1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,159 Speaker 1: voicemail box board. Dear Cheeky's, I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:46,879 Speaker 1: your question. At the sound of the. 12 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 2: Beat, Hello, Cheeky's, how are you? I just want to 13 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 2: tell you that I love you. I love your family. 14 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 2: You're such a big role model motivation. You look amazing. 15 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 2: Congrats on the new marriage. I wish nothing but the 16 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 2: best for you. I do want to remain anonymous, but 17 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 2: I do have a question for you. My husband of 18 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 2: twelve years recently developed an addiction for betting. He puts 19 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: on sports all the apps. I was wondering what you 20 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 2: thought about that, because it's getting to the point where 21 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 2: it's now a financial burden. His accounts have been in 22 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,919 Speaker 2: the negatives twice and I've had to help him once 23 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 2: to get out of the overdraft fees. And it's just 24 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 2: so unlike him. He's always been really good with his 25 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 2: money and here we are now. I don't know what 26 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 2: to do. I am looking into getting an addictions therapist 27 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 2: for him, but he said he's not quite ready for that. 28 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 2: What do you suggest? What is your advice? Thank you 29 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 2: so much? 30 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: Ooh Mamasita, Well you gotta nip this in the bud 31 00:01:57,280 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: real quick. 32 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 3: First of all, thank you so much for everything you said. 33 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 3: I appreciate you. You're so cute, think you think you 34 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 3: Thank you. 35 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: I was just like kind of like thrown back with 36 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,480 Speaker 1: what you were telling me because it's been twelve years. 37 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 3: It's not like him. He just developed this. 38 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:16,919 Speaker 1: And he definitely needs to see an addiction specialist a SAP, 39 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 1: because this is going to affect your life, especially guys 40 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,239 Speaker 1: like we're in a recession, like we have no business betting. 41 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: That's just my personal opinion, and like, you can't, you 42 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 1: can't support this, especially if he's like not winning, you know. 43 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, he's obviously like not winning, so in his 44 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:36,799 Speaker 1: accounts around negative it is going to affect your livelihood, 45 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: and as a woman, we need to feel secure and 46 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: safe and he's not making you feel that. So that's 47 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:45,960 Speaker 1: going to cause a lot of issues in your marriage. 48 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: If he's not willing to do this for you. It's 49 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:50,920 Speaker 1: not even if he's not ready, it's you either do 50 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 1: this or I need to walk away. And I know 51 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 1: that sounds crazy, but this is a huge situation. This 52 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 1: is a real addiction, and it will only get worse 53 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: because what happens they're trying to play catch up, like, oh, 54 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: you know, I lost and for sure I'm gonna win 55 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 1: and now, and then they don't, and it's it's it's 56 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: like a never ending thing. So if he's not like 57 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: counting cards and stuff like that, which is illegal, he 58 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: needs to stop because it's obviously not working. So I 59 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: think you need to put your foot down and you 60 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: need to take control and. 61 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 3: Tell him this is what it is. 62 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 1: Either you do this, because you're affecting not only yourself 63 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: but our home, me and it's only going to get 64 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: worse if not, then I need to make a choice. 65 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: So let me know what you decide. Keep me updated, please, 66 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: because yeah. 67 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 3: I want to know. 68 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: I'm wishing you all the best and now we have Jessica. 69 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: Let's hear from Jessica. 70 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 3: Hey, Keys, what is one of your most memorable parts 71 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 3: of your tour? 72 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 4: What would you say was the best part? 73 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 3: What would you say was the worst part? 74 00:03:55,760 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: Ooh, Jessica, Okay, that's a good question. Well, the worst part, 75 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: for sure, I know was like starting the tour in 76 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: May and being pregnant and being excited and being confused 77 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: all at the same time, and then really accepting that 78 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: I was pregnant, I was going to be on tour pregnant, 79 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: and then visualizing myself with the big old belly and 80 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 1: then losing the baby. 81 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 3: So I feel like that was really hard. 82 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:21,559 Speaker 1: So I guess I want to say that's like the 83 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,280 Speaker 1: worst experience in a way, because then it turned out 84 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: to be something really beautiful. But anyways, that's like one 85 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: thing that I'm like, oh my gosh, crazy. And the 86 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: most memorable thing I want to say was being at 87 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: the al you know, November third in Mexico. There were 88 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: a lot of people that didn't believe that people were 89 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 1: going to show up for me, and they did. And 90 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:48,719 Speaker 1: when I walked out on that stage and I saw 91 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: the amount of people that were there, and it wasn't 92 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 1: sold out, but I didn't need it to be sold 93 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 1: out because maybe it is too soon, because someone in 94 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: Mexico said Chigus is not ready and she's not there 95 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 1: to have a so alit, and I was like, maybe 96 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: there's some truth there. Maybe I still have a lot 97 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: of work to do in Mexico. Yes, but the people 98 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: that were there and the amount of people, it was 99 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:13,480 Speaker 1: just so overwhelming, Like I was like in a good way, obviously, 100 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: Like it was so beautiful, Like I didn't know whether 101 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 1: to cry, just sit down and cry like out of joy, 102 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: or sing, but I had a sing So I was 103 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 1: singing the first two songs. My eyes were tearing up, 104 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: my voice was cracking. It was just beautiful to feel 105 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: the energy, to feel and see that Mexico showed up 106 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:33,479 Speaker 1: for me. So I'm never gonna forget that concert. Ever, 107 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: it was so stressful, it was like to get to 108 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: that point, and I know the whole team was stressed 109 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 1: and it was just a lot, but it was worth it. 110 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:44,599 Speaker 1: It was worth every tear, every night that we didn't sleep, 111 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:47,919 Speaker 1: every early morning, So that was definitely a highlight and 112 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: so many others, but those are the two that stand out, 113 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 1: so thank you so much, Eesica for your question. Oh 114 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: my gosh, damn on this tour. Now we have to 115 00:05:53,680 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: plan the next one. I'm excited. Next question comes from 116 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: adri Hi Tikies. 117 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:07,799 Speaker 4: How are you? Many blessings to you and your husband 118 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 4: and your family. My question for your podcast is I 119 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 4: grew up in a Mexican family, on a Mexican household. 120 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 4: I am an only child, but I am now a 121 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 4: mom of two. My oldest is foreign, my youngest is two. 122 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 4: My oldest was recently diagnosed or prediagnosed actually with autism. 123 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 4: But I see a difference, a difference in my family 124 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:31,479 Speaker 4: side of how they treat my son and my daughter. 125 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 4: They always go towards my daughter since she's more, you know, 126 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:38,920 Speaker 4: opened and more. I guess better to communicate and all 127 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 4: this and it hurts me as a mom, as a 128 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:43,840 Speaker 4: person and as a mom. And I know your mom 129 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 4: was a very strong woman. What would you recommend me? 130 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 4: It hurts me to let go of my family, but 131 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 4: it also hurts me not to defend my children. And 132 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:55,159 Speaker 4: how can I help myself and my children because it's draining, 133 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 4: it's straining to see this go on, and you know, 134 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 4: I wouldn't want to see this forever my life for 135 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 4: them to misteret and make my son feel less, and 136 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 4: I love you. I'm such a fan. Thank you for always, 137 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 4: you know, making podcasts and all these things too, for 138 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:13,239 Speaker 4: us women and not just woman men, just to feel 139 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 4: better and open ourselves to our stories. 140 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 3: Thank you, kikiS oh Audrey. Thank you for that. That 141 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 3: means a lot. 142 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: It means a lot because I love doing this and 143 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 1: I love helping in any way that I possibly can. 144 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: And I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm sorry that 145 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 1: you're going through this. Not sorry that your child, your 146 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: son is autistic, because I have Anissa is autistic. They 147 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 1: are beautiful human beings. They are so smart. They just 148 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: learn in a different way, and that's all it is. 149 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 3: You know. Here's the thing with your family. 150 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: I don't think if they're being see Lisa say the 151 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: Fuci La Fuci, it's different. But if they don't interact 152 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: with him as much, it's probably because they still don't 153 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: understand this is still something very new, especially in the 154 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 1: Latin community. They don't really understand it much. We still 155 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: need to educate our people about autism. So sometimes it 156 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: makes them feel a little uncomfortable, and it's not that 157 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 1: they love him less, it's just they don't know what 158 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: to do. So I would need more details, you know, 159 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 1: as to like, oh, if they're being mean to him, 160 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: then that's different. If they're being mean, if they're mistreating him, 161 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: they're calling him names or anything like that, absolutely one 162 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: hundred percent sit out at this, separate yourself from your family. 163 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: But if they're just not interacting as much as they 164 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: are with your daughter, just try to understand as well, 165 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: maybe have a conversation with them and say, hey, you're 166 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: making me feel this way. When you talk, you guys 167 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 1: will understand each other. Maybe hear them out, and I 168 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: guarantee you it's more than likely they don't know. 169 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 3: They they don't know. 170 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 1: If they're going to do something to upset him and 171 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: they feel a little uncomfortable just because they don't understand, 172 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: you know, maybe it would be nice to do like 173 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:56,079 Speaker 1: a family therapy that they can give more insight on autism. 174 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 1: I looked online. I did my research because I wanted 175 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: to really communicate with my niece and understand what it was. 176 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,080 Speaker 1: I didn't know what autism. I mean, I knew, but 177 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: I didn't know firsthand. So that's what I did, and 178 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: I suggest that before separating yourself, because your family can 179 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: be there and they can help you. It's it's gonna 180 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: take up a little bit of time for everyone to 181 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: get used to your son learning in a different way 182 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: and not being like other children. And that's okay, we're 183 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: all still like figuring. 184 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 3: It out, you know. 185 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:28,680 Speaker 1: So I think having a conversation is what you should do, 186 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: like let them know, communicate with them how you're feeling. 187 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 1: So Adrie, I hope that I helped you, and I'm 188 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 1: sending you a big hug you and your son and 189 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 1: your daughter, and hope everything gets better. Well, okay, guys, 190 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: that's the end of this episode. 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