool. I got a guy who named you, named your

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Speaker 5: nose ring Gerald Ki. Well, I'm gonna let you guys

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Speaker 5: have a happy life together. And you know what, you

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Speaker 5: can keep the jacket, you know, I don't. I don't

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Speaker 5: ever need to wear that thing again.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I'm sure you have a ton more in

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Speaker 3: your closet because you're such a fake poser and you

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Speaker 3: just have them there to like, try and be cool

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Speaker 3: and recapture your youth. Bro ju Wile's first date fall

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Speaker 3: up