1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: All right, this is from Tatiana Steve in Kansas City. 2 00:00:04,320 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: Tatiana says, I've been married for seven years and my 3 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: mother in law has become a third wheel since her divorce. 4 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 1: She's always had a key to our house, but lately 5 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:18,759 Speaker 1: she's been overbearing. She has her pajamas and toilet trees 6 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:21,959 Speaker 1: at our house, and she's spent a lot of nights 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,600 Speaker 1: in our guest room. Every Sunday she cooks dinner at 8 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: our house, and last week she invited her new male 9 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: friend over to eat. My husband is not bothered by it, 10 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 1: but I am. Do I let it go to keep 11 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 1: my husband and his mom happy? Or should I start 12 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: setting boundaries with her? 13 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 2: Wow? 14 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 3: Well, you know it is your house. Is she supposed 15 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 3: to be there visiting or has she moved in? 16 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 2: Well, it's like she's kind of back and forth. You know, 17 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 2: she has things you got to have. 18 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:53,279 Speaker 3: You gotta set rules up as your house. Your son, 19 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to understand they can't let your mama 20 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 3: come in there. Look, you marry your wife. Your wife 21 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 3: is the queen of the castle. Ain't be too queen 22 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 3: your mama. Don't get to be queen at your wife's house. 23 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 3: Solid it's not how it works. You're out of order, now, dog. 24 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 3: You gotta let your wife have a say so of 25 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 3: what's happening in her house. So you have to set 26 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 3: some boundaries if you don't want to hold dude over 27 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 3: the house, and you're gonna she's gonna have to quit 28 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 3: cooking din over there, go home and cook because we 29 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 3: don't want to make it. 30 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:23,399 Speaker 4: Well, we don't want to know. 31 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 2: Pretty much. 32 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:33,959 Speaker 1: How does she say that though, you know, without offending 33 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 1: or hurting feelings. 34 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, she gon'na hurt her feeling. You know, she's gonna 35 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 3: she ain't gonna like you no more, that's right. 36 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: And then her husband's gonna have a problem, right, Well, 37 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: you know the husband say something, mama, you got. 38 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 4: Well the husband, he ain't gonna say nothing. 39 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 2: He's not bothered by it. 40 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 4: The husband, well, he's not gonna say nothing. It's his mama. Yeah, 41 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 4: cause you don't know, this might be a mama's boy 42 00:01:59,600 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 4: and all. 43 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: Here. 44 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 3: You can't spend the night here, But I don't have 45 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 3: any laws like that. They come and stay, they go home, 46 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 3: you know, then I don't have that problem, not at all. 47 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 3: So I can't relate. 48 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 5: I don't want my mama hem he holling and can 49 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:17,679 Speaker 5: on like I'll be doing. 50 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 4: I don't want and all that. 51 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 2: That's too much. 52 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 4: But it's okay for your kids, is well? 53 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 5: They you know they are welcome to leave. I have 54 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 5: said that, all of them. I have said that to 55 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 5: all of them. They go, Where. 56 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 2: Are they gonna stay? Where are they gonna. 57 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 5: All? 58 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 1: Right, we have another one, Steve. This is from Jeremy, 59 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: Jeremy and Woodbridge. Jeremy says, my brother and I fell 60 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: out years ago. When we got back cool again last year, 61 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: he told me about the love of his life. She 62 00:02:57,440 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: happens to be a woman that was my side, and 63 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 1: it looks like she was having sex with my brother 64 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:06,800 Speaker 1: and I at the same time. I do not want 65 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: this to ruin our relationship again, So do I keep 66 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:12,080 Speaker 1: my mouth shut? 67 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 3: Does act like it ain't happened though, that's all bringing 68 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 3: it up gonna bring a whole lot to come with it. 69 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 4: I just shut up. 70 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, he should be. 71 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 3: Well, what's the scenario anyway, Shirley, Am I fully understanding it? 72 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: Well? Yeah, okay, he and his brother is a guy 73 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: wrote it. He and his brother fell out. Now they 74 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: fell out years ago. Now they're cool again. But now 75 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: he just found out that the brother is dating and 76 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: he calls her the love of his life, a woman 77 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: that was his side chick. And he thinks that the 78 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: woman was sleeping with the brothers at the same time. God, okay, 79 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: now that's the reaction we need. 80 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 4: You know, she real find you know that she got 81 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 4: to know that they brothers. 82 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, slow down, that's what I'm saying. 83 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 4: No, this woman used to be his side. 84 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: Chick, and that's why he doesn't want to say anything 85 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: because they just got back cool again and he just, 86 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: let me tell you, he doesn't want to ruin their relationship. 87 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 5: A man to whoop you behind his side piece. I'm 88 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 5: just trying to tell you so this doesn't go crazy. 89 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 2: And what if his wife asked, what are you guys 90 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 2: fighting about? 91 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 4: Why is you in this this week? Me and my brother? 92 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: All right, coming, you know, coming up in twenty minutes 93 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:40,919 Speaker 1: after we'll have more of the Steve Hardy Ignorance Show. 94 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 2: Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.