1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:05,240 Speaker 1: My husband is trying to exploit our marriage for content. 2 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:06,199 Speaker 2: For content. 3 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:11,879 Speaker 1: I mean, John's always down for that for content. So 4 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: my husband John fake name and I sorry, sorry, how 5 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: uh a three hundred? I think my husband John big 6 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: name and I have been married for over two years 7 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 1: and dated for about three years before that. Overall, we 8 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 1: have a generally a healthy relationship with good communication. By 9 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: the way this comes from, I don't have ADHD and 10 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: they are such okay story times over it's. 11 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 3: And for context, the male is twenty five and the 12 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 3: female is twenty six. 13 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 2: Okay. 14 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: So when we first got married, we used to go 15 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: on lots of dates, not necessarily anything big, sometimes just 16 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:48,160 Speaker 1: coffee or dry but we went out of our way 17 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: to get out of the house together for quality time. 18 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: As time has passed, I have taken on more freelance work, 19 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: keeping me busier, and he started saying that he's just 20 00:00:57,120 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: too tired, doesn't feel like getting ready to go out 21 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: after work or on his days off. Up until now, 22 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 1: I haven't had an issue with that. He does work 23 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 1: a lot, and I don't blame him. But here is 24 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: where things have changed. 25 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:10,120 Speaker 2: Hmmm. 26 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 1: A couple of months ago, he got really interested in 27 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: digital marketing, basically selling products online. He bought an expensive 28 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,319 Speaker 1: course to help him learn and has started trying to 29 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: consistently post three times a day in order to build 30 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: a following on a new Instagram account. 31 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 2: Okay, consistency, so. 32 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:31,759 Speaker 1: He's really putting a lot of work into this. Also, 33 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: that's more than us a day. We only post twice 34 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: a day day of our game. I'm not holding my 35 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 1: breath that it will work out for several reasons that 36 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: I won't get into here unless you want them. But 37 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: I've never discouraged him for doing it. When he gets stressed, 38 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: I encourage him. I tell him often that I'm proud 39 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: of all his hard work, I am, et cetera. I 40 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 1: only mentioned that to say that I'm not against him 41 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 1: trying this out and haven't put him down for it ever. 42 00:01:57,520 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: But this is why I've gotten a little sad. Last week, 43 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: we won a cute date after he got off work 44 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: on Saturday, and I loved it. We laughed and talked 45 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: and generally had a great time, like those first dates 46 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: after getting married. While we were on the date, I 47 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 1: had an idea for a cute reel that took maybe 48 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 1: five minutes to record, and then I put my phone 49 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: away for the rest of the time. When we got home, 50 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: I created and posted the reel, adding him as a 51 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: collaborator with his new digital marketing Instagram account at his requests. 52 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: At his request, I guess he's gotten advice to post 53 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: real life things, not just videos trying to sell no biggie, 54 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: I didn't mind, well, since I already have a falling 55 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 1: small but bigger than his. That reel did better than 56 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: any of the other ones on his account. Uh oh, 57 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: we both thought. But now he's asked to go on 58 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: a small date every Saturday. Here we go, girl, that's 59 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: just called aligned incentives. 60 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 2: Double down on what ladies and gentlemen. This is what 61 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 2: Jon and Sam do. 62 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 3: Okay, I will say, I'm gonna call John out on 63 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 3: one thing. 64 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 2: For okay raps. 65 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 3: One time my face got like ten million views, and 66 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 3: ever since then, my face is the first thing that 67 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 3: shows up on okay raps real because I think he 68 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 3: wants to try and do that. 69 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 2: Is that why? 70 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 4: Because it made sense for you to ask the question, 71 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,239 Speaker 4: and then we were like person ask questions, we respond, I'm. 72 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 2: Totally wrong. 73 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 4: To go on Riley's example, we had like one TikTok 74 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 4: that was like who has the best producer tag? 75 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 2: I then proceeded to make. 76 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 4: A hundred tiktoks on who has the best producer tag? 77 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 2: We must make a hundred videos to know. 78 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 1: John is mister double Down? Yeah, yes, you heard of 79 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: mister world Ride, but have you heard of mister double Down? 80 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 1: At first, I was so happy. I'd love to get 81 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: back to our regular dates, but then he said it 82 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: would be so that we could get content for his 83 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: paid for content. He asked if I could be a 84 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: collaborator on all or most of the posts, but if 85 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: he could post them himself so he gets credit for 86 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,479 Speaker 1: the engagement. I guess all the views, alikes, et cetera 87 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: don't actually bump his page analytics since I was the 88 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:24,919 Speaker 1: one who created the posts. Well, I'm feeling hurt because 89 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 1: for over a year he hasn't shown much interest in 90 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 1: taking me out. Now all of a sudden because he 91 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 1: needs content and saw how I can help his view 92 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 1: count go up. God day, he wants to go on dates, 93 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:39,840 Speaker 1: though I guess I'm feeling used and like I'm not 94 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: any kind of priority. I feel like the dates won't 95 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:45,920 Speaker 1: even count as actual dates because he's not asking to 96 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 1: go out to spend them with me. He's just like, Babe, 97 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: can you hold this tripod right here? Or no, no, no, 98 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,279 Speaker 1: bamee hit record, all right, we're gonna we gonna go 99 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 1: again again three times, three times. 100 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 2: This might not be real love, but these are real news. 101 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 102 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 1: I do want to reiterate that I'm not opposed to 103 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 1: him doing this side job, and I'm not even opposed 104 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 1: to helping him or collaborating on both. Though I prefer 105 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: not to do it every week. I'm actually really happy, 106 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 1: whether or not it works out as a money maker, 107 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: that he's just putting a lot of effort into something 108 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: that excites him. I haven't seen him this into anything 109 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 1: maybe ever. 110 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:26,720 Speaker 3: Oh no, this is gonna crash so hard because not 111 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,279 Speaker 3: only is the content maybe not gonna work out, but 112 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 3: then your relationship if it doesn't work, it's just gonna 113 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 3: crash so hard because he's this excited. 114 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: Or you become like one of those couple vloggers and 115 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: then just blow up huge. And as long as the 116 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 1: views are good, you at least have to fake it 117 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: for the camera. So you'll have some semblance of the relationship. 118 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: You'll have something in common, you'll have something in common, 119 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:51,919 Speaker 2: needing to pretend to be in a relationship to generate 120 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 2: an income. 121 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 1: Hey, this is this is Hollywood. Maybe you got to 122 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: You gotta fake it until you make it. 123 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 3: Show it to be so messed up as if he 124 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 3: figures out monetization and he gets like money from this, 125 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:04,799 Speaker 3: but like does not pay op at all. 126 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: He pays OP in love and she pays them in 127 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: fricking views. 128 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 2: He pays her in exposure. 129 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: Ye, it's not his fault that her love language is 130 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: quality time and his views on. 131 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:20,720 Speaker 2: Instagram and his qualified views. 132 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:23,679 Speaker 1: Babe, you see like your heart is in your heart 133 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 1: and my heart is just below the post with that 134 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:29,799 Speaker 1: little little next to the commet bubble, that little little 135 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: like button. If you could just like that. I'm asking 136 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 1: for advice because I don't know if I should bring 137 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:37,480 Speaker 1: this up to him or not, And if I do, 138 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 1: what should I say? The last thing I want to 139 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 1: do is make him feel bad or discourage him in 140 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 1: his new endeavor. Should I just be grateful to be 141 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 1: going on dates again? Am I being selfish? Opie is 142 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 1: asking for the lowest bar. Thanks for any and all advice. 143 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: If this is very long, If this could be posted 144 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: to the sub I'm open to suggestions. I couldn't post 145 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: it on relationship advice because it has to be a 146 00:06:57,279 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: yes or no question. Edit because so many people are 147 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 1: getting hung up on the double standard of me making 148 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: contents on the date but not wanting him to. I 149 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: just want to clarify I'm not a content creator by 150 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 1: any means. I asked if he wanted to do a 151 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: real and he said yes, It's not a regular thing, 152 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: as I don't post much. To me, the difference here 153 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: is that the whole point of these dates moving forward 154 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 1: will be to get content, and for him it will 155 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: be work, where for me it was just a fun 156 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: thing for us. Maybe this doesn't make a difference, but 157 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 1: that's just how I see it in my head. And 158 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: there are some relevant comments in an update. I'm just 159 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: seeing Win wins baby on sn wins his views ob 160 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 1: scene his views. You know, at the at the base 161 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: of every relationship is a ten million view TikTok. 162 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 5: Babe, how are we supposed to subscribe to this relationship 163 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 5: if we cannot get people to subscribe to our content. 164 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 2: I ask you that simple question. 165 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, if our love was true enough, the interweent net 166 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: would know and they would watch it a million times 167 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: you know, true love of gets views. John showed me 168 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 1: a beautiful video that had like fourteen million views about 169 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: true love storybe you did I didn't do that. 170 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 2: I remember that, yes, and it was a beautiful story. 171 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: It was made me cry. You're right, it was great. 172 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 1: There you go, But we got some comments. So Caroline 173 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 1: Sakura says, how about you tell him how you feel 174 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: and that a date is a date and reels are 175 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 1: for work. If he wants to go on dates just 176 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: to get views, those can be only one on five dates. 177 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:33,719 Speaker 1: If you are comfortable with even that communicates and the 178 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: Ring says communication is key, you could talk to him 179 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 1: and with the idea above even and frame that date 180 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: as a work date. If you're on board and comfortable, 181 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: maybe keep the Saturdays as your special dates and then 182 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:48,199 Speaker 1: whatever day lines up. Other than that, try to make 183 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:51,479 Speaker 1: reels together. But what if the spice of the relationship 184 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: is the reels. You know, before you had these reels, 185 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:57,559 Speaker 1: there were no dates. As soon as you recorded it, 186 00:08:58,000 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: there's dates. 187 00:08:58,960 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 2: You know. 188 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,319 Speaker 1: It's kind of like when you're playing poker and you're 189 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: not playing with real money, it's like, oh, it's this fun, 190 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:06,440 Speaker 1: But as soon as you're playing for a little bit 191 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 1: of cash. It's like it spices up the game. 192 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 2: The whole thing changes, you know. 193 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: I think if you love for views, maybe you love 194 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: a little bit harder. WHOA never think about that? Did you? 195 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: Did you think about that? If you generally don't like 196 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 1: the idea, then tell him that. As well Away Grape 197 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:25,679 Speaker 1: for four two ninety seven says, so he's in an MLM, 198 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: and he admitted that this wanted to go out with 199 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,599 Speaker 1: you was to support his cultish business rather than to 200 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: get because he values the time. That hurts. I get it. 201 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:35,679 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I do want to say that these companies, 202 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: slash Opportunities slash MLMs are very scripted to high pressure 203 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: and designed to make people think if they fail they 204 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: are at fault, despite the actual setup being a massive 205 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: reason for the failure. They literally borrow cult tactics in 206 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:50,679 Speaker 1: order to prey on people. I think you should talk 207 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:52,719 Speaker 1: about your feelings because I also think you should try 208 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: lightly because the whole system is designed to be defensive. 209 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: If you bring up reason, it's part of the gig. 210 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: There are lots of hu uggs. I'm sorry, and there 211 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:03,200 Speaker 1: is an update. 212 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,440 Speaker 3: So what is he trying to sell on his Instagram account. 213 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:06,080 Speaker 1: Again, I don't know. 214 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 5: Maybe, like all we know is that he bought a 215 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 5: expensive course, yeah, to help him do it, Yeah, something 216 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 5: like that. Maybe my guess was he bought an expensive 217 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 5: course on how to make expensive courses. 218 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 2: That was my guess. Makes sense, But we got an update. 219 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 1: Oh so, first of all, thank you to the vast 220 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 1: majority of you who are logical and kind, and screw 221 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:32,680 Speaker 1: the people who immediately jumped to bashing women in twenty 222 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: twenty four. Really, anyway, here's what I ended up doing. 223 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:40,079 Speaker 1: Many many of the comments said that the best thing 224 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: to do was probably just take the win and find 225 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 1: the good in my situation. But if it's really bothering 226 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 1: me to bring it up to John, I honestly didn't 227 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 1: want to. But I didn't want to be upset on 228 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:50,839 Speaker 1: every day either, So I decided to give it a 229 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: trial run and see how I felt after I waited 230 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 1: two weeks to make a decision and chose to go 231 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: ahead and mention it to him. For those of you 232 00:10:57,880 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 1: who think I'm some dramatic winch who saw has been 233 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: could never do enough to make her happy, I told 234 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: him I was sure how I felt wasn't how he 235 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: intended to come across, but then explain what I'd been thinking. 236 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 1: Sure enough, as many of you said, he was simply 237 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:16,840 Speaker 1: killing two birds with one stone. I told him I 238 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: was totally fine creating content on our dates. I just 239 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 1: didn't want to feel like that was why we were 240 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:26,320 Speaker 1: on a date. He said that he understood and would 241 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,439 Speaker 1: be careful about that, and if I was bothered or 242 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: wanted to have a no content date, then just let 243 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: him know. So that's a good part. The next part 244 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 1: was a little tougher, per the advice of a couple 245 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 1: of you with either digital marketing or MLM experience, I 246 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: had the tough pyramid scheme talk Ooh. 247 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 2: It wasn't MLM, though, that sucks. 248 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: I told him before, during, and after this conversation that 249 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 1: no matter what he chooses, I do and I will 250 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: support him and help him. But I also explained to 251 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 1: him a few things, how the marketing was misleading, how 252 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,079 Speaker 1: most people lose money instead of making it, how they 253 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 1: will try to keep trying to get him to spend 254 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: more money to make it work, et cetera. I all 255 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: suggested that he track his hours of learning, content creating, 256 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: and posting so that even if he does start making sales, 257 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: he can decide if the time is worth a payout. 258 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: I probably mentioned other things as well, but I don't 259 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 1: remember what if. So I've always been very anti MLM 260 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: and like to think I know a lot about it, 261 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: so I just tried to give him all the basic 262 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: info in a kind way. After all that, I told 263 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: him if he wanted to keep trying, I was for it, 264 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: as long as he doesn't invest any more money before 265 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: he makes some. I also told him how I was 266 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: proud of all the work he put into his side 267 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: hustle so far, and how I loved that he was 268 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: excited about it, how he's getting up early to work 269 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: out because of it. He will record parts of his 270 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: run stretches, etc. But actually does a full workout or run, 271 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: and I love how it's energized him. By the way, 272 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:52,920 Speaker 1: if you want to be energized, you should joined our 273 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:57,319 Speaker 1: YouTube and Facebook every weekday at three pm PSD where 274 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:01,080 Speaker 1: we go live and we're probably live right now our profile. 275 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go straight into the updates, so understandably, yeah, 276 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 1: exactly exactly that that that's exactly what looking or you're 277 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:15,320 Speaker 1: looking at a meme of the office of Michael realizing 278 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 1: he is in a Pyramids game, so understandably he was 279 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 1: a little sad and quiet, but he understood everything and 280 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:25,200 Speaker 1: wasn't mad at all. This was all night and he 281 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 1: was totally back to normal before bed, and he continued 282 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: posting today, so I guess it didn't hurt his feelings 283 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 1: or discourage him like I thought it might. That's the 284 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: whole reason I waited so long. But I guess it 285 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:38,760 Speaker 1: would have been fine all along. I'm looking forward to 286 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: our weekly dates and to the fact that we will 287 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:42,960 Speaker 1: be able to look back and remember them all since 288 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 1: we will have videos from each one. Again. Grateful for 289 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 1: all of your kind words, and I'm happy to answer 290 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 1: comments or questions. Just be nice for goodness sake. And 291 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: that is where that story ends, and this episode ends. 292 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:02,480 Speaker 2: Wow, yeah, I'm not mad. I communication communication. 293 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 6: I like that story was, you know, a fun, funny 294 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 6: littleptic and you know what, also, man, if he's just 295 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 6: like getting out there recording content going to the gym, 296 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 6: remember how she said the line where he's like, I've 297 00:14:16,080 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 6: never seen him this, Like yeah, it. 298 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: Sounds like you know, like, yes he's recording for the 299 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 1: you know, the videos of the gym, and yes he's 300 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 1: recording the dates for the videos, but it sounds like 301 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:31,040 Speaker 1: like he's just like the recording of his life is 302 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: actually making him do the things that he should do. 303 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 2: Right He's now under the world's watchful lies. 304 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 1: Instagram, see it no way. I would love to see 305 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 1: it though if we can, there's no way. There's no way, 306 00:14:44,560 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: there's no way comments, There's a way that if you 307 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 1: love us, you should subscribe we do love you and 308 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 1: see it tomorrow.