WEBVTT - Checking In w/ Your Thanksgiving Menu 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.000 Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:22.320 iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. Good Day, everybody, Welcome to 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:27.880 another episode of Checking In. Today's episode will be about 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:31.880 why we didn't have a new episode last week, and 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:36.560 also we are going to talk all things Thanksgiving, So 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:46.720 stay tuned. Hey, Hey, Hey, how y'all doing. What's been 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:51.600 going on? Y'all? Tell me what has been going on? 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:57.440 From my end, There's been a lot going on, heartbreaking 0:00:57.560 --> 0:01:02.520 things that I believe we are all seen on the news, 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:06.800 probably heartbreaking things that you're seeing in your just your 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:12.040 local news, your regional news, the news of the state 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:16.080 you live in. We're seeing news about things that are 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:19.880 happening just in the country we live in, and also 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:23.640 things about the entire world that we live in, so 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:27.800 things that are maybe not happening in America, but things 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:32.040 that are happening outside the United States as well. And 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:35.840 I know what my specific job is to do. In 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:38.399 moments like this when you don't know what to do, 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:44.640 I sit in stillness. I sit in a lot of 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:50.600 prayer meditation just to get clarity on what I'm to do. 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:57.560 And sometimes people think that stillness is not enough, or 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:02.440 that even prayer is not a enough But there's been 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:04.760 so much going on that I'm aware of, and then 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:07.320 maybe things that you're not aware of, you know that 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:11.160 are taking place with so many people, some of you 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:14.119 know and some of you don't. And so I am 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:18.160 always I just feel a task to just to pray. 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:22.480 And I love to pray. I loved, I loved, and 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:27.880 so me saying that you are welcome to reach out 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:32.200 to me if you feel that you want me to 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:35.640 pray for a specific matter for you, or pray for 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:39.840 a person, a situation, a relationship, a job, opportunity, or 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:44.239 whatever it is. Yeah, I'd love to offer that to you. Okay, 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.560 no pressure, I'm not pushing anything on you, but just 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:51.720 know that your girl here loves you and don't want 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:56.359 you to feel that you are alone on your journey. 0:02:56.560 --> 0:03:00.440 All right, I'm here. You know. It took people being 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.560 here for me. It also took me being able to 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:06.920 take a step back in the stillness and look at 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.880 my own situation. It took me time to kind of 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.440 sit in the stillness and say, Okay, well, what do 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:15.440 I have the power to change? So I just want 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:18.880 to encourage you to definitely reach out to me or 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:22.359 your support system for however they can best support you. 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:28.240 But then don't get too overwhelmed when you have to 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:32.840 sit back and say, Okay, what can I do. I 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:37.080 was speaking with someone a few days ago who has 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:44.120 been battling depression really really, really really bad. And the 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:50.640 thing about depression is sometimes when you're in that state, 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:56.680 it will have you just looking at all the negative. 0:03:57.400 --> 0:04:01.760 You will sit in that bad on your sofa, in 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:06.160 a state of depression, even listening to the lies that 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:11.000 you tell yourself, listening to the lies that no one 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:15.960 has even said to you. And I was asking this 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:19.920 person what they needed for what was going on, and 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:24.039 they really couldn't tell me other than they felt that 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:29.360 people do not invest in them. And so of course 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:33.080 I just sat and listened to everything that they had 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:37.000 to say with an ear of compassionate, ear of empathy, 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:42.880 and I had to tell them, I said, well, look 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:48.080 at the ways people do invest in you. People only 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:53.440 invest in you to their capacity or ability. An investment 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:56.200 is someone picking up the phone to check on you 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:59.919 and see how you're doing. And investment is a tech 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:05.440 next to check on you, you know, and just be 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:08.920 careful if you have a specific need that you want 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:13.480 people to do, it's okay to tell them versus letting 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:16.680 that state of depression make you feel like no one 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.680 is investing in you. Because people can only invest in 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:23.080 you how they know to invest. And what I mean 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:26.280 by how they know to invest is based on what 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:31.200 you share with them. Now, sometimes people have a spirit 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:34.279 of discernment where God, where God can share something with 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.120 them and speak something to them that can show them 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:40.480 you're not telling me the whole story and you're going 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:43.560 through something because I do know when you're in a 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:47.159 state of depression or just any state, it's hard for 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:50.599 humans to ask people for help period. It's hard for 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:53.800 people to be vulnerable and say I'm having a rough time, 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.240 so let me get back to the investment portion. So 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.640 I was telling this person, if you want people to 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:03.159 invest you the way you want them to, then you 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:07.640 have to say that versus not letting yourself sit in 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:11.640 a moment of darkness because of what you haven't shared 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:15.400 or because of what people don't know. Also, I had 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:19.680 to share with this person. Is it investment that you 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:26.640 want people to make in you? Is it attention or entitlement? Again, 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:30.320 people can only do what they know or what they 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:36.520 have the capacity to do unless you share. Hey, this 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:40.560 is what I need from you. Okay, does that make sense? 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:45.400 I've been there. I've been there, honey. When I tell you, 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:51.440 I know, I know. But I also know that the 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:56.000 world did not stop for me while I was in 0:06:56.040 --> 0:07:01.280 that state. So I had to give myself grace, and 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:06.160 I had to give others around me grace who might 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:09.320 have been ignorant to what I was going through or 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:12.360 who knew what I was going through, but they could 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:17.640 only help me to the ability and capacity that they have. 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:24.320 Does that make sense? All right? I just wanted to 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:28.880 share that I and I know the holidays can bring 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:34.000 on a lot of sadness and grief. This person like 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:37.880 it's the first year without somebody that passed away that 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:40.760 was really close to them, and so you know they're 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:44.440 dealing with that, you know, the birthday of that person's 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:47.800 it's a lot. I know it can be a lot. 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:53.120 So I'm just giving you a big old hug. Can 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:57.280 you hear me hugging you? Can you hear me? I 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.080 wish my boobs were just a little bigger, so you 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:03.040 can you know, you get a hug from somebody that's 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:07.120 got a real full volume chest and the hug just 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:12.440 be tight and just cushion me and pleasant. And you 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:14.920 know they mean that thing when they hug you real tight. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:19.280 So I'm giving you one of those hugs because I 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:23.560 want to let you know. I promise you, baby, it 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:29.360 gets so much better. And I urge you to when 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:34.000 you can, to a teach to a small investment in 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:39.560 yourself today and tomorrow. All right, to a small investment. 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:42.400 I told this person, I said, I said, what's your 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:47.160 bedroom looking like? They said a mess? And so I 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:51.920 just said, why don't you try, you know, organizing or 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:54.440 straightening up the top of your dresser because I know 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:59.640 mail is everywhere, I know pill bottles from your alment, 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:02.640 I know that's everything. Just kind of organize your dresser 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:05.120 and just stop there. I told them, you don't have 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:07.480 to try to clean up your entire master bedroom in 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:12.000 one day, but just start with organizing your dresser and 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:18.640 your nightstand. That's it, all right, I understand. I promise you. 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:21.920 You guys know that I've shared a couple times. You 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:26.120 know what my uncle had shared with me. Just taking 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:29.440 baby steps and doing what you can, and before you 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:36.760 know what, you're making a lot of progress. All right. 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:41.000 I did a trip to the Dominican Republic, to the 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:47.440 capitol in Santo Domingo with an organization called Compassion, and 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:55.080 it was a missions trip. And Compassion is an organization 0:09:55.400 --> 0:10:02.160 that invests into children. And I know you've seen a 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:10.280 lot of organizations on television that help feed children, on mothers, veterans, 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:16.760 you know, organizations that even service to supply safety and 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:21.560 refuge for animals as well. So this particular organization is 0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:27.240 called Compassion, and it was a time for people to 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:30.080 even go to get a chance to even visit the 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:36.680 children that they sponsor. And it was it was fulfilling 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:40.520 but heartbreaking at the same time, lovely but heartbreaking at 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:44.720 the same time because a lot of the children had 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:52.719 so much joy, their parents still having smiles on their faces. 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:58.280 And it was a joy to just be able to 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:03.360 put everything into perspective, the things that we complain about. 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:06.040 It's not to dismiss things that are going on in 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:10.439 your life, but I was like, yeah, there are certain 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:12.959 things that I might personally complain about that I might 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:16.120 need to put on the you know, just not even 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:21.280 complain about. So, yes, Compassion. We visited a lot of homes, 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:25.160 We visited a lot of the Compassion centers where the 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:29.280 children go for their snacks, some go for their schooling. 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:34.840 It was pretty pretty awesome. I am going to post 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:39.400 my pictures very soon. It's about twenty of us that 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:45.880 went and relationships were made. We all met up in 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:51.520 Palm Springs in May of this year and everyone agreed 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:56.640 to go to the Dominican Republic for this missions trip. 0:11:56.760 --> 0:12:02.800 And I just I have two little girls. One was 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:06.120 just so spunky and was just running and just had 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:11.840 so much joy. And one young girl. We were outside 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:14.560 playing and she just literally came and sat next to 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:18.400 me on the swings and we started swinging back and 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:22.520 forth and we began talking. Of course, I had to 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:26.680 use my translator on my phone to say certain words 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.560 or to even understand what she was saying. But she 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.319 was telling me that she wants to be a doctor, 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:37.360 and both young girls want to be a doctor. And 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:41.800 the fact that an adult who used to be sponsored 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:48.000 by Compassion, so Compassion is the vessel, and then we 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:52.440 are the people that actually pay money per month to 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:58.360 sponsor a child's food, schooling and their medical needs. And 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:03.440 one lady who used to be a Compassion child, she 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:08.120 is like one of the top neurosurgeons in the Dominican Republic, 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:14.040 and it was awesome to see her stand before us 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:20.079 to tell us how she lived. It was three people 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:23.959 we got to meet who are adults now, who said 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:30.319 it was the importance of their sponsors writing them. So 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:34.920 your child writes you, and then you're to write the 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:40.600 child back, because they said, we don't know how much 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:43.600 it means to them for them to get a letter 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:46.400 that says you can do anything you want to be. 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:52.960 Just know I love you, Just know I'm praying God's favor, 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:57.480 grace and protection over you. At means a lot to 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:01.520 that child, especially if they're growing up in a home 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:04.920 where heck it means it. That means a lot to 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:10.119 a child you know, anywhere, but specifically to these children 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:14.080 to hear out of their moms that it's a possibility 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:16.720 I would not be who I am if it wasn't 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:20.920 for my sponsor writing me back. Because there are some 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:24.520 children whose sponsors don't write them at all. And so 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:27.840 sometimes there are probably some of you that are listening 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:32.440 to me. You've sponsored children, you know, through these various organizations, 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:36.400 and you probably don't write them back when they write you. 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:40.600 But I'm here to let you know, like we got 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:44.120 to write our kids back when they send us a 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.880 letter to update us and let us know how they're doing. 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:52.760 So Compassion dot com. If you're able to do what 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:56.160 you can, and if you can't do anything with the 0:14:56.280 --> 0:15:05.000 organization called Compassion, do something your local community center, mentoring 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:10.280 mentor someone you know you want to talk about investing 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:14.600 in someone, investing in someone who who you know for 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:20.720 a fact doesn't have anybody investing in them. So it 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:26.720 was just it was amazing and Compassion. They they're they're worldwide, 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:31.320 you know, Nigeria, Gana, Sri Lanka, they are everywhere, and 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:37.920 my heart just just smiled at those babies. Some are teenagers, 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:41.600 they're in high school and you can sponsor a child 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:45.480 that's a few months old. They have a survivor program 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:49.360 where the mother gets all the care that she needs 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.080 and you can sponsor that child all the way up 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:57.240 until high school they graduate. You can make sure that 0:15:57.400 --> 0:16:00.960 they get what they need for college and beyond. And 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:03.440 it's so cool that these folks that are adults, like 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:07.880 the woman who's the neurosurgeon, she still keeps in touch 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:11.760 with her sponsors that live in Texas. She's a grown woman, 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:17.280 so sometimes they become family. If you have any questions 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:21.720 about it, please don't hesitate to ask me. It was awesome. 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:24.600 We didn't get to do a lot of like it 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:29.360 wasn't a trip for rest and relaxation, but we did 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:32.280 get to go into old town Santa Domingo. We went 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.560 to some restaurants that were really really yummy. But the 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:38.640 majority of the trip, ninety percent of the trip, you know, 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:43.280 was to visit those children, their schools, and they were 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:47.760 gracious enough to let us into their homes. Some of 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:50.920 the homes, I know, I didn't feel comfortable filming or 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:53.320 taking pictures of people to me in this some of 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:58.880 their most vulnerable places. Some definitely had concrete floors, but 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:04.520 maybe just a a tin roof, tin roof, some hat bed. 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:08.640 Some didn't. But the children that are sponsored through Compassion, 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:12.040 if you see a need, you are able to make 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:16.680 sure that your child they get a bed, they get shoes. 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:19.560 One of the two young girls that I sponsor, her 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.840 birthday is in February. And when I tell you, she 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:28.000 has already told me that she wants a dress. When 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:31.119 I met her, when I saw her running through the center, 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:34.000 she had on she was so swaggy. She had on 0:17:34.040 --> 0:17:38.919 this T shirt and this long, sweepy ivory colored dress. 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:43.720 I was like, I like that idea. And so she 0:17:43.840 --> 0:17:46.320 told me that she wants a dress. She told me 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.800 her favorite colors were purple, green, and white. I'm gonna 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:52.480 make sure that she gets three dresses. She's probably just 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:57.240 expecting one, but I'm gonna make sure she gets three dresses. Yeah, 0:17:57.280 --> 0:17:59.439 And so again I'll go back to we got to 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:04.639 visit their home. And one young girl is a teen mom. 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:08.959 And in certain cultures, once you begin to start your 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.440 own family, you no longer can live in the house 0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:15.719 that you grew up in your parents or grandparents. They say, okay, 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:17.360 you got to be on your own, you gotta go. 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:22.960 And so this young lady, her house was actually kind 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:27.000 of like next door to her grandmother's actual house, but 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:33.840 this young lady, it was just literally a makeshift type shack. 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:38.200 And I want us to hear that a teen mom. 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:41.800 The father is not in the picture because he did 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:45.040 not want her to have her child, and she had 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:48.919 the baby anyway. And so one of my colleagues that 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:53.560 were on the trip, she is helping to sponsor her baby, 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:59.040 and the mother she wants to work in accounting or finance. 0:18:59.400 --> 0:19:03.800 And I believe one day that young teen mom she's 0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:07.679 going to be working in a finance department somewhere. It 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:12.959 literally is about exposure, resources or someone saying, hey, I 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:15.320 see what you want to do. Let me help you 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:18.159 with those steps. And so it just reminded me. It 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:22.040 just invigorated me to come back home and make sure 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:25.320 that when I see a need to make sure that 0:19:25.400 --> 0:19:29.399 I can invest to my ability and my capacity. And 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:32.440 if I can't, and I know somebody that can, I'm 0:19:32.440 --> 0:19:34.520 not going to hesitate to pick up the phone and 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:40.320 call Okay. So that was the trip to the Dominican Republic. 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:43.360 It had the type of humidity that I loved. It 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:47.919 was hot, the sun was shining. I have been to 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:52.359 the Dominican Republic in years past, you know, just on 0:19:52.400 --> 0:19:56.200 a trip to you know, relax, you know, but this 0:19:56.440 --> 0:19:59.720 has a different meaning for me. And I can't wait 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:03.280 to go back to Santo Domingo. I can't wait to 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:14.840 go back. Also, this week is what we call Thanksgiving. 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:21.119 What are you doing for Thanksgiving? Some people call it Friendsgiving, 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:23.840 whatever you call it, what are you doing this week? 0:20:25.000 --> 0:20:32.240 I'm looking at all the ingredients on my counter for 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:35.240 the turkey. Y'all, I'm gonna attempt to do a corn 0:20:35.320 --> 0:20:38.359 bread dressing for the first time. I pray I know 0:20:38.400 --> 0:20:42.879 what I'm doing. Lord Lord help me. And of course 0:20:42.960 --> 0:20:46.560 banana putting my mac and cheese, my collar greens, they're 0:20:46.560 --> 0:20:52.720 off the chain. Yeah, and some other things. Now, I 0:20:52.840 --> 0:20:56.679 made a post on my thread's account and it happened 0:20:56.720 --> 0:21:00.320 to make the shave. I hate when that happens because 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:02.879 I feel like when I make a post on my 0:21:04.080 --> 0:21:07.480 pages that it's a safe space for me, because people 0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:11.840 know I rarely have to black people anymore, because I 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:15.000 think people know the culture of my page. Don't come 0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:17.879 to her page with mess So I'm thinking I'm in 0:21:17.920 --> 0:21:21.280 a safe space. And of course, you know, the Shade 0:21:21.359 --> 0:21:25.000 Room posted it, which is fine. The post said, I 0:21:25.000 --> 0:21:28.360 say this with love. Pecans don't go on real velvet cake. 0:21:29.200 --> 0:21:32.040 I get it. I know it's to make it look cute. 0:21:32.640 --> 0:21:36.000 I just want to just give me white spoof cream 0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:40.480 cheese frosted. Don't put no pecans. Pecans, however you pronounce it, 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:45.560 don't put it on there. Then I said, marshmallows don't 0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:50.040 go on the candy gams slash sweet potatoes, then some 0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:54.040 people are like, oh my god, with potatoes, sweet potato 0:21:54.080 --> 0:22:00.639 casse role. I want the sliced potatoes. Don't do no 0:22:00.960 --> 0:22:07.600 whipped the sweet potato casserolle. I don't want it. I 0:22:07.640 --> 0:22:12.119 don't want it, but I guess if it's like a 0:22:12.160 --> 0:22:17.240 casserole or the whipped sweet potatoes, marshmallows is acceptable, but 0:22:17.400 --> 0:22:21.399 don't put them on the sliced or dice candy. Don't 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:25.359 do that. I then said, chopped eggs don't go into 0:22:25.520 --> 0:22:31.080 corn bread dressing. For what, I have an aunt who 0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:34.399 does amazing corn bread dressing. I ain't never seen an 0:22:34.440 --> 0:22:39.919 egg white or an egg but I M M. I 0:22:39.920 --> 0:22:43.040 guess it ain't bad, but I'm not putting it in there. 0:22:43.160 --> 0:22:45.800 Then I said, don't put a lot of bananas in 0:22:45.840 --> 0:22:50.880 the banana pudding. I won't pudding in soft wafers. More 0:22:50.920 --> 0:22:53.840 than anything, I don't want a lot of bananas in 0:22:53.920 --> 0:22:56.160 the banana pudding. Don't come for me. I didn't send 0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:59.919 for you. Well maybe I did when I made that post. 0:23:00.480 --> 0:23:02.760 Then I said, eggs don't need to be in the 0:23:02.800 --> 0:23:07.200 macaroni and cheese. Years years and years years ago, probably 0:23:07.640 --> 0:23:11.960 thirty plus years ago, I was at a relative's home 0:23:12.040 --> 0:23:17.040 for Thanksgiving, and somebody bought some mac and cheese and 0:23:17.080 --> 0:23:19.959 it was a kind of mac and cheese where you 0:23:20.000 --> 0:23:24.439 didn't use a spoon, you like you sliced it. Like, 0:23:26.480 --> 0:23:30.800 why am I slicing in the macaroni and cheese? Why 0:23:32.160 --> 0:23:38.040 am I taking a spatela? It was too thick and 0:23:38.119 --> 0:23:42.359 too bound together. I wanted a little bit of a cream. 0:23:42.960 --> 0:23:47.120 I like creamy macaroni and cheese. Now I don't want 0:23:47.520 --> 0:23:54.159 macaroni and cheese soup, but I don't want macaroni and cheese. 0:23:54.240 --> 0:24:01.159 That it was like, y'all, and what I think the 0:24:01.400 --> 0:24:05.600 I think the eggs kind of scrambled itself a little bit. 0:24:06.480 --> 0:24:08.840 So I was reading in the comments today and somebody said, oh, 0:24:08.880 --> 0:24:12.600 because they didn't let the noodles, I guess cool down, 0:24:13.400 --> 0:24:16.119 because y'all, the macaroni and cheese started to look like 0:24:16.160 --> 0:24:20.800 a macaroni and cheese scramble, like a macaroni and cheese 0:24:21.480 --> 0:24:26.720 breakfast casse role. I don't want it. And then I said, 0:24:26.760 --> 0:24:31.040 did I miss anything else besides minding my business? So 0:24:31.920 --> 0:24:35.680 everybody's got something to say? Of course, because I did too. 0:24:36.200 --> 0:24:38.640 And then I read one comment. Then I stopped reading 0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:46.240 the comments because somebody made the lamest Destiny's Child reference. Y'all. 0:24:46.480 --> 0:24:49.040 I need. I need folks to come up with newer 0:24:49.119 --> 0:24:52.639 jokes on me besides the Destiny's Child jokes, because they're 0:24:52.680 --> 0:24:57.679 just as whack as their fight Coast score. Like I like, 0:24:57.960 --> 0:25:01.359 or argue with your fire cost score, not me. I don't, don't, 0:25:01.760 --> 0:25:05.320 don't do that. Don't do that. So it was starting 0:25:05.560 --> 0:25:08.040 to get It was fun at first, and then people 0:25:08.119 --> 0:25:10.560 just started going below the belt and getting personal and 0:25:10.640 --> 0:25:16.439 I was like, bro, why are you trinkered? Hmmm mm 0:25:17.040 --> 0:25:22.160 oh well, so I said what I said. Right, I'm 0:25:22.160 --> 0:25:29.359 gonna explain to you this turkey type of technique. It's 0:25:29.440 --> 0:25:36.919 called spatch cocking the turkey. So it's where you cut 0:25:36.960 --> 0:25:42.120 the spine and crack the breast and make it look 0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:48.000 like a oversized frog. It's pretty cool, and they say 0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:50.880 it cuts down on the cooking time of a turkey, 0:25:51.000 --> 0:25:55.920 so that's what I'm going to do. It says it 0:25:55.960 --> 0:26:02.159 makes the skin crispy, the juicy meat, and the turkey 0:26:02.200 --> 0:26:04.240 can be done in about an hour and a half 0:26:04.240 --> 0:26:11.400 two hours. Max always says, I gotta dry Brian the turkey. Ooh, 0:26:11.520 --> 0:26:14.280 let me how I dry Brian? The turkey. Y'all, we 0:26:14.320 --> 0:26:16.680 gotta figure out how to dry brian this turkey. It said, 0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:23.760 it's crucial in this recipe. Dry brian the turkey woo 0:26:25.160 --> 0:26:28.879 and compound butter. It imparts flavor under the skin, but 0:26:29.000 --> 0:26:32.600 perhaps more importantly, leaves us with the buttery herb drippings 0:26:32.880 --> 0:26:35.840 that can be used to moisten up the turkey prior 0:26:35.960 --> 0:26:47.439 to serving. Ooh, I'm real excited. Okay, so google spatch Cock. Okay, 0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:56.639 spatch cocking turkey. Okay, it's SPA t H coci n G. 0:26:58.560 --> 0:27:02.479 All right, get your adds out the gutter, thank you. 0:27:03.920 --> 0:27:11.919 So yeah, I'm excited about about this year. And even 0:27:11.960 --> 0:27:13.919 if you just want to chill this year and you 0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:16.720 don't want to do nothing, that's your business. You don't 0:27:16.760 --> 0:27:21.440 have to. Okay, I'm gonna try to chill. I've got 0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:25.359 some a couple more engagements this year. I'm excited about 0:27:25.359 --> 0:27:29.200 December twenty third and twenty fourth. I'll be at Gateway 0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:32.679 Church in Dallas on the twenty third and twenty fourth, 0:27:32.760 --> 0:27:35.960 three services on the twenty third, three services on the 0:27:36.000 --> 0:27:40.080 twenty fourth. You know, lots of churches do their cool 0:27:40.200 --> 0:27:46.720 Christmas programs, their candlelight programs and so I'm excited. I'm excited. 0:27:46.760 --> 0:27:49.320 I'm excited, and then I'm gonna go somewhere and sit down. 0:27:49.840 --> 0:27:52.960 But yeah, what else is going on? Oh, Beyonce's movie 0:27:53.040 --> 0:27:57.639 premiere in LA this weekend. That's gonna be amazing. I 0:27:57.720 --> 0:28:04.679 go to Dublin, Ireland, and I'm thankful. I'm thankful for 0:28:04.760 --> 0:28:09.680 my schedule, but I'm already anticipating the bed in each 0:28:09.760 --> 0:28:14.679 place that I gotta go to. So AnyWho, I just 0:28:14.680 --> 0:28:16.880 want to say that I love you. This year. I'm 0:28:16.920 --> 0:28:21.240 thankful for you. I'm thankful for your love to me. 0:28:21.960 --> 0:28:26.080 I'm thankful for your support of me and all that 0:28:26.119 --> 0:28:30.960 I do. I'm thankful for your encouragement. And I pray 0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:36.800 that this Thanksgiving is a blessed one for you and 0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:40.800 your loved ones. I pray that ain't surely don't say 0:28:40.840 --> 0:28:45.360 nothing at the table this year that's disrespectful. I hope 0:28:45.600 --> 0:28:52.320 Uncle June Bug ain't drunk this year. I pray that 0:28:52.360 --> 0:28:54.600 your mother in law or your father in law, your 0:28:54.600 --> 0:28:57.560 sister in law, brother in law. I pray that they 0:28:57.600 --> 0:29:00.480 don't sigh eye you and make you want to fight. 0:29:01.440 --> 0:29:04.720 I pray that it's pleasant this year. And if you 0:29:04.760 --> 0:29:09.800 are in therapy. Make sure this Thanksgiving you apply everything 0:29:09.800 --> 0:29:15.160 that you've learned in therapy. Restraint, boundaries. Oh last thing, 0:29:15.800 --> 0:29:19.240 If you don't want to go to a family member's 0:29:19.280 --> 0:29:23.600 house because it's always toxic and always drama, you don't 0:29:23.600 --> 0:29:27.040 have to go. You don't. Or if the minute it 0:29:27.080 --> 0:29:31.640 gets uncomfortable, you can excuse yourself. Yeah, you do not 0:29:31.760 --> 0:29:35.160 have to sit there and take no foolishness. All right. 0:29:35.280 --> 0:29:41.200 Your peace is so important. Protect your peace at all costs. 0:29:41.480 --> 0:29:44.600 All right. I love y'all so much, y'all, I gotta 0:29:44.640 --> 0:29:46.479