1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:08,440 Speaker 1: Who baby, a baby love, I need you, Oh how 2 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 1: I need you? What to expect? As a production of 3 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:17,119 Speaker 1: My Heart Radio, I'm your host Heidi Murkoff, and I'm 4 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:19,760 Speaker 1: a mom on a mission, a mission to help you 5 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 1: know what to expect every step of the way. If 6 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:28,319 Speaker 1: there's one thing you can always expect here on what 7 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: to expect, it's that we are going to keep it real, 8 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 1: which is why I am so excited to welcome a 9 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 1: very special mom who has made her life an open 10 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: book on social media. Anna Victoria is a personal trainer 11 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: and fitness guru who has shared honestly with her millions 12 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: of followers, first about her journey to wellness, which led 13 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: to a wildly popular fitness app, and more recently about 14 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 1: her journey to motherhood, which included just a few detours, 15 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: a year of trying to conceive and ultimately I VF 16 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 1: and now Anna is a new mom to a six 17 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:10,679 Speaker 1: month old baby girl, Aurora. So Anna, thank you so 18 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: much for being here today. First of all, congratulations and baby, 19 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 1: thank you? Who is beautiful? And those cheeks I know 20 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: I diet the cheeks. Thank you. Thank you so much 21 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:28,399 Speaker 1: for having me Je's and what I'd like to call 22 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: the golden age of babyhood because it's all smiles, belly 23 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: laughs and joy and they're not crawling and getting into 24 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:41,959 Speaker 1: stuff yet. Right, I'm definitely not prepared for that, Like 25 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: with the house stuff, babyproofing, that's a whole new world 26 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: we're about to get into. So I definitely am enjoying 27 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: her being stationary and just giggly right now. It's now, 28 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: how has it been being pregnant and giving birth during 29 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: a pandemic? You also move stay it's no biggie, yeah, 30 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: which was planned pre COVID. We planned to move from 31 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: l A to Austin, Texas to buy a house since 32 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: the market in l A is just you know, outrageous, 33 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: and yeah, so obviously as well, we did IVF and 34 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 1: we never knew when we were going to be pregnant, 35 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: and it just everything coincided with being pregnant, moving states, 36 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: and a pandemic. So it's been quite a right but 37 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: you know, honestly, I am an optimist. I am, and 38 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 1: I remember, you know, being pregnant mid pandemic. My husband's 39 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: families from Italy, and so they we always planned for 40 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,079 Speaker 1: them to come. His mom was supposed to come stay 41 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: with us for three months for the birth, and we 42 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:46,080 Speaker 1: quickly realized that wasn't going to be able to happen, 43 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 1: which was upsetting, but I was like, it's okay, we 44 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 1: got it, you know, like we're we're going to get through. 45 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:54,360 Speaker 1: We can take care of it. Okay, that's when I 46 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: was pregnant right now. Once I had the baby and 47 00:02:57,440 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: those postpartum hormones came into play, you know, no amount 48 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,399 Speaker 1: of optimism can you know, cover up the fact that 49 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: we missed out on sharing our daughter's first moments with 50 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: her grandparents and all of our family. She's the first 51 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 1: girl on his dad's side of the family fifty years. 52 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. So yeah, you know, it's been hard, 53 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: but still grateful for for our health and that's just 54 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: what we try to focus on absolutely, And we're going 55 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: to come back to your pregnancy, but first let's go 56 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: to something you've been very open about sharing, and that's 57 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: getting pregnant. And you were trying to conceive for about 58 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: a year to two years. So when did you first 59 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: make the move up to fertility clinic after the year mark, 60 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: so we started trying, um goodness, it was December two 61 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 1: and seventeen, and you know, I'm one of seven. My 62 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: mom had no trouble conceiving with any of us, and 63 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: I just thought like, oh, when I'm ready, you know, 64 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 1: like it's just gonna have in. And you know, six 65 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 1: months went fine. It was like it's not happening yet. 66 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: Did some research and I read, you know, it can 67 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: take six to twelve months for a normal healthy couple. 68 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: Month nine, it was like, okay, what is going on? 69 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: So uh then you know, wait until month twelve. And 70 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: that's when we were like, you know, we are ready now. 71 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: We don't want to wait for another three six months 72 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 1: and then still be in the same position. So we 73 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: went to At the time we lived in l A. 74 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: We went to Southern California Reproductive Center. They ran all 75 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: the tests, the blood work, couldn't find anything wrong with 76 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 1: either of us, so we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. 77 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: I also am a personal trainer. I eight healthy. What 78 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:48,039 Speaker 1: I kept hearing back, which was like so frustrating, was 79 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: like everything looks perfect, you know, and it's like, oh great, well, 80 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:56,039 Speaker 1: then why is this not happening? In some ways, like 81 00:04:57,080 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: I don't ever want to say it's good to hear 82 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: that they're something wrong, but when you do, there's a 83 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: course of action. They know how to treat it and 84 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: how to proceed with unexplaining fertility. You're just, you know, 85 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 1: kind of at a loss. Entilog just magically happened, you know, 86 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: So immediately we did two i u e s back 87 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: to back, obviously unsuccessfully at that point. It actually it 88 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 1: took more of a toll on my husband. He's like 89 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:25,919 Speaker 1: I said, he's Italian, He's very where's his heart on 90 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:28,839 Speaker 1: his sleeve. I'm the one that I'm like, we'll get 91 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: through it. I'm going to power through. I can handle it. 92 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: But him still seeing the impact it had on me 93 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: and honestly the hormones how it impacted me let resolve 94 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: was like horrible for me. Um, he was like, you know, 95 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: let's take a break. We even went to Italy for 96 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 1: our anniversary that may because this at this point in time, 97 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: it was February March, and you know, every like everyone 98 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,600 Speaker 1: said like, oh, just relaxed, just go travel and it's 99 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: gonna happen. Nope, still didn't happen. But we had a 100 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: good time. So we had a great time. And now 101 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm so happy. We want on those 102 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: trips premb you know, fact we get it in while 103 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: you can. Yeah. So after after those trips, we decide, okay, 104 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: in the fall, if we didn't conceive, we would do 105 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: ib F, which is what we ended up doing. Uh 106 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: didn't agitarable September who two thousand nineteen, and then the 107 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 1: transferred November two thousand nineteen, which was successful. Oh that's 108 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: so wonderful and you got it on the first try. Yeah. 109 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: So yeah, the hormones and feeling like you were a 110 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: pin cushion, like always being stuck. That must have been 111 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: super hard and emotionally just as a couple. How did 112 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: it feel to keep trying and trying and trying. Was 113 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: it a strain on your relationship at all? Yeah, it 114 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: really really was. And he and I really are two 115 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: p's in a pod, like we were meant for each other, 116 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: you know, and we like don't fight very much, but 117 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 1: that time period, U like, it was a completely different 118 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: ballgame for us and put so much strain on us. 119 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 1: Like there were things that I said that I'm not 120 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: proud of and that I regretted saying to him, And 121 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 1: the hormones made you do it. Yeah, it's exactly. He 122 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: had so much grace with me. We're as great of 123 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: a couple as we are because of him, because he's 124 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: such as we are. But yeah, there were times that 125 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: you know it not only times then that at his 126 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: stress tests, but there are lasting impacts that we've noticed, 127 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: even after infertility, even at having a baby, that we 128 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: notice still have carried over, like the anxiety around intimacy. 129 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: When you're trying to make a baby, it's so robotic, 130 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: and you know that's not good for either of us 131 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: and it's hard to just you know, forget all of that. 132 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 1: And at the same time we wonder what is it 133 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: going to be like for baby number two and three? 134 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: You know, we always wanted three and four kids. You 135 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 1: know you also have a baby, and yes, and that 136 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: doesn't make it easy for sure. Yeah, absolutely, yes, Yeah, 137 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: there's baby must oil instead of like ky, why next 138 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: to the right right right? Yeah? So why is it 139 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: so important to you to be so open on social 140 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: media about the process. So I didn't know if I 141 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:15,119 Speaker 1: would be like in that first year. I just hoped 142 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: to be like we're pregnant, you know, of course, like 143 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: everyone hopes to be able to do that, and more 144 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 1: so with my family on I'm the type that my 145 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: struggles don't define me or they don't overcome me, I 146 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: think that they empower me. And like that's kind of 147 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,319 Speaker 1: always been my approach with my fitness journey. Like I'm 148 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: a personal trainer that's going to tell you I hate 149 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: working out, Like sometimes I love it, but the majority 150 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 1: of the time I don't want to do it. I 151 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: do it anyways because I feel so good afterwards, So 152 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,599 Speaker 1: I do it. So I knew that if I was 153 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 1: going to share about the struggle, if I needed to, 154 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: I would be empowered by it because helping other women 155 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: people know that they're not alone, that just fills me up. 156 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,680 Speaker 1: That's so awesome. Have you gotten lots of responses from 157 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: other women going through the same experien shockingly thousands every 158 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:08,720 Speaker 1: day even now, two years, three years after you know, 159 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 1: the entire journey. Every day I received messages from women 160 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:16,440 Speaker 1: that either just now discovered me apparently if you like, 161 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 1: look up I v F for agrigary. But a lot 162 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: of my stuff pops up, which is, you know, I 163 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: don't know how, but it's happening. And other women that 164 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: have been following me through the journey, they weren't in 165 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 1: that time period of their life at the time I was, 166 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: but now they are. It's really shocking, and how many 167 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: couples go through this it is, I mean, of course 168 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,679 Speaker 1: the number is growing. I do want to know how 169 00:09:37,720 --> 00:09:41,199 Speaker 1: did you, um, did you feel guarded after you found 170 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: out who were pregnant. I'm such an open book that, 171 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: like I wanted to share. It's interesting publicly, but internally 172 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: I had so much anxiety about it because you're so 173 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 1: worried about what is going to happen, Like you hear 174 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: horrible stories of things happening, you know, when people say like, oh, 175 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: the same zone is for the first trimemester, It's not 176 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: like there's something can happen at any point. So I 177 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:10,199 Speaker 1: had anxiety more about announcing it for that reason. Yeah, internally, 178 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: it was definitely a huge struggle first trimester and then 179 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: almost third trimester. Second trimester was like the glory you 180 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 1: know time period. Did you ever resent other moms who 181 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 1: got pregnant easily? I feel like saying resent is you know, 182 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: I mean it's a very valid feeling that some women have. Absolutely, yeah, 183 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: personally I didn't. It was it was absolutely like you know, gosh, 184 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: what's the right word out of devastation? You know. I 185 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 1: had a friend one time, tell me that she was pregnant, 186 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: and I cried not happy tears in front of her. 187 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: I tried to cover it up as like happy tears, 188 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: you know, um, which I was. There were happy tears, 189 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: but there were sad tears. And again, like I said, 190 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:54,280 Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm a happy, go lucky, optimistic type person 191 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 1: and I didn't expect to feel those feelings. But it's 192 00:10:57,640 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: so natural. How did you tell your family? Oh? So 193 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: I we did the transfer in November, November eighteen, so 194 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:10,319 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving was a few days later, and it was a 195 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 1: five day embryo, so five days post transfer, it was 196 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: you know that at that point in time, I had 197 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:18,200 Speaker 1: gotten a positive you know, ten days. So it was 198 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and I was like, should I do the butt 199 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: in the oven? We have Thanksgiving buns? But I was like, no, 200 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: there's two. I didn't want to tell everyone. I have 201 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: a big family and one of seven. Um, there's normally 202 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: thirty people at our Thanksgiving, and so I was like, 203 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 1: I'm just going to tell my sisters and my brother 204 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:37,079 Speaker 1: that were there, and my mom and so to kind 205 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:39,479 Speaker 1: of get them away from everyone, I brought them outside 206 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:42,599 Speaker 1: out front to just take a picture, and Luca was 207 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 1: taking the picture and everyone was in the line and 208 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 1: I said three to one like smile, and I said, 209 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: I'm pregnant. And it was a video so so so 210 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: did everybody here it and understand it and comprehend? Oh? Yeah, 211 00:11:57,920 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 1: Like it was kind of like a split second of 212 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 1: like jaw drop and then like screaming. And it's funny 213 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 1: because everyone knew we were doing the agraitory bole, but 214 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 1: no one knew when we were doing the transfer and 215 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,839 Speaker 1: I we wanted to keep that a secret, which was 216 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 1: hard to do, but we wanted to keep that a 217 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 1: secret because we didn't want eyeballs of like didn't work, 218 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: are you pregnant? So we told everyone to get them 219 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: off of our backs. We were like, we're doing it 220 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 1: after the holidays, okay, uh nay. Yeah, So pregnancy, after 221 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 1: all of that effort to get pregnant, did it seem like, 222 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: you know, relatively easy lift, so to speak. Yeah. I'm 223 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: one of those that loved being pregnant. Yeah, I just 224 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 1: thought it was beauty of the body changes. I think 225 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: we're beautiful. And I did have morning sickness the first trimester, 226 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 1: but not to the point of actually, you know, throwing up, 227 00:12:56,520 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 1: just like you know, being nauseous, and that was really it. Otherwise, 228 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 1: I had a great pregnancy. I worked out through my 229 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: entire pregnancy, but then came labor and delivery. So I 230 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:11,200 Speaker 1: know you have a birth story to share. Um, I 231 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:14,439 Speaker 1: mean every mom does. Yeah, how is it different than 232 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 1: what you expected? So there's two parts here that made 233 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 1: me think it would be much easier than it was. 234 00:13:19,960 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: First was my mom. You know, she always said, O, 235 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:25,560 Speaker 1: dental pain is worse than childbirth, you know, which, like okay, 236 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: I know, right, and she's like, okay, not literally, but 237 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:30,960 Speaker 1: it's a mental thing. You have to get into a 238 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 1: mental place. And my dad even told me like she 239 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 1: didn't even screen during labor, you know, like, so props 240 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 1: to her. That's not me, I discovered, And so I 241 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,040 Speaker 1: I definitely had kind of a different idea of what 242 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: would be going in because of that. Then, Yes, because 243 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 1: I'm a personal trainer and so many women who have 244 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 1: done my programs and are in my community have said 245 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: to me, Anna, pre Fitness Journey pre FPG, I didn't 246 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: work out and my labor was horrible. I just had 247 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 1: a baby, and I've been working out with your app, 248 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 1: your programs, and it was a breeze comparatively. So I 249 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 1: always was like awesome, Like so many women are telling 250 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:10,080 Speaker 1: me how much better it was after their fitness journey, 251 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: So like I should be able to handle this, you 252 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:17,720 Speaker 1: would think, you would think, right. I ended up having 253 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: an unplanned C section after who what was it? Fifteen 254 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 1: hours of labor, three hours of pushing, and she got 255 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: stuck behind my pelvic phone. My hopes were that I 256 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: would have an unmedicated vaginal birth. My contractions came on 257 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:38,560 Speaker 1: so quick. They said my water didn't break, but I 258 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:41,760 Speaker 1: A I had a gush of water, you know. So 259 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:44,560 Speaker 1: someone was like, you probably had a high leak. So 260 00:14:44,600 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: they couldn't something along those lines. Um, Because my contractions 261 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 1: came on quick, and they were very close together from 262 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:54,440 Speaker 1: the beginning, and I didn't get any time to rest 263 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 1: in between contractions. It was two in the morning, I 264 00:14:57,760 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 1: hadn't slept, I hadn't eaten, went into labor, went to 265 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 1: the hospital, got there like three, and um, I started 266 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:10,080 Speaker 1: throwing up. I couldn't keep anything down. I was nauseous, 267 00:15:10,720 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: and I was four centimeters dilated when I got there. 268 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:18,920 Speaker 1: After all that, yeah, right, And so I was in 269 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 1: labor for seven hours and they checked me again and 270 00:15:22,160 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 1: I remember thinking in my head, if I'm not at 271 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 1: least seven centimeters dilated, I'm getting an epidural like already, 272 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: like not a part of my birth plan. But I 273 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 1: was like, if I'm not dilating, it's because my body 274 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:37,800 Speaker 1: is under so much stress right now. I can't relax 275 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 1: because I'm not getting breaks in between my contractions. I 276 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:45,520 Speaker 1: need help. Seven hours later, I was still four centimeters 277 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: when they told me that, I was just like, you're like, 278 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it, like for still at the same spot, 279 00:15:54,920 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 1: like at least five. So I said, give me the 280 00:15:57,680 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: epidural now, like in that time from when the antithesiologist 281 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:05,360 Speaker 1: needs to prepare it and get to other you know, patients. First, 282 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:09,080 Speaker 1: I was like screaming, like where are they? So I 283 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 1: got the epidural. I within an hour went to what 284 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 1: was it, six centimeters and so that's like it was 285 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: exactly what my body needed. I couldn't relax. And let 286 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: me tell you, that epidural was great. I went from like, 287 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: you know, being in constant pain for seven hours to 288 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: singing to Michael Boublet that was playing in the background 289 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: and between contractions. It was amazing. Yeah, there are a 290 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:40,480 Speaker 1: lot of fans out there. Oh yes, oh yes. So 291 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 1: the problem was I have a high tolerance to anesthesia. 292 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 1: I have woken up under anesthesia before in the past, 293 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:52,640 Speaker 1: and I didn't remember that. And so when the epidural 294 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: started wearing off, I was like, you guys, you guys, 295 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 1: I can feel this again, and they were like whoa, 296 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: Like what's going on. This happened three different times for 297 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: the next five hours. I kept getting the epidural. An 298 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:09,160 Speaker 1: hour later it would wear off, and then thirty minutes 299 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:13,199 Speaker 1: to scramble and get the anse asiologist back. So I 300 00:17:13,240 --> 00:17:15,560 Speaker 1: was going in and out of pain for the next 301 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 1: five hours. And then when it came time to push, 302 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:22,040 Speaker 1: and that I was ten centimeters dilated. Pushed for three hours, 303 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 1: she got to the station zero and wasn't dropping, and 304 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: so they said, hey, you have one more hour to 305 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 1: push or you need to have a C section. I 306 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 1: went fifty minutes and they checked me in there like 307 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 1: she hasn't moved, and I was like, let's go, So 308 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:42,720 Speaker 1: please tell me that the epidural lasted during the c section. Oh, 309 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: they topped me up and then some yes because I 310 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 1: told him, hey, hey, I'm about to have a c section, 311 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: Like please like load me up because this has been wearing, 312 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: you know, coming in and out. So they did. I 313 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:58,679 Speaker 1: absolutely felt all the weird jerking and jiggling movements, but 314 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,600 Speaker 1: no actual pain. Just to note, when they were doing 315 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: the C section, they actually had to make my decision 316 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:06,760 Speaker 1: bigger because they said she was so stuck in there 317 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:09,320 Speaker 1: they had a hard time getting her out. So like 318 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 1: that was confirmation of like, we made the right decision, 319 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: you know completely. But with you know, nearly a third 320 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 1: of moms at some point getting a C section, don't 321 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:23,680 Speaker 1: you think it's important for them to prepare for that possibility, 322 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:25,919 Speaker 1: even if it's not a scheduled See, yeah, you know 323 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: I took Bradley classes. That's what my mom did. Dr 324 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 1: Bradley was actually her first her obief with her first pregnancy. 325 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 1: Yeah that's good. And um I actually posted on my 326 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:41,119 Speaker 1: Insto stories and his granddaughter follows me and replied was 327 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: like he's my grandpa that Yeah. So I took Bradley lessons. 328 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:48,199 Speaker 1: We skipped over the C section part because I was like, 329 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:51,160 Speaker 1: I don't need it, You're not gonna need it, yeah, 330 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 1: which was definitely not you know, the best decision on 331 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:57,800 Speaker 1: my part. So lesson learned. But um, I do think 332 00:18:57,840 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 1: that it's just good to be educated about all the 333 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:05,760 Speaker 1: different possibilities, you know, like even just from induction options 334 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 1: and yeah, and all the obviously all the stages of labor, 335 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: which my husband knows better than I do. Um, yeah, 336 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,640 Speaker 1: you know you do. You do the best you can 337 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 1: in the moment, and you live in your learning exactly. 338 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 1: You never know exactly what to expect, right, No, two 339 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:28,000 Speaker 1: labors and deliveries are the same, and your next one 340 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 1: maybe entirely different. Chances are will be right, you know, 341 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: I'm truly conflicted on what to do, to do a 342 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 1: v back, you know, to attempt to be back, or 343 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:40,880 Speaker 1: just to do a scheduled C section, because I hear 344 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 1: that scheduled c sections are so much less traumatic and 345 00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:49,720 Speaker 1: even like physically traumatic than on planned or emergency ones, 346 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: especially obviously after labor. So well, you've been through a lot, 347 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: so let's cross that bridge from right, absolutely absolutely now 348 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:03,520 Speaker 1: your recovery from a C section? Did that surprise you? 349 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 1: The most excruciating thing I've ever been through? I just 350 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: how do you say the like negative core strength, you know, 351 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 1: the complete absence of your core and a wound and 352 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 1: ginormous you know, wound and not being able to hold 353 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:26,919 Speaker 1: your baby or to stand and hold your baby, and 354 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 1: all the awkward and painful positions that you need to 355 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 1: get into to try to breastfeed. Like it was so hard, 356 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: it's still hard. I'm six months postpartum and I still 357 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:42,600 Speaker 1: am working on regaining my core strength and doing you know, 358 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 1: the same movements I used to. So, what's your advice 359 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 1: for moms who've just had a C section? Two? Great question. A. 360 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:55,440 Speaker 1: You need help, whether it's a partner or a family member, Um, 361 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 1: you need someone to help you. Getting a belly binder 362 00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:03,160 Speaker 1: for me was so important, and I have to be honest, 363 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: I was kind of anti postpartum belly binders because being 364 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 1: a personal trainer, I'm very anti like detox t s 365 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,440 Speaker 1: and waste trainers, you know, all these things that like, 366 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 1: you know, just waste people's money. You want to make 367 00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: your muscles do the work instead of having them rely 368 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: on a binder exactly, and this is a belly binder. 369 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,639 Speaker 1: Postpart was completely different, and I had to kind of 370 00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 1: get over that, you know, that humph in my mind. 371 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,880 Speaker 1: And I didn't use one for the first few days, 372 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:35,679 Speaker 1: and when I realized, like gosh, I just need to 373 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: try this, and I was like, oh, this is so 374 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 1: much better. You don't want to use it for too long, because, 375 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:46,840 Speaker 1: like you said, you do need your core to use itself, 376 00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:49,160 Speaker 1: you know, to start firing up at some point, but 377 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,520 Speaker 1: definitely for the first two to three weeks, you know, 378 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,439 Speaker 1: using a belly binder was really helpful. And for sure, 379 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 1: do not overdo even if you are like type A 380 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 1: plus plus plus plus plus I am. There's a fine 381 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,679 Speaker 1: line I feel like between they say, get up and 382 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:08,199 Speaker 1: move after your C section, moving will really help the 383 00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 1: healing process. But then it's like, but don't move too much, 384 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,080 Speaker 1: you know, like, don't hurt yourself, don't over exert yourself 385 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: in so kind of understanding that line, and yeah, I'm 386 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:21,640 Speaker 1: not like wanting to do everything yourself and being very independent. 387 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,680 Speaker 1: That was hard. I kind of almost don't even have 388 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 1: many memories from the first few weeks. Also because post 389 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:30,560 Speaker 1: c section you're on medication and your sleep deprived, yes, 390 00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: and sleep deprived yeah. Yeah, I think that's pretty much 391 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: a blur for everybody. So, um, how is your workout 392 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 1: routine changed since you had Aurora? You know, they say 393 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 1: post c section you need to wait six weeks to 394 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,639 Speaker 1: get cleared by your OBI. I mean, I think that 395 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 1: should be twelve weeks. And I love my OBI, she's 396 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 1: a sweetheart, but they don't have the physical exercise knowledge, 397 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,719 Speaker 1: you know, behind saying like, yes, you're ready to work out. 398 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: It's just not their field. I think that public floor 399 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,680 Speaker 1: physical therapists need to become much more mainstream, and that 400 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:12,160 Speaker 1: needs to be stepped too. It needs to be not hey, 401 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:15,040 Speaker 1: you're cleared to go exercise, it needs to be hey, 402 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,679 Speaker 1: you're cleared to go to public floor PAT whether you 403 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 1: had a vaginal birth or a C section. I did 404 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,359 Speaker 1: go to public floor PT and they were amazing and 405 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 1: helping me with scarred mobilization and you know, all the 406 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:31,199 Speaker 1: public floor stuff and guiding me on exercising. Yes, I'm 407 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:34,520 Speaker 1: a personal trainer, but this is my first birth, you know, 408 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,639 Speaker 1: and first experience. And I wouldn't advise women before I 409 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 1: went through my pregnancy just because, you know, I don't 410 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: think that you can begin to understand what women go 411 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,240 Speaker 1: through until you've done it yourself. And maybe that might 412 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,879 Speaker 1: be a generalization, but that's my comfort level. I totally agree. 413 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,359 Speaker 1: I mean, what inspired me to write what to Expect 414 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 1: when you're expecting in the first place that got knocked up. 415 00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 1: You've got to be able to walk in a pregnant 416 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:05,640 Speaker 1: woman's you know, and realize that they don't fit. Because yes, 417 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:09,119 Speaker 1: and speaking of shoes, I have a closet full and 418 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,640 Speaker 1: none of them fit. They're all too small. Now I'm 419 00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:18,600 Speaker 1: mourning my cute heels. All this happens. This happened, But 420 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,960 Speaker 1: that means you can go shoo shopping, right, That's what 421 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: I'm trying to convince my husband. Here the optimist, look 422 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:38,399 Speaker 1: at the first side, right. I love how really you 423 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 1: are about your postpartum body, which I think is so 424 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,080 Speaker 1: super important because I don't know about you, but when 425 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,240 Speaker 1: I walked out of the hospital for the first time, 426 00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 1: for some reason, I thought, you walk out like without 427 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 1: a belly, because you have a baby, so why would 428 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:55,040 Speaker 1: you still have a belly, And so lots of women 429 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,800 Speaker 1: don't expect their bellies, so you know, pretty much looks 430 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 1: six months probably when they're postpartum. So you're embracing your 431 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 1: body post baby, and I think that's great because it's 432 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:11,720 Speaker 1: heroic what a woman's body does. It's truly truly amazing. 433 00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 1: Um because making a baby is really hard work, very hard, work, 434 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:20,159 Speaker 1: and I think that, you know, I definitely always tried to, 435 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:23,359 Speaker 1: you know, just remember that, like this body is what 436 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,439 Speaker 1: brought me my baby that we worked so hard for, 437 00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 1: So like what's a bit of loose skin and stretch marks? 438 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,960 Speaker 1: You know? But I know it's not that easy for 439 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 1: a lot of women. I think that society has done 440 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,640 Speaker 1: a great job, you know, like pretty baby. I would 441 00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:41,399 Speaker 1: look at celebrities who had a baby and looked like 442 00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: they didn't a few weeks later, and I was like, 443 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 1: miss something, something's weird here. And I'm sorry, no hate 444 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 1: on anyone who decides to go under the knife for 445 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,240 Speaker 1: any reason, but like, let's call it like it is. 446 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,399 Speaker 1: They're getting surgery. They're probably having a C section and 447 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,880 Speaker 1: a tummy tuck right after, you know. I mean, I've 448 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,360 Speaker 1: my best friend works in the industry, and I hear 449 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:06,000 Speaker 1: those stories and it's just like that's not as much 450 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 1: as like you do you it's also not okay to 451 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,440 Speaker 1: for what that's doing to all the moms watching. So 452 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,359 Speaker 1: I do just think that it's I have a responsibility. 453 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,920 Speaker 1: I have a platform to use, and I want to 454 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,440 Speaker 1: use it the best way I can, and for right 455 00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:23,199 Speaker 1: now in my life, that is to help other moms 456 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:27,120 Speaker 1: and women, you know, period men too. You know, it's 457 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,720 Speaker 1: actually very important for men to understand too, because then 458 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 1: they could have unrealistic expectations for their partners, their wives, 459 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:36,880 Speaker 1: and that, you know, creates a host of other issues. 460 00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,240 Speaker 1: I do have to ask you because this comes up 461 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 1: a lot. Did Luca gain any weight when you were pregnant? 462 00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,960 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my god, He's gonna die that 463 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: we're talking about this, because yeah, he's he keeps being 464 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,280 Speaker 1: like man and I like this dad body came in 465 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,960 Speaker 1: quick and you know, and he's the one who got 466 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 1: me into working out to begin with, you know, back 467 00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,639 Speaker 1: at the beginning of our relations ship. And yeah, so 468 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:03,840 Speaker 1: we've always been on this kind of like fitness journey 469 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 1: healthy lifestyle together. And the truth is, if I'm not 470 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:11,119 Speaker 1: super on it, he's not, you know, like we're we 471 00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 1: kind of are always on the same page. And so, yes, 472 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 1: he has gained weight. It was also his hormones, because 473 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 1: guys experienced a surgeon estrogen when you're practicing, Yes, they do. Wow, 474 00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,800 Speaker 1: So that's what sends them, you know, to the freezer 475 00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 1: for ice cream or ice cream is his krypt tonite. 476 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:33,159 Speaker 1: That's exactly what he does. So. Um, now let's come 477 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:37,960 Speaker 1: back to parenting. You founded the Fit Body apps and 478 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 1: it has a special program now for pregnancy and postpartum. Yes, 479 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:45,280 Speaker 1: so I did design the pregnancy program. Again when I 480 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:48,240 Speaker 1: was pregnant, I didn't feel comfortable coming out with anything 481 00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 1: before I had experienced that, and I actually love that program, 482 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 1: like even being postpartum, Like it's such a great low 483 00:27:55,680 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 1: impact strength training but like medium intensity you know, program UM. 484 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,920 Speaker 1: And then we recently expanded to bring on other trainers 485 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 1: and Brittany Lufton is one of our trainers who is 486 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,720 Speaker 1: a mom, and she brought on her postpart and program UM. 487 00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,960 Speaker 1: So they have definitely been two great additions to that 488 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,919 Speaker 1: app to help women that are in all stages of 489 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 1: their life. With that being said, I do have something 490 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,879 Speaker 1: coming for c section moms because there really is a 491 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:26,879 Speaker 1: big difference between how you need to exercise post c 492 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:31,919 Speaker 1: section and post vaginal births. No completely now being a 493 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,320 Speaker 1: new mom and we have lots of pregnant and new 494 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: moms listening right now, what has surprised you most about 495 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,720 Speaker 1: being a mom? Gosh, I would say, like first and 496 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 1: foremost is like I grew up with my dad telling 497 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,120 Speaker 1: me you will never understand the love I have for 498 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: you until you have your own children. It's just impossible 499 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: to understand. And I was like, okay, Dad, okay, okay, 500 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:55,680 Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. You know, it really 501 00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 1: is true, like you just can't imagine the love that 502 00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:02,200 Speaker 1: you have for your child old. And that's one aspect. 503 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 1: I think. The other aspect is that as soon as 504 00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:09,560 Speaker 1: you think you have it down, everything changes everything. Like 505 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:11,920 Speaker 1: you know, it took us a while to learn her 506 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:15,680 Speaker 1: cries and like this and that, and then like sleep situation, 507 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,560 Speaker 1: and then like a regression hits. So it's like as 508 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,000 Speaker 1: soon as we get comfortable, we're completely thrown for a 509 00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:24,240 Speaker 1: loop and scrambling and trying to figure everything out. Don't 510 00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 1: get too comfortable. How is he sleeping now? Horribly? I 511 00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: mean I think from two to three months or two 512 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:34,520 Speaker 1: and a half to three and a half much it 513 00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 1: was like we got this, like we can do this, 514 00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,880 Speaker 1: you know. Then around the four month time period, you know, 515 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:44,000 Speaker 1: even though that there's controversy over like does a regression 516 00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,880 Speaker 1: actually exist? You know? Okay, but yeah, I know, her 517 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:49,400 Speaker 1: sleep just kind of reverted back to like newborn days 518 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:53,160 Speaker 1: of waking up every hour to two hours. Um gosh, 519 00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 1: I mean we can really get into it if you want. 520 00:29:55,560 --> 00:30:00,320 Speaker 1: It's but I this sleep topic, it's it's controversial. You know, 521 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:04,280 Speaker 1: how to sleep, how your baby should sleep, And I 522 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 1: am very pro ABC's you know, safe sleep alone on 523 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 1: their back in the crib. Never wanted to co sleep. 524 00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:16,280 Speaker 1: No judgment on anyone that decides to, but like that 525 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:20,040 Speaker 1: was our personal decision. And yeah no, I mean she's 526 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,960 Speaker 1: been sleeping, you know, in our bed for the last 527 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 1: month because that's literally the only way we get any sleep. 528 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:30,920 Speaker 1: It was a matter of desperation and survival. Desperate parents 529 00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:34,320 Speaker 1: call for desperate measures. Now I I totally get it, 530 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 1: and you're not alone. This is this is what keeps 531 00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 1: every parent open night. In the sleep training conversation, we 532 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 1: go back and forth. Yeah, she's at that six months, right. 533 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 1: I just don't ask you because you have a baby girl. 534 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,720 Speaker 1: One day she's going to become a woman. What will 535 00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 1: you want her to know about her body? And I'm 536 00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,239 Speaker 1: sure you want her to love it? But what what 537 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:03,440 Speaker 1: would you say to future woman daughter? Um, this is 538 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 1: such a great and such a hard topic, you know, 539 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 1: because as much as I can say things or not 540 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:14,160 Speaker 1: say things, Um, there's the media and friends and you know, 541 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:17,520 Speaker 1: all those outside influences. I just hope that she knows that, 542 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 1: like her body is not the most important thing about her. 543 00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 1: There's so much more that is important. There's nothing wrong 544 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:28,000 Speaker 1: with wanting to look good, but that is not what 545 00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:30,760 Speaker 1: defines you. It's not what gives you worth or value. 546 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:33,640 Speaker 1: And if you want it to look a certain way, 547 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,760 Speaker 1: like through fitness or other means, I think that anyone 548 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 1: and everyone should feel empowered to look the way that 549 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,440 Speaker 1: they want to. I think about this a lot because 550 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 1: it's just a so nerve wracking of like you know 551 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:47,880 Speaker 1: what it's going to be in the future, and also 552 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,880 Speaker 1: because I am in the fitness industry and I work 553 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 1: with a lot of women who have body dysmorphia or 554 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: eating disorders, and something that has been a common theme 555 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,720 Speaker 1: and a lot of the women I talked to, and 556 00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:02,000 Speaker 1: I just want to say, is not my area of expertise, 557 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:06,280 Speaker 1: but just in friendly conversations, a lot of women saying, yeah, 558 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,360 Speaker 1: my issues started when a family member poked at my 559 00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 1: belly or said this about me at seven years old. 560 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,400 Speaker 1: And you know, it's made me take a step back 561 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 1: because I have to admit I am someone that I 562 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,280 Speaker 1: have not struggled with body image issues. It's not because 563 00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:24,040 Speaker 1: I have a perfect body by any means. I truly 564 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:28,080 Speaker 1: think that it is because I was raised primarily by 565 00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:30,640 Speaker 1: my father, who never said a word about my body. 566 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,520 Speaker 1: My mom moved away when I was ten for work. 567 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,240 Speaker 1: We still had a very close relationship, but I didn't 568 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:40,880 Speaker 1: have any females in my life. I didn't have anyone saying, oh, 569 00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,800 Speaker 1: I need to look this way, I need to do 570 00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 1: I need to lose weight, I need to do this. 571 00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 1: Because it's not always about what you say to the 572 00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,440 Speaker 1: little girl. It's about what they hear. No, it's what 573 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 1: you're saying to yourself and out loud, and and how 574 00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: you're behaving what you're saying to yourself or about other people. 575 00:32:56,880 --> 00:33:00,560 Speaker 1: You know. So I think that's gonna be my absolute 576 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:03,720 Speaker 1: first line of defense is, just like you know, to 577 00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,800 Speaker 1: speak positively about my body, no matter how it looks 578 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:09,680 Speaker 1: or other people, and to not assign worth to bodies. 579 00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,840 Speaker 1: That is such a great message and I just want 580 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 1: to thank you so much for joining us today, Anna, 581 00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:19,280 Speaker 1: And for the three people who don't already follow you, 582 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,960 Speaker 1: where can they find you? Yeah, they can follow me 583 00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:25,960 Speaker 1: on Instagram at Anna Victoria or my app at fit 584 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: body app and yeah and you are pretty much by 585 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,920 Speaker 1: searching ant Victoria. Okay, and you owe me a baby 586 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:35,080 Speaker 1: snuggle with Oh, I know I was supposed to bring 587 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:39,440 Speaker 1: her in. I'm sorry. If she's still sleeping, that's a record, 588 00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 1: So well we'll find out we were talking about sleeping, right. 589 00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank You's been an honor. Thanks so much, 590 00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:57,480 Speaker 1: Baby love, my baby love, and need you, oh how 591 00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:03,200 Speaker 1: I need you. Thanks for listening. Remember I'm always here 592 00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,960 Speaker 1: for you. 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