1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: See This is from Derek on Steve Harvey FM. He says, 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: I'm the oldest of four and the executor of my 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: late mother's estate. My younger brother was disinherited and kicked 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: out of the family more than a decade ago after 5 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: some bad choices, and I'm the only one who stayed 6 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: in touch with him. My mother's will gives me the 7 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: discretion to decide how to divide the cash portion of 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:28,160 Speaker 1: her estate among the siblings. Everyone else is doing fine financially, 9 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: but my little brother is barely scraping by. I want 10 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: to give him a share, but I know my sisters 11 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: will be furious. They think he deserves nothing. Should I 12 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: tell them what I plan to do and risk upsetting them, 13 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 1: or quietly give him something and live with the fallout 14 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: if they ever find. 15 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:49,639 Speaker 2: Out, Well, you're the executor of the wheel. Yeah, hum, 16 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 2: Your mamma nem puts you in charge. I would pull 17 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 2: a little baby broad to the side and sit him down. 18 00:00:56,760 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 2: Maybe he needs some help, Maybe this could be the shot. 19 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 2: Maybe the fact that Mama gone could be the thing 20 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 2: to straighten him out. I'm not in the throw people 21 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 2: away business. He is your brother. He made some bad choices. 22 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:15,639 Speaker 2: But who ain't I made some in my life? Lord, Lord, 23 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 2: I made some money. I'm so grateful that God is 24 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 2: in the forgiving business, boy, and the mercy business and 25 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 2: the grace business. I don't know what to do, so 26 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 2: I say, show a little bit of grace, sit your 27 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 2: brother down and say, hey, man, let's work a plan. 28 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 2: And then what I I was you, I would keep 29 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 2: the money and just issue out the money if it 30 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 2: goes according to plan. And then the moment he don't 31 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:45,199 Speaker 2: do the plan no more, then you stop the money, 32 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 2: but don't give it to him at all at once. 33 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 3: Let's put the money. 34 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 2: Hold his share aside for a plan and until us 35 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 2: the big brother here plan and watch him an active plan. 36 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 2: Then don't give it to him because he gonna smoke 37 00:01:59,040 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 2: it up. 38 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, great he on drugs. Oh wow, all right, 39 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 3: we have time. So you stole something from the sisters 40 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 3: in the mama's house. 41 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: Oh okay, that's why I was put out? 42 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 3: Okay. 43 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. This is from EJ on Steve Harvey FM. EJ says, 44 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: my girlfriend and I have been together for ten years 45 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 1: and we've always spent Thanksgiving together. We both have kids 46 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 1: from previous relationships and our families live far apart, so 47 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: we've alternated which side we visit each year. I just 48 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: found out she's planning to spend this Thanksgiving with her family, 49 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: and her kids are going, but she never invited me 50 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 1: or my daughter. I'm not sure what is going on. 51 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm surprised she didn't even talk to me about it first. 52 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: Should I tell her how much this hurts me? 53 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 3: Or let it go? Yeah? Go on and tell her 54 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 3: how much it hurts you. 55 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:50,920 Speaker 2: And then because you fit to hear how much it 56 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:53,919 Speaker 2: has hurt her to be your girlfriend for ten years 57 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 2: without being married. Oh see, that's what didn't happen though, 58 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 2: that's fed up. Yeah, this is a consequence call. Yeah, 59 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 2: this is a car. It's ten years of boyfriend and girlfriend. 60 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 2: Y'all been doing all the family stuff except being a family. 61 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 3: She fed up. 62 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:14,799 Speaker 2: She said, Wow, I got to keep asking him where 63 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 2: I'm going, and he won't marry me. She has asked 64 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 2: you for a ring before. Now you're finna eat by yourself. 65 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 3: You and your baby. 66 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, and she probably tied a hand her mama and 67 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 4: them asked uhh, whoa lord? 68 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what what is y'all doing? 69 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 4: That? 70 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: Aggressively steeking? 71 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:46,839 Speaker 2: So so so so so so so, what is all 72 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 2: this fault? 73 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: Man? 74 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 3: Is that? So you're just gonna keep on sleeping with him? 75 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: Uhuh? My mom or grandmother? Is that mom? 76 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 3: That's mom and auntie, grandmama, the grandmama ruthless? 77 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: What does she say? 78 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 3: So you're just. 79 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: Gonna be the car to keep getting milk. Ain't nobody, 80 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 2: ain't nobody got to buy you oning? 81 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 3: Huh? You just keep being the car to keep getting milk. 82 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 4: I'm all, yes, hurts hurt. 83 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 3: I wanted to hurt. 84 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:29,720 Speaker 4: Can we just eat? Do we have to keep talking 85 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 4: about my love life? And let's move on somebody else? 86 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: That's the turkey? 87 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 3: All right? 88 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: There you have it. You're listening to the Steve Harvey 89 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: Morning Show.